September 24, 2024 • 50 mins
In this episode Shayla shares more with us about her personal journey of experiences she's had with the aftermath of her Gido's passing. Mainly a beautiful experience of her family getting together one last time in his house before the sale closed. She gives many tips and idea of things they did to pay homage to the space, make new memories as a family and capturing moments and that they can have as a keepsake to honor the memory of him and that space. Payton shares a card spread that he felt reflected some of his own experiences which he felt would resonate with many in the greater collective. Payton also announced that he will be offering two in-person classes on October 16th & 17th 2024 at Mana Salon in Nashville, Tennessee for any listeners out there that may be interested in attending.
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Welcome to the Souly Podcast.
Intuitive mediums Payton and Shaylainvite you to join us in our conversation
exploring the world of spirituality.
In a heart centered way, weexplore many topics and share our
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Let's grow together as weexpand our knowledge and try to
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make the world a better place.
This is Souly.
All right.
Welcome back everyone to another episodeof Souly both Shayla and I are here and
excited to connect with all of you again.
How are you doing Shayla?
I'm doing really good.
Like I was telling you before we got onthe call, it's been like Crazy two weeks.
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It's been a lot of good stuff andit's been a lot of emotional stuff
And I think probably a lot of peopleat the beginning of September.
It's a lot So I had birthdays formy kids date like back to back.
So one on the 10th and 11th I startedschool which I talked about in the
last episode It's going really good.
It's actually And so funbecause the way that this person
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teaches is very out of the box.
Like there's the inbox thinking, right?
Like the typical things you need to know.
And then there's also likethe out of the box thinking.
So day two, he's teachingus how to read auras.
So I was like, I'm in the right place.
Yeah.
A hundred percent.
Yeah.
So that was fun.
yeah,
were some of those teachings, becausethat's something you've always.
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Um, and it's kind of naturally.
So, where's their waysthat he taught that, that.
we're similar to what you had experiencedor something that, made you think
about things in a different way.
I would say it was very similarto what I initially learned.
I think I was mostly just excited thatsomeone was even like talking about that.
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And I know like, as the classes godeeper and we start to do more like
hands on stuff, it's going to beeven more in depth kind of thing,
but yeah, I've done like DougallFraser's, color certificate and I've
done my own work with different things.
So it is one of those subjects youcould really like deeply go into.
And I guess where.
Each year we have like a special projectthat we have to do kind of training around
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like the industry massage or things thatcould be useful to like implementing it
or new thoughts towards it kind of thing.
So one of the things I want to do forthat is actually bring in the Claire's
and aura readings or like just for energyconnection into that and explain more
because when he's talking, I'm like,this is the language of spirit, like, and
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that's what you know, everyone has energy.
A different way to explain it.
Sometimes it's very religious,but it's like, oh, you're
talking to God or hearing God.
And it's like, well, that spirit.
Right.
And then even when he's talking andlike, oh, that spirit, they just, you
know, I think what's been so greatabout the way we've learned things.
And there's so much, so many differentways, but just the language of
spirit where you're like, okay,here are the Claire's and you can
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divide them and understand like whereyou're getting those pings of like.
Feelings or hearing things or seeingthings from and just develop it more.
So yeah, I'm excited to hopefully do aproject on that and kind of implement it
into that kind of give the class a morelike understanding of that kind of thing.
And like, hopefully kind of run people'sviewpoint on that or just to discover
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it right kind of thing so but it'sreally exciting because there is so
much out of the box thinking that it'sjust neat to see somebody implementing
that into massage because like I saidbefore it's like our bodies they hold
so much trauma and stress and happiness.
And like, there's all these differentthings that are in the body and our
stories, like our life stories, I feellike, our body's really taken all of that.
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And sometimes we're like,well, why am I feeling that?
So, it'll be interesting tocontinue to see how it goes, but
I definitely feel like I'm inthe right place, which is nice.
Yeah, for sure.
That's interesting.
You brought up about, the languageof spirit also known as the Claire's.
and that how many people and differentfaiths and different paths, talk about
that, but don't use that vocabulary, theway that we do in the spiritual space.
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I have a client that I.
Cherish that's a hair client.
And, she is leans morein the religious side.
I lean more in the spiritual sideand we'd love to just have very,
we understand where each otheris in their, in their world.
And we like to compare and contrast.
and that came up, a few times withsome other people too, that I've been
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around that they're talking aboutthings that I would call clear audience.
Oh, you heard it.
You heard this voice.
You heard this, that you, youinternally heard something that
gave you a knowing, you know,that you're clear cognizant, sir.
you know, these visions are things.
So it is a bit fascinating howthat is talked about amongst people
of all different, walks of faith.
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But, you know, with the kind of workwe do, we really dig in on how to
develop those and, and use those tobetter translate what is coming through.
and that kind of can take me down and wecan go, we can get on this topic another
day, but it just takes me down this,road that is something that's been very
prevalent in my awareness lately is.
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When it comes to all faiths that haveever existed, not just the big main ones
that we're all familiar with today, butman has had some sort of understanding
of God since the dawn of time.
what has been left, for us to knowwhat has been left to understand that
connection, what has been left tous, whether in scrolls or books or
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however, it's been, has been someone'sinterpretation of what they were
experiencing, you know, and, sometimesthat interpretation has evolved over
time as we've gotten to understand thingsand, and all of that, but sometimes
those interpretations, uh, end upbeing very effective for a very long
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period of time to where many culturesand many ways that it can even end up
seeping into the legal world of how, youknow, people are governed and whatnot.
So, You know, and as a medium, assomeone that interprets what it is I'm
being given and being shown, I'm at apoint now that I've, you know, I think
this is a door everyone has to walkthrough where, you have to hit some
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point where you are without any doubtthat you are seeing something, you
might not be interpreting it correctly,but you were being shown something.
And this is not just in your mind.
Yeah.
You know, that's some of mystudents that I'm working with.
That's kind of a point we're at now.
It's like we gotta get to thatpoint where we build that confidence
to know that what you're beingshown is you are seeing something.
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Mm-Hmm.
You might be misinterpreting ita little bit, but, the, you know,
you've learned how to navigate that.
Yeah.
So, and that's, that's.
Part of this path that will be, youknow, I, as I walk this path, I know
that that's always going to be a partof it, that I'm aware that I'm just
trying to interpret it to the best of myability and, you know, take everything I
say with a little bit of grain of salt,you know, um, if it makes sense, great.
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So it's just interesting when you look.
To these, there's so many people inhistory that we've given so much faith in
that what they interpreted was exactly theway that they shared it or that it got, it
continued to be shared or recorded even.
I mean, things weren't evenrecorded until later in history,
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it was all just word of mouth.
Right.
Which we know how that can go.
Exactly.
The game of telephone.
So that's not to like.
You know, just throwdoubt over everything.
It's just like, I think that's aninteresting way to help you grow in your
own faith, your own journey is to justbe aware of that and think about that and
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let that curiosity then be the breadcrumbsthat maybe lead you to a deeper connection
to whatever it is that you're calledto or whatever it is, is your faith.
to just question things a little bit.
So I know that was a totally differentdirection than we thought we were
going, but, that is something that,has really been in my awareness.
And I think, I think that's, I don't know.
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I just think that that's a reallyimportant reminder or a topic for those
of us that, you know, I think thoseof us that identify as spiritual, we
really like the idea of being opento, All possibilities and all avenues.
And I'm curious about that possiblychanging and evolving as we go.
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And I just, I don't know, I think that'simportant, especially as crazy as I mean,
life in the world is always crazy, soit's nothing new, but it's definitely
right now, uh, it's a fun journey.
No, and Kind of rewinding a little backto what you said too, there's things
that, we've been set to do or thinkor the way we think are supposed to
go based off of what you're saying.
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And I think it can take alot of trust in ourselves.
Like for example, when we'rediving into doing mediumship or
readings or things like that.
It takes a lot of trust in ourselves tohave the courage to say what we're seeing
or thinking or feeling when it comesto Claire's when it comes to anything,
but when it comes to focusing more onthe Claire's, I would say like that can
feel really uncomfortable because we'vebeen taught to not trust ourselves.
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I feel in society.
It's like we give, we allow otherpeople's voices to determine, you
know, You know, how we live our ownthought process and stuff like that.
So that's definitely, you know,when you go into the spiritual realm
and I mean, it doesn't have to bemediumship, it could be other things too.
Right.
But it's really, that's like where theinner work comes or learning to trust
ourselves and to question ourselvesand our belief systems and all of that.
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And it's just like, It'sa rabbit hole, right?
Like, it can really go, godown quite a bit, but it is,
and I think so many of us andthere's obviously many different
players involved that can cause this.
But so many of us have this ideathat we're not worthy enough of it.
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You know, whether it's we have a colorfulpast that does not align with, you know,
what we were supposed to do or followor, who we are doesn't align with what
is said to be right or wrong or whatever.
The many reasons, or we just had atraumatic, had some trauma growing up and
experiences that led us to feel unworthy.
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But I, I think we allhave to navigate that.
And I think you can apply that tomore arenas than just trying to
hear, you know, the guidance from thespirit world or, I don't know if that
just applies in the spiritual case.
I think I can, I think this goes for alot of things, but, when you get to a
point that you finally realize that, youknow, we are all equal and we are all
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worthy of it, You'll be amazed what cancome through and what kind of information
you'll start to connect with and thatfeeling you'll start to connect with and
how incredibly healing that can be for youto heal those kinds of self worth issues.
Yeah, absolutely.
Okay.
I don't want to forget.
spooky season.
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So, and I'm on us.
Yes.
So I think it was ourlast episode where we.
We're talking about submissionfor stories for spooky stories.
So we have a Google voice accountwhere you can go and leave a message
and tell us your spooky story.
it can be anything like UFOs,spiritual experiences that are more
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like on the line of a little bit.
weird or creepy just because we'rekeeping it in theme with Halloween.
And then also if you want to, iflike the Google voicing is not
something you want to do, you canalso submit through email as well.
You can send us a voice memo orif you want to even just email us
your story, we can read it as well.
we would love to hear your voice,but I understand that's not always
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in the comfort zone for everybody.
So we're open to othersubmissions as well.
And yeah, we want to hear yourstories because you know, Halloween
is coming up soon It's fascinatingto hear other people's experiences
to like, I have been listening forprobably a year now to spooky stories.
One of my favorites is spooked, whichI've mentioned before, just because
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I love the way it's put togetherwith music and all that stuff.
But it's so interesting to hear otherpeople's perspectives and stories and
be like, okay, like, What could that be?
Like, that's like one of the thingsthat helps me to question the world.
It's those kind of like weird experienceswhere you're like, well, I can't quite
figure out what that is, or I won'tever necessarily know for certain what
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it is, but it really opens the mind.
And for me, listening to scarystories and spooky things like
that, or paranormal stuff.
I feel like it's really opened my beliefsystem to different things, even over the
last couple of years where I was like, Oh,I think this is how it is supposed to be.
But hearing other people'sstories, I'm like, you know what?
Maybe I'm wrong.
Like maybe there is somethingdifferent that I, you know, I
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don't know about kind of thing.
So.
Yeah.
Exploring the fear.
Yes.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
And if you cannot figure out how tosend us a voice memo or anything, just
reach out to either Shayla or I, andwe will figure out a way to get, your
voice on our show to share your story.
So, there's many different, ways,
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All right.
Okay.
And then another thing I wanted tomention, just as like a side life
story, and it also pertains to spiritualstuff too, I have been off caffeine
mostly for probably a month now.
Okay.
And some of the things I'veexperienced has been interesting.
So I was having a lot of anxietyand heart palpitations, hard time
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sleeping, just a hard time focusing.
And then I realized just kind of byaccident, cause I stopped drinking coffee
for like a week, but I was actuallystarting to sleep better and I was
starting to not have this much anxiety.
And that probably 90 percent of likemy sleep issues, cause I get like these
crazy palpitations and breathing thingswas because I was drinking caffeine and.
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Why I'm sharing this is because I'venoticed as I've gone through different
spiritual phases in life and likemeditation, different things like
that, I've noticed just in general, thelast five or six years that my body is
more sensitive to certain substances.
And like, whereas like sixyears ago I could drink like
five cups of coffee a day.
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I was like over the last five years, evenjust like one small cup of coffee a day.
And so I thought, you know what?
I'm fine.
Like, that's like just a little bitof caffeine, but I didn't realize how
sensitive my body had become to that.
And that it's like, you guys,it's a teacup essentially,
like it's a tiny bit of coffee.
And today as an example, somebody inmy house made regular coffee and I had
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probably like Three tablespoons of it.
If I were to put it into measurementand I'm like vibrating right now.
So I like, where do I get that coffee?
I know it's just regular coffee.
You just have to go off of it fora while, but that's something to
kind of like test out in your life.
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Cause I think sometimes we're so usedto having these little, like things
that we do, these comfort things orlittle advices that we kind of lean on.
And as we, Are just more of aware like Ithink when you're in the spiritual realm
and you're discovering things meditationyou start to become more aware of like
your energetic body, right and then it'salso goes into your physical body and it
all affects one another and so sometimesyou'd be surprised like the little things
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that you do every day are the things that.
Maybe impacting you emotionally,physically, like all that stuff
spiritually more than you realize.
And I think caffeinewas one of those things.
I love coffee.
So this has been very sad for me.
I switched to decaf, but that even stilltechnically has traces of caffeine in it.
So yeah, I just wanted to sharethat because I'm like, I'm sure
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other people are experiencing that.
And it happened so subtly that Ididn't really realize how much it was
affecting me and even alcohol too.
Like I've never really.
I've been somebody who drinks a lotjust because of, I just never felt
good in my body and also just certainthings growing up with my dad, I think
I mentioned in the past, so it's justsomething I've stayed away from, but
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I would still drink here and there.
But even now it's like one sipand I'm like, my face turns red.
I feel like instantly sleepy.
I'm like, wow, I'm a lightweight.
But like, I really feel like ithas a lot to do with just that
energetics and body awareness.
And yeah.
So if you're out there and you'redrinking tons of coffee, like
just experiment and see if like,there's a shift with that because.
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Like I said, like threetablespoons essentially.
And I'm like all weirdfeeling and jittery.
And then I accidentally had, a latte,which had like espresso in it that I asked
for decaf, but it definitely was not.
And that was insane.
I was like shaking and like,just like so full of anxiety.
So there's my life lesson.
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I'm just wanting toshare it with everybody.
And yeah, it's crazy howlittle things like that.
Yeah, no, I think that'sa great point to bring up.
I know I've shared on this show,like when I, started to want to
understand my spiritual gifts, um, ina way that I wanted to develop them.
Cause I, I wanted to use themto, you know, help others.
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I had to get off of everything.
I still had.
Caffeine.
I did back down quite a bit on that.
I didn't get rid of it completely,but I needed to get, you know, I
had to get alcohol out of my system.
I had to get everything out ofmy system so that I could figure
out how this stuff worked for mewithout like with a clean slate.
Right.
As years have gone on and time hasgone on and I've reintroduced certain
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things slowly and surely, it's thatsame thing you just spoke about.
Like I can't handle it the waythat I used to, it affects my
body the way it affects my dayslater, differently than it used to.
And I think, you will no doubt come incontact with people in the spiritual
world that say, you know, you need tonot do this, not do that, that, that,
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that you have to always live in thishigh vibration and blah, blah, blah, but.
You know, this is also life and we're hereto be human and having a human experience.
So, you know, that's not a, that'snot a real thing to live by.
But I think as you do become more intune with yourself and you do become
more aware of yourself, you do noticehow everything starts to affect you.
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So differently, I even talk about,I'm like, is it because I'm aware
of it now, or is it because I'm moresensitive now, but even like, so, okay.
Today when we're, recording,I wasn't paying attention,
but I woke up this morning.
I'm like, I have alittle more energy today.
There's like some, there'ssomething in the air today.
And then someone reminded me, Oh,tomorrow's a full moon and it's.
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It's an eclipse.
So it's a very powerful one.
Yeah.
So I'm like, Oh, that's right.
Oh, that must be why theenergy feels different today.
So I'm, and I noticed now kindof that I do feel a little more
sensitive around the astrology.
I think I've talked about that on.
So and again, is it like now because I'mpaying attention or is it because now I
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have a little more awareness around myenergetic body and I'm, and I'm, and I'm
just actually noticing, Or what is it?
And I've said it on the show before.
Someone said the price of sensitivityis sensitivity, you know, is,
you know, the more you develop,the more you're going to feel.
So that's interesting.
I need to back down on coffee.
I have a bit of an unhealthyrelationship with it as of current.
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And then soda, that's been my,like, once I did kind of move
alcohol off to the side, regularCoke is like my guilty pleasure.
That's what I want toorder at a restaurant.
That's like my little self helpmoment is like my fountain soda.
but I can, I've also can like relateto this and as I've shared, like
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I've had to, uh, step away frommy normal routine of exercise.
And, You know, I've had to navigate likehow to kind of keep myself in a healthy
alignment, not having that type ofhealthy, way of, grounding or re centering
my energy or channeling my energy.
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So, I'm glad you brought that up becauseI know I've had people share with
me, you know, they've had questionsabout, you know, is it okay to do this?
Is it okay to do this?
And I'm like, well, you, you haveto do what's, what's healthy and
what's, what's right for you.
And, you know, you, if, if somethingaffects you physically good, positive or,
or, or neutral, it's going to possiblyhave that same effect on any kind of
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spiritual work you're wanting to do.
You know, so you just needto be kind of aware of that.
Yeah, And even when you were talkingabout exercising, it's just like
everyone's so different, right?
And that goes with spiritual care as well.
So no, nobody's just like the same.
And I know for me, like wetalked about exercising.
I didn't mention this before.
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Like I was like, Oh, I'll do hot yoga.
I love it.
It'll be amazing.
And I actually fricking hate it.
I tried so hard to love it, but itwas just like, Oh, I feel like crap.
Right.
Like absolutely crap.
Whereas my sister, yeah, mysister's just like, I love it.
I feel so good.
I'm like, I have a headache.
I'm so fricking tired.
Like.
I can't do this.
Right.
So we all have to just find ourdifferent ways of doing things.
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And for some people, maybe coffeedoesn't really affect them.
You know, that's fine.
Or, right.
It's just like, it's so dependent onwho you are in your belief system.
And you just have toexperiment with it too.
Right.
Like, like you said, like you eliminatedall these things and kind of went back
and tried them to see how it felt for you.
So, yeah,
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I think it's a good reminder to that.
If you aren't like, I mean,let's just use anxiety or, stress
or those things as an example.
I think this could apply to anything.
If you're noticing an uptick in thosetypes of feelings or certain types
of feelings, Obviously, if, if thatmeans going, you know, you need to,
you need to find help and go to adoctor or whatever, obviously, yeah,
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but also look at the, the, the worldyou live and the things that you expose
yourself to the things you intake.
I don't think we realize how muchdehydration affects us, how much
caffeine affects us, how muchwhat's in our food affects us.
it is huge and it is hard.
It is also a giant mountainto climb to like try to.
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And as soon as you think you're doingsomething right, then something else
that you thought was okay, is now bad.
Yeah.
So it's, it's a never ending battleand you can only do so much, but
if you can find something simple,like, let me try decaf for a while.
Let me, let me take coffee off my platefor a minute and see, is that bringing
any kind of change into my circumstances?
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It's, you know, sometimes those littlesmall things can make big steps.
Yeah, they really can.
And let me tell you,I've been to all like.
These specialized doctor's appointmentstrying to figure out what's happening.
I'm like, Oh, I think it's like.
The caffeine.
So, right.
No, it's crazy.
Like you said,
these ads for mushroom coffeeand I'm just not there yet.
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You know what?
I think the mushroom coffeethough has actual coffee in it.
Most of them, they justadd a little extra boost.
Yeah.
It's I think, and even likethey have mushroom cocoa and
cocoa has caffeine in it too.
So.
You can try a little bit of mushroom.
We'll do another episode on mushrooms.
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I actually know somebody in mycity here that would be really
great to talk about mushrooms.
I call him the mushroom man.
So I have to reach out to him.
Okay.
So another thing that we're goingto talk about today is I wanted to
share some of the things that myfamily did When saying goodbye to
my Gitos, my grandfather's house.
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So I've talked about this inprevious episodes with some
of the grief aspect of things.
And I wanted to share this becausewe ended up doing some things
that were actually really funthat I never thought I would do.
I might actually share themon our Souly stories because
some of them are pretty funny.
but I wanted to give these as even justlike suggestions or little seeds of
thought to create your own memories andyour own little legacy things and projects
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within your own situation or your homeor whatever thing you're going through.
So although this is going to pertainin my case to like letting go of my
grandfather's house, I think it couldbe used for other things too, especially
for those who are maybe saying goodbyeto their home and just moving, but even
that can be heart wrenching as well.
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So I know I've had moments likethat, just you and me moving.
So I wanted share some of these things.
And you know, some of these thingsyou may not want to do, but I'm
going to share them anyways.
So one of the things that we did waswe invited family over to the house.
So at this point.
I think there's only like a table leftand we, we still had a supper so we
just brought our own things and we hada pierogi dinner because we're Ukrainian
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and that's something that's special to us.
So, bringing in a specialmeal and sharing it together.
And then along the lines of that too.
For us, I have a lot of cousins,uh, most of them are younger, so
we kind of like two generations.
We have a group of five or sixof us, and then more kids came.
So some of my cousins are like 13, 14,15 years apart from me, and some of my
kids are even closer in age with them.
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So it's a young group, and so what wedid was we found some random things
in the house we never noticed before.
So one of them that made us laugh wasas an example, with this paper that was
put on all the kitchens, like, you know,the cupboards and stuff, and it was a
naked lady, and we had never noticed.
Oh my god, like lining the cabinets?
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Yeah, and it was like, like neverin all of these years, like, That
paper's been there since my momwas little, at least a teenager.
And we're like, who picked this out?
I think Ido.
No, it was my baba.
Really?
Funny, my grandma.
So that was freaking hilarious.
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And I don't know, it was kind oflike an abstract type of situation.
So I'm not sure.
She's so funny.
I saw it initially, but it was morelike an Adam Eve kind of thing.
So it was like Eve with anapple and she's, her boobies are
out, you know, that was funny.
But along the lines of that, we alsofound a laundry shoot that I think I
knew about it when I was younger, butit was one of those things where it was
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like, nobody touch it kind of things.
We forgot it was there.
And so we ended up doing thiswhole video parents on here.
I'll probably know what bathroomsis if you have like kids or, okay.
preteens or whatever.
So they're like these hauntedkind of creepy back rooms that
people make on like YouTube.
Sometimes they're real roomsand they just look creepy and
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it's like a whole backstory.
Kind of like creepy pasta, if anyone knowswhat that is, like creepy stories that
are kind of made up and stuff like that.
And so we're like, Oh, let'smake a back rooms video.
So it initially started withtwo of my sisters doing it.
And then they did this little cameratrick where it looks like she's
going into this laundry slide.
It's like tiny, it's like the size ofa So obviously she can't fit in it.
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And then she drops down into this basementbecause it goes out of the basement.
And then, so we're like,okay, let's make a backrooms.
And so we, all of us, there's like, Ithink at least 12 of us or something.
And so we each split up our rolesand then we have different things.
And so my sister went with the camera.
And so we made this like hauntedbackrooms horror, like four minute video.
And it's so fricking funny, especially,you know, when you know the people, but
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I think in general, it's pretty fun.
Quite well done.
So I'm going to have to sharethat on our Souly stories.
You can see it on there.
And so just doing something fun likethat creative because like when you
move out, your house is suddenly blank.
There's nothing there.
In this case, if you have like an olderhome, especially if it hasn't been
renovated in like 30, 60 years, thishouse has a very distinct aesthetic.
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There's shine carpet.
You know, red carpet.
We have this tiki bar in the basement.
It was just this room that is so creepy.
It's like a blue room.
Nobody likes to go in there ever.
It's super creepy, but it made a perfect.
place to be creative.
So doing something likethat was, it was really fun.
And now it's just like this memorythat we have of the house together.
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Right.
So just being creative and gettingtogether with the people you love, right.
Not necessarily the people you're notconnected with, because we did kind
of at that moment, there's certainpeople that are a little bit closer
and we kind of created that spacetogether, um, to have that last moment
kind of thing, and there's anotherbeautiful picture I'll have to show.
It's the front.
window.
So one of my uncles was outsideand we're all standing all
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this cousins by the window.
I took a picture and it's beautifulbecause the sunset is reflecting and
it's so beautiful and just I haveto share it because it's so cool.
So look for that on our stories as well.
so the next thing that we did was thatwe basically like we went outside.
And we looked around, my Gita was reallyinto gardening, so we took plants that we
wanted to to transplant them, we collectedseeds, little things like that, I talked
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about how last time we connected withthe tree, so we took little pieces of the
tree and the leaves and stuff like thatto press flowers and leaves and stuff like
that, so just going around your home andcollecting just little things that it.
You know, you're so used to always beingaround, but won't necessarily be there
and just doing little things like that.
So we're probably making littlebookmarks, and just little things
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like that with those flowers.
And yeah, then it's a neat way,especially with the seeds to kind
of carry on that energy of thatplace and plant them next year.
So, we did that, we took little trinketsaround from the house, the little
chandeliers, we just took a little pieceof it, most likely in this situation,
depends on your situation, but I havea feeling this house is going to be
totally either knocked down or fullyrenovated, so we just took little
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pieces, we had these like, beads fromlike the tiki room that kind of opened
the door and they're like these uglychunky beads and we took some of those.
and yeah, even little pieces of thecarpet, like silly things like that, but
you know, that are just special littletrinkets around the house kind of thing.
And then another thing that we did wasThere is this thing that we saw, many of
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you probably seen it on Instagram, wherepeople will take their grandparents home
or their old home that they're leavingand take pictures from the past in that
house, like events and stuff like that.
And then when the room is empty,they move the picture away.
So they put the picture in frontand then show what the house is now.
So we did that and oh my gosh, that wasa project but probably like the behind
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the scenes was the funniest because Ihave like my sister holding the camera.
I have my arms over her so I'mtrying to balance the camera and then
we're trying to get the lighting.
One person has a flashlight over thepicture and that probably took about
two and a half hours or maybe evenmore but I really feel like it's
something once it's put together, itwill be a really beautiful remembrance
of the house and what it gave to usand all of that and the memories.
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Another thing that we did was pray forthe house and not from like necessarily
a religious standpoint, just from like amore, an offering of love kind of thing.
So we.
We thanked the house, we thankedmy grandparents, we walked around
the house and we touched the wallsand just had a moment and just
remember the different things thatwe had there and just talk about it.
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And then we sung Nohayalita, whichis a Ukrainian song, and I loosely
translated it means many happy years.
So, it As a thanks for my grandparents,but also just a blessing for the home
and the land for those who come next andtake over, you know, so it was beautiful.
So we just went around and we sang thesong quite a few times around the house.
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And that song is such a special meaningfor us because we sang it at birthdays.
We've sung it to my Guito when he wasin the hospital when he passed away.
so having that connection,I just think there's so much
power in like song in general.
Like if there's a song thatconnects to you either just in
general that you feel good about.
Yeah.
or is like traditional to you.
I think that's a beautiful wayto implement it and use it as a
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prayer as well, like that, youknow, the song kind of thing.
and then my son, he's so funny.
He loves Minecraft.
so he had his Nintendo hetook with us on the last day.
And he created a whole world where,like, he made the house, so he
did a replica as much as we could.
And he did it, like, in four hours.
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I was so impressed.
So that was just, like, such arandom thing that I didn't expect.
But I was like, oh, that's so cool.
If you have a kid who loves thatstuff, like, Building and things
like that and is into Minecraft.
That might also be, I feel likefor him, it was therapeutic.
just to like let go andkind of express in that way.
I mentioned this on one of the otherones, I think, but I recorded sounds
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of the house, so my favorite is walkingacross the creaky kitchen floor.
It makes this like snapping sound andall of like just the cupboards and the
faucets and the doors and what it soundslike when the doorbell rings and people
are knocking those little things that.
I feel like are so ingrained in mymemory in a way, but at the same time
can be so easy to let go of instantly.
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Cause sometimes it's harderfor us to keep that in.
I think that's just in general,like, I think there's so much
value in recording voices.
so that's something I definitelyrecommend at this point.
We all have phones and we have,we should have a recording
function, easy to do that.
Even just recording your kid'svoice, you know, the kids.
They change stuff as they're like littlecute voices and are taking a moment to
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just share a story that you have likethere's a lot of really cool story prompt
cards you can get on Amazon or your localbookstore, where they give you like story
prompts and little things to ask yourgrandparents or your siblings or your
family and I think those are awesomeso we'll have to leave a link for a few
of them because They're just super funand really connective, tools to use.
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and then just basically like the lastday, when we went, it was just like me
and my family, cause everybody had alreadygiven their keys and all that stuff.
And so it was just a time to justgive thanks to the house and just
spend a moment there and justsay, thank you kind of thing.
Because when you have Someone in yourfamily who is like the matriarch or
the patriarch or whatever, like someonewho like brings everything in and
is that person who holds the groundfor your family, it can be really
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hard to say goodbye to that becauseit's like this place that everyone
revolves around and connects to.
And I think for us, it was just, it's beenhard to let go of that because even for
me, like I said, I've moved so many timesin my life, but this place was consistent.
It was my place that I couldalways feel at home in.
And so I think it can be hardfor anybody to move in general.
So I think it's important to acknowledgethose feelings because I think we're
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like, there's so many different typesof grief and I think sometimes we
push all the other things aside, but.
If you lose a job, or you lose yourhome, or you're moving, you're letting
go of certain aspects of Your dailyroutine yourself and part of your story
even of like who you are and that can bereally hard to process so finding little
ways to create some closure in a sensesometimes there won't always be closure
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for things but I think just to help settleyour nervous system because it can be
very taxing and like emotional and justcreating ways to have something to look
back at right and remember that chapter ofyour life I think can be really beautiful.
So those are some things that we did.
Maybe you'll get some inspiration ifyou're moving your family somewhere
or if you're going through a similarsituation, such as what I'm going through.
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So, yeah, that's what I wantedto share today with everybody.
I think that's really awesome that,it seems You and your sisters and your
family are very mindful about likethese, these big moments and these
specific moments and trying to capture,you know, capture that so that you
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still have something to connect with.
I know I'm personally notgreat at that kind of stuff.
I'm usually the person that likeforgets to like, take pictures.
When, you know, we're,Carrying a camera with us or a
microphone or all those things.
Like it's always in our pocket.
and I'm so bad at that.
So, I think that's very helpful to remindpeople of regardless of what the moment
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is you're, changing from or transitioningfrom, If the moment you're you're
stepping away from was a very powerfulor beautiful thing that you still want to
be connected with or reminded of, there'sso many little things that you can do.
I mean, some of the things you said,I would have never thought to record.
the footsteps or the sounds, like thesounds from the childhood house, you
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know, my, my family doesn't live in thechild, the house I grew up in anymore.
And I would have never thought to do that.
Or, you know, the, when my grandparentshave passed, I lost, one of them.
Within the last, Oh, within the lasteight, seven, seven or eight years ish.
but the other ones I've lost a longtime ago before we even had cell phones.
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so, you know, that kind of stuff justwasn't as readily available to think
about, but yeah, to be able to have,pictures of inside that space, the
way we have pictures now and, to beable to have recorded some of those
things, you know, this would havebeen, this would have been neat to.
neat to go back on because now it'sjust kind of stuck in my memory
and As memory goes on over timeand as time goes on, some of those,
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things can become a little foggy.
some of your memories can begin toblend together as they're filed away.
So I think that's, I think that's reallycool that you guys are doing that.
And I think that's kind of beautiful howyou have all been supporting each other
on this, Process of grief and this processof transition and, trying to figure out
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as a, as a whole, what the new normal is.
And I think that's, you know,it's from what you've shared.
It's really beautiful that, yourfamily all seems to be really
supporting each other in that way.
Yeah, it has been interestingin that way, for sure.
And I know like my family, like myimmediate family were, especially with
my sisters were very connected in thatstuff, but connecting with like my
cousins and things like that and all,sharing that together, I think, brought
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us closer in a lot of ways, which isnice and I hope that it continues.
But it's now like navigating anew normal, like you said, because
that is our anchor point, right?
For holidays and getting together, it'slike, well, where does that go now?
And I mean, there's some peoplein my family setting that, I
don't necessarily want to continueconnection with, and I know they
don't want to continue with me either.
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Like it's mutual, but you know, tryingto like figure out how to navigate
that is definitely something new.
And as we kind of go through the seasons,like Christmas was a huge thing for my,
my Guido, like just totally decoratehis house inside and out kind of thing.
And it was such a thing.
And he actually kept up all hisdecorations, um, even until he
passed away because at that point.
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He knew where he was goingand that was his comfort zone.
And he knew that there wasn't goingto be, you know, another Christmas.
So that will definitely be somethingto navigate, we have all these
little tools that we can use now.
And I think it's.
It's important not to create likego crazy with it like I feel like
sometimes we're so crazy about allthe pictures we take in some ways.
but at the same time, these tools can begreat too because even the live recording
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like the live videos or pictures.
Oh, I didn't know how much I would bein love with those now because like, Now
when I look back at a lot of the picturesthat I have of my grandfather, my sisters,
my mom took them on a live setting so Ican hear his laugh or the thing he would
do before he would like roll his tongueand say, I can't, I can't roll my R's.
So, but it was like surge or whatever.
And then he would like smileand I can hear that now.
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So it's like those little tinymoments that we don't realize can
be really, a value later on in life.
And so, yeah.
And you know what you saidabout the memories too, it's
like our memories get foggy.
It's because like when we thinkof a memory where it's now
like a memory of a memory, likeit's like a copy kind of thing.
Like, yeah, right.
Which is kind of crazy to thinkabout because we're reflecting on
it and then remembering that andusing it to remember the next time.
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So it does get foggy.
And so it's nice to havelittle things like that.
And I think, for people to who,are experiencing terminal illness.
Like some of these ideasmight be beneficial to them.
Or if you have a family member, hopefullyyou can support them and help them to
feel, I don't know if everybody willfeel ready to leave, but maybe to
feel more content knowing that there'ssomething that they can give to their
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family or memories that they can sharewith them, when they pass kind of thing.
So I think there can be alot of value in that too.
And then you can kind of create.
You know, legacy projects, so things thatwill last generations that can be passed
on to family in a beautiful way like that.
Yeah, it's gonna be interestingbecause you've, you've discussed
legacy projects for quite a while now.
I know.
I feel like I'm kind of doing my own.
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Right.
Well, and now that you're kind of, youare navigating that and you're kind of
creating that, and you're, and you'rewalking that path, It will be kind of
cool to see, you know, that's somethingyou've always wanted to venture into
professionally, or at least offer thatto people or at least inspire people.
So now that you have some likereally awesome, ideas and, you
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have a really personal connectionto how important that is.
I think that's going to be a very powerfulthing for you when you go to share this
with, with other people and help them.
Journey through that as well.
So thank you for sharing all of that.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Yes.
Well, I did pull some cards today.
I, awesome.
So we're gonna, we're gonna godown that road a little bit.
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It's kind of funny because,what was coming up.
Definitely felt, like I very muchunderstood this, I think, spirit
sometimes, will use our experiences tohelp inspire and help bring through,
messaging because most likely you'renot the only one going through it
and it's usually a collective thing.
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So, Right now I'm with the cards arebringing through and what I'm being
inspired to share is this reminder ofeven if this moment right now doesn't
feel extremely peaceful for you.
I feel there is a reminder of, Going backto remembering something or going back
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to the thing that does bring you peaceand that maybe Uh, we are at a place
now that we've learned to default Backto that to help us navigate further.
So maybe that is I need to connectto nature more maybe that is I need
to, create these things like legacyprojects, or I need to take this time to
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connect with family and, and build that.
These things help bring us peace.
They help bring us flow.
They help us navigatethrough difficult arenas.
And we also have learned ways inwhich we've protected ourselves.
So this is all kind of going tothis feeling of a lot of learning
(42:26):
that we're going through right now.
And these protections that we put up forourselves, these, these defenses, maybe
we put up when things do get tricky.
Maybe that's naturally our firstresponse when things get a little
touchy or things get a little difficult.
But it's this kind of reminder,like, those safeguards have been
put into place because of all thethings you've experienced, right?
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a lot of times it's more difficultthings we've experienced that then
teach us how to protect ourselveswhen difficult things come up.
So, this message is about like, don'talso forget to lean into the things
that bring peace and happiness as well,because those can also be very supportive
during a transition period, just asmuch as your protective, pieces as well.
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But what it feels like is kind ofthe lesson, kind of what's this.
Thing that we're experiencingis this deeper learning.
So like whatever's being kind oftriggered, whatever's maybe making
you need, have that need to lean intopeace, is this awareness of Deeper
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things that need healed within.
So like maybe you're navigating throughsomething and feeling like, I feel
like I've already learned this lesson.
I feel like I've already healed from this.
Why is something aroundthis still triggering me?
Oh, it's because there's somethingeven deeper now that needs healed and
something even deeper to be worked on.
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And I think now that atleast, I'll speakfor myself now in a place where, I'm
aware of what my protective guards are.
I know the shields that I put upand I know where they come from.
I also know what brings me peaceand happiness and serenity.
And I know how to kindof lean into that energy.
And I think having the balance of thosetwo, Help us facilitate deeper healing
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so that we can finally go into thesedeeper underlining, the brass tacks that
are at the bottom of the barrel, thatwe need to work on so that we can really
step through our full transition andreally move into a full space of growth.
I share a lot, there's a lot oftalk in the spiritual world about,
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Cutting away the past that'shappened to you and not letting those
energetic cords hold on to anymore.
And I I'm very much a loud speaker of,you can't just erase what's happened.
It's part of your story.
It's part of your journey.
It's learning how to Hold on to itdifferent so you can carry it easier
with you so that it's not a burden.
It's just it's easier to carry.
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And I think doing that is thendigging into some of these deeper
narratives, these deeper stories,these deeper experiences, and
that's not always going to be this.
This huge event thathappened in your past.
That's not always going to be thislike major thing you've been through.
Sometimes it's just the remnantsof what you've experienced or it's
something that was minor that happenedthat you didn't even realize was
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affecting you the way that it has.
Because this, this last cardI have here, it's a lot about
what you didn't even realize.
Was bothering you what you didn't evensee was a problem, which you didn't
even know you needed to heal whatyou didn't mean weren't aware that
you needed to grow from this thing.
And that's a difficult time to walkthrough, but it's also a really
beautiful and a really healing anda really progressive place to be in.
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So, if this message is resonating withyou, this is a cheerleading message.
This is a, like, you're not alone.
You've got this.
This is, this is a great, Point of yourjourney where you really are preparing
yourself for bigger changes and biggersteps ahead and a lot more healing.
So I hope that Some of you it makes sensefor I know what as I looked at these cards
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and I kind of felt into them And then II don't always look at the books That go
along with the deck, but this one it's thedeck is called Woodland Wardens and it's a
deck that has animals like woodland natureanimals and then plants along with them.
Yeah, that one's a pretty one.
I love that one.
It's cool.
And it's a newer deck for me.
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So I did go through the book andI was kind of looking at the book
and seeing, what the inspiredmessages were through there.
And as I was comparing that with whatI was feeling, I'm like, wow, this kind
of, this is a lot for me personally.
so that's just kind of a validationthat it probably is going to hit
home for a lot of you as well.
Yeah, I think so too.
And check out this segue.
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So this deck is by Jessica Rue, who isbased in Nashville, Tennessee, which
is very interesting and synchronisticbecause speaking of Nashville, Tennessee,
for any of our listeners, That happenedto live in or near the Nashville area.
I will actually be there midOctober, October 16th and 17th.
(47:08):
And I will be hosting two in personclasses, to help build your intuition
and deepen your spiritual experience.
So one class is going to be anintro to reading Oracle cards.
And then the other class isgoing to be a foundation's very
(47:28):
introduction to mediumship.
So both of those classes willbe hosted at Mana Salon, which
is in Nashville, Tennessee.
So keep an eye out, follow, my Instagram.
Once more information and dates andwhere you can purchase tickets for that.
that will be shared on my Instagramstory here coming up very soon.
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I'm very excited.
I do a lot of teachingand stuff virtually.
So this is like one of myfirst in person classes.
I'm so excited.
It's just the energy of being, in front ofpeople is just, it's, it's really magical.
So, if you're in or around theNashville area, come check us out.
It's going to be a reallyfun couple, couple of days.
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Yeah.
That sounds awesome.
Makes me want to jumpon a plane and join you.
I'll be in your class.
It's one of my favorites.
It's such a fun, fun place to be.
It's known for its country music, whichI am not a fan of country music, but, two
of my like closest friends, live there.
So, and one has lived therefor almost like 14 years.
So I've been going there quite a lot.
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my favorite part of Nashville is the food.
The food seen there is unbelievable.
There's like no place you can gowhere the food's going to be bad.
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what it is.
So, if you are, or if you can't make itand you are going to visit Nashville,
do your research on the restaurants.
Cause there are just endless amountsof amazing places to eat there.
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That sounds good.
I mean, I have to go there one day.
That's like on my list ofplaces to visit for sure.
Cause it seems like ithas a very unique energy.
Just to the whole area there.
So yeah, that's awesome.
That's exciting.
So yeah, so you guys can check that out.
Um, there'll be links at the bottomof show notes and you can, yeah,
hopefully connect with Peyton there.
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That'd be really cool.
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All right.
Welcome back everyone to another episodeof Souly both Shayla and I are here and
excited to connect with all of you again.
How are you doing Shayla?
I'm doing really good.
Like I was telling you before we got onthe call, it's been like Crazy two weeks.
(00:49):
It's been a lot of good stuff andit's been a lot of emotional stuff
And I think probably a lot of peopleat the beginning of September.
It's a lot So I had birthdays formy kids date like back to back.
So one on the 10th and 11th I startedschool which I talked about in the
last episode It's going really good.
It's actually And so funbecause the way that this person
(01:12):
teaches is very out of the box.
Like there's the inbox thinking, right?
Like the typical things you need to know.
And then there's also likethe out of the box thinking.
So day two, he's teachingus how to read auras.
So I was like, I'm in the right place.
Yeah.
A hundred percent.
Yeah.
So that was fun.
yeah,
were some of those teachings, becausethat's something you've always.
(01:32):
Um, and it's kind of naturally.
So, where's their waysthat he taught that, that.
we're similar to what you had experiencedor something that, made you think
about things in a different way.
I would say it was very similarto what I initially learned.
I think I was mostly just excited thatsomeone was even like talking about that.
(01:54):
And I know like, as the classes godeeper and we start to do more like
hands on stuff, it's going to beeven more in depth kind of thing,
but yeah, I've done like DougallFraser's, color certificate and I've
done my own work with different things.
So it is one of those subjects youcould really like deeply go into.
And I guess where.
Each year we have like a special projectthat we have to do kind of training around
(02:18):
like the industry massage or things thatcould be useful to like implementing it
or new thoughts towards it kind of thing.
So one of the things I want to do forthat is actually bring in the Claire's
and aura readings or like just for energyconnection into that and explain more
because when he's talking, I'm like,this is the language of spirit, like, and
(02:38):
that's what you know, everyone has energy.
A different way to explain it.
Sometimes it's very religious,but it's like, oh, you're
talking to God or hearing God.
And it's like, well, that spirit.
Right.
And then even when he's talking andlike, oh, that spirit, they just, you
know, I think what's been so greatabout the way we've learned things.
And there's so much, so many differentways, but just the language of
spirit where you're like, okay,here are the Claire's and you can
(03:00):
divide them and understand like whereyou're getting those pings of like.
Feelings or hearing things or seeingthings from and just develop it more.
So yeah, I'm excited to hopefully do aproject on that and kind of implement it
into that kind of give the class a morelike understanding of that kind of thing.
And like, hopefully kind of run people'sviewpoint on that or just to discover
(03:21):
it right kind of thing so but it'sreally exciting because there is so
much out of the box thinking that it'sjust neat to see somebody implementing
that into massage because like I saidbefore it's like our bodies they hold
so much trauma and stress and happiness.
And like, there's all these differentthings that are in the body and our
stories, like our life stories, I feellike, our body's really taken all of that.
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And sometimes we're like,well, why am I feeling that?
So, it'll be interesting tocontinue to see how it goes, but
I definitely feel like I'm inthe right place, which is nice.
Yeah, for sure.
That's interesting.
You brought up about, the languageof spirit also known as the Claire's.
and that how many people and differentfaiths and different paths, talk about
that, but don't use that vocabulary, theway that we do in the spiritual space.
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I have a client that I.
Cherish that's a hair client.
And, she is leans morein the religious side.
I lean more in the spiritual sideand we'd love to just have very,
we understand where each otheris in their, in their world.
And we like to compare and contrast.
and that came up, a few times withsome other people too, that I've been
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around that they're talking aboutthings that I would call clear audience.
Oh, you heard it.
You heard this voice.
You heard this, that you, youinternally heard something that
gave you a knowing, you know,that you're clear cognizant, sir.
you know, these visions are things.
So it is a bit fascinating howthat is talked about amongst people
of all different, walks of faith.
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But, you know, with the kind of workwe do, we really dig in on how to
develop those and, and use those tobetter translate what is coming through.
and that kind of can take me down and wecan go, we can get on this topic another
day, but it just takes me down this,road that is something that's been very
prevalent in my awareness lately is.
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When it comes to all faiths that haveever existed, not just the big main ones
that we're all familiar with today, butman has had some sort of understanding
of God since the dawn of time.
what has been left, for us to knowwhat has been left to understand that
connection, what has been left tous, whether in scrolls or books or
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however, it's been, has been someone'sinterpretation of what they were
experiencing, you know, and, sometimesthat interpretation has evolved over
time as we've gotten to understand thingsand, and all of that, but sometimes
those interpretations, uh, end upbeing very effective for a very long
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period of time to where many culturesand many ways that it can even end up
seeping into the legal world of how, youknow, people are governed and whatnot.
So, You know, and as a medium, assomeone that interprets what it is I'm
being given and being shown, I'm at apoint now that I've, you know, I think
this is a door everyone has to walkthrough where, you have to hit some
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point where you are without any doubtthat you are seeing something, you
might not be interpreting it correctly,but you were being shown something.
And this is not just in your mind.
Yeah.
You know, that's some of mystudents that I'm working with.
That's kind of a point we're at now.
It's like we gotta get to thatpoint where we build that confidence
to know that what you're beingshown is you are seeing something.
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Mm-Hmm.
You might be misinterpreting ita little bit, but, the, you know,
you've learned how to navigate that.
Yeah.
So, and that's, that's.
Part of this path that will be, youknow, I, as I walk this path, I know
that that's always going to be a partof it, that I'm aware that I'm just
trying to interpret it to the best of myability and, you know, take everything I
say with a little bit of grain of salt,you know, um, if it makes sense, great.
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So it's just interesting when you look.
To these, there's so many people inhistory that we've given so much faith in
that what they interpreted was exactly theway that they shared it or that it got, it
continued to be shared or recorded even.
I mean, things weren't evenrecorded until later in history,
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it was all just word of mouth.
Right.
Which we know how that can go.
Exactly.
The game of telephone.
So that's not to like.
You know, just throwdoubt over everything.
It's just like, I think that's aninteresting way to help you grow in your
own faith, your own journey is to justbe aware of that and think about that and
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let that curiosity then be the breadcrumbsthat maybe lead you to a deeper connection
to whatever it is that you're calledto or whatever it is, is your faith.
to just question things a little bit.
So I know that was a totally differentdirection than we thought we were
going, but, that is something that,has really been in my awareness.
And I think, I think that's, I don't know.
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I just think that that's a reallyimportant reminder or a topic for those
of us that, you know, I think thoseof us that identify as spiritual, we
really like the idea of being opento, All possibilities and all avenues.
And I'm curious about that possiblychanging and evolving as we go.
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And I just, I don't know, I think that'simportant, especially as crazy as I mean,
life in the world is always crazy, soit's nothing new, but it's definitely
right now, uh, it's a fun journey.
No, and Kind of rewinding a little backto what you said too, there's things
that, we've been set to do or thinkor the way we think are supposed to
go based off of what you're saying.
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And I think it can take alot of trust in ourselves.
Like for example, when we'rediving into doing mediumship or
readings or things like that.
It takes a lot of trust in ourselves tohave the courage to say what we're seeing
or thinking or feeling when it comesto Claire's when it comes to anything,
but when it comes to focusing more onthe Claire's, I would say like that can
feel really uncomfortable because we'vebeen taught to not trust ourselves.
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I feel in society.
It's like we give, we allow otherpeople's voices to determine, you
know, You know, how we live our ownthought process and stuff like that.
So that's definitely, you know,when you go into the spiritual realm
and I mean, it doesn't have to bemediumship, it could be other things too.
Right.
But it's really, that's like where theinner work comes or learning to trust
ourselves and to question ourselvesand our belief systems and all of that.
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And it's just like, It'sa rabbit hole, right?
Like, it can really go, godown quite a bit, but it is,
and I think so many of us andthere's obviously many different
players involved that can cause this.
But so many of us have this ideathat we're not worthy enough of it.
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You know, whether it's we have a colorfulpast that does not align with, you know,
what we were supposed to do or followor, who we are doesn't align with what
is said to be right or wrong or whatever.
The many reasons, or we just had atraumatic, had some trauma growing up and
experiences that led us to feel unworthy.
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But I, I think we allhave to navigate that.
And I think you can apply that tomore arenas than just trying to
hear, you know, the guidance from thespirit world or, I don't know if that
just applies in the spiritual case.
I think I can, I think this goes for alot of things, but, when you get to a
point that you finally realize that, youknow, we are all equal and we are all
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worthy of it, You'll be amazed what cancome through and what kind of information
you'll start to connect with and thatfeeling you'll start to connect with and
how incredibly healing that can be for youto heal those kinds of self worth issues.
Yeah, absolutely.
Okay.
I don't want to forget.
spooky season.
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So, and I'm on us.
Yes.
So I think it was ourlast episode where we.
We're talking about submissionfor stories for spooky stories.
So we have a Google voice accountwhere you can go and leave a message
and tell us your spooky story.
it can be anything like UFOs,spiritual experiences that are more
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like on the line of a little bit.
weird or creepy just because we'rekeeping it in theme with Halloween.
And then also if you want to, iflike the Google voicing is not
something you want to do, you canalso submit through email as well.
You can send us a voice memo orif you want to even just email us
your story, we can read it as well.
we would love to hear your voice,but I understand that's not always
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in the comfort zone for everybody.
So we're open to othersubmissions as well.
And yeah, we want to hear yourstories because you know, Halloween
is coming up soon It's fascinatingto hear other people's experiences
to like, I have been listening forprobably a year now to spooky stories.
One of my favorites is spooked, whichI've mentioned before, just because
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I love the way it's put togetherwith music and all that stuff.
But it's so interesting to hear otherpeople's perspectives and stories and
be like, okay, like, What could that be?
Like, that's like one of the thingsthat helps me to question the world.
It's those kind of like weird experienceswhere you're like, well, I can't quite
figure out what that is, or I won'tever necessarily know for certain what
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it is, but it really opens the mind.
And for me, listening to scarystories and spooky things like
that, or paranormal stuff.
I feel like it's really opened my beliefsystem to different things, even over the
last couple of years where I was like, Oh,I think this is how it is supposed to be.
But hearing other people'sstories, I'm like, you know what?
Maybe I'm wrong.
Like maybe there is somethingdifferent that I, you know, I
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don't know about kind of thing.
So.
Yeah.
Exploring the fear.
Yes.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
And if you cannot figure out how tosend us a voice memo or anything, just
reach out to either Shayla or I, andwe will figure out a way to get, your
voice on our show to share your story.
So, there's many different, ways,
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All right.
Okay.
And then another thing I wanted tomention, just as like a side life
story, and it also pertains to spiritualstuff too, I have been off caffeine
mostly for probably a month now.
Okay.
And some of the things I'veexperienced has been interesting.
So I was having a lot of anxietyand heart palpitations, hard time
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sleeping, just a hard time focusing.
And then I realized just kind of byaccident, cause I stopped drinking coffee
for like a week, but I was actuallystarting to sleep better and I was
starting to not have this much anxiety.
And that probably 90 percent of likemy sleep issues, cause I get like these
crazy palpitations and breathing thingswas because I was drinking caffeine and.
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Why I'm sharing this is because I'venoticed as I've gone through different
spiritual phases in life and likemeditation, different things like
that, I've noticed just in general, thelast five or six years that my body is
more sensitive to certain substances.
And like, whereas like sixyears ago I could drink like
five cups of coffee a day.
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I was like over the last five years, evenjust like one small cup of coffee a day.
And so I thought, you know what?
I'm fine.
Like, that's like just a little bitof caffeine, but I didn't realize how
sensitive my body had become to that.
And that it's like, you guys,it's a teacup essentially,
like it's a tiny bit of coffee.
And today as an example, somebody inmy house made regular coffee and I had
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probably like Three tablespoons of it.
If I were to put it into measurementand I'm like vibrating right now.
So I like, where do I get that coffee?
I know it's just regular coffee.
You just have to go off of it fora while, but that's something to
kind of like test out in your life.
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Cause I think sometimes we're so usedto having these little, like things
that we do, these comfort things orlittle advices that we kind of lean on.
And as we, Are just more of aware like Ithink when you're in the spiritual realm
and you're discovering things meditationyou start to become more aware of like
your energetic body, right and then it'salso goes into your physical body and it
all affects one another and so sometimesyou'd be surprised like the little things
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that you do every day are the things that.
Maybe impacting you emotionally,physically, like all that stuff
spiritually more than you realize.
And I think caffeinewas one of those things.
I love coffee.
So this has been very sad for me.
I switched to decaf, but that even stilltechnically has traces of caffeine in it.
So yeah, I just wanted to sharethat because I'm like, I'm sure
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other people are experiencing that.
And it happened so subtly that Ididn't really realize how much it was
affecting me and even alcohol too.
Like I've never really.
I've been somebody who drinks a lotjust because of, I just never felt
good in my body and also just certainthings growing up with my dad, I think
I mentioned in the past, so it's justsomething I've stayed away from, but
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I would still drink here and there.
But even now it's like one sipand I'm like, my face turns red.
I feel like instantly sleepy.
I'm like, wow, I'm a lightweight.
But like, I really feel like ithas a lot to do with just that
energetics and body awareness.
And yeah.
So if you're out there and you'redrinking tons of coffee, like
just experiment and see if like,there's a shift with that because.
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Like I said, like threetablespoons essentially.
And I'm like all weirdfeeling and jittery.
And then I accidentally had, a latte,which had like espresso in it that I asked
for decaf, but it definitely was not.
And that was insane.
I was like shaking and like,just like so full of anxiety.
So there's my life lesson.
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I'm just wanting toshare it with everybody.
And yeah, it's crazy howlittle things like that.
Yeah, no, I think that'sa great point to bring up.
I know I've shared on this show,like when I, started to want to
understand my spiritual gifts, um, ina way that I wanted to develop them.
Cause I, I wanted to use themto, you know, help others.
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I had to get off of everything.
I still had.
Caffeine.
I did back down quite a bit on that.
I didn't get rid of it completely,but I needed to get, you know, I
had to get alcohol out of my system.
I had to get everything out ofmy system so that I could figure
out how this stuff worked for mewithout like with a clean slate.
Right.
As years have gone on and time hasgone on and I've reintroduced certain
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things slowly and surely, it's thatsame thing you just spoke about.
Like I can't handle it the waythat I used to, it affects my
body the way it affects my dayslater, differently than it used to.
And I think, you will no doubt come incontact with people in the spiritual
world that say, you know, you need tonot do this, not do that, that, that,
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that you have to always live in thishigh vibration and blah, blah, blah, but.
You know, this is also life and we're hereto be human and having a human experience.
So, you know, that's not a, that'snot a real thing to live by.
But I think as you do become more intune with yourself and you do become
more aware of yourself, you do noticehow everything starts to affect you.
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So differently, I even talk about,I'm like, is it because I'm aware
of it now, or is it because I'm moresensitive now, but even like, so, okay.
Today when we're, recording,I wasn't paying attention,
but I woke up this morning.
I'm like, I have alittle more energy today.
There's like some, there'ssomething in the air today.
And then someone reminded me, Oh,tomorrow's a full moon and it's.
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It's an eclipse.
So it's a very powerful one.
Yeah.
So I'm like, Oh, that's right.
Oh, that must be why theenergy feels different today.
So I'm, and I noticed now kindof that I do feel a little more
sensitive around the astrology.
I think I've talked about that on.
So and again, is it like now because I'mpaying attention or is it because now I
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have a little more awareness around myenergetic body and I'm, and I'm, and I'm
just actually noticing, Or what is it?
And I've said it on the show before.
Someone said the price of sensitivityis sensitivity, you know, is,
you know, the more you develop,the more you're going to feel.
So that's interesting.
I need to back down on coffee.
I have a bit of an unhealthyrelationship with it as of current.
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And then soda, that's been my,like, once I did kind of move
alcohol off to the side, regularCoke is like my guilty pleasure.
That's what I want toorder at a restaurant.
That's like my little self helpmoment is like my fountain soda.
but I can, I've also can like relateto this and as I've shared, like
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I've had to, uh, step away frommy normal routine of exercise.
And, You know, I've had to navigate likehow to kind of keep myself in a healthy
alignment, not having that type ofhealthy, way of, grounding or re centering
my energy or channeling my energy.
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So, I'm glad you brought that up becauseI know I've had people share with
me, you know, they've had questionsabout, you know, is it okay to do this?
Is it okay to do this?
And I'm like, well, you, you haveto do what's, what's healthy and
what's, what's right for you.
And, you know, you, if, if somethingaffects you physically good, positive or,
or, or neutral, it's going to possiblyhave that same effect on any kind of
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spiritual work you're wanting to do.
You know, so you just needto be kind of aware of that.
Yeah, And even when you were talkingabout exercising, it's just like
everyone's so different, right?
And that goes with spiritual care as well.
So no, nobody's just like the same.
And I know for me, like wetalked about exercising.
I didn't mention this before.
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Like I was like, Oh, I'll do hot yoga.
I love it.
It'll be amazing.
And I actually fricking hate it.
I tried so hard to love it, but itwas just like, Oh, I feel like crap.
Right.
Like absolutely crap.
Whereas my sister, yeah, mysister's just like, I love it.
I feel so good.
I'm like, I have a headache.
I'm so fricking tired.
Like.
I can't do this.
Right.
So we all have to just find ourdifferent ways of doing things.
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And for some people, maybe coffeedoesn't really affect them.
You know, that's fine.
Or, right.
It's just like, it's so dependent onwho you are in your belief system.
And you just have toexperiment with it too.
Right.
Like, like you said, like you eliminatedall these things and kind of went back
and tried them to see how it felt for you.
So, yeah,
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I think it's a good reminder to that.
If you aren't like, I mean,let's just use anxiety or, stress
or those things as an example.
I think this could apply to anything.
If you're noticing an uptick in thosetypes of feelings or certain types
of feelings, Obviously, if, if thatmeans going, you know, you need to,
you need to find help and go to adoctor or whatever, obviously, yeah,
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but also look at the, the, the worldyou live and the things that you expose
yourself to the things you intake.
I don't think we realize how muchdehydration affects us, how much
caffeine affects us, how muchwhat's in our food affects us.
it is huge and it is hard.
It is also a giant mountainto climb to like try to.
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And as soon as you think you're doingsomething right, then something else
that you thought was okay, is now bad.
Yeah.
So it's, it's a never ending battleand you can only do so much, but
if you can find something simple,like, let me try decaf for a while.
Let me, let me take coffee off my platefor a minute and see, is that bringing
any kind of change into my circumstances?
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It's, you know, sometimes those littlesmall things can make big steps.
Yeah, they really can.
And let me tell you,I've been to all like.
These specialized doctor's appointmentstrying to figure out what's happening.
I'm like, Oh, I think it's like.
The caffeine.
So, right.
No, it's crazy.
Like you said,
these ads for mushroom coffeeand I'm just not there yet.
(22:58):
You know what?
I think the mushroom coffeethough has actual coffee in it.
Most of them, they justadd a little extra boost.
Yeah.
It's I think, and even likethey have mushroom cocoa and
cocoa has caffeine in it too.
So.
You can try a little bit of mushroom.
We'll do another episode on mushrooms.
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I actually know somebody in mycity here that would be really
great to talk about mushrooms.
I call him the mushroom man.
So I have to reach out to him.
Okay.
So another thing that we're goingto talk about today is I wanted to
share some of the things that myfamily did When saying goodbye to
my Gitos, my grandfather's house.
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So I've talked about this inprevious episodes with some
of the grief aspect of things.
And I wanted to share this becausewe ended up doing some things
that were actually really funthat I never thought I would do.
I might actually share themon our Souly stories because
some of them are pretty funny.
but I wanted to give these as even justlike suggestions or little seeds of
thought to create your own memories andyour own little legacy things and projects
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within your own situation or your homeor whatever thing you're going through.
So although this is going to pertainin my case to like letting go of my
grandfather's house, I think it couldbe used for other things too, especially
for those who are maybe saying goodbyeto their home and just moving, but even
that can be heart wrenching as well.
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So I know I've had moments likethat, just you and me moving.
So I wanted share some of these things.
And you know, some of these thingsyou may not want to do, but I'm
going to share them anyways.
So one of the things that we did waswe invited family over to the house.
So at this point.
I think there's only like a table leftand we, we still had a supper so we
just brought our own things and we hada pierogi dinner because we're Ukrainian
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and that's something that's special to us.
So, bringing in a specialmeal and sharing it together.
And then along the lines of that too.
For us, I have a lot of cousins,uh, most of them are younger, so
we kind of like two generations.
We have a group of five or sixof us, and then more kids came.
So some of my cousins are like 13, 14,15 years apart from me, and some of my
kids are even closer in age with them.
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So it's a young group, and so what wedid was we found some random things
in the house we never noticed before.
So one of them that made us laugh wasas an example, with this paper that was
put on all the kitchens, like, you know,the cupboards and stuff, and it was a
naked lady, and we had never noticed.
Oh my god, like lining the cabinets?
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Yeah, and it was like, like neverin all of these years, like, That
paper's been there since my momwas little, at least a teenager.
And we're like, who picked this out?
I think Ido.
No, it was my baba.
Really?
Funny, my grandma.
So that was freaking hilarious.
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And I don't know, it was kind oflike an abstract type of situation.
So I'm not sure.
She's so funny.
I saw it initially, but it was morelike an Adam Eve kind of thing.
So it was like Eve with anapple and she's, her boobies are
out, you know, that was funny.
But along the lines of that, we alsofound a laundry shoot that I think I
knew about it when I was younger, butit was one of those things where it was
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like, nobody touch it kind of things.
We forgot it was there.
And so we ended up doing thiswhole video parents on here.
I'll probably know what bathroomsis if you have like kids or, okay.
preteens or whatever.
So they're like these hauntedkind of creepy back rooms that
people make on like YouTube.
Sometimes they're real roomsand they just look creepy and
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it's like a whole backstory.
Kind of like creepy pasta, if anyone knowswhat that is, like creepy stories that
are kind of made up and stuff like that.
And so we're like, Oh, let'smake a back rooms video.
So it initially started withtwo of my sisters doing it.
And then they did this little cameratrick where it looks like she's
going into this laundry slide.
It's like tiny, it's like the size ofa So obviously she can't fit in it.
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And then she drops down into this basementbecause it goes out of the basement.
And then, so we're like,okay, let's make a backrooms.
And so we, all of us, there's like, Ithink at least 12 of us or something.
And so we each split up our rolesand then we have different things.
And so my sister went with the camera.
And so we made this like hauntedbackrooms horror, like four minute video.
And it's so fricking funny, especially,you know, when you know the people, but
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I think in general, it's pretty fun.
Quite well done.
So I'm going to have to sharethat on our Souly stories.
You can see it on there.
And so just doing something fun likethat creative because like when you
move out, your house is suddenly blank.
There's nothing there.
In this case, if you have like an olderhome, especially if it hasn't been
renovated in like 30, 60 years, thishouse has a very distinct aesthetic.
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There's shine carpet.
You know, red carpet.
We have this tiki bar in the basement.
It was just this room that is so creepy.
It's like a blue room.
Nobody likes to go in there ever.
It's super creepy, but it made a perfect.
place to be creative.
So doing something likethat was, it was really fun.
And now it's just like this memorythat we have of the house together.
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Right.
So just being creative and gettingtogether with the people you love, right.
Not necessarily the people you're notconnected with, because we did kind
of at that moment, there's certainpeople that are a little bit closer
and we kind of created that spacetogether, um, to have that last moment
kind of thing, and there's anotherbeautiful picture I'll have to show.
It's the front.
window.
So one of my uncles was outsideand we're all standing all
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this cousins by the window.
I took a picture and it's beautifulbecause the sunset is reflecting and
it's so beautiful and just I haveto share it because it's so cool.
So look for that on our stories as well.
so the next thing that we did was thatwe basically like we went outside.
And we looked around, my Gita was reallyinto gardening, so we took plants that we
wanted to to transplant them, we collectedseeds, little things like that, I talked
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about how last time we connected withthe tree, so we took little pieces of the
tree and the leaves and stuff like thatto press flowers and leaves and stuff like
that, so just going around your home andcollecting just little things that it.
You know, you're so used to always beingaround, but won't necessarily be there
and just doing little things like that.
So we're probably making littlebookmarks, and just little things
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like that with those flowers.
And yeah, then it's a neat way,especially with the seeds to kind
of carry on that energy of thatplace and plant them next year.
So, we did that, we took little trinketsaround from the house, the little
chandeliers, we just took a little pieceof it, most likely in this situation,
depends on your situation, but I havea feeling this house is going to be
totally either knocked down or fullyrenovated, so we just took little
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pieces, we had these like, beads fromlike the tiki room that kind of opened
the door and they're like these uglychunky beads and we took some of those.
and yeah, even little pieces of thecarpet, like silly things like that, but
you know, that are just special littletrinkets around the house kind of thing.
And then another thing that we did wasThere is this thing that we saw, many of
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you probably seen it on Instagram, wherepeople will take their grandparents home
or their old home that they're leavingand take pictures from the past in that
house, like events and stuff like that.
And then when the room is empty,they move the picture away.
So they put the picture in frontand then show what the house is now.
So we did that and oh my gosh, that wasa project but probably like the behind
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the scenes was the funniest because Ihave like my sister holding the camera.
I have my arms over her so I'mtrying to balance the camera and then
we're trying to get the lighting.
One person has a flashlight over thepicture and that probably took about
two and a half hours or maybe evenmore but I really feel like it's
something once it's put together, itwill be a really beautiful remembrance
of the house and what it gave to usand all of that and the memories.
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Another thing that we did was pray forthe house and not from like necessarily
a religious standpoint, just from like amore, an offering of love kind of thing.
So we.
We thanked the house, we thankedmy grandparents, we walked around
the house and we touched the wallsand just had a moment and just
remember the different things thatwe had there and just talk about it.
(30:57):
And then we sung Nohayalita, whichis a Ukrainian song, and I loosely
translated it means many happy years.
So, it As a thanks for my grandparents,but also just a blessing for the home
and the land for those who come next andtake over, you know, so it was beautiful.
So we just went around and we sang thesong quite a few times around the house.
(31:20):
And that song is such a special meaningfor us because we sang it at birthdays.
We've sung it to my Guito when he wasin the hospital when he passed away.
so having that connection,I just think there's so much
power in like song in general.
Like if there's a song thatconnects to you either just in
general that you feel good about.
Yeah.
or is like traditional to you.
I think that's a beautiful wayto implement it and use it as a
(31:41):
prayer as well, like that, youknow, the song kind of thing.
and then my son, he's so funny.
He loves Minecraft.
so he had his Nintendo hetook with us on the last day.
And he created a whole world where,like, he made the house, so he
did a replica as much as we could.
And he did it, like, in four hours.
(32:02):
I was so impressed.
So that was just, like, such arandom thing that I didn't expect.
But I was like, oh, that's so cool.
If you have a kid who loves thatstuff, like, Building and things
like that and is into Minecraft.
That might also be, I feel likefor him, it was therapeutic.
just to like let go andkind of express in that way.
I mentioned this on one of the otherones, I think, but I recorded sounds
(32:23):
of the house, so my favorite is walkingacross the creaky kitchen floor.
It makes this like snapping sound andall of like just the cupboards and the
faucets and the doors and what it soundslike when the doorbell rings and people
are knocking those little things that.
I feel like are so ingrained in mymemory in a way, but at the same time
can be so easy to let go of instantly.
(32:46):
Cause sometimes it's harderfor us to keep that in.
I think that's just in general,like, I think there's so much
value in recording voices.
so that's something I definitelyrecommend at this point.
We all have phones and we have,we should have a recording
function, easy to do that.
Even just recording your kid'svoice, you know, the kids.
They change stuff as they're like littlecute voices and are taking a moment to
(33:08):
just share a story that you have likethere's a lot of really cool story prompt
cards you can get on Amazon or your localbookstore, where they give you like story
prompts and little things to ask yourgrandparents or your siblings or your
family and I think those are awesomeso we'll have to leave a link for a few
of them because They're just super funand really connective, tools to use.
(33:31):
and then just basically like the lastday, when we went, it was just like me
and my family, cause everybody had alreadygiven their keys and all that stuff.
And so it was just a time to justgive thanks to the house and just
spend a moment there and justsay, thank you kind of thing.
Because when you have Someone in yourfamily who is like the matriarch or
the patriarch or whatever, like someonewho like brings everything in and
is that person who holds the groundfor your family, it can be really
(33:54):
hard to say goodbye to that becauseit's like this place that everyone
revolves around and connects to.
And I think for us, it was just, it's beenhard to let go of that because even for
me, like I said, I've moved so many timesin my life, but this place was consistent.
It was my place that I couldalways feel at home in.
And so I think it can be hardfor anybody to move in general.
So I think it's important to acknowledgethose feelings because I think we're
(34:18):
like, there's so many different typesof grief and I think sometimes we
push all the other things aside, but.
If you lose a job, or you lose yourhome, or you're moving, you're letting
go of certain aspects of Your dailyroutine yourself and part of your story
even of like who you are and that can bereally hard to process so finding little
ways to create some closure in a sensesometimes there won't always be closure
(34:42):
for things but I think just to help settleyour nervous system because it can be
very taxing and like emotional and justcreating ways to have something to look
back at right and remember that chapter ofyour life I think can be really beautiful.
So those are some things that we did.
Maybe you'll get some inspiration ifyou're moving your family somewhere
or if you're going through a similarsituation, such as what I'm going through.
(35:04):
So, yeah, that's what I wantedto share today with everybody.
I think that's really awesome that,it seems You and your sisters and your
family are very mindful about likethese, these big moments and these
specific moments and trying to capture,you know, capture that so that you
(35:24):
still have something to connect with.
I know I'm personally notgreat at that kind of stuff.
I'm usually the person that likeforgets to like, take pictures.
When, you know, we're,Carrying a camera with us or a
microphone or all those things.
Like it's always in our pocket.
and I'm so bad at that.
So, I think that's very helpful to remindpeople of regardless of what the moment
(35:47):
is you're, changing from or transitioningfrom, If the moment you're you're
stepping away from was a very powerfulor beautiful thing that you still want to
be connected with or reminded of, there'sso many little things that you can do.
I mean, some of the things you said,I would have never thought to record.
the footsteps or the sounds, like thesounds from the childhood house, you
(36:10):
know, my, my family doesn't live in thechild, the house I grew up in anymore.
And I would have never thought to do that.
Or, you know, the, when my grandparentshave passed, I lost, one of them.
Within the last, Oh, within the lasteight, seven, seven or eight years ish.
but the other ones I've lost a longtime ago before we even had cell phones.
(36:33):
so, you know, that kind of stuff justwasn't as readily available to think
about, but yeah, to be able to have,pictures of inside that space, the
way we have pictures now and, to beable to have recorded some of those
things, you know, this would havebeen, this would have been neat to.
neat to go back on because now it'sjust kind of stuck in my memory
and As memory goes on over timeand as time goes on, some of those,
(36:56):
things can become a little foggy.
some of your memories can begin toblend together as they're filed away.
So I think that's, I think that's reallycool that you guys are doing that.
And I think that's kind of beautiful howyou have all been supporting each other
on this, Process of grief and this processof transition and, trying to figure out
(37:18):
as a, as a whole, what the new normal is.
And I think that's, you know,it's from what you've shared.
It's really beautiful that, yourfamily all seems to be really
supporting each other in that way.
Yeah, it has been interestingin that way, for sure.
And I know like my family, like myimmediate family were, especially with
my sisters were very connected in thatstuff, but connecting with like my
cousins and things like that and all,sharing that together, I think, brought
(37:43):
us closer in a lot of ways, which isnice and I hope that it continues.
But it's now like navigating anew normal, like you said, because
that is our anchor point, right?
For holidays and getting together, it'slike, well, where does that go now?
And I mean, there's some peoplein my family setting that, I
don't necessarily want to continueconnection with, and I know they
don't want to continue with me either.
(38:03):
Like it's mutual, but you know, tryingto like figure out how to navigate
that is definitely something new.
And as we kind of go through the seasons,like Christmas was a huge thing for my,
my Guido, like just totally decoratehis house inside and out kind of thing.
And it was such a thing.
And he actually kept up all hisdecorations, um, even until he
passed away because at that point.
(38:25):
He knew where he was goingand that was his comfort zone.
And he knew that there wasn't goingto be, you know, another Christmas.
So that will definitely be somethingto navigate, we have all these
little tools that we can use now.
And I think it's.
It's important not to create likego crazy with it like I feel like
sometimes we're so crazy about allthe pictures we take in some ways.
but at the same time, these tools can begreat too because even the live recording
(38:50):
like the live videos or pictures.
Oh, I didn't know how much I would bein love with those now because like, Now
when I look back at a lot of the picturesthat I have of my grandfather, my sisters,
my mom took them on a live setting so Ican hear his laugh or the thing he would
do before he would like roll his tongueand say, I can't, I can't roll my R's.
So, but it was like surge or whatever.
And then he would like smileand I can hear that now.
(39:13):
So it's like those little tinymoments that we don't realize can
be really, a value later on in life.
And so, yeah.
And you know what you saidabout the memories too, it's
like our memories get foggy.
It's because like when we thinkof a memory where it's now
like a memory of a memory, likeit's like a copy kind of thing.
Like, yeah, right.
Which is kind of crazy to thinkabout because we're reflecting on
it and then remembering that andusing it to remember the next time.
(39:34):
So it does get foggy.
And so it's nice to havelittle things like that.
And I think, for people to who,are experiencing terminal illness.
Like some of these ideasmight be beneficial to them.
Or if you have a family member, hopefullyyou can support them and help them to
feel, I don't know if everybody willfeel ready to leave, but maybe to
feel more content knowing that there'ssomething that they can give to their
(39:55):
family or memories that they can sharewith them, when they pass kind of thing.
So I think there can be alot of value in that too.
And then you can kind of create.
You know, legacy projects, so things thatwill last generations that can be passed
on to family in a beautiful way like that.
Yeah, it's gonna be interestingbecause you've, you've discussed
legacy projects for quite a while now.
I know.
I feel like I'm kind of doing my own.
(40:17):
Right.
Well, and now that you're kind of, youare navigating that and you're kind of
creating that, and you're, and you'rewalking that path, It will be kind of
cool to see, you know, that's somethingyou've always wanted to venture into
professionally, or at least offer thatto people or at least inspire people.
So now that you have some likereally awesome, ideas and, you
(40:37):
have a really personal connectionto how important that is.
I think that's going to be a very powerfulthing for you when you go to share this
with, with other people and help them.
Journey through that as well.
So thank you for sharing all of that.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Yes.
Well, I did pull some cards today.
I, awesome.
So we're gonna, we're gonna godown that road a little bit.
(40:59):
It's kind of funny because,what was coming up.
Definitely felt, like I very muchunderstood this, I think, spirit
sometimes, will use our experiences tohelp inspire and help bring through,
messaging because most likely you'renot the only one going through it
and it's usually a collective thing.
(41:20):
So, Right now I'm with the cards arebringing through and what I'm being
inspired to share is this reminder ofeven if this moment right now doesn't
feel extremely peaceful for you.
I feel there is a reminder of, Going backto remembering something or going back
(41:41):
to the thing that does bring you peaceand that maybe Uh, we are at a place
now that we've learned to default Backto that to help us navigate further.
So maybe that is I need to connectto nature more maybe that is I need
to, create these things like legacyprojects, or I need to take this time to
(42:02):
connect with family and, and build that.
These things help bring us peace.
They help bring us flow.
They help us navigatethrough difficult arenas.
And we also have learned ways inwhich we've protected ourselves.
So this is all kind of going tothis feeling of a lot of learning
(42:26):
that we're going through right now.
And these protections that we put up forourselves, these, these defenses, maybe
we put up when things do get tricky.
Maybe that's naturally our firstresponse when things get a little
touchy or things get a little difficult.
But it's this kind of reminder,like, those safeguards have been
put into place because of all thethings you've experienced, right?
(42:48):
a lot of times it's more difficultthings we've experienced that then
teach us how to protect ourselveswhen difficult things come up.
So, this message is about like, don'talso forget to lean into the things
that bring peace and happiness as well,because those can also be very supportive
during a transition period, just asmuch as your protective, pieces as well.
(43:08):
But what it feels like is kind ofthe lesson, kind of what's this.
Thing that we're experiencingis this deeper learning.
So like whatever's being kind oftriggered, whatever's maybe making
you need, have that need to lean intopeace, is this awareness of Deeper
(43:28):
things that need healed within.
So like maybe you're navigating throughsomething and feeling like, I feel
like I've already learned this lesson.
I feel like I've already healed from this.
Why is something aroundthis still triggering me?
Oh, it's because there's somethingeven deeper now that needs healed and
something even deeper to be worked on.
(43:51):
And I think now that atleast, I'll speakfor myself now in a place where, I'm
aware of what my protective guards are.
I know the shields that I put upand I know where they come from.
I also know what brings me peaceand happiness and serenity.
And I know how to kindof lean into that energy.
And I think having the balance of thosetwo, Help us facilitate deeper healing
(44:14):
so that we can finally go into thesedeeper underlining, the brass tacks that
are at the bottom of the barrel, thatwe need to work on so that we can really
step through our full transition andreally move into a full space of growth.
I share a lot, there's a lot oftalk in the spiritual world about,
(44:35):
Cutting away the past that'shappened to you and not letting those
energetic cords hold on to anymore.
And I I'm very much a loud speaker of,you can't just erase what's happened.
It's part of your story.
It's part of your journey.
It's learning how to Hold on to itdifferent so you can carry it easier
with you so that it's not a burden.
It's just it's easier to carry.
(44:56):
And I think doing that is thendigging into some of these deeper
narratives, these deeper stories,these deeper experiences, and
that's not always going to be this.
This huge event thathappened in your past.
That's not always going to be thislike major thing you've been through.
Sometimes it's just the remnantsof what you've experienced or it's
something that was minor that happenedthat you didn't even realize was
(45:18):
affecting you the way that it has.
Because this, this last cardI have here, it's a lot about
what you didn't even realize.
Was bothering you what you didn't evensee was a problem, which you didn't
even know you needed to heal whatyou didn't mean weren't aware that
you needed to grow from this thing.
And that's a difficult time to walkthrough, but it's also a really
beautiful and a really healing anda really progressive place to be in.
(45:42):
So, if this message is resonating withyou, this is a cheerleading message.
This is a, like, you're not alone.
You've got this.
This is, this is a great, Point of yourjourney where you really are preparing
yourself for bigger changes and biggersteps ahead and a lot more healing.
So I hope that Some of you it makes sensefor I know what as I looked at these cards
(46:03):
and I kind of felt into them And then II don't always look at the books That go
along with the deck, but this one it's thedeck is called Woodland Wardens and it's a
deck that has animals like woodland natureanimals and then plants along with them.
Yeah, that one's a pretty one.
I love that one.
It's cool.
And it's a newer deck for me.
(46:23):
So I did go through the book andI was kind of looking at the book
and seeing, what the inspiredmessages were through there.
And as I was comparing that with whatI was feeling, I'm like, wow, this kind
of, this is a lot for me personally.
so that's just kind of a validationthat it probably is going to hit
home for a lot of you as well.
Yeah, I think so too.
And check out this segue.
(46:43):
So this deck is by Jessica Rue, who isbased in Nashville, Tennessee, which
is very interesting and synchronisticbecause speaking of Nashville, Tennessee,
for any of our listeners, That happenedto live in or near the Nashville area.
I will actually be there midOctober, October 16th and 17th.
(47:08):
And I will be hosting two in personclasses, to help build your intuition
and deepen your spiritual experience.
So one class is going to be anintro to reading Oracle cards.
And then the other class isgoing to be a foundation's very
(47:28):
introduction to mediumship.
So both of those classes willbe hosted at Mana Salon, which
is in Nashville, Tennessee.
So keep an eye out, follow, my Instagram.
Once more information and dates andwhere you can purchase tickets for that.
that will be shared on my Instagramstory here coming up very soon.
(47:49):
I'm very excited.
I do a lot of teachingand stuff virtually.
So this is like one of myfirst in person classes.
I'm so excited.
It's just the energy of being, in front ofpeople is just, it's, it's really magical.
So, if you're in or around theNashville area, come check us out.
It's going to be a reallyfun couple, couple of days.
(48:10):
Yeah.
That sounds awesome.
Makes me want to jumpon a plane and join you.
I'll be in your class.
It's one of my favorites.
It's such a fun, fun place to be.
It's known for its country music, whichI am not a fan of country music, but, two
of my like closest friends, live there.
So, and one has lived therefor almost like 14 years.
So I've been going there quite a lot.
(48:31):
my favorite part of Nashville is the food.
The food seen there is unbelievable.
There's like no place you can gowhere the food's going to be bad.
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what it is.
So, if you are, or if you can't make itand you are going to visit Nashville,
do your research on the restaurants.
Cause there are just endless amountsof amazing places to eat there.
(48:52):
That sounds good.
I mean, I have to go there one day.
That's like on my list ofplaces to visit for sure.
Cause it seems like ithas a very unique energy.
Just to the whole area there.
So yeah, that's awesome.
That's exciting.
So yeah, so you guys can check that out.
Um, there'll be links at the bottomof show notes and you can, yeah,
hopefully connect with Peyton there.
(49:12):
That'd be really cool.
All right, everyone.
Thank you so much for joiningus for yet another episode.
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