July 9, 2025 • 27 mins
Welcome to another inspiring episode of the Inspirations for Your Life Podcast! I’m your host, John C. Morley — Serial Entrepreneur, Podcast Coach, and Motivational Speaker. In today’s episode, we’re diving into something every achiever needs to hear: Patience is not weakness—it’s your greatest strength. When the world rushes for results, it’s the patient ones who build lasting impact. Today’s insights are about pacing your progress, trusting the process, and remembering that the greatest things in life are not instant—they are intentional. Whether you're waiting for success, clarity, or healing, this episode will help you stay grounded and grow stronger through the wait. 🌱💪 1️⃣ Growth Takes Time 🌱
You wouldn’t expect a tree to grow overnight—so why expect that of yourself? Every meaningful goal takes time, nurturing, and space to evolve. Growth isn’t a sprint; it’s a steady expansion of your mindset, skills, and resilience. Give yourself permission to move at your own pace. Each day you show up, you’re expanding—even if you don’t see it yet. 2️⃣ Rushing Ruins Results ⏩💥
Haste often leads to missteps. Whether you're launching a business, starting a relationship, or learning a new skill, rushing can break the very foundation you're trying to build. Great results come from thoughtful, deliberate action. Pause. Reflect. Then proceed with purpose—because real success doesn’t respond well to panic. 3️⃣ Patience Builds Power 🧘♂️
Patience is like a quiet form of strength training for your spirit. It stretches your endurance and deepens your inner peace. Each time you choose to wait instead of worry, you strengthen your self-discipline. Over time, that calm turns into clarity, and clarity into confidence—making you unstoppable. 4️⃣ Progress Is a Process 🔄
There’s a rhythm to growth that can’t be forced. Some days you’ll leap forward, others you’ll feel stuck. But every step, even the frustrating ones, is part of a greater process. Honor the journey. Progress isn’t linear, but it is real—especially when you stay committed through every twist and turn. 5️⃣ Delay Isn’t Denial 🚧
Just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t. Life’s delays are often hidden lessons or divine redirections. Instead of giving up, ask what the moment is trying to teach you. A closed door now might just be protecting you until the right one opens later—with better timing and bigger rewards. 6️⃣ Small Steps = Big Wins 🪜🏆
Never underestimate the power of a single small step. One tiny effort, repeated consistently, can change your entire life. Whether it’s reading a page a day, saving a dollar a week, or making one new connection—you’re building momentum. Over time, those small steps stack into massive achievement. 7️⃣ Trust the Journey 🛤️
Not everything will make sense right away—and that’s okay. When you trust the journey, you learn to value each moment instead of only chasing the outcome. You begin to recognize that detours often lead to better destinations and that who you become on the way is just as important as where you’re going. 8️⃣ Stay Consistent 📆
Consistency is the invisible glue that holds progress together. Show up even when you don’t feel like it. Keep practicing, building, reaching—especially on the days you feel like nothing’s working. Results will come, but only to those who keep showing up, again and again and again. 9️⃣ Pressure Creates Diamonds 💎
The most beautiful outcomes often come from intense conditions. Just like carbon becomes a diamond under pressure, your challenges can refine you into something extraordinary. Don’t fear the pressure—embrace it as a signal that transformation is happening. You are being shaped for greatness. 🔟 Results Need Nurturing ☀️💧
Results, like plants, need consistent care. Water your goals with action, feed them with belief, and give them time to bloom. Skipping the nurturing phase can kill momentum. But steady attention, even
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(00:22):
Well, hello there, everyone.
It is John Simlin.
It's great to be with you on Inspiration
for Life.
Thanks so much for popping in tonight.
You know, we have an awesome master topic
for this week, and that is trust the
process and ditch the horse.
All right.
The granular topic for tonight is patience fuels
progress.
(00:42):
And that, by the way, is Series 4,
show 28, episode number 5.
Wow.
Can you believe that, guys?
That's actually incredible.
All right.
So, if you're new here, well, I want
to say welcome to you.
If you are joining us for the very
first time, then, of course, I'd like to
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Thanks so much for being here.
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Go off to the kitchen and go get
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I know mine are delicious.
I'm actually going to try one right now.
They are very good.
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Really good.
So, go get something.
Come on back.
Maybe it's water or something else.
Get comfortable, and let's kick off the show,
right?
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believemeachie.com for more of my amazing, of
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And I think you'll really enjoy that.
But do that after the show, okay?
24 hours a day.
So, welcome, everyone, to another awe-inspiring episode
of the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life
podcast with now over 175,000 people watching
us.
I'm your host.
Of course, you probably know that.
I'm a podcast coach, serial entrepreneur, video producer,
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motivational speaker, engineer, and a lot more.
I'm also a graduate student now, too.
And I'm John C.
Morley.
It is a privilege, of course, and a
pleasure to be with you here on the
Inspirations for Your Life show.
So, definitely appreciate you guys being here with
me.
So, let's go ahead and get going because
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I have a lot, a lot to share
with you.
So, in tonight's episode, I'm going to be
diving into something every achiever needs to hear.
Patience is not weakness.
It's your greatest strength.
And ladies and gentlemen, when the world rushes
for results, it's the patient ones who build
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lasting impact.
Today's insights are about pacing your progress, trusting
the process, and remembering that the greatest things
in life are not instant.
They are intentional.
Whether you're waiting for success, clarity, or perhaps
healing, being from this episode, will help you
(03:15):
stay grounded and grow stronger through, well, the
weight.
And I guess I want to kick that
off with growth takes time.
All right?
And so, you wouldn't expect a tree, ladies
and gentlemen, to grow overnight.
So, why expect that of yourself?
Every meaningful goal takes time, nurturing, and space
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to evolve.
Growth isn't a sprint.
It's a steady expansion of your mindset, skills,
and resilience.
Give yourself permission to move at your own
pace.
Each day you show up, you're expanding, even
if you don't see it yet.
Number two, guys, rushing ruins results.
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Yes, it ruins results.
So, what I want to tell you is
that haste often leads to missteps.
Whether you're launching a business, starting a relationship,
or learning a new skill, rushing can break
the very foundation you're trying so hard to
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build.
Great results, ladies and gentlemen, come from thoughtful,
deliberate actions.
They're intentional, right?
Pause, reflect, then proceed with purpose, because real
success doesn't respond well to panic.
Maybe you didn't learn that yet, but you
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will.
Number three, I think, is a really important
one that I hope all of you guys
will get.
And that is patience builds power.
Patience is like a quiet form of strength,
training for your spirit.
It stretches your endurance and deepens your inner
peace.
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Each time you choose to wait instead of
worry, you strengthen your self-discipline.
Over time, that calm turns into clarity, and
clarity into confidence, making you unstoppable, guys.
Yes, unstoppable.
Progress, number four, is a process.
There's rhythm to growth that can't be forced.
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Some days, you'll leap forward.
Others, you'll feel stuck.
But every step, even the frustrating ones, is
part of a greater process in life.
Honor your journey.
Progress isn't linear, folks, but it is real,
especially when you stay committed through every twist
and every turn.
Number five, guys.
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Ready for number five?
Sure you are.
Number five is delay isn't denial.
Just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean
it won't.
Life's delays are often hidden lessons or divine
redirections.
Instead of giving up, ask what the moment
is trying to teach you.
A closed door now might just be protecting
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you until the right one opens later with
better timing and bigger rewards.
And I want to dive back to yesterday's
show.
So I was doing work for a client
of mine, and that client actually sent me
out to one of their clients.
And this was the first time in over
30 some years that I've been doing technology
work, being an engineer, that I had a
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help desk that I was working with that
was disrespecting me.
Now, of course, there's disrespect, and there's different
levels, right?
But this disrespect, I realized, was a lot
deeper than most disrespect.
And I said, you know what?
If I tolerate this, that means that I
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don't love myself.
And I do love myself a lot.
So here's what happened.
I was troubleshooting, basically, a router that had
gone down.
I told them there was no power.
I'm not going to relive the whole story
from yesterday.
But my point is that I was trying
to convey to them that the router had
no power.
I did tests on the plug and everything.
And it confirmed that the router, basically, the
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power supply inside the Cisco router or the
motherboard, went bad or both.
So I explained this to them.
One gentleman even came on the phone after
the team scored a while, and he basically
apologized.
Oh, it's a power issue.
We thought it was an internet issue.
So anyway, blah, blah, blah.
He leaves the line.
Another person goes on.
But now what I didn't realize is that
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they weren't listening, and they were yelling at
me.
Now, this wasn't very evident to me until
something happened.
You know what that was?
Something happened to me.
As I was walking out to the lobby,
because that's where the windows were and I
could see things, I started to get very
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hot.
The air conditioning in this suite wasn't great
in this VIP office complex.
And I started to feel very dizzy.
And it was the point where I was
like, I almost feel like I was going
to pass out.
And I don't know what was going on.
And then I noticed that my ear, my
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left ear, couldn't hear.
And I said, probably this is just something
happened.
Then I realized that this was disrespect from
the people on the other end of the
phone or the video call.
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And I said to myself, John, if you
allow people to do this to you, they'll
do it to you your whole life.
So you've got to put your foot down.
Number one, in my report, I wrote a
whole three or four sentences about how they
were rude and how I had no hearing
for over an hour and a half.
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It took me close to two hours till
my dizziness went away.
I mean, literally I was walking to the
chair and I was like, okay, I just
got to sit down.
I mean, I felt like I know if
I was going to keep my fluids down.
I mean, I was like, it was a
very nauseating feeling.
So here's what happened.
When they had been yelling in my ear,
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and this is another reason why you've got
to take your ears very, very seriously.
They were causing my equilibrium to come off
balance.
And when that happens, you know what happens?
You get very disoriented.
And I even let the person know who
dispatched me know what had happened.
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And this person, it's now well over 24
hours, did not even reach out to me.
When I told him I was leaving the
site and I finalized everything, he didn't even
reach out to me and say, John, how
are you feeling?
He reached out.
So I said to myself, this isn't right.
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And if they can't respect me, I got
to respect myself and never take another call
from them again.
I said, there'll be no more phone calls.
It'll only be chat.
They were really horrible.
So I bring this to your attention because
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when we think about, you know, patience, and
I was extremely patient, like other people in
the office were saying, John, you are so
patient.
Like these people just don't get it.
Like, thank you for fighting for us.
And at the end of the day, okay,
I didn't even get called back to do
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the second part of the job.
The fact that they didn't even check back
and say, hey, John, how are you feeling?
Right.
How are you feeling?
Nothing.
So I realized I got to respect myself
enough to say, you know what, goodbye.
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Number six, small steps equal big wins.
Never underestimate the power of a single small
step.
One tiny effort repeated consistently can change your
entire life, whether it's reading a page a
day, saving a dollar a week, or making
one new connection.
You're building momentum, maybe slowly, but you're doing
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it continuously.
Over time, these small steps will stack up
and compound very similar to interest and bank
accounts into massive achievement.
Number seven, guys, trust the journey.
So before I get into this point, I
was there and I was literally praying.
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Now, I am religious.
For those of you who don't know, I'm
a Roman Catholic.
And I was doing some Hail Marys, which
I usually do.
But I was praying and I was like,
I closed my eyes and I was like
in that comfortable chair.
And I was sweating quite a bit.
And I was just, you know, praying I
was staying going to stay alert.
Like I even walked outside where there was
better air conditioning.
So the air conditioning did not help that
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it wasn't working right.
But the fact that they imbalanced my equilibrium.
Okay.
And if they were yelling so loud, they're
probably on speakerphone.
I had the phone in my ear.
So disrespectful.
Not everything will make sense right away.
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And that's okay.
When you trust the journey, learn to value
each moment instead of only chasing the outcome.
You begin to recognize that detours often lead
to, well, better destinations.
And that who you become on the way
is just as important as where you're going.
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Sitting a lot of people focus on getting
to a destination.
There's nothing wrong with that.
But I think we have to enjoy the
journey and also enjoy who we're changing and
becoming into.
Is the person we're journeying, let's say with
ourselves, are we journeying to where we want
to be?
So when I stepped back and I had
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this moment, first thing I said to myself,
I always take care of my body, but
I said, you know what?
I didn't respect myself today.
I let my voice try to overpower theirs.
When they were yelling at me, I should
have just said, you know what?
I'm ending this call.
When they started getting nasty, I'm like, I'm
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going to say, the call's over.
This call's over.
And that is rude.
I should have said, look, gentlemen, it was
a bunch of gentlemen.
I was like, look, I have to tell
you, I'm going to ask you once.
I'm going to ask you to please lower
your voice.
If I have to ask you again, I'm
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going to terminate this call.
Do you understand me?
And they probably would have just been smug
and told me to hang up.
But you know what?
At that point, it wasn't even about what
I was getting paid for the job.
I didn't even care whether they paid me
for that ticket.
I didn't even care.
My self-respect, discipline, and knowing that that
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moment, which put me into a frenzy for
a couple hours, taught me that I don't
ever want to do that again.
So that taught me that, you know, you
might notice for those of you that are
watching the show, I actually keep my right
ear away just a little bit.
The reason I do that is because when
you have the earphones on 100%, what can
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happen is you can lose the connection of
how loud your voice is to what you
can hear.
So by having just the earphone open a
little bit, I can still hear that because
over the headphones, it would be a little
bit harder.
And so I remember talking to one of
the people in the U.S. and saying,
look, and the person, oh, why are you
yelling at me?
And I said, and I explained that my
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ears, but they didn't even care.
That's wrong.
Number eight, guys, stay consistent.
Consistency is the invisible glue that holds progress
together.
Show up even when you don't feel like
it.
Keep practicing, building, reaching, especially on the days
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you feel like nothing's working.
Results will come, my friends, but only to
those who keep showing up again and again
and again and again and again, keep showing
up.
Keep building that habit.
Number nine, pressure creates diamonds.
We know this, right, from history.
The most beautiful outcomes often come from intense
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conditions, just like carbon becomes a diamond under
pressure.
Your challenges can refine you into something extraordinary.
So I went through some very harsh conditions.
And what I learned from that condition that
I went through is that I couldn't hear
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in one ear for a while, okay?
It was actually my, I believe it was
my left ear, so I had my phone
in my left ear.
And there was even a buzzing in my
ears.
And I learned that I have to not
worry about being a loud voice.
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Usually I don't care about being loud.
But on this call, it was so important
to get the point across.
And I said to myself, why do I
even care that they understand the right answer?
Why do I even care?
And so that's what I learned here, is
that when they were being rude to me,
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I should have immediately said, look, gentlemen, you
know, you're yelling at me.
We need to lower our tone.
And you're on speakerphone.
I have this to my ear.
And, you know, maybe I should have put
them on speaker.
And maybe I should have said, look, gentlemen,
I can't hear you.
Okay.
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And I'm not going to talk any louder
than this.
And it really got me to respect myself
in the sense that I don't want to
argue.
I never have that with any of my
clients.
I dealt with this help desk once before.
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And they were rude.
But never got to the point where I
felt like I wanted to go to hospital.
All because of what?
Because of some disrespect.
Now, what happened in the end game?
The end game is I may never go
back to the beginning.
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If I do, which would be rare, I'm
not going to pick up a text.
And maybe this is a great lesson.
So, through all that pressure I went to,
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I got refined and I got to learn
that I don't need to be loud to
be in control.
I need to speak softly and carry a
big stick.
If you notice, most of the times you
hear me, I'm not yelling and screaming.
I'm passionate about things.
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But the reason was they were not listening.
I shouldn't even care that they weren't listening.
But under that pressure, built a beautiful binding.
Built more respect in my heart, my mind.
And I'm worth more.
And no human being should be subject to
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these kinds of issues.
Don't fear the pressure.
Embrace it as a signal.
A transformation is happening.
And that's what I realized after this day
was over.
A transformation was happening.
That I was learning to respect myself even
more.
And learning that I don't need to raise
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my voice.
Sometimes you're on the phone with relatives, your
parents, and you're always trying to get the
call.
Hey, you know what?
If they can't hear you, I'm not going
to talk any louder.
There's no need to talk louder.
No need at all.
There's also no need to interrupt.
Let them finish their statement.
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That was a lot that I learned.
Something I probably should have learned many years
ago.
But it just helps me evaluate every condition.
Not just the one where people were rude
to me, but conditions where if things aren't
going this way, I just need to be
quiet.
I want to say what I want to
say great.
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I'm not happy with something, don't get any
great.
There's different things I can do.
I can file lawsuits.
I can cause lots of things.
But at the end of the day, you
need to keep your sanity.
So again, don't feel the pressure.
Embrace it as a signal that transformation is
happening.
And it definitely happened to me.
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I know I never want another day with
my ear like that or disrespect like that.
I probably raised my blood pressure too, and
I never have that.
And that was a big problem.
I didn't realize I was being shaped for
greatness.
And I know God is just going to
lift me up and put me into more
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greatness.
I know that.
But I know that I got to learn
to respect myself more, even though I respect
myself quite a bit.
Results need nurturing.
Results like plants need consistent care.
What are your goals with your actions?
Feed them with belief and give them time,
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ladies and gentlemen, to bloom, to blossom.
Skipping the nurturing phase can kill momentum, but
steady attention, even small doses, will bring life
to your efforts and help them flourish in
unexpected ways.
You know, I really like speaking softly when
I give a public address.
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I mean, I'm talking louder like this, but
there's no need for me to be like
overpowering.
If I'm talking to you like this and
you can't hear me on the phone or
you're talking too loud, that's a time when
I need to say, look, are you done?
And then if they keep being rude, it's
like, but warn somebody.
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Look, you know, you're, I don't know if
you know this or not.
It could be something as simple as, hey
guys, I'm not sure if you're aware of
this.
I've been silent for a moment or two.
And there's a reason I wanted to give
you guys a chance to talk and finish
what you had to say.
I'm not going to talk over you.
So if I'm talking, that means you're not
talking.
And if you're talking, I won't be talking.
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Okay.
And if you do, I'm going to politely
warn you at the end, telling you that
if it happens again, I'm going to just
disconnect the call.
Now I know that would probably get me
trophy, but you know what?
My respect is more important, more important than
any call.
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This wasn't even my client.
It was a client's client.
Number 11, be still and stay strong in
that chair.
I sat there and, uh, I had a
glass of water.
I was going over to their kitchen.
They had like a place to get some,
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like our water.
I went to get that cold water, came
back in the glass, held it.
And I was still kind of a little
blurry and still.
And I just was asking for guidance.
Just get me to that chair.
And I sat down and said, I need
to go out and get some air.
I've got some air.
I came back and I felt better.
And just allowing things to go.
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How amazing stillness guys is not laziness.
It is true power in recovery.
When you learn to pause and breathe, you
gain clarity.
Strength isn't always loud.
Sometimes it's the quiet resolve to wait, to
listen and act at the right moment.
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Stillness renews your energy and helps you return
with better focus and sharper insight.
What am I going to do in a
couple of weeks?
If I don't hear anything, I'm going to
politely send a letter off, maybe a regular
letter, maybe a certified letter and say, look,
uh, I've enjoyed working with you.
Um, the way I was disrespected on the
last call, that can never happen again.
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And so if I go to work with
them again, I'm going to basically say, there's
going to be no phone call, just be
no phone call.
It'll strictly be text.
And, um, I hope that you are feeling
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okay, because I was just surprised that in
several weeks, you didn't even check on me
to make sure I was okay.
I told you I lost my hearing, that
I was dizzy.
Didn't even follow up with me.
I was not even one priority to you.
Number 12 guys, quiet effort brings loud success.
Not all effort needs an audience.
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Some of the most important work you'll ever
do will be invisible to others, but that's
okay.
That doesn't make it any less powerful or
important.
Silent dedication, daily discipline, and behind the scenes
action often lead to the loudest victories.
Keep working in those shadows.
Your light will shine soon.
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When you have somebody that's trying to get
the stage light, let them get it.
Maybe they're going to do well, or maybe
they're going to make a mockery of themselves.
That's not your problem.
Your issue is to keep your sanity and
also to always operate within respect.
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You don't demand it.
You request it.
And if somebody does not give you respect,
you politely let them know.
I don't know if you're aware.
I know that either moment, I notice your
voice is a little bit loud.
Uh, you might've noticed I've been silent for
a few moments.
There's a reason for that.
I'm not going to talk over you.
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And, um, when I talk, I expect you
not to talk.
And it was interesting when they shared the
report, they just cut out all the stuff
about what happened.
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Keep working my friends in the shadows.
Your light will shine soon.
Patience guys.
Isn't just waiting.
It's growing while you wait.
I learned a very expensive lesson.
I learned forget just my hearings.
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I always value my hearing.
I learned that being loud does a lot
more than just affect your hearing.
It can affect your health, blood pressure.
Um, it can possibly get you to get
off balance and equilibrium.
It can make you nauseous from embracing small
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steps to trusting your journey.
Today's episode is a reminder that real progress
is a slow burn, not a flash.
And if you pair patience and purpose, there's
nothing you can't accomplish.
My friends.
I hope you guys have a fantastic rest
of your day or evening.
I'll catch you guys real soon.
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Remember to check out, believe me, achieve.com.
Well, hello there, everyone.
It is John Simlin.
It's great to be with you on Inspiration
for Life.
Thanks so much for popping in tonight.
You know, we have an awesome master topic
for this week, and that is trust the
process and ditch the horse.
All right.
The granular topic for tonight is patience fuels
progress.
(00:42):
And that, by the way, is Series 4,
show 28, episode number 5.
Wow.
Can you believe that, guys?
That's actually incredible.
All right.
So, if you're new here, well, I want
to say welcome to you.
If you are joining us for the very
first time, then, of course, I'd like to
welcome you for the first time.
(01:04):
But if you're coming back, then, of course,
welcome back, my friends, colleagues, and associates.
Thanks so much for being here.
If you're thirsty or hungry like I was,
I got some fresh sliced apples here.
Go off to the kitchen and go get
that.
I know mine are delicious.
I'm actually going to try one right now.
They are very good.
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Really good.
So, go get something.
Come on back.
Maybe it's water or something else.
Get comfortable, and let's kick off the show,
right?
Oh, don't forget, ladies and gentlemen, to visit
believemeachie.com for more of my amazing, of
course, inspiring creations.
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And I think you'll really enjoy that.
But do that after the show, okay?
24 hours a day.
So, welcome, everyone, to another awe-inspiring episode
of the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life
podcast with now over 175,000 people watching
us.
I'm your host.
Of course, you probably know that.
I'm a podcast coach, serial entrepreneur, video producer,
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motivational speaker, engineer, and a lot more.
I'm also a graduate student now, too.
And I'm John C.
Morley.
It is a privilege, of course, and a
pleasure to be with you here on the
Inspirations for Your Life show.
So, definitely appreciate you guys being here with
me.
So, let's go ahead and get going because
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I have a lot, a lot to share
with you.
So, in tonight's episode, I'm going to be
diving into something every achiever needs to hear.
Patience is not weakness.
It's your greatest strength.
And ladies and gentlemen, when the world rushes
for results, it's the patient ones who build
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lasting impact.
Today's insights are about pacing your progress, trusting
the process, and remembering that the greatest things
in life are not instant.
They are intentional.
Whether you're waiting for success, clarity, or perhaps
healing, being from this episode, will help you
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stay grounded and grow stronger through, well, the
weight.
And I guess I want to kick that
off with growth takes time.
All right?
And so, you wouldn't expect a tree, ladies
and gentlemen, to grow overnight.
So, why expect that of yourself?
Every meaningful goal takes time, nurturing, and space
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to evolve.
Growth isn't a sprint.
It's a steady expansion of your mindset, skills,
and resilience.
Give yourself permission to move at your own
pace.
Each day you show up, you're expanding, even
if you don't see it yet.
Number two, guys, rushing ruins results.
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Yes, it ruins results.
So, what I want to tell you is
that haste often leads to missteps.
Whether you're launching a business, starting a relationship,
or learning a new skill, rushing can break
the very foundation you're trying so hard to
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build.
Great results, ladies and gentlemen, come from thoughtful,
deliberate actions.
They're intentional, right?
Pause, reflect, then proceed with purpose, because real
success doesn't respond well to panic.
Maybe you didn't learn that yet, but you
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will.
Number three, I think, is a really important
one that I hope all of you guys
will get.
And that is patience builds power.
Patience is like a quiet form of strength,
training for your spirit.
It stretches your endurance and deepens your inner
peace.
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Each time you choose to wait instead of
worry, you strengthen your self-discipline.
Over time, that calm turns into clarity, and
clarity into confidence, making you unstoppable, guys.
Yes, unstoppable.
Progress, number four, is a process.
There's rhythm to growth that can't be forced.
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Some days, you'll leap forward.
Others, you'll feel stuck.
But every step, even the frustrating ones, is
part of a greater process in life.
Honor your journey.
Progress isn't linear, folks, but it is real,
especially when you stay committed through every twist
and every turn.
Number five, guys.
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Ready for number five?
Sure you are.
Number five is delay isn't denial.
Just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean
it won't.
Life's delays are often hidden lessons or divine
redirections.
Instead of giving up, ask what the moment
is trying to teach you.
A closed door now might just be protecting
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you until the right one opens later with
better timing and bigger rewards.
And I want to dive back to yesterday's
show.
So I was doing work for a client
of mine, and that client actually sent me
out to one of their clients.
And this was the first time in over
30 some years that I've been doing technology
work, being an engineer, that I had a
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help desk that I was working with that
was disrespecting me.
Now, of course, there's disrespect, and there's different
levels, right?
But this disrespect, I realized, was a lot
deeper than most disrespect.
And I said, you know what?
If I tolerate this, that means that I
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don't love myself.
And I do love myself a lot.
So here's what happened.
I was troubleshooting, basically, a router that had
gone down.
I told them there was no power.
I'm not going to relive the whole story
from yesterday.
But my point is that I was trying
to convey to them that the router had
no power.
I did tests on the plug and everything.
And it confirmed that the router, basically, the
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power supply inside the Cisco router or the
motherboard, went bad or both.
So I explained this to them.
One gentleman even came on the phone after
the team scored a while, and he basically
apologized.
Oh, it's a power issue.
We thought it was an internet issue.
So anyway, blah, blah, blah.
He leaves the line.
Another person goes on.
But now what I didn't realize is that
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they weren't listening, and they were yelling at
me.
Now, this wasn't very evident to me until
something happened.
You know what that was?
Something happened to me.
As I was walking out to the lobby,
because that's where the windows were and I
could see things, I started to get very
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hot.
The air conditioning in this suite wasn't great
in this VIP office complex.
And I started to feel very dizzy.
And it was the point where I was
like, I almost feel like I was going
to pass out.
And I don't know what was going on.
And then I noticed that my ear, my
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left ear, couldn't hear.
And I said, probably this is just something
happened.
Then I realized that this was disrespect from
the people on the other end of the
phone or the video call.
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And I said to myself, John, if you
allow people to do this to you, they'll
do it to you your whole life.
So you've got to put your foot down.
Number one, in my report, I wrote a
whole three or four sentences about how they
were rude and how I had no hearing
for over an hour and a half.
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It took me close to two hours till
my dizziness went away.
I mean, literally I was walking to the
chair and I was like, okay, I just
got to sit down.
I mean, I felt like I know if
I was going to keep my fluids down.
I mean, I was like, it was a
very nauseating feeling.
So here's what happened.
When they had been yelling in my ear,
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and this is another reason why you've got
to take your ears very, very seriously.
They were causing my equilibrium to come off
balance.
And when that happens, you know what happens?
You get very disoriented.
And I even let the person know who
dispatched me know what had happened.
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And this person, it's now well over 24
hours, did not even reach out to me.
When I told him I was leaving the
site and I finalized everything, he didn't even
reach out to me and say, John, how
are you feeling?
He reached out.
So I said to myself, this isn't right.
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And if they can't respect me, I got
to respect myself and never take another call
from them again.
I said, there'll be no more phone calls.
It'll only be chat.
They were really horrible.
So I bring this to your attention because
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when we think about, you know, patience, and
I was extremely patient, like other people in
the office were saying, John, you are so
patient.
Like these people just don't get it.
Like, thank you for fighting for us.
And at the end of the day, okay,
I didn't even get called back to do
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the second part of the job.
The fact that they didn't even check back
and say, hey, John, how are you feeling?
Right.
How are you feeling?
Nothing.
So I realized I got to respect myself
enough to say, you know what, goodbye.
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Number six, small steps equal big wins.
Never underestimate the power of a single small
step.
One tiny effort repeated consistently can change your
entire life, whether it's reading a page a
day, saving a dollar a week, or making
one new connection.
You're building momentum, maybe slowly, but you're doing
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it continuously.
Over time, these small steps will stack up
and compound very similar to interest and bank
accounts into massive achievement.
Number seven, guys, trust the journey.
So before I get into this point, I
was there and I was literally praying.
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Now, I am religious.
For those of you who don't know, I'm
a Roman Catholic.
And I was doing some Hail Marys, which
I usually do.
But I was praying and I was like,
I closed my eyes and I was like
in that comfortable chair.
And I was sweating quite a bit.
And I was just, you know, praying I
was staying going to stay alert.
Like I even walked outside where there was
better air conditioning.
So the air conditioning did not help that
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it wasn't working right.
But the fact that they imbalanced my equilibrium.
Okay.
And if they were yelling so loud, they're
probably on speakerphone.
I had the phone in my ear.
So disrespectful.
Not everything will make sense right away.
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And that's okay.
When you trust the journey, learn to value
each moment instead of only chasing the outcome.
You begin to recognize that detours often lead
to, well, better destinations.
And that who you become on the way
is just as important as where you're going.
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Sitting a lot of people focus on getting
to a destination.
There's nothing wrong with that.
But I think we have to enjoy the
journey and also enjoy who we're changing and
becoming into.
Is the person we're journeying, let's say with
ourselves, are we journeying to where we want
to be?
So when I stepped back and I had
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this moment, first thing I said to myself,
I always take care of my body, but
I said, you know what?
I didn't respect myself today.
I let my voice try to overpower theirs.
When they were yelling at me, I should
have just said, you know what?
I'm ending this call.
When they started getting nasty, I'm like, I'm
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going to say, the call's over.
This call's over.
And that is rude.
I should have said, look, gentlemen, it was
a bunch of gentlemen.
I was like, look, I have to tell
you, I'm going to ask you once.
I'm going to ask you to please lower
your voice.
If I have to ask you again, I'm
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going to terminate this call.
Do you understand me?
And they probably would have just been smug
and told me to hang up.
But you know what?
At that point, it wasn't even about what
I was getting paid for the job.
I didn't even care whether they paid me
for that ticket.
I didn't even care.
My self-respect, discipline, and knowing that that
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moment, which put me into a frenzy for
a couple hours, taught me that I don't
ever want to do that again.
So that taught me that, you know, you
might notice for those of you that are
watching the show, I actually keep my right
ear away just a little bit.
The reason I do that is because when
you have the earphones on 100%, what can
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happen is you can lose the connection of
how loud your voice is to what you
can hear.
So by having just the earphone open a
little bit, I can still hear that because
over the headphones, it would be a little
bit harder.
And so I remember talking to one of
the people in the U.S. and saying,
look, and the person, oh, why are you
yelling at me?
And I said, and I explained that my
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ears, but they didn't even care.
That's wrong.
Number eight, guys, stay consistent.
Consistency is the invisible glue that holds progress
together.
Show up even when you don't feel like
it.
Keep practicing, building, reaching, especially on the days
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you feel like nothing's working.
Results will come, my friends, but only to
those who keep showing up again and again
and again and again and again, keep showing
up.
Keep building that habit.
Number nine, pressure creates diamonds.
We know this, right, from history.
The most beautiful outcomes often come from intense
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conditions, just like carbon becomes a diamond under
pressure.
Your challenges can refine you into something extraordinary.
So I went through some very harsh conditions.
And what I learned from that condition that
I went through is that I couldn't hear
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in one ear for a while, okay?
It was actually my, I believe it was
my left ear, so I had my phone
in my left ear.
And there was even a buzzing in my
ears.
And I learned that I have to not
worry about being a loud voice.
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Usually I don't care about being loud.
But on this call, it was so important
to get the point across.
And I said to myself, why do I
even care that they understand the right answer?
Why do I even care?
And so that's what I learned here, is
that when they were being rude to me,
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I should have immediately said, look, gentlemen, you
know, you're yelling at me.
We need to lower our tone.
And you're on speakerphone.
I have this to my ear.
And, you know, maybe I should have put
them on speaker.
And maybe I should have said, look, gentlemen,
I can't hear you.
Okay.
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And I'm not going to talk any louder
than this.
And it really got me to respect myself
in the sense that I don't want to
argue.
I never have that with any of my
clients.
I dealt with this help desk once before.
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And they were rude.
But never got to the point where I
felt like I wanted to go to hospital.
All because of what?
Because of some disrespect.
Now, what happened in the end game?
The end game is I may never go
back to the beginning.
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If I do, which would be rare, I'm
not going to pick up a text.
And maybe this is a great lesson.
So, through all that pressure I went to,
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I got refined and I got to learn
that I don't need to be loud to
be in control.
I need to speak softly and carry a
big stick.
If you notice, most of the times you
hear me, I'm not yelling and screaming.
I'm passionate about things.
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But the reason was they were not listening.
I shouldn't even care that they weren't listening.
But under that pressure, built a beautiful binding.
Built more respect in my heart, my mind.
And I'm worth more.
And no human being should be subject to
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these kinds of issues.
Don't fear the pressure.
Embrace it as a signal.
A transformation is happening.
And that's what I realized after this day
was over.
A transformation was happening.
That I was learning to respect myself even
more.
And learning that I don't need to raise
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my voice.
Sometimes you're on the phone with relatives, your
parents, and you're always trying to get the
call.
Hey, you know what?
If they can't hear you, I'm not going
to talk any louder.
There's no need to talk louder.
No need at all.
There's also no need to interrupt.
Let them finish their statement.
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That was a lot that I learned.
Something I probably should have learned many years
ago.
But it just helps me evaluate every condition.
Not just the one where people were rude
to me, but conditions where if things aren't
going this way, I just need to be
quiet.
I want to say what I want to
say great.
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I'm not happy with something, don't get any
great.
There's different things I can do.
I can file lawsuits.
I can cause lots of things.
But at the end of the day, you
need to keep your sanity.
So again, don't feel the pressure.
Embrace it as a signal that transformation is
happening.
And it definitely happened to me.
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I know I never want another day with
my ear like that or disrespect like that.
I probably raised my blood pressure too, and
I never have that.
And that was a big problem.
I didn't realize I was being shaped for
greatness.
And I know God is just going to
lift me up and put me into more
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greatness.
I know that.
But I know that I got to learn
to respect myself more, even though I respect
myself quite a bit.
Results need nurturing.
Results like plants need consistent care.
What are your goals with your actions?
Feed them with belief and give them time,
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ladies and gentlemen, to bloom, to blossom.
Skipping the nurturing phase can kill momentum, but
steady attention, even small doses, will bring life
to your efforts and help them flourish in
unexpected ways.
You know, I really like speaking softly when
I give a public address.
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I mean, I'm talking louder like this, but
there's no need for me to be like
overpowering.
If I'm talking to you like this and
you can't hear me on the phone or
you're talking too loud, that's a time when
I need to say, look, are you done?
And then if they keep being rude, it's
like, but warn somebody.
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Look, you know, you're, I don't know if
you know this or not.
It could be something as simple as, hey
guys, I'm not sure if you're aware of
this.
I've been silent for a moment or two.
And there's a reason I wanted to give
you guys a chance to talk and finish
what you had to say.
I'm not going to talk over you.
So if I'm talking, that means you're not
talking.
And if you're talking, I won't be talking.
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Okay.
And if you do, I'm going to politely
warn you at the end, telling you that
if it happens again, I'm going to just
disconnect the call.
Now I know that would probably get me
trophy, but you know what?
My respect is more important, more important than
any call.
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This wasn't even my client.
It was a client's client.
Number 11, be still and stay strong in
that chair.
I sat there and, uh, I had a
glass of water.
I was going over to their kitchen.
They had like a place to get some,
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like our water.
I went to get that cold water, came
back in the glass, held it.
And I was still kind of a little
blurry and still.
And I just was asking for guidance.
Just get me to that chair.
And I sat down and said, I need
to go out and get some air.
I've got some air.
I came back and I felt better.
And just allowing things to go.
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How amazing stillness guys is not laziness.
It is true power in recovery.
When you learn to pause and breathe, you
gain clarity.
Strength isn't always loud.
Sometimes it's the quiet resolve to wait, to
listen and act at the right moment.
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Stillness renews your energy and helps you return
with better focus and sharper insight.
What am I going to do in a
couple of weeks?
If I don't hear anything, I'm going to
politely send a letter off, maybe a regular
letter, maybe a certified letter and say, look,
uh, I've enjoyed working with you.
Um, the way I was disrespected on the
last call, that can never happen again.
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And so if I go to work with
them again, I'm going to basically say, there's
going to be no phone call, just be
no phone call.
It'll strictly be text.
And, um, I hope that you are feeling
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okay, because I was just surprised that in
several weeks, you didn't even check on me
to make sure I was okay.
I told you I lost my hearing, that
I was dizzy.
Didn't even follow up with me.
I was not even one priority to you.
Number 12 guys, quiet effort brings loud success.
Not all effort needs an audience.
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Some of the most important work you'll ever
do will be invisible to others, but that's
okay.
That doesn't make it any less powerful or
important.
Silent dedication, daily discipline, and behind the scenes
action often lead to the loudest victories.
Keep working in those shadows.
Your light will shine soon.
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When you have somebody that's trying to get
the stage light, let them get it.
Maybe they're going to do well, or maybe
they're going to make a mockery of themselves.
That's not your problem.
Your issue is to keep your sanity and
also to always operate within respect.
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You don't demand it.
You request it.
And if somebody does not give you respect,
you politely let them know.
I don't know if you're aware.
I know that either moment, I notice your
voice is a little bit loud.
Uh, you might've noticed I've been silent for
a few moments.
There's a reason for that.
I'm not going to talk over you.
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And, um, when I talk, I expect you
not to talk.
And it was interesting when they shared the
report, they just cut out all the stuff
about what happened.
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Keep working my friends in the shadows.
Your light will shine soon.
Patience guys.
Isn't just waiting.
It's growing while you wait.
I learned a very expensive lesson.
I learned forget just my hearings.
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I always value my hearing.
I learned that being loud does a lot
more than just affect your hearing.
It can affect your health, blood pressure.
Um, it can possibly get you to get
off balance and equilibrium.
It can make you nauseous from embracing small
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steps to trusting your journey.
Today's episode is a reminder that real progress
is a slow burn, not a flash.
And if you pair patience and purpose, there's
nothing you can't accomplish.
My friends.
I hope you guys have a fantastic rest
of your day or evening.
I'll catch you guys real soon.
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