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Hello, everyone. Welcome back to Mixed Understood,
our little corner of the world where we explore and dive into the vibrant and
sometimes complex world of the interracial and intercultural experience.
In season one, you got to know Amy and I.
I think you got to know us pretty well. As we shared our personal backstories,
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you know, from our origins to our name changes,
the different experiences we had growing up, navigating those awkward teen years
and even carving our paths in the entertainment industry.
We then, off of that, sort of did a series of mixed actors in the entertainment industry.
And we even went all the way back to Hollywood's golden era and then came right
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back around to our AI-generated present.
We also wrapped up the season with a special finale episode filled with your
personal and unique holiday season stories from around the globe.
That was one of my favorite episodes. As we turn the page to season two,
it's going to be just you and me, baby, moving forward.
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Amy, again, has taken a new path away from the podcast.
She's carving out her own special journey, guys, and welcoming her baby number
two. So I wish her all the best with her growing family and thank her again
for all the sweet memories we shared here on Mixed Understood.
I am in the midst of putting together and shaping up season two.
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I have a bunch of episodes that I'm kind of working on right now.
And then there's a bunch more that are in the process of being made.
And all I can say is there's some good stuff in there, guys.
I feel so validated that I have decided to continue this journey because I've
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met some really incredible people.
Had some eye-opening conversations, and I feel changed by them.
So I can't wait to share them with you.
This season, we're broadening hope to delve deeper into interracial,
intercultural relationships and the dynamics of diverse families and so much more.
So get ready. Season two is premiering in just a few days, Tuesday, April 30th.
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along the season, as well as exclusive content.
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from our upcoming episodes.
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Cultural differences, they started coming up when we went to India for the first time.
That was the time when we saw the differences because here everything is open.
You can walk holding your hands together as a couple.
You can just be yourself without worrying about who is watching you.
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He looked at me and he was like, hey, you stick with your kind and we stick
with our kind. Didn't think about it twice, right? Right.
I didn't at that time, you know, being like 11 or 12 years old,
really think like, oh, that's messed up.
It was just like, oh, this is just kind of what it is, because my parents always
taught me see people for who they are, not for their color, for their character.
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Going to Japan, it was beautiful, but it it was a hard straddle between the
two worlds. And for me, I think I dealt with it as kind of pushing away that
Japanese side of me. Being like, ah, I am, but I'm not fully.
So I'm just going to stick to this American side where I can kind of blend in.
I was so sort of...
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Internally detached from how I looked externally in a way.
I did not identify myself internally as Asian growing up.
It would really throw me off when I looked at myself in the mirror.
I'd be like, wow, I look really Asian in that mirror. So much more Asian than how I feel.
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It was almost like a dissociation. I had those moments too, and it felt like I wasn't in my body.
Like i was looking at myself looking at this
person in the mirror and that wasn't me i was
over here to the side looking at that person who couldn't be me like i how can
i look like that when everybody else looks a different way when everyone else
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looks actually very similar to each other no no shade to white folks but like
very similar like everybody else had brown curly blonde
curly hair and was like had the very light complexion like they all look the
same over here and then the version of me that wanted to be that was over here
looking over my shoulder looking at me looking in the mirror saying that can't
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be right like especially when i was in like thailand they were taking pictures
of me they're like oh my god you look like beyonce i'm like,
definitely not but i'm gonna let you have your photo because this is probably
the closest you going to get to the Beyonce.
I can only imagine how many Thai homes.
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You know, I'm there in a framed photo on someone's TV. Like that time I met Beyonce.
I remember being in the car and they were in the back seat.
And one of them said, in my next life, when I come back, I want everything to be the same.
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I want you to be mommy. I want daddy to be daddy.
I want, you know, sister to be sister.
I just don't want to be chocolate.
And I was like, baby, I said, why not? And she's like, because nobody's chocolate.
Everybody's vanilla. And I was just like, oh, you know, like,
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and I was trying to go like, okay, how do I navigate this?
Because North County, San Diego is a very white area.
And I'm like, no, but we have. And I started naming friends that weren't, quote, vanilla.
And, you know, also needing to sit with, oh, I can't navigate out of all of these things for her.
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Well, I don't really know those concrete facts that people who are not adopted know.
The time that they were born, how big they were, and all of those things.
So when I started to unpack my story and unpack the history and the narrative
that I was told, I began to question, like, is this even my birthday?
The first thought I had was the
questions that you're asking are very much like there is a right answer.
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And I think that is a place that a lot of parents who are mixed race themselves,
because I do work with a lot of those as well.
It's not just monoracial parents with mixed race kids. It's also mixed race
parents who are like, like you said, oh, my God, wait, they're not going to
have as much as or I was already working on all this stuff for myself.
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But I think what's interesting to me is that you asked a bunch of questions
like, should I and will I will I speak Hebrew?
Will I speak like what do you want to do?
You know, I think that the issue that applies so much to the mixed race experience
is this feeling or this belief that there is a right way to be or there's a
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correct way to interact with the world versus realizing,
oh, I don't need to or I can't follow, first of all, all the rules that you
might have already set out. So I should stop trying.
And then second of all, oh, I get to just be me and I can do that however I want.
That is the freedom that I wish for everybody.
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But I try to teach the parents I work with to teach their kids.
All right everyone i hope you enjoyed that little sneak peek i'm so excited
to continue this adventure and exploration with you um thank you so much for
being here and thank you for being such an integral part of this community see
you very very soon mark your calendars.
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