In this week's solo episode, host, Victoria talks about how cultivating the right mindset can lead to finding your purpose and living a more fulfilled life.
Victoria emphasizes the importance of living in your purpose and finding joy, satisfaction, and meaning in life beyond monetary wealth and societal expectations. She explores how aligning one's actions with core values and passions paves the way to contentment and deep, personal fulfillment.
Throughout the episode, Victoria highlights the significance of being in a space of self-awareness and longing for personal growth. Drawing on her personal experiences, Victoria explores the importance of positive thinking, affirmations, and changing negative narratives that hinder us from finding our purpose. In this episode you will find the encouragement to transform your pain into power and obstacles into lessons. Challenges are a part of life's journey, how you choose to navigate them will make the biggest difference.
There is a huge impact of being surrounded by supportive relationships that encourage your growth and nourish your soul.
Whether you're looking to transform your mindset or get started on finding your purpose, this episode promises to be a guiding light on your journey. Make sure to tune in to the full episode and share it with a friend!
Links to Check Out!
Connect w/ Victoria on TikTok
Connect w/ Victoria on IG
Connect w/ GWGN Podcast on TikTok
Connect w/ GWGN Podcast on IG
Shop GWGN Recommendations
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
So you really have to choose which heart that you want.
The heart of processing your emotions and moving forward or the heart of letting
a bad situation or a bad relationship or thoughts of what could have been keeping
you stagnant and holding you back.
No matter what you decide, life and time will keep moving forward whether you decide to or not.
(00:26):
Music.
Hello, Grown Girl Gang. Welcome back to the Girl We Grow Now podcast.
I am your host, Victoria, and I am so happy that you are here tuning back in.
If you are looking for tips, advice, and or inspiration, then you are in the right place.
(00:52):
This podcast was created to help you navigate life and live your most fulfilled and authentic life.
You guys, we are back with another mindset-focused episode and in today's episode,
I want to talk about how we can go about getting into the mindset of finding
our purpose in life and how that can lead us to living a life that is more fulfilling.
(01:17):
When you are living in your purpose, you experience life so differently because
you are pursuing things that are fulfilling to you and not just going through the motions of life.
So when I talk about fulfillment, it isn't about achieving goals or accumulating
all the money and the wealth.
(01:38):
It's about finding joy, satisfaction, and purpose in everything that you do.
I think in today's society, it can be really easy to get caught up in the glam
of things and trying to get the Instagram fame or just all the different things.
And it can be really easy to lose track of things that are important,
(02:02):
like finding joy and satisfaction and purpose in what you are doing.
The best thing that we can do for ourselves is to align our actions with our
core values and passions so that we can get to a place where we have this deep
sense of contentment and meaning in our lives.
So with that being said, I wanna share with you all some ways that you can really
(02:25):
go about cultivating the right mindset to step into purpose and create a more fulfilling life.
For starters, you have to be really in a space of wanting to find your purpose
so that you can live a more joyful and fulfilling life.
I think also you have to be in a space of like self-awareness and recognizing
that maybe what you are doing now is the reason why you feel the way you feel.
(02:50):
So I think a lot of times we can kind of feel like we are going through the
motions, like we're not that happy, but we are just used to this life that we're
living and really just be on autopilot for the rest of our lives.
And if you're listening to this podcast, I doubt that is what you want because
I just know that my grown girls are out for greatness and not mediocrity.
(03:11):
And I think a lot of times people connect to their purpose with their job.
And it's okay if your job is not your purpose because it doesn't have to be.
You can find purpose outside of your work. If you are currently working a job
that you enjoy and it's not giving you high high stress.
It doesn't take over your life and it's literally an eight and skate job.
(03:32):
Good for you. I think that is good. If you find a job that you can support yourself
on and that it's pretty chill and you are content with being at that job, that's great.
But it's really important to make sure that you are finding your purpose outside of that.
Maybe that's through a passion project, a side hustle, charity work,
(03:54):
or your family and friends.
Whatever it is, really making sure that you find time and you dedicate time
for the things that light you up is going to make your life feel more enjoyable
and automatically make it feel a bit better.
So in last week's episode, I talked a lot about adapting and having a resilient mindset.
(04:14):
So I'm not going to really talk about that in this episode, but having the ability
to overcome or work through challenges is another huge thing that's going to
help you get to that more fulfilling life,
if you let them, your challenges can hold you back.
It's really important to figure out how to navigate through the challenges and
the obstacles that are getting in your way of your fulfillment.
(04:37):
One really powerful tool for that is using the mindset of positive thinking.
Being able to find an opportunity or a lesson out of any situation, whether it's
good or bad is a skill. It also is a form of positive thinking and cultivating a positive mindset.
You can feel your feelings and still turn towards positive thinking after going
(04:59):
through the process of processing your emotions in any given situation or experience.
I'm sure a lot of us have heard of the term toxic positivity.
Choosing to lean into your positive thinking does not automatically mean you have toxic positivity.
I really want you guys to understand that because I think that sometimes the
messaging on that is just a little off in my opinion because leaning into positive
(05:25):
thinking isn't about ignoring reality or denying our struggles.
It's simply about choosing to focus on the good,
finding opportunities for growth in every challenge, and believing in your ability
to overcome obstacles and deciding that you are going to continue to push forward
even if things aren't going the way that you want them to.
(05:46):
Give yourself a time period of grieving something that you lost or something
that didn't work out because it's totally natural to be disappointed or to be
upset or to be sad, but the key is to not allow yourself to stay there.
What do you think is going to get you further?
Welling on a bad situation and stewing in it or taking the time to feel what
(06:06):
you are feeling because again, you have every right to to feel what you feel,
and then finding a way to pick yourself back up
Even when it's hard because most of the time it is going to be really challenging
and then deciding that you are going to turn your pain into power or your obstacle
into a lesson that will help you get to wherever you are trying to go.
(06:29):
So I know it's way easier said than done, but it's not impossible.
And I think that it's super important to understand and remember that.
There have been so many times when I have wanted to just lay in my room and
cry and be in a little misery bubble over something that has happened.
(06:50):
But again, I give myself a period of time to be like, you know what?
You can cry about this. You You can sulk about this for X amount of time.
But after this expiration time, you are going to get up and you are going to dust yourself off.
You are going to reflect and push forward.
And I know, again, all of those things are super hard. And there's also been
times where I've been working towards something and it just didn't feel like
(07:13):
it was working out or just I hit a rough patch and I wanted to give up because it was hard.
And I think we have to remember that most things that are worth having,
as cliche as it sounds, they truly are going to come with some kind of challenge.
A weight loss journey is hard. Building a side hustle is going to be hard to a certain extent.
Working towards a promotion at work can be really hard.
(07:37):
A breakup is hard. But in my opinion, it is so much harder to remain in the
same place year after year, feeling unfulfilled and like you were designed for
more than what you are currently doing.
So you really have to choose which hard that you want.
The hard of processing your emotions and moving forward or the hard of letting
(08:01):
a bad situation or a bad relationship or thoughts of what could have been keeping
you stagnant and holding you back.
No matter what you decide, life and time will keep moving forward whether you
decide to or not. So what's it going to be?
When we cultivate a positive mindset, we can really transform our perception
(08:25):
of the world and our place in it.
It gives us the ability to approach life's ups and downs with resilience, optimism, and grace.
And I think that is one of the most uncracked codes in today's society,
even though it sounds so simple, because I think a lot of us are really stuck
behind comparison, the thoughts of what could have been.
(08:48):
Romanticizing people and missed opportunities, and all of those things keep a lot of us stuck.
In our heads. I am a big believer that you are what you think and we really
do manifest our thoughts.
That is why I am huge on affirmations and changing negative narratives that
we have about ourselves and our situations into positive ones.
(09:12):
I think that negative thinking and self-doubt also keep a lot of people from
finding their meaning and purpose in life and truly it's really easy to stay
in a negative headspace,
but you have to be willing to leave the door of possibility open.
Even if you don't fully believe in yourself, just telling yourself that you
(09:33):
can lose that 30 pounds or you can become a lawyer or you can move to this new
city where you don't know anyone and start over.
Doing this really gets your wills turning and you start thinking,
you know what? I can do this.
Then you can start coming up with a plan and how you can maybe seek out a mentor
(09:58):
or just a roadmap of how you can start your journey of achieving the things
that you are trying to achieve.
With that being said, checking in with yourself is a huge tool that we can all use.
Building a mindset of fulfillment is not easy at all.
It requires requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to embrace change.
(10:21):
And all of those things are energy that's being required of you outside of your normal daily duties.
It means that you have to be willing to let go of your limiting beliefs and
societal expectations and instead embracing your true self with love and acceptance.
And that might mean uncovering or or being willing to hear things that you don't
(10:45):
want to hear or acknowledge.
A really beautiful way to make sure that you aren't staying stagnant and falling
into autopilot is to regularly check in with yourself.
Whatever that looks like for you, maybe it's journaling or maybe it's working
with a life coach or a therapist.
Maybe it's getting an accountability partner that you can trust that can help you.
(11:09):
Really check in with yourself, whatever you need to do to tap into your self-awareness
and make sure that you aren't holding yourself back by bad habits or old patterns
that need to be changed, then that's what you must do.
And I think having that extra sounding board of a person or a notebook with
your journaling is going to be really helpful when you don't check in with yourself
(11:34):
or take the time to evaluate your life on a regular basis,
it's so easy to let life pass you by.
And if you truly want to unlock your best life and be the best version of yourself,
you have to be willing to look at the ugliest parts of yourself or the laziest
(11:54):
parts of yourself or just the parts of yourself that really need work and need
to be changed and face them.
Another key factor is our circle.
Who are you surrounding yourself with? I feel like this is something that I
will never stop talking about.
Just as with dating, you need to have non-negotiables for your friends as well.
(12:17):
Surrounding yourself with supportive relationships that encourage your growth
and nourish your soul is a game changer.
When you build meaningful connections other people, you really can create a
community of people who will uplift and inspire you on your journey towards
fulfillment, but you'll also be doing the same thing for them.
(12:37):
And it truly will just be like a beautiful collaboration with other like-minded
people who are on the same journey of bettering their life and themselves and also
really those people can turn into family. It's not about only being with people
who are going to tell you what you want to hear.
Personally, I think the best and most authentic friends are the friendships
(13:00):
where there's accountability and up-leveling happening.
A friend who truly loves you wants to see you become the best version of yourself and vice versa.
And the only way that that can happen is if you guys are being honest with each
other and you guys are helping each other be better.
Someone who only tells you what
(13:21):
you want to hear and doesn't challenge you isn't going to help you grow.
It's okay to have some of those friends if they are people who you just really
have fun with and you have certain hobbies and things in common,
but you need to cultivate a friendship with at least one person who can help
you up-level your life and challenge you as you you are doing the same for them.
(13:42):
But I will say, if you don't have that in any of your relationship,
then you really have to take a second and ask yourself why.
Is it because you are not ready to be in friendships where there's accountability and up-leveling?
Or is it because you just haven't thought that out because it's not something
that you have wanted to consciously work on?
(14:05):
And whatever the answer is, it is okay. But really just being honest with yourself
and root-causing why it is that way is going to be important.
And from there, you can go out and cultivate friendships with people that are
like-minded and will hold you accountable and help you uplevel your life as
again, you do the same for them.
As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to really take time to reflect
(14:31):
on your own journey towards fulfillment.
Ask yourself, What brings you joy and meaning? What steps can you take to cultivate
a mindset of positive thinking in your life?
Do you have any friends that are holding you accountable and helping you up level your life?
Whatever you answer to those questions.
It's really going to let you know where you're at in your journey of cultivating
(14:55):
the right mindset to help you become a better version of yourself and live a more fulfilled life.
And from there, you'll know exactly what work you need to do.
Obviously, none of us are perfect. And again, if you're listening to this podcast,
odds are that you are on this journey of self reflection and discovery and wanting to better yourself.
(15:16):
So I really hope that these tips will help you do that. All right,
grown girls, that is this week's episode.
If you feel like you have gotten something from this episode,
please, please, please take 30 seconds and go leave me a review wherever you're
listening to your podcast and let me know your thoughts and feedback and what
(15:37):
kind of topics you would love to hear on the podcast because I would really love to know.
All right, have an amazing week, grown girl gang, and we will chat next week. Bye.
Thank you all for tuning into this week's episode. If you really loved the episode
and you felt like it resonated with you, be sure to share the love and share
(15:57):
the episode with a friend.
Also, if you could take a minute and head to the review section,
wherever you listen to your podcast and leave me a review, letting me know what
you're loving about these episodes and which topics you want to hear next.
That way I can make sure that I continue creating episodes that you love.
Also, make sure you hit the subscribe button so that you don't miss an episode.
Until next week, bye grown girl.
Music.
So you really have to choose which heart that you want.
The heart of processing your emotions and moving forward or the heart of letting
a bad situation or a bad relationship or thoughts of what could have been keeping
you stagnant and holding you back.
No matter what you decide, life and time will keep moving forward whether you decide to or not.
(00:26):
Music.
Hello, Grown Girl Gang. Welcome back to the Girl We Grow Now podcast.
I am your host, Victoria, and I am so happy that you are here tuning back in.
If you are looking for tips, advice, and or inspiration, then you are in the right place.
(00:52):
This podcast was created to help you navigate life and live your most fulfilled and authentic life.
You guys, we are back with another mindset-focused episode and in today's episode,
I want to talk about how we can go about getting into the mindset of finding
our purpose in life and how that can lead us to living a life that is more fulfilling.
(01:17):
When you are living in your purpose, you experience life so differently because
you are pursuing things that are fulfilling to you and not just going through the motions of life.
So when I talk about fulfillment, it isn't about achieving goals or accumulating
all the money and the wealth.
(01:38):
It's about finding joy, satisfaction, and purpose in everything that you do.
I think in today's society, it can be really easy to get caught up in the glam
of things and trying to get the Instagram fame or just all the different things.
And it can be really easy to lose track of things that are important,
(02:02):
like finding joy and satisfaction and purpose in what you are doing.
The best thing that we can do for ourselves is to align our actions with our
core values and passions so that we can get to a place where we have this deep
sense of contentment and meaning in our lives.
So with that being said, I wanna share with you all some ways that you can really
(02:25):
go about cultivating the right mindset to step into purpose and create a more fulfilling life.
For starters, you have to be really in a space of wanting to find your purpose
so that you can live a more joyful and fulfilling life.
I think also you have to be in a space of like self-awareness and recognizing
that maybe what you are doing now is the reason why you feel the way you feel.
(02:50):
So I think a lot of times we can kind of feel like we are going through the
motions, like we're not that happy, but we are just used to this life that we're
living and really just be on autopilot for the rest of our lives.
And if you're listening to this podcast, I doubt that is what you want because
I just know that my grown girls are out for greatness and not mediocrity.
(03:11):
And I think a lot of times people connect to their purpose with their job.
And it's okay if your job is not your purpose because it doesn't have to be.
You can find purpose outside of your work. If you are currently working a job
that you enjoy and it's not giving you high high stress.
It doesn't take over your life and it's literally an eight and skate job.
(03:32):
Good for you. I think that is good. If you find a job that you can support yourself
on and that it's pretty chill and you are content with being at that job, that's great.
But it's really important to make sure that you are finding your purpose outside of that.
Maybe that's through a passion project, a side hustle, charity work,
(03:54):
or your family and friends.
Whatever it is, really making sure that you find time and you dedicate time
for the things that light you up is going to make your life feel more enjoyable
and automatically make it feel a bit better.
So in last week's episode, I talked a lot about adapting and having a resilient mindset.
(04:14):
So I'm not going to really talk about that in this episode, but having the ability
to overcome or work through challenges is another huge thing that's going to
help you get to that more fulfilling life,
if you let them, your challenges can hold you back.
It's really important to figure out how to navigate through the challenges and
the obstacles that are getting in your way of your fulfillment.
(04:37):
One really powerful tool for that is using the mindset of positive thinking.
Being able to find an opportunity or a lesson out of any situation, whether it's
good or bad is a skill. It also is a form of positive thinking and cultivating a positive mindset.
You can feel your feelings and still turn towards positive thinking after going
(04:59):
through the process of processing your emotions in any given situation or experience.
I'm sure a lot of us have heard of the term toxic positivity.
Choosing to lean into your positive thinking does not automatically mean you have toxic positivity.
I really want you guys to understand that because I think that sometimes the
messaging on that is just a little off in my opinion because leaning into positive
(05:25):
thinking isn't about ignoring reality or denying our struggles.
It's simply about choosing to focus on the good,
finding opportunities for growth in every challenge, and believing in your ability
to overcome obstacles and deciding that you are going to continue to push forward
even if things aren't going the way that you want them to.
(05:46):
Give yourself a time period of grieving something that you lost or something
that didn't work out because it's totally natural to be disappointed or to be
upset or to be sad, but the key is to not allow yourself to stay there.
What do you think is going to get you further?
Welling on a bad situation and stewing in it or taking the time to feel what
(06:06):
you are feeling because again, you have every right to to feel what you feel,
and then finding a way to pick yourself back up
Even when it's hard because most of the time it is going to be really challenging
and then deciding that you are going to turn your pain into power or your obstacle
into a lesson that will help you get to wherever you are trying to go.
(06:29):
So I know it's way easier said than done, but it's not impossible.
And I think that it's super important to understand and remember that.
There have been so many times when I have wanted to just lay in my room and
cry and be in a little misery bubble over something that has happened.
(06:50):
But again, I give myself a period of time to be like, you know what?
You can cry about this. You You can sulk about this for X amount of time.
But after this expiration time, you are going to get up and you are going to dust yourself off.
You are going to reflect and push forward.
And I know, again, all of those things are super hard. And there's also been
times where I've been working towards something and it just didn't feel like
(07:13):
it was working out or just I hit a rough patch and I wanted to give up because it was hard.
And I think we have to remember that most things that are worth having,
as cliche as it sounds, they truly are going to come with some kind of challenge.
A weight loss journey is hard. Building a side hustle is going to be hard to a certain extent.
Working towards a promotion at work can be really hard.
(07:37):
A breakup is hard. But in my opinion, it is so much harder to remain in the
same place year after year, feeling unfulfilled and like you were designed for
more than what you are currently doing.
So you really have to choose which hard that you want.
The hard of processing your emotions and moving forward or the hard of letting
(08:01):
a bad situation or a bad relationship or thoughts of what could have been keeping
you stagnant and holding you back.
No matter what you decide, life and time will keep moving forward whether you
decide to or not. So what's it going to be?
When we cultivate a positive mindset, we can really transform our perception
(08:25):
of the world and our place in it.
It gives us the ability to approach life's ups and downs with resilience, optimism, and grace.
And I think that is one of the most uncracked codes in today's society,
even though it sounds so simple, because I think a lot of us are really stuck
behind comparison, the thoughts of what could have been.
(08:48):
Romanticizing people and missed opportunities, and all of those things keep a lot of us stuck.
In our heads. I am a big believer that you are what you think and we really
do manifest our thoughts.
That is why I am huge on affirmations and changing negative narratives that
we have about ourselves and our situations into positive ones.
(09:12):
I think that negative thinking and self-doubt also keep a lot of people from
finding their meaning and purpose in life and truly it's really easy to stay
in a negative headspace,
but you have to be willing to leave the door of possibility open.
Even if you don't fully believe in yourself, just telling yourself that you
(09:33):
can lose that 30 pounds or you can become a lawyer or you can move to this new
city where you don't know anyone and start over.
Doing this really gets your wills turning and you start thinking,
you know what? I can do this.
Then you can start coming up with a plan and how you can maybe seek out a mentor
(09:58):
or just a roadmap of how you can start your journey of achieving the things
that you are trying to achieve.
With that being said, checking in with yourself is a huge tool that we can all use.
Building a mindset of fulfillment is not easy at all.
It requires requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to embrace change.
(10:21):
And all of those things are energy that's being required of you outside of your normal daily duties.
It means that you have to be willing to let go of your limiting beliefs and
societal expectations and instead embracing your true self with love and acceptance.
And that might mean uncovering or or being willing to hear things that you don't
(10:45):
want to hear or acknowledge.
A really beautiful way to make sure that you aren't staying stagnant and falling
into autopilot is to regularly check in with yourself.
Whatever that looks like for you, maybe it's journaling or maybe it's working
with a life coach or a therapist.
Maybe it's getting an accountability partner that you can trust that can help you.
(11:09):
Really check in with yourself, whatever you need to do to tap into your self-awareness
and make sure that you aren't holding yourself back by bad habits or old patterns
that need to be changed, then that's what you must do.
And I think having that extra sounding board of a person or a notebook with
your journaling is going to be really helpful when you don't check in with yourself
(11:34):
or take the time to evaluate your life on a regular basis,
it's so easy to let life pass you by.
And if you truly want to unlock your best life and be the best version of yourself,
you have to be willing to look at the ugliest parts of yourself or the laziest
(11:54):
parts of yourself or just the parts of yourself that really need work and need
to be changed and face them.
Another key factor is our circle.
Who are you surrounding yourself with? I feel like this is something that I
will never stop talking about.
Just as with dating, you need to have non-negotiables for your friends as well.
(12:17):
Surrounding yourself with supportive relationships that encourage your growth
and nourish your soul is a game changer.
When you build meaningful connections other people, you really can create a
community of people who will uplift and inspire you on your journey towards
fulfillment, but you'll also be doing the same thing for them.
(12:37):
And it truly will just be like a beautiful collaboration with other like-minded
people who are on the same journey of bettering their life and themselves and also
really those people can turn into family. It's not about only being with people
who are going to tell you what you want to hear.
Personally, I think the best and most authentic friends are the friendships
(13:00):
where there's accountability and up-leveling happening.
A friend who truly loves you wants to see you become the best version of yourself and vice versa.
And the only way that that can happen is if you guys are being honest with each
other and you guys are helping each other be better.
Someone who only tells you what
(13:21):
you want to hear and doesn't challenge you isn't going to help you grow.
It's okay to have some of those friends if they are people who you just really
have fun with and you have certain hobbies and things in common,
but you need to cultivate a friendship with at least one person who can help
you up-level your life and challenge you as you you are doing the same for them.
(13:42):
But I will say, if you don't have that in any of your relationship,
then you really have to take a second and ask yourself why.
Is it because you are not ready to be in friendships where there's accountability and up-leveling?
Or is it because you just haven't thought that out because it's not something
that you have wanted to consciously work on?
(14:05):
And whatever the answer is, it is okay. But really just being honest with yourself
and root-causing why it is that way is going to be important.
And from there, you can go out and cultivate friendships with people that are
like-minded and will hold you accountable and help you uplevel your life as
again, you do the same for them.
As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to really take time to reflect
(14:31):
on your own journey towards fulfillment.
Ask yourself, What brings you joy and meaning? What steps can you take to cultivate
a mindset of positive thinking in your life?
Do you have any friends that are holding you accountable and helping you up level your life?
Whatever you answer to those questions.
It's really going to let you know where you're at in your journey of cultivating
(14:55):
the right mindset to help you become a better version of yourself and live a more fulfilled life.
And from there, you'll know exactly what work you need to do.
Obviously, none of us are perfect. And again, if you're listening to this podcast,
odds are that you are on this journey of self reflection and discovery and wanting to better yourself.
(15:16):
So I really hope that these tips will help you do that. All right,
grown girls, that is this week's episode.
If you feel like you have gotten something from this episode,
please, please, please take 30 seconds and go leave me a review wherever you're
listening to your podcast and let me know your thoughts and feedback and what
(15:37):
kind of topics you would love to hear on the podcast because I would really love to know.
All right, have an amazing week, grown girl gang, and we will chat next week. Bye.
Thank you all for tuning into this week's episode. If you really loved the episode
and you felt like it resonated with you, be sure to share the love and share
(15:57):
the episode with a friend.
Also, if you could take a minute and head to the review section,
wherever you listen to your podcast and leave me a review, letting me know what
you're loving about these episodes and which topics you want to hear next.
That way I can make sure that I continue creating episodes that you love.
Also, make sure you hit the subscribe button so that you don't miss an episode.
Until next week, bye grown girl.
Music.
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
The Joe Rogan Experience
The official podcast of comedian Joe Rogan.
24/7 News: The Latest
The latest news in 4 minutes updated every hour, every day.