Relationship of ADHD with parent and child with Dr. Totulope Alugo

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I am Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh. I'm a family medicine physician practicing in rural Texas. I used to be hindered by my adhd, but I now. See it as a gift that helps me show up as a person. I was always meant to be both in my work and in my personal life. In the past two years, I've come to realize that unlearning some of my beliefs and some of my habits were just as important as learning the new set of.

Hello. Hello. I am so excited today I have a very special guest, Dr. Ta Lupe au. A Lugo is a child and adolescent psychiatrist who helps to empower youth mental health by providing diagnostic assessment and treatment as well as educational to parents and caregivers about these disorders and how to ensure that they look after their own mental.

While caring for their children. She's the founder of St. John Kapp and the Emotions Ambassador Program, where she's actively involved in education and advocacy and our. Which is the area of youth mental health. She's the host of Walking on Eggshells with Dr. Talu podcast and has a YouTube channel under the name St.

John Cap. So today's topic, obviously, if you haven't gathered anything from what I just said, is very important because it always feels like we're walking on eggshells either with our kids or sometimes ourselves, whenever. A D H D is a diagnosis and so I'm so happy to have her here today to share her experience about why she is doing what she's doing.

Dr. Totulope Alugo: Thank you so much. Thank you for having me today.

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: Awesome. You have a son, is it a son or a daughter that was diagnosed with a

Dr. Totulope Alugo: No, I don't. I just have I'm, cause I'm a psychiatrist, I deal with this every day in my clinic.

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: Gotcha. So it feels like you have a thousand kids, huh? ?

Dr. Totulope Alugo: Yes. They're like my kids really

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: Yes. Yes. Because you see them grow up. , you see them from day one and all the way till they're 18, so it feels like you, you have a thousand kids. . .

Dr. Totulope Alugo: I watch them go from elementary school to, they go to university. So I'm like a mom in that area. ?

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: Yes. So tell me what got you into this special like niche, because I know you could focus on anything.

You could focus on why this tell me.

Dr. Totulope Alugo: I did a general residency in psychiatry, but then I did a rotation in child adolescent psychiatry and I just, Really loved it because I realized that I had an opportunity for early intervention because I believe that if you can intervene early, you can change a child's trajectory.

And you can also help a family really early by treating a child.

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: Yes. Yes. You're so correct. I'm often. Shocked how it makes such a difference as we're growing up, right? Things that people might do can really. Enhance or sometimes not so much enhance how we ourselves interact with the world, and especially before the age of seven.

It can make a big difference, but that doesn't mean that you can't unlearn or you can't support them later on when more knowledge comes. comes along. Of

Dr. Totulope Alugo: course, of course. Whenever you get an intervention, it's always helpful. Yes.

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh: . What have you noticed that, when you do tell mom or dad, hey, your kid has a D H D, what have you noticed is usually the reaction.

Dr. Totulope Alugo: We get a variety of reactions. For some parents they already know because they already see the challenges at home school is telling them Your child is different. They're on the go all the time. Teachers are stressed out. So personally, for those kids who are hyperactive or impulsive, parents are almost always.

Already have a great idea. A few parents would say, oh, he's protect the younger ones. They're just boisterous. And so that way they bit up reluctant. But for the inattentive ones, I find they're being diagnosed much later and parents are saying things like, they're careless, they're lazy, they're just not paying attention to detail.

So it's really a mixed bag that I get.

Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh