RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery

In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore five essential things a betrayed partner needs from their spouse in order to truly heal. They unpack each element with depth and honesty, including:

• Taking full responsibility without minimizing or making excuses

• Creating safety—especially by addressing power dynamics and physical presence

• Making her feel seen, chosen, and prioritized

• Recovering for yourself, not just to save...

They discuss Carly's personal experience and thoughts around her parents divorce, the importance...

In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what ingredients are involved in a healthy marriage. These include: 

1. Liking each other as friends 
2. Emotional support for each other
3. Playing on the same team
4. Being willing to apologize and take responsibility for your own behavior
5. Freedom and safety in every aspect of the relationship

After betrayal and through addiction recovery, couples have a real opportunity to start ...

• Sleeping in separate spaces to give yourself the opportunity to reset and recover
• Setting boundaries around communication
• Getting connected to practitioners specializing in addiction and betrayal
• M...

This week Kylene and Patrick discuss 3 mindsets that will set you up for success in recovery and how those impact the betrayed partner and the addict in their journeys.

1. I am more than my circumstances
2. Healing is possible for everyone, but requires change and change is uncomfortable 
3. There is something better that is available to me

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching...

In today’s episode, Jackie Newman shares about the journal/workbook she co-authored called Unapologetically You. 

Unapologetically You is your personal companion on a transformative journey towards inner peace, emotional healing, and self-awareness. This journal offers a collection of guided prompts, exercises, and reflective spaces to help you reconnect with your true self, heal old wounds, and embrace the fullness of who you ar...

Today’s episode is a speech that Kylene was asked to present about overcoming adversity. She shares some of her own story as well as 3 keys she notices helps her and others move through painful experiences: Value, Clarity and Courage —> Knowing who you are, getting clarity on the future, and having courage to take steps towards it.

She shares these 5 truths:

1. You are not responsible for the behavior, reactions or thinking ...

In todays episode, Patrick shares his thoughts on 3 important principles for a sex addict to remember in recovery:

1. It takes time - don’t expect your betrayed partner to recover from discovery quickly. There are many factors that play into their ability to heal and everyone’s relationship and trauma level is different. Healing and relational reconciliation is a lifelong commitment.
2. Demonstrate consistency so you can create safe...

Sometimes divorce isn’t just admissible, it’s beneficial. When a relationship hinders one or both parties from moving forward in health, divorce may be the best choice.

Kylene and Patrick know that there are many reasons that a couple may struggle with this decision including faith based guilt, internalized people pleasing, financial reasons, children etc… This is an nuanced conversation, and one that a single episode certainly w...

In this episode, Patrick explores the critical role that habits, routines, and daily discipline play in deep, lasting recovery. He emphasizes the value of fully engaging with all the tools and resources available in whatever recovery plan or program you're following. Patrick also shares insights on the power of journaling and the importance of being intentional when replacing old, unhealthy patterns with new, life-giving ones.

If...

In this weeks episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss how patterns of thinking and behavior like: compartmentalization, the ability to feel deeply, and being someone who’s able to take action and get things done, can be great strengths in recovery, but those same strengths can also be our weaknesses in a different scenario.

They discuss how understanding our wounds, identifying the filters we view life through, and processing our emo...

Meet Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. In today’s episode, they share their personal story recovering from sex addiction and betrayal trauma. They share the ups and downs of their recovery and the process of healing they have found to be successful not only for themselves but for hundreds of other couples pursuing reconciliation as well.

Find their book Building True Intimacy here: https://a.co/d/dnwA2rw 

Check out their free check-i...

• Don't control your partner
• Marriage is hard
• Divorce is not an option