December 12, 2025 • 22 mins
In this episode of God-Sized Dreams, Melissa Batt invites you into a heartfelt and honest conversation about the unhealthy habits quietly shaping your life — especially the ones stealing your peace, your focus, and your God-given purpose.
As we head into a new year, Melissa unpacks why so many Christian women feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and stuck in cycles of distraction, even though their hearts long for more peace, clarity, and consistency. Before you can build the healthy rhythms you want, you often have to acknowledge and undo the habits that are draining your mental, emotional, and spiritual capacity.
From screen time and emotional numbing to work-related overuse of technology, Melissa shares the deeper connection between your mental health, your purpose, and the patterns that quietly pull you away from the life God is calling you to live. She offers personal stories, gentle truth, and a powerful reminder that the enemy loves to use distraction to keep God’s daughters spiritually asleep — even when they look awake on the outside.
If you’ve been telling yourself, “I want to change, but I never follow through,” this episode will help you understand why… and give you hope for what’s possible when you begin clearing space for the habits that matter most.
This is your invitation to reset, realign, and reclaim your time so you can walk into 2026 with intention, mental clarity, and renewed purpose.
Key Takeaways [00:02] – Welcome & Why This Matters for 2025–2026How year-end habits shape your mental, emotional, and spiritual capacity.
[03:30] – Screen Time Isn’t Just ScrollingUnderstanding the different forms of unhealthy habits and why they drain your focus.
[07:10] – You Don’t Have a Discipline Problem — You Have a Capacity ProblemWhy overstimulation makes follow-through feel impossible.
[10:45] – The Emotional & Spiritual Cost of DistractionHow constant noise weakens mental health and dulls spiritual awareness.
[14:00] – A Wake-Up Call: What 8,760 Hours RevealedThe moment at Melissa’s Chamber event that reframed the urgency of reclaiming your time.
[17:25] – How the Enemy Uses Distraction to Rock You to SleepA vulnerable, Spirit-led insight on why screens are impacting Christian women so deeply.
[21:50] – You Can’t Plant Healthy Habits in Chaotic SoilWhy undoing unhealthy patterns is the first step toward purpose and peace.
[26:30] – Accountability, Structure, and Getting StartedHow James Clear’s insight reinforces what Melissa sees in coaching: you need support that interrupts your day and keeps you on track.
[31:45] – Replacing Screen Time With Things That Bring LifeWhat happens when you trade numbing for connection, joy, and purpose.
[35:20] – Melissa’s Personal Bedtime BreakthroughHow one reset helped restore emotional and relational connection at home.
[38:00] – An Invitation to Reset Before the New YearWhy the 1-on-1 Screen Time Reset is the most effective place to begin if you want 2026 to feel different.
Practical Baby StepTrack your screen time today without changing anything. Just observe. Just notice. Awareness is the first step toward freedom — and the first crack in the habits holding you back.
{Also, recognize how many times you find yourself saying you don't have time.}
Work With MelissaIf you're ready to break unhealthy patterns, reclaim your focus, and walk into 2026 with clarity and purpose, your next step is the:
1-on-1 Screen Time Reset: A 12-week personalized coaching experience to help you undo the habits draining your life and rebuild rhythms that support who God is calling you to become. Learn more here: https://melissabattcoaching.myflodesk.com/screenreset
Connect with MelissaWebsite: melissabatt.com Email: https://melissabattcoaching.myflodesk.com/onthelist
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I am Alyssa Bat, and this is God-sized dreams.
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The Go-to podcast for Christian women who know they were made for more, but feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and stuck in survival mode.
I'm your Jesus Levin hype girl.
Here to help you break free, build simple healthy rhythms, and take small baby steps towards the life God has for you.
If you are ready to trade, fear for freedom.
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You are in the right place, friend.
Let's get to it. 8 00:00:28,301.111874606 --> 00:00:29,291.111874606 Hey, hey friends. 9 00:00:29,291.111874606 --> 00:00:36,521.111874606 Welcome back to God-sized Dreams, faith Filled Baby Steps for women who are looking to live in purpose. 10 00:00:36,521.111874606 --> 00:00:38,141.111874606 I'm your host, Melissa Batten. 11 00:00:38,141.111874606 --> 00:00:47,921.111874606 Today we're talking about something every single woman struggles with even the high achievers, especially the high achievers, and that is undoing the healthy habits that quietly still are time. 12 00:00:48,511.111874606 --> 00:00:54,931.111874606 Our focus and our peace so we can finally build the healthy habits we actually want. 13 00:00:55,261.111874606 --> 00:01:04,981.111874606 This message is especially important as we head toward the end of 2025 and into a brand new year because how you begin your year really matters more than you think. 14 00:01:05,311.111874606 --> 00:01:21,576.111874606 And before we dive in, I want to remind you, listen, if you've been feeling overwhelmed, constantly distracted or stuck in that cycle of, I wanna change, but I never followed through, the best place to begin working with me is the one-on-one scream time reset. 15 00:01:22,51.111874606 --> 00:01:24,181.111874606 It's 12 weeks long. 16 00:01:24,421.111874606 --> 00:01:37,381.111874606 We meet 30 minutes each week, and this is where we will uncover what's actually draining your time, your focus and your emotional energy, and we will rebuild habits that support the life God is calling you to live. 17 00:01:37,561.111874606 --> 00:01:42,301.11187461 It's private, it's customized, and it's the most effective first step to getting. 18 00:01:42,451.11187461 --> 00:01:43,141.11187461 Unstuck. 19 00:01:43,291.11187461 --> 00:01:56,831.11187461 You can learn more using the link in the show notes and I can't wait for you to be a part of it because truly one of the things that I have recognized, screen time means something different to every single person. 20 00:01:57,71.11187461 --> 00:01:58,811.11187461 For some people, screen time might be scrolling. 21 00:01:58,811.11187461 --> 00:02:05,591.11187461 Social media for other people's screen time could be doing, you know, chasing ideas for work. 22 00:02:05,621.11187461 --> 00:02:08,441.11187461 And maybe you're in sales, maybe you're in direct sales. 23 00:02:08,771.11187461 --> 00:02:09,761.11187461 That comes to mind. 24 00:02:09,761.11187461 --> 00:02:21,551.11187461 That was, my life at, at one point, and I was chasing all the ideas and spending so much time, on my computer doing unnecessary things. 25 00:02:21,551.11187461 --> 00:02:26,921.11187461 And so screen time was more work related than just numbing out. 26 00:02:26,921.11187461 --> 00:02:33,161.11187461 But the screen time was still an issue and I was not. 27 00:02:33,161.11187461 --> 00:02:39,41.11187461 Planning ahead, being proactive and working with purpose. 28 00:02:39,221.11187461 --> 00:02:45,911.11187461 I was literally just throwing spaghetti at a wall and seeing what sticks and there's a better way for that as well. 29 00:02:45,911.11187461 --> 00:02:51,401.11187461 And so through the one-on-one screen time reset, we can dive into what the issue is. 30 00:02:51,431.11187461 --> 00:03:00,201.11187461 Maybe it's not playing games, maybe it's not social media, maybe it's Amazon, the shopping apps or something totally different. 31 00:03:00,201.11187461 --> 00:03:18,321.11187461 And so through that we will talk about it, but more than likely, there's a screen time reset that will be necessary for the work that you feel called to do and the habit you want to create that you know well. 32 00:03:18,321.11187461 --> 00:03:27,261.11187461 Help you and support you doing the thing that God has called you, but also like live a good, healthy, happy, joyful life. 33 00:03:27,501.11187461 --> 00:03:27,921.11187461 Right. 34 00:03:27,921.11187461 --> 00:03:28,521.11187461 So listen. 35 00:03:28,551.11187461 --> 00:03:29,31.11187461 Okay. 36 00:03:29,91.11187461 --> 00:03:37,371.11187461 I was listening to an interview today with James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, and he said something that I was like, oh my gosh, this is so true. 37 00:03:37,641.11187461 --> 00:03:42,381.11187461 Getting started is the hardest part of any habit. 38 00:03:42,801.11187461 --> 00:03:47,751.11187461 Uh, isn't that the truth? So many times we wanna, we want to build these new habits. 39 00:03:47,751.11187461 --> 00:03:48,921.11187461 We wanna read our Bible more. 40 00:03:48,921.11187461 --> 00:03:50,181.11187461 We wanna move our bodies more. 41 00:03:50,181.11187461 --> 00:03:51,891.11187461 We wanna feel less overwhelmed. 42 00:03:52,101.11187461 --> 00:03:54,261.11187461 We wanna be present with our families. 43 00:03:54,261.11187461 --> 00:03:57,141.11187461 We wanna pursue the dreams God placed inside of us. 44 00:03:57,261.11187461 --> 00:04:01,311.11187461 But the truth is, we're exhausted, overstimulated, and distracted. 45 00:04:01,401.11187461 --> 00:04:08,151.11187461 And here's something I've noticed, and this comes from my own personal life coaching experience, all the things. 46 00:04:08,871.11187461 --> 00:04:19,131.11187461 Before you can build the healthy habit you want, you often have to acknowledge and undo the unhealthy habit that's taking up the space where the new habit needs to grow. 47 00:04:19,131.11187461 --> 00:04:21,771.11187461 The truth of this is everywhere. 48 00:04:22,11.11187461 --> 00:04:27,501.11187461 You cannot plant healthy habits in crowded, chaotic soil. 49 00:04:27,591.11187461 --> 00:04:32,571.11187461 You know, where are my gardeners? You first gotta weed it, right? You gotta get rid of all the crap. 50 00:04:32,811.11187461 --> 00:04:42,471.11187461 So if your mind is overstimulated, if your phone is the default coping mechanism, if distraction is your first response, then of course the good habits struggle to take root. 51 00:04:43,476.11187461 --> 00:05:02,226.11187461 This isn't a motivation problem, it's not a discipline problem, it's a capacity problem, also hard truth, uh, because really what I want to do in everything I do from the beginning of creating this podcast, uh, the very first episode was about managing time. 52 00:05:02,826.11187461 --> 00:05:05,616.11187461 And I think this is something that. 53 00:05:05,616.11187461 --> 00:05:11,256.11187461 That has stuck with me for so long and been part of my soapbox. 54 00:05:11,526.11187461 --> 00:05:21,576.11187461 Number one, because I have used the excuse, I don't have time for a lot of different things, but also because this was an excuse that was given to me as a child. 55 00:05:22,686.11187461 --> 00:05:23,916.11187461 People didn't have time. 56 00:05:24,6.11187461 --> 00:05:26,106.11187461 When I wanted to spend time with my dad. 57 00:05:26,901.11187461 --> 00:05:29,691.11187461 The one thing he always said was he didn't have time. 58 00:05:29,691.11187461 --> 00:05:31,941.11187461 And I, that was like the very first episode. 59 00:05:31,941.11187461 --> 00:05:50,431.11187461 We've had so many full circles since the very first episode of this podcast, but like, I didn't even realize the correlation, the connection, the parallels between my own story and why I'm so passionate about helping people, reclaim their time and prioritize and, and live on purpose. 60 00:05:50,431.11187461 --> 00:06:01,701.11187461 And I think that really that's why I know what it's like on the other side, and so many people in our lives are, are getting that, that is their experience. 61 00:06:01,761.11187461 --> 00:06:04,221.11187461 So here, here's something else that happened. 62 00:06:04,221.11187461 --> 00:06:06,171.11187461 So I went to a chamber event yesterday. 63 00:06:07,316.11187461 --> 00:06:18,266.11187461 My very first chamber event, God has been challenging me to join the Chamber for probably two years, and I dismissed it, I think because it's easy to stay at home. 64 00:06:18,266.11187461 --> 00:06:31,311.11187461 I'm a homebody and I didn't want to meet new people, but I also think because I moved so much, it was kind of, I think self-protection, I don't wanna get too connected to my community. 65 00:06:31,881.11187461 --> 00:06:35,931.11187461 Because then it's harder to leave when we are called to move. 66 00:06:36,81.11187461 --> 00:06:40,431.11187461 And so I've learned though that self-protecting isn't always God. 67 00:06:41,601.11187461 --> 00:06:46,401.11187461 God will do the protecting, right? Self-protecting isn't what God is calling me to do. 68 00:06:46,781.11187461 --> 00:06:54,861.11187461 In this season, he's calling me to go and get connected we can't operate out fear, and that's exactly what I was doing without realizing it. 69 00:06:54,861.11187461 --> 00:07:00,891.11187461 So long story short, I went to a chamber event yesterday. 70 00:07:00,941.11187461 --> 00:07:05,921.11187461 And the speaker shared a number that made every person in the room pause. 71 00:07:05,921.11187461 --> 00:07:12,101.11187461 He shared with us that there are 8,760 hours. 72 00:07:12,251.11187461 --> 00:07:15,641.11187461 That is it in all of 2026. 73 00:07:16,151.11187461 --> 00:07:16,541.11187461 That's it. 74 00:07:16,571.11187461 --> 00:07:18,71.11187461 We don't get a rollover. 75 00:07:18,561.11187461 --> 00:07:20,421.11187461 We don't get bonus time. 76 00:07:20,421.11187461 --> 00:07:32,901.11187461 And the only thing I could think of during this, because I've been so focused on helping us get off our screens, was the number that I shared last week in the podcast, like the people in my home. 77 00:07:33,651.11187461 --> 00:07:34,551.11187461 Including me. 78 00:07:34,941.11187461 --> 00:07:44,301.11187461 How many hours are we spending on our phones we're averaging five hours per day. 79 00:07:44,301.11187461 --> 00:07:48,621.11187461 That's over 76 full days of your life gone. 80 00:07:49,491.11187461 --> 00:07:51,831.11187461 And here is the heartbreaking part. 81 00:07:52,161.11187461 --> 00:07:54,771.11187461 Most women tell me they don't have time. 82 00:07:55,791.11187461 --> 00:07:56,691.11187461 But they do have time. 83 00:07:57,381.11187461 --> 00:08:00,471.11187461 It's just being consumed without them realizing it. 84 00:08:00,531.11187461 --> 00:08:03,411.11187461 And listen, this isn't about guilt, this isn't about shame. 85 00:08:03,471.11187461 --> 00:08:07,491.11187461 This is about awareness because God cannot heal what we refuse to look at. 86 00:08:07,551.11187461 --> 00:08:16,311.11187461 And the first step in doing anything is acknowledging where we are and making a decision to do something about it. 87 00:08:16,311.11187461 --> 00:08:19,551.11187461 I've been coaching women for years, and this is something I know with confidence. 88 00:08:19,551.11187461 --> 00:08:25,101.11187461 If you don't reset in December or January, you spend the rest of the year trying to catch up and listen. 89 00:08:25,191.11187461 --> 00:08:33,351.11187461 I've spent a lot of years struggling in December or January, so I'm not saying that you can't still have an amazing year. 90 00:08:33,351.11187461 --> 00:08:52,851.11187461 But I can tell you that if you are proactive now and you make the most of December in January, guess what happens? You start the year off so much stronger and, and living your life not from a place of catching up or in reaction mode. 91 00:08:53,991.11187461 --> 00:08:58,971.11187461 You are already in a place and position of being proactive and living on purpose. 92 00:08:58,971.11187461 --> 00:09:04,581.11187461 And that, my friend, I promise you feel so, so good and I want that for you. 93 00:09:04,581.11187461 --> 00:09:06,741.11187461 And listen, it's not that God can't redeem the year. 94 00:09:06,741.11187461 --> 00:09:07,231.11187461 Of course he can. 95 00:09:08,136.11187461 --> 00:09:08,586.11187461 Right. 96 00:09:08,616.11187461 --> 00:09:16,806.11187461 Like I, I feel like we all know this, but when you don't pause to reset your habits at the start, you end up carrying last year's exhaustion into the new year. 97 00:09:16,986.11187461 --> 00:09:28,776.11187461 We stay overstimulated, we stay scattered, we stay reactive instead of living intentionally and starting behind, instead of starting refreshed. 98 00:09:28,776.11187461 --> 00:09:34,206.11187461 And I want you to start the year completely refreshed, thriving from the beginning. 99 00:09:34,476.11187461 --> 00:09:35,526.11187461 Your habits matter. 100 00:09:35,526.11187461 --> 00:09:36,516.11187461 Your environment matters. 101 00:09:37,106.11187461 --> 00:09:46,946.11187461 Your rhythms matter and screen time is that one habit that has crept into every part of our lives, our mornings, our nights, our routines, our rest, our relationships, our thoughts. 102 00:09:47,186.11187461 --> 00:09:57,326.11187461 Resetting your screen Time is one of the highest impact changes you can make going into a new year, because when you get your focus back, everything else becomes easier. 103 00:09:57,656.11187461 --> 00:10:03,176.11187461 We can read our Bibles, we can plan our meals, we can organize and declutter. 104 00:10:03,416.11187461 --> 00:10:03,836.11187461 We. 105 00:10:04,361.11187461 --> 00:10:05,561.11187461 Move our bodies more. 106 00:10:05,561.11187461 --> 00:10:08,381.11187461 We go and we go to sleep earlier. 107 00:10:08,381.11187461 --> 00:10:11,411.11187461 We build healthier relationships with our family. 108 00:10:11,471.11187461 --> 00:10:13,901.11187461 We have more emotional regulation. 109 00:10:14,81.11187461 --> 00:10:16,211.11187461 We're able to stay more consistent. 110 00:10:16,301.11187461 --> 00:10:18,791.11187461 We hear God more clearly. 111 00:10:18,791.11187461 --> 00:10:22,721.11187461 Everything changes when your mind is no longer cluttered. 112 00:10:22,901.11187461 --> 00:10:25,916.11187461 In fact, I'm reminded as I say that, the message. 113 00:10:26,796.11187461 --> 00:10:32,66.11187461 Yesterday from the chamber was like 26 minutes to prepare yourself for 2026. 114 00:10:32,396.11187461 --> 00:10:42,446.11187461 And, he also talked about clutter and how this is the, the perfect time to start decluttering so that next year starts fresh. 115 00:10:42,476.11187461 --> 00:10:45,236.11187461 Here's a bonus tip for you that he shared. 116 00:10:45,236.11187461 --> 00:10:48,236.11187461 He said, start with zero in digital. 117 00:10:48,321.11187461 --> 00:10:50,191.11187461 Clutter, like our inboxes. 118 00:10:50,401.11187461 --> 00:11:00,361.11187461 I'm someone who never deletes emails or opens emails sometimes, and he said one thing that just blew my mind, he said, archive it. 119 00:11:01,321.11187461 --> 00:11:02,341.11187461 You don't have to delete it. 120 00:11:02,611.11187461 --> 00:11:03,781.11187461 You don't have to go through and read it all. 121 00:11:03,781.11187461 --> 00:11:05,461.11187461 Just archive it all that way. 122 00:11:05,461.11187461 --> 00:11:08,221.11187461 It's still there, but you are starting fresh. 123 00:11:08,646.11187461 --> 00:11:09,846.11187461 In 2026. 124 00:11:09,876.11187461 --> 00:11:10,206.11187461 Okay. 125 00:11:10,206.11187461 --> 00:11:11,436.11187461 That that was bonus. 126 00:11:11,436.11187461 --> 00:11:14,916.11187461 Not even part of the episode just came to me as I shared that. 127 00:11:14,916.11187461 --> 00:11:20,556.11187461 But the connection between clutter, I'm pretty sure that was in the James Clear interview that I listened to as well. 128 00:11:20,916.11187461 --> 00:11:24,736.11187461 Is our home our mind is our environment. 129 00:11:24,736.11187461 --> 00:11:43,336.11187461 Setting us up for success in the life that we want to live, or is it not? And the one thing that I see when it comes to screen times, I almost feel like, and this is, this is for daughters of God, children of God, Bible believing Christian women. 130 00:11:43,366.11187461 --> 00:11:45,76.11187461 This is what this podcast is about. 131 00:11:45,286.11187461 --> 00:11:53,746.11187461 Also, connected to men too, but I feel like the enemy is using our screens to rock us to sleep. 132 00:11:53,746.11187461 --> 00:11:54,976.11187461 Let me say that again. 133 00:11:55,276.11187461 --> 00:11:59,176.11187461 I feel like our screens are rocking us to sleep. 134 00:11:59,626.11187461 --> 00:12:02,176.11187461 It is a self-soothing thing. 135 00:12:02,176.11187461 --> 00:12:14,816.11187461 I did an episode last week where I talked about how, when we are overstimulated those that were at my house for Thanksgiving, like they went to their phone and it's almost like a self-soothing. 136 00:12:15,101.11187461 --> 00:12:15,821.11187461 Habit. 137 00:12:16,241.11187461 --> 00:12:20,891.11187461 I don't understand like all of the science behind it, but I know that I know that. 138 00:12:20,891.11187461 --> 00:12:21,371.11187461 I know that. 139 00:12:21,371.11187461 --> 00:12:30,796.11187461 I know that it's true because God has shown me over and over and over and I just see the enemy rocking us to sleep even though we're awake. 140 00:12:31,751.11187461 --> 00:12:37,121.11187461 We're not spiritually awake, we're not living on purpose. 141 00:12:37,151.11187461 --> 00:12:47,311.11187461 That's why we are on autopilot so much, and I teach like productivity hacks and there are some things that should be on autopilot, but not everything should be on autopilot. 142 00:12:47,371.11187461 --> 00:12:51,181.11187461 And I feel like screen times like, listen, okay, soapbox moment. 143 00:12:51,211.11187461 --> 00:12:52,741.11187461 I'm so off script. 144 00:12:53,281.11187461 --> 00:12:57,271.11187461 But I can't help it because I'm so, so passionate about this. 145 00:12:57,301.11187461 --> 00:13:00,781.11187461 And for those of you who are annoyed, I'm like, I, I'm sorry. 146 00:13:00,811.11187461 --> 00:13:09,181.11187461 I just can't, screens are ruining our lives and these are some of the things that God has shown me. 147 00:13:09,181.11187461 --> 00:13:11,161.11187461 It is to put us to sleep. 148 00:13:11,686.11187461 --> 00:13:12,946.11187461 And it is working. 149 00:13:13,246.11187461 --> 00:13:24,296.11187461 God wants us to be awake, and I do believe that is why this call is on me so strongly and I feel it so much that God's like, no, I need you to do this now. 150 00:13:24,296.11187461 --> 00:13:33,266.11187461 If you could see me right now, literally I feel like I'm gonna cry because I feel God's like, no, I need my children to be awake. 151 00:13:33,896.11187461 --> 00:13:35,396.11187461 Awake my children. 152 00:13:35,426.11187461 --> 00:13:38,96.11187461 There is work to do and. 153 00:13:38,801.11187461 --> 00:13:45,971.11187461 Screens are causing us to be distracted, but also fall asleep spiritually. 154 00:13:47,501.11187461 --> 00:13:52,841.11187461 Also, the mental health component of screens is a problem. 155 00:13:52,891.11187461 --> 00:14:11,791.11187461 It's a problem for our mental health, but also as AI gets stronger and used more frequently, the children of God needs to be in his word and we are not in his word when we are spending all of our time on our screens. 156 00:14:12,121.11187461 --> 00:14:15,721.11187461 And one thing that I thought about the other day, God wants me to move my body. 157 00:14:15,721.11187461 --> 00:14:25,51.11187461 Do you know how many times that I laid in bed scrolling on my phone? 'cause I didn't wanna get up and then I missed a workout because I no longer had time because an hour passed. 158 00:14:25,51.11187461 --> 00:14:35,761.11187461 Or how many times I allowed myself to scroll instead of getting up when I felt God say, come sit with me. 159 00:14:36,301.11187461 --> 00:14:37,291.11187461 I have a word for you. 160 00:14:38,251.11187461 --> 00:14:42,451.11187461 That right there is embarrassing to admit out loud. 161 00:14:43,441.11187461 --> 00:14:58,91.11187461 But it's also true, and with the algorithms, the science behind screens, it's not about willpower friends, it's literally being created to hook us. 162 00:14:59,771.11187461 --> 00:15:03,641.11187461 God is like, we have got to take this land back. 163 00:15:03,641.11187461 --> 00:15:09,556.11187461 And it, and it needs to be done immediately because it's only gonna get worse. 164 00:15:09,856.11187461 --> 00:15:17,326.11187461 The algorithms, the way they, they are working it is like, um, mind altering. 165 00:15:18,256.11187461 --> 00:15:19,936.11187461 Those are words that come to my mind. 166 00:15:19,936.11187461 --> 00:15:24,646.11187461 And so again, this podcast episode isn't supposed to be about screens. 167 00:15:24,726.11187461 --> 00:15:34,686.11187461 It's supposed to be about the, the unhealthy habits that need to be squashed in order to create the healthy habits. 168 00:15:34,716.11187461 --> 00:15:43,536.11187461 That's technically what we're talking about, but I couldn't help but lean into where God is calling me to lean into. 169 00:15:43,566.11187461 --> 00:15:47,706.11187461 Just to share this again, because it's a message for now. 170 00:15:47,706.11187461 --> 00:15:56,616.11187461 God is inviting you into a year of alignment and purpose, but you have to clear the space for it and undoing your screen time habits. 171 00:15:56,616.11187461 --> 00:15:58,86.11187461 Reclaiming your time. 172 00:15:58,86.11187461 --> 00:15:59,496.11187461 If you, okay, here's the thing. 173 00:15:59,496.11187461 --> 00:16:01,86.11187461 If you say, I don't have a screen time. 174 00:16:01,971.11187461 --> 00:16:02,631.11187461 Problem. 175 00:16:03,51.11187461 --> 00:16:04,701.11187461 Let's just say we're reclaiming our time. 176 00:16:04,701.11187461 --> 00:16:06,51.11187461 That's what this reset is about. 177 00:16:06,291.11187461 --> 00:16:10,821.11187461 And again, it's not because phones are bad, but because your life is too important to lose to distractions. 178 00:16:11,181.11187461 --> 00:16:16,821.11187461 I want you to remember to track your screen time today without changing anything. 179 00:16:16,881.11187461 --> 00:16:18,231.11187461 Just observe. 180 00:16:18,621.11187461 --> 00:16:19,881.11187461 Just notice. 181 00:16:20,301.11187461 --> 00:16:22,851.11187461 Awareness is the first step towards freedom. 182 00:16:23,271.11187461 --> 00:16:31,371.11187461 Also, something that I think is really important, and I just thought of with the James Clear interview I listened to today. 183 00:16:31,671.11187461 --> 00:16:33,751.11187461 He talked about, working out. 184 00:16:34,21.11187461 --> 00:16:43,561.1118746 He wanted to be healthy and, um, really be proactive in fitness and, you know, move his body in all the things. 185 00:16:43,561.1118746 --> 00:16:55,841.1118746 And, Parar phrasing of course, but he, he talked about how in this interview he said that, uh, he saw that this was a habit that was a struggle for him, and he was frustrated because, you know. 186 00:16:55,841.1118746 --> 00:16:57,281.1118746 Who is he? I mean, he's James Clear. 187 00:16:57,281.1118746 --> 00:17:09,341.1118746 He's the, he's the king of habits, right? Um, he writes books like he's known for this and his, his physical fitness habit in moving his body was slacking. 188 00:17:09,461.1118746 --> 00:17:18,311.1118746 And he's like, what can I do? And it a lot of times, again, is just about getting started, but it's also about positioning yourself. 189 00:17:18,956.1118746 --> 00:17:21,986.1118746 To have the best chance for success. 190 00:17:22,46.1118746 --> 00:17:30,866.1118746 And so he hired a trainer I don't know a lot about James Clear, um, to know if he had a lot of experience in that. 191 00:17:30,866.1118746 --> 00:17:38,446.1118746 I think a lot of times, we hire trainers, not because we don't know what to do, but for the accountability piece. 192 00:17:38,716.1118746 --> 00:17:45,906.1118746 And he knew for him what happened in his, missing this habit and why he just continued slacking and moving. 193 00:17:45,906.1118746 --> 00:17:49,276.1118746 His body was, he would be in the middle of something and like the. 194 00:17:49,861.1118746 --> 00:17:54,871.1118746 You know, whether you schedule an appointment for you to work out or you just know, okay, it's time. 195 00:17:54,871.1118746 --> 00:17:58,891.1118746 Like I gotta shut down work and walk away to go do this thing. 196 00:17:59,41.1118746 --> 00:18:03,961.1118746 Which is really hard for those of us who love to work, especially I think those of us who have a DHD. 197 00:18:04,321.1118746 --> 00:18:09,121.1118746 But he said what he realized was like, he would be like, five more minutes, five more minutes, and then. 198 00:18:09,546.1118746 --> 00:18:12,336.1118746 The time would get away from him and he would never get it done. 199 00:18:12,396.1118746 --> 00:18:16,506.1118746 And so now he has an appointment with a personal trainer. 200 00:18:16,586.1118746 --> 00:18:22,496.1118746 Why is that the accountability in this guy? The trainer comes and interrupts his day. 201 00:18:23,61.1118746 --> 00:18:26,331.1118746 Every single time that he is supposed to work out. 202 00:18:26,661.1118746 --> 00:18:34,731.1118746 And he says, James Clear says it's annoying and it frustrates me every single time 'cause I'm in the middle of something and I don't wanna quit. 203 00:18:35,121.1118746 --> 00:18:44,471.1118746 And yet I know that it's beneficial and more productive to walk away than to stay in the zone of writing or doing whatever. 204 00:18:44,471.1118746 --> 00:18:47,411.1118746 So he walks away, he goes and he does his workout. 205 00:18:48,386.1118746 --> 00:18:49,976.1118746 That helps him get it done. 206 00:18:50,186.1118746 --> 00:19:09,886.1118746 Some of you need to schedule this 30 minutes, one-on-one these sessions with me so that it interrupts your day and you can be held accountable for the things that you're gonna put off because it's easier to just do it tomorrow and then tomorrow never comes. 207 00:19:10,126.1118746 --> 00:19:14,26.1118746 We have to set ourselves up for success and know what's gonna set us up for success. 208 00:19:14,86.1118746 --> 00:19:24,226.1118746 He also talked about fun, like working out so many, he used that I think because a lot of people's New Year's goals is, to work out more or whatever. 209 00:19:24,226.1118746 --> 00:19:30,346.1118746 And this is something I've learned and what I teach and I'm like, it doesn't have to be not fun. 210 00:19:30,376.1118746 --> 00:19:34,486.1118746 You don't have to go to the gym if you hate the gym to move your body. 211 00:19:36,391.1118746 --> 00:19:37,321.1118746 You could do something else. 212 00:19:37,321.1118746 --> 00:19:40,351.1118746 You could dance, you could hike, you could play pickleball. 213 00:19:40,561.1118746 --> 00:19:42,241.1118746 There's so many different things. 214 00:19:42,241.1118746 --> 00:19:56,41.1118746 And so even giving up screen time, part of what we will do in our calls is well, what are we replacing that time with? Let's remember the things that you truly enjoy, because I don't know a single person that will say. 215 00:19:57,376.1118746 --> 00:19:57,676.1118746 Wow. 216 00:19:57,676.1118746 --> 00:20:05,746.1118746 I just love getting on my phone and watching reels or you know, numbing out by playing this game or shopping. 217 00:20:05,746.1118746 --> 00:20:16,126.1118746 Maybe there, maybe there are a few people that would say they truly enjoy that, but I think when you can trade that, surrender that. 218 00:20:17,866.1118746 --> 00:20:30,116.1118746 For the joy that comes when you do the things that you know God wants you to do, whether it's to write a book or, do a puzzle or engage in a conversation with your husband. 219 00:20:30,336.1118746 --> 00:20:41,166.1118746 Sometimes as honestly, I'm like, uh, do I really wanna have, like, as you know, from previous episodes, I'm I'm sorry, y'all, this episode is kind of doing its own thing, but. 220 00:20:42,311.1118746 --> 00:20:45,701.1118746 With the screen time reset for myself, I'm focusing on bedtime. 221 00:20:45,791.1118746 --> 00:20:57,161.1118746 And so most of the time, be like, do I really think I'm gonna find joy in having an hour long conversation or even a 20 minute conversation with my husband? No, not really. 222 00:20:57,851.1118746 --> 00:21:05,451.1118746 But what I have found is when we're both doing this, oh my gosh, I remember why I married him. 223 00:21:06,126.1118746 --> 00:21:07,866.1118746 It's so good friend. 224 00:21:07,956.1118746 --> 00:21:09,126.1118746 It's so good. 225 00:21:09,126.1118746 --> 00:21:12,426.1118746 And so again, I just wanna challenge you in that. 226 00:21:12,426.1118746 --> 00:21:19,236.1118746 So if you're listening to this and you're thinking, I need this, I need a reset, I need support, your next step really is the one-on-one screen time reset. 227 00:21:19,296.1118746 --> 00:21:22,356.1118746 And remember, this isn't a group, it's not a passive course. 228 00:21:22,386.1118746 --> 00:21:24,156.1118746 This isn't a good luck checklist. 229 00:21:24,156.1118746 --> 00:21:36,246.1118746 It's personal coaching with me focused solely on undoing the habits that are draining your life to rebuild the rhythms that support who God is calling you to become. 230 00:21:36,456.1118746 --> 00:21:37,986.1118746 We're reclaiming your time. 231 00:21:38,406.1118746 --> 00:21:43,356.1118746 So you can walk into 2026 with clarity, peace, and purpose. 232 00:21:43,566.1118746 --> 00:21:46,446.1118746 You can find all the details in the show notes. 233 00:21:46,446.1118746 --> 00:21:50,256.1118746 The most powerful next step you can take is the one-on-one screen time reset. 234 00:21:50,466.1118746 --> 00:21:57,126.1118746 This is where we clear the noise, reclaim your time, and build the foundation for everything God is asking you to do. 235 00:21:57,516.1118746 --> 00:21:59,166.1118746 Um, listen also. 236 00:22:00,141.1118746 --> 00:22:02,871.1118746 I think you have until January. 237 00:22:03,261.1118746 --> 00:22:09,461.1118746 Someday in January it is discounted because I really did wanna help those who couldn't afford one-on-one coaching with me. 238 00:22:09,461.1118746 --> 00:22:18,711.1118746 And so go check that out, and know that there is a huge discount when you sign up now versus waiting.
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Let's get to it. 8 00:00:28,301.111874606 --> 00:00:29,291.111874606 Hey, hey friends. 9 00:00:29,291.111874606 --> 00:00:36,521.111874606 Welcome back to God-sized Dreams, faith Filled Baby Steps for women who are looking to live in purpose. 10 00:00:36,521.111874606 --> 00:00:38,141.111874606 I'm your host, Melissa Batten. 11 00:00:38,141.111874606 --> 00:00:47,921.111874606 Today we're talking about something every single woman struggles with even the high achievers, especially the high achievers, and that is undoing the healthy habits that quietly still are time. 12 00:00:48,511.111874606 --> 00:00:54,931.111874606 Our focus and our peace so we can finally build the healthy habits we actually want. 13 00:00:55,261.111874606 --> 00:01:04,981.111874606 This message is especially important as we head toward the end of 2025 and into a brand new year because how you begin your year really matters more than you think. 14 00:01:05,311.111874606 --> 00:01:21,576.111874606 And before we dive in, I want to remind you, listen, if you've been feeling overwhelmed, constantly distracted or stuck in that cycle of, I wanna change, but I never followed through, the best place to begin working with me is the one-on-one scream time reset. 15 00:01:22,51.111874606 --> 00:01:24,181.111874606 It's 12 weeks long. 16 00:01:24,421.111874606 --> 00:01:37,381.111874606 We meet 30 minutes each week, and this is where we will uncover what's actually draining your time, your focus and your emotional energy, and we will rebuild habits that support the life God is calling you to live. 17 00:01:37,561.111874606 --> 00:01:42,301.11187461 It's private, it's customized, and it's the most effective first step to getting. 18 00:01:42,451.11187461 --> 00:01:43,141.11187461 Unstuck. 19 00:01:43,291.11187461 --> 00:01:56,831.11187461 You can learn more using the link in the show notes and I can't wait for you to be a part of it because truly one of the things that I have recognized, screen time means something different to every single person. 20 00:01:57,71.11187461 --> 00:01:58,811.11187461 For some people, screen time might be scrolling. 21 00:01:58,811.11187461 --> 00:02:05,591.11187461 Social media for other people's screen time could be doing, you know, chasing ideas for work. 22 00:02:05,621.11187461 --> 00:02:08,441.11187461 And maybe you're in sales, maybe you're in direct sales. 23 00:02:08,771.11187461 --> 00:02:09,761.11187461 That comes to mind. 24 00:02:09,761.11187461 --> 00:02:21,551.11187461 That was, my life at, at one point, and I was chasing all the ideas and spending so much time, on my computer doing unnecessary things. 25 00:02:21,551.11187461 --> 00:02:26,921.11187461 And so screen time was more work related than just numbing out. 26 00:02:26,921.11187461 --> 00:02:33,161.11187461 But the screen time was still an issue and I was not. 27 00:02:33,161.11187461 --> 00:02:39,41.11187461 Planning ahead, being proactive and working with purpose. 28 00:02:39,221.11187461 --> 00:02:45,911.11187461 I was literally just throwing spaghetti at a wall and seeing what sticks and there's a better way for that as well. 29 00:02:45,911.11187461 --> 00:02:51,401.11187461 And so through the one-on-one screen time reset, we can dive into what the issue is. 30 00:02:51,431.11187461 --> 00:03:00,201.11187461 Maybe it's not playing games, maybe it's not social media, maybe it's Amazon, the shopping apps or something totally different. 31 00:03:00,201.11187461 --> 00:03:18,321.11187461 And so through that we will talk about it, but more than likely, there's a screen time reset that will be necessary for the work that you feel called to do and the habit you want to create that you know well. 32 00:03:18,321.11187461 --> 00:03:27,261.11187461 Help you and support you doing the thing that God has called you, but also like live a good, healthy, happy, joyful life. 33 00:03:27,501.11187461 --> 00:03:27,921.11187461 Right. 34 00:03:27,921.11187461 --> 00:03:28,521.11187461 So listen. 35 00:03:28,551.11187461 --> 00:03:29,31.11187461 Okay. 36 00:03:29,91.11187461 --> 00:03:37,371.11187461 I was listening to an interview today with James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, and he said something that I was like, oh my gosh, this is so true. 37 00:03:37,641.11187461 --> 00:03:42,381.11187461 Getting started is the hardest part of any habit. 38 00:03:42,801.11187461 --> 00:03:47,751.11187461 Uh, isn't that the truth? So many times we wanna, we want to build these new habits. 39 00:03:47,751.11187461 --> 00:03:48,921.11187461 We wanna read our Bible more. 40 00:03:48,921.11187461 --> 00:03:50,181.11187461 We wanna move our bodies more. 41 00:03:50,181.11187461 --> 00:03:51,891.11187461 We wanna feel less overwhelmed. 42 00:03:52,101.11187461 --> 00:03:54,261.11187461 We wanna be present with our families. 43 00:03:54,261.11187461 --> 00:03:57,141.11187461 We wanna pursue the dreams God placed inside of us. 44 00:03:57,261.11187461 --> 00:04:01,311.11187461 But the truth is, we're exhausted, overstimulated, and distracted. 45 00:04:01,401.11187461 --> 00:04:08,151.11187461 And here's something I've noticed, and this comes from my own personal life coaching experience, all the things. 46 00:04:08,871.11187461 --> 00:04:19,131.11187461 Before you can build the healthy habit you want, you often have to acknowledge and undo the unhealthy habit that's taking up the space where the new habit needs to grow. 47 00:04:19,131.11187461 --> 00:04:21,771.11187461 The truth of this is everywhere. 48 00:04:22,11.11187461 --> 00:04:27,501.11187461 You cannot plant healthy habits in crowded, chaotic soil. 49 00:04:27,591.11187461 --> 00:04:32,571.11187461 You know, where are my gardeners? You first gotta weed it, right? You gotta get rid of all the crap. 50 00:04:32,811.11187461 --> 00:04:42,471.11187461 So if your mind is overstimulated, if your phone is the default coping mechanism, if distraction is your first response, then of course the good habits struggle to take root. 51 00:04:43,476.11187461 --> 00:05:02,226.11187461 This isn't a motivation problem, it's not a discipline problem, it's a capacity problem, also hard truth, uh, because really what I want to do in everything I do from the beginning of creating this podcast, uh, the very first episode was about managing time. 52 00:05:02,826.11187461 --> 00:05:05,616.11187461 And I think this is something that. 53 00:05:05,616.11187461 --> 00:05:11,256.11187461 That has stuck with me for so long and been part of my soapbox. 54 00:05:11,526.11187461 --> 00:05:21,576.11187461 Number one, because I have used the excuse, I don't have time for a lot of different things, but also because this was an excuse that was given to me as a child. 55 00:05:22,686.11187461 --> 00:05:23,916.11187461 People didn't have time. 56 00:05:24,6.11187461 --> 00:05:26,106.11187461 When I wanted to spend time with my dad. 57 00:05:26,901.11187461 --> 00:05:29,691.11187461 The one thing he always said was he didn't have time. 58 00:05:29,691.11187461 --> 00:05:31,941.11187461 And I, that was like the very first episode. 59 00:05:31,941.11187461 --> 00:05:50,431.11187461 We've had so many full circles since the very first episode of this podcast, but like, I didn't even realize the correlation, the connection, the parallels between my own story and why I'm so passionate about helping people, reclaim their time and prioritize and, and live on purpose. 60 00:05:50,431.11187461 --> 00:06:01,701.11187461 And I think that really that's why I know what it's like on the other side, and so many people in our lives are, are getting that, that is their experience. 61 00:06:01,761.11187461 --> 00:06:04,221.11187461 So here, here's something else that happened. 62 00:06:04,221.11187461 --> 00:06:06,171.11187461 So I went to a chamber event yesterday. 63 00:06:07,316.11187461 --> 00:06:18,266.11187461 My very first chamber event, God has been challenging me to join the Chamber for probably two years, and I dismissed it, I think because it's easy to stay at home. 64 00:06:18,266.11187461 --> 00:06:31,311.11187461 I'm a homebody and I didn't want to meet new people, but I also think because I moved so much, it was kind of, I think self-protection, I don't wanna get too connected to my community. 65 00:06:31,881.11187461 --> 00:06:35,931.11187461 Because then it's harder to leave when we are called to move. 66 00:06:36,81.11187461 --> 00:06:40,431.11187461 And so I've learned though that self-protecting isn't always God. 67 00:06:41,601.11187461 --> 00:06:46,401.11187461 God will do the protecting, right? Self-protecting isn't what God is calling me to do. 68 00:06:46,781.11187461 --> 00:06:54,861.11187461 In this season, he's calling me to go and get connected we can't operate out fear, and that's exactly what I was doing without realizing it. 69 00:06:54,861.11187461 --> 00:07:00,891.11187461 So long story short, I went to a chamber event yesterday. 70 00:07:00,941.11187461 --> 00:07:05,921.11187461 And the speaker shared a number that made every person in the room pause. 71 00:07:05,921.11187461 --> 00:07:12,101.11187461 He shared with us that there are 8,760 hours. 72 00:07:12,251.11187461 --> 00:07:15,641.11187461 That is it in all of 2026. 73 00:07:16,151.11187461 --> 00:07:16,541.11187461 That's it. 74 00:07:16,571.11187461 --> 00:07:18,71.11187461 We don't get a rollover. 75 00:07:18,561.11187461 --> 00:07:20,421.11187461 We don't get bonus time. 76 00:07:20,421.11187461 --> 00:07:32,901.11187461 And the only thing I could think of during this, because I've been so focused on helping us get off our screens, was the number that I shared last week in the podcast, like the people in my home. 77 00:07:33,651.11187461 --> 00:07:34,551.11187461 Including me. 78 00:07:34,941.11187461 --> 00:07:44,301.11187461 How many hours are we spending on our phones we're averaging five hours per day. 79 00:07:44,301.11187461 --> 00:07:48,621.11187461 That's over 76 full days of your life gone. 80 00:07:49,491.11187461 --> 00:07:51,831.11187461 And here is the heartbreaking part. 81 00:07:52,161.11187461 --> 00:07:54,771.11187461 Most women tell me they don't have time. 82 00:07:55,791.11187461 --> 00:07:56,691.11187461 But they do have time. 83 00:07:57,381.11187461 --> 00:08:00,471.11187461 It's just being consumed without them realizing it. 84 00:08:00,531.11187461 --> 00:08:03,411.11187461 And listen, this isn't about guilt, this isn't about shame. 85 00:08:03,471.11187461 --> 00:08:07,491.11187461 This is about awareness because God cannot heal what we refuse to look at. 86 00:08:07,551.11187461 --> 00:08:16,311.11187461 And the first step in doing anything is acknowledging where we are and making a decision to do something about it. 87 00:08:16,311.11187461 --> 00:08:19,551.11187461 I've been coaching women for years, and this is something I know with confidence. 88 00:08:19,551.11187461 --> 00:08:25,101.11187461 If you don't reset in December or January, you spend the rest of the year trying to catch up and listen. 89 00:08:25,191.11187461 --> 00:08:33,351.11187461 I've spent a lot of years struggling in December or January, so I'm not saying that you can't still have an amazing year. 90 00:08:33,351.11187461 --> 00:08:52,851.11187461 But I can tell you that if you are proactive now and you make the most of December in January, guess what happens? You start the year off so much stronger and, and living your life not from a place of catching up or in reaction mode. 91 00:08:53,991.11187461 --> 00:08:58,971.11187461 You are already in a place and position of being proactive and living on purpose. 92 00:08:58,971.11187461 --> 00:09:04,581.11187461 And that, my friend, I promise you feel so, so good and I want that for you. 93 00:09:04,581.11187461 --> 00:09:06,741.11187461 And listen, it's not that God can't redeem the year. 94 00:09:06,741.11187461 --> 00:09:07,231.11187461 Of course he can. 95 00:09:08,136.11187461 --> 00:09:08,586.11187461 Right. 96 00:09:08,616.11187461 --> 00:09:16,806.11187461 Like I, I feel like we all know this, but when you don't pause to reset your habits at the start, you end up carrying last year's exhaustion into the new year. 97 00:09:16,986.11187461 --> 00:09:28,776.11187461 We stay overstimulated, we stay scattered, we stay reactive instead of living intentionally and starting behind, instead of starting refreshed. 98 00:09:28,776.11187461 --> 00:09:34,206.11187461 And I want you to start the year completely refreshed, thriving from the beginning. 99 00:09:34,476.11187461 --> 00:09:35,526.11187461 Your habits matter. 100 00:09:35,526.11187461 --> 00:09:36,516.11187461 Your environment matters. 101 00:09:37,106.11187461 --> 00:09:46,946.11187461 Your rhythms matter and screen time is that one habit that has crept into every part of our lives, our mornings, our nights, our routines, our rest, our relationships, our thoughts. 102 00:09:47,186.11187461 --> 00:09:57,326.11187461 Resetting your screen Time is one of the highest impact changes you can make going into a new year, because when you get your focus back, everything else becomes easier. 103 00:09:57,656.11187461 --> 00:10:03,176.11187461 We can read our Bibles, we can plan our meals, we can organize and declutter. 104 00:10:03,416.11187461 --> 00:10:03,836.11187461 We. 105 00:10:04,361.11187461 --> 00:10:05,561.11187461 Move our bodies more. 106 00:10:05,561.11187461 --> 00:10:08,381.11187461 We go and we go to sleep earlier. 107 00:10:08,381.11187461 --> 00:10:11,411.11187461 We build healthier relationships with our family. 108 00:10:11,471.11187461 --> 00:10:13,901.11187461 We have more emotional regulation. 109 00:10:14,81.11187461 --> 00:10:16,211.11187461 We're able to stay more consistent. 110 00:10:16,301.11187461 --> 00:10:18,791.11187461 We hear God more clearly. 111 00:10:18,791.11187461 --> 00:10:22,721.11187461 Everything changes when your mind is no longer cluttered. 112 00:10:22,901.11187461 --> 00:10:25,916.11187461 In fact, I'm reminded as I say that, the message. 113 00:10:26,796.11187461 --> 00:10:32,66.11187461 Yesterday from the chamber was like 26 minutes to prepare yourself for 2026. 114 00:10:32,396.11187461 --> 00:10:42,446.11187461 And, he also talked about clutter and how this is the, the perfect time to start decluttering so that next year starts fresh. 115 00:10:42,476.11187461 --> 00:10:45,236.11187461 Here's a bonus tip for you that he shared. 116 00:10:45,236.11187461 --> 00:10:48,236.11187461 He said, start with zero in digital. 117 00:10:48,321.11187461 --> 00:10:50,191.11187461 Clutter, like our inboxes. 118 00:10:50,401.11187461 --> 00:11:00,361.11187461 I'm someone who never deletes emails or opens emails sometimes, and he said one thing that just blew my mind, he said, archive it. 119 00:11:01,321.11187461 --> 00:11:02,341.11187461 You don't have to delete it. 120 00:11:02,611.11187461 --> 00:11:03,781.11187461 You don't have to go through and read it all. 121 00:11:03,781.11187461 --> 00:11:05,461.11187461 Just archive it all that way. 122 00:11:05,461.11187461 --> 00:11:08,221.11187461 It's still there, but you are starting fresh. 123 00:11:08,646.11187461 --> 00:11:09,846.11187461 In 2026. 124 00:11:09,876.11187461 --> 00:11:10,206.11187461 Okay. 125 00:11:10,206.11187461 --> 00:11:11,436.11187461 That that was bonus. 126 00:11:11,436.11187461 --> 00:11:14,916.11187461 Not even part of the episode just came to me as I shared that. 127 00:11:14,916.11187461 --> 00:11:20,556.11187461 But the connection between clutter, I'm pretty sure that was in the James Clear interview that I listened to as well. 128 00:11:20,916.11187461 --> 00:11:24,736.11187461 Is our home our mind is our environment. 129 00:11:24,736.11187461 --> 00:11:43,336.11187461 Setting us up for success in the life that we want to live, or is it not? And the one thing that I see when it comes to screen times, I almost feel like, and this is, this is for daughters of God, children of God, Bible believing Christian women. 130 00:11:43,366.11187461 --> 00:11:45,76.11187461 This is what this podcast is about. 131 00:11:45,286.11187461 --> 00:11:53,746.11187461 Also, connected to men too, but I feel like the enemy is using our screens to rock us to sleep. 132 00:11:53,746.11187461 --> 00:11:54,976.11187461 Let me say that again. 133 00:11:55,276.11187461 --> 00:11:59,176.11187461 I feel like our screens are rocking us to sleep. 134 00:11:59,626.11187461 --> 00:12:02,176.11187461 It is a self-soothing thing. 135 00:12:02,176.11187461 --> 00:12:14,816.11187461 I did an episode last week where I talked about how, when we are overstimulated those that were at my house for Thanksgiving, like they went to their phone and it's almost like a self-soothing. 136 00:12:15,101.11187461 --> 00:12:15,821.11187461 Habit. 137 00:12:16,241.11187461 --> 00:12:20,891.11187461 I don't understand like all of the science behind it, but I know that I know that. 138 00:12:20,891.11187461 --> 00:12:21,371.11187461 I know that. 139 00:12:21,371.11187461 --> 00:12:30,796.11187461 I know that it's true because God has shown me over and over and over and I just see the enemy rocking us to sleep even though we're awake. 140 00:12:31,751.11187461 --> 00:12:37,121.11187461 We're not spiritually awake, we're not living on purpose. 141 00:12:37,151.11187461 --> 00:12:47,311.11187461 That's why we are on autopilot so much, and I teach like productivity hacks and there are some things that should be on autopilot, but not everything should be on autopilot. 142 00:12:47,371.11187461 --> 00:12:51,181.11187461 And I feel like screen times like, listen, okay, soapbox moment. 143 00:12:51,211.11187461 --> 00:12:52,741.11187461 I'm so off script. 144 00:12:53,281.11187461 --> 00:12:57,271.11187461 But I can't help it because I'm so, so passionate about this. 145 00:12:57,301.11187461 --> 00:13:00,781.11187461 And for those of you who are annoyed, I'm like, I, I'm sorry. 146 00:13:00,811.11187461 --> 00:13:09,181.11187461 I just can't, screens are ruining our lives and these are some of the things that God has shown me. 147 00:13:09,181.11187461 --> 00:13:11,161.11187461 It is to put us to sleep. 148 00:13:11,686.11187461 --> 00:13:12,946.11187461 And it is working. 149 00:13:13,246.11187461 --> 00:13:24,296.11187461 God wants us to be awake, and I do believe that is why this call is on me so strongly and I feel it so much that God's like, no, I need you to do this now. 150 00:13:24,296.11187461 --> 00:13:33,266.11187461 If you could see me right now, literally I feel like I'm gonna cry because I feel God's like, no, I need my children to be awake. 151 00:13:33,896.11187461 --> 00:13:35,396.11187461 Awake my children. 152 00:13:35,426.11187461 --> 00:13:38,96.11187461 There is work to do and. 153 00:13:38,801.11187461 --> 00:13:45,971.11187461 Screens are causing us to be distracted, but also fall asleep spiritually. 154 00:13:47,501.11187461 --> 00:13:52,841.11187461 Also, the mental health component of screens is a problem. 155 00:13:52,891.11187461 --> 00:14:11,791.11187461 It's a problem for our mental health, but also as AI gets stronger and used more frequently, the children of God needs to be in his word and we are not in his word when we are spending all of our time on our screens. 156 00:14:12,121.11187461 --> 00:14:15,721.11187461 And one thing that I thought about the other day, God wants me to move my body. 157 00:14:15,721.11187461 --> 00:14:25,51.11187461 Do you know how many times that I laid in bed scrolling on my phone? 'cause I didn't wanna get up and then I missed a workout because I no longer had time because an hour passed. 158 00:14:25,51.11187461 --> 00:14:35,761.11187461 Or how many times I allowed myself to scroll instead of getting up when I felt God say, come sit with me. 159 00:14:36,301.11187461 --> 00:14:37,291.11187461 I have a word for you. 160 00:14:38,251.11187461 --> 00:14:42,451.11187461 That right there is embarrassing to admit out loud. 161 00:14:43,441.11187461 --> 00:14:58,91.11187461 But it's also true, and with the algorithms, the science behind screens, it's not about willpower friends, it's literally being created to hook us. 162 00:14:59,771.11187461 --> 00:15:03,641.11187461 God is like, we have got to take this land back. 163 00:15:03,641.11187461 --> 00:15:09,556.11187461 And it, and it needs to be done immediately because it's only gonna get worse. 164 00:15:09,856.11187461 --> 00:15:17,326.11187461 The algorithms, the way they, they are working it is like, um, mind altering. 165 00:15:18,256.11187461 --> 00:15:19,936.11187461 Those are words that come to my mind. 166 00:15:19,936.11187461 --> 00:15:24,646.11187461 And so again, this podcast episode isn't supposed to be about screens. 167 00:15:24,726.11187461 --> 00:15:34,686.11187461 It's supposed to be about the, the unhealthy habits that need to be squashed in order to create the healthy habits. 168 00:15:34,716.11187461 --> 00:15:43,536.11187461 That's technically what we're talking about, but I couldn't help but lean into where God is calling me to lean into. 169 00:15:43,566.11187461 --> 00:15:47,706.11187461 Just to share this again, because it's a message for now. 170 00:15:47,706.11187461 --> 00:15:56,616.11187461 God is inviting you into a year of alignment and purpose, but you have to clear the space for it and undoing your screen time habits. 171 00:15:56,616.11187461 --> 00:15:58,86.11187461 Reclaiming your time. 172 00:15:58,86.11187461 --> 00:15:59,496.11187461 If you, okay, here's the thing. 173 00:15:59,496.11187461 --> 00:16:01,86.11187461 If you say, I don't have a screen time. 174 00:16:01,971.11187461 --> 00:16:02,631.11187461 Problem. 175 00:16:03,51.11187461 --> 00:16:04,701.11187461 Let's just say we're reclaiming our time. 176 00:16:04,701.11187461 --> 00:16:06,51.11187461 That's what this reset is about. 177 00:16:06,291.11187461 --> 00:16:10,821.11187461 And again, it's not because phones are bad, but because your life is too important to lose to distractions. 178 00:16:11,181.11187461 --> 00:16:16,821.11187461 I want you to remember to track your screen time today without changing anything. 179 00:16:16,881.11187461 --> 00:16:18,231.11187461 Just observe. 180 00:16:18,621.11187461 --> 00:16:19,881.11187461 Just notice. 181 00:16:20,301.11187461 --> 00:16:22,851.11187461 Awareness is the first step towards freedom. 182 00:16:23,271.11187461 --> 00:16:31,371.11187461 Also, something that I think is really important, and I just thought of with the James Clear interview I listened to today. 183 00:16:31,671.11187461 --> 00:16:33,751.11187461 He talked about, working out. 184 00:16:34,21.11187461 --> 00:16:43,561.1118746 He wanted to be healthy and, um, really be proactive in fitness and, you know, move his body in all the things. 185 00:16:43,561.1118746 --> 00:16:55,841.1118746 And, Parar phrasing of course, but he, he talked about how in this interview he said that, uh, he saw that this was a habit that was a struggle for him, and he was frustrated because, you know. 186 00:16:55,841.1118746 --> 00:16:57,281.1118746 Who is he? I mean, he's James Clear. 187 00:16:57,281.1118746 --> 00:17:09,341.1118746 He's the, he's the king of habits, right? Um, he writes books like he's known for this and his, his physical fitness habit in moving his body was slacking. 188 00:17:09,461.1118746 --> 00:17:18,311.1118746 And he's like, what can I do? And it a lot of times, again, is just about getting started, but it's also about positioning yourself. 189 00:17:18,956.1118746 --> 00:17:21,986.1118746 To have the best chance for success. 190 00:17:22,46.1118746 --> 00:17:30,866.1118746 And so he hired a trainer I don't know a lot about James Clear, um, to know if he had a lot of experience in that. 191 00:17:30,866.1118746 --> 00:17:38,446.1118746 I think a lot of times, we hire trainers, not because we don't know what to do, but for the accountability piece. 192 00:17:38,716.1118746 --> 00:17:45,906.1118746 And he knew for him what happened in his, missing this habit and why he just continued slacking and moving. 193 00:17:45,906.1118746 --> 00:17:49,276.1118746 His body was, he would be in the middle of something and like the. 194 00:17:49,861.1118746 --> 00:17:54,871.1118746 You know, whether you schedule an appointment for you to work out or you just know, okay, it's time. 195 00:17:54,871.1118746 --> 00:17:58,891.1118746 Like I gotta shut down work and walk away to go do this thing. 196 00:17:59,41.1118746 --> 00:18:03,961.1118746 Which is really hard for those of us who love to work, especially I think those of us who have a DHD. 197 00:18:04,321.1118746 --> 00:18:09,121.1118746 But he said what he realized was like, he would be like, five more minutes, five more minutes, and then. 198 00:18:09,546.1118746 --> 00:18:12,336.1118746 The time would get away from him and he would never get it done. 199 00:18:12,396.1118746 --> 00:18:16,506.1118746 And so now he has an appointment with a personal trainer. 200 00:18:16,586.1118746 --> 00:18:22,496.1118746 Why is that the accountability in this guy? The trainer comes and interrupts his day. 201 00:18:23,61.1118746 --> 00:18:26,331.1118746 Every single time that he is supposed to work out. 202 00:18:26,661.1118746 --> 00:18:34,731.1118746 And he says, James Clear says it's annoying and it frustrates me every single time 'cause I'm in the middle of something and I don't wanna quit. 203 00:18:35,121.1118746 --> 00:18:44,471.1118746 And yet I know that it's beneficial and more productive to walk away than to stay in the zone of writing or doing whatever. 204 00:18:44,471.1118746 --> 00:18:47,411.1118746 So he walks away, he goes and he does his workout. 205 00:18:48,386.1118746 --> 00:18:49,976.1118746 That helps him get it done. 206 00:18:50,186.1118746 --> 00:19:09,886.1118746 Some of you need to schedule this 30 minutes, one-on-one these sessions with me so that it interrupts your day and you can be held accountable for the things that you're gonna put off because it's easier to just do it tomorrow and then tomorrow never comes. 207 00:19:10,126.1118746 --> 00:19:14,26.1118746 We have to set ourselves up for success and know what's gonna set us up for success. 208 00:19:14,86.1118746 --> 00:19:24,226.1118746 He also talked about fun, like working out so many, he used that I think because a lot of people's New Year's goals is, to work out more or whatever. 209 00:19:24,226.1118746 --> 00:19:30,346.1118746 And this is something I've learned and what I teach and I'm like, it doesn't have to be not fun. 210 00:19:30,376.1118746 --> 00:19:34,486.1118746 You don't have to go to the gym if you hate the gym to move your body. 211 00:19:36,391.1118746 --> 00:19:37,321.1118746 You could do something else. 212 00:19:37,321.1118746 --> 00:19:40,351.1118746 You could dance, you could hike, you could play pickleball. 213 00:19:40,561.1118746 --> 00:19:42,241.1118746 There's so many different things. 214 00:19:42,241.1118746 --> 00:19:56,41.1118746 And so even giving up screen time, part of what we will do in our calls is well, what are we replacing that time with? Let's remember the things that you truly enjoy, because I don't know a single person that will say. 215 00:19:57,376.1118746 --> 00:19:57,676.1118746 Wow. 216 00:19:57,676.1118746 --> 00:20:05,746.1118746 I just love getting on my phone and watching reels or you know, numbing out by playing this game or shopping. 217 00:20:05,746.1118746 --> 00:20:16,126.1118746 Maybe there, maybe there are a few people that would say they truly enjoy that, but I think when you can trade that, surrender that. 218 00:20:17,866.1118746 --> 00:20:30,116.1118746 For the joy that comes when you do the things that you know God wants you to do, whether it's to write a book or, do a puzzle or engage in a conversation with your husband. 219 00:20:30,336.1118746 --> 00:20:41,166.1118746 Sometimes as honestly, I'm like, uh, do I really wanna have, like, as you know, from previous episodes, I'm I'm sorry, y'all, this episode is kind of doing its own thing, but. 220 00:20:42,311.1118746 --> 00:20:45,701.1118746 With the screen time reset for myself, I'm focusing on bedtime. 221 00:20:45,791.1118746 --> 00:20:57,161.1118746 And so most of the time, be like, do I really think I'm gonna find joy in having an hour long conversation or even a 20 minute conversation with my husband? No, not really. 222 00:20:57,851.1118746 --> 00:21:05,451.1118746 But what I have found is when we're both doing this, oh my gosh, I remember why I married him. 223 00:21:06,126.1118746 --> 00:21:07,866.1118746 It's so good friend. 224 00:21:07,956.1118746 --> 00:21:09,126.1118746 It's so good. 225 00:21:09,126.1118746 --> 00:21:12,426.1118746 And so again, I just wanna challenge you in that. 226 00:21:12,426.1118746 --> 00:21:19,236.1118746 So if you're listening to this and you're thinking, I need this, I need a reset, I need support, your next step really is the one-on-one screen time reset. 227 00:21:19,296.1118746 --> 00:21:22,356.1118746 And remember, this isn't a group, it's not a passive course. 228 00:21:22,386.1118746 --> 00:21:24,156.1118746 This isn't a good luck checklist. 229 00:21:24,156.1118746 --> 00:21:36,246.1118746 It's personal coaching with me focused solely on undoing the habits that are draining your life to rebuild the rhythms that support who God is calling you to become. 230 00:21:36,456.1118746 --> 00:21:37,986.1118746 We're reclaiming your time. 231 00:21:38,406.1118746 --> 00:21:43,356.1118746 So you can walk into 2026 with clarity, peace, and purpose. 232 00:21:43,566.1118746 --> 00:21:46,446.1118746 You can find all the details in the show notes. 233 00:21:46,446.1118746 --> 00:21:50,256.1118746 The most powerful next step you can take is the one-on-one screen time reset. 234 00:21:50,466.1118746 --> 00:21:57,126.1118746 This is where we clear the noise, reclaim your time, and build the foundation for everything God is asking you to do. 235 00:21:57,516.1118746 --> 00:21:59,166.1118746 Um, listen also. 236 00:22:00,141.1118746 --> 00:22:02,871.1118746 I think you have until January. 237 00:22:03,261.1118746 --> 00:22:09,461.1118746 Someday in January it is discounted because I really did wanna help those who couldn't afford one-on-one coaching with me. 238 00:22:09,461.1118746 --> 00:22:18,711.1118746 And so go check that out, and know that there is a huge discount when you sign up now versus waiting.
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