Ep 58 | TRAILER | From Anxious Child to Empowered Coach: My Story feat. Natalie Costa

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Interestingly, as I was, you know, growing olderand so forth, the only thing that I did was
push through it. Like I would push through itand it would be awful, like it would be awful,
but I would push through it because the thoughtof not doing the thing that scared me, of not
doing that was far more painful than let mejust go for it. So in that way... I think that

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in a way, you know, obviously then that buildsyour self-trust, then that builds your, oh,
I could do that. Like actually I'm a far strongerthan what I thought I was and far more capable.
Actually, I read a really good book on anxietyand, you know, quote kind of paraphrasing what
was said, but it was, you know, people withanxiety tend to think that they're not very
strong, but actually they are incredibly strongbecause they're sitting and working with this

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feeling so often in their day and they're stillgoing through it and doing really difficult
things, but that feeling is still there.
The conversation I often have with the parentstoday is one I can so relate to it. I think
one of the biggest things that I've struggledwith as well is speaking up. Is pushing back

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on boundaries. And just because somebody ina suit who's an authority tells you to do something
doesn't necessarily mean you need to listento them. We've been taught to listen. But do
you know what I mean? It's like, I do feel likewe're, I do feel like this is such a big disservice
we're doing with our children in terms of...do as I say because I say so, listen to these

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rules because we're not teaching them the skillsto be assertive, to think for themselves, to
speak up for themselves. And I was always tooscared to do that.
You know, parenting has changed and for manyof us, I don't know if you can relate, but
it was very much of a strict authoritarian styleof parenting that was fear-based. And me being

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a people pleaser, I just hated having my parentsupset with me, but it was, you know, I'm making
this up, they were lovely parents, it wasn't,you know, I wasn't beat or anything like that,
it was just, but there was a lot of very strict,very you do as I say. my personality style,
I would get quite scared with that. You know,whereas like maybe somebody else, my sister
just, well, the stricter you are, the more I'mgonna push back. But it all comes down to temperament

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styles as well. And Mel Robbins actually spokeabout this in one of her podcasts with Dr.
Russell Kennedy that speaks a lot about anxietyand anxiety actually being your younger self
now that is seeking your attention.
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