I Wish You Knew

Why do avoidant men struggle so much with love, vulnerability, and connection? 

In this video, we break down how avoidant attachment forms, why it creates barriers in relationships, and what can actually be done to move forward.

Topics Covered:  👉 What is attachment? 👉The difference between secure and insecure attachment 👉 How avoidant attachment shows up in men’s behavior and language 👉 The hidden stress avoidant men experienc...

Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn’t a lack of love—it’s a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy.

Topics Covered 👉 Emotional shutdown and chronic unavailability in avoidant men 👉 The “cone of death” metaphor for lim...

Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn’t a lack of love—it’s a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy.

Topics Covered 👉 Emotional shutdown and chronic unavailability in avoidant men 👉 The “cone of death” metaphor for lim...

What does it take to shift from avoidant attachment to secure, engaged connection in just eight weeks?

In this episode, Adam talks with a client who shares her powerful story of breaking free from lifelong avoidance and building safety in love.

Topics Covered: 👉 How early childhood trauma and lack of safety shaped avoidant attachment 👉 The role of unhealthy relationships in reinforcing avoidance patterns 👉 The process of buildin...

What happens when a wife feels invisible for 23 years? 

In this episode, Adam uncovers the truth behind their broken marriage. From gambling addiction and emotional neglect to the deep longing for intimacy and trust, this raw coaching session reveals what it really takes to heal wounds that have been buried for decades.

Topics Covered: 👉 How gambling addiction led to separation and divorce 👉 Emotional neglect and the feeling of b...

In this episode, Dr. Caroline Leaf joins to discuss how the mind, not the brain, holds the power to reshape thoughts, relationships, and mental health. She shares groundbreaking insights on neuroplasticity, attachment styles, and her proven 63-day cycle for rewiring toxic patterns into healthier ones.

✨ Topics Covered ✨ 👉 Why the brain doesn’t think and how the mind drives change 👉 The truth about neuroplasticity and breaking fre...

What does it really feel like to live with disorganized attachment? In this episode, Adam welcomes Amy Moore, who shares her story of navigating survival mode, struggling with both avoidance and anxiety, and learning how to begin her healing journey.

Topics Covered: 👉 Amy’s experience with disorganized attachment and “survival mode” 👉 How attachment styles shift between avoidance (single) and anxiety (in relationships) 👉 The rol...

Can men really find freedom from emotional numbness and disconnection? This episode takes a deep look at the roots of emotional intimacy struggles and the path toward genuine healing and connection.

Topics Covered: 👉 The hidden pain men carry across generations 👉 Why men need purpose to step up and grow 👉 Emotional intimacy gaps in relationships 👉 Emotions as a language: mirroring, validation, empathy 👉 The CEO & COO model...

Not everyone, especially modern men, should be in a relationship and Dr. Orion Taraban returns to explore exactly why.

In this video, Dr. Orion Taraban and Adam dive deep into the emotional wounds, subconscious needs, and hidden motivations that shape modern relationships. 

 Topics Covered 👉 Why healing must come before entering a relationship 👉 The evolving nature of needs and desires in long-term relationships 👉 How relationsh...

This episode explores why some men struggle to say “I love you” even when they truly feel it. It is not always about a lack of love. 

It is often about emotional wiring, past experiences, and how they process vulnerability. By understanding these deeper reasons, you can navigate the silence with more clarity and compassion.

 Topics Covered:  👉 Emotional barriers that block verbal expressions of love 👉 How upbringing and past rela...

Quiet disorganized attachment can make modern women feel invisible—shutting down out of fear of being “too much,” even when all they want is to be seen and loved.

In this episode, Dawn Dubelbeis opens up about the impact of childhood trauma and how her attachment style shaped her adult relationships. Alongside Adam, they unpack the path of how to build connection from a place of safety, not survival.

Topics Covered  👉 How quiet di...

Attachment style plays a bigger role in your relationships than you think, especially when it’s the one no one talks about.

In this episode, Adam explore the long-ignored freeze attachment style, rooted in fearful-avoidant patterns. After surviving childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and three failed marriages, Corina shares how this attachment style shaped her life and how she’s learning to heal.

Topics Covered: 👉 What the free...

What does it take for an Avoidant Man to finally feel safe enough to stay in love? 

In this episode, Kimmi returns to share his journey from emotional shutdown to engagement. Once known as “Kimmi the Avoidant,” he opens up about what helped him finally connect, feel secure, and build lasting love. 

Topics Covered:  👉 How avoidant attachment distorts emotional connection 👉 Why emotional safety—not pressure—creates commitment 👉 Th...

Avoidant men aren’t emotionally distant by choice. Their detachment is often a survival response wired deep into the brain.

In this episode, Adam breaks down how avoidant men develop this style of relating, why avoidant men often carry it into adulthood, and most importantly how to help avoidant men heal for good.

Topics covered: 👉 The brain science behind avoidant men and emotional shutdown 👉 Why avoidant men experience burnout,...

In this episode, Andrey shares how he went from emotionally avoidant to fully committed in marriage. He breaks down the exact values, mindset shifts, and moments that made him stay. 

Adam and Andrey explore how real love forms not through perfection, but through shared vision and integrity. This is a blueprint for building lasting connection with an avoidant man.

Topics Covered: 👉 What makes an avoidant man choose commitment 👉 Ho...

In this episode, guest Emily Humpert returns to explore what it means to build emotional intimacy while carrying avoidant or disorganized attachment wounds. 

Alongside host Adam Lane Smith, they unpack how emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and acceptance are the keys to real connection. If you've ever struggled to believe in love or feared that being truly seen would lead to rejection, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a...

In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with Chad and Brittany to explore why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship.

Whether you’re in a struggling relationship or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation will challenge the way you see emotional safety, communication, and connection.

Topics Covered: 👉 What led to the breakup: stress, avoidance, and nervous system overload 👉 How...

In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment...

In this powerful episode, attachment expert Jessica Baum joins Adam Lane Smith to unpack one of the most essential yet misunderstood pillars of a healthy relationship: emotional safety. Together, they explore why safety isn’t just a “nice to have” in love, but a biological and psychological necessity that shapes the way we connect, heal, and grow. Whether you’ve struggled with abandonment wounds, anxious or avoidant patterns, or fe...