184. Writing About Childhood Sexual Abuse without Reliving It featuring Dr. Stacey Hettes

Dr. Stacey Hettes joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about therapeutic writing and how she crafted a memoir about childhood sexual abuse without revictimizing herself, metabolizing childhood trauma, inviting readers into our physiological response, the role of our limbic systems, deciding whether to share specifics about abuse in our manuscripts, italicizing difficult material for readers so they can decide, approaching a story of child sexual abuse in a protective way, putting therapy into our memoirs, demonstrating our character’s progress in our narrative, remembering we can write beautifully about hard things, and her new memoir Dispatches from the Couch.

 

Also in this episode:

-sharing a memoir with family

-the amygdala and child trauma victims

-deciding whether to share specifics about abuse

 

Books mentioned in this episode:

-Bodywork by Melissa Febos

-Wintering by Catherine May

-Writing a Woman’s Life by Caroline G. Heilbrun

-Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor

 

Professor Stacey Hettes teaches biology and neuroscience to undergraduates eager to enter the worlds of science and medicine at Wofford College in Spartanburg, SC. She holds a PhD from the University of California, Riverside, and is the youngest winner to date of the Milliken Award for Excellence in the Teaching of Science. Her classes are difficult because life is difficult. They are also full of wonder, joy, and triumph because, like her students, she is a hard-working seeker. She relishes in shared struggle and shared discovery, even when the topic is long-buried child sexual abuse. Reemerging from the shadows of her past was only possible once she resolved to carry the story found in her Debut memoir, Dispatches from the Couch, into the light.

Connect with Stacey:

Website: https://www.staceyhettes.com/

Facebook: Stacey Hettes, https://www.facebook.com/stacey.hettes

Instagram: @staceyhetteswrites, https://www.instagram.com/staceyhetteswrites/

If you'd like to know more about Wofford College: https://www.wofford.edu/

Books may be purchased from all major outlets

 

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Ronit’s writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer’s Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts’ 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories. 

She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book.

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Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography

Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll’s Fingers