#30 Nita Marie | Society over sexualizing women, coaching OnlyFans creators, women embracing their sexuality - Bang Two Three Podcast

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And one of the most common misconceptions about being an only fans model is that if you just

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are pretty and show your boobs, you're going to make lots of money.
And part of my whole thing in my coaching group, which we'll definitely talk about is I really
try to help the women in the adult industry see themselves more than as a sex object,

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because I think a lot of people that get into this industry really do it because they have been
seen as a sex object for a large part of their life. And so it's just easy, right? It's just easy
for them to make money that way, which is understandable because I can relate to that. But I also
have done a lot of personal development and know that I'm much more than a sex symbol.

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And I think sometimes a lot of women in this industry just haven't tapped into that part of
themselves yet. So that's partly my job as a as their coach is to help them believe that they're
more than that. So my question would be what's wrong with being a sex symbol? Like I would love,
like if like let's say that your sex appeal, because you're very pretty, let's say your sex appeal

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is a hundred. I would die just to have half of that. Like what's wrong with being looked at as a
sex object? That's fucking awesome. Yeah, no it is. It's great. I mean, it is fun to make sure I'm always
looking pretty and that I do feel sexy. But I think there comes a point that as women, we want to be

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looked at as like a full person, not just for our looks, but for like who we are as a person. And I know
for the longest time when I was single, I had a really hard time because a lot of guys were just
attracted to me physically and sexually, but they didn't really know me. Like they never really

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figured out who I was. And so I was always like, you know, I just want someone to love me for me,
like for who I am. So do you change your approach with that? Because like for example, a lot of times,
like as a guy, right? And we're just open, right? We're best friends already, by the way.

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We're best friends. Yes. As a guy, if like for example, I go to the gym and I see these girls in
like the tight leggings, like I can pretty much like see their butthole, I can pimple through the leggings,
their titties and stuff like that. It's like, it's hard for me to see that as anything except something
that I want to lay in bed with. So do you change your approach and is that successful to like be seen as

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more of a woman? Well, honestly, I think it was really the person that I chose. So it's kind of
funny because the person that I chose to be with was actually a fan of my modeling. So it's ironic
because of course the first thing he noticed was my looks and I'm sure he was sexually attracted to

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me, right? But he was one of the only guys that would comment on all my stuff and be like really
nice and very respectful. So all of his comments were always like, oh, you're so beautiful, you're the
most beautiful person I've ever seen. If you ever need anything, let me know. And that was like
really attractive to me because it wasn't like, it wasn't really sexual or crass really. It was more like,

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if you need anything, let me know. I'm happy to help you. And as a single mom, I was really exhausted
and I just wanted someone to help me. Like I wanted someone to be there for me, you know? And so
I actually ended up reaching out to him. This was on Facebook and asked him to help me with something
online. And he did. And afterwards, I was like, you know, do you need anything? Is there anything I can do

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to, you know, repay you? Because usually guys want something back, right? Like normally they'd be like,
oh, yeah, I'll do this for you, but can I have like 10 naked photos? Oh, how's that happening?
Guys will be like, oh, what do I get now that I helped you? Right? Like can I get like a video chat

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or can I get to naked photos or something like that? What makes it proud? Do you know that it's something
that you think you? Well, like, no, because, well, I guess, okay, well, because I'm thinking about you as a
real person, because I see you. Okay. But my horny ass would totally do that to like a random girl
on the internet. I probably would. Yeah. Because I don't care about you as a real person if you're just

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a chicken. Right. Right. Yeah. So that's the thing is like, because I hadn't built a relationship with
him or anything. It's not like we were dating or even that we had a conversation. It was just like, he
was talking to someone that he had been looking at with the pictures on Facebook, right? So of course,
he's gonna want to see nudity, but he didn't ask for that. So when I was like, is there anything I can

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do to repay you? His answer was no. I just did it to help you out. You know, you don't have to give me
anything back. What a good guy. You got to love you already. And so that is yeah. So that's what like
got me because I was the surprise that he didn't want anything back, you know, once he had helped me.

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Is this like a tip? Okay, Neita. I think you're like laying out the game playing for us guys. Thank
you so much. Dating tip. Dating tip. So if you listen. Yeah. Yeah. Guys, we all know let's just talk
guys face to face. Yeah. All right. Uh-huh. We see these women on the internet. Like we may lust after
them. We may, you know, we may take care of ourselves or whatever. But if you really want that girl,

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listen to Neita go on her IG profile only fans of that picture squatting and be like, hey, I just,
you look like you have a beautiful personality, right? Is that's how you do it?
Well, if you're not personality, just say you're, you know, it's really about like
giving something without expecting anything of no turn, right? Like so being one of those people that,

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you know, it's just willing to help out or being willing to like give real compliments that aren't
always sexual. You know, that tends to be a real turn on. Totally. Yeah. Totally. Yeah. As
guys, as soon as that monkey brain kicks in, we see boobs really, I know. You can't think about anything
else. So like let's, let's do a little bit of training. So what would be a compliment you could

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give me that would not be a base on my looks? You sound extremely intelligent. Oh, see, there we go.
Yeah. That's great. But can, can I just be fair? The counterpoint is your boobs are not out. You
look like you look like you're just like a secretary. Yeah. Yeah. I do that on purpose because otherwise

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you're not going to focus on what I'm saying. Like I feel like, do you, like, how has your view
of the guy girl sexual dynamic sexuality? All of this? How has it changed from maybe the age of 20 to
now? Well, I think when I was 20, I actually really did want to be seen as a sex object. And I think

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that's unfortunately what ended up getting me into my first marriage because he really, I think,
fell in love with me as like a trophy wife. You know, he, he didn't really fall in love with me as
me, and I put myself in that position because I was, you know, a very sexual person in my 20s and I

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did show myself more as a sex object, which you probably think is ironic because now it's my job. But
in my everyday life, I don't show myself as a sex object. You know what I mean? Like in my everyday life
now in my 40s, I show myself as like a mom as like like even this, I don't even wear something as

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flashy as this when I go out. Like I wear a t-shirt, you know, shorts and tennis shoes. So, um,
but when I was in my 20s, I did wear a lot more sexual type clothing. You know, I did wear many skirts
and, you know, tight tops and, you know, tight jeans and, you know, all of that. And so the husband

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that I attracted was very much, you know, he very much sexualized women in general, you know, like he was
one of those that went to hooters all the time, which again is not bad. I'm not judging that because,
you know, I need my hooters guys. Like, I don't know certain people that subscribe to my page. I need that.
But when it comes to, they have great, yeah, oh, they do. I like me. I like hooters. In fact, I did,

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I did a whole video about being a hooters girl on my only fans if you want to check it out. It's pretty good.
So anyway, um, yeah, so I attracted that person into my life because that's who I was at the time.
But after a lot of personal growth, I really discovered like who the real me was. And he didn't like that.

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Like he didn't want to really fall in love with who I was. He just wanted to keep me as like,
the trophy wife, which is, you know, one of the reasons why we got it to worse.
Oh my gosh. Do you think, so you're saying in your 20s, you really wanted to be viewed as a sexual
object? Do you think that deep down every woman kind of has that in them? Like they want to be looked at

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and like, pursue like an object for lack of better words? Yes. Absolutely. I think that women who
judge me or judge other girls who are more sexual are just kind of wanting that to come out inside
of them and just haven't been able to do it, you know. Um, because a lot of women are scared to tap

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into their sexuality because of just not knowing how to handle men. Um, maybe they were sexually abused,
sexually assaulted. Um, and it's also not really accepted for women to feel sexy just for themselves.
You know, a lot of times it is looked down upon, you know, like if I were to go into an office and I

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wore a tight mini skirt and something with cleavage, maybe I just wore that for myself, right? Like I'm
not trying to turn anyone else on, but I can guarantee you the boss will probably be like, you know,
you need to put something else on so that you're not distracting like everybody working here.
Oh, that is bullshit. I would quit immediately. That is such bullshit. I'd be like, hold on a boss.

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Like listen, yeah, like we all want to see it and it is weird too because like it's not you're walking
this line, right? Yeah. You just line of like respect versus like sexuality versus like I want to look
how I want to look and not be judged. And this is hard because as as guys, like it does not turn off,
right? If you showed up in the office with like maybe a little bit of cleavage, you know what? I

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would think probably I'd be like, Oh, she wants to fuck me. She did that for me. Definitely. Oh, really?
Oh, wow. Yeah, I'm going to go. She wants to fuck me. You know what? I'm going to go like, I'm going to go like
hug her and I'm going to rub her back a little bit and I don't know. I don't know. I don't like that shit.
Oh my god. That's so funny. You know, it's so funny. Yeah. So that's that's what I'm saying. It's like

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it's weird, but I think as a guy too, like we can't be creepy, right? Like as as a girl, I'm sure like
you've had that all the time. Like if a guy comes up and maybe he doesn't know what the word no means or
something like that. Yeah. What is what is your best defense mechanism to like stiff form the creepy guy?
I don't know. Like, I don't know. Maybe slap him. I probably would. Like if you did something,

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like touch my boobs at work or something, I'd probably slap him. But I mean, I don't think nowadays,
though, honestly, I think a lot of guys are scared to do that because of how much they could get into
trouble, right? Which I think is kind of part of my mission also is to like help society see that

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listen, there's a lot of guys out there that are being shamed for just being a good guy. You know, like,
you know, God created you to have a lot of testosterone for a reason. And guys are now scared to even
say that a woman looks pretty because they're going to get accused of like sexual assault or something.
Yeah. What would be your advice to guys in that? Because you you you hit it on the head. I've talked to

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so many guys who think that. Yeah. And conversely, I've talked to like younger girls who are like,
why don't guys hit on me anymore? Right. Yeah. Because they're so just nervous to get in trouble. And they
don't I mean, if you think about it, guys are naturally sexually attracted to a woman first. Like
that it that's been proven that guys are stimulated visually. And the purpose of that is that

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that's how they are attracted to their mate so that they can continue the, you know, human population.
So if a guy is naturally wired that way and then he goes up to talk to girl and he really isn't
like able to come up with a whole lot of other things besides your pretty, you know, but he doesn't
want to offend her. What is he going to do? Like he's just going to sit there and like not say anything.

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I know. Right. That's that's the thing because how do you get good at talking to girls? You got to
talk to girls. Where if you scared to talk to girls, like you got to you got to suck for a little while.
Are maybe yes. Yeah. Just go like talk to them about maybe something you have in common. Hey,
that's good. That's good. Yeah. Let's talk about it. Yeah. See that is great. Talking to them about

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something you have in common is really good because then it takes away the sexual pressure.
But then also like just asking questions are always really good. Like I have another business
and in my other business, I am in sales. So that's part of why I got so good with only fans. But
anyway, it's like I was always taught ask questions. Like if you want to build a relationship with someone

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ask questions and it doesn't have to be always like stupid questions like where are you from or whatever.
Like it could be just something that's going on right now. Like you could talk about you know football
if they like a football team or something like that, you know. Ask questions. It is really hard
and you're spot on too because whenever you ask the questions like most people love to talk about

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themselves, guys anger. And so if you can just as a guy just hit her with like a couple questions
and really listen to as guys like really listen to what she says then you can loosen her up and then maybe
like just go into like you would really find out hey are we even a fit like I know she's pretty.
Yeah. But yeah she may she may be the devil himself like she may be so like yeah yeah yeah.

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So it's both ways right you'll figure her out make her happy and maybe she'll like you.
So I have a question for you. So would you rather have a girl who was maybe not as pretty but you knew
that she would like never cheat on you she wouldn't get like a lot of attention. But she's like kind of
more of a the good girl but she's really sweet but not as not very not as pretty. Or would you rather

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be someone who maybe is really pretty that you know would get hit on a lot and then you know maybe
you worry that maybe they would cheat on you or something like that. The first one I'd marry the
first one I'd bang the sex see see yeah totally. So now you know why I started only fans because
yeah now you know why I started only fans because 90% of the guys just wanted to have sex with me.

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And I'm like well if that's all you want you can pay for it on my only fan.
This is all you don't need to go on a date with you. I do not need to have dinner with you if you
just want to see my boobs you can subscribe to my only fans and pay me for it.
Well what what do you think about the argument of let's say a very pretty girl like you.

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So you can you can go from hey the sexual object that gets hit on all the time to the girl who's
maybe not as sexually attractive based on how you dress. Would you ever would you ever sacrifice that
and say hey for you my husband I'm gonna dress more conservative even though I may not feel comfortable

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like that. Well I do I mean that is what I do for him because I don't wear sexual things when I'm
out and we have an agreement that when we have an agreement that in general I don't do like social
media content out in public that would be sexual right that would be like short skirt lots of

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cleavage whatever. Even when I go to the pool with my kids you know I'm not wearing like a string
bikini I'm wearing you know like a bikini but like a mom bikini but I think the great thing about
my husband is that he is okay with me doing only fans so I get to be my sexual self on only fans

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you know what I mean. So if he wasn't okay with me doing only fans I would definitely feel repressed
and I would feel like I wasn't really being myself but as long as I can do my only fan stuff and
have fun with that then I don't have to be sexual all the time you know I can be like you know the
really can be like the mom next door. I think it would be I don't I can never see a guy not being okay

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with you doing only fans. I think that would be fucking awesome it'd be like hey yo listen my girl
not only is she smoking hot there's like me guys jacking off every day. Yeah. That would be awesome.
Do you think so? Yes yes that would be awesome like I would never like I would I would want her to like

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wear only fans on her shirt when we go out. Yeah. Oh really? Yeah. Well I think say that now but as
you got closer to them and you really fell in love I think that's when the feelings start to crop up.
So I always help you. What do you ever like engage in sexual things with your fans such as like

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erotic chats or video calls? I don't do video calls but I do do the erotic chats through like text
you know setting messages and videos and stuff like that. Okay so I can see how that maybe that
would spark a little bit of jealousy. Yeah well no I mean for my husband it's not even that that

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he jealous about it really is the in-person stuff like it really is the like if I weren't only
fans sure out in public and everyone's looking at me kind of thing like he doesn't like the attention
in person but online he doesn't really care. I would love to be a teacher your husband so much more mature

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than me by the way. He's like you're saying made I think he's younger than me. He's like probably about
your same age I don't know how old you are but okay well he's 35. Yeah so he he we've had a lot of
discussions about it though so like he was more jealous at the beginning even though he did

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meet me through modeling he was more jealous at the beginning but I've had to kind of you know
get him more and more comfortable with it because it's just a lot of like reassuring that I'm not going
anywhere type thing that you know that this is my job and these are my fans but I'm not like

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gonna run off with a fan you know and leave you. Then unless you become really controlling.
Oh shh that's the line but isn't that like isn't that that jealousy or whatever isn't that a
turn-off for you? Well yeah it is but that's why we've had to talk about it but it's true that I

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and I've told them though he said but I can understand it because if you were in a job that was sexual
and you were you know hanging out with a bunch of people naked and you know whatever I would be
jealous like I would I would be jealous of you in certain situations so I can't be too like

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upset that he's jealous because it is like a human nature thing um to have that. Do you all do
like have you ever thought about doing an open relationship? Well I mean we kind of have an open
relationship when it comes to my only fans like if I'm doing content with someone uh so our agreement

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is like he's okay with me doing content with other girls and then I'm okay doing
content with him and another girl so if he wanted to be yeah he's he's winning by the way he's totally
winning. He's winning and that's what he keeps saying he's like well this seems like a better deal for me
and I'm like but I don't need to have another guy in the you know relationship or in the content or

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anything like that um you know I I'm happy just having another girl. Oh my gosh you are like
fucking awesome. Yo where are more girls like you like because that's that's right and what I mean is
that you're your approach your girl hey because I'm a guy right I don't care if I'm married to Mona Lisa

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I'm still going to like I have eyes I have. Look at other girls yeah exactly and I'm still gonna like
visualize like man I would love to rip her clothes off or whatever and so like a lot of guys
approach their girl and they'll say hey like like can we open this up like can I just like sleep with
other women if I never talk to them again and the girl was like well I'm gonna sleep with other guys too

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and then usually the conversation stops but it doesn't help you. Do you find that have you had that
experience where girls want to sleep with other guys? Yes I've personally had this experience in
relationships. Oh okay well I mean I think there's girls out there that are a little bit more like
on the bisexual like you know what's the word bisexual trend spectrum yeah spectrum that you know

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can be into girls as well but aren't really more into boys you know what I mean like you'd want to
find someone that is a little bit on the bisexual spectrum that would be okay just having a girl
and not another guy. So would you be okay with your husband getting with just another girl like he

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goes and then he goes away tonight and then tomorrow morning he comes back and it was just him and a
girl. Well our agreement is that if it's for content and they film it and we can use it on our
only fans page then I'm okay with it and as long as I know about it. Okay but does it sounds like that
makes you a little bit more uneasy though. Well not really it doesn't actually make me uneasy. I think

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what I and this is what I've always told him is that if he's like messaging her on his off time
and getting like emotionally involved then that makes me uneasy because I don't want him chatting
with her beyond going and doing whatever you know content they're gonna do together. Exactly yes

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and by the way this is what my girl has said as well it's like she's really worried her big thing is
like I just don't want you to fall in love with someone else. She's like right this the sex thing is
like I get it like she kind of understands that is is really just physical for me like I'm just
trying to it's almost like if you have a hankering for pizza it's like I just I need to scratch that

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it's man I just and then I'm done but and that's what she's worried about exactly what you said she's
like I don't want you to fall in love with them I don't want you to fall in love. Now have you actually
gone and done that yet or this is something you just thought about. What do you mean done it have I
slept with other women while you're in this relationship. No I have not but I have talked about it.

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Yeah I definitely thought about it and I've brought it up and just just to be open and honest with
her and just to say yeah hey look um I love you I would never ever be with another woman in a
relationship. You are the cream of the cream of the crop but that said there are absolutely beautiful

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women everywhere and I cannot control like what my dick is feeling and I want to do something about
it. Let me do something about it. That's so funny so the only reason I ask you is so sometimes
it's a fantasy and then when you actually are there it's not as much fun as you thought it would be

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right so this is something we've learned being on only fans is that a lot of guys have these
fantasies and they're like oh yeah I would totally do that and then they're there and they can't
get hard or they're like okay I maybe don't want to do this. That is such a good point by the way
because yeah I've been in situations where like I've had girls hit on me and stuff like that and like

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I've even been like proposition a girl just straight up asked like do you want to have sex with me
and I didn't get as excited as I thought I would it was weird and so what can you suspect like if
my girl did let me she said all right Chris you know what go ahead don't tell about it you know
just don't fall in love with her yeah what I suspect would happen is I would go I would be with

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that girl and then the next morning I think I would come back to my girl and be like oh my gosh I'm
never doing that again you're so amazing yeah I know that's what I'm saying is like I think that
there's something to be said with it remaining a fantasy right and it's sometimes good to just go
do it and see if you know like oh so this is what I found is that like on only fans I coach a lot of

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people that have never done sex work before and so they are navigating how they're going to do
stuff too once they start right they're like okay are you gonna just do solo content or are you
gonna do content with just girls or are you gonna do content with guys or are we gonna do three
sums like right these are all questions that come up and a lot of times I find that once someone

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tries something they figure out real quick do they like it or not so I for example um thought I
would always be into girls like when I was married before I thought I was into girls a lot more
than I actually really am so when I um got divorced that was one of the things I did you know I set

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up you know a lot of girl girl content set up like a girl orgy all of that and what I realized is
I really don't like kissing girls and I really don't like eating their pussy I definitely don't like
that I'm almost thrown up a couple times um I don't even really like fingering their pussy the only

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thing I really like um is I can use a dildo on them and I like their boobs like that's so I can
like play with their boobs I like their ass I like all that but I wouldn't know that if I didn't
actually try it you know what I mean so it's like I'm a big believer in just letting your

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significant other do what they're asking they want to try because it does sometimes you'll figure out
that it's not something you want sometimes you'll figure out that it is something you like um you know
and just kind of finding out like what it is that you like yeah that's a good point but it's it is

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so scary and I understand my girl being intimidated scary because what if I come back and like
well oh man this is bad what if like the next morning I come skipping through the door like hey
yeah it's a great day it's like I can't wait to do that again and then that may crush her
well have you thought about like starting with a threesome first I would love to do that I don't

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she is like by curious a little bit but she is yeah extremely picky with like what type of girl she's
attracted to and so she's like she's curious about being curious I would love to do that but she's
she's I don't think is on board she's picky yeah yeah yeah yeah is it true that women are give way

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better oral sex in men I don't know I mean it depends on who your man is but um oh shit shout out to
your man because what you just said you know I caught it I caught it my guy is eating that thing like a
bowl of oatmeal and props to him yeah but at it I don't know I mean I but I mean girls are good at

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it too because they are good with their mouth I mean they talk way more than guys do they too so I
know girls are probably better at it as a whole um then men probably I would think probably but
you're saying it it's close either way I mean I don't know I actually haven't had my pussy eaten out

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by that many guys because I haven't let them so I know my husband's good I just I don't know I have
it's like uncomfortable for me but I will let him do it but I haven't really let any other guy do it
so I can't really tell you that's so interesting because I've been with girls too where's like
right and you know for me it's like oh it's dinner time right and I'm going I'm going down there

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and like she'll pull me up it's just say no yeah no no and this to me seems so weird but I think as I
got a little bit older I realized that a lot of girls are extremely self conscious about their
body in the bedroom yeah well it's also this kind of goes back to my other mission which is
empowering women with their vaginas because a lot of women are not comfortable with their vagina

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like they're just not and I think that um women have to be emotionally attached to a guy to like
at least for me I can't speak for all women but for me I have to be emotionally attached to a guy to
let him eat me out um because it's such a sensitive emotional thing for us so um that's probably why

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other girls haven't let you do it that's so interesting why would women be self conscious about their
vagina first of all it's like beautiful it's like it's like painted by Picasso it's like the most
colorful body part I've ever seen and by the way have you seen a dick and balls like that's pretty oh I
know I know I know I know I know well that's what I always say is like so in adult modeling of course

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women are you know the we see our vaginas all the time but if you're just talking to the average girl
like there's a lot of women out there that like don't like connect with that that body part at all
very much like you know they're not masturbating they're not like even looking at it they're not like

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familiar with what it looks like so it's just it's just a very different thing where guys
just have no problem doing it you know and they're always looking at it
yo no yo it is like the pre what that's the thing is a guy growing up it's like this is like
something from like the age of eight I fantasize about this thing it's like yeah almost like it's

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Christmas but it takes many many many years and then right the panties come off and it's like oh my god
it's like it's like this is this is it and it's like I get tunnel vision and it's like this is what I
was put on this earth to do I would rather be nowhere I would rather I would rather be there

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than on a yacht with like billions of dollars and so it is weird but I've heard that so often do you
think that like girls compare the look of their pussy to other girls and that's where the insecurity
no I don't think so I think they're just not taught to enjoy it I just think they're not taught to

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like to to enjoy it and that it's like even okay to do that you know like because I think that
like if a woman were to be more vocal about masturbation she would maybe be looked at as dirty
where all of us know that guys jack off right like that's just we know guys jack off like that's

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not a big deal right like we just know that but if a woman's doing it like she's a slut she's
dirty she's you know not right in the head you know what I mean she's perverted yeah and what
advice would you give to women to get over that or ignore that and kind of embrace their their
vaginas embrace your vagina um I think it just honestly um starts with masturbation and being okay

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with it and not feeling shameful of it and um knowing that it's human you know it's part of just
human nature to have sexual urges and I would much rather my you know teenage daughters uh masturbate
then feel like they have to go have sex with somebody you know because um and we've already started

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talking about some of this where it's like so much safer you know just to masturbate than it is to
actually go have sex with someone or have any sexual encounter with someone you know so yeah that
is true and as a guy just I if I'm about to if I'm about to have sex with a girl I really like

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if she regularly masturbates because yeah a test for a lot of girls is like hey how do I make you come
and most of them that I've spoke to cannot answer that question they don't even know how to make
themselves orgasm and so it's right exactly it is weird and I find that the girls who do masturbate like

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they're in touch with all of that like they know like even in the middle sex they'll be like no
move your hips here and like that's it yeah and so it's a good thing I don't see why anybody would shame a
girl for that yeah because I'm so glad you said that because that's exactly my whole point is that if
you don't know what turns you want and what's going to make you come then you can't tell your partner

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to do that and that's why a lot of women still don't have orgasms when they're having sex you know
like a lot of times it's the guy you know but the girl doesn't and it also takes the girl a lot
longer to get aroused so like with the girl it takes like 20 to 30 minutes for her to even be able
to have an orgasm now I'm not saying that's for everybody because there's lots of you know people

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that might be exception to the rule but a lot of girls it takes out long so let's say a guy is like
super horny and you know he just wants to get off but if it's just focused on him the girl is never
going to orgasm totally and this this is another very hard lesson for guys right because unfortunately
we watch lots of porn and so yeah and that's what happens is I know wait a minute I took you clothes

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off I spitting your mouth slapped you and I piled drive you for 10 minutes and you didn't come yeah and in
fact you don't even want to talk to me anymore what's going on and you don't talk to me anymore you feel
used well that's the thing is like you know that's like a whole nother discussion about porn is like
is it really healthy for sexuality or not you know and I personally have my own mixed feelings about

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it which is funny since I'm in the industry but I think that it can turn into something that turns
men away from intimacy and just turns it into like just getting a sexual need where you know
for a woman to have an orgasm a lot of times there needs to be intimacy involved which means

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there needs to be an emotional connection there needs to be like she needs to feel safe with the
guy you know she needs to feel like she can let go you know a lot of times the reason why she doesn't
have orgasm is because she doesn't feel safe with whoever she's with you know emotionally so like
I think that porn makes guys think that that's how every woman wants to be fucked you know but they

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all a lot you have to realize that the porn industry is cater towards the male brain it is not
cater towards women right so they're making those porn stars do things that are really just for the man
you know it's not enjoyable for the porn star at all oh that's a good point so do you think like

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even though on camera they look like oh my gosh this is so great yeah when they get off camera
they're like oh man that that hurt right yeah yeah yeah if you had a son what page would you let him watch
porn um I don't know I feel like I wouldn't really know that until I actually had a son because

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I know that he's gonna start feeling like he wants to watch it like around 12 or 13 you know
um but I don't think I would want him to watch it that young because it's already starting like
it could already start to affect his brain that young as far as sexualizing and desensitizing him um so

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a lot of people that disagree with my job say that um pornography changes the way a man's brain is
so that it's a lot harder for them to humanize women so um you know I so that for me I'm like
well I understand that but you know it's still a natural human thing to do so I think he probably

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would start wanting to watch it but I wouldn't be like giving him the okay until he was probably like
you know in his later teens you know obviously it's illegal until you're 18 anyway right of course
no it totally so 18th age 18 18th age what I would counter to those people who say that it makes you

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look like a woman as a object if there wasn't porn I would have cheated on my girl several times by now
right no agree I agree and that's that's what I tell people is I was like so like so some other
conservative fundamental crunch Christians that are gets porn what I tell people is I say okay so
what you're telling me is that a guy cannot have any sexual urges while he's single and he's gonna

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have blue balls for like three years right like because you're telling me that he needs to marry the
first person he wants to have sex with so that means he's going to ask someone to marry him not because
he really loves them but because he wants to have sex with them and that's why a lot of times in the

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you know Christian community you know they get young they get married so young and then you know
they're not really satisfied later they're not really happy because they didn't really so they
could just have sex not because they really were ready to get married you know so I just think that's

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backwards I think that's weird what I would say to them because I was raised in church
what I would say is that uh yo do we want to talk about Solomon and like his 2000 concubines
aka Simon right do we want to talk about David and pretty much every man in the Bible had multiple wives
all right right and multiple they call them concubines let's just called side women that you have sex

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with on the side and today's age that's just not true in fact I think if I had like a thousand women to
sleep with shit yeah I would be pretty happy like I would be great I would be able to rule nations
and stuff like that so that is a little weird unfortunately sometimes the Christian community can
come off as a bit snooty specifically around sex a bit snooty you said it no super snooty and around a

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lot of other stuff too like like yo why do we have to go to church in a $500 suit man come on
yeah oh yeah yeah yeah well and luckily there's a lot of church that are starting to let that down like
you can show up in jeans and you know all that but I feel like though with sexuality in general I think
that their expectations are very unrealistic so for example even if you're married um I know you know

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my husband is gonna jack off to something like sometimes you know I'm not gonna be able to satisfy him
at all times but I think that the Christian uh the Christian community would try to label someone as
maybe being addicted to porn even if they just did it once a day right so if they just did it once a day

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and they are still active with their wife right they're still sexually active with their wife um
then I think a lot of times the Christian community would label that as being addicted to porn because
he's doing it once a day and I just feel like a lot of guys I mean I don't know because I'm not a guy

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but with testosterone like sometimes they're jacking off like four times a day like I don't know because
I'm not a guy but I do know my fans right and I mean sometimes it's like four times a day because of
whatever is going on in their head and um you know you're not gonna have sex with your wife four times a day

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right it you know like kind of an ugly part of it too is that like we crave variety I mean
yeah we just it sucks it hurts a lot of girls feelings and stuff like this but we do is like
hmm I don't know how to explain it and I'm not saying this right or wrong but I'm saying we definitely do

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we crave variety even if you're with the most beautiful woman on earth it it it's just kind of fucked up
but it is what it is yeah yeah well and I had to you know talk to my husband about it because I'm like
you know if you're gonna look at girls I would rather you look at girls that I've done content with
like I would rather it be people that I know yeah then like you just looking at someone randomly

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on you know horn hub or whatever I don't know that's just me though yo you're crazy so you're
what you're saying is like listen if you're gonna fuck someone fuck my friends
like let's keep it in the family here so it is is by like saying that are you confident you're like

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hey this is my friend so I know she's not gonna like develop some love romance for my man you trust
them yes that's the thing it's like I all of my friends on only fans we are very open with sex and so if
my husband was texting someone right that um so if my husband was texting someone that um he

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had done content with right and he was texting him multiple times I know that she would tell me
she would say hey I just want you know that your husband's texting me you know at night like you
know dick pics or whatever so I would know right so it's like keeps a little bit of that accountability

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that there's no like you know secrecy and that's what I always tell people is that like I think the the
thing that is the most painful about porn is the secrecy so like if someone was watching porn and then
not telling me or say or not having sex with me because they were watching porn then that would

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be hurtful because I don't want them to watch porn over wanting to have sex with me you know I don't
want them to do that instead of having sex with me you know of course and and every guy that is such a good
point man your girl has to be number one absolutely yeah I don't I don't care if look she's not feeling
good she put on what she lost weight anything like that if your girl's not number one then just just

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leave her man because that's fucked up yeah you don't you don't you don't you don't do that like you can
be a guy you can be a man you can have your sexual urges but those urges need to come in second
place to your girl at all times right yeah and that was really the hurtful thing with my ex-husband is
that you know a lot of times he did choose porn over wanting to be with me and it really ramps up

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when I ended up getting pregnant so I ended up getting pregnant and then all of a sudden he didn't
have sex with me anymore so like that was a huge problem in our marriage was like he stopped having
sex with me after I got pregnant with the twins and I just was like you know I guess that maybe he

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was unattracted to me anymore because I was pregnant but that was that was definitely like a problem
with us where did it make you feel like well that was one of the reasons I started only fans after I
got a divorce is because by the time I had gotten a divorce I had felt like there was something wrong
with me like that my husband didn't want to have sex with me and I didn't know why and I was like

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am I like unattractive am I like not you know attractive to guys do I need to lose weight like I just
didn't know why he didn't want to have sex with me so you would you were just mostly kind of confused
more so than hurt I was definitely hurt but also we had other problems so there's part of me that

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also didn't even want to have sex with him because we had other problems so you know there's just
a lot of other issues that just kind of compounded to me not even really trying to have sex with him
so oh my gosh yeah that's crazy let's say I was in a coma for the past 20 years and I just woke up

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well how would you describe to me and I said what is only fans why why has like women's sexuality
changed so much what is this so I would say that only fans was birthed during COVID when people were
at home all the time and weren't able to get out and meet people personally for sex

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and it was birthed because women lost jobs and needed something to do to work from home and once
they discovered how much money they could make on only fans they just decided not to go back to
their previous careers once COVID was done yeah so what about the change so I'll tell you about

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why I asked about the change in women's sexuality I'll give you an example okay I did a podcast with
a gentleman who was in jail for 10 years oh wow and he just got out whenever I spoke with him he was
out for like a week right and I said dude I said like what's different about the world now like what
stands out yeah and the first thing he said is like why are all the women dressed half naked why

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why is they closed so tight and why do little girls expose themselves and we're revealing
oh that's that's what he said yeah wow that's happened like have you noticed it as well yeah
yeah I mean I think that only fans is just an example of how women are getting more

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comfortable with their sexuality and they're getting more comfortable you know showing off their
body you know I think that once it goes the other way sometimes it can just be like now maybe it's
in the extreme where women are like I'm gonna wear whatever you know the fuck I want and I don't
care what you say and you know whatever like this is my body my choice but the other flip side of

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that which a lot of people don't think about but I think about this because I actually try to coach
my girls and my coaching group about this is that there also has to be something called consent
meaning if you're walking around with a really short mini skirt and you bend down and you can see

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your butt your ass or whatever then someone else is seeing that but they didn't actually consent to
see that right so they didn't say I want to see a naked body today when they're out doing groceries
or when they're out like at the pool or something like that's different because you know you're
gonna see bikinis whatever but when you're just out every day light that other person didn't consent

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to be sexually turned on so that's why it can cause problems because if I'm walking around with my
husband and all of a sudden a girl walks by with you know super short mini skirt and you can see
like her nipples through her shirt because it's like see through or something it's gonna be pretty much

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impossible for my husband not to notice that right and it's gonna be almost impossible for him not
to get turned on a little bit by that right but you know now I have to deal with my husband being turned
on and I didn't I didn't agree to that and he might not have agreed to that so it's like we still have
responsibility to be aware of how the way we dress is affecting other people around it and that's

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probably where I personally am not like the popular opinion amongst other sex workers because I think
you know they probably would disagree with me and be like well you know who cares I'm just gonna
go out and try to get as much attention as possible you know and I I want people to look at me and I

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want people to think of me you know in a sexy way but I would say that that's being somewhat like
disrespectful to other people who maybe aren't in the mood to see you know you flashing your boobs
or whatever right and like it can be it can be it can feel it can feel like the other person was

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taking and taking advantage of sexually just because they saw something they didn't want to see
I've never heard anybody even make that point that you've made it's such a good point it is good because
I think I mean a lot of people would say like well just guys control your thoughts stop being a horn

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dog but yeah and look if we weren't horn dogs I don't know if the earth would be populated that but
it wouldn't be it wouldn't be exactly and so it's like and it is like it's in voluntary like I
you go out and like you see this and a switch flips in your brain yeah and you could be at church

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and yeah switch will flip and you're not listening to the pastor no more man that no I agree I
agreed yeah yeah it's totally true it's like it's like women have a beautiful work of art and a
powerful weapon and it's their body man and to do with it what you want whenever you do only

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fans coaching like what is the biggest mistake you see models making on only fans so going back to
what you were saying is your body is a powerful weapon I'm really glad that you said that because
I think I would love more women to take responsibility for that right to recognize that

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what they do and what they wear does affect people and there's of course a lot of girls would say
well they're always gonna blame the woman let's say someone's raped they're gonna say well she
shouldn't have been wearing you know a skirt right she shouldn't have been you know drinking and not
having a bra on so that is the side of like a lot of those women are like slut slut shamed and

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you know the man should have been able to control himself however as women we still need to
protect ourselves because sometimes in that slip switches a guy is kind of like turns into this
primitive caveman right so it's like if I was walking into a barracks with a bunch of men in the

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military that haven't seen their wives in like you know three months and I walked in without a bra on
I would be putting myself in a vulnerable position right oh my so I would be probably not that smart
and I have to take responsibility for the fact that I did put myself in that position so anyway I

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just wanted to touch on that because it's kind of a bigger thing you know let's talk about it because
you're so right you're so good oh this is so yeah first of all yeah I just want to say this whole
thing where like oh she got raped because she had a mini skirt on that's complete bullshit right as a
guy look and I'm I'm the horniest motherfucker I know listen I love sex I breathe it but there's a line
bro there's a line yeah yeah yeah yeah you can't go just grab a damn girl now on the flip side on the

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flip side yeah if you're in the club and like hey maybe like you're dancing and the guys like grabbing
your ass that may be because you have a short mini skirt on and I'm just being honest right if you're
showing the goods we're all drunk right like hey I can go up and and just grab your ass I'm not saying
us right but I'm saying that that that couldn't do me to do that a hundred percent it is a weapon

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and it does like you can change a whole guys everything with it yeah yeah guys I think it's like
where does the responsibility fall whenever it comes to like physically doing something against you
you're like grabbing you hundred percent that's on the guy I don't care she's but I ask naked bro that
yeah true no I agree with you I'm just saying that the women need to take responsibility as well

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I agree that it's not like for it like I would never sorry can you still hear me yeah but it sound
a little weird I think how about now okay I got you is that good okay yeah you sound good okay so
I would just say that for women we still have to take responsibility I guess is my point

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for the kind of attention that we want to attract to us so when I'm modeling and when I'm on only
fans I absolutely want to attract sexual attention like that is my goal you know when I am on
Instagram I'm wanting to attract sexual attention but when I'm going to the grocery store and when I'm

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going to the playground I don't want to attract sexual attention right so just know the difference
and it's you know if you're if you're listening to this and you're a woman and you're a naturally
highly sexed woman I would suggest looking into starting an only fans page so that you have a safe

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place to express yourself sexually and you don't have to do it in a place where you could be possibly
you know take an advantage of or in a vulnerable position like in person totally by the way your
Instagram is marvelous thank you thank you it's like yeah and not only is it great it's it's kind of

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unique too um but what would you say because a lot of girls who you'll say this to kind of what you
said which is quite obvious what you said yeah what would you say whenever their rebuttal is usually
I'm just dressing to be comfortable I'm dressing for me well I think that's there like I said probably
a highly sexed woman that wants attention for her boobs and her butt and that's okay but if she's

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gonna do that she might as well get paid for it and that's why it's like nice to have an outlet like
only fans where you can go do a photo shoot and and feel sexual and you know put that on your Instagram
and then have like you know more photos on your only fans that people can pay for because I think that
if someone is wearing overtly sexual clothes everywhere they go they are subconsciously wanting to

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attract sexual attention which is fine I'm not saying that's bad I just think that you might as well
get paid for it totally and I think that the overtly sexual clothes I think is subjective too because
I'll be honest the what what's the common thing like girls wear kind of like the yoga pants oh my gosh
oh my gosh the best invention ever or maybe the worst I don't know but to me yoga pants is like

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you almost should you could just be naked essentially with like the spaghetti strap you know things with
and it's to me like that is extremely sexual but a lot of girls would just say I'm just going to work
out I'm just going to the gym yeah I mean and that's where the fine line is is like you know they're
just enjoying their body and they're looking good while they do it you know and and they don't

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want any attention from anyone else for it but you know they're gonna get attention because they
look good you know so it's just like you can you can just be aware of that basically like if you're
gonna wear that you're gonna get attention so just be aware that you're going to get attention

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you don't want to get attention don't wear that you know we're a we're a t-shirt and baggy shorts
come on eat let's let's be honest let's let's just be honest now let's let's cut the BS okay
they want attention yeah only from really hot guys right that's all you through yeah they're

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wanting to attract a really hot guy and that's by their wearing it exactly they're like or they're
like I don't I'm just wearing this to work out but if like an ugly fat dude approaches she's like
oh you're a creep you know but if the smoking hot guy goes up she's like oh it's crazy right yeah

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that's so funny yeah so anyway we can go back to your other question now so yeah okay so what is
that that was all what is the most common mistake you see only famed only fans creators making
I would say the most common mistake would be that they don't stick with it long enough because

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it usually takes like a good year for you to feel like you're making money and the expenses are
outweighing them out of money you're making so it's a lot of like day in and day out content making
networking marketing travel expenses to travel places to do content but you're not going to see

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the actual money until you do that for at least a year I mean you'll see money but it's not going
to be like you know the type of money that you think everybody's making because of the amount of money
goes in to keep that going right and it should be commissar essentially what you're saying is it's not a

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get which get rich quickskeet yeah yeah it's not it's like it is you will make money quickly
but it is a lot of time and effort and money invested because you know it's free to start but
there's a lot of money that goes into building you know your Instagram even like networking buying

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promo like all of those are things that people don't think you know about when they get started
and one of the most common misconceptions about being an only fans model is that if you just are
pretty and show your boobs you're going to make lots of money it is so not true you'd be surprised

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is I've coached girls that you would not expect to be making lots of money that are making lots of
money because they are good at networking and like just marketing and stuff like that does the
content matter like does the actual content of the videos matter like do I guess it okay if they're

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in poor lighting or something like that how big of an impact does that have um it does matter um
you're lighting definitely matters um the quality of your Instagram content matters um I would
definitely say the quality of your videos matter because if you don't have really good quality videos
then someone's gonna open one video and then not want to open any other videos so like definitely

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the quality of videos matters um but more importantly is the amount of new fans that you're getting
like you can have really good quality content but if you're not getting a lot of new fans
you're definitely not gonna make that much money so that's why like the social media is so important
that's why the marketing is so important because you want to get out to like it's many people as possible

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that makes sense uh I heard one girl recently say that they make the majority of their revenue
on only fans through chats instead of subscriptions is that true yeah like video chats or like
texting stuff like that yeah it is true that that is a huge part of money because um guys like to interact

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with the model and they like to um obviously know that it's a real person um and you know
they're getting like videos that they're sending them so yeah it's definitely a big huge part
what about like do should you expect to make less money let's say i'm a girl and i only want to do

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solo girl stuff like just me of my body which is would i expect to make less money doing that
versus someone who does boy girl stuff um probably um but there are some people that make really good
money as solo content creators um but the majority of people making significant money do content

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with multiple people so i guess it depends on what you think good money is you could probably make
35 40 thousand dollars a month uh as a solo content creator well that's fucking great oh my god
yeah i said i mean it is um so like that's good money um and you could possibly make more than that

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i mean because honestly some guys really like um knowing that you're not with anybody else
so some guys love just knowing that you're single and you're not going to be with another person
because they think that they might have a chance with you right and so they'll like message you and

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like they will spend a lot of money on a girl that doesn't actually do content with other people because
they have this idea that they could possibly be with them um because then if you think about someone
who does content with somebody else let's say uh you know a guy's like really starting to get into

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this model right and then he sees her with all these other people he's gonna be like uh i don't
really want someone that's gonna sleep around with all these other girls and guys right they're like
i don't really know if i want someone like that so actually sometimes they end up spending less money
on models like that right so you might get more fans but you will like have the people that spend a lot

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of money on you um a lot of times if you're a solo content creator yeah that makes sense uh and
that is true i've always noticed that on instagram some of these like like really popular
instagram models i guess to call them like fitness girls whatever they a lot of times they never put
their boyfriend on their instagram and i always thought it was for the exact same reason you just

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described yeah yeah yeah of course they don't want to tell people that you know they're married or
that they you know they're taken or something like that or without like i noticed as i got a consumer
that it seems like a lot of the girls their content looks very similar similar poses

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yeah yeah like positions similar stuff can you do you think you could get a leg up by like doing
something more original definitely i think that was one of the reasons why i have been successful
because you know there's not a lot of people in their mid to late 40s you know that are doing this
um there are some of course and you know you look good thank you thank you i guess that uh

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i said i said for you age you look great yeah thank you yeah so um yeah there's not a lot of
girls older doing it so i think that's why i like for the guys that really like the older women
i think that's why i have done so well because if i was in my 20s and i was just another blonde you know
i don't know if i would be as successful as i am yeah because you know there's a lot of 25 year old

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blondes that have big boobs um so i probably wouldn't have been as successful as i am now so you
definitely the people that can stand out and have something original um for sure will make more money
yeah and it seems hard to because i think about that sometimes like if i was like advising

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and only fans yeah yeah i'm like i'm a consumer of porn i'm like what would be an original idea and i
really like i can't like think of any maybe like if you were underwater or something we're like
that covered in sand water so this is a this is a funny idea um i have someone on my facebook

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that she started posting on her facebook that she could do nude tarot readings and i was like
oh wow that's interesting is interesting she was posting it on her facebook like that's a different
platform right to do that with and of course like a couple weeks later i found out she had an only fan

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but that is kind of a unique thing you know nude tarot card readings that that's extremely
that's extremely creative and you could expand upon that especially like yeah you could be like
call yourself a therapist i'll do a therapy with you guys and yes exactly the guy's gonna come out of
it feeling great or yeah i guess some of the in-person stuff they have like nude maids like anything

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yeah nude girl yeah it's money right anything yeah yeah well or you could do um i have one of my
girls in my VIP coaching group they're starting to do um for content erotic massage
so that's also a thing erotic massage yeah that is a good one man yeah they will massage a guy on

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video camera a guy that they know right yeah a guy that they know but then um someone who is also
you know an only fans model so um then this is for content so they'll film it and then it could be a
girl or a guy um and it's a couple and then they'll actually have sex like on top of them while that

(01:11:42):
persons like masterbaining holy shit this is awesome oh my gosh yo this is crazy but how can how can i be like
how can i be like your photographer for your instagram you can't i'm sorry is that your husband's
child yeah that is all sorry i know but you can get your girlfriend doing only fan i totally want to man

(01:12:08):
she is gorgeous do you want to play a good game oh oh i don't know what's the game the game it i have a
list of questions that guys are too afraid to ask girls okay that sounds good that sounds good you
ready yeah if she doesn't orgasm dirt during sex did i fail it depends on if you try to get her to

(01:12:30):
orgasm so yeah did you you failed if you didn't try yes you failed but yeah what if he tried and he just
couldn't do it that means he failed right no if he didn't do it then that's not really all his fault
yeah yeah do girls like to be taken to pound town every time you have sex

(01:12:51):
of what's pound town like really hard exactly like just beat it up like stuff you see on porn
i'd say no no i didn't think so do girls judge the size of my dick when i take my pants off
they judge it some women do i don't think they necessarily judge it i think they determine whether or not

(01:13:17):
they like it i guess that is judging what based on what it looks like just like the attractiveness of it
yeah yeah maybe i mean it doesn't always have to be like big or anything like that just based on
if they're attracted to it you know it could be that they're attracted to it but it's smaller you

(01:13:38):
know what i mean it doesn't have to be that it's big it's just are they actually attracted to it
so do you think it matters the guy that is attached to can that change the attractiveness of it
um yeah definitely like if you really are into the guy and he pulls his pants down and maybe the
dick isn't like what you thought it was gonna be but you're really into the guy then it can totally

(01:14:01):
change the way you're attracted to it that's awesome so all you guys with little peckers out there
just be nice you can guy and that makes a difference be a good guy man make her laugh
yeah i heard some food yeah definitely definitely i mean you you you pull that little bitty pecker out

(01:14:22):
and boy she's gonna love that thing yeah exactly exactly do girls really like swallowing
i'd say no thank you for being honest
it are you less impressed with me if you have an orgasm due to a sex toy and not me while having sex

(01:14:45):
no i think that if if you're doing it in a way to actually turn her on and give her an orgasm then
it's still impressive yeah like do girl do girls really like second date yes
holy shit that's breaking news you don't think they do no i in my opinion i

(01:15:07):
are in my experience is yes it seems like they do it because they feel obligated to
and then just put you hard and then they're like on their back with their legs like this like come on
you know oh my god that's so funny i don't know i really like it i think there's lots of other girls
it really like it man y'all are incredible people does sex with or without a condom make a big

(01:15:34):
difference to you yes definitely the first time i had sex with my husband um she's like i have a
condom condom and i'm like no we don't need it i was like this so stupid because i was not on birth
control and like oh my god it's like you can just pull out but luckily i did not get pregnant

(01:15:58):
yo as a guy oh this is a hot tick as a guy i like wearing condoms because they make me really
longer oh yeah i didn't think about that yeah yeah you you get naren you feel the warmth and all
it oh my goodness gracious it's crazy man oh my god do you think about other men while you masturbate

(01:16:25):
in a relationship with me i don't know so you think i don't think other girls do yeah i think about my man
but i don't know if other girls do i doubt they do but they could be thinking about other girls
and not telling you to that is so hard to believe for us really yeah it could go because i think

(01:16:45):
us guys like we think about other girls like yes of the time yeah well i don't know if that's
true you think that's true with everybody or a lot of guys i think a lot like oh man that would be
so quickly do you think your husband is like beating it to your only fans like no other girl meaning

(01:17:09):
like just my only fans like just me growing your only fans and he's like i can't believe i'm married
to this smoke show no i mean i definitely think he he does do a lot to me right but i'm sure he also
does to other girls i mean i think it'd be a little unrealistic for me to think he wasn't

(01:17:29):
yeah and i see i think that's why us guys like just like hmm like whenever we hear that it's like
yet you're lying you're definitely jacking off to i mean not jacking jackal oh yeah yeah yeah yeah
yeah that you're definitely masturbating to like tom cruise or you know jason no uh i don't think so

(01:17:50):
i i don't think that's something girls do that is okay i think i think i would be really
interested personally to find this out because i don't even know what girls are imagining
when they masturbate i don't know like it is to be like a cool quiz for me to find out
that is a really good thing and i think it's important too because in my opinion or in my experience

(01:18:18):
it seems like whenever a woman has an orgasm it's much more meaningful than us
like it does something a little bit more than like just a guy's thing and if you are having an
orgasm while staring at like a six pack of jason mimoa i feel like that is um that's slippery
yeah i mean i don't think that that's what's turning a girl on i really don't um i

(01:18:46):
when i masturbate i actually do you think about my husband and i think about like
him masturbating at the same time like that's what turns me on i would be interested to hear what is
like turning other girls on but i that's that's interesting yeah i don't know

(01:19:07):
a lot of girls that are other girls do you think about your husband masturbating while you masturbate
that is yeah yeah it's odd i don't know yo i've never heard that that is so interesting your your
husband's ears are ringing too we're talking about him so much i'm sure he's a great guy

(01:19:30):
he's gonna watch this he'll be so embarrassed oh my gosh hey bro you're you're winning in life
just trust me you are uh do you get mad if our dick keeps slipping out while you're on top
no are you turned on about dick pics no so they don't work oh what oh my god how do you guys not know this

(01:19:54):
even know this well no like it personally like it's not even like a thing like i don't know i just
have a urge to show my dick to everybody it's like i know it's so funny oh my gosh like any girl who
wants to see my dick i'm like it's right here here here you go here you go like yeah what you think about

(01:20:17):
it i'm an urge i have an urge and so that's why i was just like i'm just spreading the seeds here just
you get a dick pic you get it i know yeah that's what guys like to do so your seeds
even even if a dick pic from your husband it doesn't do it for you no no no that what

(01:20:38):
why do you think we charge for him on our only fan yeah we're not just opening up dick pics going
oh wow this is turning me on um no you're giving me $20 if i'm opening up your dick pic
that's crazy so yeah yeah your first thought is like you yeah it's kind of like

(01:21:03):
okay i i not you like it's not an u thing it's just not something that i want to see all the time
unless you're giving me money you know like if you're giving me money then yeah oh yeah i made $20
i'll look at your cock you know but otherwise it's not something i'm really looking forward to seeing

(01:21:23):
all the time do guys often pay that 20 bucks to get give you that dick pic yes holy shit and then
they'll they'll want a rating you know like give me a rating on a scale of 1 to 10 uh you know
well what would you say my dick is you know 10 being the best and one being the worst

(01:21:45):
and like how do you like do you just give them all tens
oh shit i i've never given a 10 um it would be like yeah i never give a 10 because there's really i don't
know i think those are hard to achieve so i would say like i give it anywhere between like a 7 and a 9

(01:22:07):
and then some guys want to actually be humiliated so some guys will be like tell me how
small my dick is and like how pathetic i am yeah so then they'll pay me for that and i'll be like
oh yeah you're so pathetic you shouldn't even sent me a picture of your dick it's as big as my thumb
you know all that okay today i learned there's a new species of man out there that i've never seen

(01:22:32):
before in my life uh huh dude like yeah do you think that only like small dick guys just like does a
does a big hall guy be like humiliate me from a big old dick no no no it's only the small dick people
yo they want to be humiliated yeah i had one time i had this guy that um wanted to be humiliated

(01:22:55):
and his response to my you know rating his humiliation rating was that he cried while he had an orgasm
yeah so that was his response i why it was so good because he cried about how pathetic he was while
he had orgasm yo how do y'all live your life fellas what i know no like how you operating work and stuff

(01:23:22):
like is this it's a kink i mean there's a lot of kinks out there that you learn on only fans
so it's very interesting have you ever ate a guy's ass no no and i never want to no thank you
i am not going to do that i'm not interested in that at all i've done it no no like do you have like

(01:23:47):
have your has your ass ever been eaten no i'm not really into that either but i could see my husband
liking that actually but i've never told him to do it he probably would like it yeah give him drunk
yeah yeah yeah yeah right one one party night or something yeah yeah i'm so i'm just i'm all in the TMI

(01:24:09):
zone right now uh that's funny well in need that thank you so much for coming on and chatting with
yeah i hope your arms has been fun i see your hold me i know oh yeah i'm holding it it's okay it's fine
so um yeah but do i get a chance to tell people what my instagram is yo please yeah i was just
about to ask you yeah where can people find it i'll put i'll put it all in the show notes as well

(01:24:33):
okay cool um love underscore need to marie is my um instagram and then my website is need to
dash marie but if you just search need to marie only fans on google you'll find a whole lot of stuff
awesome once again thank you so much for coming you were such a much fun

(01:24:54):
open book and i really appreciate you yes to my awkward questions
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