April 10, 2024 • 18 mins
In this profoundly touching episode, the speakers delve into the heart of what it means to live life to the fullest. Through sharing personal narratives about finding pleasure in the ordinary, cultivating a nurturing home, and valuing relationships, they unfold their unique conceptions of a fulfilled life.
The discussions journey through the twisted trails of tribulations such as divorce, bereavement, and heart-rending experiences, offering perspectives on how life's harsh lessons shape one’s viewpoint on living fully. The pivotal role of mental and emotional health is underscored, alongside treasuring the comforts of home and populating our surroundings with elements that bring joy.
The conversation focuses on the philosophy of thriving rather than just merely surviving. By highlighting their talks with vivid and inspiring anecdotes, precious moments of everyday life emerge - from the joy of refreshing blossoms to relishing a coffee on a backyard swing - all contributing to a life lived fully.
The narrative is punctuated with a heartwarming tale from Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, and the story of a friend's 'Year of Yes', inviting listeners to embrace new experiences by saying "yes" more frequently. The discussions celebrate the individuality in each of us, encouraging us to indulge our passions, wander into unknown territories, and capture sources of joy in daily life.
The speaker emphasizes the beauty of living in the present and advocates for steering clear of 'futurizing'. By sharing her experiences, she underscores the importance of undertaking necessary tasks, irrespective of them seeming dull, leading to a productive life. She also talks about maintaining a sense of calm, staying focused on present tasks, and finding contentment in the subtler aspects of life.
The narrative winds down with a discussion about the decision to trust the process. The speaker acknowledges the discomfort in embracing simplicity in life but puts forth an affirmative argument about not setting conditions on happiness. The episode concludes by reminding listeners to seize the day, capturing the essence of living in the present, and cherishing individual moments.
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Music.
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Okay, ladies, tonight, let's talk about what it means to live your life to the fullest.
Like, what does that mean to you? And are you doing it currently? And go.
And go. I think for me, that means like, like making sure that it's not,
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because to me, work is not, that work is something that we have to do to survive.
Now I happen to do my art as my work and so I enjoy it in immensely but work
is not like even though it's the thing we do on the daily it's not like obviously necessarily.
Why we're here so I just try to do something that I really enjoy every day or
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I make sure that I'm paying attention enough attention to my friends and my
loved ones like that that to me is the most important thing and I like to I
like to go places I'm kind of on a,
travel stop for a second but like i just
just to try to live as i i am a life lover i like
going so i try to do as much
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of that kind of thing as i can well on what you said i went to
a therapist one of the many therapists that we might take had
us pause and think and said your work
is what you do to earn a living but
when you walk in the door that's when
you create your life right so when you you
walk in your door to your home so i've always liked
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having a cozy house and been you know
very happy for years being martha stewart at
my house and balvila and doing things at my house and
i think you know when you i can see the balvila
i think if you can make your house your little nest And like your cozy spot
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and sort of your jumping off point where you can go to travel.
But when you come back home, you're completely relaxed and it's a reflection
of you and you're surrounded by the things that make you happy or happy.
That feeds you in a certain way. When I think of living my life,
you know, making my life complete and more to my taste, you know,
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I feel like I have to feed myself spiritually.
I'm a visual person. I have to have beautiful things to look at.
I picked out my house because it has a lot of light and space. Mine too.
Mine's very small. I have high ceilings so the light comes in and it's beautiful
in every room. And I have to be kind of surrounded by that.
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I like to have music. I like to have books. I have fresh flowers in my house.
I like to have those things that make me feel like me.
You know, we did the Back to Beth Burns thing in 2019.
And really, I had forgotten because you get busy making a living.
You forget, oh, I do like fresh flowers. And so I wouldn't pick them up.
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But, you know, I also would rather have flowers than run by Starbucks.
And so that's my trade-off i mean it's
all what you're willing to trade off to make your house and
and your life livable but what you just said like something as
simple living life to the fullest doesn't have to be extravagant no it could
be something as simple as enjoying a you know a walk in the park if that's you
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know what you or buying yourself flowers or i mean like the i i I think any kind of, like,
stagnation, is that a word? Yeah, stagnant.
That's what scares me the most, and that's when I feel like I'm not doing a
good job of carpe diem. You know what I mean?
But it's the little different things I choose that make me happy than getting out in my daily routine.
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Breaking up, I guess, the daily routine. I like to have my little twinkle lights in my backyard.
Yeah, just the little happiness, the little happies.
Sitting in my swing spending time in my swing having
coffee those little things that you
are kind of like add in yeah but they
are part of your life and kind of make you who you are and make you feel at
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home in your home those are the things that I like to you know and I didn't
do that earlier yeah you know I was so busy trying to please my husband and
be a good wife and And taking care of little children.
And, you know, I sat with my children in my swing and swang them.
And we did naps out there sometimes.
But, you know, it wasn't in my forethought as much as it is now.
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Like, how do I spend my day? Right. Is a big, big thing for me.
Well, I think for me, I'm in a place kind of of stagnation a little bit.
It's, you know, change brings that on. So being the, I don't know,
divorced person who also feels a bit like a widow and the relationship that I wanted...
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That did not work out, having to mourn that also, it's just kind of left me
in sort of a strange little place where things are just, they're just changing.
But with my work, my, my work being in education, helping people feeds me.
So the days I'm able to truly be on and be helpful and really get into my job and do parts of my,
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you know, parts of the back ends of my job, even if it's working with making
sure programs are working correctly or whatever it is I'm doing.
Those kinds of things feed me.
But I have found, you know, it's, I've met a place where I've just spent a whole
week at home and I had a really difficult time even being creative.
And because I realize I'm in that place, but I'm having to push out.
Like Beth and I went out Saturday and spent the day over in the town next to
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us, just trying to explore the town a little bit.
That's kind of helping me move out because I can see, I've kind of just sort
of sheltered myself in my home because I love my house, but I'm not,
but I'm finding that I'm in that place where I'm not living my life to the fullest.
So I feel like once again, I need to make a list of those things that would
help me feel like I was and whether I feel like it or not, start checking those things off my list.
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So kind of what, part of the reason I thought of this topic today is that I
watched this episode of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, which if you need to
get inspired to do anything, thing.
But they had this guy on there who had spent 40, his brother had had a terrible
car accident and he was paralyzed, like half of his body was paralyzed.
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And he had spent 40 years of his life caring for his brother.
And it had pretty much taken up his whole life. And he had essentially just
stopped doing anything for himself.
And they took him on this boat ride in this swamp because he's a reptile guy
just to see an alligator.
And he like cried about it because he was like, I love this.
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I haven't done this in so long. Like, this is me.
Like, so you just in the midst of any, especially in the midst of chaos or heartbreak
or mourning, which all of us have experienced all of that in the last few years, you got to remember.
To do those things that make you, you uniquely you.
And then I would say the other thing is I say yes, if it sounds like something I'm going to want to do.
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Like I very rarely say no to things if somebody asked me to do it. Now, not if it's work.
If it's work, extra work beyond what my job's asking me. I have started saying
no a lot more and it makes me very happy.
But like, if my friend called me and had extra concert tickets a couple of weeks
ago and he was like, do you want to go?
And I was like, I don't know this band, but yes. Like, just say yes to that
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thing, that fun thing, you know? I had a friend that after she went through
something and she had worked through it, she did what she called the year of
yes. and she tried all kinds of things.
Nothing crazy she didn't jump out of an airplane but you
know she did all kinds of things and she
would go with friends when they would call and ask her news she always said
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yes and she said she grew a lot that year and was just exposed to other things
that maybe were a little bit out of her comfort zone that she would not have
planned herself but because somebody invited her she went So I think that's important too,
to be open to other possibilities other than what you think you're good at.
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So I did go to Italy last summer. So it's not like I've been just sitting around not doing anything.
But to find ways to bring, you know, Italy brought me so much fabulous joy.
And I can't go to Italy every week. That's just not practical.
You didn't even tell your boyfriend. Yeah. I bring little pieces of, of like that joy.
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I felt like, what is my word for this year is explore.
So what are some little things that I can do to get out?
Like, uh, things have just changed so much. So before COVID there was just a
much, it was just a much different life.
I would, my head still had kids in high school.
So I was seeing different people. We would meet at,
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go out to dinner or meet out around here but
that's not happening anymore you know it's just different i
socialize at my house far more than i socialize
out right but it's just a matter of
finding i just need to like i just explained like i went to the pottery class
that was a lot of fun even though i've decided i know that i'm not great at
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pottery but you know little things but there's some other things there's so
much more i need to look at a friend of mine there's an edgar allen Allen Post
speakeasy in Birmingham.
And she's like, do you want to come Thursday night? And I'm like,
yes, but Thursday night at eight o'clock and then driving back from Birmingham.
But yes, I mean, you know what I mean? Like, it's kind of like,
but these are things I need to, you know, so I am not living my life to the
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fullest to answer that question.
But I do know that I need to, whether I want to or not, it's like,
I need to make this to-do list and whether I want to do it or not,
whether it feels like a chore or not, I just need to check it off and do it.
Because I'll feel better afterwards.
Because if I just wait till I feel like doing something, it's not always going to happen.
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My therapist would say that's called fake it till you make it. Yeah.
Exactly. I need to fake it. Not all the time, but someday. Yeah. It's just kind of like.
And I would say just like, you know, a lot of living life to the fullest for
me too is just being in the moment.
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Yeah. I love it when I don't know where my phone is. Like this afternoon,
I didn't know where my phone was for like three hours.
And I think it's something else I've had to really, really sort of rein back
is the way I got through a lot of the divorce stuff.
Stuff and even the relationship that
did not work out is futurizing planning that
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future oh yeah imagining what that future is like putting myself in that future
place well i don't i don't i don't know that my future looks a whole lot different
than it does right now so it's not to be depressing but we could all die right
so i've got to find ways to be more in the moment because future i I have nothing to escape anymore.
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My life is so good right now.
And to not have something to escape is weird. Sometimes being happy is scary.
Yes. And I got, I had this in this last week, I got heightened anxiety over
the week where my imagination ran wild with things that had nothing to do with
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my current, like, anything or anybody.
Like it just, I like imagine that these things are happening without my knowledge
and like, and it's not, that's not, that's not true.
You know what I mean? Like, so it's funny how when you're used to trauma or
being anxiety ridden, that when things are going well,
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it's hard to trust it. It's really hard to trust it.
We've talked about that before, but yeah, it's, you just gotta,
I'm getting so much better at sitting in it and just like, accepting the fact
that my life is really good, my life is really happy, and then making the most out of every day. Right.
Just what's the best day I can have. When I travel, the days that I travel,
I think I've talked about this,
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I kind of look up where I'm going and if there's something odd or weird
a cool place or a good eatery or something, I will make sure that I do a little
side trip because, I mean, if you just do work, work, work all the time,
and I could travel from point A to point B, write my report and be done with it.
But it brings me joy to do a little exploration.
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And, you know, sometimes I take a back road because, I mean,
who wants to be on the interstate all the time?
And just to see another little town or another little piece of Alabama or Mississippi
or Tennessee or whatever.
And, you know, it's not anything but like 15, 20 minutes, hour of my time.
It's not anything big, but I always learn my way around and eat some really good stuff.
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But I try to make a day trip out of it, like a game out of it,
instead of, oh, it's work and it's drudgery or whatever. And I like what I do.
But, you know, that third or fourth day of travel, I'm like,
oh, we got to find something fun on the way, on the way there, on the way back.
So, yeah, I think it's also just sort of tweaking your attitude about things.
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You know, I used to laugh because Martha Stewart used to put,
today I get to clean my house.
I'm like, oh, lady. Okay.
But it is. It's how you think about it. If you think, I am so happy that I have
my house and my porch and it's a peaceful house.
That yes I should be saying every day today I get to do this and I get to do
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that and I get to decide what we're having for dinner you know where I'm going or if I'm going for St.
Patrick's Day or if I'm you know what I'm cooking well and I think too and we
I think we talked a little bit about this but just you can have goals but the
less expectation you have like,
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I am so happy when I just walk into a random thing that happened.
You know what I mean? Like yesterday, we were like, oh, St. Paddy's is tomorrow.
There's a pub crawl downtown. Let's go grab a drink. And then it's,
oh, our friend is right there. We roll down the window and we're like,
get in the car. And she did.
And so we just like went, like, I love just. I like going with the flow. It makes me so happy.
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That sort of, I don't like planning. I'm not. But so the less expectation I
put on like, this is what we have to do.
I mean, I plan dinner. I plan. I do plan dinner because I do have a child and
he has to eat and he does have things to go to.
But beyond that, I try not to overschedule my free time so that it opens itself
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up to something interesting.
So basically not futurizing, going with the flow and finding a way to be in
the moment is a way to live your life to the fullest. Yeah, and not futurizing is huge.
Yeah, it is. The less you do that, especially in relationships or romantic relationships,
it's so much healthier if you just go, Today is a good day, you know?
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Everything is good today. It's a lot.
It's freeing, I guess, if that makes sense. Okay, ladies, what are y'all going
to do this week to live the life that you love?
I am having my staycation. So if you listen to our top 10 list,
I will be doing a lot of dope.
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So I'm still in my like purge everything. I don't want to own things mode because
I learned about myself that things make me unhappy.
I don't like them. I don't like stuff. Yeah, just trying to continue to get rid of stuff.
I just like making my spaces exactly what I want them to be at work and at home.
Again, getting ahead of myself. I said this in the top 10 episode if you listened.
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But that that's what I just need to kind of
like get solid and you know I'm gonna
take myself to lunch and walk around and do
all that kind of still stuff I need to be a little bit still this
week and I'm very excited about that so I'm gonna let myself sleep as
late as I want all of those things make me happy I'm listening
to I'm about to have auditions for Sweeney Todd in like three weeks for
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our summer show so I started listening and Sweeney's
my favorite favorite musical so i'm doing
a bit more research that i typically would do before a show on this one so i
started listening to the string of pearls which is the story that it's based
on so i'm listening to that oh that's fun yeah it's it's different i usually
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listen to non-fiction when i listen to things but.
Anyway, changing it up. Well, I have a busy week. So I'm going to try to float
and not be an obstacle in my own way.
I have a very busy week and we have book club this week. Yeah,
that's what I'm looking for is a book club.
I haven't finished the book. And I've got to finish the book.
And I have three big travel days.
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And I think I'm doing a college tour on one of them. Good.
With my daughter. So that'll be fun. And then the end of the week,
we're fulfilling the birthday wish. and we're going to see Hadestown.
So I think it's going to be... Such a good show. That's great.
That'll be fun. That will be fun for you. Well, good.
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Alright. I'm excited about Book Club. I am too. And have a brunch on Saturday morning. Oh, yeah.
And a date Friday night. So I guess we'll do it all the way around. Have fun.
Alright. Well, good. Thank you, ladies. Carpe diem.
Let's have a great one. Live in the moment. There you go. Thank y'all for joining
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us for Champagne Sunday.
See you next week, girls. Cheers. Have a good week. Cheers.
Music.
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Okay, ladies, tonight, let's talk about what it means to live your life to the fullest.
Like, what does that mean to you? And are you doing it currently? And go.
And go. I think for me, that means like, like making sure that it's not,
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because to me, work is not, that work is something that we have to do to survive.
Now I happen to do my art as my work and so I enjoy it in immensely but work
is not like even though it's the thing we do on the daily it's not like obviously necessarily.
Why we're here so I just try to do something that I really enjoy every day or
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I make sure that I'm paying attention enough attention to my friends and my
loved ones like that that to me is the most important thing and I like to I
like to go places I'm kind of on a,
travel stop for a second but like i just
just to try to live as i i am a life lover i like
going so i try to do as much
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of that kind of thing as i can well on what you said i went to
a therapist one of the many therapists that we might take had
us pause and think and said your work
is what you do to earn a living but
when you walk in the door that's when
you create your life right so when you you
walk in your door to your home so i've always liked
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having a cozy house and been you know
very happy for years being martha stewart at
my house and balvila and doing things at my house and
i think you know when you i can see the balvila
i think if you can make your house your little nest And like your cozy spot
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and sort of your jumping off point where you can go to travel.
But when you come back home, you're completely relaxed and it's a reflection
of you and you're surrounded by the things that make you happy or happy.
That feeds you in a certain way. When I think of living my life,
you know, making my life complete and more to my taste, you know,
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I feel like I have to feed myself spiritually.
I'm a visual person. I have to have beautiful things to look at.
I picked out my house because it has a lot of light and space. Mine too.
Mine's very small. I have high ceilings so the light comes in and it's beautiful
in every room. And I have to be kind of surrounded by that.
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I like to have music. I like to have books. I have fresh flowers in my house.
I like to have those things that make me feel like me.
You know, we did the Back to Beth Burns thing in 2019.
And really, I had forgotten because you get busy making a living.
You forget, oh, I do like fresh flowers. And so I wouldn't pick them up.
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But, you know, I also would rather have flowers than run by Starbucks.
And so that's my trade-off i mean it's
all what you're willing to trade off to make your house and
and your life livable but what you just said like something as
simple living life to the fullest doesn't have to be extravagant no it could
be something as simple as enjoying a you know a walk in the park if that's you
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know what you or buying yourself flowers or i mean like the i i I think any kind of, like,
stagnation, is that a word? Yeah, stagnant.
That's what scares me the most, and that's when I feel like I'm not doing a
good job of carpe diem. You know what I mean?
But it's the little different things I choose that make me happy than getting out in my daily routine.
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Breaking up, I guess, the daily routine. I like to have my little twinkle lights in my backyard.
Yeah, just the little happiness, the little happies.
Sitting in my swing spending time in my swing having
coffee those little things that you
are kind of like add in yeah but they
are part of your life and kind of make you who you are and make you feel at
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home in your home those are the things that I like to you know and I didn't
do that earlier yeah you know I was so busy trying to please my husband and
be a good wife and And taking care of little children.
And, you know, I sat with my children in my swing and swang them.
And we did naps out there sometimes.
But, you know, it wasn't in my forethought as much as it is now.
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Like, how do I spend my day? Right. Is a big, big thing for me.
Well, I think for me, I'm in a place kind of of stagnation a little bit.
It's, you know, change brings that on. So being the, I don't know,
divorced person who also feels a bit like a widow and the relationship that I wanted...
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That did not work out, having to mourn that also, it's just kind of left me
in sort of a strange little place where things are just, they're just changing.
But with my work, my, my work being in education, helping people feeds me.
So the days I'm able to truly be on and be helpful and really get into my job and do parts of my,
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you know, parts of the back ends of my job, even if it's working with making
sure programs are working correctly or whatever it is I'm doing.
Those kinds of things feed me.
But I have found, you know, it's, I've met a place where I've just spent a whole
week at home and I had a really difficult time even being creative.
And because I realize I'm in that place, but I'm having to push out.
Like Beth and I went out Saturday and spent the day over in the town next to
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us, just trying to explore the town a little bit.
That's kind of helping me move out because I can see, I've kind of just sort
of sheltered myself in my home because I love my house, but I'm not,
but I'm finding that I'm in that place where I'm not living my life to the fullest.
So I feel like once again, I need to make a list of those things that would
help me feel like I was and whether I feel like it or not, start checking those things off my list.
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So kind of what, part of the reason I thought of this topic today is that I
watched this episode of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, which if you need to
get inspired to do anything, thing.
But they had this guy on there who had spent 40, his brother had had a terrible
car accident and he was paralyzed, like half of his body was paralyzed.
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And he had spent 40 years of his life caring for his brother.
And it had pretty much taken up his whole life. And he had essentially just
stopped doing anything for himself.
And they took him on this boat ride in this swamp because he's a reptile guy
just to see an alligator.
And he like cried about it because he was like, I love this.
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I haven't done this in so long. Like, this is me.
Like, so you just in the midst of any, especially in the midst of chaos or heartbreak
or mourning, which all of us have experienced all of that in the last few years, you got to remember.
To do those things that make you, you uniquely you.
And then I would say the other thing is I say yes, if it sounds like something I'm going to want to do.
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Like I very rarely say no to things if somebody asked me to do it. Now, not if it's work.
If it's work, extra work beyond what my job's asking me. I have started saying
no a lot more and it makes me very happy.
But like, if my friend called me and had extra concert tickets a couple of weeks
ago and he was like, do you want to go?
And I was like, I don't know this band, but yes. Like, just say yes to that
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thing, that fun thing, you know? I had a friend that after she went through
something and she had worked through it, she did what she called the year of
yes. and she tried all kinds of things.
Nothing crazy she didn't jump out of an airplane but you
know she did all kinds of things and she
would go with friends when they would call and ask her news she always said
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yes and she said she grew a lot that year and was just exposed to other things
that maybe were a little bit out of her comfort zone that she would not have
planned herself but because somebody invited her she went So I think that's important too,
to be open to other possibilities other than what you think you're good at.
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So I did go to Italy last summer. So it's not like I've been just sitting around not doing anything.
But to find ways to bring, you know, Italy brought me so much fabulous joy.
And I can't go to Italy every week. That's just not practical.
You didn't even tell your boyfriend. Yeah. I bring little pieces of, of like that joy.
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I felt like, what is my word for this year is explore.
So what are some little things that I can do to get out?
Like, uh, things have just changed so much. So before COVID there was just a
much, it was just a much different life.
I would, my head still had kids in high school.
So I was seeing different people. We would meet at,
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go out to dinner or meet out around here but
that's not happening anymore you know it's just different i
socialize at my house far more than i socialize
out right but it's just a matter of
finding i just need to like i just explained like i went to the pottery class
that was a lot of fun even though i've decided i know that i'm not great at
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pottery but you know little things but there's some other things there's so
much more i need to look at a friend of mine there's an edgar allen Allen Post
speakeasy in Birmingham.
And she's like, do you want to come Thursday night? And I'm like,
yes, but Thursday night at eight o'clock and then driving back from Birmingham.
But yes, I mean, you know what I mean? Like, it's kind of like,
but these are things I need to, you know, so I am not living my life to the
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fullest to answer that question.
But I do know that I need to, whether I want to or not, it's like,
I need to make this to-do list and whether I want to do it or not,
whether it feels like a chore or not, I just need to check it off and do it.
Because I'll feel better afterwards.
Because if I just wait till I feel like doing something, it's not always going to happen.
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My therapist would say that's called fake it till you make it. Yeah.
Exactly. I need to fake it. Not all the time, but someday. Yeah. It's just kind of like.
And I would say just like, you know, a lot of living life to the fullest for
me too is just being in the moment.
(11:07):
Yeah. I love it when I don't know where my phone is. Like this afternoon,
I didn't know where my phone was for like three hours.
And I think it's something else I've had to really, really sort of rein back
is the way I got through a lot of the divorce stuff.
Stuff and even the relationship that
did not work out is futurizing planning that
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future oh yeah imagining what that future is like putting myself in that future
place well i don't i don't i don't know that my future looks a whole lot different
than it does right now so it's not to be depressing but we could all die right
so i've got to find ways to be more in the moment because future i I have nothing to escape anymore.
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My life is so good right now.
And to not have something to escape is weird. Sometimes being happy is scary.
Yes. And I got, I had this in this last week, I got heightened anxiety over
the week where my imagination ran wild with things that had nothing to do with
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my current, like, anything or anybody.
Like it just, I like imagine that these things are happening without my knowledge
and like, and it's not, that's not, that's not true.
You know what I mean? Like, so it's funny how when you're used to trauma or
being anxiety ridden, that when things are going well,
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it's hard to trust it. It's really hard to trust it.
We've talked about that before, but yeah, it's, you just gotta,
I'm getting so much better at sitting in it and just like, accepting the fact
that my life is really good, my life is really happy, and then making the most out of every day. Right.
Just what's the best day I can have. When I travel, the days that I travel,
I think I've talked about this,
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I kind of look up where I'm going and if there's something odd or weird
a cool place or a good eatery or something, I will make sure that I do a little
side trip because, I mean, if you just do work, work, work all the time,
and I could travel from point A to point B, write my report and be done with it.
But it brings me joy to do a little exploration.
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And, you know, sometimes I take a back road because, I mean,
who wants to be on the interstate all the time?
And just to see another little town or another little piece of Alabama or Mississippi
or Tennessee or whatever.
And, you know, it's not anything but like 15, 20 minutes, hour of my time.
It's not anything big, but I always learn my way around and eat some really good stuff.
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But I try to make a day trip out of it, like a game out of it,
instead of, oh, it's work and it's drudgery or whatever. And I like what I do.
But, you know, that third or fourth day of travel, I'm like,
oh, we got to find something fun on the way, on the way there, on the way back.
So, yeah, I think it's also just sort of tweaking your attitude about things.
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You know, I used to laugh because Martha Stewart used to put,
today I get to clean my house.
I'm like, oh, lady. Okay.
But it is. It's how you think about it. If you think, I am so happy that I have
my house and my porch and it's a peaceful house.
That yes I should be saying every day today I get to do this and I get to do
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that and I get to decide what we're having for dinner you know where I'm going or if I'm going for St.
Patrick's Day or if I'm you know what I'm cooking well and I think too and we
I think we talked a little bit about this but just you can have goals but the
less expectation you have like,
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I am so happy when I just walk into a random thing that happened.
You know what I mean? Like yesterday, we were like, oh, St. Paddy's is tomorrow.
There's a pub crawl downtown. Let's go grab a drink. And then it's,
oh, our friend is right there. We roll down the window and we're like,
get in the car. And she did.
And so we just like went, like, I love just. I like going with the flow. It makes me so happy.
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That sort of, I don't like planning. I'm not. But so the less expectation I
put on like, this is what we have to do.
I mean, I plan dinner. I plan. I do plan dinner because I do have a child and
he has to eat and he does have things to go to.
But beyond that, I try not to overschedule my free time so that it opens itself
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up to something interesting.
So basically not futurizing, going with the flow and finding a way to be in
the moment is a way to live your life to the fullest. Yeah, and not futurizing is huge.
Yeah, it is. The less you do that, especially in relationships or romantic relationships,
it's so much healthier if you just go, Today is a good day, you know?
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Everything is good today. It's a lot.
It's freeing, I guess, if that makes sense. Okay, ladies, what are y'all going
to do this week to live the life that you love?
I am having my staycation. So if you listen to our top 10 list,
I will be doing a lot of dope.
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So I'm still in my like purge everything. I don't want to own things mode because
I learned about myself that things make me unhappy.
I don't like them. I don't like stuff. Yeah, just trying to continue to get rid of stuff.
I just like making my spaces exactly what I want them to be at work and at home.
Again, getting ahead of myself. I said this in the top 10 episode if you listened.
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But that that's what I just need to kind of
like get solid and you know I'm gonna
take myself to lunch and walk around and do
all that kind of still stuff I need to be a little bit still this
week and I'm very excited about that so I'm gonna let myself sleep as
late as I want all of those things make me happy I'm listening
to I'm about to have auditions for Sweeney Todd in like three weeks for
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our summer show so I started listening and Sweeney's
my favorite favorite musical so i'm doing
a bit more research that i typically would do before a show on this one so i
started listening to the string of pearls which is the story that it's based
on so i'm listening to that oh that's fun yeah it's it's different i usually
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listen to non-fiction when i listen to things but.
Anyway, changing it up. Well, I have a busy week. So I'm going to try to float
and not be an obstacle in my own way.
I have a very busy week and we have book club this week. Yeah,
that's what I'm looking for is a book club.
I haven't finished the book. And I've got to finish the book.
And I have three big travel days.
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And I think I'm doing a college tour on one of them. Good.
With my daughter. So that'll be fun. And then the end of the week,
we're fulfilling the birthday wish. and we're going to see Hadestown.
So I think it's going to be... Such a good show. That's great.
That'll be fun. That will be fun for you. Well, good.
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Alright. I'm excited about Book Club. I am too. And have a brunch on Saturday morning. Oh, yeah.
And a date Friday night. So I guess we'll do it all the way around. Have fun.
Alright. Well, good. Thank you, ladies. Carpe diem.
Let's have a great one. Live in the moment. There you go. Thank y'all for joining
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us for Champagne Sunday.
See you next week, girls. Cheers. Have a good week. Cheers.
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