“He used to try... and now he just sits there.”
Maybe you've said those words to yourself—or out loud to a friend. It’s one of the hardest parts of life after stroke, especially with aphasia. You're watching someone you love shrink. They used to fight. They used to care. Now they won’t even try. But what if what looks like apathy is actually something else?
This episode unpacks a hidden truth: most stroke survivors haven’t given up. They’re just surviving. They’re stuck in the moment, unable to see how today’s effort connects to anything that still matters. Especially with aphasia, there’s no clear line between the task and the “why.” That’s where learned helplessness sneaks in. And that’s why your role as a care partner becomes so important—not to force effort, but to rebuild relevance.
Key Takeaways:
- What learned helplessness really is—and why it’s not laziness • Why survivors need us to draw the connection between “effort” and “outcome” • How trauma and disorientation hide behind silence or compliance • The power of identity, relevance, and one person who believes in you • A better way to respond when you feel stuck, tired, or unheard
If this hits home—there’s a guide I want you to have. TAKE IT BACK: A Survivor’s Guide to Reclaiming Strength, Dignity, and Confidence After Stroke
More Resources: Two aphasia caregivers and two different paths. Are you Lisa or Elena? https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/lisa-or-elena
Feel stuck in your recovery? This guide will remind you why progress is still possible: 3 Keys to LIFE Beyond Aphasia
Aphasia spouses and caregivers, we have resources for you. https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/care-partner-resources
Explore speech pathology communication coaching options: https://www.dolifespeechpathology.com/treatment-for-aphasia-and-neurologic-conditions
Join our private support community for aphasia care partners: LIFE Aphasia Collective
Subscribe for new YouTube episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@LIFESpeechPathology/videos
Listen to Listen for LIFE Aphasia podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/listen-for-life-aphasia-podcast/id1621948384
🌱 You’re not failing. You’re adapting.
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies!
The Breakfast Club
The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, And Charlamagne Tha God!