Inspiring Wellness: A Deep Dive with WOW and Alison Faulkner

Special Episode: Interview with Alison Faulkner and the Women Optimizing Wellness

In this special episode of Radio Daybreak, host Just Blane collaborates with the Women Optimizing Wellness for an insightful interview with Alison Faulkner, the dynamic host of The Alison Show podcast. The episode kicks off at the Farmer's Market with Amanda McCombs, AKA Mrs. Daybreak, as she discusses her upcoming charity gala and pageant aspirations.

Following that, Alison opens up about her new book, 'You're Already Awesome,' and shares experiences about overcoming the need for external validation, embracing one's unique identity, and maintaining balance in life.

Engage in an empowering and enlightening discussion as Alison touches on themes of personal growth, self-belief, and connection in challenging times. Don't miss this chance to get inspired and learn from one of the best voices in personal development. Tune in and join the conversation!

🎥 Full Episodes on our YouTube Channel @RadioDaybreak

00:00 Introduction to Radio Daybreak

00:34 Farmer's Market Highlights

01:35 Miss Daybreak's Charity Gala

06:11 Silent Auction and Super Bowl Halftime Show

07:56 Interview with Allison Faulkner

29:59 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships

30:46 The Power of Identity and Self-Belief

33:19 Getting Petty: A Path to Emotional Release

35:28 Creating a Three-Step Awesome Plan

40:50 The Importance of Connection and Community

45:37 Navigating Personal and Professional Challenges

55:50 Dream Collaborations and Career Inspirations

01:00:07 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

Episode Transcript

(00:09):
Oh yes, it's Just Blanehere with Radio Daybreak.
Special, very special episode this week.
We're doing a pod swap with, wow,the Women Optimizing Wellness.
They got a great interviewwith Allison Faulkner.
If you're not sure who she is, she'sthe host of the Allison Show podcast.

(00:30):
I think, I think she'sgot millions of listeners.
So you gotta go check out that thing.
Before we get to that though,We're gonna go to the Farmer's
Market from last weekend, whereI caught up with Miss Daybreak.
It's Amanda McCombs, and she'sgot a charity gala coming up for
her birthday, and to help raisefunds for a beautiful cause.

(00:53):
We'll get to that and ask her, but waittill you see what I'm gonna donate.
Wait till you see what I am gonnaput in to the silent auction.
It could be worth 13, 14.
Probably 2, 000 by the time we get outthere, but I gotta address one more
thing before we get to that interviewand that's the Super Bowl halftime show.

(01:15):
Everybody's talking about it, everybodywants to know my opinion on it.
That should speak for itself.
That should speak for itself.
That's me and Kendrick some years ago,and I put us in front of a TV off.
So there's my response to what Ithought about the Super Bowl show.
Love you.
Let's go to Miss Daybreak.

(01:35):
Amanda McCombs.
And we'll see you on the other side.
There's her, there's her title.
New shirt too.
Yeah, I
got a shirt.
Look at that.
It's all official.
All official.
It's all official.
I love it.
It's been official for like two years.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Right?
Yeah.
Cause nobody's taking this title.
Not yet.
The only way you take it fromme is if I win Mrs. Utah.

(01:57):
Ooh, that's right because we'renot boxing you in with Ms.
Daybreak anymore.
No.
There's a chance that thiscould be something much bigger.
What about Miss Congeniality?
Oh, that's something people voteon at the pageant, actually.
I think you could win that.
I've known you for a while.
You're pretty
Everyone's so nice, though.
You're pretty,
uh Congenial?

(02:17):
T, I, U. What's the word?
Congenial.
Congenial?
Yeah.
You got it.
You did it.
Well,
see, I started thinking, I waslike, wait a minute, that sounds
too much like conjugal visit.
Oh, yeah, no, that's not the same thing.
I was trying to make sure in my head.
That is not the same thing.
My AI is a little slow
today.
My chip, my implant isa little slow today.
So it didn't.
You need to like.
Yeah.
Yeah, I gotta reboot.
Gotta reboot.
Reboot.

(02:38):
But I didn't, I couldn't checkthat word in my head real quick.
But I just wanted to make sure.
Your dictionary
was a little.
It
was.
It was off.
It was off.
a
tiny bit.
But
let me, let me ask you, though.
Because you got big events before
the
pageant.
Yes.
Tell me about the one.
My
birthday.
My birthday's February20th, and it's a Thursday.
All right.
We're gonna

(02:58):
party like it's 1925.
It's Great Gatsby.
A hundred years ago?
Yeah, why not?
Oh,
I like that.
Great Gatsby.
Now, what should I wear?
This isn't gonna work.
Maybe the hat?
You can maybe get away with the hat,but I would lose the sweatpants.
Hey, don't tell peopleI got sweatpants on.
You don't have Sweatpants.
There are no sweatpants.

(03:18):
So this is the Miss Daybreak Gala?
What is this?
What is this called?
Yeah, so it's
a charity gala.
This is Daybreak's birthday charity gala.
So it is my birthday, butI don't need anything.
I'm working with a nonprofit to collect donations.
Oh,
who, who is it?
It's Hearts
Knit Together.
Heartsknittogether.
org?
Is that the website for them?
Yes, that's the best website for them.
I've seen
that website.

(03:38):
We, we talked about that website and whatyou did with them and have been doing with
them and it was, it's incredible, huh?
Yeah.
I think it's still Theyreally put themselves out
there to help people in need.
Now,
we're here, we're here at the, uh,this is Saturday, we'll just date
this, but we're at the Farmer's Market.
Yep.
It's indoors.
The Farmer's Market here atLand of a Thousand Hills.

(03:59):
Hey, there's Tammy!
Hey
guys!
And You got, Laura Gaylord came out hereand put on another great farmer's market.
What are you doing here, though?
She set up a spot for me to do a littlemeet and greet so people can figure
out who the heck I am Because they'reseeing me and they don't know who I am.
So that's the line.
So I'm
actually holding you up fromgetting to the people, from

(04:20):
talking to the people at daybreak.
It's okay.
They'll know, they'llknow who I am soon enough.
Because I'm the who's who?
You're right.
And I'm
the what's
what.
And you're the what's what.
Hey, but I want to shout out too becausewe're in the Land of a Thousand Hills.
Yeah.
They got new owners.
They got new owners.
It's so nice and mellow in here.
I've only been in here a couple times.

(04:40):
Man, you guys got to getdown here and meet them.
It's Brad and Amanda, I believe.
They just got here.
They're living in Daybreak.
They just bought Land of a Thousand Hills.
They're over there making deals right now.
They're making deals.
But Miss Daybreak, when is the pageant?
When is the big day?
March 29th.
Now where do you get tickets for that?
So, they're not available yet,but I have 15 I'm giving away.

(05:02):
I'm doing a raffle.
Fifteen?
Fifteen, yeah.
I'm gonna, I'm gonna, they're on me.
I'll buy your ticket.
Okay.
Okay.
But you have to don't,it's, uh, 5 donations.
For every 5 you donate, you getan entry into the ticket and
it helps cover my budget fees.
I love that.
Now, where are the tickets?

(05:22):
Where can we get them though?
We'll have links for that out there.
Ooh,
Venmo me at
NotSoGenius.
At NotSoGenius.
One word?
Yeah,
that's my Venmo.
Yeah.
Probably put that on the screensomewhere, like right here.
Yeah, like right here.
It'll be on there somewhere,wherever it pops up at.
But I have to say that I mighthave to show up this year.

(05:44):
They did ask me to comedown there and be a judge.
No, I'm kidding.
I'm kidding.
Nobody's asked me to
do that.
That's for sure.
Just come.
It's fun.
It's cool.
Maybe I'll be a Stanley.
Maybe I won't.
Let me get, let me let you get toyour Adoring people of Daybreak.
My fans.
Yeah, your fans.

(06:04):
They are waiting.
They are waiting.
They're waving.
Um, Anything else yougot to tell the people?
You know what?
I gotta tell the people something.
I will donate.
Is this how it works?
How does this work for this gala?
Are we donating stuff?
Yeah.
And then people have a silent auction?
Oh, yeah, we have a silent auction.
We have some cool art pieces coming.
Um, barbecue cleaning services.

(06:26):
I have a whole basket full of myfavorite stuff that i'm gonna give away.
Alright, I got somethingI'm gonna add to that.
It's gonna be the biggest,biggest thing you'll have.
Okay.
Most, at least for price.
I'm kinda scared.
No, no, no, no.
This'll be a good one.
This'll be a good one.
I will give this thing, and listen, nowwe're filming this on Saturday, but by
the 20th, this could be 1300, 1400 worth,but I'm gonna give it a dozen eggs.

(06:51):
Oh my goodness, a dozen eggs.
I'm giving, I'm
gonna put a dozen eggs out there for you.
That's like gold.
I am.
I'm gonna give a dozen eggsand that's what I'm gonna.
Man.
Is that a good donation I can make?
That is a good donation.
I'm also gonna, I'm also
going to uh, to be DJingsome of that, right?
I'm gonna be.
Yeah, we're gonna have a dance
party.
I'll play, I'll play some music.
You're gonna give methe playlist for that?
Uh, we'll work on it together.

(07:12):
What is it
gonna be, like a femme rage?
Like just.
Oh, I'm so angry.
Actually, I got a great,
I got a great femme rage playlist.
Ooh,
we'll see you there, we'll see you there.
I kinda like where this is headed.
February 20th, that's the first timethat we need to see anything about you.
Don't worry about when the date isfor the pageant, because February

(07:32):
20th is the date right now.
Yep.
Where is that event?
I
don't know.
That is going to be at the GardenPark Clubhouse right here in Daybreak.
Well, why not?
Why wouldn't we have it righthere in Daybreak, right?
Right.
I love it.
We'll see you there.
Yeah.
Peace.
A dozen eggs.
I'm putting them out there.
I'm putting a dozen eggs out there.
I don't know how much that'sgoing to go for, guys.

(07:54):
That's going to be rowdy.
It's going to be wild.
But right now, let's get to AllisonFaulkner and the women of WOW.
Becks, Nelson, Jen Banks, Michelle, Lena.
Incredible interview.
We'll catch you on the other side.
Welcome back.
We are here as WOW founders tointerview upcoming keynotes and
speakers and sponsors that wehave within the WOW community.

(08:16):
Today, we have Allison Falzer.
I've been a fan for a while, sothis is like a shriek for sure.
So, Allison is a writer, speaker,and creative entrepreneur known for
her vibrant energy and authenticity.
As the founder of the AllisonShow, she empowers individuals

(08:38):
to embrace their unique valueand find joy in everyday life.
Allison combines her expertise inbranding and personal development
with a passion for creating meaningfulexperiences and connections.
Inspiring others through workshops,online courses, and events.
As a mother of three, she championsthe importance of balancing ambition
and self care, helping othersto show up as their full selves.

(09:20):
We're so excited to have you here.
So I know Jen has got a handful ofquestions that I, full disclosure,
have not read this book yet.
I barely read
it.
I barely remember writing it.
When did you write it?
Uh, I wrote it in 20, all of 2020.

(09:40):
It came out in, in Vended Edits.
It came out in 2022.
Yes.
Um, and it's 2025.
And, my name is Allison.
And, um, I think that's what I wrote.
We're already
into this thing, so Ihope you felt it right.
So, we are talking about You'reAlready Awesome by Allison Faulkner.
It is amazing.

(10:01):
According to Jen, I justtook the click notes.
Yeah, that much you do.
So, Jen, dive in.
I know you had a question about her book.
Yeah, so you talk a lot about not usingexternal validation to prove our worth.
Oh my gosh, I should
so
listen to myself.
That would be

(10:22):
so
good.
That would teach me.
I think the reason it resonates is becausewe all need those reminders constantly.
Yeah, let's speak to that.
Oh, I think, you know, the word, Icalled my brother today, and I can't
remember the technical name of it,but you know the thing where you say
a word over and over and it startsto lose its meaning and make sense?

(10:43):
And I kept saying the word metrics.
Metrics,
metrics, metrics.
And so that's like kind of the language Iwould use today if it keeps its meaning.
Metrics is Um, the metrics, there'sso many vanity metrics, right?
And what vanity metrics, I woulddefine those are as your, the number

(11:04):
on the scale, the number on thebank account, the number of friends
or followers or clients, right?
Like, they're metrics and validationthat other people can see and that
we feel comfortable with other peopleseeing because it sets us in a status.
Even with weight.
When you're in shape, because I, youknow, weight fluctuates, when you're

(11:28):
in shape, you feel and behave a certainway, and I know for me, I've noticed
when I gain weight, a weird, weirdthought that I start to have is, I'm
not going to look as trustworthy.
I'm not going to look as put together.
People aren't going to want torespect me as much because I'm not.

(11:51):
Outwardly showing this picture Right,and so that outward validation it
really goes person by person and theirlife experience Their DNA and what
they value and I think we can Start tosay you shouldn't value this and you
should value that When really at theend of the day you value what you value

(12:15):
right
like How much of yourself worth?
How much do you allow yourself todo or not do things based on that?
So this outside validation for me, whatoutside validation looks like for me is
people telling me I'm doing a good job,people telling me they really like me.
People walking up to me andsaying, wow, you're Allison.

(12:37):
You helped me with this.
Outward validation is going to looklike my husband telling me I'm hot.
My kids being proud of me andwanting to like show me places.
Um, it's going to be my family beingproud of me and it's also going to
be looking really good in a picture.
Yeah.
I mean, and so those, andnone of those are inherently

(13:01):
wrong, bad, evil, or incorrect.
Um, but man, you can have allthe outward validation in the
world and it just becomes a veryslippery slope, a sliding target.
And so it's so fun having a bookcalled You're Already Awesome
because people have to be nice aboutthe title because it's printed.

(13:24):
And people are
like, Yay!
I love it!
And
then I'll talk for a while.
And they're like, Yeah, but like If Ibelieve I'm already awesome, I'm lazy,
I'm settling, I've arrived, like I'm here.
And so it's interesting becausewhat it suggests is if I decide

(13:47):
internally, if I validate myselfinternally, Um, then I am presupposing
that I will do nothing to improve.
So isn't that interesting?
Yeah, that's when you tell me Well, butthere's that's inherently problematic to
believe I'm good, and I'm okay Becausehow will I improve right but what you're

(14:11):
saying to me is the only way you knowhow to prove is by shaming yourself
It doesn't, um, it's not super sexyto tell people you're already awesome.
Like the book has done well and it'shelped a lot of people, but it's
not like off the charts bestseller.

(14:32):
Yeah.
And
I think people have ahard time stomaching that.
They just do.
And maybe, maybe, I don't know,timing, whatever, um, everything is
going to do what it's meant to do.
Yeah.
But I could very easily, anddepending on the day and hour, come
at that and say, this message ofyou're already awesome isn't good.

(14:55):
Because it wasn't a number oneTimes New York's bestseller.
Like it wasn't number one on the list.
So if,
right, there's
the trick with the outside validation.
And I have a girlfriend,Who does fitness programs?
She's phenomenal and I signed up for oneof her programs and I and she wrote me
back today and said Thank you so muchfor signing up I had a ton of people

(15:18):
sign up for the first one and I haven'thad as many people sign up for this one
Mm hmm,
and you guys probably doing the fence.
Mm hmm.
It's so hard.
Yes your podcast everything youdo It's so hard to believe in the
inherent value of what you've createdYou Without the outward validation.

(15:39):
Yes!
And even if you get the outwardvalidation, How much of it?
How long do you need it?
Does it have to continueto scale as you scale?
Does it last?
Yeah.
Consistency.
Yeah.
Maintaining last month's
numbers to your current one.
Yeah.
Maintaining the numbers.

(15:59):
And I think for me and a lot of people,the easy jump is, okay, if not as many
people signed up for my program thismonth, how can I make the program better?
Yes,
yeah, that might be somethingthat you would think.
Which is
great.
We should always be looking toimprove, and iterate, and get feedback.
However, because I've been doing thisso long, it is a very hard lesson to go,

(16:26):
no, my program is actually phenomenal.
Right.
Is
it a marketing
thing?
Is it a timing thing?
Is it a price thing?
Is it a packaging thing?
Is it a, nobody wants this.
It might be the best book program.
Was your event
on July 4th, right?

(16:46):
Right?
Is there normal virus going around?
Do people keep getting sick?
And so you can see like on big scale,little scale, how easy and applause
worthy it is to base your value and yoursuccess on all these metrics, but really
when it comes down to it, it's superproblematic and it's not sustainable.

(17:08):
Yes.
So when I'm talking about metrics,one metric I'm obsessed with right
now is like my new identity for 2025is I'm getting 10, 000 steps a day.
And here's the
reason why I'm obsessed with themetric is because if I get 10, 000
steps a day, I inherently get thevalue of 10, 000 steps, which is good

(17:29):
for my body, it's good for my mind.
If I
get 5,
000 steps, I still get 5, 000 steps.
Right?
Now, if it's about Having 10, 000 stepsa day to get to a weight, or having 10,
000 steps a day to get to a certain numbersomewhere else, that's okay too, but the

(17:50):
reason why I love the metric in and ofitself being the win, is because then it's
a, it's like um, little dopamine hits.
I got my 10, 000 steps.
Now, this has a lot to do withmasculine and feminine energy,
and so we can get into that too.
I
love what you're saying.

(18:12):
I want to maybe just dive in a littlebit while we're on this topic and
say, um, with goal setting, right?
You are going to be our wow speakerin Jan, or excuse me, in February.
So just coming up here in a couple ofweeks, but we're still at the beginning
of the year where a lot of people said,you New Year's resolutions and you're
speaking, you know, to a lot of peopleabout these metrics and hitting the thing.

(18:35):
So I would say maybe look at your goals.
Yeah, maybe look at those goals andhow you're measuring it, how you're
measuring it, what are the metrics
you're focusing on.
Yes.
And this is even something I'mchallenging myself with, like a new
project that I'm gonna be working on.
I'm like, well, what's.
And this is another way of saying itis what's the definition of success?

(18:58):
There it is.
Yes.
Right?
Is the definition of success.
That you showed up.
Yes.
Oh man, wouldn't that becute if we actually believed
ourselves when we said that?
Like, it would be so cute.
We would be so well adjusted.
We would look so, like,chomping our hearts.

(19:18):
You know, for me, the success isjust about me showing up for myself.
I wish, I show up formyself better than anybody.
If other people are showing up, I'mlike, why does everybody hate me?
There's no meaning and point in life.
And I probably should justwatch another series on Netflix.
Right?
So, it's like, I, I'm off in a wild way.

(19:39):
What was your inspiration behind this?
I mean, there has to be, Like astory and a wow of writing this.
So I know you've touched on this.
Yeah, honestly, that's
the lifelong goal.
Yeah, it was the story.
The inspiration is thatthat's what I wanted.
Yeah, I wanted a book and Ididn't just want to self publish.
I wanted a book with a top publisher.

(20:00):
That's what I wanted andI wanted it in college.
I wanted it when I started blogging.
I wanted it when I was on Instagram.
I wanted it when I started the podcast.
And I was just so confused thatnobody was offering it to me.
Because like, here I am
being offered all these things.
I showed up.
And I'm getting offered all theseopportunities and all of these things.

(20:20):
And I'm like, but where's the book?
Right.
And so it was perfect timing, right beforethe world ended, and everything changed
online and life as we knew it upended.
I got that book deal.
Facetious.
I'm being very sarcastic.
Um, and it was, it was a weirdtime to write a book, it was a

(20:40):
weird time to be online, and thenthere were the years afterwards.
which were also veryweird, if you will recall.
Um, but maybe you guys noticedthis too, because you do this work.
You talk to people about the last fewyears and they literally are like,
they don't even say COVID happened.
Yeah.
It's like, well, this thing happenedand then this thing happened.

(21:02):
It's like we've allcollectively blocked out COVID.
There is
truly maybe a little PTSD there.
It was a hard time for a lot of people.
So I'm a retired ER nurse,like, living in that, right?
Oh yeah, it's all a blur.
It is sometimes.
I mean, there's some truth to that.
There's some trauma brain there.
Oh, it was a crazy time.
And so
my book came out in 2022, and wewere still barely, as a world,

(21:26):
having big communal events.
Right.
And so for me, the whole market, likethe whole trajectory of everything I
was going to do with this book changed.
And the world changed.
But it's really easy to just think,oh, this didn't work this way.
Mm hmm.
Without keeping in mind therewere a whole other, there were

(21:49):
all these other circumstances.
It's kind of like, with having asuccessful event or having a successful
anything, There can be a lot ofvariables and so the motivation
for the book truly is I love books.
I love reading.
I think books are like medicine.
Books change life, lives, mylife, and I just, I love books.

(22:11):
I
love writing.
I've always been a writer.
I've always, yeah, I love communicating.
I like talking to people.
I'm just going to put it out there.
Maybe like, because of that,there might be another book.
I don't know.
I don't know.
I know.
I know.
You never know.
You never know.
You never
know.
All the
Allison things.
I
love it.

(22:31):
I
love
it.
Let's circle back to belief becauseyou mentioned it briefly when you
were talking about belief in yourself,belief in your product or whatever
you've created or have going on.
And that will be the themefor February is I believe.
So how can we cultivate this believer?
Is there a time that you reallyfelt the belief in yourself?
That's
such a good question.

(22:52):
Cause I'm going to be super honest.
I literally five minutes before Iwalked in here, had a conversation
with my husband where he said, Ishould probably just not do anything.
I should just not do anything.
The problem is, what does that mean?
It's like, Alison, Becks,I try not to do things.

(23:16):
I try.
This is my version of not doing things.
I just have too muchenergy, I think, is what
comes out of you.
Just stay here and do nothing, Alison.
In
my version of doing nothing,my sister mocks me endlessly.

(23:38):
It's like I turn into a pro voter.
So I literally just start planningpeople's weddings and funerals.
Legit, I get
like
super into funerals.
And I start showing, like, it's veryexpensive, me not doing anything.
Because I keep like buyingthings to do nothing.
Right?
Like to support me and myenergy, I'm doing nothing.

(24:00):
So back to believe.
Um, I believe in myself.
You know, I like, um, I love thatquestion, and I love the idea
of proving versus belief, and Ithink where, oh, ew, I hate when
you ask me questions that I need.

(24:20):
Stop it!
Don't make me, don't make mereflect on what I need to hear.
No, um, but that's, that's really whatit is where it's like, okay, do I believe
in myself, or am I trying to provesomething to myself or other people?
I don't.
And, you know, trying to proveyourself will get you pretty
far, or it will get you so far.

(24:41):
Some drive behind it.
Yeah!
There's energy, there's drive,there's some good anger, there's
some like, I'm going to show you.
Yeah.
And I do think a lot of energybehind the first act of my life
had a lot of proving in it.
Behind it.
Yeah.
Take me seriously.

(25:02):
Don't take me too seriously.
I'm really fun.
I'm not just a girl who pops out of cakes.
I also have a business school, right?
I'm not just a business school.
Right.
Um, and I do think that there's, youknow, it's really easy to believe that
you believe in yourself, but I thinklike the, the first thing to do is.

(25:27):
To just get really honest with yourself.
Like, what do you feellike you need to prove?
Um, and noticing wherethe energy is coming from.
And it has been a really curiousexperiment to not have my
energy coming from a place ofneeding to prove or achieve.

(25:48):
And I'm going to tell you, it's like notquite as, um, Because when you're trying
to prove, it's very public by nature.
And
when you're not trying to provesomething, you just believe it.
It's private.
It's more private.
And so part of the trying to prove isvery public and very vocal and very loud.

(26:11):
And
it
draws people in.
Because they believe in you.
It's like a hero's journey.
It's a story.
And so just the nature of me trying toprove made me performative or More public.
Outwardly.
Outwardly.
Because I want Box
on the checklist.
Yeah, but also I need to tell you.
I need to prove myself to you.

(26:32):
So I have to talk to you.
If I'm just sitting at home andI don't have to prove anything
to you, I don't need to show up.
So it has been difficult and interesting,an interesting experiment to notice how
do you accomplish and achieve from a placeof intention, of purpose, Like, let's say
joy, enthusiasm versus proving and likecompulsive behavior to work and achieve.

(26:58):
Wow.
And it's um, I mean it's kind of crazy.
It's really crazy.
And I think it goes back to thetitle, You're Already Awesome.
We are in so much the habit ofcompulsively proving and earning.
That when you tell someone theydon't have to, they're like,

(27:19):
well, then what would I even
do?
And it's almost insulting to tellsomeone they don't need to earn or
prove anything when they are spendingevery waking minute, whether they're
conscious of it or not, in that space.
It's almost threateningto their way of life.
She's talking to me.
I don't need to be.
I don't need to be.

(27:40):
I'm teasing.
I'm teasing.
I'm teasing.
I love that.
And a little bit about Jen, too,is she teaches and her background
and her book is on identity.
And so as often, right, isn'tthis the way that it goes when you
connect, especially with other women?
Like you're like, Oh,I needed to hear that.
This is like, what are you doing today?

(28:00):
But truly like, like, where is thatintention coming from versus your drive?
I mean, because you're very extroverted,bubbly, you have an amazing message
to share, but then how do youdefine, is this for everybody else?
Or is this my view within me?
And that's the driving force.

(28:21):
And there's permission and permissionwhen you're doing it to serve people,
especially if you're a cute woman like us.
Cause we're allowed to be aggressiveand want things in the service of other
people for the good of other people,for the betterment of the planet.
I don't just get to say I want amillion podcast followers because I

(28:46):
don't want people to listen to me.
That makes me a narcissist.
That makes me a big ego, maniacaloverlord, like all the things.
But if I want a million people to feelempowered and love themselves and believe
they're already as awesome as they can be.
Yeah.
Well, I'm an altruistic saint.
Yeah.
Now they can both be coming fromthe same place though, right?

(29:09):
And you can trick yourself.
So I'm not like reallytrying to be negative.
I'm just, I'm just more sayinglike, It is pretty mind blowing
when you truly give yourselfpermission to believe you're good.
Like you're good.
Like lose 10 pounds.
You're good.
Gain 40 pounds.
You're good.

(29:29):
Lose your house.
Lose your husband.
Lose your money.
Lose a child.
Lose your family.
You're good.
It's not going to feel good, butyou inherently and wholly feel good.
You are good.
Yeah.
You're good.
Like, and, and I believe that.

(29:49):
Like, so when you talk aboutbelief, I think one thing that has
worked for me is I believe that.
Yeah.
I just, I believe it.
I know it.
I believe it.
I feel it for you.
I feel it for me.
I know it.
Now, uh, I think a big part of myjourney was knowing it for myself
as much as I knew it for otherpeople and really believing it
without having to earn and prove.

(30:11):
And um, now when I show up with thatbelief, rather than trying to prove
to you where I will say I can see thebiggest differences in my interpersonal
relationships and my one on one.
Conversations where peoplelike talking to me more.
Yeah, like friends and family ifthey have a problem They're much more

(30:33):
likely to come to me with it now.
Yeah, then maybe When I looked ontop of my game and I'm speaking
to 10, 000 people and everybodyloves me on the Instagram, right?
I
love that.
I think what we're speaking to isbeing your true authentic self.
Yeah.
Like what is that internal innatemotivator that gets you and that belief?

(30:56):
Beautiful question, Jen.
Yeah, I know, I know!
Jen was like, you know what?
I'm in my car having this conversation.
There's so much of it ingrained, though,in part of you and your word and your
message and finding identity, not losingthat identity in motherhood, right?
Because truly as women, too, we playso many different roles and it's like,

(31:19):
Often you can lose yourself in thethings, in the death, in the marriage,
in the relationship, which is a big one.
And I think that's why, you know, you'realready as awesome as you need to be.
My podcast, Awesome with Allison.
When I say like, only you can be you.
I am very much in the brand school.
I would teach, we dohuman needs psychology.

(31:40):
One of my core motivatorsvalues is identity.
I'm, I'm very driven by it by myself.
I mean, it's the Alison show.
Hi.
But also notice how I set my goal.
I'm like my new identity for2025 is I get 10, 000 steps.
Yeah.
And I have noticed it has helpedme with that goal, that intention.

(32:03):
I'm making it part of my identitybecause if it's not part of
my identity, I don't care.
Yeah, for sure.
That's just a thing.
But there are other people
who it would be much more beneficial forthem, because maybe a core human values
connection, that the 10, 000 steps issomething they do with other people.

(32:24):
Got it.
Right?
So that would be like, that'sgoing to work for some people.
I bet it would work For Jen, becauseJen wrote a book about identity.
She's giving out what she needs.
Right?
And so making something like that part ofyour identity is going to help you do it.
Yeah.
Right?
Dang it.
You really are helping me right now.

(32:45):
This is so good.
This is terrible.
Thank you for this.
Oh my gosh.
I know.
The teacher learns the most, right?
Always.
Always.
Yes.
Completely.
Here's as we were talking, um, a littlebit before this in the podcast on some
questions that we wanted to ask you.

(33:13):
So if you have to create a superfun, three step awesome plan.
For someone feeling stuck today,what would be the easiest, quickest
way to feel more awesome like
as in right now?
Okay, I love this question.
Thank you so much.
I actually know stepnumber one immediately.
And it's let's get petty.

(33:34):
Oh.
Oh my gosh.
We are just so, especially ifyou're asking that question.
Yes.
If you're listening to this podcast.
Yes.
I know you.
Sister.
Sister, I know you.
I got your number.
And you don't let yourselffeel the hard, negative things.
Because if you're mad atsomeone, they hurt your feelings.

(33:56):
Yes.
Well, you're a responsible,emotionally intelligent person.
You're going to take hyper accountability.
And here, I know wherethey're coming from.
And I know what their dad was like.
And I know they probably said thatbecause they really mean this.
Well guess what?
Whatever they said freakinghurt your feelings.
So let's just get pettyfor just a quick sec.

(34:17):
They hurt my feelings.
Screw her.
I hope she trips on a rockand gets a scar on her nose.
I do.
I really
do.
Screw her.
I don't agree with anything.
I
want bad things for her.
Oh, I do.
I love those bad things.
You get petty.
I would never let myself sayor think something like that.
Almost with like a superstitiouslike, God will smite me.

(34:39):
And it's really easy in the selfdevelopment world to get there.
Where we don't just like,notice our feelings.
We micromanage our feelings.
And I very much felt this way about anger.
Where I'm like, It's like pedestrian.
It's like beneath me to be angry.
Like I'm way too advanced a human.

(35:00):
Why would you get angry?
Right?
But really that's just a control thing.
And if I, if I give you thecontrol to hurt my feelings,
then I'm giving you control.
Right?
But I still am hurt.
So if you are feeling stuck,if you are feeling not awesome,
it's not becoming a victim.
It's not blaming things on other people.

(35:22):
My step number one is what's the feelingyou're not letting yourself feel?
Because anxiety, um, depression,uh, constant action or numbing,
all of those are to cover Thatit feels unsafe for you to feel.
So I would also like to validate thereason you don't feel angry or you want

(35:45):
to get petty is because somewhere alongthe line somebody told you that that was a
very bad, horrible, not safe thing to do.
So in my coaching, I would say likeat least once an hour with everyone,
I'm like, no, no, no, let's get petty.
Ew, I hate that.
Ew, they're the worst, right?
Just like, just get it, help it, letyourself, like, write it down and burn it.

(36:09):
But like, we are in such acrazy place of either censoring
ourself or ripping people anew.
Under the guise of likea moral superiority.
Like, I'm allowed to be mean topeople if I'm morally superior to
them.
No, don't be mean.
Be mean in your head.
It's safe to be mean in your head.

(36:29):
Right?
Or maybe tell your 14 year oldall the things you want to say to
your neighbor before you say that.
The first thing.
Yeah, I
am.
My mom said.
That's not what I heard.
And step number one, Ilove calling it be petty.
Uh
huh.
But what I really mean by that isYou get to be yourself, because
essentially what you're doingis you're gaslighting yourself.

(36:51):
I don't feel bad.
I'm not angry.
I'm not hurt.
I'm not sad.
So step into the feelingand feel the feeling.
Yeah.
And then,
I think, let's see, okay, I like this.
Step number one.
Yeah, we can do it again afterwards.
My petty came out to pee.
And step number two, hmm, I thinkmaybe like, tune into your values.

(37:14):
Step number three.
Um, cause once you get petty, then wewant to come in and like soothe that.
Where it's like, okay, um,that person hurt my feelings.
They didn't give me thebenefit of the doubt.
They didn't trust me.
They didn't ask me beforejumping to that conclusion.
This may or may not be a realexample for my life this week.

(37:35):
And, um, it's like pretty offensive thatI've known them for that long, and they
just jumped to that conclusion withoutgiving me the benefit of the doubt.
That hurt my feelings.
Right?
Feelings are so awesome.
So if I was gonna move into step two,then I would go, okay, what are my values?

(37:56):
and I'm like, well, I valueletting everyone be themselves.
I might even go, wow,that hurt my feelings.
Like that was maybe like a twoand it hurt my feelings like a 15
mm.
So then I might get likereally curious, right?
Like curious about like, whyam I valuing that so intensely?

(38:17):
Mm-hmm . Right?
Right.
And so why am I, um.
And like, why am Ivaluing not getting angry?
Like, why am I valuing notletting anything affect me?
Because then I might ask myself, doI really believe that good people
don't let anything affect them?

(38:37):
I mean, like, the Zen men ofmeditation would have you believing.
Like, God bless you, Eckhart Tolle,but he would have you believing.
God bless you, Michael Singer, buthe would have you believing that
you having no feelings and emotionsis correct, a. k. a. masculine.
Also, interesting, um, we're human.

(38:59):
I'm pretty sure we'rebuilt to have emotions.
Wait
till dinner, Michael!
Okay, like I actually valuea range of human emotion.
So it helps me tie back.
So it would be, I'd get petty, andthen I'd check in with my values, and
then probably the third step would be,what would be, it would probably be

(39:23):
like physiology, which would be move.
Something.
Move a piece of furniture, move your body,go for a walk, move your mind, because
it is scientifically the fastest way tochange your mental and emotional state.
So that, that would be like a scienceresearch based thing, where it's
like, okay, now we're going to move.

(39:44):
Yeah, we're going to move something.
Move and lock it in.
Yeah, yeah.
Move that energy.
And the great thing is, is like,just because I move, and this is
what I used to do, I might move,and then I'm like, oh I got mad.
Yeah.
I felt sad.
I journaled it.
I burned it.
Had a little bonfire, right?
But then I'm still mad.

(40:04):
And like, no, you're not so mad.
We worked
through this.
Well, here we go.
And then you repeat the cycle.
It's so beautiful.
We need your help.
I know.
Challenge accepted.

(40:25):
Thank you, Barney.
No, I think that's beautifulbecause it's really tangible things
that people can do right now.
That
was so beautiful.
I'm going to
practice them.
Good.
You know what?
Becks, I'm going to do it too.
I love it.
We'll connect at WOW.
Yes.
You don't have to worry about me.

(40:45):
You don't have to worry about me.
No, you
don't have to worry about me.
Completely.
Speaking of WOW.
Yes, again, we talked that youare going to be our keynote
speaker, so thank you for that.
for
having
me!
What do we anticipate?
What can we expect?
Oh, you can anticipateAnything can happen.

(41:06):
Yeah, anything can happen.
Oh gosh.
How do I keep it appropriate?
Or what
can we do to help repair them?
Or something that we can do with our
community.
Here's what I would love to ask you guys.
Is What do you feel like,cause you're talking to people.

(41:26):
You had an event last night.
People probably asked questionsand people opened and shared.
What do you, what's your vibe?
Like, what do you thinkpeople need right now?
Like, where do you think people are at?
Are there any questions orthemes you guys are noticing?
This is
a fun question because Maryhad us do the same thing.
She said, I want to kind ofget a feel for your audience.

(41:47):
So let's ask everybody what theywant to gain from this night.
And so we went around, we askedthe women, we had these answers.
And we came to marry it andshe's like, Oh no, I got it.
I got a temperature ofthe room and everything.
And so now I guess this is our opportunityto share that we had some things
that, that the women were asking for.
So I had some that wanted inspiration.

(42:07):
One woman, she was sayingshe just had a blank slate.
She wasn't sure what to expect.
She was just ready.
A lot of people wanted connectionand relationships and I'm
going to step out of frame.
Sorry to interrupt just for a second.
And really just prioritizing that wellnessand how, how we can really tune into that.
Cause you know, when an ultimate wellnesswas that look like, how do we really put

(42:31):
ourselves first and take care of that?
We're doing this live.
I love it.
So
this is, we had some soft launch,um, so kudos and, um, ditto to
everything that you just said.
A lot of the women.
really wanted connection relationshipswith each other to be in a safe

(42:52):
space and to hold space for eachother and all of their differences.
But what I was getting at is we had somesoft launches before our hard launch in
January and we have the women are ourmonthly theme this month was I desire.
So I'm just going to throwthis out here right now.
So it was, what do thesewomen desire in the next week,

(43:13):
the next month and the next.
And as I was preparing for ourevent, I was reading these and
forgive me now if I get emotional.
Never apologize for your emotions!
It's so true.
Didn't we learn?
You don't apologize!
No.
As soon as I said it, Iwas like, I'm not sorry.
I will get emotional.
Yeah.
Um, but I just wanted to share someof these because I think they're so

(43:35):
beautiful right from our community.
Personal meditation,education, completion.
I desire to get a strong body this year.
Comfort and peace, learning theprocess of growth, connecting with
others, um, to slow down and thinkthings through before I commit.
Oh, okay.

(43:57):
I didn't write it, but I couldhave growing my business,
love, joy, happiness, success.
Um, having gratitude andletting go of negativity.
I know we've got a couple ofwomen in the group that talk about
finding more time for my family.
Others are going rightin the thick of divorce.
So there's some hard out there, but Ithink really, truly, as you're looking

(44:21):
through this, I would love to grow thefamily business, garden, homemaking
skills, work through childhood trauma.
So there is some powerful stuff in thatroom and emotion, but I think a lot of
it goes back to friendships, connecting,feeling confident, feeling worthy.
Yeah, super powerful stuff.
So yeah, we're excitedand you're beautiful.

(44:43):
I
really do because, you know, likeI said, the book was the dream.
The book was the dream.
And then I did the dream andI got real sick and I was
like I think it could be done.
Yeah, I did it!

(45:04):
I did it!
I did all of them!
Yeah!
Turns out, like, you turn 40 and youstill have, like, all these years left.
Oh my gosh, we're gonnaget to 40 in a day!
Like, I, like, you know, Hamilton,like, what have you read?
Like, you're running out of
time.
Yeah, because we're running out of time.
That's like how I lived my whole life.

(45:26):
And then I'm like,
oh, there's still all this time.
Like, and now what?
And now what?
And it's a reallyinteresting place to be in.
And when it comes down to it, what Ifeel very passionate about is connection.
And I think the reason so many people arecraving that is also the other half of

(45:50):
those is You never feel more alone thanwhen you're going through a hard time.
Yeah.
Even with the people in your life.
Cause I went through a really hardtime and all of the people who
show up at the parties and thework events, they aren't quite sure
how to show up when you're sick.
Yeah.
They're not quite sure howto be your friend when you're

(46:10):
not the one helping them.
You know, and these, and, and that'snot, um, just an Allison problem.
That's a person problem.
Problem, right?
Where it's a lot easier to showup for people when you feel okay.
And it's really hard to allow people toshow up for you when you don't feel okay.

(46:31):
And when you don't feel okay, you feelalone and you don't feel like yourself.
And then you don't want the peoplewho know you as that other version
of yourself, or they're notcomfortable with you in that version.
And I think that it is so beautifulthat we can come together.
And meet new people in that space, right?

(46:54):
And so that's what I've really noticedis there's definitely been a shift in
the people that I'm attracting and thepeople who show up at the things I do.
And it's a real genuine connectionwhere people, um, and it's not like
the other type of connection isbad, but it's more, um, Honestly,

(47:16):
it's more popularity and hype.
There's, there's going to theTaylor Swift concert because
you're a die hard Taylor Swift fan.
And there's going to TaylorSwift because it's the thing to
do and it's a fun thing to do.
And, and she did a great job atmaking the fun popular thing to do.
The celebrities went there.

(47:36):
All the people went there.
We're in a financial crisis,you know, most people put
it on their credit card, but
that's okay.
And, and so part of it is, um, butyou know, you can go to that huge hype

(47:58):
popular culture and still feel dead alone.
And I think what a lot of people arecraving is a smaller community where they
can go and be the aspects of themselves.
That they haven't really beenable to show up with other
places and not feel so alone.
And that has been a concernwith some of the women.

(48:19):
They said, how big is this going to get?
Cause they didn't wantthat intimate connection.
Yeah.
And there's a place for all of it.
No, because we do need fun diversion.
We do need it.
Superficial.
We need it.
We need to show up.
Go have a good fun time.
Yeah,
it's not necessarily a deep divebecause people are hurting like that.

(48:41):
I mean, I've been through a reallyWe've all been through hard.
It's called life.
It's called the
journey, right?
The heavy, ugly, horriblethings and beautiful things
that life is and has been.
But I love that it's through the process.

(49:02):
Right?
That we make those connections andnot everything has to be a deep dive.
It's fun to get out and do it.
Yeah!
You
know.
Go hang!
But it's
interesting because I talk,you know, I coach and talk to a
lot of people who host events.
And a lot of people who host thesesmaller events are having the problem.
They're like, people say they'regoing to come or even somebody
inviting people over on the weekend.

(49:25):
Everybody kisses.
Yeah.
Because we all leave our houses.
But we're
all creating connections.
It seemed like a good idea at the time.
Hey, do you have anypointers on that, Allison?
You tell us.
The pointer is,
is me working on not being a judgmentaljerk, and just wanting to walk up
to people and be like, You're sad?

(49:45):
Get it out of your house.
You did this to yourself.
I'm just working on mycompassion over here.
Quiet.
When you were speaking actuallyto that earlier, I was thinking
about going through one of thehardest seasons in my life.
And truly, I think forme, I push people away.
I didn't want people to see me, right?

(50:06):
Because it's all about the persona andBecks has got her life together and all
of these things that we put on ourselves,labels that we put on ourselves.
And I don't really want peopleto see me in this capacity.
Yeah.
And so I did, I kind of, Pushedaway and it's hard to accept help.
I'm, I'm somebody that's hard forme to accept help, but you're the

(50:26):
first person to show up when yourhelp is, I'm the first person
to show up.
Okay, girl,
I know about you.
I got your number.
You
know
me, but it's hard.
So to your point of gettingthere, just come, if you're
listening to this right now.
Come, this community is for you.
I think that's, it's come,
come messy.
Come in your jammies.
Totally.
Come as your petty.

(50:47):
Come as you are.
Ugly version of yourself thatto you seems petty and ugly
because I promise you it's not.
Yeah.
Right?
Like every version of you is needed andsometimes people need to sit down and hold
your hand and look into your eyes for anhour and That's usually where I take it.

(51:10):
Um, and sometimes that'snot what people want.
And then I can feel sad that theydidn't want that gift I had to give.
But I've also got to remember, like,they just, they didn't need it.
Yeah.
I think gift people a giftthey don't want or need.
And they'd be tiny.
Yeah, tiny.
Tiny.
Like, maybe they just need tonot Be in their head and in their

(51:33):
feelings and just be with people andtake a break from feeling so much.
Yeah.
And that's, it's not up to me to decidewhat they need, unless of course they're
asking me to help them determine.
Um, and even then.
I think I'm just somuch more, I don't know.

(51:53):
I'm just at a place where I'm so muchmore like, yeah, I can be super wrong.
If you like it and if you don't hateme for it later, I had this guy, it
was not a good fit and he hired me to,he, it just was a weird circumstance
and he hired me for all these sessionsof coaching and he read my book.

(52:15):
He just found me through that.
And by about our fourth or fifth session,he is like, I'm feeling really mad.
And I was like, totally.
Are you feeling that anger towards me?
The situation or what we're talking about?
And he's like, I thinkI might be mad at you.
In the past, I would not havebeen able to handle that.

(52:35):
I would not have beenable to receive that.
I wouldn't have been okay with it.
I wouldn't have beenable to sleep at night.
I wouldn't need to makesure he was happy with me.
And now I'm like.
I talked to him forabout four or five hours.
I'm not too worried about it.
I'm no longer thecorrect solution for him.

(52:59):
Yes.
He definitely should talk to someone else.
Yes.
And I know I made him mad because Iasked him to think about something.
That is very harmful in his personality.
Of course you don't like me.
People don't like whenyou hold up a mirror.
People don't like whenyou hold up a mirror.
People don't like whenyou hold up a mirror.
When is that ready?

(53:19):
And even if you're paying someoneand asking them for it, they hold
that mirror up and you're like,
Yikes!
I won't want that from you.
And I've been mad attherapists and coaches.
Just being able to like, Yeah, and likesit with that and know like, and I told

(53:40):
him, I'm like, Hey, I want to thank youagain for sharing everything you shared.
This is super vulnerable.
I might not be the person and you'regoing to know what's best for you.
And we didn't have anothersession after that.
Our sessions were done.
Is it because I made a map?
Is it because we were done?

(54:01):
It honestly just doesn't matter.
It's
okay.
It's okay, but like, I used tonot be able to live with that.
So, back to validation.
Because I would have said thatI'm doing a good job if he
thinks I've done a good job.
I see.
That external.
External validation.
Where now the validation comesfrom checking with myself.

(54:23):
Was there something that I couldhave said or done differently?
Could I have been more compassionate?
Did I overstep?
Was I right?
Like
mm-hmm
. And looking back at my actions, I feel very comfortable and
secure in what they were.
Yeah,
if I didn't, I would, you know,make amends, you know, repair,

(54:43):
apologize, whatever needs to happen.
Mm-hmm . Um, and so when it comes backto that internal validation, it really
does require you to, on a regular basis,check in with yourself, with your values.
and what your motivation is, right?
Whereas like, my motivation, ifsomebody hires me and wants help

(55:06):
from me, my motivation is to servethem in a way that will serve them.
Yeah.
Not to help them in the way Ithink they should be helped.
Right.
Now, that's not always gonnabe what the other person wants.
Right?
And that's, it's hard.
Yes.

(55:26):
It's harder to
want everybody to love you.
Especially when you are in that position.
We all do.
We all want love.
We all want acceptance of love.
But, truly understanding it'snot about you, it's about them!
I know!
Wait, so what is it?
Cause it's like all about me!
I wanted to ask you kind of afun other little question too to

(55:48):
switch gears just a little bit.
Um, you've worked with a lot ofbusinesses, a lot of companies, big
brands like Microsoft, Alaska Airlines.
If you could collaborate with anyone,Um, excuse me, if you could collaborate
with anyone next, even Beyonce, Oprah.
Oh my gosh!
Um, should I say living or dead?

(56:11):
I'm just going to make this harder.
Let's say living.
Who would it be, and whatkind of magic would you
create?
What?
You're such a funpersonality, I have to ask.
Oh my gosh, wait!
But like, I don't evencollaborate with you.
I
know.

(56:34):
Because there's like people I wantto collaborate with and I'm not.
I went to like Wayne'sWorld and I'm like I'm
not
worthy.
Or there's just too many if it's too hard.
No, I'll just tell
you this.
Yeah.
Like, who do I want tobe obsessed with me?
Again, let's like, circleback to like, values, Allison.

(56:55):
Toxic much?
Like, that's not, like, about me.
Like,
one of the people who gives me a
pass for everything I say.
Oh,
that's it.
I'm like, who
would I like to be in love with me?
That's not what she asked.
That's not what she asked.
Um, but you know, What
would you admire?
Like, who would you admire?
I'm obsessed with RuPaul.

(57:17):
Okay.
I love RuPaul.
I love RuPaul.
I love RuPaul because RuPaul has madea career, the drug queen, has made a
career using their skills and platformto give other people a platform.
Yeah.
And so when I think of, um, like careerrole models, which I never used to have

(57:42):
one because I was like, I'm so special.
I don't need a role model.
And then I heard RuPaul say one time, yougot to have somebody to model your career
after maybe in a different like industry.
And I was like, Oh yeah, I don'thave to reinvent everything.
And RuPaul happens tobe one of those people.

(58:02):
Where, I mean, I would just absolutelylove, you know, I dream of being a
guest judge on Um, RuPaul's Drag Race.
I do.
I dream of it.
And my dream is I would nevercriticize a single queen.
I would only tell them how proudof them I am and how great they
are.

(58:22):
Um, and so, I do.
I have that dream.
But my dream is to be on aRuPaul's show just telling
everyone how much I love them.
Is that right?
Do I have to pronounce it?
That's a
fine one.
That's a
good
one.
That's a good one.
Because they have such abeautiful message to share.

(58:46):
Yes.
As well, I mean, every time I'velistened to that show, Oh, did
that just come out of your mouth?
I'm going to see that you one day.
Like you speak so eloquently.
Well, and that's why I really love RuPaul.
I mean, I could wax philosophicalon this, but one thing I love about
the show, which I've watched foryears and years and years, is RuPaul
chooses the winner every week.

(59:07):
He chooses who goes home and stays.
And I love that becausethat's a lot of ownership.
Because lots of shows, they'relike, I'm not going to put myself
in a position to not be liked.
I love it.
I'm not going to putmyself in the bad way.
And I love Rue because at the end of theday, and people are mad all the time.
People are always mad at RuPaul.
They're always mad at the show.
They did this wrong.

(59:28):
They did that wrong.
And I just love the ownership.
I love the ownership.
I love the using your skills togive other people a platform.
Um, and I love that.
And I think that's something likeI, like I think that's like a talent
I have is seeing people's talents.

(59:49):
And I can be very aggressive about wantingpeople to see their potential and talent.
So I had to learn.
See me in the arts!
Yeah!
And I had to learn to be kind about
the arts.
Well, we are so excited to haveyou in the keynote, and we loved

(01:00:11):
having this conversation with you.
that was so fun!
for helping
me.
for giving me the conversation I needed.
Jen,
can we just stay for a minute?
I have a few
more questions
for you.
We could do this for
a minute.

(01:00:31):
Yeah.
Thank you guys so much for having me.
Thank you for doing this work.
It's really hard to do things.
Yeah.
So good job doing them.
Thank you.
Especially,
you know, truly as weare still learning too.
Yeah.
For me, it's incredibly hard.
I think you hit the nail on the head iswe're all learning and it's incredibly

(01:00:51):
hard for me to stand up there because,please, I don't know how to figure it out.
We're like, again, goingthrough the journey.
Well, and how long were you an ER nurse?
Um, in healthcare for 20years, a nurse for 15.
Okay, so it's
like, the hardest thing, I think,and you don't realize it until you
start to get older, is continuing toallow yourself to be the beginner.
Yes.

(01:01:11):
And your ego.
It wants to tell you, you don'tget to show up and be new at this.
You're at the top of your industry,20 years, you're respected.
Everybody sees you in this way, and you'relike, I'm gonna show up like an idiot.
Lifelong.
Lifelong, right?
Lifelong.
And it's hard sometimes to stepback and go, oh yeah, let me

(01:01:32):
just listen , you know, I'm notgonna show you how to do that.
Like, oh yeah, let's allow others, becausethat helps them learn and grow too.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But anyway, we're all inthis journey together.
Oh yeah.
So beautiful.
Oh yeah.
We're all here.
Thank you guys so much for having
me.
Thank you guys.
We'll see you
later this month.
Man, what an incredibleinterview with Allison Faulkner,

(01:01:53):
host of The Allison Show.
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