Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Today we honor our veterans who defended our land, people, and way of life—a commitment reflecting a biblical understanding of nationhood. The military is a God-ordained institution for maintaining order (Romans 13), and honoring veterans acknowledges this divine role.

Their sacrifice secured our religious freedom, allowing us to worship and spread the Gospel. A strong national defense protects our Christian civilization, as stre...

The devastation of sexual betrayal leaves no part of a marriage untouched. It obliterates the very trust the relationship was built upon.

For the spouse who discovers the lies and hidden double life, it’s as if the floor has vanished beneath their feet. Their entire understanding of reality is fractured in an instant, leaving them disoriented and questioning everything they thought was true.

And husbands who have been unfaithfu...

Sexual betrayal destroys all trust in a marriage. When the lies and double life of an unfaithful husband (or wife) come to light, the betrayed spouse has no solid ground to stand on. What was real is instantly shattered and nothing is clear anymore.

It can leave an unfaithful spouse struggling for a way to regain the trust that was selfishly tossed aside. Trust is earned - not expected just by virtue of staying married.

But whe...

When trust has been shattered after marital infidelity is revealed through either discovery or confession, what hope does a repentant husband have for regaining his wife’s trust? Will she ever be able to trust him again?

These are common questions many couples ask as they sift through the rubble of what was once considered to be a happy, loving, and committed marriage.

Fortunately, there is an answer to this difficult question ...

When infidelity shatters the reality of a perceived happy marriage and reveals a foundation crumbling under the weight of lies and deception, one of the most difficult losses is the trust that was instinctively given when exchanging vows to love, honor, and cherish one another. 

This loss of trust can be more painful than betrayal itself. It can leave a wife on unsteady ground with little hope that any trust for her husband can be...

Have you ever thought about how the toughest barriers holding you back might not be out there in the world, but instead created in the hidden corners of your own mind?

For the man battling sex addiction, the compulsive behavior is often just the symptom of a deeper problem: a faulty belief system built on a foundation of shame, self-loathing, and the unshakable conviction that you are, at your core, unforgivable. This is the sile...

Navigating the aftermath of a husband’s sexual betrayal is a complex and deeply painful journey for a wife.

While a natural desire to support his recovery may exist, it often clashes with powerful, protective emotions born from the trauma itself.

The act of showing compassion can feel fraught with risk, not as a sign of a lack of love, but as a defense mechanism against further pain and a means of preserving her own fractured s...

When you hear the word “honesty,” what comes to mind? Is it a simple binary—you either tell the truth or you don’t?

Or do you see it on a sliding scale, where a “little white lie” is a 2 and a deliberate, premeditated deception is a 10?

If your marriage has been shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, you know the brutal truth: the lies and deception surrounding the acting out are often more destructive to trust than the acts them...

In marriages wounded by sexual betrayal, the deepest injury isn't the act itself, but the web of lies that concealed it.

It’s a staggering reality that the concept of honesty is not as straightforward as many would like to believe.

Lies can come in various forms, from outright falsehoods to subtle omissions and misleading statements, all of which can have profound effects on trust in relationships.

What is the key to complete...

What comes to mind when someone brings up 12-Step recovery?

Maybe you think of Alcoholics Anonymous?

Or perhaps group meetings?

Do you also wonder if 12-Step programs are only for those who don’t see Jesus as Savior and Lord of all?

Should followers of Christ consider participating, even if Jesus isn't the central focus?

There are certainly some common misconceptions about where the original twelve steps come from and how...

Today we wrap up our series, I Need You Where I AM. In the first episode of our series, we focused on a statement that many betrayed wives relate to, "My Husband Just Doesn’t 'Get It'.”

And what is the “it” he’s not getting? Not understanding the magnitude of what his actions through infidelity have done to her. 

In the second episode in our series, we covered some of the ways betrayed wives are affected by their husband’s infi...

Today in the second installment of our series, I Need You Where I Am, we turn the spotlight fully onto the wreckage inside a wife’s body and soul after sexual betrayal.

The physical, emotional, and spiritual effects of betrayal trauma are real and profound. A wife experiencing these effects may think she is going crazy. She is not. It just feels that way.

As we talked about last week, a husband who “gets it” understands the mag...

Today we want to speak to both spouses who are bravely navigating the deep and challenging waters following a discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal.

We understand that this emotional journey can feel overwhelming and may be difficult to sort out on your own.

Today we’re excited to present a relatable word-picture that aims to make the experience of a husband’s infidelity a little easier to understand for both partners.

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Recovery work is hard! It is not something that either spouse ever wanted and sometimes it can feel like it takes over everything else in life. Is it okay to take breaks from the difficult conversations and the grieving process?

Yes! We all need to take a break from the struggle occasionally and recharge so we can get back in and do the next right thing.

We have a shorter show today, but lots of encouragement! Please take a mom...

In this episode we are excited to have John-Michael Bout share his powerful testimony of struggling with pornography addiction since the age of eight and how he overcame it through God's grace, supportive friendships, and accountability.

John-Michael also introduces his ministry, Into the Light, which offers various free resources including documentaries, video series, and workbooks to help individuals and families combat pornogr...

When you hear the word surrender, what comes to mind?

Does it feel like defeat, like giving up?

We often see surrender as weakness. And for those who like to control everything, surrender seems counterintuitive.

Our instinct is to protect ourselves. Both spouses often resist and hide from the painful path to healing.

In a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, the fear is that giving up control means being taken advantage o...

Today we tackle the hardest skill in any marriage - especially after the devastation of sexual betrayal - honest, open communication.

We frame true intimacy as a three-legged stool built on transparency, vulnerability and rigorous honesty, then soften the seat with a cushion of humility so the whole thing doesn’t collapse under the weight of pain and suspicion.

Our goal is to move from theory to practice, from talking about int...

Whether you have just recently discovered your spouse’s infidelity or have been working through the recovery process for a while, you are going to want to tune in to today’s episode.

It’s hard to imagine a future where there is honesty, connection, and true intimacy after the marriage vows have been shattered into dust.

But God…

Today we’re exploring what could be possible for your marriage when both partners are fully surren...

Sexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.

Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.

Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betr...