208. Why do couples stop having fun?

Welcome to the podcast! Sara and Anna are back, easing into autumn with slow mornings, hot drinks, and a chat about what happens when relationships lose their spark. From conflict tools to laughter yoga, this episode is filled with practical insights and real talk about keeping connection alive through all seasons.

Love Desk: The Relationship Desk of Love brings us the 5-5-5 Method for conflict resolution. Originally shared by therapist Suzanne Clark, this approach helps couples handle disagreements in just 15 minutes:

• 5 minutes for one partner to speak (no interruptions)

• 5 minutes for the other partner to share their perspective

• 5 minutes to talk it through together

We unpack:

• Why uninterrupted listening changes everything

• How most arguments derail because we’re too focused on defending, not hearing

• Why five minutes might be more than enough when real listening happens

• How the final five can be used for reflection, not forced resolution

The takeaway? Conflict isn’t solved by speed, it’s soothed by being heard.

Hot Topic: Why do couples stop having fun? Sara and Anna dive into why playfulness fades and how to bring it back. A strong value of Sara's, so very important to keep the fun alive every day. 

We explore:

• The gradual drift from laughter to logistics

• How life admin, parenting, and responsibility quietly squeeze out joy

• Why some couples never stop having fun, and what they do differently

• The link between emotional safety and freedom to be playful

• Rediscovering what fun actually means to you, not just as a couple

From laughter yoga to calzones in a messy kitchen, this chat is a reminder that joy doesn’t need grand gestures, it needs space, curiosity, and connection.

Listener Question: "My partner still follows their ex on social media and occasionally likes their posts. It really bothers me. Should I say something or let it go?"

We unpack both sides of the story:

• When jealousy points to insecurity versus when it signals disconnection

• Why trust, self-worth, and healthy boundaries all matter here

• How to raise the topic without accusation or shame

• When to self-reflect and when it’s time for a calm, honest chat

Takeaway: Fun fades when the connection does. The fix isn’t always big. It’s often in the small things: staying curious, speaking kindly, and laughing together even when life feels heavy. Whether it’s resolving conflict, finding your playfulness again, or deciding what truly matters, this episode is your reminder to bring lightness back in.

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Till Next Time

Stay Connected Sara Liddle — www.inflori.co.uk Anna Stratis — www.coachdocanna.com