210. Golden Relationship Rules - Part 2

In this episode of the five-part series, the hosts share practical coaching on building healthier relationships for 2026. They explore tip #3 — "keep no secrets" — discussing honesty, privacy boundaries, addiction and financial secrets, and when small white lies may be harmless.

They then cover tip #4 — "give more than you take" — emphasising acts of service, daily small kindnesses, building emotional goodwill, and putting intention into loving actions rather than scorekeeping.

 

Tip 3 – Keep No Secrets: Honesty Builds Trust

Sara and Anna explore what it really means to have no secrets in a relationship, including:

• The difference between privacy and secrecy
• How “little” lies and white lies quietly grow into patterns that are hard to break
• Why shame fuels hidden behaviours like overspending, porn use, gambling or emotional entanglements
• The impact of discovering secret habits and how it erodes safety and connection
• Why your partner usually already senses something is off, even if nobody’s said it out loud

They also talk about the grey areas: outfits, weight, haircuts and “Do I look good in this?” moments. When is honesty helpful and when does it become unkind? And is it ever okay to withhold something if speaking it might do more harm than good?

You’ll hear practical questions you can ask yourself, like:

What am I afraid will happen if I tell the truth?

and

If I’m tempted to hide this, what’s really going on underneath?

 

Tip 4 – Give More Than You Take: Love Is a Service, Not Scorekeeping

Next, the conversation turns to everyday giving and why healthy love isn’t about keeping score.

 

Sara and Anna dive into:

• The rise of entitlement in modern relationships (“I deserve more”, “I should be treated like a queen”)
• How easy it is to focus on what your partner doesn’t do and miss what they quietly do every day
• Why resentment builds when every act of love is mentally added to a scoreboard
• The reality that patterns take time to shift – your partner might not respond instantly to new, positive behaviour
• How to give from a place of choice, not martyrdom
• Why small, consistent gestures (a cup of tea in bed, picking something up they forgot, a quick errand, a kiss in public) do more than grand gestures ever could

They also talk about the balance between loving your partner well and not abandoning yourself. Giving more than you take doesn’t mean neglecting your own needs, it means:

• Keeping your own life, interests and friendships alive
• Noticing the tiny opportunities each day to make life easier or softer for each other
• Letting go of the expectation that every kind thing must be “paid back” in equal measure

There is always a way to take one small step back towards connection, even if you start on your own.

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Stay Connected Sara Liddle — www.inflori.co.uk Anna Stratis — www.coachdocanna.com