What’s real remains (S4) S36:E7

Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:24):
Well, hey guys, good evening, it is John
C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
It is great to be with you here
on Inspirations For Your Life.
I'm so glad to have you with me
here.
It is a wonderful, fantastic evening and we
have a great show for you.
So if you're new to Inspirations For Your

(00:45):
Life, well, I invite you to help enjoy
the show.
If you're coming back, thanks for coming back.
Thank you for coming the first time.
Thank you for coming back.
We have a great show for you and
this is the place where I inspire you.
If you haven't had a chance to check
out BelieveMeAchieve.com, go ahead and do that
after the show, which is available 24 hours

(01:05):
a day.
So welcome everyone.
And before I officially kick the show off,
if you're hungry, you're thirsty, I don't want
you to be parched or be starving, go
get something and come on back and enjoy
the show with me.
All right.
So this is day seven.
We go from Saturday to Friday.
That's how our weeks go.
And on Friday, it's day seven.

(01:26):
So that's the wrap up of the master
topic of the whole week.
What was that master topic?
Well, I thought you'd never asked me.
The master topic of this week was the
core that endures.
I love that.
I mean, that's an amazing one, right?
And so tonight I want to take this
opportunity to welcome you to Inspirations For Your
Life with myself, John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,

(01:49):
podcast host, and podcast coach.
I am passionate about helping you unlock your
full potential, elevate your leadership, and navigate life
with clarity, courage, and authenticity.
Every episode is designed to challenge what you
think you know, push you toward growth, and

(02:10):
leave you with actionable insights to live a
more, well, let's say, fulfilling, empowered life.
So let's dive in, everyone.
Number one is trends fade, and truth doesn't.
In a world, I should say, that chases
the latest fads, true value is timeless.

(02:32):
What lasts isn't always flashy, it's authentic, tested,
and resilient.
This episode is about spotting the real from
the temporary, and anchoring your life in what
truly matters.
Number two, guys, time proves what's real.
I know we're in a rush sometimes to

(02:52):
always get what we think is real, but
sometimes we have to understand that by separating
the smoke from the fire, over time, well,
illusions just disappear, and the things built on
integrity, skill, and effort, well, they continue to
endure.
We explore how patience and long-term thinking

(03:13):
reveal the genuine opportunities and relationships in your
life.
Number three, guys, hype dies, reality lasts.
The flashy promotions, viral trends, and social media
noise are exciting, but they are fleeting.
Real impact, lasting influence, and meaningful work are

(03:36):
what stand the test of time.
So let's talk about building beyond the hype,
shall we?
Sure.
I think a lot of times people, you
know, they get people built up, and they
make it more than what it really is.
And I kind of call this clickbait, because
that's what they're doing.

(03:57):
It's like they're putting a title to get
you to click on a video, but the
video is really not about how to make
popcorn.
It's about something completely different.
Maybe you didn't care about the topic that
was in there.
Maybe it was a topic about how to
lose weight, or how to hike healthy.
You didn't care about making popcorn, right?
But that's what the video is about, but

(04:18):
it got you to click on it because,
you know, you thought for one reason that
it was about how to make popcorn.
All the other stuff really didn't matter so
much to you.
So number four, guys, illusions fade, lessons stay.
Even mistakes, failures, and false starts leave behind
wisdom.

(04:38):
What seems like a setback today may become,
well, tomorrow's greatest lesson.
In the episode, I want to let you
know the highlights, how to extract lessons from
every experience and apply them strategically.
You know, we've all had situations that we're
not happy with.
And I don't want to tell you to

(04:58):
harp on that because that's not healthy.
What I do want to let you know
is that you have to pay attention to
the situation and figure out, extract out what
it is you learn from that, okay?
Keep the lesson and throw away everything else,
all right?
You learn the lesson.
You don't do it again.
Otherwise, history is going to make you, you

(05:19):
know, repeat it over and over again.
Number five, guys, what's fake withers, not right
away, but eventually.
What's real will grow to the top.
Authenticity isn't just admirable, it's sustainable.
So fake systems, shallow connections, and superficial work

(05:40):
eventually collapse while real efforts, genuine relationships, and
meaningful contributions thrive.
And I know because you might be looking
at what the Jones are doing or somebody
else is doing, you're like, well, they're not
doing it that way.
You can't live your life looking out somebody

(06:02):
else's window, right?
You have to realize that you have your
own special gifts, your own skills, and it's
up to you to cultivate, to work them,
and to develop them.
That's really an important thing.
Number six, guys, masks slip.
People sometimes put these masks on to hide

(06:23):
who they really are.
We say they're sometimes two-faced.
And so sometimes they get so confused in
what they're doing that they slip.
They forget to put the mask back on,
right?
Authenticity always shines.
Everyone wears masks at some point.
The difference is in removing them and showing
up fully as yourself.

(06:46):
So understanding this is important.
And to embrace authenticity in both life and
leadership, that's important too.
So be who you are, don't be someone
else.
You are a great person.
And just be you.
Again, that means whether that's your life, whether
that's what you believe in, what you don't

(07:07):
believe in.
And understanding that what you do, other people
might not see as right, but what you
do is you.
Be proud of who you are.
Celebrate you every single day because there's no
one else in this entire world, this universe,
exactly like you.
So celebrate your traits.

(07:29):
You might have some flaws, but that's what
makes us all unique.
And those flaws can help us learn so
we can become a better version of ourself.
Number seven, guys, filters fade.
You can work so hard to hide something.

(07:49):
And then the filter just doesn't seem to
work anymore.
Character remains through the thick and the thin.
In a digital world of filters and curated
personas, right, avatars, true character shines through all
the time.

(08:09):
Reputation, reliability, and integrity can't be faked.
And they make all the difference in the
world.
But I know a lot of people think
that they can just throw that on right
now because that's what they believe in.
But that's not the truth, guys.
It is not the truth.
Number eight, noise fades.

(08:30):
Power endures.
Now, that doesn't mean for you to get
up there and scream and yell and be
powerful.
That's going to captivate some people.
But then you know what happens the next
time they're not going to want to pay
attention to you.
So power always endures.
Loud voices, as I said, grab attention.
But the steady, the consistent, the action creates
influence and authority.

(08:51):
So somebody might pay attention to you because
you're loud or because you're screaming.
But you're not really gaining their respect.
It's just you're captivating their attention through their
eyes or through their ears.
And they want to just see, like, what's
going on.
But they're not going to keep paying attention
to you.
So don't live a lifestyle like that.
Learn how to focus on what matters and

(09:12):
let real power grow quietly but surely.
I said this before, guys.
What we do quietly is what helps us
become a success.
Not what we bolster on a highway or
on a street corner.
Number nine, truth needs no polish.
You tell the truth.

(09:34):
Genuine ideas and authentic leadership stand on their
own.
You see, guys, you don't need gimmicks.
You don't need fads.
You don't need clickbait or exaggeration.
Truth resonates and attracts naturally.

(09:54):
I know some people say, well, you know,
I got to spoof it up or, you
know, I've got to impress somebody.
No, you don't need to do that.
You need to be the true person you
are, because when you are true, you might
have less followers at first.
But as you progress, you know what happens?
More people will say, wait a minute, I

(10:16):
got to pay attention to this person.
Number 10, guys, waves crash like at the
sea, but the rocks always stand.
The waves crash, but the rocks always stand.
Life will throw challenges, criticism, and chaos at
you.
It's part of life.

(10:37):
The key is building solid foundations that allow
you to stay grounded no matter what the
storm is.
I know you might be saying, oh, this
is impossible.
How am I going to get through this?
Right?
And we can think of a typical storm,
right?
I remember coming home from class at college
a couple months ago, and I was in

(10:59):
summer term.
And I remember that I didn't have an
umbrella with me.
I said, oh, I don't have an umbrella.
So first thing I'm thinking is I have
to go get an umbrella.
But maybe five or 10 minutes just after
that, security comes to my table and says,
you know, the university is closing.
You know, you have to get out of
here.
The university is closing at three.
So I go downstairs to the bookstore because
they were closing at three.

(11:20):
It was like 2.15. Went to get
an umbrella, which was not a great umbrella
because that's all they had.
And I bought this overpriced umbrella for a
piece of junk, basically, but I had it.
And I walked outside and I opened it.
And as I opened the umbrella, I realized
one thing.
I realized that I could barely keep the
umbrella even open because it was like very
flimsy.
It wasn't a great umbrella.

(11:41):
And then as I'm walking through this very
vicious storm, I noticed there's thunder and there's
lightning.
And I'm walking under high power lines.
And I'm like, John, what the heck are
you doing?
You're walking with a metal umbrella, OK, in
the water, getting soaked under electrical line.

(12:02):
I said, you know what?
I'm better off to put the umbrella away,
close it and walk faster.
Even though I'm getting wet, at least I
won't be a high point.
So lightning could potentially strike me.
So that was a storm.
I got through it.
I got in the car.
My clothes were soaked and stuck to my

(12:23):
skin.
But it was a storm.
I got through that moment.
And you can get through it, whether it's
a physical storm, whatever storm it is.
We had another storm when I was younger
in our beach house before we rebuilt down
the shore.
I remember being home, I remember sitting on
our couch.

(12:44):
And I also remember the thunder and the
lightning.
And we were always taught that, you know,
like go by the wood, you know, kind
of stay by something wood.
And just hearing the crackling of the thunder
and seeing the lightning and, you know, the
spontaneous actions of it were a little startling.

(13:05):
And then all of a sudden, my mom
decided to answer the phone.
No big deal, we figured, right?
So she gets on the phone, she's talking
to somebody.
I think it was my grandmother, because they
had already got home.
And so when they drove home, she wanted
to call and let her know everything was
OK, so she's talking.
And I'm like, Mom, you really should get
off the phone.
She said, Oh, I know, I know, I'll

(13:25):
get off in a few minutes.
And she's on the phone.
And guess what happened a few seconds later?
Crack.
Bang.
Mom, I got to call you back.
She hangs up the phone.
What was that?
We got hit by lightning.

(13:48):
And so I explained to her how it
happened.
I said, you don't want to be on
the phone when there's a lightning storm, because
you actually cause it to attract to us
like a magnet.
And I remember we're sitting there a few
hours later, we're actually smelling something like it's
burning.
So we call the fire department, you know,

(14:08):
we call 9-1-1 and we go
to our neighbor next door.
My dad stays at the house and waits
for the the fire department to come.
And apparently it was just basically the lightning
that struck that basically sends some stuff outside.
It was burning nothing that they had to
put out.
But that lightning literally made a burn smell.

(14:31):
And that was a little scary.
But, you know, we got through that storm.
Now, with that wisdom, I am a lot
smarter when it comes to a storm.
I don't get on the cell phone or
the telephone.
I get the heck off that.
I stay away from windows.
I don't go near water.
I don't go near metal.

(14:52):
And I just kind of take it easy.
That's what I do.
And that's the most important thing.
Now, another thing my grandfather taught me when
he was alive is that, John, if you're
driving, you're actually in a good spot.
And I was like, hi, you know, yeah,
but you're on rubber.
So you're kind of grounded.
So you're you're good.
OK, so be my rubber.
Right.
So that's another thing.

(15:12):
So you can get through any storm, guys.
That is the key.
Number 11, foundations matter more than the facades.
Right.
I know we always like the facades and
how nice everything looks.
But the foundation of the house.
Matters more than the trip.
Appearances can impress temporarily, but your foundation, your

(15:35):
skills, your minds and your principles that determines
the lasting success.
I know a lot of times it's these.
Gimmicks that draw people in, but it doesn't
hold them very long.
So they only pay attention because they're curious.
But then once they realize what a stupid
idea it is or how there's no substance
to it, they quickly lose interest in it.

(15:56):
See, we're showing you how to strengthen your
base for life and business.
And I think.
You've got to be true to yourself before
you can be true to others, you've got
to be true to yourself, if you can
be true to yourself.
Other people will be true to you as
well.
Number 12, guys.

(16:18):
Reality is the compass.
Hype is a storm.
Reality is the compass.
Hype is the storm.
Don't get lost chasing trends or these short
term wins.
Let reality guide your decisions and use hype

(16:38):
as fuel, not direction.
Let me say that again.
Use the hype as fuel, not direction.
OK, that's important.
Very, very important.
Number 13, guys, the real pieces always fit.
So don't try to make a puzzle fit.

(17:01):
There's only going to be one piece that
goes together perfectly correctly.
Right.
In work and in personal life, the authentic
connections, the skills you have and the opportunities
naturally will align.
And understanding this and spotting the pieces that

(17:21):
belong and letting go of what doesn't is
key in life.
So you might say, gee, I want this
to fit.
But you know the truth, it doesn't fit.
So don't try to put a square peg
in a round hole.
It's not going to work.
You're going to wind up frustrating yourself, wasting
so much time and so much resources that

(17:41):
it's just going to be really a problem
for you.
Number 14, guys, what's real unlocks freedom.
What is real unlocks freedom.
You know, authenticity and truth free you from
stress, doubt and societal pressure.
The freedom to act genuinely is the ultimate

(18:04):
power in your life.
Number 15, guys.
Illusions close doors.
Truth opens them.
Let me say that again.
Illusions close doors, truth opens them.
Illusions close doors, truth opens them.

(18:24):
Faking or exaggerating may temporarily impress, but honesty
and transparency will create long term opportunities.
So you might think, gee, you know, I
can do this and catch somebody's attention because
I'm doing something stupid or I can do
something that's not me because I think other
people have done it.
It'll impress somebody.
Yes, it may.
But not impress them at the core.

(18:46):
It'll get them curious to be like, what
the heck are you doing?
And they'll be curious in that.
But then once again, they see there's no
substance, there's no value.
They're going to lose interest in it.
And soon, anything that you do.
Open your doors with integrity, not illusions.
Open doors with integrity, not illusions.
Open doors with integrity, not illusions.

(19:07):
That means when you're doing something, don't be
something you're not.
Open the door with who you really are.
Number 16, guys, what's real will always protect
you.
What's real always protect you.
Authentic relationships, skills and systems will shield you
from setbacks and crises.

(19:28):
Build your life with what endures.
It's your ultimate protection.
What endures stays around.
Right.
That was our whole that's our whole theme
of the week, isn't it?
This whole thing about, you know, the core
that endures.
And so what I mean by that is
the core that endures is we're building our

(19:49):
core this week.
Right.
So if you build a good core, you're
exercising, the rest of your body will be
better.
Right.
If you build a good core in business,
the rest of your business will be solid.
If you build a good core in your
relationships, your relationship will be solid.
Again, build the core.
Building the core takes time.
It's not something you're going to do in
five seconds.

(20:09):
I got to be honest with you.
You're going to put the effort into that.
Number 17, guys, peace lives in the real.
Peace isn't found in chasing approval or trends.
So many people I know are waiting for
somebody else to prove what they've done.
But you don't need anybody else's approval.

(20:30):
OK, and the sooner you see that, the
sooner you realize you have more power than
you think when you start putting your life
in someone else's hand and expecting them to
make you happy.
That's your first mistake.
Realize other people will enhance your life, compliment
your life, no one will complete it.

(20:50):
I don't care if that's a friend, that's
family, it's a partner, lover.
No one will complete it.
They will only compliment it.
And if you think people come in your
life to make you happy.
You're going to be sadly disillusioned, OK?
When someone comes in your life and you're
like, gee, you know, they're not making me

(21:11):
happy.
That's right.
You need to learn to make yourself happy.
OK, if they make you happy, that's great.
But don't expect them to make you happy.
See, it comes from grounding yourself in authenticity,
purpose and truth.
But so many people get hung up with
the fact that, well, you know, I got
to wait for Jim's approval.

(21:32):
I got to wait for my wife's approval.
I got to wait for this approval.
You got to wait for his approval.
Why?
You have two feet.
You have a smart head on your shoulders,
solid back, right?
Good body.
You can make your own decisions and you
can give yourself your own pat on the

(21:52):
back.
So if you're waiting for other pats on
the back.
Forget it.
Because you're not always going to get them.
If you get them, great.
But don't expect it.
Number 18, guys, growth is built on what
lasts.
True growth is an instant.
It comes from consistent effort, continuous learning and

(22:14):
building foundations that endure beyond the spotlight.
I know a lot of people want to
build because they're in the limelight.
They're in the press.
They want to build for that feeling, for
that moment.
What happens when the lights turned off?
The attention, the fame goes away.

(22:35):
Are you still authentic or are you just
living for the spotlight?
I think that's important to realize.
A lot of actors have that problem.
Number 19, guys, fakes get attention.
They do.
I'm not going to lie to you.
Real people get respect.
So a fake person will get attention all
day long until a person gets tired of

(22:56):
it.
But a real person gets respect.
I'd rather have respect than attention any day.
Short term attention is fleeting.
That's what the fakes get.
Respect lasts a long time.
So you get attention with respect, but a
different kind of attention.

(23:17):
And that attention lasts not because you're trying
to be some mime on a stage.
And if anybody hears a mime, I'm not
calling you out.
I'm just using that as an example.
I think we've learned a lot in this
episode because, you know, we focused a lot
on earning lasting impact through authenticity and action.

(23:38):
I talked about being on the show like
Good Morning America, Good Day New York.
You can pay money to get on the
show to be a sponsor.
And it says sponsored by.
That's different than you being invited to be
on the show for your true authenticity.
A lot of people may not know the
difference, but if you look at the bottom,

(23:58):
you could see sponsored by.
And that is not true authenticity.
That's an ad.
When you connect with somebody, you say, oh,
hey, I'm this, this, this, this, you don't
go into all that.
You just go into the fact that this
is who I am.
Maybe this is what I'm doing or this
is my whatever it is.

(24:18):
Can you be true?
Now, people that are not true, when you
share something truthful about yourself, I'm going to
tell you a secret.
They're actually going to avoid you because they're
living their life on a bunch of lies,
on a bunch of falsalities, OK, on a
bunch of whims to get attention for people

(24:39):
like you.
And when they can't get the attention, they
can't get the rise.
You know what happens?
They move on.
They don't want to talk to somebody that's
authentic because they're not authentic.
Number 20, I bet you thought we'd never
get there.
So in this episode, finding strength in what
endures is important.
And I think if you start to realize

(24:59):
and take a moment to say, OK, what
can I do to build authenticity?
Well, number one, do what you say.
So I know we'll say something and then
it never happens.
Do what you say.
Be a man or lady of your word.
When you do that, people respect you.

(25:20):
Under promise, over deliver.
I'll give you a per example.
When I have an appointment with somebody, I
like I'll be there between one and two.
I'm there usually before two.
Today I had an appointment.
I was running behind with somebody.
I emailed him and said, I'm running behind
with a client.
I'll be there between between two and two
thirty.

(25:40):
I got there to 15.
Under promise, over deliver, and people will think
you're their hero.
So you guys can tune in to explore
practical techniques, inspirational stories and strategies to align
your life with what's real.
So you can thrive, guys, personally and professionally
and spiritually.

(26:01):
And, you know, every single day, Inspirations for
Your Life has like a 28 minute show,
28, 29 minute show.
And I give you truth about.
Being authentic, truth about things you may not
want to hear.
You might say, gee, Johnny, you know, I

(26:21):
don't want to do that.
I want to do this the quick way.
You could do it the quick way.
You might get a lot of attention, but
you won't get any respect.
You won't get any respect.
Do you remember the class clown in grammar
school or high school?
I always thought I wanted to be a
class clown, but I was taught very early

(26:43):
on by my family that you don't want
to do that, even though this person always
gets attention.
I remember this one person.
His name was Anthony.
Very nice guy.
And he would always dress like a slob
and he did it to get attention.
He would do things like throw airplanes during
class.

(27:03):
He was just looking to be the class
clown.
And he was really a nice person, but
he was craving attention.
His family wasn't giving it to him, so
he decided he would go and try to
get it in school.
But that wasn't the right thing to do.

(27:26):
Other people were kind of following him a
little bit.
Because I didn't follow him, I wasn't his
best friend.
He didn't get respect.
He got attention every single day in our
class until the teacher decided to put him
in the corner.
For 15 minutes, they called it a time

(27:47):
out.
Then when he was still getting people's attention
by making all kinds of funny faces and
whatnot, she told him to turn around and
face the corner.
And then when he was still doing things
with his hand, she told him to get
out of the corner and go go in
the hallway.
See, people will try to do this to
get a rise out of you for superficial
reasons.

(28:07):
It could be for money.
It could be for attention, lots of different
things.
But they're not doing it for the true
core, which is respect, which is integrity.
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, a serial
entrepreneur.
Do check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of
my amazing, inspiring creations.
I'll catch you real soon.
Remember, always be authentic because anybody can get
attention by being dishonest and fleeting.

(28:30):
But when you show integrity, you get respect.
I'd rather have respect every day.
Have yourself a great one, everyone.
Be well.

All Episodes

Episode Transcript

Popular Podcasts

Dateline NBC

Stuff You Should Know

My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

.css-15opob5{left:0;position:absolute;top:0.8rem;} All Episodes

.css-14f5ked{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:2;overflow:hidden;}What’s real remains (S4) S36:E7

Episode Transcript

Popular Podcasts

.css-r6mb8g{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:1;overflow:hidden;}Dateline NBC

Stuff You Should Know

My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

All Episodes

What’s real remains (S4) S36:E7

Dateline NBC