June 18, 2025 • 28 mins
Welcome to the Inspirations for Your Life Podcast with me, John C. Morley — your guide to unlocking wisdom, embracing growth, and living with purpose. In today’s episode, we dive into a powerful practice that can transform the way you approach truth and understanding. We explore how seeking truth with openness and patience not only deepens our insight but also strengthens our relationships and builds resilience in a fast-paced world. Whether you’re facing tough conversations or personal challenges, this episode will inspire you to slow down, listen deeply, and welcome truth as an evolving journey.1️⃣ Seek truth with time, not urgency.Truth isn’t a race to be won or a puzzle to solve in a moment. It requires patience and the willingness to let things unfold naturally. When we give truth the time it deserves, we avoid snap judgments and open ourselves to deeper, more meaningful discoveries. Trust that the answers you seek will come when the moment is right.2️⃣ Stay open without needing to agree.Being open-minded means allowing space for ideas that challenge your current beliefs. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything you hear. Instead, practice the art of listening without immediate judgment. This openness creates a bridge to understanding and can reveal unexpected perspectives that enrich your worldview.3️⃣ Let patience guide understanding.Patience is the foundation of true comprehension. When we rush, we often miss nuance and complexity. By slowing down, we give our minds the opportunity to absorb and process information fully. This patient approach leads to clearer thinking and a calmer heart.4️⃣ Create inner stillness to hear truth.In the noise of daily life, truth often speaks softly. Cultivating moments of stillness—through meditation, reflection, or quiet journaling—allows us to tune in to that subtle voice. Inner stillness helps us separate facts from assumptions and intuition from fear.5️⃣ Release the need to be right.Holding onto being right can block growth and connection. When we let go of the ego’s insistence, we open ourselves to learning and empathy. True wisdom lies in the willingness to admit when we don’t have all the answers and to embrace uncertainty as a space for growth.6️⃣ Allow discomfort to reveal clarity.Discomfort is often the signal that our understanding is expanding. Instead of avoiding uneasy feelings, welcome them as guides pointing toward deeper truth. It’s in these moments of discomfort that we challenge old patterns and see things with fresh eyes.7️⃣ Be willing to question your own beliefs.Growth begins when we look inward and ask tough questions about what we hold true. This self-inquiry is a courageous act that invites transformation. Questioning doesn’t weaken your convictions; it strengthens them by making them conscious and intentional.8️⃣ Let truth evolve as you grow.Truth isn’t static. As you grow in experience and wisdom, your understanding of truth naturally evolves. Embrace this fluidity, knowing that what feels true today may shift tomorrow—and that’s a sign of a healthy, expanding mind.9️⃣ Listen more than you speak.One of the most powerful ways to seek truth is through listening. When we listen deeply—to others and to ourselves—we gather insights that can’t be heard when we dominate the conversation. Listening opens doors to empathy and shared understanding.🔟 Trust the process of unfolding truth.Finally, trust that truth will reveal itself in its own time and way. Sometimes the journey to truth is winding and unexpected. Have faith in the process and remain patient with yourself and others as you navigate this ongoing exploration.Connect with me, John C. Morley (Serial Entrepreneur & Podcast Coach), as we explore these transformative practices together. Tune in now to Inspirations for Your Life Podcast and take the next step in your journey toward clarity and purpose. 🎧📻#ElevateYourLife #PodcastWisdom #MindsetMatters #InspirationalStories #JohnCMorley
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Well, hey guys, it is John C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
It's great to be with you on Inspirations
for Your Life.
Today is, well, Wednesday, it's June 18th, 2025,
and I'm so grateful that you guys are
(00:38):
with me here tonight.
We have an amazing show.
Our master topic of the week is wisdom
for life, growth, truth, and connection, right?
Pretty good topic.
And the granular for tonight is share your
voice and ideas confidently.
This is series four, show 25, and it's
episode number five.
(00:59):
Hey, by the way, guys, if you have
not checked out believemeachieved.com, why not do
that after the show?
Catch past shows, catch other short form content,
long form content, and lots of other great
stuff, all at believemeachieved.com.
And if you're here for the first time,
I want to welcome you personally.
If you're coming back, well, welcome back.
It's always great to have people that are
coming back and enjoy the content.
(01:22):
And if you guys are thirsty, feel free
to go get yourself something.
I'm going to go get myself a water
right here.
So I've got a car of water here.
You guys can get a snack, something sweet,
something hot, something cold, totally up to you.
(01:42):
And by the way, we're still working on
giving some great content here tonight, so do
hurry on back.
Whether it's healthy or not, that's totally up
to you.
So let's kick this show off, everybody.
Are you ready?
All right.
This show is an amazing show here tonight,
and I know that it's going to definitely,
how can I say, empower you in a
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way that probably no show has done before.
And by what I mean by show, I
don't mean our show.
I mean other shows that you watch, other
motivational shows.
And recently, I was given a kudos, and
I really want to say thank you to
the person that extended that to me.
He said, John, you're really authentic, and I
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like what you do, and you're different than
the other people.
You don't have 10 million people yet.
But the thing about you is that you
speak from the heart, and I'm not trying
to push or sell anything.
And I think that's a really important thing.
So let's kick in, all right?
Well, welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life
podcast with me, John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, your guide to unlocking wisdom,
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embracing growth, and living with purpose.
In today's episode, I'm going to dive into
a powerful practice that could transform the way,
well, you approach truth and understanding.
We'll explore how seeking truth with openness and
patience not only deepens our insight, but also
strengthens our relationships and build resilience in a
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fast-paced world.
Whether you're facing tough conversations or personal challenges,
this episode will inspire you to slow down,
listen deeply, and welcome truth as an evolving
journey.
So let's get started, everyone.
Are you ready?
All right.
So number one, seek truth with time, not
urgency.
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Truth isn't a race to be won or
a puzzle to solve in a moment.
It requires patience and the willingness to let
things unfold naturally.
When we give truth the time it deserves,
we avoid snap judgments and open ourselves to
deeper, more meaningful discoveries.
Trust that the answers you seek will come
when the moment is right.
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And I think that's really important for you
to understand.
All right.
Number two, stay open without needing to agree.
Being open-minded means allowing space for ideas
that challenge your current beliefs.
It doesn't mean you have to agree with
everything you hear.
Instead, practice the art of listening without immediate
judgment.
This openness creates a bridge to understanding and
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can reveal unexpected perspectives that enrich your worldview.
So what are you waiting for?
Go ahead and stay open.
It will reward you.
Number three, guys.
Number three is a really good one.
And that is let patience guide your understanding.
Patience is the foundation of true comprehension.
When we rush, we often miss nuances and
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complexities.
By slowing down, we give our minds the
opportunity to absorb and process information fully.
This patient approach leads to clearer thinking and
a calmer heart.
Number four, guys.
Create an inner stillness to hear truth.
In the noise of daily life, truth often
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speaks softly, cultivating moments of stillness through meditation.
Reflection or quiet journaling allows us to tune
into that subtle voice.
Inner stillness helps us separate facts from assumptions
and intuition from fear.
Number five, release the need to be right.
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Holding on to being right can block growth
and connection.
When we let go of the ego's insistence,
we open ourselves to learning and empathy.
True wisdom lies in the willingness to admit
when we don't have all the answers and
to embrace uncertainty as a space for true
growth.
Number six, guys.
Allow discomfort to reveal clarity.
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Discomfort is often that signal that our understanding
is expanding.
Instead of avoiding unnecessary feelings, welcome them as
guides, pointing us toward deeper truth.
It's in these moments of discomfort that we
challenge old patterns and see things with a
fresh set of eyes.
Number seven, be willing, ladies and gentlemen, to
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question your open beliefs.
Growth begins when we look inward and ask
tough questions about what we hold true.
This self-inquiry is a courageous act that
invites transformation.
Questioning doesn't weaken your convictions, guys.
It strengthens them by making them conscious and
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definitely intentional.
I know that's hard for a lot of
people to understand, but it's the truth of
what makes things magical in life and what
makes things really cool.
All right, guys.
So now that we understand intentionality, I think
that's important.
I think it's important to let truth evolve
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as you grow.
Truth isn't static.
As you grow in experience and wisdom, your
understanding of truth naturally evolves.
Embrace this fluidity, knowing that what feels true
today may shift tomorrow.
And that's a sign of a healthy expanding
mind.
So don't try to run from it.
Number nine, listen more than you speak.
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One of the most powerful ways to seek
truth is through listening.
When we listen deeply to others and to
ourselves, we gather insights that can't be heard.
When we dominate the conversation, listening opens doors
to empathy and shared understanding.
Number 10, trust the process of unfolding truth.
Finally, trust the truth will reveal itself in
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its own time and way.
Sometimes the journey to truth is winding and
unexpected.
Have faith in the process and remain patient
with yourself and others as you navigate this
ongoing exploration.
I think a lot of times people, they
have the right idea, but then they don't
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know where to go because other people have
told me, well, no, that's not possible.
This isn't possible.
But I think we have to embrace these
moments, right?
I think that's a really important thing.
So here's a part of the show I
really like.
I like the whole show, but this is
one of my favorite parts.
I'm going to now give you basically a
personal lesson, basically, or story.
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About each point today.
And it's my hope that this will solidify
the meaning and get you to want to
transform.
Give you a reason to say, hey, you
know, this is more than just something John's
saying.
I actually relate to this in my life.
And I see purpose and I see a
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reason why all this stuff is actually happening.
But if you're just saying, you know what,
I don't want to do it.
When I give you a reason, when I
show you that this can happen and you
believe that, that's when magic happens, folks.
So number one, seek truth with time, not
urgency.
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I remember once jumping to conclusions about a
colleague who didn't respond to my email.
I assumed the worst, lack of respect or
avoidance.
But days later, I found out they had
experienced a family emergency.
That moment reminded me that truth often requires
waiting.
When we rush to define it, we may
distort it.
Giving space for truth to emerge allowed me
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to be more compassionate.
And it taught me that patience often uncovers
understanding that urgency never could.
I think that's a very important thing.
Number two, guys, stay open without needing to
agree.
I've said before, it's okay to agree to
disagree.
Absolutely, you can agree to disagree and it's
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perfectly respectable.
Number two, stay open without needing to agree.
So during a panel discussion, someone shared a
perspective that clashed with my beliefs.
My initial reaction was to shut down emotionally.
But instead of turning out, I decided to
stay present and truly listen.
While I didn't change my stance, I walked
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away with a better grasp of where they
were coming from.
That moment taught me the power of being
open, not to change my view, but to
be better at understanding the humanity behind the
traits.
And I think that's a really powerful thing.
We forget, ladies and gentlemen, that we are
all human.
And so is everyone that we connect with.
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And so when we're human, it's like, wow,
he or she's going through the same thing
I'm going through.
I think that's a hard thing for some
people to realize, that we are actually human.
Number three, let patience guide understanding.
When I was first learning podcasting, I wanted
to master it overnight.
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And well, needless to say, that didn't happen
overnight.
It took, it obviously, it took some time.
And I think as we can embrace these
things, I think that's a very important thing.
So I didn't lower it overnight.
I watched other podcasters.
I had been speaking for a long time
and I experimented.
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First, I got frustrated because I wasn't going
anywhere.
But then I realized, I'm doing this to
help others.
So don't get frustrated.
And things didn't click right away.
But over time, I realized the understanding, the
craft.
And I started to repeat and do this
with grace within myself and others.
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And it was through patience that my process
began to make sense.
This journey made me realize that depth comes
from, well, when we allow space for learning
to breathe.
I think sometimes we forget to breathe.
We forget to take a sip of water.
No pun intended there.
Number four, guys, create your inner stillness to
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hear the truth.
This one is really important.
There was a session in my life when
everything was noise.
You know, vacations, meetings, endless to-do lists.
I realized I was moving fast but going
nowhere internally.
I started waking up 15 minutes earlier just
to sit in silence.
In those quiet moments, I heard my intuition
more clearly than ever.
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That stillness became a compass revealing truths I
couldn't hear in the hustle with all the
noise and all the distraction.
So sometimes we need to quiet those chattering
monkeys in our minds.
We have to take that breath.
And then we'll connect to the answers.
Number five, release the need to be right.
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I've said this many times before, all right?
And when I say to you, release the
need to be right, you're probably like, well,
John, I don't know what that means.
Sure you do.
If you're somebody that always has to be
right, I think that's a problem.
And so when we think about that whole
concept of what it means to be right,
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it's about an ego that's trying to take
control, okay?
And I think that's a very, very important
thing, is that we have to really realize
that, all right?
We have to realize what that is.
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And so when we think about what this
means, I think it gets us to appreciate
where we are, okay?
And what we're doing and where we're coming
from.
But I know sometimes this can get really
crazy for some people, right?
It can.
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So in a disagreement one time with a
close friend, I was so focused on one
thing, proving my point that I completely miss
the pain behind their words.
When I finally let go of my ego
and truly listened, I saw the hurt I
had unintentionally caused.
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Letting go of being right saved our friendship
and taught me that connection, guys, matters more
than being correct.
If you're always having to be right, well,
no one's going to want to be around
you.
See, we all make mistakes.
And if we can admit our mistakes and
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our friends can support that, I think that's
a great thing.
Number six, allow discomfort to reveal clarity.
I once received tough feedback from a mentor.
It stung deeply and stirred up defensiveness, to
be honest.
But sitting with that discomfort instead of running
with it led to a breakthrough for me.
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I realized that my reaction was rooted in
fear of not being good enough.
That painful truth once seen helped me grow
into both confidence and humility.
I think a lot of people say they're
humble, but you know what?
They're not.
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They do the humility thing because they're hoping
that they're going to get something out of
you.
So if you're trying to be humble because
you're trying to get something out of you,
trying to convince someone, you're not being humble.
You're trying to manipulate people.
If you want to be humble, you have
no expectations.
You have no agenda.
You're just doing it for the reason that
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you feel like it.
Number seven, be willing to question your own
beliefs.
Years ago, I held strong assumptions about what
success looked like.
Status, income, recognition.
But over time, those definitions left me feeling
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empty.
Through deep reflection and honest questioning, I redefined
success as purpose, impact, and peace of mind.
Questioning those long-held beliefs didn't shatter my
identity.
It redefined it in the most authentic way.
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And I think when we talk about authenticity
and we talk about truth, this gets people
confused because many people's truth is about what?
It's about manipulation.
And that's not truth.
Okay?
I think that's a problem.
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All right?
And so truth is about integrity.
And if you know that, then you can
connect with yourself and connect with others a
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lot better.
Okay?
I hope that matters to people.
I hope so.
If it doesn't, then I'm going to tell
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you that it comes down to what you're
feeling at the moment.
Okay?
And when you feel a certain way, you
act a certain way.
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It's like the ebb and flow, right?
You take a breath, right?
You inhale, you exhale.
You kind of connect with a rhythm, right?
When we flow, it's like it's effortless, right?
I want to compare this, guys, to the
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flow of...
I'm going to say the flow of rowing,
right?
Or I'll call it the ebb and flow
of rowing.
So there's a flow state in rowing.
It's a repetitive nature of rowing, creating a
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flow state where the mind becomes fully absorbed
in the activity.
As you synchronize your movements with the rhythm
of the rowing, external distractions sort of fade
away.
They leave a sense of calm focus.
I'll give you a perfect example.
Being a video producer, I was doing a
show last night.
It was for a local town.
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I got so into the rhythm of it,
which I usually do, that when I heard
certain words and I noticed certain things, I
just reacted.
I knew what to cut.
I knew what camera to go to.
I just had this feel.
When you start to get into this ebb
and flow and this feel of life, it's
not work.
It just sort of, I don't know, magically
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happens, right?
I think that's a very, very, very important
thing, all right?
And I know you're probably saying, John, that's
impossible.
It's not impossible.
Change your perceptions and your reality will change.
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So reality is perceptions.
So if it is a perception, that means
we could change our reality.
We sure could.
I think that's an important thing because most
people don't realize what it means.
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They don't know what it means or why
it means something.
But all they know is it means something
right now.
And when it means something, it's like, oh
my gosh, what am I going to do?
And I think the what am I going
to do comes from the whole concept of
this is me, right?
Um, I think that's important.
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All right.
When people understand that it's about your flow,
it's about who you are, it's about what
you're doing, and when the world kind of
magically fades away and you just kind of
do things, see, that's when life starts to
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really, I don't want to say go on
autopilot, but it does.
It goes on autopilot.
And that autopilot allows you to navigate through
your life, but in a way that doesn't
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seem like work, just sort of flows, kind
of like those rowers, right?
They row one way back and forth, right?
They go toward them and back and forth.
And so if we think about rowing for
a moment, let's think about this.
So what is the key to being a
great, a great rower?
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Well, there are lots of tips to being
a great rower, right?
Don't grip too hard, drive with your legs.
Imagine you're doing a cleaning of some kind,
leg, hips, arms, arms, hips, legs.
This is the sequence for rowing.
So you do legs, hips, arms, arms, hips,
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legs, drive straight back.
Don't let your putt go solo.
Don't pull with your arms.
Keep your elbows relaxed.
Don't shrug your shoulders up.
Pull the handle to the bottom of your
ribs, okay?
Sit up tall at all times.
Imagine your upper body like a pendulum.
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And if you've never rowed before, it could
seem very daunting, but I got to tell
you something.
When you get into the flow of rowing
or even running or walking, it's like everything
sort of fades.
And that long, let's say, ratio and suddenly
like, oh my gosh, it's over.
Like, I didn't realize I was doing.
How many of you, like when you drive
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and you're kind of in this like trance,
when you're focusing on the road, but you
didn't realize you were on the road for
an hour and a half.
Like, it's like, wow, that was so quick,
right?
You focus, but everything else kind of just,
all the distractions kind of just went away.
You're still focused on the road, but the
distraction of time, everything kind of just alluded
you, right?
Which is kind of cool.
So I think that's a very important thing,
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okay?
Very, very important thing.
And it can help you.
It really can help you.
So now that you have a little bit
of an understanding, hopefully this will give you
some insights.
Let truth evolve as you grow.
When I believe to be true in my
20s is not what I hold dear today.
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Back then I thought asking for help showed
weakness.
Now I see it as a strength.
As I've grown, my definition of truth has
stretched and shifted with life seasons, embracing that
evolution.
Has helped me show up with more grace
for myself and others.
Number nine, guys, listen more than you speak.
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In one of my coaching sessions, I was
tempted to offer advice the moment my client
paused, but I didn't.
I instead stayed silent.
And in that space, they uncovered their own
answer.
That moment reminded me when we listen fully,
we create a mirror for others to find
their truth.
The less I spoke, the more they discovered.
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Number 10, trust the process of unfolding truth.
There was a situation in my business where
I felt deeply unsure about a decision.
I wanted clarity immediately, but it didn't come.
Over time with small actions and reflections, the
right path revealed itself looking back.
I see that the truth didn't arrive all
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at once.
It unfolded through the process.
That experience taught me to trust life's rhythm,
even when it doesn't match my timeline.
I think that's hard for a lot of
people, you know, myself included, when we want
something and the timeline's not there, it's like,
oh my gosh, like, what do I do?
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What do I do?
You start believing in who you are.
I think sometimes people get very, let's say,
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inundated by things that are going on, right?
And they don't necessarily know where to go
or what to do.
They just have no idea.
And I think these are important things to
realize.
See, your truth comes from where your ebb
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and flows come.
And when you're in that flow state, when
you're in that sense for like, you know,
I can do anything, everything just sort of
like, all the obstacles just sort of melt
away.
Now, not overnight, but they do sort of
just disappear.
Why?
I'll tell you why.
The secret is that your attitude.
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So your attitude, as I said before, will
determine your altitude for success.
If I say, well, John, that doesn't really
matter.
Yes, it does.
It matters a whole bunch, guys.
A whole bunch.
And I think if you realize what that
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means, then maybe you'll understand the truth.
Maybe you'll understand that it's about knowing things,
right?
Just like with the rowing we talked about.
Feel the connection through your feet.
Don't re-bend your knees too soon.
Don't slam the seat into your heels.
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Breathe properly.
Focus on consistent, steady movement.
When you get into a flow state, it's
like the action doesn't seem hard.
It doesn't seem forced.
It doesn't seem difficult.
It just happens because we're flowing.
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We breathe, we're in a flow state, right?
It's not hard to breathe.
When we do something that gets into a
rhythm, like breathing, like walking, like running, like
rowing, we uncover a Marvel machine that we
have.
And that Marvel machine helps us to get
to success.
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The reason many people don't get there is
because they're working so hard to figure how
to make the machine work, but all they
really need to do is get into a
flow.
The machine will tweak and optimize itself, which
is you, all right?
I hope you guys learned something from tonight.
And I hope this episode elevated your life.
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And I hope that you now understand that
when you share your voice, your ideas confidently,
the world becomes your oyster.
Ladies and gentlemen, it's amazing.
I think it's important to understand
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what's going on.
I think it's important that you realize what's
happening.
I think that's important, but it starts from
who you are, all right?
Don't worry about getting into the flow state.
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Just do what you do and the flow
will come naturally.
I promise you.
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
Do check out believemeachieved.com for more of
my amazing, inspiring creations.
I'll catch you real soon.
And remember, relax and you'll get in the
flow.
Have a great night, everyone.
Well, hey guys, it is John C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
It's great to be with you on Inspirations
for Your Life.
Today is, well, Wednesday, it's June 18th, 2025,
and I'm so grateful that you guys are
(00:38):
with me here tonight.
We have an amazing show.
Our master topic of the week is wisdom
for life, growth, truth, and connection, right?
Pretty good topic.
And the granular for tonight is share your
voice and ideas confidently.
This is series four, show 25, and it's
episode number five.
(00:59):
Hey, by the way, guys, if you have
not checked out believemeachieved.com, why not do
that after the show?
Catch past shows, catch other short form content,
long form content, and lots of other great
stuff, all at believemeachieved.com.
And if you're here for the first time,
I want to welcome you personally.
If you're coming back, well, welcome back.
It's always great to have people that are
coming back and enjoy the content.
(01:22):
And if you guys are thirsty, feel free
to go get yourself something.
I'm going to go get myself a water
right here.
So I've got a car of water here.
You guys can get a snack, something sweet,
something hot, something cold, totally up to you.
(01:42):
And by the way, we're still working on
giving some great content here tonight, so do
hurry on back.
Whether it's healthy or not, that's totally up
to you.
So let's kick this show off, everybody.
Are you ready?
All right.
This show is an amazing show here tonight,
and I know that it's going to definitely,
how can I say, empower you in a
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way that probably no show has done before.
And by what I mean by show, I
don't mean our show.
I mean other shows that you watch, other
motivational shows.
And recently, I was given a kudos, and
I really want to say thank you to
the person that extended that to me.
He said, John, you're really authentic, and I
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like what you do, and you're different than
the other people.
You don't have 10 million people yet.
But the thing about you is that you
speak from the heart, and I'm not trying
to push or sell anything.
And I think that's a really important thing.
So let's kick in, all right?
Well, welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life
podcast with me, John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, your guide to unlocking wisdom,
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embracing growth, and living with purpose.
In today's episode, I'm going to dive into
a powerful practice that could transform the way,
well, you approach truth and understanding.
We'll explore how seeking truth with openness and
patience not only deepens our insight, but also
strengthens our relationships and build resilience in a
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fast-paced world.
Whether you're facing tough conversations or personal challenges,
this episode will inspire you to slow down,
listen deeply, and welcome truth as an evolving
journey.
So let's get started, everyone.
Are you ready?
All right.
So number one, seek truth with time, not
urgency.
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Truth isn't a race to be won or
a puzzle to solve in a moment.
It requires patience and the willingness to let
things unfold naturally.
When we give truth the time it deserves,
we avoid snap judgments and open ourselves to
deeper, more meaningful discoveries.
Trust that the answers you seek will come
when the moment is right.
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And I think that's really important for you
to understand.
All right.
Number two, stay open without needing to agree.
Being open-minded means allowing space for ideas
that challenge your current beliefs.
It doesn't mean you have to agree with
everything you hear.
Instead, practice the art of listening without immediate
judgment.
This openness creates a bridge to understanding and
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can reveal unexpected perspectives that enrich your worldview.
So what are you waiting for?
Go ahead and stay open.
It will reward you.
Number three, guys.
Number three is a really good one.
And that is let patience guide your understanding.
Patience is the foundation of true comprehension.
When we rush, we often miss nuances and
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complexities.
By slowing down, we give our minds the
opportunity to absorb and process information fully.
This patient approach leads to clearer thinking and
a calmer heart.
Number four, guys.
Create an inner stillness to hear truth.
In the noise of daily life, truth often
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speaks softly, cultivating moments of stillness through meditation.
Reflection or quiet journaling allows us to tune
into that subtle voice.
Inner stillness helps us separate facts from assumptions
and intuition from fear.
Number five, release the need to be right.
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Holding on to being right can block growth
and connection.
When we let go of the ego's insistence,
we open ourselves to learning and empathy.
True wisdom lies in the willingness to admit
when we don't have all the answers and
to embrace uncertainty as a space for true
growth.
Number six, guys.
Allow discomfort to reveal clarity.
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Discomfort is often that signal that our understanding
is expanding.
Instead of avoiding unnecessary feelings, welcome them as
guides, pointing us toward deeper truth.
It's in these moments of discomfort that we
challenge old patterns and see things with a
fresh set of eyes.
Number seven, be willing, ladies and gentlemen, to
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question your open beliefs.
Growth begins when we look inward and ask
tough questions about what we hold true.
This self-inquiry is a courageous act that
invites transformation.
Questioning doesn't weaken your convictions, guys.
It strengthens them by making them conscious and
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definitely intentional.
I know that's hard for a lot of
people to understand, but it's the truth of
what makes things magical in life and what
makes things really cool.
All right, guys.
So now that we understand intentionality, I think
that's important.
I think it's important to let truth evolve
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as you grow.
Truth isn't static.
As you grow in experience and wisdom, your
understanding of truth naturally evolves.
Embrace this fluidity, knowing that what feels true
today may shift tomorrow.
And that's a sign of a healthy expanding
mind.
So don't try to run from it.
Number nine, listen more than you speak.
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One of the most powerful ways to seek
truth is through listening.
When we listen deeply to others and to
ourselves, we gather insights that can't be heard.
When we dominate the conversation, listening opens doors
to empathy and shared understanding.
Number 10, trust the process of unfolding truth.
Finally, trust the truth will reveal itself in
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its own time and way.
Sometimes the journey to truth is winding and
unexpected.
Have faith in the process and remain patient
with yourself and others as you navigate this
ongoing exploration.
I think a lot of times people, they
have the right idea, but then they don't
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know where to go because other people have
told me, well, no, that's not possible.
This isn't possible.
But I think we have to embrace these
moments, right?
I think that's a really important thing.
So here's a part of the show I
really like.
I like the whole show, but this is
one of my favorite parts.
I'm going to now give you basically a
personal lesson, basically, or story.
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About each point today.
And it's my hope that this will solidify
the meaning and get you to want to
transform.
Give you a reason to say, hey, you
know, this is more than just something John's
saying.
I actually relate to this in my life.
And I see purpose and I see a
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reason why all this stuff is actually happening.
But if you're just saying, you know what,
I don't want to do it.
When I give you a reason, when I
show you that this can happen and you
believe that, that's when magic happens, folks.
So number one, seek truth with time, not
urgency.
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I remember once jumping to conclusions about a
colleague who didn't respond to my email.
I assumed the worst, lack of respect or
avoidance.
But days later, I found out they had
experienced a family emergency.
That moment reminded me that truth often requires
waiting.
When we rush to define it, we may
distort it.
Giving space for truth to emerge allowed me
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to be more compassionate.
And it taught me that patience often uncovers
understanding that urgency never could.
I think that's a very important thing.
Number two, guys, stay open without needing to
agree.
I've said before, it's okay to agree to
disagree.
Absolutely, you can agree to disagree and it's
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perfectly respectable.
Number two, stay open without needing to agree.
So during a panel discussion, someone shared a
perspective that clashed with my beliefs.
My initial reaction was to shut down emotionally.
But instead of turning out, I decided to
stay present and truly listen.
While I didn't change my stance, I walked
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away with a better grasp of where they
were coming from.
That moment taught me the power of being
open, not to change my view, but to
be better at understanding the humanity behind the
traits.
And I think that's a really powerful thing.
We forget, ladies and gentlemen, that we are
all human.
And so is everyone that we connect with.
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And so when we're human, it's like, wow,
he or she's going through the same thing
I'm going through.
I think that's a hard thing for some
people to realize, that we are actually human.
Number three, let patience guide understanding.
When I was first learning podcasting, I wanted
to master it overnight.
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And well, needless to say, that didn't happen
overnight.
It took, it obviously, it took some time.
And I think as we can embrace these
things, I think that's a very important thing.
So I didn't lower it overnight.
I watched other podcasters.
I had been speaking for a long time
and I experimented.
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First, I got frustrated because I wasn't going
anywhere.
But then I realized, I'm doing this to
help others.
So don't get frustrated.
And things didn't click right away.
But over time, I realized the understanding, the
craft.
And I started to repeat and do this
with grace within myself and others.
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And it was through patience that my process
began to make sense.
This journey made me realize that depth comes
from, well, when we allow space for learning
to breathe.
I think sometimes we forget to breathe.
We forget to take a sip of water.
No pun intended there.
Number four, guys, create your inner stillness to
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hear the truth.
This one is really important.
There was a session in my life when
everything was noise.
You know, vacations, meetings, endless to-do lists.
I realized I was moving fast but going
nowhere internally.
I started waking up 15 minutes earlier just
to sit in silence.
In those quiet moments, I heard my intuition
more clearly than ever.
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That stillness became a compass revealing truths I
couldn't hear in the hustle with all the
noise and all the distraction.
So sometimes we need to quiet those chattering
monkeys in our minds.
We have to take that breath.
And then we'll connect to the answers.
Number five, release the need to be right.
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I've said this many times before, all right?
And when I say to you, release the
need to be right, you're probably like, well,
John, I don't know what that means.
Sure you do.
If you're somebody that always has to be
right, I think that's a problem.
And so when we think about that whole
concept of what it means to be right,
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it's about an ego that's trying to take
control, okay?
And I think that's a very, very important
thing, is that we have to really realize
that, all right?
We have to realize what that is.
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And so when we think about what this
means, I think it gets us to appreciate
where we are, okay?
And what we're doing and where we're coming
from.
But I know sometimes this can get really
crazy for some people, right?
It can.
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So in a disagreement one time with a
close friend, I was so focused on one
thing, proving my point that I completely miss
the pain behind their words.
When I finally let go of my ego
and truly listened, I saw the hurt I
had unintentionally caused.
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Letting go of being right saved our friendship
and taught me that connection, guys, matters more
than being correct.
If you're always having to be right, well,
no one's going to want to be around
you.
See, we all make mistakes.
And if we can admit our mistakes and
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our friends can support that, I think that's
a great thing.
Number six, allow discomfort to reveal clarity.
I once received tough feedback from a mentor.
It stung deeply and stirred up defensiveness, to
be honest.
But sitting with that discomfort instead of running
with it led to a breakthrough for me.
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I realized that my reaction was rooted in
fear of not being good enough.
That painful truth once seen helped me grow
into both confidence and humility.
I think a lot of people say they're
humble, but you know what?
They're not.
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They do the humility thing because they're hoping
that they're going to get something out of
you.
So if you're trying to be humble because
you're trying to get something out of you,
trying to convince someone, you're not being humble.
You're trying to manipulate people.
If you want to be humble, you have
no expectations.
You have no agenda.
You're just doing it for the reason that
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you feel like it.
Number seven, be willing to question your own
beliefs.
Years ago, I held strong assumptions about what
success looked like.
Status, income, recognition.
But over time, those definitions left me feeling
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empty.
Through deep reflection and honest questioning, I redefined
success as purpose, impact, and peace of mind.
Questioning those long-held beliefs didn't shatter my
identity.
It redefined it in the most authentic way.
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And I think when we talk about authenticity
and we talk about truth, this gets people
confused because many people's truth is about what?
It's about manipulation.
And that's not truth.
Okay?
I think that's a problem.
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All right?
And so truth is about integrity.
And if you know that, then you can
connect with yourself and connect with others a
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lot better.
Okay?
I hope that matters to people.
I hope so.
If it doesn't, then I'm going to tell
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you that it comes down to what you're
feeling at the moment.
Okay?
And when you feel a certain way, you
act a certain way.
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It's like the ebb and flow, right?
You take a breath, right?
You inhale, you exhale.
You kind of connect with a rhythm, right?
When we flow, it's like it's effortless, right?
I want to compare this, guys, to the
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flow of...
I'm going to say the flow of rowing,
right?
Or I'll call it the ebb and flow
of rowing.
So there's a flow state in rowing.
It's a repetitive nature of rowing, creating a
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flow state where the mind becomes fully absorbed
in the activity.
As you synchronize your movements with the rhythm
of the rowing, external distractions sort of fade
away.
They leave a sense of calm focus.
I'll give you a perfect example.
Being a video producer, I was doing a
show last night.
It was for a local town.
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I got so into the rhythm of it,
which I usually do, that when I heard
certain words and I noticed certain things, I
just reacted.
I knew what to cut.
I knew what camera to go to.
I just had this feel.
When you start to get into this ebb
and flow and this feel of life, it's
not work.
It just sort of, I don't know, magically
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happens, right?
I think that's a very, very, very important
thing, all right?
And I know you're probably saying, John, that's
impossible.
It's not impossible.
Change your perceptions and your reality will change.
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So reality is perceptions.
So if it is a perception, that means
we could change our reality.
We sure could.
I think that's an important thing because most
people don't realize what it means.
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They don't know what it means or why
it means something.
But all they know is it means something
right now.
And when it means something, it's like, oh
my gosh, what am I going to do?
And I think the what am I going
to do comes from the whole concept of
this is me, right?
Um, I think that's important.
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All right.
When people understand that it's about your flow,
it's about who you are, it's about what
you're doing, and when the world kind of
magically fades away and you just kind of
do things, see, that's when life starts to
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really, I don't want to say go on
autopilot, but it does.
It goes on autopilot.
And that autopilot allows you to navigate through
your life, but in a way that doesn't
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seem like work, just sort of flows, kind
of like those rowers, right?
They row one way back and forth, right?
They go toward them and back and forth.
And so if we think about rowing for
a moment, let's think about this.
So what is the key to being a
great, a great rower?
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Well, there are lots of tips to being
a great rower, right?
Don't grip too hard, drive with your legs.
Imagine you're doing a cleaning of some kind,
leg, hips, arms, arms, hips, legs.
This is the sequence for rowing.
So you do legs, hips, arms, arms, hips,
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legs, drive straight back.
Don't let your putt go solo.
Don't pull with your arms.
Keep your elbows relaxed.
Don't shrug your shoulders up.
Pull the handle to the bottom of your
ribs, okay?
Sit up tall at all times.
Imagine your upper body like a pendulum.
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And if you've never rowed before, it could
seem very daunting, but I got to tell
you something.
When you get into the flow of rowing
or even running or walking, it's like everything
sort of fades.
And that long, let's say, ratio and suddenly
like, oh my gosh, it's over.
Like, I didn't realize I was doing.
How many of you, like when you drive
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and you're kind of in this like trance,
when you're focusing on the road, but you
didn't realize you were on the road for
an hour and a half.
Like, it's like, wow, that was so quick,
right?
You focus, but everything else kind of just,
all the distractions kind of just went away.
You're still focused on the road, but the
distraction of time, everything kind of just alluded
you, right?
Which is kind of cool.
So I think that's a very important thing,
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okay?
Very, very important thing.
And it can help you.
It really can help you.
So now that you have a little bit
of an understanding, hopefully this will give you
some insights.
Let truth evolve as you grow.
When I believe to be true in my
20s is not what I hold dear today.
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Back then I thought asking for help showed
weakness.
Now I see it as a strength.
As I've grown, my definition of truth has
stretched and shifted with life seasons, embracing that
evolution.
Has helped me show up with more grace
for myself and others.
Number nine, guys, listen more than you speak.
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In one of my coaching sessions, I was
tempted to offer advice the moment my client
paused, but I didn't.
I instead stayed silent.
And in that space, they uncovered their own
answer.
That moment reminded me when we listen fully,
we create a mirror for others to find
their truth.
The less I spoke, the more they discovered.
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Number 10, trust the process of unfolding truth.
There was a situation in my business where
I felt deeply unsure about a decision.
I wanted clarity immediately, but it didn't come.
Over time with small actions and reflections, the
right path revealed itself looking back.
I see that the truth didn't arrive all
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at once.
It unfolded through the process.
That experience taught me to trust life's rhythm,
even when it doesn't match my timeline.
I think that's hard for a lot of
people, you know, myself included, when we want
something and the timeline's not there, it's like,
oh my gosh, like, what do I do?
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What do I do?
You start believing in who you are.
I think sometimes people get very, let's say,
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inundated by things that are going on, right?
And they don't necessarily know where to go
or what to do.
They just have no idea.
And I think these are important things to
realize.
See, your truth comes from where your ebb
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and flows come.
And when you're in that flow state, when
you're in that sense for like, you know,
I can do anything, everything just sort of
like, all the obstacles just sort of melt
away.
Now, not overnight, but they do sort of
just disappear.
Why?
I'll tell you why.
The secret is that your attitude.
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So your attitude, as I said before, will
determine your altitude for success.
If I say, well, John, that doesn't really
matter.
Yes, it does.
It matters a whole bunch, guys.
A whole bunch.
And I think if you realize what that
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means, then maybe you'll understand the truth.
Maybe you'll understand that it's about knowing things,
right?
Just like with the rowing we talked about.
Feel the connection through your feet.
Don't re-bend your knees too soon.
Don't slam the seat into your heels.
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Breathe properly.
Focus on consistent, steady movement.
When you get into a flow state, it's
like the action doesn't seem hard.
It doesn't seem forced.
It doesn't seem difficult.
It just happens because we're flowing.
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We breathe, we're in a flow state, right?
It's not hard to breathe.
When we do something that gets into a
rhythm, like breathing, like walking, like running, like
rowing, we uncover a Marvel machine that we
have.
And that Marvel machine helps us to get
to success.
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The reason many people don't get there is
because they're working so hard to figure how
to make the machine work, but all they
really need to do is get into a
flow.
The machine will tweak and optimize itself, which
is you, all right?
I hope you guys learned something from tonight.
And I hope this episode elevated your life.
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And I hope that you now understand that
when you share your voice, your ideas confidently,
the world becomes your oyster.
Ladies and gentlemen, it's amazing.
I think it's important to understand
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what's going on.
I think it's important that you realize what's
happening.
I think that's important, but it starts from
who you are, all right?
Don't worry about getting into the flow state.
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Just do what you do and the flow
will come naturally.
I promise you.
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
Do check out believemeachieved.com for more of
my amazing, inspiring creations.
I'll catch you real soon.
And remember, relax and you'll get in the
flow.
Have a great night, everyone.
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