Intimacy After Infidelity | Rebuild Connection, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness for Adultery, Avoid Divorce
The Go-to Podcast for Christian Women Who Want to Heal Their Heart to Shed Their Shame! *RANKED TOP 2.5% GLOBALLY* Do you wish someone would stop and see you, instead of looking through you or past you? Are you Googling ways to communicate and connect with your husband, but you’re still not feeling heard? Do you lay awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity or what’s the first step to file for divorce? Your vows are broken, and you’re so full of shame that you’re sure there’s no way God or your husband could possibly forgive you. I am so grateful you’re here! This podcast will help you find hope, get a grasp on your emotions at a deeper level, and learn how to get raw and honest with God like your life depends on it- because it does. You’ll also get coaching for the steps along the journey of restoration, communication, and trust. Hey, I’m Kristina Joy. Forgiven daughter of Jesus, Mom, and Coach. For years, I tried to break free from my infidelity in all the wrong ways. I tried by sheer willpower, I tried reading my Bible more, and I even considered joining a 12-step program. None of it worked. I finally realized that if I was going to find true freedom in my life, I needed to let Jesus heal some deep wounds in my heart. Through prayer, a whole lot of research, and developing new healthy habits, I was finally able to find healing to shed my shame once and for all. I learned I could choose to leave the affair behind. I could choose to pursue my own emotional healing and growth, no matter if my marriage survived or not. I could create new healthy habits that would move me forward in confidence, with strength and dignity. And I am SO ready to share what I’ve learned with you! If you are ready to finally find your true self in Christ, Experience ultimate freedom from your bondage, Feel authentic connection without the secrets, And move forward with strength and dignity, Then find your safe space and pop in those earbuds. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and life can be way better than it ever was before. Get ready- let’s rebuild your intimacy better than it’s ever been!
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If you’ve ever wondered why the wrong thing could feel so right, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my real-time 🔥 Holy Spirit revelations 🔥 from a church sermon, unpacking how the enemy distorts truth to lure us into counterfeit lies. You’ll learn how to identify the lies, test them a...
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Sister, you’re not “too emotional” and you’re not a robot. God designed your body, brain, and heart to work together. In this episode, I teach a simple Christian & somatic approach to feeling your feelings without spiraling into old patterns. We’ll use The Model and The Domino Drill, ...
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When the affair ends, the silence can feel unbearable. Not just because he’s gone, but because you don’t recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, I share my own story of identity loss after infidelity and walk you through the process of rediscovering who you are in Christ. You’ll learn how to detach from false identities, rebuild y...
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You’re not crazy for still thinking about him, and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this episode I explain the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, help you name what you’re really missing, and teach practical, faith-filled tools to interrupt old loops and create new, healing associations. This includes somatic practices, a visu...
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If you’ve ever thought, “I should feel guiltier… I should regret this more…” this episode is for you.
I share my personal story of how guilt once kept me chained to shame and how learning the difference between guilt and responsibility changed everything.
You’ll learn: ✨ The difference between shame, guilt, and true responsibility ✨ Why punishing you...
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Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved again after what happened?”
In this episode, I share my raw journey of what it felt like to stay in a marriage after betrayal: the fear, the constriction, the loneliness. I’ll also walk you through the turning point that shifted everything: discovering my worth in Christ, learning to get rad...
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Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a good person, but if you have truly received salvation through Jesus Christ?
In this episode, I share my personal story of coming to know Jesus, from a childhood prayer, to wrestling with doubt, to experiencing a whole new level of surrender after my affair and baptism. I connect my own tes...
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After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But what if boundaries weren’t about fear, but about love?
In this episode, I unpack what boundaries really are (and what they’re not) and show you the three essential types of boundaries every woman needs after infidelity: ✨ Boundaries with the affair partner ✨ Boundaries with friends and c...
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Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this episode, I share how the God, who saw Hagar in the wilderness, is the same God who sees, hears, and responds to you. He's El Roi, even in your wilderness.
We’ll explore how being seen by God changes everything about how you live, love, and heal after an affair. You’ll walk away knowing yo...
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When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep.
In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by.
You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together, release bitterness, and receive th...
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You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him?
If you've ever found yourself craving attention, safety, or affection from someone who hurt you, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I’m unpacking:
- How I started to recognize addictive patterns and anxious attachment
- What your cravings are really trying to tell you
- Why your nervous system might chase the fam...
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You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there.
Why do I still miss him? Will this longing ever go away?
Yes, the ache is real. But it’s not about him—it’s about what you’re truly wired for: emotional intimacy, safety, and being seen.
This episode is your gentle guide to reclaiming that connection… without outsourcing your worth.
💡 Here we explore:
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You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again. So why does it still hurt? Why do you still miss him?
I get it. No contact isn’t a quick fix. It’s like withdrawal.
And healing is about way more than blocking someone.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
- Why cutting contact can still leave you craving him
- What...
Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trust you again… you have to learn how to trust yourself.
In this episode, I’m sharing why rebuilding self-trust is the root of true healing—and how to take small, safe steps toward integrity and alignment with who God made you to be.
You’ll learn: ✅ Why obsessing over your spouse’s trust keep...
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What if your continued struggle isn’t a sign that you’ve failed… but a sign that you’re still becoming?
In this honest and hope-filled episode, I share what it means to walk through the messy middle without shame. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your future self, care for your body and spirit, and return to your values without trying to “fix” yourself. This is for the woman who feels tangled, t...
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If you’ve just ended an affair—or maybe you’ve confessed and you’re still spinning in shame—you might be wondering: Where do I even start?
I know what it feels like to be frozen in confusion. To believe you have to fix everything. To feel like you’re the problem. But healing isn’t about fixing your marriage first or spilling every tiny detail. Your first step is coming home to yourself and God.
In...
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What if repentance wasn’t about shame—but about coming home?
In this tender and truth-filled episode, I share what it means to return to God not with guilt, but with grace. Through my own story of wrestling with desire, honesty, and identity, you'll be invited to reframe repentance as a loving homecoming, not a spiritual punishment. Whether you're still in the affair or navigating the ache afterwa...
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You thought things would get better after the confession. But now? You just feel stuck.
In this episode, I speak directly to the woman still in the middle- maybe still in the affair, maybe just out of it, still wrestling with shame, spiraling thoughts, or disconnection from God and herself. You’ll hear my story of getting unstuck, the moment I finally found support, and how transformation often be...
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After an affair, it’s easy to withdraw, thinking you're protecting yourself or others. But withdraw turned isolation keeps you stuck, while solitude creates space for healing.
In this episode, we explore the subtle but powerful difference between the two. You’ll learn how to recognize when you're numbing or hiding, how to build healthy rhythms of solitude with God, and why safe community is essent...
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After betrayal, the shame can feel unbearable. You wonder, Who even am I now? In this episode, we explore the shock of your choices, the myth of the "good girl," and the invitation to rebuild your identity through the eyes of grace. You're not beyond redemption—and you're not alone.
If you’re asking, “How could I have done this?” then join me! In this episode...
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