How can I set boundaries and stick to them?
This is one of the most common questions I get asked. We all try and set boundaries but so often we beat ourselves up for not sticking to them. But all it takes is a little tweak to make it work, and that’s what we’re going to cover in this episode.
I delve into my own struggles with boundaries and addiction, and the shame I have felt when I didn’t meet them. I also share tactics you can use to set better boundaries and break the cycles of addiction by celebrating small wins, radical honesty, and accountability.
So start noticing what you hide in the cabin of shame from, so you can solve it and challenge your own bullshit.
“Anybody who says they have perfect boundaries all of the time, it’s simply not true” - Petra
You'll hear about:
01:02 - We're all making it up as we go
02:10 - Why the context we are in matters
06:53 - My definition of addiction
09:18 - My journey with addiction
14:31 - Tactics for sticking to boundaries
16:55 - Assessing if you need a boundary
19:51 - You need to learn to be honest
Episode resources:
James Clear – Atomic Habits - https://shorturl.at/lqOW7
Dr Ramani – You Are Why You Eat - https://shorturl.at/drvBS
Petra’s resources: Petra’s website - https://www.petravelzeboer.com/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/petra-velzeboer/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/petra.velzeboer/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@petravelzeboer397
Buy Petra’s book: Begin With You: Invest in Your Mental Well-being and Satisfaction at Work - https://shorturl.at/nyDOX
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