October 28, 2025 • 28 mins
Welcome to another episode of Micro-Moments of Integrity: 30 Everyday Ways to Do the Right Thing (S4) S44 E3 here on Inspirations for your Life. I’m your host, John C. Morley—Serial Entrepreneur, Engineer, Marketing Specialist, Video Producer, Podcast Host, Coach, Graduate Student, and above all, a passionate lifelong learner. Today, I invite you on a journey to explore how ordinary choices become extraordinary acts of character. Through my own experience and wisdom collected along the way, I’ll guide you in uncovering how the simplest actions can create a ripple effect of integrity and real change.
Speak up when you witness unfairness.Silence can be mistaken for consent. When you step forward to address unfairness, you show courage and help set the tone that justice matters. Whether in the workplace, among friends, or out in public, your voice can protect those who might otherwise be overlooked.
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Well, hello there, everyone.
It is John C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
It's great to be with you.
It's actually a Monday evening.
This is October 27th, 2025.
We just have one, two, three, four more
days until Halloween.
Do you know what you're going to be?
All right.
You got a few days to think about
that.
(00:44):
Welcome to the show.
If this is your first time here, I
want to take the opportunity to say welcome
and thank you.
If you're coming back, I definitely want to
say welcome back and thank you for coming
back and thank you for choosing to make
my content a daily part of your life
to apply and become a better version of
you.
All right, guys.
If you are new here, don't forget to
check out BelieveMeAchieved.com.
(01:05):
Right after the show, you can get long
-form content, short-form content, replay these shows
and other shows and articles and much more.
So definitely check that out.
I just had dinner not too long ago.
So feel free to go get yourself either
a snack from the kitchen.
It could be some RO water.
It could be another beverage, hot or cold.
It could be fruit.
It could be nuts, something sweet, tart.
(01:27):
Healthy or not, that's totally up to you.
And if you guys remember, for those of
you that are coming back, but if you're
new, I'll let you know.
This week, we have another great master topic.
So our master topics always start on a
Saturday and they wind up on a Friday.
So we go Saturday to Friday.
That's our week.
(01:47):
And so the master topic for this week
is everyday wisdom on doing what's right.
Tonight's granular topic is micro moments of integrity.
30 everyday ways to do the right things.
That's series four, show 44, episode number three.
Without any further ado, guys, let's kick this
show off.
All right.
(02:08):
I know you're excited as well as I
am.
So let's get this show off the ground.
Welcome.
Like I said, welcome, welcome, welcome to another
episode of the ever popular inspirations for your
life.
And tonight we're featuring micro moments of integrity,
30 everyday ways to do the right thing.
Now, a lot of times people don't do
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the right thing because no one else is
watching, but that is exactly when you should
be doing the right thing.
Even when somebody else is not watching.
Again, this is series four, show 44, episode
three.
That means, guys, in less than a few
months, we will be done with series four
and we'll be on series five.
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We'll be on the air five years.
Wow.
On the ever popular inspirations for your life
show.
I am your host, John Seymour, serial entrepreneur,
engineer, marketing specialist.
I'm sure you know that, right?
And yes, I do a lot of great
things here.
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Besides being a marketing specialist, I'm also a
podcast host, podcast coach, regular coach, and marketing
specialist, right?
Video producer.
And I'm also a graduate student, of course,
a passionate lifelong learner.
And that's pretty cool, guys.
And today or tonight, I invite you on
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a journey with me to explore how ordinary
choices become extraordinary acts of character.
Through my own experience and wisdom collected along
the way, I'm going to guide you into
uncovering how the simplest actions can create a
ripple effect of integrity.
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And that's real change.
Integrity is something you don't want to speak
lightly about because integrity is not something you
do to brag.
Integrity is something you are, you become, because
you want the best.
You want others to have the best.
So speakably, gentlemen, when you witness unfairness, silence
can be mistaken for consent.
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I don't know if you know that.
So if you're around somebody and they're doing
the wrong thing and you're not speaking up,
it means that you agree with them.
Yeah, isn't that terrible?
But just so you know that, silence means
that you agree.
When you step forward to address unfairness, you
show courage and help set the tone that
justice matters.
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Whether it's in the workplace, among friends, or
out in public, your voice can protect those
who might otherwise be overlooked.
I think that's a very important one to
think about, right?
How you can be, how things can be
overlooked.
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And that overlooked is something that might trip
you up sometimes, but it shouldn't.
It should help you realize one thing, that
you can return lost items even if no
one's watching.
And so doing the right thing when no
one else sees proves true integrity.
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Returning lost belongings not only helps the owner,
it builds self-respect.
Did you know that?
Yeah, it builds self-respect.
And these gestures start to build trust in
your community, even if the reward is just
the satisfaction of honesty.
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Apologize sincerely when you're wrong.
I know a lot of us out there
when I was younger, I never want to
admit that I was wrong, but you know
what?
It's okay to be wrong sometimes.
I'd rather be wrong than be dishonest.
I think that's an important marvel that I
want to drive home tonight.
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Being right is great, but if you're wrong,
it's better to fess up and say you're
wrong than to be dishonest.
A genuine apology restores relationships and it builds
trust.
Owning up to mistakes with humility shows maturity
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and creates space for healing while teaching others
that growth is possible for everyone.
You know, I think a lot of times
people want to take the credit and I
get that, but the best credit is usually
when there's no credit, when people just happen
to just appreciate the value.
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But a lot of people stand and say,
hey, you know, I want to get that
credit, right?
I deserve that credit.
Give credit before taking any yourself.
Everyone I know always wants to take the
credit themselves, but a true leader knows how
to give credit first before ever taking any
credit themselves.
That's truthful.
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Recognizing others' contributions uplifts teams and builds commodity
by celebrating others' wins before your own.
You invite collaboration and foster a positive environment,
setting an example for leadership.
Yeah, leadership.
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And I think sometimes, you know, that can
be a problem for some people because they
don't necessarily know, like, you know, what that
means.
And what I want to tell you is
that leadership is not something you're born with.
Leadership is something that you learn along the
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way, all right?
It's something you learn along the way.
And because you learn this along the way,
it's like things change.
And you get these different perspectives in your
life.
I think that's really important.
Keep your promises, big or small.
I've known people that have promised things and
you know what?
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They always unpromised things because, well, they got
a better offer.
Not only is that rude, that breaks trust.
I'm sure you've had friends that have done
that in the past, right?
They kind of look to see if something
else better is going on.
If there is, well, then they make an
excuse that, well, you know what?
I have something else to do.
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I totally forgot I had something else to
do.
Like, come on.
Like, seriously?
I mean, you're going to play that game
with people, like your friends?
You're really going to play that game?
But people do play that game.
They play that game every single day.
And I think that hurts a lot of
people.
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It hurts a lot of people to know
that, you know, they thought they were important
or mattered to that person.
And then it's like, whoops, I guess you
don't matter.
That hits below the belt.
Trust is earned through reliability.
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Commit to your word.
Whether the promise is large or it's trivial,
it's the consistency that people remember and rely
upon.
Laying the foundation for strong, lasting connections.
So whether you promise to get your friend
a candy bar or you promise to spend
time with him or her, when you're a
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person that says something and then you don't
do what you say.
Like, I had a new friend that I
just met not too long ago.
And, you know, when you promise you're going
to do something, you do it.
Like, if you're going to go visit them
or spend time with them, you spend time
with them.
You do it.
Okay?
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I think that's the difference between somebody who's
being honest and somebody who is just, well,
going through life with emotions.
You know, there was a great person a
while back that said something very interesting I'm
going to share with you.
And that was the fact that, you know,
a lot of times we think that, you
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know, our day is getting too crazy for
us or there's too much in our day.
But actually it's not that at all.
It's our perspective.
You know, one, you feel like, oh my
gosh, I feel like I'm just overwhelmed.
And then the next day you can just
chill and you can realize that you got
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more done than you expected or just exactly
what you want to get done.
And you didn't feel overwhelmed or burdened.
That's key guys.
Offer your seat to someone who needs it.
What do I mean by that?
Well, that doesn't just mean, you know, somebody
on the bus.
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Okay.
That could mean something proverbial, right?
And if we think about proverbial, we're talking
about a situation that hypothetically may or may
not exist.
You know, maybe you've been on the bus
before and somebody wants that chair.
So you give them that chair.
Why?
Because it's the right thing to do.
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But do you do it because other people
are watching you or would you give that
seat to that person, even if no one
else was on the bus?
I know if I was on the bus
and whether somebody was watching me or not,
I would still offer that seat to that
other person, that elder person.
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And you know, life sometimes can be an
enigma and the enigma can kind of put
us into this, this tailspin or a merry
-go-round saying, oh my gosh, how do
I get off this merry-go-round?
Like we've all been through those times.
Right.
So we have to learn to sip the
Kool-Aid, sip the water, sip the drink,
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enjoy the food.
Okay.
Bite, bite, bite, bite, bite.
Not like chunk by chunk by chunk.
Okay.
Not mouthful by mouthful, but bite by bite.
And when we can do bite by bite,
that's when we start to appreciate what is
around us.
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And that's also, ladies and gentlemen, when we
can slow things down, when we can slow
things down.
And I think that's a very important point
is that when we slow things down, we
find that life gets easier for us.
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Life gets easier for us.
Why?
I think it's because things change for us
and we get that different perspective of life,
right?
We get that completely different perspective of life.
And that perspective of life says, Hey, this
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is what's going on.
And that might get you to change.
Like, oh my gosh, like I don't believe
that.
Like, I can't believe I just did that.
And I'm here to tell you that that
is what makes your difference, guys.
That is what makes your difference.
Nothing else.
It's the little things that you do in
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life that make the difference.
I said the little things, right?
The little things.
So the little things matter sometimes more than
the big things, because the little things teach
us to have humility.
The little things teach us to appreciate life.
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The little things allow us to give a
gesture that doesn't have to be a grand
one and how we can make a difference
in other people's lives.
Small moments of kindness, speak volumes, offering your
seat, as I said, shows you're aware of
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others' needs and are willing to sacrifice comfort.
So someone else can benefit, reinforcing empathy and
respect for all.
How about holding the door?
So holding the door is another one.
You might think, well, what big sacrifice is
that?
Well, plenty.
If you're outside and you're holding the door
and you're freezing your butt off, holding the
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door means a lot to people.
It doesn't cost you anything to be nice.
It does not cost you anything to be
nice.
But if you are nice, then it's like
it's icing on the cake.
And people love it when you can be
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genuine, when you could be nice because you
want to be nice.
So honesty, guys.
Honesty is very, very important.
I think sometimes we don't realize the compliment.
Complimenting others, honestly, not for flattery, but to
be authentic.
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Compliments uplift without expectation.
When people give a compliment, so many people
I know are doing it because they're waiting
for something, they're looking for something.
They've already got their compliment.
They've already got what they need.
That's not anything special, guys.
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That's nothing special.
If we can just live in the moment
without an expectation, try that tomorrow.
Live in the moment without any expectation.
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And when your words come from truth rather
than from superficial flattery, you nurture genuine encouragement,
thus helping others believe in themselves.
I'm not going to name any specific people
here, but I want to share some situations.
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So I was at a not-for-profit
not too long ago.
And I was just blown away with the
amount of, let's say, superficialness that actually exists
there.
The superficialness that actually exists there.
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And so I think that's something that a
lot of people don't realize, that we stay
a certain way, we go a certain way
because we want to make a difference.
But some people do this for no other
reason.
And that reason, guys, is because they want
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to make a difference.
A difference in your life, a difference in
their life, right?
It's about difference.
And so I want to tell you that
you can change things, but you have to
be somebody that wants to do this.
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You have to be vested in yourself and
vested in others.
So many people I know will do things
because they want to please a crowd.
That's nonsense, guys.
That's absolutely nonsense.
And they do it because they think they're
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going to get something, but in the end,
they don't get anything.
They just get disappointment.
If you give a compliment because it's going
to be the best and you're doing it
for integrity, okay, then it's going to work
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for you, okay?
If you're doing it because you're trying to
impress somebody or you're trying to say, hey,
look at me, what you do in secret
or what few people know about you will
be rewarded in public.
This is actually something that was stated in
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the Bible.
I don't know if any of you guys
are religious here.
But flattery, I see this so many times
at not-for-profits and they think that
they are doing the best for everyone, but
you know what they're not doing?
They're just lying to themselves and everybody else.
Refuse to gossip about yourself, about friends or
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in public.
Your voice can protect those who might otherwise
be overlooked, okay?
These are important things to realize, guys.
And I think if we can understand this
and know that our team works, that's important,
guys.
Really, really important.
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Check in on people.
Do the right thing when no one else
sees that you are doing it.
This proves true integrity, belongingness, and it not
only helps the owner, but it builds self
-respect.
And these gestures, well, they build trust, guys.
Authentic compliments lift up the community, okay?
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They lift up the community.
Respect boundaries, even when no one else enforces
them.
Boundaries deserve respect, even if no one else
is watching.
Apologize sincerely.
We talked about that.
I think that's a really big one.
But I think to own your own decisions
for good or bad and be accountable.
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That's right, guys.
Be accountable because it'll build trust over and
over again.
And owning up to mistakes with humility shows
maturity, right?
We know these things, but why is it
we don't do them?
And it creates space for healing.
We know that.
While teaching others that growth is possible for
everyone, right?
I think these are hard for some people
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to realize, but I want to tell you
that life is about being human.
It's about being kind, right?
Keeping confidences.
Don't betray private discussions.
What you learn from your friends in secret,
let it stay in secret.
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Don't try to be a hero because you
think you're going to be a gossiper and
you're going to know all the juice of
people.
No one's going to like you.
Set an example for leadership, okay?
Keep your promises, as I said, big or
small.
This is so very important.
Commit to your word today and every day
forward, whether the promise, like I said, is
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trivial or whether it's something that really doesn't
matter to you.
It matters to others.
Learn to use someone's correct name.
Names, as Dale Carnegie said, are the most
important thing.
So learn how to say their name.
If you don't, ask them.
They'll be happy to help you.
And rely on laying the foundation for strong,
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lasting connections because when you know somebody's name,
it's the most beautiful word that they ever
could hear.
Offer your seat to someone, as I said,
who needs it.
And I think these small moments of kindness
speak volumes, right?
They speak volumes because when we understand, like,
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what's happening or why these things are happening,
I think that really changes, like, it changes
who we are.
And the who we are is not so
we can brag that, hey, I'm this, I'm
that.
We build ourselves up for integrity because we
are a person of integrity.
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If we have to go on to, hey,
I'm integrity, hey, I'm honest, well, what good
is that?
Right?
What good is that?
Why would you want to make a mockery
of, hey, I'm honest, hey, I'm sincere?
If you're honest and sincere, then you shouldn't
need to tell people you are.
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When I was younger, you used to say,
hey, you know, I'm the real thing.
You can't do that, guys.
The reason you don't do that is because
it makes people think that you're not the
real thing.
Does that make sense?
I'm hoping it does.
And so if we can understand that, then
everything else in life is easy.
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But integrity comes from a choice, a choice
that we don't just make today, a choice
that we make every day, kind of like
a diet, right?
We don't decide to be someone who's full
of integrity one day and stop the next
day and say, oh, it's hard.
Being someone of integrity, sometimes it's not easy.
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You know, somebody's not doing a great job.
You have to tell them.
But it doesn't mean to be rude.
Whenever you're around people and they're doing something
that is dishonest and you're hanging around that
crowd and other people are there and you're
not saying anything, you are consenting to their
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actions.
This is why lots of times in grammar
school, in high school, when people hang around
the big kids, it's like, you know, you
can be with us, but just don't say
anything.
And really what they're saying is you can
hang around us, but you've got to agree
with everything.
Now, they don't say that directly, but the
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fact that they say you don't say anything,
that basically means that you're consenting.
It's kind of nasty how they're doing this.
And other people are like, oh, you're with
them?
Oh, I don't agree with that.
Well, you must agree with them.
I mean, you're not saying anything.
Oh, well, they just told me to keep
quiet.
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You told me to keep quiet.
Yeah, you're just going to talk.
Yeah, but you know, if he keeps quiet,
it actually means he's agreeing with you.
It does?
Yeah.
And then they start to feel really bad
and then they start to be like, well,
we didn't mean it like that.
We just, you know, we just didn't want
them to talk because, you know, like, you
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know, we're just like, they're BSing.
And I've known many people that say they're
going to help you.
And then when the push comes to shove,
they suddenly have plans.
Oh, was that this weekend?
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Oh, was that this restaurant?
Oh, was that the time you meant today?
I thought you meant PM, not AM or
something like that.
It's horrible how people play these games with
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others in the world.
And I have to tell you, this is
a form of manipulation.
It really is.
I mean, whether you say something, you don't
say something, right?
The fact that you're quiet means that you're
secretly, that you're agreeing.
And somebody didn't know that.
Like many years ago, I might not have
known that.
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And here I am there, not saying anything
and agreeing.
And now somebody comes along, they're not doing
something right.
I can get in trouble because now I'm
agreeing with them.
That seems really, like, bad.
Well, ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know
who I am by now, allow me to
introduce myself again.
I am Mr. John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, and it's always such a
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privilege, a pleasure, and honor to be with
you here on Inspirations for Your Life, as
well as many other shows.
I hope that you guys will take some
serious thought over tonight, tomorrow, Wednesday, and Thursday
and figure out what you want to get
for Halloween, like what you want to be.
You still have time to go to the
Spirit Halloween or other stores, and you'll probably
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spend like $100 or more.
I know the one year...
I told you I might wear my costume
on Halloween.
I'm not sure yet.
I might.
I might do a Halloween show, I have
to say.
And I have a couple costumes.
And the one costume, I'm not gonna tell
you what it is.
One costume, I think I spent like $100
for it.
Costume's not worth 30 bucks or 20 bucks.
But because it's Halloween, and because it's a
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captive market, they can get that price.
I remember buying a door knocker several years
ago.
I think it was like 60 bucks.
And it plays all these like, well, they're
kind of funny, but a little bit scary
type of things for people coming to your
door, basically trying to get rid of any
trick-or-treaters.
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But it's basically this like, this talking head,
if you will.
I hope you guys have enjoyed this, and
I hope you understand that micro moments of
integrity are meant to last.
They're meant to give you a tip, and
hopefully that you'll choose to, let's say, keep
up this diet for the rest of your
life.
Because if you do, those will be the
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people that will hang around you.
If you just sip the lemonade for one
day, and you come off it, well, you're
not gonna attract the same people.
People are wise, and people want to hang
around people that they want to be with.
It's positive energy.
Have yourself a great evening or a good
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day, and I'll catch you real soon, everyone.
Be well.
Take care.
Well, hello there, everyone.
It is John C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
It's great to be with you.
It's actually a Monday evening.
This is October 27th, 2025.
We just have one, two, three, four more
days until Halloween.
Do you know what you're going to be?
All right.
You got a few days to think about
that.
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Welcome to the show.
If this is your first time here, I
want to take the opportunity to say welcome
and thank you.
If you're coming back, I definitely want to
say welcome back and thank you for coming
back and thank you for choosing to make
my content a daily part of your life
to apply and become a better version of
you.
All right, guys.
If you are new here, don't forget to
check out BelieveMeAchieved.com.
(01:05):
Right after the show, you can get long
-form content, short-form content, replay these shows
and other shows and articles and much more.
So definitely check that out.
I just had dinner not too long ago.
So feel free to go get yourself either
a snack from the kitchen.
It could be some RO water.
It could be another beverage, hot or cold.
It could be fruit.
It could be nuts, something sweet, tart.
(01:27):
Healthy or not, that's totally up to you.
And if you guys remember, for those of
you that are coming back, but if you're
new, I'll let you know.
This week, we have another great master topic.
So our master topics always start on a
Saturday and they wind up on a Friday.
So we go Saturday to Friday.
That's our week.
(01:47):
And so the master topic for this week
is everyday wisdom on doing what's right.
Tonight's granular topic is micro moments of integrity.
30 everyday ways to do the right things.
That's series four, show 44, episode number three.
Without any further ado, guys, let's kick this
show off.
All right.
(02:08):
I know you're excited as well as I
am.
So let's get this show off the ground.
Welcome.
Like I said, welcome, welcome, welcome to another
episode of the ever popular inspirations for your
life.
And tonight we're featuring micro moments of integrity,
30 everyday ways to do the right thing.
Now, a lot of times people don't do
(02:31):
the right thing because no one else is
watching, but that is exactly when you should
be doing the right thing.
Even when somebody else is not watching.
Again, this is series four, show 44, episode
three.
That means, guys, in less than a few
months, we will be done with series four
and we'll be on series five.
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We'll be on the air five years.
Wow.
On the ever popular inspirations for your life
show.
I am your host, John Seymour, serial entrepreneur,
engineer, marketing specialist.
I'm sure you know that, right?
And yes, I do a lot of great
things here.
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Besides being a marketing specialist, I'm also a
podcast host, podcast coach, regular coach, and marketing
specialist, right?
Video producer.
And I'm also a graduate student, of course,
a passionate lifelong learner.
And that's pretty cool, guys.
And today or tonight, I invite you on
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a journey with me to explore how ordinary
choices become extraordinary acts of character.
Through my own experience and wisdom collected along
the way, I'm going to guide you into
uncovering how the simplest actions can create a
ripple effect of integrity.
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And that's real change.
Integrity is something you don't want to speak
lightly about because integrity is not something you
do to brag.
Integrity is something you are, you become, because
you want the best.
You want others to have the best.
So speakably, gentlemen, when you witness unfairness, silence
can be mistaken for consent.
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I don't know if you know that.
So if you're around somebody and they're doing
the wrong thing and you're not speaking up,
it means that you agree with them.
Yeah, isn't that terrible?
But just so you know that, silence means
that you agree.
When you step forward to address unfairness, you
show courage and help set the tone that
justice matters.
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Whether it's in the workplace, among friends, or
out in public, your voice can protect those
who might otherwise be overlooked.
I think that's a very important one to
think about, right?
How you can be, how things can be
overlooked.
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And that overlooked is something that might trip
you up sometimes, but it shouldn't.
It should help you realize one thing, that
you can return lost items even if no
one's watching.
And so doing the right thing when no
one else sees proves true integrity.
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Returning lost belongings not only helps the owner,
it builds self-respect.
Did you know that?
Yeah, it builds self-respect.
And these gestures start to build trust in
your community, even if the reward is just
the satisfaction of honesty.
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Apologize sincerely when you're wrong.
I know a lot of us out there
when I was younger, I never want to
admit that I was wrong, but you know
what?
It's okay to be wrong sometimes.
I'd rather be wrong than be dishonest.
I think that's an important marvel that I
want to drive home tonight.
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Being right is great, but if you're wrong,
it's better to fess up and say you're
wrong than to be dishonest.
A genuine apology restores relationships and it builds
trust.
Owning up to mistakes with humility shows maturity
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and creates space for healing while teaching others
that growth is possible for everyone.
You know, I think a lot of times
people want to take the credit and I
get that, but the best credit is usually
when there's no credit, when people just happen
to just appreciate the value.
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But a lot of people stand and say,
hey, you know, I want to get that
credit, right?
I deserve that credit.
Give credit before taking any yourself.
Everyone I know always wants to take the
credit themselves, but a true leader knows how
to give credit first before ever taking any
credit themselves.
That's truthful.
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Recognizing others' contributions uplifts teams and builds commodity
by celebrating others' wins before your own.
You invite collaboration and foster a positive environment,
setting an example for leadership.
Yeah, leadership.
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And I think sometimes, you know, that can
be a problem for some people because they
don't necessarily know, like, you know, what that
means.
And what I want to tell you is
that leadership is not something you're born with.
Leadership is something that you learn along the
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way, all right?
It's something you learn along the way.
And because you learn this along the way,
it's like things change.
And you get these different perspectives in your
life.
I think that's really important.
Keep your promises, big or small.
I've known people that have promised things and
you know what?
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They always unpromised things because, well, they got
a better offer.
Not only is that rude, that breaks trust.
I'm sure you've had friends that have done
that in the past, right?
They kind of look to see if something
else better is going on.
If there is, well, then they make an
excuse that, well, you know what?
I have something else to do.
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I totally forgot I had something else to
do.
Like, come on.
Like, seriously?
I mean, you're going to play that game
with people, like your friends?
You're really going to play that game?
But people do play that game.
They play that game every single day.
And I think that hurts a lot of
people.
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It hurts a lot of people to know
that, you know, they thought they were important
or mattered to that person.
And then it's like, whoops, I guess you
don't matter.
That hits below the belt.
Trust is earned through reliability.
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Commit to your word.
Whether the promise is large or it's trivial,
it's the consistency that people remember and rely
upon.
Laying the foundation for strong, lasting connections.
So whether you promise to get your friend
a candy bar or you promise to spend
time with him or her, when you're a
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person that says something and then you don't
do what you say.
Like, I had a new friend that I
just met not too long ago.
And, you know, when you promise you're going
to do something, you do it.
Like, if you're going to go visit them
or spend time with them, you spend time
with them.
You do it.
Okay?
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I think that's the difference between somebody who's
being honest and somebody who is just, well,
going through life with emotions.
You know, there was a great person a
while back that said something very interesting I'm
going to share with you.
And that was the fact that, you know,
a lot of times we think that, you
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know, our day is getting too crazy for
us or there's too much in our day.
But actually it's not that at all.
It's our perspective.
You know, one, you feel like, oh my
gosh, I feel like I'm just overwhelmed.
And then the next day you can just
chill and you can realize that you got
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more done than you expected or just exactly
what you want to get done.
And you didn't feel overwhelmed or burdened.
That's key guys.
Offer your seat to someone who needs it.
What do I mean by that?
Well, that doesn't just mean, you know, somebody
on the bus.
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Okay.
That could mean something proverbial, right?
And if we think about proverbial, we're talking
about a situation that hypothetically may or may
not exist.
You know, maybe you've been on the bus
before and somebody wants that chair.
So you give them that chair.
Why?
Because it's the right thing to do.
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But do you do it because other people
are watching you or would you give that
seat to that person, even if no one
else was on the bus?
I know if I was on the bus
and whether somebody was watching me or not,
I would still offer that seat to that
other person, that elder person.
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And you know, life sometimes can be an
enigma and the enigma can kind of put
us into this, this tailspin or a merry
-go-round saying, oh my gosh, how do
I get off this merry-go-round?
Like we've all been through those times.
Right.
So we have to learn to sip the
Kool-Aid, sip the water, sip the drink,
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enjoy the food.
Okay.
Bite, bite, bite, bite, bite.
Not like chunk by chunk by chunk.
Okay.
Not mouthful by mouthful, but bite by bite.
And when we can do bite by bite,
that's when we start to appreciate what is
around us.
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And that's also, ladies and gentlemen, when we
can slow things down, when we can slow
things down.
And I think that's a very important point
is that when we slow things down, we
find that life gets easier for us.
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Life gets easier for us.
Why?
I think it's because things change for us
and we get that different perspective of life,
right?
We get that completely different perspective of life.
And that perspective of life says, Hey, this
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is what's going on.
And that might get you to change.
Like, oh my gosh, like I don't believe
that.
Like, I can't believe I just did that.
And I'm here to tell you that that
is what makes your difference, guys.
That is what makes your difference.
Nothing else.
It's the little things that you do in
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life that make the difference.
I said the little things, right?
The little things.
So the little things matter sometimes more than
the big things, because the little things teach
us to have humility.
The little things teach us to appreciate life.
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The little things allow us to give a
gesture that doesn't have to be a grand
one and how we can make a difference
in other people's lives.
Small moments of kindness, speak volumes, offering your
seat, as I said, shows you're aware of
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others' needs and are willing to sacrifice comfort.
So someone else can benefit, reinforcing empathy and
respect for all.
How about holding the door?
So holding the door is another one.
You might think, well, what big sacrifice is
that?
Well, plenty.
If you're outside and you're holding the door
and you're freezing your butt off, holding the
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door means a lot to people.
It doesn't cost you anything to be nice.
It does not cost you anything to be
nice.
But if you are nice, then it's like
it's icing on the cake.
And people love it when you can be
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genuine, when you could be nice because you
want to be nice.
So honesty, guys.
Honesty is very, very important.
I think sometimes we don't realize the compliment.
Complimenting others, honestly, not for flattery, but to
be authentic.
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Compliments uplift without expectation.
When people give a compliment, so many people
I know are doing it because they're waiting
for something, they're looking for something.
They've already got their compliment.
They've already got what they need.
That's not anything special, guys.
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That's nothing special.
If we can just live in the moment
without an expectation, try that tomorrow.
Live in the moment without any expectation.
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And when your words come from truth rather
than from superficial flattery, you nurture genuine encouragement,
thus helping others believe in themselves.
I'm not going to name any specific people
here, but I want to share some situations.
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So I was at a not-for-profit
not too long ago.
And I was just blown away with the
amount of, let's say, superficialness that actually exists
there.
The superficialness that actually exists there.
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And so I think that's something that a
lot of people don't realize, that we stay
a certain way, we go a certain way
because we want to make a difference.
But some people do this for no other
reason.
And that reason, guys, is because they want
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to make a difference.
A difference in your life, a difference in
their life, right?
It's about difference.
And so I want to tell you that
you can change things, but you have to
be somebody that wants to do this.
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You have to be vested in yourself and
vested in others.
So many people I know will do things
because they want to please a crowd.
That's nonsense, guys.
That's absolutely nonsense.
And they do it because they think they're
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going to get something, but in the end,
they don't get anything.
They just get disappointment.
If you give a compliment because it's going
to be the best and you're doing it
for integrity, okay, then it's going to work
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for you, okay?
If you're doing it because you're trying to
impress somebody or you're trying to say, hey,
look at me, what you do in secret
or what few people know about you will
be rewarded in public.
This is actually something that was stated in
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the Bible.
I don't know if any of you guys
are religious here.
But flattery, I see this so many times
at not-for-profits and they think that
they are doing the best for everyone, but
you know what they're not doing?
They're just lying to themselves and everybody else.
Refuse to gossip about yourself, about friends or
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in public.
Your voice can protect those who might otherwise
be overlooked, okay?
These are important things to realize, guys.
And I think if we can understand this
and know that our team works, that's important,
guys.
Really, really important.
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Check in on people.
Do the right thing when no one else
sees that you are doing it.
This proves true integrity, belongingness, and it not
only helps the owner, but it builds self
-respect.
And these gestures, well, they build trust, guys.
Authentic compliments lift up the community, okay?
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They lift up the community.
Respect boundaries, even when no one else enforces
them.
Boundaries deserve respect, even if no one else
is watching.
Apologize sincerely.
We talked about that.
I think that's a really big one.
But I think to own your own decisions
for good or bad and be accountable.
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That's right, guys.
Be accountable because it'll build trust over and
over again.
And owning up to mistakes with humility shows
maturity, right?
We know these things, but why is it
we don't do them?
And it creates space for healing.
We know that.
While teaching others that growth is possible for
everyone, right?
I think these are hard for some people
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to realize, but I want to tell you
that life is about being human.
It's about being kind, right?
Keeping confidences.
Don't betray private discussions.
What you learn from your friends in secret,
let it stay in secret.
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Don't try to be a hero because you
think you're going to be a gossiper and
you're going to know all the juice of
people.
No one's going to like you.
Set an example for leadership, okay?
Keep your promises, as I said, big or
small.
This is so very important.
Commit to your word today and every day
forward, whether the promise, like I said, is
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trivial or whether it's something that really doesn't
matter to you.
It matters to others.
Learn to use someone's correct name.
Names, as Dale Carnegie said, are the most
important thing.
So learn how to say their name.
If you don't, ask them.
They'll be happy to help you.
And rely on laying the foundation for strong,
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lasting connections because when you know somebody's name,
it's the most beautiful word that they ever
could hear.
Offer your seat to someone, as I said,
who needs it.
And I think these small moments of kindness
speak volumes, right?
They speak volumes because when we understand, like,
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what's happening or why these things are happening,
I think that really changes, like, it changes
who we are.
And the who we are is not so
we can brag that, hey, I'm this, I'm
that.
We build ourselves up for integrity because we
are a person of integrity.
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If we have to go on to, hey,
I'm integrity, hey, I'm honest, well, what good
is that?
Right?
What good is that?
Why would you want to make a mockery
of, hey, I'm honest, hey, I'm sincere?
If you're honest and sincere, then you shouldn't
need to tell people you are.
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When I was younger, you used to say,
hey, you know, I'm the real thing.
You can't do that, guys.
The reason you don't do that is because
it makes people think that you're not the
real thing.
Does that make sense?
I'm hoping it does.
And so if we can understand that, then
everything else in life is easy.
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But integrity comes from a choice, a choice
that we don't just make today, a choice
that we make every day, kind of like
a diet, right?
We don't decide to be someone who's full
of integrity one day and stop the next
day and say, oh, it's hard.
Being someone of integrity, sometimes it's not easy.
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You know, somebody's not doing a great job.
You have to tell them.
But it doesn't mean to be rude.
Whenever you're around people and they're doing something
that is dishonest and you're hanging around that
crowd and other people are there and you're
not saying anything, you are consenting to their
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actions.
This is why lots of times in grammar
school, in high school, when people hang around
the big kids, it's like, you know, you
can be with us, but just don't say
anything.
And really what they're saying is you can
hang around us, but you've got to agree
with everything.
Now, they don't say that directly, but the
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fact that they say you don't say anything,
that basically means that you're consenting.
It's kind of nasty how they're doing this.
And other people are like, oh, you're with
them?
Oh, I don't agree with that.
Well, you must agree with them.
I mean, you're not saying anything.
Oh, well, they just told me to keep
quiet.
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You told me to keep quiet.
Yeah, you're just going to talk.
Yeah, but you know, if he keeps quiet,
it actually means he's agreeing with you.
It does?
Yeah.
And then they start to feel really bad
and then they start to be like, well,
we didn't mean it like that.
We just, you know, we just didn't want
them to talk because, you know, like, you
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know, we're just like, they're BSing.
And I've known many people that say they're
going to help you.
And then when the push comes to shove,
they suddenly have plans.
Oh, was that this weekend?
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Oh, was that this restaurant?
Oh, was that the time you meant today?
I thought you meant PM, not AM or
something like that.
It's horrible how people play these games with
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others in the world.
And I have to tell you, this is
a form of manipulation.
It really is.
I mean, whether you say something, you don't
say something, right?
The fact that you're quiet means that you're
secretly, that you're agreeing.
And somebody didn't know that.
Like many years ago, I might not have
known that.
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And here I am there, not saying anything
and agreeing.
And now somebody comes along, they're not doing
something right.
I can get in trouble because now I'm
agreeing with them.
That seems really, like, bad.
Well, ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know
who I am by now, allow me to
introduce myself again.
I am Mr. John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, and it's always such a
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privilege, a pleasure, and honor to be with
you here on Inspirations for Your Life, as
well as many other shows.
I hope that you guys will take some
serious thought over tonight, tomorrow, Wednesday, and Thursday
and figure out what you want to get
for Halloween, like what you want to be.
You still have time to go to the
Spirit Halloween or other stores, and you'll probably
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spend like $100 or more.
I know the one year...
I told you I might wear my costume
on Halloween.
I'm not sure yet.
I might.
I might do a Halloween show, I have
to say.
And I have a couple costumes.
And the one costume, I'm not gonna tell
you what it is.
One costume, I think I spent like $100
for it.
Costume's not worth 30 bucks or 20 bucks.
But because it's Halloween, and because it's a
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captive market, they can get that price.
I remember buying a door knocker several years
ago.
I think it was like 60 bucks.
And it plays all these like, well, they're
kind of funny, but a little bit scary
type of things for people coming to your
door, basically trying to get rid of any
trick-or-treaters.
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But it's basically this like, this talking head,
if you will.
I hope you guys have enjoyed this, and
I hope you understand that micro moments of
integrity are meant to last.
They're meant to give you a tip, and
hopefully that you'll choose to, let's say, keep
up this diet for the rest of your
life.
Because if you do, those will be the
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people that will hang around you.
If you just sip the lemonade for one
day, and you come off it, well, you're
not gonna attract the same people.
People are wise, and people want to hang
around people that they want to be with.
It's positive energy.
Have yourself a great evening or a good
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day, and I'll catch you real soon, everyone.
Be well.
Take care.
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