Nikki Glaser: Candid thoughts on non-monogamy | Trending Now

Comedian Nikki Glaser walks us through the ebbs and flows of her long-term relationship with boyfriend Chris Convy, including their first meeting, Nikki’s request for Chris to entertain experiences with other women and her admission that she’s found “the one.” Plus, we hear from Nikki’s father EJ, who says that it’s about time Nikki and Chris “sh*t or get off the pot.”

Episode Transcript

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Hey everybody, it's Graham and it's.
Friday. Which means today we get to
bring you another trending clip this week.
Nikki. Glaser, the clip you're about to
hear is trending on our Instagram right now.
Hope you enjoy. So what's the deal with you and
the boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been,

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you know, off and on for nine years, which is an insane amount
of time. It was, we met in New York.
I had a show on MTV. It was my first TV show and he
was a producer on the show and he was from Saint Louis, where I
was from. I just quit drinking like a year
before that. And I didn't want to have any

(00:45):
relationships with people who were heavy drinkers.
And so when I met him, I thoughthe was cute, but he was, he just
seemed too fun. It was like a, like a, a party
that we all met each other AT and he was like dancing and he
was just like too fun and smiling.
I was like, that guy's wasted because how could you be that
way? And, and so I just wrote him
off. I was like, no, not, not for me.
And then I found out he didn't drink And I was like, oh, he's

(01:07):
just like fun and like like that.
And then I fell in love from afar.
Like I just had a crush from afar for a really long time,
which was so fun because I was just like pining for him
constantly. He was like very Jim and Pam.
I was Jim and he had no idea andhe was my first real boyfriend.
And then we did a reality show together and they show up and
I'm like, I know this guy doesn't want to be on TV.

(01:28):
Like he's behind the scenes. He's ATV producer.
And I said, listen, I sold the show.
It's like a dating show. We weren't together.
We're kind of together now. I do have to date on the show.
I kind of want to date someone who will be on camera with me.
So I'll keep seeing you like in private, but like I have to date
on the show unless you want to be on camera.
And he was like, and I'll do it.And then that was like another
turning point of, like, this guydoes not like to be on camera.

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And he's doing this thing because he loves me and he wants
to, like, share a thing together.
So it was just all these things of like, you know, then I
started doing things that were hard for me to do, like, you
know, making time for him. You guys broken up and got him
back together a lot, most recently last month.
Last month. Like what's going on there?

(02:15):
It's well, last month was like ado or die situation where it was
like, what are we doing? Like, is this leading to
marriage? We never talk about marriage.
We both signed on nine years agoas people who didn't want to get
married, didn't want to have kids.
But now we're, he's in his 40s, I'm in my late 30s.
What are we doing? And our priorities have changed.
Our like goals have changed. And we, I don't want to get in

(02:37):
the details of it, but it just, I was, I have a fear of
commitment. I'm the one.
Oh, it's you. I'm the one.
When you've historically had a fear of commitment.
I didn't know I did. I thought I was always chasing
guys and being like, why doesn'tanyone want to commit to me?
But it was me. There are a couple people very
close to you that don't think you guys are a good fit for each

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other. How do you handle that?
They don't get it. They're not in it.
I don't know what will happen. I may look back on this
interview and be like, Oh my God, you thought he was the one.
But I actually think that that'sOK because I actually feel like
now he is the one. And that's great.
That like, I don't know, it's, it's nice to admit that, but I
don't know he, he might be dead in Iceland right now.
This relationship has been like my career, like I've had to give

(03:22):
up on certain things. I thought it was dead for a
while and then it, it came back and it just shows I, I didn't
know you can change it, man, butyou can.
After I saw my reality show, I was very appreciative of my
boyfriend because I saw a side of myself that was like, she's a
lot like like almost being like to him, like run dude.
Like it is very hard to date me.I am an open book.

(03:44):
I am pornographic in what I say.I mean, I'm not someone that,
you know, bringing me around to your family.
Like based on the things I've described doing that sex acts,
I've like I'm basically a porn star And like I, I feel that way
sometimes. Like I've described my sex life
in such detail that if you are ablind person, it's no different

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than someone describing a porn they're watching.
So I am pornographic in many ways and that can be not the
easiest thing to bring home to mom, but my boyfriend does not
care you. Still a proponent of non
monogamy. Yeah, not for myself.
I think it's every. But it was something for
yourself or for the person you. Were data and I like my

(04:27):
boyfriend to at least entertain the idea of being with other
women or be with them. I think it's about like I want
to be on HBO Max because people watch HBO Max, it's cool
network. I want my show on a place that
is a cool shiny like I want things that other people want.
Would you be cool with him sleeping with somebody else

(04:48):
right now? Yeah, I mean, if you wanted to
be with her, no, then go be withher.
Like don't be with me. It'd be like if I was like, like
cooked him a meal every night and someone else made him a
meal, I wouldn't be like anotherperson cooked you.
Like it's that's how I look at sex.
Whereas like he likes my cookingthe best.
And part of my cooking is dependent on him trying other
things so that we could I can try them for.

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Him. You don't think it would hurt
you? No, I know it wouldn't.
If you want to be honest, in thepast we've exerimented with this
because I had these feelings of like, I wouldn't mind if you
like had a little playing with someone else, not like emotional
that seems. Like, well, you found it like,
attractive, right? Yeah.
I want things that, yeah, like, even if she's hotter than me or

(05:31):
like, looks different than me, like I don't really care what
she looks like. I just, I like it.
He's a hot guy. I'm like, yeah, check this out.
Like it's like lending your friend your sweater or
something. I'm not doing this with my
friends, but it's like, have funin it for the night, but give it
back to me. Don't stretch it out or
whatever. Like everyone has their own
kinky thing. My thing is, I don't mind that.
And does he go through with it? No, but like could he?

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Yes. Is it a two way St. of like I
can do anything? No, because I don't really want
to. That's not my thing.
I and who knows, it might be my thing someday.
I'm a very like open person to to anything that might come
about. But yeah, that's my kind of take
on non monogamy I guess. And that's this week's fan
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