Drudgery and Dreams

Forget the aisle-there are so many neurospicy flavor packets we get our own store! Too often people hear “neurodivergent” and think Autistic or ADHD and dyslexia. But neurodivergence is way more than most people realize. In this episode, Molly & Angela share the origin of the word neurodivergence, its original definition, the fabulousness of Neuroqueer, and how important it is for folks to realize the vast diversity of the huma...

With the school year coming to a close--everybody is heading into transition. Whether you're excited or scared shitless, listen up because we're gonna talk through all the different end of school year transitions, frustrations, and coping skills this summer will require for both children AND adults.

Angela and Molly are here to support all neurodivergent and/or queer folks on their own journeys through the...

Raise your hand if you have bought a planner, used it for a good two weeks, and then left it to die in a drawer or doom pile filled with more planners. The complexities that are being multi-passionate, and an intense planner who may or may not need flexibility leads you to a planner graveyard. You can never find something that is both rigid and flexible. You're not asking for a lot right?! If you raised your hand then this week's e...

The Struggle Bus is real. Oh, shit, can I say that? Today's conversation takes Angela and Molly into the DSM 5 game of Autistic "levels" of support.  Where they will talk all about the importance of words, how outdated words need to go (maybe), why functioning labels (in all forms) can fly a freakin' kite and also, we see the point of those who say they should stay. Join the conversation, and help us find word solutions for ALL mem...

“Have you ever had something you were looking forward to so much, and you had to put so much effort and energy in planning that thing and it's consumed your mind and kept you up at night? And you're up in the morning and you're barely eating or you're over eating? Because you're putting so much effort into this thing?” (Molly, 1:49)  Yeah, this happened to Angela as they prepared for and then hosted a huge, very important event for...

Rebecca A. Weiner, M.Ed. is back with us today in this powerful episode about inclusion, advocacy and self-advocacy, IEPs and other learning plans and goal-setting, and the power of curiosity (seriously, she has an amazing story about a classroom transformation all thanks to the power of “so what” and “what-if” in one of the classrooms she has collaborated with).  Molly brings in real-life questions and experiences from a parent pe...

Molly and Angela are joined by Stimagz founder, Kody Lukens. They start the episode off right nerding out over Mandalorian - don't worry, no spoilers - and the Millenium Falcon before jumping into the creation of Stimagz, Kody's ADHD experience, how cool squirrels are, motivation, entrepreneurship, and the need to just go ahead and embarrass yourself. Grab your favorite stim tool or fidget and get ready to rock (if that's your thin...

“Back the fork up. I'm about to explode like my little kiddos house in Minecraft when it's built from TNT” (Molly, 7:56). Today, we are talking about needing accommodations but not always getting them because we are the one’s doing the accommodations most of the time. Because we can…until we can’t.

We talk about why “functioning” is not an appropriate assessment for someone’s support needs, how we can normalize setting meeting exp...

Rocking, magnets, and squeeks*! Oh my! In this episode, we get into the nitty gritty of the senses, all eight of them. You heard that right—EIGHT, not the five you were taught in elementary school! Then things get stimmy when Molly shares how multiple ND people in one home can be tricky and Angela adds that knowing your own sensory profile as well as those in your space allows for more time with the parasympathetic nervous system a...

Sergeant Squeaks is in the house! Molly may not have known they were neurodivergent their whole life–but now that she does? Well–that’s what this episode is all about. Reflecting on the highest and lowest points of her past to acknowledge the (now obvious) signs of her ND life. Listen as Angela helps Molly talley up the list of uniquely squeeky things that make Molly the unique geek she truly is. When the mice wake up Cinderella an...

You asked for it so here it is. Angela’s story. Angela takes Molly on a tour through her Wonderland. The story starts in Weirdville and takes a side quest to Queertown. A trip to Autisticland brings back memories for Molly as she recalls Angela’s first visit before she realized that it was home. And Angela admits that she hid in the burrow of ADHD for the longest time not realizing that her real home was where all of these places c...

Welcome to Season 2! Molly and Angela are excited to get going this year! And what better topic than resolutions and transitions, right? True to their ND spirits, they aren’t jumping on the resolutions bandwagon. Instead, they are talking anti-resolutions by not making resolutions at all or—YIKES!—only making resolutions that you actually want to make that are thought through and designed for success! And those pesky transitions co...

We are giving a big ass enthusiastic YES! to this one!!! From FRIES to rings and yummy goodness in between, this episode is a full course meal! Angela loves to blow folks’ minds with her take on consent and Molly reminds us all that not only is consent a process, but learning about it and how to incorporate it into your life is a process, too. With detailed explanations from a variety of consent sources as well as lived experience ...

Touch and connection with people. It’s something we all need but we want it on our own terms. Molly and Angela talk about being touched out and peopled out in this episode. Join us for this conversation as we talk about the shame and guilt that comes with touch in a variety of our relationships and how we can move away from those feelings while creating, building, and maintaining relationships in ways that work for us and support t...

The holidays. We could probably just stop there and our point is made. Alas, we have more to say.  Join us as we talk about challenges that neurodivergent and queer ADULTS (of course, we do talk about the littles as well, we are parents after all) experience at this time of year. With its hearty belly laughs, spirited rants, and quiet moments of reflection, this is an episode you don’t want to miss! 

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In this episode of Drudgery and Dreams, Molly and Angela dive into the importance of co-regulation. Last week, Molly showed us all how to co-regulate when she supported Angela when she got overwhelmed and was legit frozen from the restraints of time and the sheer amount of things she wanted to say about something she is so passionate about (BDSM as a healthy way to regulate). We address the value of co-regulation in all of our rela...

Bondage, Dominance, Submission…let’s talk about that! Today, Molly and Angela delve into BDSM—but not exactly in the way you might expect. We aren’t talking about sex, baby! This episode is all about understanding how the structure and practices within BDSM can support us individually as well as in our relationships with others. And you’ll get a first hand spontaneous and accidental demonstration of how Molly and Angela use those p...