May 29, 2024 • 18 mins
Tonight on the Authentic On Air podcast I will be discussing the importance of thinking small for ADHD parents.
This applies in a few different ways and suggest mentalities that ADHD people aren’t necessarily familiar with.
My goal in life right now is to share the lessons in life that I have learned to help me stop sedating and running from my responsibilities as a spouse and a parent.
I spent so much time looking at the big picture over 20 years out that I had no idea what life was supposed to be to look like right now.
Plus we will cover some of the other powers of thinking small.
I am in a place right now where I am trying to impact as many ADHD parents as a possibly can because God has really just put it on my head to be of service.
So I want to give you an hour of my time completely free!
In that hour I will apply my training as a life coach to assess your biggest obstacles and give you at least three strategies customized to provide immediate relief in your life. Free of cost or obligation.
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(00:25):
Hello and welcome back to Authentic On Airwith Bruce Alexander.
I am your host, Coach Bruce Alexander.
If you don't know this yet, I'm a lifecoach for ADHD parents and I'm trying to
shift this show more towards the serviceof those ADHD parents.
And I think it's really important to notethat nobody listens to this show anyways.
(00:46):
So it doesn't really matter who I'mtalking to because nobody's listening.
So I can do whatever I want.
Sometimes I get a little overwhelmed doingthis show because I'm doing so many other
things trying to build a business.
I forget that I can do whatever I wanthere and it's going to be a little or no
consequence because whenever it doesfinally find its audience, they are going
(01:11):
to be exactly who wants to hear what I'mputting on.
So just be you, Bruce, just do youbrother.
And it's going to catch on eventually.
So today I want to talk about.
Thinking small.
For ADHD people, I think that this is areally important, a really important idea,
(01:32):
ideology that kind of applies in multipleways.
And I'm going to get into that after ashort intro.
So what I've been doing lately is I'vebeen introducing the different, the four
domains of dominion that we are given ashuman beings by God.
And those are the things that we aresupposed to.
(01:52):
take care of in order to like really kindof find purpose in this life.
And I've been doing this, you know, thisthis warrior's way thing for a while this
morning routine, this trying to likedesign my my day to design my life.
And it's been really working well for me.
But there was a piece that I was missingbecause like as much as I've been bringing
(02:15):
God into my life and having conversationswith God, I didn't realize that part of
this.
Sorry, part of this routine I was doingwas about stewardship.
It was about showing that across all fourdomains, body being balance and business,
I am taking the the dominion God has givenme and I'm I'm taking it seriously and I'm
(02:37):
being a steward of that to to bring it tothe highest possible level I can bring it
like I am doing whatever I can to to haveit all and to be at all across all four
domains.
So I also like to report.
you know how things are going across thosefour domains of body being balance
business.
So let's start with body.
(02:58):
this week has been a really great week asfar as really taking note of how far I've
come from a month and a half to two monthsago where my walk started as to the end of
the street or just around the corner.
now I'm walking a considerable distancefor me and I'm taking, you know, hikes
(03:19):
that are
kind of off the beaten path to get my kidsto places where before I wouldn't have
taken a chance to do because I was afraidof getting injured further or I was afraid
I wouldn't be able to make it back becauseI was so out of shape.
The shape is coming like the currentphysical shape is still round.
Like don't get me wrong.
I still have a bunch of weight that I wantto lose to to be a more fit father to be
(03:44):
more active.
But the activity is coming much fasterthan it ever felt like it could have two
months ago.
Two months ago, I thought I was nevergoing to be active, like truly active
again, that there was just always going tobe pain and everything that I did.
And that is no longer the case.
And it is all thankful to doing the smallthings well.
(04:05):
And we'll talk about that some more later.
So that's my body, my being, myrelationship with God has, has really been
opening up for me.
I stack every single day.
I meditate every single day and
in those times in that being still andallowing myself to be open for messages to
come and then stacking my emotionsprocessing through the situations I find
(04:29):
myself in to to find revelation has beenreally, really just eye opening for me.
There is so many lessons that God gives usto learn every single day that I had been
missing out on because I didn't process myemotions.
I just suppressed everything and pretendedlike I was always okay.
when I was never okay.
(04:50):
And as soon as I started to tell the truthabout what I was feeling, you know, even
just to myself and my stack, I started tosee a massive growth in my relationship
with God and my ability to show up formyself.
And so that is, that's awesome.
Like things are going really well.
Balance.
I'm out here on this, you know, thisOdyssey across the country with my wife
(05:12):
and my kids and
In this journey, we are finding deeperconnection than we've ever had.
I'm getting along with my kids in a reallylike fun and awesome way.
And there's so much like they're gettingalong better together.
Kate's getting along better with the kids.
Kate and I have started to have the hardconversations.
(05:33):
Well, there's there's so much less arguingand so much more solution finding.
Of course, we still argue like we're notperfect.
We still have, you know,
room to grow for sure, but things aremoving so well.
And I think the most important thing tonote is, I don't think that Kate has
changed very much.
(05:53):
I think that Kate has been allowed tobreathe and heal because I've stopped
being so overbearing.
I've started taking care of my mental, mymental trash and started to detoxify who I
am as a person.
And it's allowed her to show up differentin our relationship.
And I was talking to a client yesterdayand he was
talking about how his wife approaches himand how I'm sorry, this is a potential
(06:17):
client.
Sorry, I have not signed this person yet,but it was a consultation and he's talking
about how his wife, you know, kind of isaggressive towards him.
And I asked him, like, do you have thatself -critic in your mind that maybe is
adding a layer of, of judgment to thewords that are coming out of her mouth?
And he immediately knew what I was talkingabout.
(06:39):
He immediately said, yeah,
that inner critic is going all the time.
And that's something that I wasexperiencing too, is that I was hearing
the words that she was saying as an attackwhen a lot of the times there was just a
conversation to be had, but I was tooafraid to take responsibility for my part
in it.
So I just automatically saw it as anattack.
And that's, that's a way that, you know,just by processing my emotions through
(07:02):
stacking and learning how to be a man andto face the truth of the situation.
I've stopped arguing so much because whenit's true, it's true.
And if sometimes I'm the problem andthat's the truth, if I'm doing something
wrong, I just own that now and I just makea commitment to try and do better.
So that's been really good.
(07:24):
And it's been really fun to just like kindof like my wife again and kind of feel
free to data because there's so much lessexpectation around everything that we do.
And yeah, it's been great.
our next move as a family is to go see theocean on the East Coast, which we've never
(07:44):
done.
Rory, my youngest, has never seen theocean.
And my other children were too young toreally remember what it was like when we
went to Galveston.
So I'm really excited for them to see theocean for the first real time that they'll
really remember.
And I think that that's part of what thisjourney is supposed to be, is to have
experiences.
(08:05):
that otherwise we never would have donebecause we would have, we were just, we
were trapped in Oklahoma.
We were trapped by our stories.
We were trapped by our inner inaction andour paralysis.
And Oklahoma was like kind of, kind ofindicative of that for us and just
escaping the physical boundaries ofOklahoma has kind of allowed us to escape
those stories.
And now we're doing things that are reallyexciting as a family.
(08:28):
And lastly, my business, my business isthe thing that has been struggling the
most because.
I like, I'm really comfortable beinguncomfortable in the, you know, in the
physical aspect, pushing my body hard.
I've been pretty comfortable gettinguncomfortable and like having
conversations about bringing God into myfamily.
And I've been, you know, regularly doingthat, trying to add more prayer with my
(08:51):
wife and you know, it's, it makes me feelsuper awkward, but it's, I know, like I
understand that discomfort I'm willing topush into it and my business I've been
lacking.
I've been afraid to do the things that Iknow are going to create movement for my
business because they are uncomfortable.
And I'm afraid that I might fail.
I'm afraid that I won't succeed.
And so I'm afraid to, to push through thatdiscomfort.
(09:15):
Like at least I was, I took some actiontoday.
I put some money into an ad campaign totry to get six new clients into a group, a
group coaching, like small group coachingto try to get more impact with people for
a lower cost and just try to.
really get more people involved in thisprocess so I can just, I can just help
more people.
(09:35):
Like that's, that's my calling is I'm justtrying to get my hands in more pies to try
to make more of an effect for a lower costfor the people who, you know, maybe can't
pay for a full -time coach.
So that's what's happening in business andthings are, you know, they're, they're
trending up.
I just have to continue on the action thatI've laid forth and just do it.
(09:57):
So that is.
The update that's the, my body beingbalance business.
Those are the things, the four domainsthat we have control over and that we are,
that I encourage you to take special pridein trying to grow in those areas.
And then that is how you work towards thehave it all lifestyle.
And that's what I'm working towards aswell.
(10:18):
So I wanted to talk about thinking smalltoday because there was a couple of
phrases that kind of came into my mindthat I think that.
don't commonly really fit the ADHD personabecause we really like to like kind of
latch onto delusions of grandeur and dobig things and have these big picture
(10:39):
moments.
And what I've what I noticed for me,especially as I had this big picture of
retiring after 22 years as a firefighterand then being then finally being able to
go do the things I wanted to do with myfamily to do what we're doing right now.
But in that
big picture, I had no idea what the smallpicture looked like.
(11:01):
I didn't know what my life was supposed tolook like day to day.
I had no idea.
So I encourage you think small and worktowards the big.
Think about what you want your day to daylife to look like and then try to figure
out how you do that on a grander scale.
For me it is
I want to work from home.
(11:23):
I want to be around my family more.
I want to help people and coaching is thenthe result that I found from that is like,
what skills do I have?
How can I help people?
What do people around me say that I'm goodat solving problems, having hard
conversations and coaching kind of reallymade sense.
And I love doing it.
And it allows me to have that day to day,that small picture that is, you know, when
(11:46):
I put all these small pictures together,it's like a puzzle that paints a really
beautiful big picture.
but it's because I started focusing smallthat I'm able to to get there now.
So the big picture is not so important ifyour small picture is shit.
So maybe you start looking at your smallpicture first.
Secondly, take small actions to get bigresults.
(12:09):
This is something that I've seen reallytake effect.
Like I was talking about earlier in mybody is I just committed myself.
to taking a walk every day, to moving mybody every single day.
And whenever I started doing this, it feltso pointless because it hurts so bad to
(12:30):
walk, you know, 50 yards.
It was miserable, but it felt like such asmall action that was not gonna make a
difference.
But that small action has allowed me tostart being the father that I desire to be
again.
It's allowed me to stop being the weightaround our family that doesn't allow us to
(12:51):
do A, B or C because dad can't.
And that to me is like, that was one smallaction to just move my body every day, to
walk every day, to just make an effortevery day.
And sometimes that effort was so small,but I never missed a day.
And today I am, dude, I'm like 200 %better than where I was, but still like
(13:14):
600 % from where I need to be.
But I'm really happy in this moment that Ifound that growth because I committed to
small actions that repeated over and overhave given me big results.
And if I continue to repeat them over anddo them well, they will continue to
produce bigger and bigger results.
So small actions to produce big results.
(13:36):
I hope that makes sense.
Finally, think small, act big.
So that's kind of the reverse of the lastone.
You're, you're,
Not really.
So I'm talking about.
Because I was, you know, yes, the act bigkind of goes against the small actions,
but not really.
(13:57):
This is about planning.
This is about taking things on a smallerlevel and realizing that like I talked
about earlier, if you plan your day, ifyou plan your morning, if you plan the
first hour, then everything else is easierto put into place.
So the first hour and a half of my day isvery regimented now because I wake up,
(14:20):
I meditate for anywhere from eight to 15minutes.
From there, I stack from anywhere from 30to 45 minutes, unless something major has
happened in an hour.
From there, I go directly to readingsomething about business and doing a quick
workout.
I get all that done first thing in themorning to put myself in a position of
(14:40):
power to it's, it's about beingintentional to actually take control of
your day and put yourself in a powerbefore the day takes control of you.
Whenever you're working on somebody else'stime all the time, you set your alarm so
you can rush around, brush your teeth, getready to go to work, do whatever, blah,
blah, blah.
You don't take any time for you.
(15:01):
Whenever you decide to wake up earlier inthe morning, and especially if you
meditate, first thing, you are takingcontrol of your day by saying, no, no day,
this is my time.
I'm gonna be still.
You are not going to take me into thethralls of whatever you have planned for
me.
I'm gonna...
dictate my day.
And when you start being able to dictateyour morning like that, then you start
(15:24):
being able to dictate your day and findpockets of time that you never knew
existed before.
You become more productive and moreefficient getting your work done and you
have more time to connect with your familyin the day.
So you're designing your day by designingyour morning.
And as you design your days, it becomeseasier to design your week.
And as you design your week, it becomeseasier to design your month, to design
(15:45):
your life.
but it starts with designing your morning.
It's about taking control before you aretaking control up.
And that is by thinking small and then youare acting big.
You are making those small commitments,those small plans, and then you are
following them through with big action.
(16:06):
So keeping it real short today, because Ireally want to start making this an easy
listen, where we talk about some importantthings that I've learned.
as I'm learning to grow and develop as anparent with ADHD and I'm finding some real
success.
I want to share that with people.
So I'm also trying to share that bygetting as many consultations booked as I
(16:30):
possibly can because I've been playingkind of small.
I've been connecting with people one -on-one who I think need me.
I haven't been just putting it out thereon a mass level to say, pick me.
If you are struggling as a parent and youhave ADHD, I can help you.
I've been there.
(16:50):
I've been through the struggle.
I've been scared.
I felt guilty.
I felt remorseful.
I felt regretful.
I felt limited in my possibility and myresponsibility.
I felt it all.
I've been really bad at this, but nowthings are so much better and I want to
help other people cross that threshold ofdespair without having to struggle like I
(17:12):
did.
So I'm offering free one hourconsultations to anybody who clicks the
link in the description.
And I want you to just let me help you.
Like I'm going to give you my, myexperience and my training for free for an
hour to help identify the obstacles thatyou are facing right now and to help give
(17:32):
you at least three strategies ortechniques that will help you move forward
powerfully in your life and make adifference immediately.
I want to do that to just help people.
There's no obligation.
There's no cost at the end of the call.
If you like what I have to offer, I'llgive you an invitation to continue
coaching outside of that call, but it hasnothing to do with what I'm trying to
(17:53):
offer.
First off, I have been called to help ADHDparents and I want to do that on a bigger
level.
So I encourage you to click the link andsign up for your free consultation today.
Don't wait because I don't know how longmy schedule is going to be open and I
really just want to help you.
So.
That is it for today.
I'm going to wrap up the show and I reallyenjoyed talking to the two people who will
(18:16):
listen to this.
But if you're listening, then pleasecontact me because I want to help you.
All right, that's it.
Bye, everybody.
Hello and welcome back to Authentic On Airwith Bruce Alexander.
I am your host, Coach Bruce Alexander.
If you don't know this yet, I'm a lifecoach for ADHD parents and I'm trying to
shift this show more towards the serviceof those ADHD parents.
And I think it's really important to notethat nobody listens to this show anyways.
(00:46):
So it doesn't really matter who I'mtalking to because nobody's listening.
So I can do whatever I want.
Sometimes I get a little overwhelmed doingthis show because I'm doing so many other
things trying to build a business.
I forget that I can do whatever I wanthere and it's going to be a little or no
consequence because whenever it doesfinally find its audience, they are going
(01:11):
to be exactly who wants to hear what I'mputting on.
So just be you, Bruce, just do youbrother.
And it's going to catch on eventually.
So today I want to talk about.
Thinking small.
For ADHD people, I think that this is areally important, a really important idea,
(01:32):
ideology that kind of applies in multipleways.
And I'm going to get into that after ashort intro.
So what I've been doing lately is I'vebeen introducing the different, the four
domains of dominion that we are given ashuman beings by God.
And those are the things that we aresupposed to.
(01:52):
take care of in order to like really kindof find purpose in this life.
And I've been doing this, you know, thisthis warrior's way thing for a while this
morning routine, this trying to likedesign my my day to design my life.
And it's been really working well for me.
But there was a piece that I was missingbecause like as much as I've been bringing
(02:15):
God into my life and having conversationswith God, I didn't realize that part of
this.
Sorry, part of this routine I was doingwas about stewardship.
It was about showing that across all fourdomains, body being balance and business,
I am taking the the dominion God has givenme and I'm I'm taking it seriously and I'm
(02:37):
being a steward of that to to bring it tothe highest possible level I can bring it
like I am doing whatever I can to to haveit all and to be at all across all four
domains.
So I also like to report.
you know how things are going across thosefour domains of body being balance
business.
So let's start with body.
(02:58):
this week has been a really great week asfar as really taking note of how far I've
come from a month and a half to two monthsago where my walk started as to the end of
the street or just around the corner.
now I'm walking a considerable distancefor me and I'm taking, you know, hikes
(03:19):
that are
kind of off the beaten path to get my kidsto places where before I wouldn't have
taken a chance to do because I was afraidof getting injured further or I was afraid
I wouldn't be able to make it back becauseI was so out of shape.
The shape is coming like the currentphysical shape is still round.
Like don't get me wrong.
I still have a bunch of weight that I wantto lose to to be a more fit father to be
(03:44):
more active.
But the activity is coming much fasterthan it ever felt like it could have two
months ago.
Two months ago, I thought I was nevergoing to be active, like truly active
again, that there was just always going tobe pain and everything that I did.
And that is no longer the case.
And it is all thankful to doing the smallthings well.
(04:05):
And we'll talk about that some more later.
So that's my body, my being, myrelationship with God has, has really been
opening up for me.
I stack every single day.
I meditate every single day and
in those times in that being still andallowing myself to be open for messages to
come and then stacking my emotionsprocessing through the situations I find
(04:29):
myself in to to find revelation has beenreally, really just eye opening for me.
There is so many lessons that God gives usto learn every single day that I had been
missing out on because I didn't process myemotions.
I just suppressed everything and pretendedlike I was always okay.
when I was never okay.
(04:50):
And as soon as I started to tell the truthabout what I was feeling, you know, even
just to myself and my stack, I started tosee a massive growth in my relationship
with God and my ability to show up formyself.
And so that is, that's awesome.
Like things are going really well.
Balance.
I'm out here on this, you know, thisOdyssey across the country with my wife
(05:12):
and my kids and
In this journey, we are finding deeperconnection than we've ever had.
I'm getting along with my kids in a reallylike fun and awesome way.
And there's so much like they're gettingalong better together.
Kate's getting along better with the kids.
Kate and I have started to have the hardconversations.
(05:33):
Well, there's there's so much less arguingand so much more solution finding.
Of course, we still argue like we're notperfect.
We still have, you know,
room to grow for sure, but things aremoving so well.
And I think the most important thing tonote is, I don't think that Kate has
changed very much.
(05:53):
I think that Kate has been allowed tobreathe and heal because I've stopped
being so overbearing.
I've started taking care of my mental, mymental trash and started to detoxify who I
am as a person.
And it's allowed her to show up differentin our relationship.
And I was talking to a client yesterdayand he was
talking about how his wife approaches himand how I'm sorry, this is a potential
(06:17):
client.
Sorry, I have not signed this person yet,but it was a consultation and he's talking
about how his wife, you know, kind of isaggressive towards him.
And I asked him, like, do you have thatself -critic in your mind that maybe is
adding a layer of, of judgment to thewords that are coming out of her mouth?
And he immediately knew what I was talkingabout.
(06:39):
He immediately said, yeah,
that inner critic is going all the time.
And that's something that I wasexperiencing too, is that I was hearing
the words that she was saying as an attackwhen a lot of the times there was just a
conversation to be had, but I was tooafraid to take responsibility for my part
in it.
So I just automatically saw it as anattack.
And that's, that's a way that, you know,just by processing my emotions through
(07:02):
stacking and learning how to be a man andto face the truth of the situation.
I've stopped arguing so much because whenit's true, it's true.
And if sometimes I'm the problem andthat's the truth, if I'm doing something
wrong, I just own that now and I just makea commitment to try and do better.
So that's been really good.
(07:24):
And it's been really fun to just like kindof like my wife again and kind of feel
free to data because there's so much lessexpectation around everything that we do.
And yeah, it's been great.
our next move as a family is to go see theocean on the East Coast, which we've never
(07:44):
done.
Rory, my youngest, has never seen theocean.
And my other children were too young toreally remember what it was like when we
went to Galveston.
So I'm really excited for them to see theocean for the first real time that they'll
really remember.
And I think that that's part of what thisjourney is supposed to be, is to have
experiences.
(08:05):
that otherwise we never would have donebecause we would have, we were just, we
were trapped in Oklahoma.
We were trapped by our stories.
We were trapped by our inner inaction andour paralysis.
And Oklahoma was like kind of, kind ofindicative of that for us and just
escaping the physical boundaries ofOklahoma has kind of allowed us to escape
those stories.
And now we're doing things that are reallyexciting as a family.
(08:28):
And lastly, my business, my business isthe thing that has been struggling the
most because.
I like, I'm really comfortable beinguncomfortable in the, you know, in the
physical aspect, pushing my body hard.
I've been pretty comfortable gettinguncomfortable and like having
conversations about bringing God into myfamily.
And I've been, you know, regularly doingthat, trying to add more prayer with my
(08:51):
wife and you know, it's, it makes me feelsuper awkward, but it's, I know, like I
understand that discomfort I'm willing topush into it and my business I've been
lacking.
I've been afraid to do the things that Iknow are going to create movement for my
business because they are uncomfortable.
And I'm afraid that I might fail.
I'm afraid that I won't succeed.
And so I'm afraid to, to push through thatdiscomfort.
(09:15):
Like at least I was, I took some actiontoday.
I put some money into an ad campaign totry to get six new clients into a group, a
group coaching, like small group coachingto try to get more impact with people for
a lower cost and just try to.
really get more people involved in thisprocess so I can just, I can just help
more people.
(09:35):
Like that's, that's my calling is I'm justtrying to get my hands in more pies to try
to make more of an effect for a lower costfor the people who, you know, maybe can't
pay for a full -time coach.
So that's what's happening in business andthings are, you know, they're, they're
trending up.
I just have to continue on the action thatI've laid forth and just do it.
(09:57):
So that is.
The update that's the, my body beingbalance business.
Those are the things, the four domainsthat we have control over and that we are,
that I encourage you to take special pridein trying to grow in those areas.
And then that is how you work towards thehave it all lifestyle.
And that's what I'm working towards aswell.
(10:18):
So I wanted to talk about thinking smalltoday because there was a couple of
phrases that kind of came into my mindthat I think that.
don't commonly really fit the ADHD personabecause we really like to like kind of
latch onto delusions of grandeur and dobig things and have these big picture
(10:39):
moments.
And what I've what I noticed for me,especially as I had this big picture of
retiring after 22 years as a firefighterand then being then finally being able to
go do the things I wanted to do with myfamily to do what we're doing right now.
But in that
big picture, I had no idea what the smallpicture looked like.
(11:01):
I didn't know what my life was supposed tolook like day to day.
I had no idea.
So I encourage you think small and worktowards the big.
Think about what you want your day to daylife to look like and then try to figure
out how you do that on a grander scale.
For me it is
I want to work from home.
(11:23):
I want to be around my family more.
I want to help people and coaching is thenthe result that I found from that is like,
what skills do I have?
How can I help people?
What do people around me say that I'm goodat solving problems, having hard
conversations and coaching kind of reallymade sense.
And I love doing it.
And it allows me to have that day to day,that small picture that is, you know, when
(11:46):
I put all these small pictures together,it's like a puzzle that paints a really
beautiful big picture.
but it's because I started focusing smallthat I'm able to to get there now.
So the big picture is not so important ifyour small picture is shit.
So maybe you start looking at your smallpicture first.
Secondly, take small actions to get bigresults.
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This is something that I've seen reallytake effect.
Like I was talking about earlier in mybody is I just committed myself.
to taking a walk every day, to moving mybody every single day.
And whenever I started doing this, it feltso pointless because it hurts so bad to
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walk, you know, 50 yards.
It was miserable, but it felt like such asmall action that was not gonna make a
difference.
But that small action has allowed me tostart being the father that I desire to be
again.
It's allowed me to stop being the weightaround our family that doesn't allow us to
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do A, B or C because dad can't.
And that to me is like, that was one smallaction to just move my body every day, to
walk every day, to just make an effortevery day.
And sometimes that effort was so small,but I never missed a day.
And today I am, dude, I'm like 200 %better than where I was, but still like
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600 % from where I need to be.
But I'm really happy in this moment that Ifound that growth because I committed to
small actions that repeated over and overhave given me big results.
And if I continue to repeat them over anddo them well, they will continue to
produce bigger and bigger results.
So small actions to produce big results.
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I hope that makes sense.
Finally, think small, act big.
So that's kind of the reverse of the lastone.
You're, you're,
Not really.
So I'm talking about.
Because I was, you know, yes, the act bigkind of goes against the small actions,
but not really.
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This is about planning.
This is about taking things on a smallerlevel and realizing that like I talked
about earlier, if you plan your day, ifyou plan your morning, if you plan the
first hour, then everything else is easierto put into place.
So the first hour and a half of my day isvery regimented now because I wake up,
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I meditate for anywhere from eight to 15minutes.
From there, I stack from anywhere from 30to 45 minutes, unless something major has
happened in an hour.
From there, I go directly to readingsomething about business and doing a quick
workout.
I get all that done first thing in themorning to put myself in a position of
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power to it's, it's about beingintentional to actually take control of
your day and put yourself in a powerbefore the day takes control of you.
Whenever you're working on somebody else'stime all the time, you set your alarm so
you can rush around, brush your teeth, getready to go to work, do whatever, blah,
blah, blah.
You don't take any time for you.
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Whenever you decide to wake up earlier inthe morning, and especially if you
meditate, first thing, you are takingcontrol of your day by saying, no, no day,
this is my time.
I'm gonna be still.
You are not going to take me into thethralls of whatever you have planned for
me.
I'm gonna...
dictate my day.
And when you start being able to dictateyour morning like that, then you start
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being able to dictate your day and findpockets of time that you never knew
existed before.
You become more productive and moreefficient getting your work done and you
have more time to connect with your familyin the day.
So you're designing your day by designingyour morning.
And as you design your days, it becomeseasier to design your week.
And as you design your week, it becomeseasier to design your month, to design
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your life.
but it starts with designing your morning.
It's about taking control before you aretaking control up.
And that is by thinking small and then youare acting big.
You are making those small commitments,those small plans, and then you are
following them through with big action.
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So keeping it real short today, because Ireally want to start making this an easy
listen, where we talk about some importantthings that I've learned.
as I'm learning to grow and develop as anparent with ADHD and I'm finding some real
success.
I want to share that with people.
So I'm also trying to share that bygetting as many consultations booked as I
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possibly can because I've been playingkind of small.
I've been connecting with people one -on-one who I think need me.
I haven't been just putting it out thereon a mass level to say, pick me.
If you are struggling as a parent and youhave ADHD, I can help you.
I've been there.
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I've been through the struggle.
I've been scared.
I felt guilty.
I felt remorseful.
I felt regretful.
I felt limited in my possibility and myresponsibility.
I felt it all.
I've been really bad at this, but nowthings are so much better and I want to
help other people cross that threshold ofdespair without having to struggle like I
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did.
So I'm offering free one hourconsultations to anybody who clicks the
link in the description.
And I want you to just let me help you.
Like I'm going to give you my, myexperience and my training for free for an
hour to help identify the obstacles thatyou are facing right now and to help give
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you at least three strategies ortechniques that will help you move forward
powerfully in your life and make adifference immediately.
I want to do that to just help people.
There's no obligation.
There's no cost at the end of the call.
If you like what I have to offer, I'llgive you an invitation to continue
coaching outside of that call, but it hasnothing to do with what I'm trying to
(17:53):
offer.
First off, I have been called to help ADHDparents and I want to do that on a bigger
level.
So I encourage you to click the link andsign up for your free consultation today.
Don't wait because I don't know how longmy schedule is going to be open and I
really just want to help you.
So.
That is it for today.
I'm going to wrap up the show and I reallyenjoyed talking to the two people who will
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listen to this.
But if you're listening, then pleasecontact me because I want to help you.
All right, that's it.
Bye, everybody.
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