The concept of love languages is tossed around on social media frequently, and has permeated western culture - but to what cost? In this episode, host Sarah Stancombe is joined by expert Steven Ing, MFT to discuss better ways of understanding intimacy and communication.
Steven Ing, MFT has 30 years of experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, and helps people figure out how they can have healthy sexuality and intimacy. He has literally written the book on human sexual needs, We’re All Like This, used in university-level human sexuality classes. His books, articles, and public presentations create conversations about human sexuality that are safe...but not too safe. Steven Ing, MFT's insights have led to a humane take on our beautiful human sexuality and how all the rest of us can have ridiculously happy lives and sex lives too! Steven Ing, MFT is the creator and host of the true crime podcast, Sex Crime Central. He is also a contributor to Huffington Post, The Advocate, SheKnows.com, The Rage Monthly, Psychology today, and Gannett newspapers. A published author, TEDx Talk presenter (called “What’s Your Magic Sex Number?”), and a podcast guest who talks about sexuality in a way that won't embarrass you. Steven Ing, MFT is reframing an important conversation in society — one about the intelligent management of human sexuality.
In this episode, Steven Ing, MFT dispels the myth that love languages are good for a relationship. They may in fact make one or both people feel trapped, or unable to express their love freely. The book published on love languages that promoted the now popular concept is not based in reality, and the author had no scientific background. Instead, humans should be free to express their love freely, as it is such a fluid experience.
Together, Sarah and Steven Ing, MFT discover the idea of managing sexuality intelligently - something that is essential to living a blissful life, rather than a catastrophic one. Sadly this is not taught widely enough, even though it affects every single human being.
View Steven Ing, MFT’s work on his website: stevening.com Steven Ing, MFT’s Psychology Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/steven-ing-mft Books by Steven Ing, MFT, accessible on Amazon: We’re All Like This: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/1933975075?ref_=mr_referred_us_au_au Polliwog: https://www.amazon.com.au/Polliwog-Steven-Ing/dp/1960621017
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