What do men need to unlearn to become safe, emotionally available partners—and how does the red pill movement get it so wrong? In this conversation, I sit down with a Alex, therapist who calls himself anti–red pill and uses his TikTok platform to challenge toxic masculinity, outdated dating rules, and the emotional immaturity that keeps men from being good partners.
We talk about what men must unlearn to be truly safe for women to choose—and how our work aligns in helping both men and women build functional, respectful relationships.
We also unpack topics like “body count,” the influence of friend groups on emotional growth, and why emotional safety—not just status or confidence—makes the biggest difference in love. 💬
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– What toxic masculinity looks like in dating
– The real meaning behind emotional safety
– Why “body count” shouldn’t define someone’s worth – How male friendships affect growth and accountability
– What both men and women need to stop tolerating
– Why the red pill mindset is emotionally dangerous
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