May 1, 2024 • 21 mins
On today’s episode of Authentic On Air “Our Impulsive Journey”, Coach Bruce provides an update on his journey, discussing his progress in his body, balance, business, and relationship with God.
He talks about the challenges he's faced, including health issues and the need to support his wife's healing and growth. He emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for past actions and focusing on personal development.
Coach Bruce also shares his excitement and fear as he embarks on a new phase of his journey, leaving everything behind and rewriting the story of his family. He invites listeners to join him in uncovering their impulsive potential.
Takeaways
Taking responsibility for past actions and focusing on personal development is crucial for growth and improvement.
Supporting and being a constant presence for a partner's healing and growth is essential in a relationship.
Embracing fear and discomfort is a sign of growth and can lead to learning and self-discovery.
Leaving behind everything known and rewriting one's story can be both exciting and terrifying.
Uncovering one's impulsive potential and living impulsively can bring satisfaction and purpose to life.
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(00:04):
Great.
Hello and welcome back to Authentic OnAir.
(00:25):
I'm your host, Bruce Alexander.
We're doing it.
We are out on the road on our impulsivejourney.
We pulled into Rockaway Beach, Missouritoday, staying across the street from the
lake and living our best life.
I'm not going to lie.
It's a little stressful.
Not knowing what is going to happen nextin this journey of ours is a little bit
(00:50):
terrifying.
And I'll get back into that in just aminute.
First, let's catch up.
The body journey continues.
My back is getting better and as I'vestarted to increase the ability to move
and be a little bit more flexible, pushingthe box a little further and have started
to add some HIIT training back into mylife.
(01:10):
The tiniest bit of HIIT, but I didn't wantto go with this new space of flexibility
coming into my life and not capitalizingon it.
And it's been really hard because likeI've had strep.
I've been, you know, I think I'm, I'mcoming off of the imbalance of going off
(01:31):
of Adderall, going off of testosterone afew months ago, um, which was not
something I planned on doing withtestosterone.
It's just something that leaving theinsurance that I had, it was no longer
covered and I'd never figured out a newplan.
Um, it's something that I plan on gettingback on in the future because it did help
a lot, but.
I feel like I'm going through theseconstant dips of my immune system kind of
(01:55):
fighting back against me.
So coming off the strap, trying toincrease my workout intensity has been
tough.
But the thing that remains the same is youshow up and you do the work to the best of
your ability.
It's been hard to not pre -describe howmuch I'm going to finish and to say, well,
(02:17):
I'm just not going to try because I feelsick, blah, blah, blah.
I've taken a walk every single day sinceI've started this.
And then today I added, I added some hillsto my walk.
And then I also did some modified burpeesfor my very large frame.
But adding that hit is really the abilityto do that has got me really excited
(02:37):
because that means for one, I've madeenough progress to be able to flexibly do
any sort of higher intensity workout.
And I'm going to start seeing progress alot sooner.
whether that progress is more flexibilityand mobility or that progress is a more
comfortable frame.
I don't care.
(02:57):
Either one of those things allows me to bea more active father, a more active leader
in my household.
And that's super, super exciting for me.
So that's good news.
Um, my balance, the relationship betweenmy wife and I continues to develop,
continues to get deeper, more, moreintimate and more connected.
(03:19):
in a real level.
It's important to note that we both usedto think that we were pretty deeply
connected.
And I think a lot of that has to do withhow much of the pain of our relationship
we ignored on a day to day basis.
We don't ignore anything anymore.
Everything is out on the table.
(03:39):
Her anxiety that has bothered me in thepast is being a topic of conversation.
in which I'm now being supportive versusbeing blameful.
And that has really, that has changed thedynamic a lot.
I am no longer trying to hide from myresponsibilities as a father, as a
husband.
(04:00):
I'm definitely talking about my weaknessesonce more and, or not, I'm sorry, talking
about my weaknesses a lot more.
And I also accept my strengths.
Like I'm just living in the truth.
I'm taking the feedback I'm being givenand I'm acting on it.
And that's not something that I had donefor a long time.
For a long time, I only heard what wasgood and I ignored what was bad.
(04:21):
And then whenever I got through thatinitial stage and I started to develop a
little bit, I only heard what was bad andI ignored everything that was good.
I felt really bad about myself and I beatmyself up and constantly prostrated and
trying to try to get her to forgive me.
Like, just forgive me, please, I'm sosorry, I sucked so bad.
(04:42):
And I want her to forgive me, but I don'twant to.
be so stuck in the past that I'm not ableto grow into the future.
So my current stance is like, I feel likethis is like the levels of grief or
something, but like the levels of personaldevelopment is now I am, I take
responsibility for the past, but I don'tget stuck in it.
(05:04):
Like when we talk about things that havehappened and I, you know, I apologize for
them.
I validate her emotions.
I feel my emotions about what thing I did.
And then I process through them.
and try to learn a lesson from it.
And then I try to grow and move forward.
I don't get stuck there anymore.
And that has allowed us to have a muchhealthier conversation about everything in
(05:26):
our relationship.
And as we're pushing through this trip, itis requiring me to be very supportive to
allow her to heal and grow so we canactually step into the next phase of our
relationship and.
It's the ultimate test for me being likeliving the life that I'm trying to coach
(05:50):
is can I show up and be a constant in herlife?
Can I be an unconditional husband becauseshe needs my support more now than ever in
order to learn to trust herself again andlearn to listen to her inner voice and not
shrink away from the anxiety and theemotions that scare her so much.
(06:13):
Like that is my responsibility that I havetaken on because I was a large instrument
in the disabling of her ability to trustherself.
Like that's what gaslighting over a longperiod of time does is it makes a person
feel like they can't believe their ownthoughts.
(06:34):
And I, it wasn't my intention, but I takeresponsibility because I was afraid to
deal with my emotions.
So I smushed hers and it's reallyunfortunate, but your actions have
consequences.
(06:54):
And if you're any sort of, I want to say,man, if you're any sort of human being,
whenever those consequences are taken outon somebody you love, I think you should
take responsibility and help clean themup.
Like I am taking responsibility andhelping.
be a solution to the problems I createdbecause I love her and I want us to be
(07:16):
together forever.
And I guess I could say it's selfishbecause I don't want her to be a broken
version of herself forever.
I will love her regardless, but I want herto be the best version of herself because
that's who I get.
But if she doesn't ever grow and heal, aslong as I do my job and I show up as the
best partner I can be, our relationshipwill still be better because I brought my
(07:39):
game up.
And that's, you know, that is my generalphilosophy towards the relationship right
now is bring the best version of me to thetable.
So no matter what our relationship isimproving by my effort, because that's all
I can control.
I can't control how much he heals orgrows.
I can control the environment andscenarios that I, I set up to allow for
(08:05):
her healing, but even that is going to beout of my control sometimes.
but I can still be the best version of mebecause I'm putting in the work.
I'm showing up every day, trying to besupportive, kind, patient and graceful.
That's where we're at in the balance.
Things with the kids are going prettywell.
Some days are better than others.
(08:27):
There's a lot of things up in the air.
They don't have a lot of answers rightnow.
And I think that that confusion makes ithard for them to fully trust the process.
And that's okay.
They're allowed to have those feelings andthey're totally valid.
And I try to answer them to the best of myability.
And whenever I can, I say, sometimes Ijust, you know, I don't have the answer
(08:50):
right now, but as soon as I know, you'llknow.
And they take that pretty well.
My kids are pretty understanding, butsometimes they do act out a little bit.
And I have to remember that they are humanbeings.
Like they're not always going to beperfect and they don't have to be just
because I.
I get these perfect children so oftendoesn't mean that I should expect them to
(09:14):
be perfect.
I just get to enjoy that.
Like honestly, whenever I whenever I'mbalanced, whenever like my mind is right,
whenever they're not perfect, it's just asfun as when they are.
But sometimes my shit isn't together.
So like that's just, you know, how I turnit back on myself is I have to take the
responsibility to be the best version ofmyself.
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So I enjoy.
the people in my life to the greatestcapacity.
So that's the body so far, the balance.
With the business, I've been, I'm stillseeing my current clients.
I have not been working on my lead magnetas much as I need to.
Once again, trying to get all the dailybasics done to make sure that I've got my
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mind right, that I'm taking care of mybody.
The business has been getting left outjust a little bit.
Like I've been doing all of my dailypostings.
I'm still trying to build my movement.
So trying to reach out to my audience, butI need to be working on building leads and
that is going to be through my webinar.
So I actually put my, like put myself on aclock and made myself do some work on my
(10:17):
webinar yesterday.
And I felt really good.
I don't know why I keep putting it offbecause I really enjoy the work.
I love talking about this stuff.
So it's, it's really important that I, Iremember that just because it's work, it's
not the work that I'm used to.
in the past, you know, because as I'm, asI'm, you know, kind of in flux, whenever
(10:39):
there's a familiar, uh, a familiarscenario, I kind of, sometimes I throw
back the default and I start to thinkabout how things used to be.
And I don't want to operate that way.
I want to constantly be trying to pushmyself to engage in the way things are
now.
Like that's the goal, engage in the waythings are now, engage in the truth of now
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and do the best that you can today.
And so yesterday, having done that feltreally good.
And like, I think that I can have mywebinar ready to launch.
The webinar ready to launch by next weekand then get the funnel ready to launch
within the next seven days after that.
And that'll be really exciting.
And I'll start being able to drive someleads that way.
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And I think that it's going to be theclient base that really makes sense for
me.
because they're going to be people who areADHD, who are looking to learn to trust
their, learn to trust their inner voiceagain, learning to trust their impulses
for the first time ever, learning how todirect their special gifts and who they
are specifically into something that isgoing to give them purpose and passion for
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their life.
And that is very exciting for me becausethat is what is working for me.
That's the life I'm living and it isbringing me great satisfaction.
And I want that for,
All ADHD parents.
So that's the business.
And then, you know, my being my, myrelationship with God and my inner voice,
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like it is a little harder to stay in tunewith my morning routine every morning.
I'm finishing it every day, but wheneveryou're on the road a lot, it is hard to
get everything done before we hit theroad.
And then I'm like stretching it outthrough the drive and there's, uh,
You know, there's distractions of childrenand stops and all this stuff, making
(12:30):
excuses, but I'm still getting it done.
But I promise you it is so much morepowerful when you get your morning routine
done, you get your mind right before youstep into the day.
Like I am just so much more effective.
I'm so much more grateful and appreciativefor the opportunities and for the
conversations and for the people in mylife.
Whenever I do like everything that is onmy checklist for my body being balanced in
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business before I start my day.
I feel so much more powerful and some ofthe days I've been on the road, I've been
able to do that really well.
And I've had really great conversations inmy stacks and I've gotten some deep
guidance from God and it has really feltgood.
And then other days I haven't.
So it's, you know, it's a continualbattle.
It is not going to be one or lost in oneday, but it is showing up every day and
(13:16):
doing my very best.
And I'm proud to be doing that.
So that is it.
That's the overall catch up now.
As you all know, like we've been on thisjourney for a little over a week now, but
this is the first day that we'veofficially been out of everything that
we've known and my, the message that Iinterpreted from my inner voice or God or
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whatever.
I think it was God.
Like that's where it feels like to me wasto lead your family out of everything that
you have ever known.
And.
I didn't realize that.
Like I initially was thinking it's like,okay, we're supposed to get out of
Oklahoma city.
And as we were in Tulsa, I was still kindof like, I wasn't really feeling anything
(14:06):
new.
And then I did a stack and in that sack, Irealized it said out of everything that
you know.
And I was like, this is where we met.
We met in Tulsa.
This is not out of everything that weknow.
Then we went to Fayetteville and was like,we went here on our last vacation.
This is not out of everything that weknow.
We know this place.
We've got all these memories here.
This is part of our past relationshiphistory.
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We are trying to get away from everythingthat we know to rewrite the story of us.
Like that is not all we're trying to do,but that is part of this journey is to
rewrite the story of us, to release allthose past stories, all those limiting
narratives that we've had for who we areas a couple and as a family to start into
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something new and powerful.
And today is the first day that we are outof our comfort zone completely.
I don't think I've ever even been.
No, I've definitely never been to the, tothe cert, the current subdivision we're
at, but it's outside of Branson.
I don't even think I've ever been toBranson, been to Missouri before, but this
is, this is uncharted territory for us asa family.
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So we are doing it.
And so as we're doing it, obviously it'slike, what am I doing?
This feels a little scary.
Kate is definitely having mixed.
thoughts.
Some day she's really excited.
Some day she is terrified and thinks thatwe made the wrong decision.
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Our house got listed today as well.
So this is really the beginning of thenext phase.
Our house is officially on the market.
Like to me, it's like we are at the pointof no return.
You know, for us, we are a day or twodrive away from our home.
Our house is listed like that.
Sorry, it's not our home anymore of ourhouse, our home.
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is where we are together.
That's where home is for me now.
And so all of these things, they'refinally taking place.
And now it becomes the Odyssey.
Now we're officially on the journey.
Everything is happening.
We're giving all of everything that weknow up.
And.
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I'm really excited.
I really am super.
super eager to see what the next step thatis revealed for us is, but also like
there's this, there's this terror reallydeep down in my heart that it's not going
to be revealed, that there is going to beno further instruction, that we are going
to be left out here in the dark.
(16:35):
But I know that that's not what God has instore for us, but my mind is human and
fear is something that I often give into,but I refuse to lose to it permanently.
Just because I give him momentarilydoesn't mean I'm going to let it control
my narrative anymore.
It's like, oh shit, I'm really scared.
But instead of letting that be my drivingdecision maker, I'm going to make
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decisions based off of my desired goalsand results.
And I'm just going to, I'm just going tofeel this fear and just say, and just tell
you, I'm going to tell my audience,however small it is.
This shit is scary.
I'm going to tell my wife like, yeah, I'mscared too, but I'm also really excited
because that's true.
You know, it's not me just trying to betoxically positive and saying,
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everything's going to be all right.
This feels so good.
It's me saying, yeah, I'm scared, butyeah, I'm super excited to see what is
going to happen next for us.
There's literally unlimited possibilitiesas to where we could go from here.
So why should I be unhappy about that?
It is reasonable to be afraid, but fear isa good indicator that you're doing
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something right.
It's a good indicator that you are headinginto a place of discomfort and discomfort
is a good sign of growth.
So I want to grow.
Expansion is my goal on this plane in thislife.
I want to be the best version of myselfthat I could possibly be whenever I leave
this plane.
So whatever happens next, I know that I'mprepared for it.
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And this is obviously uncomfortable.
This is wild.
Jumping from Airbnb to Airbnb, trying tomove.
thousands of miles away without a indestination already picked out already
booked already we don't have a place butI've also put out feelers to anybody who
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and this goes to anybody who's listeningnow if you happen to know anybody in the
southern Vermont or upper the upstate NewYork area who has a rental or is trying to
trying to take on a family of six with acouple of dogs and a cat.
please reach out to me because we arecurrently looking and you know, it's, it's
hard to find a place from this far away,but we're just going to get there.
(18:54):
We're going to slowly plot our way there.
We're going to take as much time as ittakes to get there.
It's going to cost money.
It's going to cost.
It is going to be this.
I just going to be uncomfortable, butthat's okay.
This discomfort is like the moreuncomfortable is the more that we are
going to learn about ourselves.
The more we are going to have to growtogether as a family.
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the closer Kate and I are going to have togrow together to survive it and to arrive
on the other side as the best version ofour relationship.
And that is the impulsive journey.
That is what we're going on.
If we had denied our impulses and stayedwith what we've been doing our entire
lives, I know that we would have been, I'mnot going to say cursed as a relationship,
(19:39):
but that's the closest word I can thinkof.
because there would have been this mark,this permanent mark on our relationship
that said you were supposed to dosomething, but you chose to hide again.
And not only did you chose to hide, youand your wife chose to hide and you hid
this thing that you were called to do fromyour children.
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And that like that would have messed meup.
So I'm so glad that we are accepting thiscall from God.
We are listening to this urge in ourhearts and we are just moving and we are
going.
And I don't know where I don't know whereour next stop is.
Like we're going to stay here tonight,tomorrow night.
And I'm sure Kate and I will talk tomorrownight and figure out where we're going
(20:22):
next.
See what feels right.
But I'm excited.
I'm going to keep it short because onceagain, I want to enjoy my family
throughout this process.
I don't want to spend too much timerecording.
Yeah, so I'm going to just wrap it up hereand I will.
Talk to you guys again next week or everyday on our live stream that I do live
(20:46):
every day at around the same time.
So please like follow and all that stuff.
And if you are interested in having afurther conversation about how you can
uncover your impulsive potential, then hitme up in the comments or go to www
.impulsive .life forward slash consult andset up a free consultation where I will
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give you at least.
three strategies or techniques that willhelp you start to release the guilt,
remorse and shame that you feel from beingan ADHD parent and start to live
impulsively.
Thank you so much.
I will talk to you next week.
Bye.
Great.
Hello and welcome back to Authentic OnAir.
(00:25):
I'm your host, Bruce Alexander.
We're doing it.
We are out on the road on our impulsivejourney.
We pulled into Rockaway Beach, Missouritoday, staying across the street from the
lake and living our best life.
I'm not going to lie.
It's a little stressful.
Not knowing what is going to happen nextin this journey of ours is a little bit
(00:50):
terrifying.
And I'll get back into that in just aminute.
First, let's catch up.
The body journey continues.
My back is getting better and as I'vestarted to increase the ability to move
and be a little bit more flexible, pushingthe box a little further and have started
to add some HIIT training back into mylife.
(01:10):
The tiniest bit of HIIT, but I didn't wantto go with this new space of flexibility
coming into my life and not capitalizingon it.
And it's been really hard because likeI've had strep.
I've been, you know, I think I'm, I'mcoming off of the imbalance of going off
(01:31):
of Adderall, going off of testosterone afew months ago, um, which was not
something I planned on doing withtestosterone.
It's just something that leaving theinsurance that I had, it was no longer
covered and I'd never figured out a newplan.
Um, it's something that I plan on gettingback on in the future because it did help
a lot, but.
I feel like I'm going through theseconstant dips of my immune system kind of
(01:55):
fighting back against me.
So coming off the strap, trying toincrease my workout intensity has been
tough.
But the thing that remains the same is youshow up and you do the work to the best of
your ability.
It's been hard to not pre -describe howmuch I'm going to finish and to say, well,
(02:17):
I'm just not going to try because I feelsick, blah, blah, blah.
I've taken a walk every single day sinceI've started this.
And then today I added, I added some hillsto my walk.
And then I also did some modified burpeesfor my very large frame.
But adding that hit is really the abilityto do that has got me really excited
(02:37):
because that means for one, I've madeenough progress to be able to flexibly do
any sort of higher intensity workout.
And I'm going to start seeing progress alot sooner.
whether that progress is more flexibilityand mobility or that progress is a more
comfortable frame.
I don't care.
(02:57):
Either one of those things allows me to bea more active father, a more active leader
in my household.
And that's super, super exciting for me.
So that's good news.
Um, my balance, the relationship betweenmy wife and I continues to develop,
continues to get deeper, more, moreintimate and more connected.
(03:19):
in a real level.
It's important to note that we both usedto think that we were pretty deeply
connected.
And I think a lot of that has to do withhow much of the pain of our relationship
we ignored on a day to day basis.
We don't ignore anything anymore.
Everything is out on the table.
(03:39):
Her anxiety that has bothered me in thepast is being a topic of conversation.
in which I'm now being supportive versusbeing blameful.
And that has really, that has changed thedynamic a lot.
I am no longer trying to hide from myresponsibilities as a father, as a
husband.
(04:00):
I'm definitely talking about my weaknessesonce more and, or not, I'm sorry, talking
about my weaknesses a lot more.
And I also accept my strengths.
Like I'm just living in the truth.
I'm taking the feedback I'm being givenand I'm acting on it.
And that's not something that I had donefor a long time.
For a long time, I only heard what wasgood and I ignored what was bad.
(04:21):
And then whenever I got through thatinitial stage and I started to develop a
little bit, I only heard what was bad andI ignored everything that was good.
I felt really bad about myself and I beatmyself up and constantly prostrated and
trying to try to get her to forgive me.
Like, just forgive me, please, I'm sosorry, I sucked so bad.
(04:42):
And I want her to forgive me, but I don'twant to.
be so stuck in the past that I'm not ableto grow into the future.
So my current stance is like, I feel likethis is like the levels of grief or
something, but like the levels of personaldevelopment is now I am, I take
responsibility for the past, but I don'tget stuck in it.
(05:04):
Like when we talk about things that havehappened and I, you know, I apologize for
them.
I validate her emotions.
I feel my emotions about what thing I did.
And then I process through them.
and try to learn a lesson from it.
And then I try to grow and move forward.
I don't get stuck there anymore.
And that has allowed us to have a muchhealthier conversation about everything in
(05:26):
our relationship.
And as we're pushing through this trip, itis requiring me to be very supportive to
allow her to heal and grow so we canactually step into the next phase of our
relationship and.
It's the ultimate test for me being likeliving the life that I'm trying to coach
(05:50):
is can I show up and be a constant in herlife?
Can I be an unconditional husband becauseshe needs my support more now than ever in
order to learn to trust herself again andlearn to listen to her inner voice and not
shrink away from the anxiety and theemotions that scare her so much.
(06:13):
Like that is my responsibility that I havetaken on because I was a large instrument
in the disabling of her ability to trustherself.
Like that's what gaslighting over a longperiod of time does is it makes a person
feel like they can't believe their ownthoughts.
(06:34):
And I, it wasn't my intention, but I takeresponsibility because I was afraid to
deal with my emotions.
So I smushed hers and it's reallyunfortunate, but your actions have
consequences.
(06:54):
And if you're any sort of, I want to say,man, if you're any sort of human being,
whenever those consequences are taken outon somebody you love, I think you should
take responsibility and help clean themup.
Like I am taking responsibility andhelping.
be a solution to the problems I createdbecause I love her and I want us to be
(07:16):
together forever.
And I guess I could say it's selfishbecause I don't want her to be a broken
version of herself forever.
I will love her regardless, but I want herto be the best version of herself because
that's who I get.
But if she doesn't ever grow and heal, aslong as I do my job and I show up as the
best partner I can be, our relationshipwill still be better because I brought my
(07:39):
game up.
And that's, you know, that is my generalphilosophy towards the relationship right
now is bring the best version of me to thetable.
So no matter what our relationship isimproving by my effort, because that's all
I can control.
I can't control how much he heals orgrows.
I can control the environment andscenarios that I, I set up to allow for
(08:05):
her healing, but even that is going to beout of my control sometimes.
but I can still be the best version of mebecause I'm putting in the work.
I'm showing up every day, trying to besupportive, kind, patient and graceful.
That's where we're at in the balance.
Things with the kids are going prettywell.
Some days are better than others.
(08:27):
There's a lot of things up in the air.
They don't have a lot of answers rightnow.
And I think that that confusion makes ithard for them to fully trust the process.
And that's okay.
They're allowed to have those feelings andthey're totally valid.
And I try to answer them to the best of myability.
And whenever I can, I say, sometimes Ijust, you know, I don't have the answer
(08:50):
right now, but as soon as I know, you'llknow.
And they take that pretty well.
My kids are pretty understanding, butsometimes they do act out a little bit.
And I have to remember that they are humanbeings.
Like they're not always going to beperfect and they don't have to be just
because I.
I get these perfect children so oftendoesn't mean that I should expect them to
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be perfect.
I just get to enjoy that.
Like honestly, whenever I whenever I'mbalanced, whenever like my mind is right,
whenever they're not perfect, it's just asfun as when they are.
But sometimes my shit isn't together.
So like that's just, you know, how I turnit back on myself is I have to take the
responsibility to be the best version ofmyself.
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So I enjoy.
the people in my life to the greatestcapacity.
So that's the body so far, the balance.
With the business, I've been, I'm stillseeing my current clients.
I have not been working on my lead magnetas much as I need to.
Once again, trying to get all the dailybasics done to make sure that I've got my
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mind right, that I'm taking care of mybody.
The business has been getting left outjust a little bit.
Like I've been doing all of my dailypostings.
I'm still trying to build my movement.
So trying to reach out to my audience, butI need to be working on building leads and
that is going to be through my webinar.
So I actually put my, like put myself on aclock and made myself do some work on my
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webinar yesterday.
And I felt really good.
I don't know why I keep putting it offbecause I really enjoy the work.
I love talking about this stuff.
So it's, it's really important that I, Iremember that just because it's work, it's
not the work that I'm used to.
in the past, you know, because as I'm, asI'm, you know, kind of in flux, whenever
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there's a familiar, uh, a familiarscenario, I kind of, sometimes I throw
back the default and I start to thinkabout how things used to be.
And I don't want to operate that way.
I want to constantly be trying to pushmyself to engage in the way things are
now.
Like that's the goal, engage in the waythings are now, engage in the truth of now
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and do the best that you can today.
And so yesterday, having done that feltreally good.
And like, I think that I can have mywebinar ready to launch.
The webinar ready to launch by next weekand then get the funnel ready to launch
within the next seven days after that.
And that'll be really exciting.
And I'll start being able to drive someleads that way.
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And I think that it's going to be theclient base that really makes sense for
me.
because they're going to be people who areADHD, who are looking to learn to trust
their, learn to trust their inner voiceagain, learning to trust their impulses
for the first time ever, learning how todirect their special gifts and who they
are specifically into something that isgoing to give them purpose and passion for
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their life.
And that is very exciting for me becausethat is what is working for me.
That's the life I'm living and it isbringing me great satisfaction.
And I want that for,
All ADHD parents.
So that's the business.
And then, you know, my being my, myrelationship with God and my inner voice,
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like it is a little harder to stay in tunewith my morning routine every morning.
I'm finishing it every day, but wheneveryou're on the road a lot, it is hard to
get everything done before we hit theroad.
And then I'm like stretching it outthrough the drive and there's, uh,
You know, there's distractions of childrenand stops and all this stuff, making
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excuses, but I'm still getting it done.
But I promise you it is so much morepowerful when you get your morning routine
done, you get your mind right before youstep into the day.
Like I am just so much more effective.
I'm so much more grateful and appreciativefor the opportunities and for the
conversations and for the people in mylife.
Whenever I do like everything that is onmy checklist for my body being balanced in
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business before I start my day.
I feel so much more powerful and some ofthe days I've been on the road, I've been
able to do that really well.
And I've had really great conversations inmy stacks and I've gotten some deep
guidance from God and it has really feltgood.
And then other days I haven't.
So it's, you know, it's a continualbattle.
It is not going to be one or lost in oneday, but it is showing up every day and
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doing my very best.
And I'm proud to be doing that.
So that is it.
That's the overall catch up now.
As you all know, like we've been on thisjourney for a little over a week now, but
this is the first day that we'veofficially been out of everything that
we've known and my, the message that Iinterpreted from my inner voice or God or
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whatever.
I think it was God.
Like that's where it feels like to me wasto lead your family out of everything that
you have ever known.
And.
I didn't realize that.
Like I initially was thinking it's like,okay, we're supposed to get out of
Oklahoma city.
And as we were in Tulsa, I was still kindof like, I wasn't really feeling anything
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new.
And then I did a stack and in that sack, Irealized it said out of everything that
you know.
And I was like, this is where we met.
We met in Tulsa.
This is not out of everything that weknow.
Then we went to Fayetteville and was like,we went here on our last vacation.
This is not out of everything that weknow.
We know this place.
We've got all these memories here.
This is part of our past relationshiphistory.
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We are trying to get away from everythingthat we know to rewrite the story of us.
Like that is not all we're trying to do,but that is part of this journey is to
rewrite the story of us, to release allthose past stories, all those limiting
narratives that we've had for who we areas a couple and as a family to start into
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something new and powerful.
And today is the first day that we are outof our comfort zone completely.
I don't think I've ever even been.
No, I've definitely never been to the, tothe cert, the current subdivision we're
at, but it's outside of Branson.
I don't even think I've ever been toBranson, been to Missouri before, but this
is, this is uncharted territory for us asa family.
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So we are doing it.
And so as we're doing it, obviously it'slike, what am I doing?
This feels a little scary.
Kate is definitely having mixed.
thoughts.
Some day she's really excited.
Some day she is terrified and thinks thatwe made the wrong decision.
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Our house got listed today as well.
So this is really the beginning of thenext phase.
Our house is officially on the market.
Like to me, it's like we are at the pointof no return.
You know, for us, we are a day or twodrive away from our home.
Our house is listed like that.
Sorry, it's not our home anymore of ourhouse, our home.
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is where we are together.
That's where home is for me now.
And so all of these things, they'refinally taking place.
And now it becomes the Odyssey.
Now we're officially on the journey.
Everything is happening.
We're giving all of everything that weknow up.
And.
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I'm really excited.
I really am super.
super eager to see what the next step thatis revealed for us is, but also like
there's this, there's this terror reallydeep down in my heart that it's not going
to be revealed, that there is going to beno further instruction, that we are going
to be left out here in the dark.
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But I know that that's not what God has instore for us, but my mind is human and
fear is something that I often give into,but I refuse to lose to it permanently.
Just because I give him momentarilydoesn't mean I'm going to let it control
my narrative anymore.
It's like, oh shit, I'm really scared.
But instead of letting that be my drivingdecision maker, I'm going to make
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decisions based off of my desired goalsand results.
And I'm just going to, I'm just going tofeel this fear and just say, and just tell
you, I'm going to tell my audience,however small it is.
This shit is scary.
I'm going to tell my wife like, yeah, I'mscared too, but I'm also really excited
because that's true.
You know, it's not me just trying to betoxically positive and saying,
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everything's going to be all right.
This feels so good.
It's me saying, yeah, I'm scared, butyeah, I'm super excited to see what is
going to happen next for us.
There's literally unlimited possibilitiesas to where we could go from here.
So why should I be unhappy about that?
It is reasonable to be afraid, but fear isa good indicator that you're doing
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something right.
It's a good indicator that you are headinginto a place of discomfort and discomfort
is a good sign of growth.
So I want to grow.
Expansion is my goal on this plane in thislife.
I want to be the best version of myselfthat I could possibly be whenever I leave
this plane.
So whatever happens next, I know that I'mprepared for it.
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And this is obviously uncomfortable.
This is wild.
Jumping from Airbnb to Airbnb, trying tomove.
thousands of miles away without a indestination already picked out already
booked already we don't have a place butI've also put out feelers to anybody who
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and this goes to anybody who's listeningnow if you happen to know anybody in the
southern Vermont or upper the upstate NewYork area who has a rental or is trying to
trying to take on a family of six with acouple of dogs and a cat.
please reach out to me because we arecurrently looking and you know, it's, it's
hard to find a place from this far away,but we're just going to get there.
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We're going to slowly plot our way there.
We're going to take as much time as ittakes to get there.
It's going to cost money.
It's going to cost.
It is going to be this.
I just going to be uncomfortable, butthat's okay.
This discomfort is like the moreuncomfortable is the more that we are
going to learn about ourselves.
The more we are going to have to growtogether as a family.
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the closer Kate and I are going to have togrow together to survive it and to arrive
on the other side as the best version ofour relationship.
And that is the impulsive journey.
That is what we're going on.
If we had denied our impulses and stayedwith what we've been doing our entire
lives, I know that we would have been, I'mnot going to say cursed as a relationship,
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but that's the closest word I can thinkof.
because there would have been this mark,this permanent mark on our relationship
that said you were supposed to dosomething, but you chose to hide again.
And not only did you chose to hide, youand your wife chose to hide and you hid
this thing that you were called to do fromyour children.
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And that like that would have messed meup.
So I'm so glad that we are accepting thiscall from God.
We are listening to this urge in ourhearts and we are just moving and we are
going.
And I don't know where I don't know whereour next stop is.
Like we're going to stay here tonight,tomorrow night.
And I'm sure Kate and I will talk tomorrownight and figure out where we're going
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next.
See what feels right.
But I'm excited.
I'm going to keep it short because onceagain, I want to enjoy my family
throughout this process.
I don't want to spend too much timerecording.
Yeah, so I'm going to just wrap it up hereand I will.
Talk to you guys again next week or everyday on our live stream that I do live
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every day at around the same time.
So please like follow and all that stuff.
And if you are interested in having afurther conversation about how you can
uncover your impulsive potential, then hitme up in the comments or go to www
.impulsive .life forward slash consult andset up a free consultation where I will
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give you at least.
three strategies or techniques that willhelp you start to release the guilt,
remorse and shame that you feel from beingan ADHD parent and start to live
impulsively.
Thank you so much.
I will talk to you next week.
Bye.
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