Yes, I am engaged and so so happy about it! Today, in an absolute first for the pod, I discuss my romantic relationship with my ENTJ fiancé! Join with a cuppa as I answer your questions about ESFP / ENTJ compatibility, my thoughts on love and relationships, how we resolve conflict, how our functions play out and much more!
Note: I received Andrew's permission to discuss our relationship openly. 😊
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⌛ T I M E S T A M P S :1:24 How did you two meet? An ENTJ and ESFP meeting must have been fun
3:49 Is your fiance Catholic?
4:15 Does your fiance also partake in the Te tone? Also what are your thoughts on MBTI?
5:45 Do you think if you were still in your prime you would have been more picky?
6:02 Was the ESFP/ENTJ interaction in the speed dating video based off something that happened in real life?
7:02 Where will you go to get married?
7:08 Have you chosen a date for the wedding?
7:22 What role plays faith in your relationship?
8:10 How involved are you in his plan to overtake Greece?
8:22 What other types have you dated before choosing your ultimate winner?
8:52 How and when did the both of you become official/start dating? Also, is it weird that I don't believe in type compatibility, that it all depends on the persons' true selves and how they grow and develop with each other?
9:37 How close is he to the ENTJ you've created on this channel? Was he an inspiration for this character in the last videos? Also, Feeler and Thinker pair - some tips, that help you understand each other better? Also, what helps him to deal with your spontaneity, and what helps you deal with his planning? Also, does he like MBTI? Will he help you in creating content? Will we see him in your videos?
16:45 How has it been introducing your fiancé into your family?
18:02 I can see you two connecting on the Fi-Te axis, but how do you navigate the S-N difference? Has it come up much?
21:58 Will you leave/take a break from Youtube after getting married?
22:33 Will baby shark be playing at the reception?
22:44 What are your enneagram types?
23:02 How did he propose? Did you discuss it beforehand and how?
24:44 Who fell in love first? How did you fall in love with each other?
27:09 Will he appear in any of your skits?
27:25 How did you type him as an ENTJ?
28:59 In what ways are you defying the stereotypes?
30: 54 Do social celebrations such as engagement and marriage mean anything to an ENTJ?
32:21 What does he like about ESFPs?
33:07 Did you introduce him to MBTI, or had he already heard of it?
33:28 Thoughts on free will and moral responsibility?
33:56 Do you think communication is easier because you have the same cognitive functions?
37:02 In what ways does your fiance balance you out?
40:01 Do you stalkers leave you alone now that they know you’re engaged?
40:21 Best and hardest thing about having an ENTJ as a fiance?
45:56 What does the ideal date look like to both of you?
46:57 Do you feel like style preferences re wedding venue/dresses etc have anything to do with personality type?
47:27 What are the scariest parts about engagement?
48:50 What did your siblings say when you announced your engagement?
50:22 Other than therapy, how does one reduce their toxicity? It’s so hard!
52:49 What, if anything, are you to on complete polar opposite sides within a specific issue?
54:17 How similar and in what ways is he similar to your ENTJ dad?
55:15 Has knowing MBTI so well helped your ability to communicate well? Or has it hindered?
47:25 How has knowing MBTI helped you grow in your faith?
57:45 How often do y’all actively use cognitive function language as a tool for resolving conflicts?
57:54 How does your fiance feed/compliment your energy?
58:45 Does MBTI play a role in your compatibility, or is it mostly other factors?
59:31 What’s the most surprising thing that you’ve learned about yourself being in this relationship?
1:01:52 Did you ever try to look for/date someone of a type compatible with yours?
1:02:11 What have you learned about relationships through dating him?
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