Redefining "Having It All" – Why Chasing Success Might Be a Lie! Unpacking Success, Balance, and Life Expectations with Kim & Abigail

 

“I gave literally $73,000 to tell me how to masturbate my way to millions.”

Topics Discussed:

• Letting go of unrealistic goals and embracing the ebb and flow of life
• The concept of "having it all" in business and motherhood
• The pressures of success and societal expectations
• The connection between narcissism and extreme success
• Personal struggles of balancing work, family, and health
• Taylor Swift's career and behind-the-scenes influences
• The spiritual journey of surrendering control
• Reflections on billionaires, abundance, and what it costs to succeed
• The importance of focusing on gains instead of gaps in personal growth

“I personally think now, listening to like spiritual content creators, entrepreneurs, moms, all that, the definition of all has to be changed because you cannot have it all on this physical planet we're living on.”

Hello beautiful Monica Cox here, the voice that’s probably saying out loud what you’ve only whispered to yourself. Buckle up because this episode is an all-out, no-BS dive into the myth of “having it all.” Spoiler: It’s just as real as that diet you started last Monday.

Let’s get real for a second – whether you're juggling a business, a family, or just trying not to lose your mind in this chaotic world, the pressure to be everything is everywhere. And guess what? None of us are nailing it, not even close. We’re over here talking about billionaires, burnout, and the idea that if you’re not waking up at 4 AM to meditate while doing yoga and simultaneously crushing your 7-figure business goals, you’re failing. Newsflash: no one really has it all, and chasing that fantasy is just another way to drive yourself crazy.

We’ll also dish on how much of that “success” is just good PR, like Taylor Swift being America’s sweetheart when, surprise, her dad owned a chunk of her career from day one. Trust me, it’s not all as glittery as it seems. So, pour yourself that drink (yes, it's 5 o’clock somewhere), sit back, and let’s laugh about how none of us have it together. Enjoy the ride, because pretending otherwise is just too exhausting.

“Fundamental belief that a lot of people who have it all in the definition you were just talking about are fucking narcissists.”

00:50 – Monica talks about her struggle with consistency and letting go of control 01:47 – When life literally punches you in the face (or gives you ringworm) 03:12 – Redefining "having it all" – why the current narrative doesn’t work 04:38 – Different definitions of success and why the 1% might not be your goal 05:56 – Narcissism and extreme success: do they go hand-in-hand? 07:33 – Future goals and the drive for more – when is it enough? 09:57 – Balancing priorities: what suffers when you're chasing big dreams? 13:20 – Reflecting on personal growth over the last 5 years 16:37 – Realizing you already have it all – what does that mean for your goals? 20:26 – Conscious choices in business and motherhood 23:45 – When family takes priority over business – and why that’s okay 25:34 – The challenge of longevity in relationships and success 28:17 – Do billionaires really need billions? Let’s talk greed and abundance 31:12 – The yacht life: is it possible to have wealth and integrity?

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We’re here learning and growing alongside you as we move the conversation forward together from the BS that’s crushing authentic voic