92. “Transform Your Relationships With These 6 Powerful Questions!” – Cyndi McCoy

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation with Cyndi McCoy—coach, author, and creator of The Boundaries Health Check—as she shares her groundbreaking approach to emotional wellbeing, relationships, and personal empowerment. In this episode, Cyndi breaks down the six boundaries that shape every human relationship, including the one we have with ourselves.

Drawing from her coaching practice, lived experience, and innovative theory of “boundaries as dials,” Cyndi invites us to reflect on how we spend our time, who we share our energy with, and what it really means to live in alignment with our values. Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, healing from relationship strain, or simply wanting to feel more peace, this episode will give you the tools to start making real, measurable change—one boundary at a time.

About our guest:

Cyndi McCoy is the creator of The Boundaries Health Check and founder of BoundariesCheck.com. With credentials from the International Coaching Federation and a background in personal development, Cyndi has developed a practical, measurable framework for understanding and adjusting boundaries in all aspects of life. Her work empowers people to take control of their emotional wellbeing, improve communication, and strengthen their relationships through clarity, accountability, and self-care. She’s the author of two books, including an audiobook that guides listeners through her complete coaching system.

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 - Episode Trailer

01:19 - Emotions, nervous systems & how Cyndi found home in Australia

04:10 - From skepticism to science: Cyndi’s journey to becoming a coach

07:16 - The 6 types of boundaries: time, territories, treasures, tools, topics & third parties

13:12 - Understanding emotional states as dashboard indicators

20:02 - How to adjust your boundaries to shift your emotional state

24:00 - The 4 “dashboard lights” that guide relationship health

28:22 - Motivators, values & how they fuel our decisions

31:12 - Relationship with self: the foundation of every boundary

34:20 - Cyndi’s story: boundaries learned through childhood patterns

38:00 - How to set boundaries with family while maintaining respect

42:19 - Self-care as the cornerstone of romantic relationships

46:00 - The role of communication tools in self-reflection & growth

47:00 - How Cyndi uses ChatGPT for emotional processing and life design

51:06 - Where most people go wrong in relationships

54:16 - Self-accountability vs. blaming others

58:15 - Relationship roadmaps: designing the life you want

01:03:12 - The boundary Cyndi’s still working on today

01:07:13 - What success looks like now: peace, presence & compassion

01:10:05 - Cyndi’s greatest teacher and the spiritual philosophy behind her work

01:12:18 - Final message: challenge yourself to check in with your boundaries