April 24, 2024 • 22 mins
In this episode, Coach Bruce discusses the concept of impulsive faith and how it relates to his personal journey. He shares his struggles with feeling physically unwell and the challenges of maintaining a routine while on the move. Bruce also talks about the importance of trusting oneself and listening to the inner voice, as well as the role of faith in guiding one's actions. He emphasizes the need for balance between impulsivity and structure, and encourages ADHD parents to explore their own inner voice and live with power and potential.
Keywords: impulsive faith, personal journey, physical health, routine, trust oneself, inner voice, faith, balance, structure, ADHD parents, power, potential
Takeaways
- Impulsive faith is the idea of trusting oneself and listening to the inner voice.
- Maintaining physical health and a routine can be challenging while dealing with external stressors.
- Having faith in oneself is intertwined with having faith in a higher power.
- Finding balance between impulsivity and structure is important.
- ADHD parents can benefit from exploring their inner voice and living with power and potential.
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(00:07):
Hello and welcome back to Authentic OneAir with Bruce Alexander.
I am your host, Bruce Alexander.
I can almost guarantee you this will be atopic that I will have to come back to in
the future because I feel like dog craptoday, which is becoming more and more
common.
And I'm starting to wonder if maybe theremight be something larger that I have to
(00:28):
deal with.
I'm not going to deal with it right nowtoday, so I'm not going to get too deep
into that.
But the topic of today's episode is...
Impulsive faith I have taken on this ideaof being impulsive as a positive and not
only Trait but as an identifyingcharacteristic is being impulsive is
(00:50):
become part of my identity and I have alsopretty recently gotten pretty close to God
and so these two ideas of faith andimpulsivity I was
trying to decide if this is a thing thatthese two are complementary or if they're
(01:12):
incompatible.
And I wanted to explore that a little biton today's episode.
But first, let's catch up.
And last week, since we last spoke, mybody feels like it's falling apart.
Like that's, you know, I'm doing all ofthe things that I've been committed to
doing, you know, walking every day.
doing some stretching, trying to get mybody in a place where it's not falling
(01:34):
apart and it feels like it is more fallingapart than it was last week.
It might just be my mental state, but itdefinitely feels like I feel like crap and
I'm constantly trying to fight off somesort of sickness.
So not ideal.
Doesn't mean that I don't see that thereis a light at the end of the tunnel.
It just means that on some days it is darkand I will keep moving through the
(01:57):
darkness till I can see the light again.
and then I'll still keep moving becausethat's what it means to be a, um,
unshakable person.
You just keep doing the things regardlessof the outside or external influences you
keep doing the things that you know aregoing to move you towards your goals and
(02:18):
that like my physical my body goals meanthat I just have to keep moving every day.
Today I have slept a lot today but I stillgot up and I took a very short walk
because I know that I don't want to loseany days.
I've lost so many days in the past thatit's just not really acceptable to me
anymore to lose days.
(02:38):
I just want to get something in.
And that has been done.
So, pat on my back, whatever.
It's all about getting towards thatultimate goal of being a more fit and
active father and being able to not haveto try so hard to be active.
And that comes with shedding a littleweight, getting a little more active.
You just do it.
(03:00):
Things with...
God has been like I said that we've gottenmuch closer but in this time of moving and
stepping out on faith and doing this thisbig grand gesture like I feel like I'm I'm
trying to date God and this is the this isme doing the massive like say anything
(03:21):
moment of standing outside God's doorholding up the radio is taking my family
out to move into the wilderness withouttoo much of a plan.
because we feel like God is calling us outof Oklahoma.
So we have moved out of our house.
The movers picked up everything today andhas put most of it in storage.
(03:42):
We are, I would say built high speed, lowdrag at this moment.
And we are kind of going to be testing theroad out and seeing what makes sense as we
go.
Right now we're in Tulsa.
I don't know where we're gonna be nextweek.
And that is, that is.
a faith move.
(04:03):
We are waiting for things to start makingsense because we knew that this was
something that we wanted to do.
It's something that we both desire to getout of Oklahoma.
We both felt called to do.
So we're doing it without a plan.
I mean, I guess that we do have a plan.
The plan is to like listen to God's urgingand follow where it feels like we both can
(04:27):
agree we're supposed to move.
And, you know, as
exciting as that is it's still a littlescary at times and we're hoping for some
Some type of direction soon because we'reready to go They're speaking of which two
is just here So but it's it is It's been alittle harder to feel as close to God
(04:53):
because there's been so much going on likemy morning routine has happened
every day, but it has been much less of amorning routine and much more of a like
throughout the day getting things done.
And so I feel like my mind hasn't been asclear to get that connection with God,
like I've been getting in the morning.
And I would like to get back into that.
But right now there's we're in Tulsa andthere's a lot of responsibilities here and
(05:16):
I'm, I'm excited to get back into somesort of routine into which we are not
being called upon so much.
Oh,
As much as I enjoy the people and I'mhappy to see them, I feel a little spread
thin trying to homeschool, pack unpack, doall that stuff, keep some sort of normalcy
(05:36):
going for the kids and also for myself.
I don't feel like it's really...
We haven't figured it out.
We haven't figured it out yet, but it willhappen.
Right now, Kate and I are finding a newdepth in our relationship.
We're having to face some things that wehave faced before poorly.
As a couple, we have tended, it has tendedmore towards the push each other away side
(06:01):
whenever stress has happened.
It has acted as a wedge for us and we'restarting to lean more into being pushed
closer by stress.
And it's really exciting for me.
I don't love the stress, but I love theeffect of feeling closer to my wife in
those moments, being there for her andsupporting her whenever her anxiety is an
issue or whenever there is...
(06:23):
A lot of pressure coming from her family,being able to support her in a way that
before I didn't really do.
I wasn't very good at seeing her side ofthe story and seeing how her feelings were
important.
I just wasn't.
I was not very awake to that.
And that's something that I've been muchmore in tune with.
And I've seen a lot of fruits from that.
(06:45):
I've definitely felt closer to her andI've started to feel her look to me as a
person of trust in those moments versus anopponent.
And that is really something that ishighly prioritized in my book now is I
don't want to be an opponent with my wifein stressful situations anymore.
I want to be a team.
Team Alexander, all the way.
And it is looking more and more like thatis the case.
(07:07):
But things are going to get more and morestressful.
And I just have to remember that my job isto show up unshakable in the truth and
keep my desired goal of wanting to be thatsupport for her.
whatever she is saying, whatever she'sgoing through, like I want to be that
support.
So that means I can't get sucked into myemotions in that moment.
(07:29):
I have to remember what my goal is.
And that is something that can be reallydifficult at times, but I'm learning more
and more how to do it better and better.
So the business right now is, you know,I've got my clients that I'm currently
seeing doing that on the road.
We'll should be fine as long as we're not,you know, I'm being
(07:50):
Proactive about blocking my schedule outwhen we're actually like actively
traveling because I can't see clientswhile I'm in the car You know traveling
with a bunch of kids that would be reallyunprofessional But you know, I'm like I've
got my mobile studio set up here.
It'll be just as easy to see clients Whathas been hard it has been?
(08:11):
switching gears and Like I said doing thehomeschooling the packing unpacking
feeling like I'm just not
getting my routine done and finding thecomfort to get the work done that I'd like
to get done.
I'm trying to build a new webinar to helpbring new leads in that is based on the
impulsive philosophy.
And I'm really excited about doing thatbecause it makes a lot of sense.
(08:33):
I really believe in this core philosophyof trusting your inner voice and allowing
it to lead you to purpose and things thatyou're passionate about, like things that
truly matter to you and allowing that toremove a lot of the...
the self -doubt and indecision that comeswith being ADHD.
I think it's a great move.
I think that this is the key to kind ofblowing my business up.
(08:56):
And I think that because I think it's thekey, I'm both making it too important,
like it needs to be perfect before I workon it, but also like I'm kind of scared to
like open the floodgates while I'm on theroad without any sort of routine.
Because if I were to have five moreclients right now, trying to schedule them
would be.
(09:16):
a nightmare because I don't know wherewe're going to land next.
So that's, you know, wow, that's superlong.
So, and not knowing where we're gonna landnext.
So that is something that I'm currentlytrying to work my way through and I'm
going to just start trying to work on mywebinar slowly instead of just like not
working on it at all or trying to finishit all tomorrow.
(09:39):
I'm just gonna keep putting work in, doinggood solid work to build this webinar out
in a way that makes sense.
And that's something that as ADHD adults,we often forget that there aren't only two
time periods.
It's not right now or never.
It can be some now and some later.
It can be a little bit now and a littlebit in a little while.
(10:02):
There's so many different ways that can bebalanced, but we get so used to doing
right now, right now, right now, or it'snever going to happen, or we have to do it
all, or we're not going to do anythingthat, I mean, that's a really, it's a
really toxic mentality for us to have, butwe get really entrenched in it.
And I don't.
I know that that doesn't work for me inthis type of situation.
(10:25):
I cannot finish all this webinar where I'mat, what I'm doing, but I can keep working
on it.
And so that's my goal and that's what I'mgonna be working on over the next week or
two.
I'd like to have it, you know, the idealgoal would be to pick up doing webinars
again next week, but I feel like that'sprobably the right now goal.
Two weeks I feel like is very fair.
(10:48):
And allows me some time to do it well andthen start bringing in clients again and
that's the goal so Anyways back to today'stopic and this is gonna be pretty short
like I said I'm probably gonna need to dothis again because I I just want to get
through it today is like it not very I'mnot in it.
I do feel better just being here andtalking about it But I'm not super excited
(11:11):
to be recording a podcast right nowbecause I'm exhausted My tonsils are
swollen.
I feel crappy.
I
You know, I'm wondering, do I have somesort of autoimmune disease that's going to
keep me incapacitated for the long term?
It's been kind of freaking me out a littlebit.
So that's something I'm concerned about.
But I have faith that God gave me thisbody for a reason and that there is
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something I'm supposed to learn from beingin this state that I'm in right now.
And I think the thing I'm supposed tolearn is keep going.
Just keep going.
Like I've got this plan in place that isgoing to help me earn all of the things
I've ever wanted in life.
If I just keep doing the simple thingsevery day and then your body starts to
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play tricks on you.
Your mind starts to play tricks on you andstarts to make you question the plan.
It's really important to have faith.
But then also I want to be impulsive.
I want to trust my inner voice.
I want to trust my gut and my urges.
I think that it's really important.
to understand that these two things cancoexist.
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For me, my faith in myself and my faith inGod have been strongly intertwined as I've
started to uncover this, is that I havefaith in myself because I do feel like God
has imbued me with certain talents andgifts and abilities.
And so whenever I'm trusting myself, I'mtrusting that God gave me the sovereignty.
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to be able to make these decisions formyself.
He imbued me with a certain amount ofstrength that I've been taught to separate
from.
And I think that it's really importantthat I stop listening to mainstream
society that tells me that the ADHD brainis broken, and I start listening to what
is in my heart and tells me that there issomething special out there for me if I
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trust myself.
If I believe that I'm good enough,
and I actually listen to what I have tosay about the conversation, then there's
something really special for me.
So, I don't know, some like currently thebiggest move of faith and, and in Paul
it's been, this move has been somethingthat has been something that we've been
(13:35):
discussing for years and I wasn't able tohave the conversation because it meant
destroying the life that I lived.
And well,
Ended up that the life that I lived gotdestroyed anyway, so that felt like it was
a sign from God to me to Leave behindeverything I knew and then as I started to
have this conversation with my wife aboutleaving, Oklahoma the urge happened it
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stopped being a Responsibility, I feltlike I needed to fulfill or even just a
calling from God to come out it started tofeel like something that I wanted I
deep inside of me.
And sometimes I don't know if it is likewhich came first, the chicken or the egg,
if it was a calling first and it was urgedsecond or if those things are the same
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thing.
Is the calling inside of me or sorry, isthe calling the urge just like manifested?
I don't know.
They feel different.
Like sometimes I feel like it could be twosides of the same coin.
But I feel like whenever they
Whenever they align and I feel the callingfrom something greater and I feel the urge
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from inside myself, like there's no doubtthat I'm on the right path.
And then I'm seeing signs that are showingthat things are lining up for me, that
this is the path that is supposed to behappening.
And, you know, that's, it feels like attimes I'm making myself like hyper
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important to think that God is.
taking such care to put these signs in mylife and to talk to me that way.
But if I think about what God means to meand that he is omnipotent and he is all
knowing, all seeing and all being, itdoesn't make any sense to put any limits
on what his capabilities are.
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And that's something that I used tostruggle with really hard as an agnostic
like I was for a long time is that I...
Well, I know if he could do this and hecould do that, then why didn't he do this?
And why didn't he do that?
And like, for one, he can do anything.
He can, like he's he's able to doanything, but that doesn't mean he's going
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to do everything.
He is like he's got a plan that is.
It's timeless and we think we're thinkingabout our tiny little span of life.
And why isn't this happening for me?
Or why isn't this, you know, why did thishappen to this person that I love?
And there's this millennia long plan thatwe can't see the whole big picture.
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And I think it's important to realize thatwhen you feel called, it is because it is
your time to step into your part of theplan.
When you start to feel those urges, it isbecause it's your time now.
There is not always going to be a timewhenever you are going to have a role.
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that is affecting the plan.
And that's okay.
A lot of people are, they go their wholelives and never feel called to do
anything.
And that sounds depressing to me, but alsobeing called to do something is stressful
as fuck.
Like feeling like you have to ignore whateverybody else says and what you, that you
have to believe in yourself no matterwhat, that this is the thing you're
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supposed to do and you need to make ithappen.
That's kind of scary.
But whenever you're impulsive also and youknow that you can trust your inner voice,
that you can feel those urges and you canlean into them and you can gain power from
inside of yourself, then it becomes lessscary because what everybody else says
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doesn't matter anymore.
Like, I'm not going to say it doesn'tmatter.
I mean, of course it matters.
Of course you still care to some degree,but whenever you really trust yourself,
You are not going to let what they sayaffect how you act.
It might change how you feel to somedegree, but you are going to do what you
know that you have to do because you aregoing to listen to what is coming from
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inside you versus what is coming fromoutside.
And that is, I don't know, that's.
That's pretty like heady thinking, it's,you know, kind of lofty, but when you feel
it and you understand it, like there's no,there's no unfeeling it.
There's no un -understanding it.
It's just, you just, you just do that.
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And that's why I'm able to come on this,you know, podcast and talk to the 12
people who listen to it.
Because I, I don't care if they agree withme.
I care that I'm listening to what's insideof me and I'm sharing that because I know
there is somebody else who needs to hearit.
And the more I get comfortable with andthe more I articulate that, the more
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people...
are coming back to me and are commentingand are engaging with and are having
conversations with this.
And I think that's what's important.
Both the people who are talking shit andthe people who are taking inspiration from
it, it's the conversation that needs tohappen.
People need to start asking questionsabout, is this voice inside of me a real
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thing?
Is this urge that I feel, is it the self-critic or is it the inner voice?
people need to start thinking about thatand sifting through that and having a
relationship with that.
And if you are an ADHD parent, I thinkthat the more you listen to it inside the
constraints of the code of telling thetruth and then having a compelling vision
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that you're trying to gain, then itbecomes really, really powerful.
But trying to do it, just trying to listento your urges all the time is really
dangerous.
Like without...
faith without structure, then yourimpulses could easily lead to ruin.
And so that is what I've what I've done isput a structure in place for me to to have
(19:50):
my shit together before I just go out andlive impulsively.
I have my body being balanced and businessin check at all times to where I know that
I'm doing the right things.
So whenever I'm listening to that urge,that urge, I can tell when it's off.
I can tell when that's not something thatI'm supposed to follow.
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That is my self -critic trying to destroyme versus my inner voice trying to guide
me to purpose.
Because they both exist inside you.
You know, we have this constant dialogueinside of our head that neurotypicals
don't have.
And that's what I think is like, that'swhy this impulsive thing is geared towards
ADHD parents, because I don't thinkthat...
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It is really in the wheelhouse ofneurotypicals to be impulsive.
So I don't know.
I'm going to wrap it up because I just...
This is all really important stuff to me,but at the same time, I don't want to get
(20:55):
too far out there in this format.
It's kind of a, it's something I just wantto introduce this thought to you of, do
you have faith and do you listen to yourinner voice?
Like that's the question.
If you don't have either, why not?
And if you are...
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wanting to learn more about listening toyour inner voice and living impulsively,
then I would love to have a conversationwith you.
Go to www .impulsive .life forward slashconsult and get a free consultation where
I will give you at least three freestrategies to help you start living
impulsively.
That means to uncover the powerfulpotential inside you where you are able to
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release the regret, fear, shame, and guiltthat have been bred into you.
for being an ADHD person and learn to livewith power and potential.
That's it for today.
We're gonna wrap it up there.
It's not making a whole lot of sense.
It could tell I feel a little sick, butthat's today's show.
Bye everybody.
Hello and welcome back to Authentic OneAir with Bruce Alexander.
I am your host, Bruce Alexander.
I can almost guarantee you this will be atopic that I will have to come back to in
the future because I feel like dog craptoday, which is becoming more and more
common.
And I'm starting to wonder if maybe theremight be something larger that I have to
(00:28):
deal with.
I'm not going to deal with it right nowtoday, so I'm not going to get too deep
into that.
But the topic of today's episode is...
Impulsive faith I have taken on this ideaof being impulsive as a positive and not
only Trait but as an identifyingcharacteristic is being impulsive is
(00:50):
become part of my identity and I have alsopretty recently gotten pretty close to God
and so these two ideas of faith andimpulsivity I was
trying to decide if this is a thing thatthese two are complementary or if they're
(01:12):
incompatible.
And I wanted to explore that a little biton today's episode.
But first, let's catch up.
And last week, since we last spoke, mybody feels like it's falling apart.
Like that's, you know, I'm doing all ofthe things that I've been committed to
doing, you know, walking every day.
doing some stretching, trying to get mybody in a place where it's not falling
(01:34):
apart and it feels like it is more fallingapart than it was last week.
It might just be my mental state, but itdefinitely feels like I feel like crap and
I'm constantly trying to fight off somesort of sickness.
So not ideal.
Doesn't mean that I don't see that thereis a light at the end of the tunnel.
It just means that on some days it is darkand I will keep moving through the
(01:57):
darkness till I can see the light again.
and then I'll still keep moving becausethat's what it means to be a, um,
unshakable person.
You just keep doing the things regardlessof the outside or external influences you
keep doing the things that you know aregoing to move you towards your goals and
(02:18):
that like my physical my body goals meanthat I just have to keep moving every day.
Today I have slept a lot today but I stillgot up and I took a very short walk
because I know that I don't want to loseany days.
I've lost so many days in the past thatit's just not really acceptable to me
anymore to lose days.
(02:38):
I just want to get something in.
And that has been done.
So, pat on my back, whatever.
It's all about getting towards thatultimate goal of being a more fit and
active father and being able to not haveto try so hard to be active.
And that comes with shedding a littleweight, getting a little more active.
You just do it.
(03:00):
Things with...
God has been like I said that we've gottenmuch closer but in this time of moving and
stepping out on faith and doing this thisbig grand gesture like I feel like I'm I'm
trying to date God and this is the this isme doing the massive like say anything
(03:21):
moment of standing outside God's doorholding up the radio is taking my family
out to move into the wilderness withouttoo much of a plan.
because we feel like God is calling us outof Oklahoma.
So we have moved out of our house.
The movers picked up everything today andhas put most of it in storage.
(03:42):
We are, I would say built high speed, lowdrag at this moment.
And we are kind of going to be testing theroad out and seeing what makes sense as we
go.
Right now we're in Tulsa.
I don't know where we're gonna be nextweek.
And that is, that is.
a faith move.
(04:03):
We are waiting for things to start makingsense because we knew that this was
something that we wanted to do.
It's something that we both desire to getout of Oklahoma.
We both felt called to do.
So we're doing it without a plan.
I mean, I guess that we do have a plan.
The plan is to like listen to God's urgingand follow where it feels like we both can
(04:27):
agree we're supposed to move.
And, you know, as
exciting as that is it's still a littlescary at times and we're hoping for some
Some type of direction soon because we'reready to go They're speaking of which two
is just here So but it's it is It's been alittle harder to feel as close to God
(04:53):
because there's been so much going on likemy morning routine has happened
every day, but it has been much less of amorning routine and much more of a like
throughout the day getting things done.
And so I feel like my mind hasn't been asclear to get that connection with God,
like I've been getting in the morning.
And I would like to get back into that.
But right now there's we're in Tulsa andthere's a lot of responsibilities here and
(05:16):
I'm, I'm excited to get back into somesort of routine into which we are not
being called upon so much.
Oh,
As much as I enjoy the people and I'mhappy to see them, I feel a little spread
thin trying to homeschool, pack unpack, doall that stuff, keep some sort of normalcy
(05:36):
going for the kids and also for myself.
I don't feel like it's really...
We haven't figured it out.
We haven't figured it out yet, but it willhappen.
Right now, Kate and I are finding a newdepth in our relationship.
We're having to face some things that wehave faced before poorly.
As a couple, we have tended, it has tendedmore towards the push each other away side
(06:01):
whenever stress has happened.
It has acted as a wedge for us and we'restarting to lean more into being pushed
closer by stress.
And it's really exciting for me.
I don't love the stress, but I love theeffect of feeling closer to my wife in
those moments, being there for her andsupporting her whenever her anxiety is an
issue or whenever there is...
(06:23):
A lot of pressure coming from her family,being able to support her in a way that
before I didn't really do.
I wasn't very good at seeing her side ofthe story and seeing how her feelings were
important.
I just wasn't.
I was not very awake to that.
And that's something that I've been muchmore in tune with.
And I've seen a lot of fruits from that.
(06:45):
I've definitely felt closer to her andI've started to feel her look to me as a
person of trust in those moments versus anopponent.
And that is really something that ishighly prioritized in my book now is I
don't want to be an opponent with my wifein stressful situations anymore.
I want to be a team.
Team Alexander, all the way.
And it is looking more and more like thatis the case.
(07:07):
But things are going to get more and morestressful.
And I just have to remember that my job isto show up unshakable in the truth and
keep my desired goal of wanting to be thatsupport for her.
whatever she is saying, whatever she'sgoing through, like I want to be that
support.
So that means I can't get sucked into myemotions in that moment.
(07:29):
I have to remember what my goal is.
And that is something that can be reallydifficult at times, but I'm learning more
and more how to do it better and better.
So the business right now is, you know,I've got my clients that I'm currently
seeing doing that on the road.
We'll should be fine as long as we're not,you know, I'm being
(07:50):
Proactive about blocking my schedule outwhen we're actually like actively
traveling because I can't see clientswhile I'm in the car You know traveling
with a bunch of kids that would be reallyunprofessional But you know, I'm like I've
got my mobile studio set up here.
It'll be just as easy to see clients Whathas been hard it has been?
(08:11):
switching gears and Like I said doing thehomeschooling the packing unpacking
feeling like I'm just not
getting my routine done and finding thecomfort to get the work done that I'd like
to get done.
I'm trying to build a new webinar to helpbring new leads in that is based on the
impulsive philosophy.
And I'm really excited about doing thatbecause it makes a lot of sense.
(08:33):
I really believe in this core philosophyof trusting your inner voice and allowing
it to lead you to purpose and things thatyou're passionate about, like things that
truly matter to you and allowing that toremove a lot of the...
the self -doubt and indecision that comeswith being ADHD.
I think it's a great move.
I think that this is the key to kind ofblowing my business up.
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And I think that because I think it's thekey, I'm both making it too important,
like it needs to be perfect before I workon it, but also like I'm kind of scared to
like open the floodgates while I'm on theroad without any sort of routine.
Because if I were to have five moreclients right now, trying to schedule them
would be.
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a nightmare because I don't know wherewe're going to land next.
So that's, you know, wow, that's superlong.
So, and not knowing where we're gonna landnext.
So that is something that I'm currentlytrying to work my way through and I'm
going to just start trying to work on mywebinar slowly instead of just like not
working on it at all or trying to finishit all tomorrow.
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I'm just gonna keep putting work in, doinggood solid work to build this webinar out
in a way that makes sense.
And that's something that as ADHD adults,we often forget that there aren't only two
time periods.
It's not right now or never.
It can be some now and some later.
It can be a little bit now and a littlebit in a little while.
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There's so many different ways that can bebalanced, but we get so used to doing
right now, right now, right now, or it'snever going to happen, or we have to do it
all, or we're not going to do anythingthat, I mean, that's a really, it's a
really toxic mentality for us to have, butwe get really entrenched in it.
And I don't.
I know that that doesn't work for me inthis type of situation.
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I cannot finish all this webinar where I'mat, what I'm doing, but I can keep working
on it.
And so that's my goal and that's what I'mgonna be working on over the next week or
two.
I'd like to have it, you know, the idealgoal would be to pick up doing webinars
again next week, but I feel like that'sprobably the right now goal.
Two weeks I feel like is very fair.
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And allows me some time to do it well andthen start bringing in clients again and
that's the goal so Anyways back to today'stopic and this is gonna be pretty short
like I said I'm probably gonna need to dothis again because I I just want to get
through it today is like it not very I'mnot in it.
I do feel better just being here andtalking about it But I'm not super excited
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to be recording a podcast right nowbecause I'm exhausted My tonsils are
swollen.
I feel crappy.
I
You know, I'm wondering, do I have somesort of autoimmune disease that's going to
keep me incapacitated for the long term?
It's been kind of freaking me out a littlebit.
So that's something I'm concerned about.
But I have faith that God gave me thisbody for a reason and that there is
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something I'm supposed to learn from beingin this state that I'm in right now.
And I think the thing I'm supposed tolearn is keep going.
Just keep going.
Like I've got this plan in place that isgoing to help me earn all of the things
I've ever wanted in life.
If I just keep doing the simple thingsevery day and then your body starts to
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play tricks on you.
Your mind starts to play tricks on you andstarts to make you question the plan.
It's really important to have faith.
But then also I want to be impulsive.
I want to trust my inner voice.
I want to trust my gut and my urges.
I think that it's really important.
to understand that these two things cancoexist.
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For me, my faith in myself and my faith inGod have been strongly intertwined as I've
started to uncover this, is that I havefaith in myself because I do feel like God
has imbued me with certain talents andgifts and abilities.
And so whenever I'm trusting myself, I'mtrusting that God gave me the sovereignty.
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to be able to make these decisions formyself.
He imbued me with a certain amount ofstrength that I've been taught to separate
from.
And I think that it's really importantthat I stop listening to mainstream
society that tells me that the ADHD brainis broken, and I start listening to what
is in my heart and tells me that there issomething special out there for me if I
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trust myself.
If I believe that I'm good enough,
and I actually listen to what I have tosay about the conversation, then there's
something really special for me.
So, I don't know, some like currently thebiggest move of faith and, and in Paul
it's been, this move has been somethingthat has been something that we've been
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discussing for years and I wasn't able tohave the conversation because it meant
destroying the life that I lived.
And well,
Ended up that the life that I lived gotdestroyed anyway, so that felt like it was
a sign from God to me to Leave behindeverything I knew and then as I started to
have this conversation with my wife aboutleaving, Oklahoma the urge happened it
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stopped being a Responsibility, I feltlike I needed to fulfill or even just a
calling from God to come out it started tofeel like something that I wanted I
deep inside of me.
And sometimes I don't know if it is likewhich came first, the chicken or the egg,
if it was a calling first and it was urgedsecond or if those things are the same
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thing.
Is the calling inside of me or sorry, isthe calling the urge just like manifested?
I don't know.
They feel different.
Like sometimes I feel like it could be twosides of the same coin.
But I feel like whenever they
Whenever they align and I feel the callingfrom something greater and I feel the urge
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from inside myself, like there's no doubtthat I'm on the right path.
And then I'm seeing signs that are showingthat things are lining up for me, that
this is the path that is supposed to behappening.
And, you know, that's, it feels like attimes I'm making myself like hyper
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important to think that God is.
taking such care to put these signs in mylife and to talk to me that way.
But if I think about what God means to meand that he is omnipotent and he is all
knowing, all seeing and all being, itdoesn't make any sense to put any limits
on what his capabilities are.
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And that's something that I used tostruggle with really hard as an agnostic
like I was for a long time is that I...
Well, I know if he could do this and hecould do that, then why didn't he do this?
And why didn't he do that?
And like, for one, he can do anything.
He can, like he's he's able to doanything, but that doesn't mean he's going
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to do everything.
He is like he's got a plan that is.
It's timeless and we think we're thinkingabout our tiny little span of life.
And why isn't this happening for me?
Or why isn't this, you know, why did thishappen to this person that I love?
And there's this millennia long plan thatwe can't see the whole big picture.
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And I think it's important to realize thatwhen you feel called, it is because it is
your time to step into your part of theplan.
When you start to feel those urges, it isbecause it's your time now.
There is not always going to be a timewhenever you are going to have a role.
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that is affecting the plan.
And that's okay.
A lot of people are, they go their wholelives and never feel called to do
anything.
And that sounds depressing to me, but alsobeing called to do something is stressful
as fuck.
Like feeling like you have to ignore whateverybody else says and what you, that you
have to believe in yourself no matterwhat, that this is the thing you're
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supposed to do and you need to make ithappen.
That's kind of scary.
But whenever you're impulsive also and youknow that you can trust your inner voice,
that you can feel those urges and you canlean into them and you can gain power from
inside of yourself, then it becomes lessscary because what everybody else says
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doesn't matter anymore.
Like, I'm not going to say it doesn'tmatter.
I mean, of course it matters.
Of course you still care to some degree,but whenever you really trust yourself,
You are not going to let what they sayaffect how you act.
It might change how you feel to somedegree, but you are going to do what you
know that you have to do because you aregoing to listen to what is coming from
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inside you versus what is coming fromoutside.
And that is, I don't know, that's.
That's pretty like heady thinking, it's,you know, kind of lofty, but when you feel
it and you understand it, like there's no,there's no unfeeling it.
There's no un -understanding it.
It's just, you just, you just do that.
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And that's why I'm able to come on this,you know, podcast and talk to the 12
people who listen to it.
Because I, I don't care if they agree withme.
I care that I'm listening to what's insideof me and I'm sharing that because I know
there is somebody else who needs to hearit.
And the more I get comfortable with andthe more I articulate that, the more
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people...
are coming back to me and are commentingand are engaging with and are having
conversations with this.
And I think that's what's important.
Both the people who are talking shit andthe people who are taking inspiration from
it, it's the conversation that needs tohappen.
People need to start asking questionsabout, is this voice inside of me a real
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thing?
Is this urge that I feel, is it the self-critic or is it the inner voice?
people need to start thinking about thatand sifting through that and having a
relationship with that.
And if you are an ADHD parent, I thinkthat the more you listen to it inside the
constraints of the code of telling thetruth and then having a compelling vision
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that you're trying to gain, then itbecomes really, really powerful.
But trying to do it, just trying to listento your urges all the time is really
dangerous.
Like without...
faith without structure, then yourimpulses could easily lead to ruin.
And so that is what I've what I've done isput a structure in place for me to to have
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my shit together before I just go out andlive impulsively.
I have my body being balanced and businessin check at all times to where I know that
I'm doing the right things.
So whenever I'm listening to that urge,that urge, I can tell when it's off.
I can tell when that's not something thatI'm supposed to follow.
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That is my self -critic trying to destroyme versus my inner voice trying to guide
me to purpose.
Because they both exist inside you.
You know, we have this constant dialogueinside of our head that neurotypicals
don't have.
And that's what I think is like, that'swhy this impulsive thing is geared towards
ADHD parents, because I don't thinkthat...
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It is really in the wheelhouse ofneurotypicals to be impulsive.
So I don't know.
I'm going to wrap it up because I just...
This is all really important stuff to me,but at the same time, I don't want to get
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too far out there in this format.
It's kind of a, it's something I just wantto introduce this thought to you of, do
you have faith and do you listen to yourinner voice?
Like that's the question.
If you don't have either, why not?
And if you are...
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wanting to learn more about listening toyour inner voice and living impulsively,
then I would love to have a conversationwith you.
Go to www .impulsive .life forward slashconsult and get a free consultation where
I will give you at least three freestrategies to help you start living
impulsively.
That means to uncover the powerfulpotential inside you where you are able to
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release the regret, fear, shame, and guiltthat have been bred into you.
for being an ADHD person and learn to livewith power and potential.
That's it for today.
We're gonna wrap it up there.
It's not making a whole lot of sense.
It could tell I feel a little sick, butthat's today's show.
Bye everybody.
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