Dating Intentionally

I'm chatting with Hannah Johnson, aka The Libido Fairy, a sex educator with over half a million followers who helps women reclaim their desire and actually enjoy sex. We're discussing everything from why women lose their sex drive in long-term relationships to the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire to why sex needs to feel rewarding to work. Hannah also shares her brilliant "King and Queen Day" concept (a...

I'm breaking down one of the most asked-about milestones in modern dating: exclusivity. I'm covering the difference between being exclusive and defining the relationship, the signs you're actually ready to have this conversation, and how to bring it up without coming off too eager or waiting too long. I also get into how so many situationships are born in this exact moment and what to do if their answer is vague or non-com...

I'm chatting with Emma Wilson, dating coach and creator of the Turning 30 community for single women, who went through a major breakup at 33, built her business from the ground up, moved to Costa Rica for five months, and eventually found her partner in the most unexpected place. We're discussing everything from how societal pressure tricks us into thinking we're ready for a relationship when we're not, to what it actually...

I'm talking about one of the most important things you can work on, no matter where you are in life: building security within yourself. I'm covering what self-security actually looks like, from meeting yourself with compassion instead of judgment to physically calming your nervous system, taking small risks to build self-trust, and aligning your actions with your values. I also share some of my own story and walk you throu...

I'm chatting with Zach Brittle, host of Marriage Talk Radio and a Gottman-trained marriage therapist who's been working with couples for over 20 years. We discuss everything from what singles should know about long-term relationships before they start dating to why "negative sentiment override" can slowly poison even good relationships. Zach breaks down the three factors that drive positive sentiment and explains why repai...

I'm covering everything you need to know about the slow burn, from why it feels so uncomfortable when you've only known whirlwind romances, to how to know if you're actually ready for it, to the signs you need to pump the brakes early on. I also get into where physical intimacy fits in, how to tell the difference between a slow burn and just not vibing with someone, and tips for enjoying the process. At the end, I tackle a...

In this bonus episode, I'm sitting down with Jordan Dann, a couples therapist and psychoanalyst who, like me, loves to watch Love Is Blind on Netflix. This episode contains spoilers! We're talking about the moments from Season 10 (Ohio) living rent-free in our minds, including Alex & Ashley's dynamic that stays on the surface/never gets deep, Brittney and Devonta's pursuer/withdrawer dynamic, and how Bri just isn't rea...

I'm chatting with Marina Iakovleva, creator of Dating Beyond Borders, who's spent 12 years exploring how people date around the world. We're discussing everything from why Scandinavians have sex before they even go for coffee to why Eastern Europeans and Dutch couples clash over gift-giving, to how "the talk" looks completely different depending on where you're from. Marina shares which cultures tend to be most compatible ...

What happens when you have an amazing connection, but the relationship itself is kind of a bust? In this episode, I'm answering four dating dilemmas that all highlight the common dating mistake of confusing connection with compatibility. The truth is, connection is important, but it can't get you anywhere with someone you're incompatible with! Featured dilemmas:

1. A woman who's not sure if she should wait for a great guy s...

Alli Goldberg (back for round 2!) is the creator and host of Love Isn't Blind, the live dating show where the men can't speak, and she's now hosted nearly 100 shows across 10 cities. That means she's interviewed over 800 men, and she has thoughts. Alli shares what patterns she's noticed from all those interviews, including the surprisingly beautiful things men say about what they're looking for. We talk about why couples n...

I'm sharing my experiences with saying "I love you" for the first time, from awkwardly blurting it out in a noisy subway station to intentionally saying it over the phone. I'm covering the signs you're actually in love, when to say those three little words, and my advice for being the person who says it first, which, yes, I've done in almost every relationship. I also get into what to do if they're not ready to say it back...

I'm chatting with Rory Uphold, a writer and the author of The Final Girl's Guide to the Horrors of Dating, a book that uses the horror movie framework to help people navigate modern dating. We're discussing everything from how rom-coms groomed us for romantic disappointment and taught women to be chosen instead of the chooser, to the devastating breakup that turned Rory into a final girl, to what she did to rebuild her lif...

You know you want to be with your partner for a long time, but how do you know when to move in? Today I'm sharing everything I've learned about moving in with a partner, from knowing when you're ready to navigating daily life together. I cover the emotional and practical signs you're ready to cohabitate, the red flags that you're not, and why you need to talk about your relationship timeline first. Then I answer your Insta...

Author and educator Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat) brought weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox into the mainstream, and today she's here to talk about how these dynamics can show up way before you're married with kids. We get into the early warning signs of domestic inequity you can spot while dating, the green flags that actually matter for a long-term partnership, and what a truly collaborative relationship looks l...

Feeling uneasy about your partner's friendship with someone of the opposite sex? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what that jealousy actually means, when it's a you problem vs. a real red flag, and how to navigate it without sabotaging your relationship. I'm sharing my own experience working through this with Johnny and the one boundary we set that made all the difference. Plus: why your partner having ...

Sabrina Bendory, author of Detached: How to Let Go, Heal and Become Irresistible, joins me to break down what detached dating actually means (hint: it's not about not caring). We get into why you keep ending up in situationships, the difference between limerence and real connection, and two tools to manage dating anxiety that you probably never heard of before. Plus, we tackle a dating dilemma about financial generosity in...

I'm answering four real dating dilemmas from listeners stuck on whether to stay or leave a relationship. I get into how to end a medium-term relationship, what to do when you've been on the fence for months, the difference between accepting imperfections and settling, and what to actually look for when you give someone a deadline to change. If you're in a relationship that feels "fine" but you're questioning whether fine i...

I'm chatting with Travis Ambrose, an attachment-focused coach who specializes in helping people on the avoidant end of the spectrum heal and build healthier relationships. We're discussing everything from signs of avoidant attachment to the common mistakes anxious daters make that push avoidants away. Travis also shares his framework for knowing when a relationship is workable versus when it's time to walk away. We also ta...

Let's get ready for a first date! I'm sharing a pep talk for your next first date, plus my best quick tips for flirting, so you can actually create a romantic connection instead of just a friendly one. I'm covering how to lower the stakes and stop putting so much pressure on yourself, what your real mission is on a first date, and what to do if you're nervous. Then I get into the basics of flirting and more advanced moves....