November 4, 2025 • 28 mins
Welcome to the Inspirations for Your Life Podcast! My name is John C. Morley—Serial Entrepreneur, Engineer, Marketing Specialist, Video Producer, Podcast Host, Coach, Graduate Student, and above all, a passionate lifelong learner. Every week, I’m dedicated to helping you elevate your life and career by sharing powerful strategies, inspiring stories, and authentic insights. Whether it’s unlocking workplace motivation, building connections, or refining leadership skills, I’m here to guide you on your journey—so let’s dive in and make every moment count.
Social Magnetism: Creating Impactful Connections (S4) S45:E4
[1️⃣] Show genuine interest—People always remember how you make them feel. Authentic curiosity about someone’s story forges lasting bonds and sets the stage for a meaningful connection. When you invest energy in truly understanding others, you’re already making your interactions memorable.
[2️⃣] Master the art of thoughtful listening. Great connections begin with listening—not just to words, but to emotions and intentions. By focusing on the speaker, asking follow-up questions, and avoiding interruptions, you gain trust and open the door to deeper, richer conversations.
[3️⃣] Ask open-ended questions to deepen conversations. Instead of asking questions that result only in ‘yes’ or ‘no’ responses, use open-ended prompts that invite people to share more about themselves. This approach brings out unique perspectives and transforms small talk into genuine dialogue.
[4️⃣] Authenticity beats perfection every time. In a world obsessed with flawless images, showing your real self is the key to meaningful encounters. Vulnerability and honesty attract trust and respect—don’t be afraid to admit your mistakes or share personal growth stories.
[5️⃣] Use body language to build trust instantly. Non-verbal cues—like open posture, eye contact, and a genuine smile—send powerful signals of confidence and warmth. Mirroring the tone and energy of those around you helps create an immediate bond and fosters authentic communication.
[6️⃣] Remember names—it’s the simplest way to connect. Addressing someone by name makes them feel valued and recognized. Make an effort to remember and use names, and you’ll stand out as someone who truly cares about those you meet.
[7️⃣] Be present—phone down, eyes up. Distractions break connections. When you’re fully engaged in real time, people feel your respect and dedication. Practice mindfulness in every conversation and make moments together genuinely count.
[8️⃣] Share stories that inspire and relate. We connect through stories, so share your experiences that resonate, uplift, and encourage. Personal anecdotes are bridges to understanding, and they help build relatability and trust.
[9️⃣] Offer help before asking for it. Generosity is the heart of strong relationships. When you lead with genuine offers of support, you nurture goodwill and create a culture of helpfulness that circles back.
[🔟] Smile strategically—it’s contagious. A genuine smile uplifts others and instantly signals warmth and approachability. It can change the direction of a conversation and spread positivity through your circle.
[1️⃣1️⃣] Match energy but stay authentic. Adapt your vibe to those around you, but always hold on to your unique personality. Matching enthusiasm builds rapport, but authenticity keeps connections honest and sustainable.
[1️⃣2️⃣] Praise freely and sincerely. Recognition uplifts and motivates. Offering genuine compliments builds people up and nurtures a strong, positive network.
[1️⃣3️⃣] Follow up to deepen relationships. Reaching out after a conversation or event shows true investment in others. Consistent follow-up keeps bonds alive and helps connections grow.
[1️⃣4️⃣] Embrace vulnerability to create lasting bonds. Let others see your challenges as well as your strengths. Vulnerability fosters empathy and deeper relationships built on mutual understanding.
[1️⃣5️⃣] Join communities that align with your values. Networking is more powerful when grounded in shared beliefs and passions. Engaging with likeminded groups fuels growth, inspiration, and support.
[1️⃣6️⃣] Focus on quality, not quantity of connections. Cultivate genuine relationships over collecting contacts. Meaningful connections drive real change.
[1️⃣7️⃣] Be generous without expecting returns. True generosity is its own reward. Give freely, and trust that goodwill will come back to you naturally.
[1️⃣8️⃣] Adapt communication for different personalities. Meet people where they are, recognizing and respecting individual styles. Flexibility in communication builds understanding and trust.
[1️⃣9️⃣] Handle conflict calmly and respectfully. Approach disagreements with patience and empathy. Respectful communication preserves relationships, even through tough discussions.
[2️⃣0️⃣] Use humor to di
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(00:25):
Well, hey guys, good afternoon.
Today's John C.
Morley here coming to you
from the beautiful Montclair State University campus.
You guys know I'm a huge fan here.
And a better way, with some of the
great weather here, I thought why don't we
do some shoots here.
So I've actually got a leaf in front
of me.
I can't let you see that.
Because we're not in our studio or our
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home base or office or anything like that,
it's a little hard to control the conditions
around here.
So sometimes we might get students, it might
be noisy, although I've waited.
So it seems like most people are in
class or they're at lunch.
So hopefully we won't have too many people
bothering us.
I do want to welcome you, whether this
is your first time with me or you've
been here hundreds of times, of course, welcome
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back and welcome if it's your very first
time.
Oh, also, guys, I'm just getting out my
pack, a little bit different than I normally
do.
And I'm just getting out my water, my
RO water, guys, in case you didn't know.
And if you guys want to drink, feel
free to go get that drink.
Again, I do apologize if we get any
interruptions.
I'm on a public campus.
So again, I don't have a lot of
control of what's going on around me.
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I tried to pick a pretty quiet spot.
Here's my RO water.
It looks delicious.
All right, guys.
So without any further ado, let's get to
kick this show off.
I do want to let you know we
have a great week here about doing what's
right.
And today's topic is social magnetism.
By the way, we are on series four,
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show 45.
And this will be episode number four.
And in just less than eight weeks, we're
going to be done with being on the
air four years.
And we'll be on the air five years.
Beautiful campus, a little bit windy.
So again, apologize for some of the distractions
that we might get.
But let's go ahead and get this show
kicked off.
Love to stream outdoors.
Probably want to do some more of this.
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Again, the lighting here I know is not
the greatest, and I do apologize, but trying
to find a quiet place on campus and
a place where there's chairs and stuff.
And it's better than doing it in the
library.
Obviously, you've seen me do it in the
library before.
This is a lot better.
And I have my sunglasses off because if
I have them on, they're polarized and I
can't see my screen.
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So that's why I have that.
So again, welcome, everyone.
It is an amazing privilege and, of course,
a very big pleasure to be with everyone
here on Inspirations for Your Life.
This is a show that comes on every
single day.
We never know what time we're going to
be on the air.
But again, it is always great to be
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with everyone here.
I want to take this opportunity to welcome
everyone to the Inspirations for Your Life podcast.
If you are new, you can check out
all my great content at BelieveMeAchieve.com.
So again, it is so great to be
with you.
A very big, warm welcome to everyone that
is watching us live or that's on the
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replay.
My name is John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, and I come to you
every single day.
Sometimes I come to you outside.
I come to you indoors in our studio.
I'm a marketing specialist, video producer.
I'm a graduate student here at Montgomery State
University.
And above all, I am a passionate, lifelong
learner.
And every week, every day, I'm dedicated to
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helping you guys elevate your life and career
by sharing some powerful strategies, inspiring stories, and
authentic insights.
So whether it's unlocking workplace motivation, building connections,
or refining leadership skills, I'm here to guide
you on your journey.
So let's dive in and make this, like
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every other moment, let's make it count.
All right, let's be in the moment.
So again, the show's granular topic is social
magnetism.
That's series for show 45, episode number four.
Today is Tuesday.
It's November 4th, 2025.
If you're somebody out there that is concerned
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about what's going on in our world, well,
you got time if you're watching this live.
Today is national election day.
So definitely get out to your polls and
vote and make sure your voice is heard.
All right, guys.
So social magnetism, it's all about creating impactful
connections.
And again, it's so great to be with
every one of you.
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Do be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com
right after the show.
So let's get into our very first point
today.
Our very first point is show genuine interest.
You know, Dill Carnegie said this a very,
very long time ago.
We have to show genuine interest because everyone
out there always does things for their own
benefit, right?
So show genuine interest, Dill Carnegie said.
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People always remember how you make them feel.
They won't care about what you gave them.
They won't care about a lot of things.
But what they will always remember is how
you made them feel.
Authentic curiosity about someone's story forges lasting bonds
and sets the stage for a meaningful connection.
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And I know that's something a lot of
people say they want, but at the end
of the day, they're not doing it for
the reasons to be good people.
They're doing it because they want to get
over on you.
So we have to realize the difference between
somebody who cares about you and somebody who's
just trying to use you.
So that's really, really important.
And when you invest energy in truly understanding
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others, you're already making your interactions memorable.
So why not keep that positive energy going?
And when you are positive, everyone else around
you will be positive as well.
Of course, there are going to be some
people out there that may not align with
you, but that's okay.
When that happens, just go ahead and remove
them from your environment.
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That's an important thing to understand.
So let's get to point two.
Number two is master the art of thoughtful
listening.
I don't care whether you're in a college
course.
I don't care whether you're listening to your
family, your significant other, or you're listening to
music.
Life starts out with listening.
That's what we were given, two ears and
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one mouth.
So great connections, ladies and gentlemen, begin with
listening, not just the words, but the emotions
and the intentions that are associated to that.
By focusing on the speaker, asking follow-up
questions, and avoiding interruptions, you gain trust and
open the door to a much deeper and
richer set of conversations.
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So why not try that, guys?
Whether it's today or later on, depending on
when you're watching this, do make sure that
you are listening, because when you listen, so
much greatness can enter your life.
Number three, guys, ask open-ended questions to
deepen conversations.
So an open-ended question is, what makes
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you want to be doing that?
Don't ask a question like, do you want
to do this, yes or no?
If I say to you, do you like
music?
That's a yes or a no.
I might ask you something like, what type
of music do you like to listen to?
See, when I have a yes or no
question, the answer is already over.
If you're in sales, you're like, gee, well,
do you want to buy this?
And the answer is no.
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Well, you're done, right?
But if I say to you, gee, so
I see this working great in your conference
room.
What other room do you think it would
go best in?
And either way, they're giving you agreement, and
they're showing you they're still interested.
That's important, guys.
So instead of asking questions that result only
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in the yes or no responses, use the
questions and prompt them, which will invite to
share more about themselves.
It could be about the business opportunity.
But when we ask a question like, maybe
there's a golfer, I love to golf.
Where's your favorite place to golf?
I'm not asking, do you like golfing or
not golfing?
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I'm not asking you that.
Or maybe you're in school.
I might say to you, gee, what is
your favorite subject?
If I say to you, do you like
school?
And you say no, well, then the conversation's
over, right?
So what is it that you like about
college?
What is it that you like about high
school?
What is it that you like about your
job?
There's always something that you like, right?
So that's a really important thing, is to
find out what it is that ignites their
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passion.
Not because you're trying to pry, but because
you genuinely care.
If you do this and it's for an
ulterior motive, it's going to backfire and blow
up in your face.
So do it with genuine intentions that are
always positive.
Now, this approach brings out unique perspectives and
transforms small talk into genuine dialogue.
And I think that's an important thing that
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a lot of people don't realize.
Number four, authenticity beats perfection every single time.
In a world obsessed with flawless images, showing
your real self is the key to meaningful
encounters.
Vulnerability and honesty attract trust and respect.
Don't be afraid to admit your mistakes or
share personal growth stories.
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I think that's an important thing.
When you can share a story, I don't
care if maybe it's something that went wrong
with you.
Everyone thinks they've got to paint themselves as
a perfect person.
We're not perfect, okay?
So we need to just share a little
bit of our vulnerability, our humility.
And when we do that, other people around
us are more likely to connect with us.
Number five, guys, use body language to build
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trust instantly.
Nonverbal cues like open posture, eye contact, and
genuine smiles send powerful signals of confidence and
warmth.
When you're sitting somewhere and your feet are
actually pointing towards someone, that shows interest in
that conversation, that person.
If I'm sitting at a table in my
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theater like this, it's like, I'm really not,
then is it?
So pay attention to these things because we
do these things subconsciously.
I know it's a little breezy here, but
we're going to get through this cast, I
promise you.
Mirroring the tone and the energy of those
around you helps create an immediate bond and
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fosters true authentic communication, right?
So when we think about authenticness, we're talking
about things that are pure, things that are
for the greater good of all concerned.
We're not doing things just to create a
thing.
And again, I apologize if we're getting some
back noise here.
Again, we're at a public university and there
will be sometimes people walking around.
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I tried to pick a pretty quiet spot.
Number six, remember guys, names.
It's the simplest way to connect.
Dale Carnegie said, the most beautiful thing people
like is hearing the sound of their name,
John, Michael, Joe.
And if you don't know how to say
their name, like maybe their name is Ariana
or Isabella or Alexiana, ask them, how do
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you say their name?
I know it's a little breezy here, guys.
I can feel that.
So they will be happy to share with
you what their name is and how to
say it.
Hey, you know, I just wanted, can you
help me out with your name?
It's a beautiful name.
I don't want to destroy it.
Can you help me?
Sure.
So addressing someone by name makes them feel
valued and recognized.
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And it's the most important word that someone
here is the sound of their name said
correctly.
Okay.
Make an effort to remember and use names.
And you're going to stand out as someone
who truly cares about those you meet, not
just someone who's waltzing through life.
I think a lot of times it's always
about me, but really it's got to be
about the other person.
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A lot of us in society are selfish.
So we need to stop being selfish and
actually start caring about other people around us.
That's an important thing.
Number seven, guys, let's move on to that.
Be present.
That means put the phone down.
Now you go to dinner, phones down, distraction,
breaks, connections.
When you fully are engaged in real time
with people, they're going to know, they're going
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to know you're not BS-ing them.
Show them respect, put the social media away,
put the phone away and be present in
the moment with them.
Practice mindfulness in every conversation and make moments
together.
Genuinely count.
You know, I know so many people that
are rushing from here and rushing over there.
And I talked about this the other day
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about sometimes we feel like our life is
just going past us so quickly.
And the reason that happens is because we're
too much in a rut.
It's okay to be in a schedule, but
we need to mix things up.
Like today I came out here and did
the cast out here.
I didn't do it in the studio or
home or somewhere else.
So you got to mix up what you
do.
Maybe where you study, mix up where you're
going, or, you know, maybe you go home,
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drive a different way, right?
And be mindful of things.
Number eight, guys, share the stories that inspire
and relate to you.
We connect through stories.
So share experiences that resonate, uplift and encourage
others.
You're going to be surprised with the response
they have.
Now, personal antidotes are a bridge to understanding
and they help build, guys, they help build
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reliability and reliability and trust.
So these are important things, guys.
And I think if we can be mindful,
I mean, just being here on campus and
looking at a lot of people walking by,
I can tell you not a lot of
mindfulness going on here at campus.
Just a lot of people, you know, doing
this on their cell phone, like, yeah, I'm
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here, uh-huh, uh-huh, talk with their
boyfriend, their girlfriend, or talking to somebody else,
but not being mindful in the moment, not
enjoying the beautiful leaves or the trees or
the rocks or, you know, even these things.
I can go get another one.
I'm kind of tied here with this.
There's all kinds of great stuff around here.
There's a rock here on the floor, which
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I'm going to try to get.
Here it is.
Here's the rock, okay?
Again, just being mindful about this rock, right?
And what it feels like, the texture and
all that.
Number nine, guys, offer help before asking for
it.
That's important.
Generosity is the heart of strong relationships.
When you lead with genuine offers of support,
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you nurture goodwill and create a culture of
helpfulness that circles back around.
Now, it might not be today, it might
not be tomorrow, but I promise you it
will circle back around.
Number 10, smile strategically.
It is contagious.
Everyone loves a smile.
I don't care if you're going to the
grocery store, if you're going to work, or
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even if you're just, you know, going out
for a jog or something.
Smile at the gym.
Smile.
You will see that the smile will cultivate
a great response.
A genuine smile will uplift others and instantly
signal warmth and approachability.
A lot of people are very unapproachable.
They're in their phone, they're in their own
world, and they don't want to be approached,
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unfortunately.
It can change that dynamic.
The direction of a conversation can spread positively
through your circle, and boy, it is getting
breezy.
You guys can't feel the breeze.
Match energy, but stay authentic.
Adapt your voice to those around you, but
always hold on to your unique personality.
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Matching enthusiasm builds rapport, but authenticity keeps connections
honest, and you know what, guys?
Sustainable.
Number 12, praise freely and sincerely.
Recognition uplifts and motivates.
Give a compliment that is truly real, not
something to blow smoke up someone.
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Offering genuine compliments builds people up and nurtures
a strong, positive network, so why not start
doing that?
Don't just throw compliments out there because you
think it's nice.
Do it from the heart.
Number 13, follow up to deepen the relationships.
Reaching out after a conversation or an event
shows some true investment in others.
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Consistent follow-up keeps things alive.
Connection growth.
Number 14, guys, base vulnerability to create lasting
bonds.
Let others see your challenges as well as
your strengths.
Vulnerability fosters empathy and deeper relationships built on
a mutual understanding.
Like I was talking before about this rock,
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how many people today you think are going
to pick up a rock like this and
spend a and be grateful for that rock?
I'm so grateful, ladies and gentlemen, to be
here with you guys outside, to be alive,
to be holding this rock, and to be
broadcasting right to you guys live.
Number 15, and that's all about join communities
that align with your values.
Networking is more powerful when grounded in shared
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beliefs and passions.
Engaging with like-minded groups fuels growth, inspiration,
and of course support.
Number 16, focus on quality not quantity of
connections.
Cultivate genuine relationships over collecting contacts.
Meaningful connections drive the real change, so let's
be true about it.
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Number 17, be generous without expecting returns.
True generosity is its own reward.
Give freely and trust that goodwill will come
back to you naturally.
I think that's an important thing, guys.
Trust that it will come back to you.
Our world is karmic and it does actually
work.
Karma does work.
Number 18, guys, adapt communication for different personalities.
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Meet people where they are.
Recognizing and respecting individual styles.
Flexibility and communication builds understanding and trust.
Number 19, guys, handle conflict calmly and respectfully.
Approach disagreements with patience and empathy.
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What I like to say to someone if
I don't agree with them, I don't get
nasty or angry, I just say, you know
what, Jim, Mike, I'm just gonna agree to
disagree.
In other words, I understand where you're coming
from, but I don't agree with you, so
I agree to disagree.
It's a very polite way of disagreeing.
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So respectful communication preserves relationships even though tough
discussions sometimes do pop up.
You know, it's these tough conversations we have
that actually connect and unite us to be
better people in relationships.
Number 20, use some humor to disarm the
tension.
There's a lot of tension in our world,
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okay?
That's no secret.
A well-placed joke or smile can shift
the energy and defuse stress, making challenging moments,
well, much more manageable.
Number 21, learn the power of meaningful compliments.
Recognize and encourage unique gifts in others.
Specific praise builds confidence and deepens bonds, so
why not give that a try?
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Number 22, network with purpose, not just business
cards.
I go to so many events and I
see people just throwing cards out, but they
have no interest in the person, they just
want to have a card, right?
Approach the connection with clear intention.
What value can you share and what do
you seek from that person?
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I've said this before, guys, when you go
to an event, people say, gee, what do
you do?
You know, where do you live?
Sometimes people might ask a social question like,
you know, what sports, but it's rare.
I ask a question that's really powerful and
the question is this, you ready?
What makes you get up out of bed
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every morning?
And before you can answer that question, before
you can ask that question, I should say,
you got to be able to answer that
question.
People that can't answer that question are the
people I don't want around.
So if you can't answer why you get
up out of bed every morning, I think
you need to think about what your purpose
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in life is here.
Think about what motivates you.
Why do you get up every morning?
Why do you do what you do?
Number 23, build reputation as a connector and
problem solver.
Be the person others trust for introductions and
advice.
Your credibility grows with every solution you provide.
Number 24, maintain consistency to build relational trust.
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When your words match your actions over time,
you become this reliable presence in your network
and everyone starts talking about you.
Number 25, share your vision to inspire others.
I didn't say to brag about yourself.
I said, share it.
Be proud of it.
Don't boast about it.
Let your dreams and your ambitions motivate your
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network that you're part of.
Visionary thinking attracts support and collaboration, but remember,
the vision alone doesn't create the reality.
It gets us to think in terms of
it so we can get inspired actions and
thoughts to take, and that's what brings about
the reality.
Number 26, guys, show gratitude often and publicly.
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I just talked about this rock and how
grateful I am.
You know, you could pick up a rock.
You could be grateful for so many different
things, and I've done lots of shows on
gratitude, but I mean, how many people today
are going to pick up a rock today
here from this campus and be like, wow,
and this rock is warm and it's got
a nice texture, guys, really nice texture.
Number 26, show gratitude often and make sure
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it's done publicly.
Appreciation is a powerful connector.
Express it freely and cultivate goodwill.
That's important, guys, really important.
Number 27, seek mentorship and mentor others, whether
they're older, whether they're younger.
You know, just because you mentor them, you
think you can't learn.
You can.
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You can actually learn a lot from mentoring
people younger than you.
You can mentor and learn from people older
than you, but you can learn from mentoring
people younger than you because when you learn
something and when you have to teach something,
you have to learn it again, and that
helps you get new, let's say, thoughts about
it.
So growth is mutual.
Learn from those ahead and share the wisdom
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to lift you up with others.
Don't be trying to compete with others.
Remember I said the only person you should
competing with is yourself, the person of yesterday.
Compare yourself to yourself, not to others.
That's important.
Number 28, guys, balance talking and listening for
mutual respect.
Great relationships flourish on an even exchange of
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ideas and, of course, guys, support.
Number 29, be curious about cultures and perspectives.
Openness to new viewpoints leads to deeper, broader
understanding.
Be the connector of worlds.
Let your energy attract the right people.
Enthusiasm and positivity draw others and create networks
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worth keeping.
Number 31, your vision shapes your legacy.
Be careful with it.
Own it fiercely.
If you need to change it, feel free
to.
Every connection, every moment has built your legacy
from here on out.
Make your vision clear and let it guide
your choices every day.
Each of these practices can spark conversations, inspire
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social shares, and drive, guys, long-term impacts
to allow you to build a network fueled
by acknowledgement, gratitude, and growth.
You know, I think these are important things.
As I'm sitting here, you know, in this
park bench and, you know, holding this rock
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and, you know, watching the people going around
me, you can't see.
I'm kind of set up here so the
camera is facing more inward because there's lots
of people walking by me this way.
Remember, guys, consistency in these habits creates a
true culture, right, of inspiration and performance wherever
you go.
So that's really important.
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I would invite you guys to maybe go
pick up a rock.
I know it's a nice fall day.
It is November 4th.
It's 2025.
Also, I want to take this opportunity, I
believe if I'm correct, I think today is,
I think it's actually somebody's birthday.
Let me tell you whose birthday it is.
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Yes, it is actually Pebble's birthday.
Their pup, Scott, is turning three today at
Montclair State University.
So, you know, if you're around Montclair State,
feel free to wish Pebble's a happy birthday.
I believe it's from, basically, I think it's
from, well, I think it's from like right
now, one o'clock to 2 30.
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And I really want you guys to be
present.
I'm going to take this rock and I'm
going to throw it, okay?
And being grateful to be able to hold
that rock was an amazing experience.
So I invite you guys to be more
mindful in every moment of your day.
Because when you are, more things will come
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into your life you can become grateful for.
Be grateful for the moment.
Be grateful for life.
Be grateful for your breath.
Be grateful to be alive.
I invite you ladies and gentlemen to connect
with me now and anytime after at BelieveMeAchieve
.com.
Wow, is it getting a little breezy guys?
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But I told you we would get through
this cast.
So you can go to BelieveMeAchieve.com.
That's 24 hours a day.
You could find my short form content, my
long form content, that's replays of this show,
other shows, reels, articles, and so much more.
And we're going to find some different places
to broadcast from.
I like this spot, but we're going to
try some other places on campus.
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That's the beauty about being wireless and not
needing electricity as well.
So pretty good just to make sure your
battery's charged up to be able to handle
that.
So again, we are on the crux right
now guys of being very close to entering
December of our Series 5.
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1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.
We've got about seven, not quite seven and
a half weeks till we're finished with Series
4.
And we'll be moving on to Series 5.
If you guys do not know who I
am by now, I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It is always such a privilege, a pleasure,
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and honor to be with you.
Again, I am broadcasting live from Montclair State
University right here in Montclair, New Jersey.
And it is a beautiful, beautiful day to
be here on campus.
You know, watch this show.
Realize that your magnetism to attract other people
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is not just your eyes.
It's not just your demeanor, but it starts
inside you.
It starts from your heart.
That's a whole other show.
But the energy that you put out can
be measured within three feet.
So if you have a lousy attitude and
somebody's right there, they're going to be feeling
your negative energy.
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So why not deliver high quality energy?
So this way, they're going to be able
to feel that too.
Try it, okay?
They can feel you.
I mean, don't have to get a meter
to show you that this is true.
Again, I'm John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It's been great being with you at Montclair
State University campus.
I'll see you guys again.
Check me out at BelieveMeAchieved.com.
And let's remember to be mindful.
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Put the cell phones down and start remembering
life is meant to be lived.
It's not about social media 24-7.
Have yourself a fantastic rest of your day
or evening, and I'll catch you guys real
soon.
Be well, everyone.
And remember, start being mindful now.
It's never too late to wake up and
enjoy life.
Well, hey guys, good afternoon.
Today's John C.
Morley here coming to you
from the beautiful Montclair State University campus.
You guys know I'm a huge fan here.
And a better way, with some of the
great weather here, I thought why don't we
do some shoots here.
So I've actually got a leaf in front
of me.
I can't let you see that.
Because we're not in our studio or our
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home base or office or anything like that,
it's a little hard to control the conditions
around here.
So sometimes we might get students, it might
be noisy, although I've waited.
So it seems like most people are in
class or they're at lunch.
So hopefully we won't have too many people
bothering us.
I do want to welcome you, whether this
is your first time with me or you've
been here hundreds of times, of course, welcome
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back and welcome if it's your very first
time.
Oh, also, guys, I'm just getting out my
pack, a little bit different than I normally
do.
And I'm just getting out my water, my
RO water, guys, in case you didn't know.
And if you guys want to drink, feel
free to go get that drink.
Again, I do apologize if we get any
interruptions.
I'm on a public campus.
So again, I don't have a lot of
control of what's going on around me.
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I tried to pick a pretty quiet spot.
Here's my RO water.
It looks delicious.
All right, guys.
So without any further ado, let's get to
kick this show off.
I do want to let you know we
have a great week here about doing what's
right.
And today's topic is social magnetism.
By the way, we are on series four,
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show 45.
And this will be episode number four.
And in just less than eight weeks, we're
going to be done with being on the
air four years.
And we'll be on the air five years.
Beautiful campus, a little bit windy.
So again, apologize for some of the distractions
that we might get.
But let's go ahead and get this show
kicked off.
Love to stream outdoors.
Probably want to do some more of this.
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Again, the lighting here I know is not
the greatest, and I do apologize, but trying
to find a quiet place on campus and
a place where there's chairs and stuff.
And it's better than doing it in the
library.
Obviously, you've seen me do it in the
library before.
This is a lot better.
And I have my sunglasses off because if
I have them on, they're polarized and I
can't see my screen.
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So that's why I have that.
So again, welcome, everyone.
It is an amazing privilege and, of course,
a very big pleasure to be with everyone
here on Inspirations for Your Life.
This is a show that comes on every
single day.
We never know what time we're going to
be on the air.
But again, it is always great to be
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with everyone here.
I want to take this opportunity to welcome
everyone to the Inspirations for Your Life podcast.
If you are new, you can check out
all my great content at BelieveMeAchieve.com.
So again, it is so great to be
with you.
A very big, warm welcome to everyone that
is watching us live or that's on the
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replay.
My name is John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, and I come to you
every single day.
Sometimes I come to you outside.
I come to you indoors in our studio.
I'm a marketing specialist, video producer.
I'm a graduate student here at Montgomery State
University.
And above all, I am a passionate, lifelong
learner.
And every week, every day, I'm dedicated to
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helping you guys elevate your life and career
by sharing some powerful strategies, inspiring stories, and
authentic insights.
So whether it's unlocking workplace motivation, building connections,
or refining leadership skills, I'm here to guide
you on your journey.
So let's dive in and make this, like
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every other moment, let's make it count.
All right, let's be in the moment.
So again, the show's granular topic is social
magnetism.
That's series for show 45, episode number four.
Today is Tuesday.
It's November 4th, 2025.
If you're somebody out there that is concerned
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about what's going on in our world, well,
you got time if you're watching this live.
Today is national election day.
So definitely get out to your polls and
vote and make sure your voice is heard.
All right, guys.
So social magnetism, it's all about creating impactful
connections.
And again, it's so great to be with
every one of you.
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Do be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com
right after the show.
So let's get into our very first point
today.
Our very first point is show genuine interest.
You know, Dill Carnegie said this a very,
very long time ago.
We have to show genuine interest because everyone
out there always does things for their own
benefit, right?
So show genuine interest, Dill Carnegie said.
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People always remember how you make them feel.
They won't care about what you gave them.
They won't care about a lot of things.
But what they will always remember is how
you made them feel.
Authentic curiosity about someone's story forges lasting bonds
and sets the stage for a meaningful connection.
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And I know that's something a lot of
people say they want, but at the end
of the day, they're not doing it for
the reasons to be good people.
They're doing it because they want to get
over on you.
So we have to realize the difference between
somebody who cares about you and somebody who's
just trying to use you.
So that's really, really important.
And when you invest energy in truly understanding
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others, you're already making your interactions memorable.
So why not keep that positive energy going?
And when you are positive, everyone else around
you will be positive as well.
Of course, there are going to be some
people out there that may not align with
you, but that's okay.
When that happens, just go ahead and remove
them from your environment.
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That's an important thing to understand.
So let's get to point two.
Number two is master the art of thoughtful
listening.
I don't care whether you're in a college
course.
I don't care whether you're listening to your
family, your significant other, or you're listening to
music.
Life starts out with listening.
That's what we were given, two ears and
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one mouth.
So great connections, ladies and gentlemen, begin with
listening, not just the words, but the emotions
and the intentions that are associated to that.
By focusing on the speaker, asking follow-up
questions, and avoiding interruptions, you gain trust and
open the door to a much deeper and
richer set of conversations.
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So why not try that, guys?
Whether it's today or later on, depending on
when you're watching this, do make sure that
you are listening, because when you listen, so
much greatness can enter your life.
Number three, guys, ask open-ended questions to
deepen conversations.
So an open-ended question is, what makes
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you want to be doing that?
Don't ask a question like, do you want
to do this, yes or no?
If I say to you, do you like
music?
That's a yes or a no.
I might ask you something like, what type
of music do you like to listen to?
See, when I have a yes or no
question, the answer is already over.
If you're in sales, you're like, gee, well,
do you want to buy this?
And the answer is no.
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Well, you're done, right?
But if I say to you, gee, so
I see this working great in your conference
room.
What other room do you think it would
go best in?
And either way, they're giving you agreement, and
they're showing you they're still interested.
That's important, guys.
So instead of asking questions that result only
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in the yes or no responses, use the
questions and prompt them, which will invite to
share more about themselves.
It could be about the business opportunity.
But when we ask a question like, maybe
there's a golfer, I love to golf.
Where's your favorite place to golf?
I'm not asking, do you like golfing or
not golfing?
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I'm not asking you that.
Or maybe you're in school.
I might say to you, gee, what is
your favorite subject?
If I say to you, do you like
school?
And you say no, well, then the conversation's
over, right?
So what is it that you like about
college?
What is it that you like about high
school?
What is it that you like about your
job?
There's always something that you like, right?
So that's a really important thing, is to
find out what it is that ignites their
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passion.
Not because you're trying to pry, but because
you genuinely care.
If you do this and it's for an
ulterior motive, it's going to backfire and blow
up in your face.
So do it with genuine intentions that are
always positive.
Now, this approach brings out unique perspectives and
transforms small talk into genuine dialogue.
And I think that's an important thing that
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a lot of people don't realize.
Number four, authenticity beats perfection every single time.
In a world obsessed with flawless images, showing
your real self is the key to meaningful
encounters.
Vulnerability and honesty attract trust and respect.
Don't be afraid to admit your mistakes or
share personal growth stories.
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I think that's an important thing.
When you can share a story, I don't
care if maybe it's something that went wrong
with you.
Everyone thinks they've got to paint themselves as
a perfect person.
We're not perfect, okay?
So we need to just share a little
bit of our vulnerability, our humility.
And when we do that, other people around
us are more likely to connect with us.
Number five, guys, use body language to build
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trust instantly.
Nonverbal cues like open posture, eye contact, and
genuine smiles send powerful signals of confidence and
warmth.
When you're sitting somewhere and your feet are
actually pointing towards someone, that shows interest in
that conversation, that person.
If I'm sitting at a table in my
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theater like this, it's like, I'm really not,
then is it?
So pay attention to these things because we
do these things subconsciously.
I know it's a little breezy here, but
we're going to get through this cast, I
promise you.
Mirroring the tone and the energy of those
around you helps create an immediate bond and
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fosters true authentic communication, right?
So when we think about authenticness, we're talking
about things that are pure, things that are
for the greater good of all concerned.
We're not doing things just to create a
thing.
And again, I apologize if we're getting some
back noise here.
Again, we're at a public university and there
will be sometimes people walking around.
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I tried to pick a pretty quiet spot.
Number six, remember guys, names.
It's the simplest way to connect.
Dale Carnegie said, the most beautiful thing people
like is hearing the sound of their name,
John, Michael, Joe.
And if you don't know how to say
their name, like maybe their name is Ariana
or Isabella or Alexiana, ask them, how do
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you say their name?
I know it's a little breezy here, guys.
I can feel that.
So they will be happy to share with
you what their name is and how to
say it.
Hey, you know, I just wanted, can you
help me out with your name?
It's a beautiful name.
I don't want to destroy it.
Can you help me?
Sure.
So addressing someone by name makes them feel
valued and recognized.
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And it's the most important word that someone
here is the sound of their name said
correctly.
Okay.
Make an effort to remember and use names.
And you're going to stand out as someone
who truly cares about those you meet, not
just someone who's waltzing through life.
I think a lot of times it's always
about me, but really it's got to be
about the other person.
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A lot of us in society are selfish.
So we need to stop being selfish and
actually start caring about other people around us.
That's an important thing.
Number seven, guys, let's move on to that.
Be present.
That means put the phone down.
Now you go to dinner, phones down, distraction,
breaks, connections.
When you fully are engaged in real time
with people, they're going to know, they're going
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to know you're not BS-ing them.
Show them respect, put the social media away,
put the phone away and be present in
the moment with them.
Practice mindfulness in every conversation and make moments
together.
Genuinely count.
You know, I know so many people that
are rushing from here and rushing over there.
And I talked about this the other day
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about sometimes we feel like our life is
just going past us so quickly.
And the reason that happens is because we're
too much in a rut.
It's okay to be in a schedule, but
we need to mix things up.
Like today I came out here and did
the cast out here.
I didn't do it in the studio or
home or somewhere else.
So you got to mix up what you
do.
Maybe where you study, mix up where you're
going, or, you know, maybe you go home,
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drive a different way, right?
And be mindful of things.
Number eight, guys, share the stories that inspire
and relate to you.
We connect through stories.
So share experiences that resonate, uplift and encourage
others.
You're going to be surprised with the response
they have.
Now, personal antidotes are a bridge to understanding
and they help build, guys, they help build
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reliability and reliability and trust.
So these are important things, guys.
And I think if we can be mindful,
I mean, just being here on campus and
looking at a lot of people walking by,
I can tell you not a lot of
mindfulness going on here at campus.
Just a lot of people, you know, doing
this on their cell phone, like, yeah, I'm
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here, uh-huh, uh-huh, talk with their
boyfriend, their girlfriend, or talking to somebody else,
but not being mindful in the moment, not
enjoying the beautiful leaves or the trees or
the rocks or, you know, even these things.
I can go get another one.
I'm kind of tied here with this.
There's all kinds of great stuff around here.
There's a rock here on the floor, which
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I'm going to try to get.
Here it is.
Here's the rock, okay?
Again, just being mindful about this rock, right?
And what it feels like, the texture and
all that.
Number nine, guys, offer help before asking for
it.
That's important.
Generosity is the heart of strong relationships.
When you lead with genuine offers of support,
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you nurture goodwill and create a culture of
helpfulness that circles back around.
Now, it might not be today, it might
not be tomorrow, but I promise you it
will circle back around.
Number 10, smile strategically.
It is contagious.
Everyone loves a smile.
I don't care if you're going to the
grocery store, if you're going to work, or
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even if you're just, you know, going out
for a jog or something.
Smile at the gym.
Smile.
You will see that the smile will cultivate
a great response.
A genuine smile will uplift others and instantly
signal warmth and approachability.
A lot of people are very unapproachable.
They're in their phone, they're in their own
world, and they don't want to be approached,
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unfortunately.
It can change that dynamic.
The direction of a conversation can spread positively
through your circle, and boy, it is getting
breezy.
You guys can't feel the breeze.
Match energy, but stay authentic.
Adapt your voice to those around you, but
always hold on to your unique personality.
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Matching enthusiasm builds rapport, but authenticity keeps connections
honest, and you know what, guys?
Sustainable.
Number 12, praise freely and sincerely.
Recognition uplifts and motivates.
Give a compliment that is truly real, not
something to blow smoke up someone.
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Offering genuine compliments builds people up and nurtures
a strong, positive network, so why not start
doing that?
Don't just throw compliments out there because you
think it's nice.
Do it from the heart.
Number 13, follow up to deepen the relationships.
Reaching out after a conversation or an event
shows some true investment in others.
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Consistent follow-up keeps things alive.
Connection growth.
Number 14, guys, base vulnerability to create lasting
bonds.
Let others see your challenges as well as
your strengths.
Vulnerability fosters empathy and deeper relationships built on
a mutual understanding.
Like I was talking before about this rock,
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how many people today you think are going
to pick up a rock like this and
spend a and be grateful for that rock?
I'm so grateful, ladies and gentlemen, to be
here with you guys outside, to be alive,
to be holding this rock, and to be
broadcasting right to you guys live.
Number 15, and that's all about join communities
that align with your values.
Networking is more powerful when grounded in shared
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beliefs and passions.
Engaging with like-minded groups fuels growth, inspiration,
and of course support.
Number 16, focus on quality not quantity of
connections.
Cultivate genuine relationships over collecting contacts.
Meaningful connections drive the real change, so let's
be true about it.
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Number 17, be generous without expecting returns.
True generosity is its own reward.
Give freely and trust that goodwill will come
back to you naturally.
I think that's an important thing, guys.
Trust that it will come back to you.
Our world is karmic and it does actually
work.
Karma does work.
Number 18, guys, adapt communication for different personalities.
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Meet people where they are.
Recognizing and respecting individual styles.
Flexibility and communication builds understanding and trust.
Number 19, guys, handle conflict calmly and respectfully.
Approach disagreements with patience and empathy.
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What I like to say to someone if
I don't agree with them, I don't get
nasty or angry, I just say, you know
what, Jim, Mike, I'm just gonna agree to
disagree.
In other words, I understand where you're coming
from, but I don't agree with you, so
I agree to disagree.
It's a very polite way of disagreeing.
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So respectful communication preserves relationships even though tough
discussions sometimes do pop up.
You know, it's these tough conversations we have
that actually connect and unite us to be
better people in relationships.
Number 20, use some humor to disarm the
tension.
There's a lot of tension in our world,
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okay?
That's no secret.
A well-placed joke or smile can shift
the energy and defuse stress, making challenging moments,
well, much more manageable.
Number 21, learn the power of meaningful compliments.
Recognize and encourage unique gifts in others.
Specific praise builds confidence and deepens bonds, so
why not give that a try?
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Number 22, network with purpose, not just business
cards.
I go to so many events and I
see people just throwing cards out, but they
have no interest in the person, they just
want to have a card, right?
Approach the connection with clear intention.
What value can you share and what do
you seek from that person?
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I've said this before, guys, when you go
to an event, people say, gee, what do
you do?
You know, where do you live?
Sometimes people might ask a social question like,
you know, what sports, but it's rare.
I ask a question that's really powerful and
the question is this, you ready?
What makes you get up out of bed
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every morning?
And before you can answer that question, before
you can ask that question, I should say,
you got to be able to answer that
question.
People that can't answer that question are the
people I don't want around.
So if you can't answer why you get
up out of bed every morning, I think
you need to think about what your purpose
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in life is here.
Think about what motivates you.
Why do you get up every morning?
Why do you do what you do?
Number 23, build reputation as a connector and
problem solver.
Be the person others trust for introductions and
advice.
Your credibility grows with every solution you provide.
Number 24, maintain consistency to build relational trust.
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When your words match your actions over time,
you become this reliable presence in your network
and everyone starts talking about you.
Number 25, share your vision to inspire others.
I didn't say to brag about yourself.
I said, share it.
Be proud of it.
Don't boast about it.
Let your dreams and your ambitions motivate your
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network that you're part of.
Visionary thinking attracts support and collaboration, but remember,
the vision alone doesn't create the reality.
It gets us to think in terms of
it so we can get inspired actions and
thoughts to take, and that's what brings about
the reality.
Number 26, guys, show gratitude often and publicly.
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I just talked about this rock and how
grateful I am.
You know, you could pick up a rock.
You could be grateful for so many different
things, and I've done lots of shows on
gratitude, but I mean, how many people today
are going to pick up a rock today
here from this campus and be like, wow,
and this rock is warm and it's got
a nice texture, guys, really nice texture.
Number 26, show gratitude often and make sure
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it's done publicly.
Appreciation is a powerful connector.
Express it freely and cultivate goodwill.
That's important, guys, really important.
Number 27, seek mentorship and mentor others, whether
they're older, whether they're younger.
You know, just because you mentor them, you
think you can't learn.
You can.
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You can actually learn a lot from mentoring
people younger than you.
You can mentor and learn from people older
than you, but you can learn from mentoring
people younger than you because when you learn
something and when you have to teach something,
you have to learn it again, and that
helps you get new, let's say, thoughts about
it.
So growth is mutual.
Learn from those ahead and share the wisdom
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to lift you up with others.
Don't be trying to compete with others.
Remember I said the only person you should
competing with is yourself, the person of yesterday.
Compare yourself to yourself, not to others.
That's important.
Number 28, guys, balance talking and listening for
mutual respect.
Great relationships flourish on an even exchange of
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ideas and, of course, guys, support.
Number 29, be curious about cultures and perspectives.
Openness to new viewpoints leads to deeper, broader
understanding.
Be the connector of worlds.
Let your energy attract the right people.
Enthusiasm and positivity draw others and create networks
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worth keeping.
Number 31, your vision shapes your legacy.
Be careful with it.
Own it fiercely.
If you need to change it, feel free
to.
Every connection, every moment has built your legacy
from here on out.
Make your vision clear and let it guide
your choices every day.
Each of these practices can spark conversations, inspire
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social shares, and drive, guys, long-term impacts
to allow you to build a network fueled
by acknowledgement, gratitude, and growth.
You know, I think these are important things.
As I'm sitting here, you know, in this
park bench and, you know, holding this rock
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and, you know, watching the people going around
me, you can't see.
I'm kind of set up here so the
camera is facing more inward because there's lots
of people walking by me this way.
Remember, guys, consistency in these habits creates a
true culture, right, of inspiration and performance wherever
you go.
So that's really important.
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I would invite you guys to maybe go
pick up a rock.
I know it's a nice fall day.
It is November 4th.
It's 2025.
Also, I want to take this opportunity, I
believe if I'm correct, I think today is,
I think it's actually somebody's birthday.
Let me tell you whose birthday it is.
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Yes, it is actually Pebble's birthday.
Their pup, Scott, is turning three today at
Montclair State University.
So, you know, if you're around Montclair State,
feel free to wish Pebble's a happy birthday.
I believe it's from, basically, I think it's
from, well, I think it's from like right
now, one o'clock to 2 30.
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And I really want you guys to be
present.
I'm going to take this rock and I'm
going to throw it, okay?
And being grateful to be able to hold
that rock was an amazing experience.
So I invite you guys to be more
mindful in every moment of your day.
Because when you are, more things will come
(25:01):
into your life you can become grateful for.
Be grateful for the moment.
Be grateful for life.
Be grateful for your breath.
Be grateful to be alive.
I invite you ladies and gentlemen to connect
with me now and anytime after at BelieveMeAchieve
.com.
Wow, is it getting a little breezy guys?
(25:22):
But I told you we would get through
this cast.
So you can go to BelieveMeAchieve.com.
That's 24 hours a day.
You could find my short form content, my
long form content, that's replays of this show,
other shows, reels, articles, and so much more.
And we're going to find some different places
to broadcast from.
I like this spot, but we're going to
try some other places on campus.
(25:43):
That's the beauty about being wireless and not
needing electricity as well.
So pretty good just to make sure your
battery's charged up to be able to handle
that.
So again, we are on the crux right
now guys of being very close to entering
December of our Series 5.
(26:03):
1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.
We've got about seven, not quite seven and
a half weeks till we're finished with Series
4.
And we'll be moving on to Series 5.
If you guys do not know who I
am by now, I am John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It is always such a privilege, a pleasure,
(26:23):
and honor to be with you.
Again, I am broadcasting live from Montclair State
University right here in Montclair, New Jersey.
And it is a beautiful, beautiful day to
be here on campus.
You know, watch this show.
Realize that your magnetism to attract other people
(26:43):
is not just your eyes.
It's not just your demeanor, but it starts
inside you.
It starts from your heart.
That's a whole other show.
But the energy that you put out can
be measured within three feet.
So if you have a lousy attitude and
somebody's right there, they're going to be feeling
your negative energy.
(27:04):
So why not deliver high quality energy?
So this way, they're going to be able
to feel that too.
Try it, okay?
They can feel you.
I mean, don't have to get a meter
to show you that this is true.
Again, I'm John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
It's been great being with you at Montclair
State University campus.
I'll see you guys again.
Check me out at BelieveMeAchieved.com.
And let's remember to be mindful.
(27:26):
Put the cell phones down and start remembering
life is meant to be lived.
It's not about social media 24-7.
Have yourself a fantastic rest of your day
or evening, and I'll catch you guys real
soon.
Be well, everyone.
And remember, start being mindful now.
It's never too late to wake up and
enjoy life.
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