EP05: Are You Scared of Public Speaking?

The fear of public speaking is the number one fear people have. Second is the fear of death. In this episode of The Confrontationalist, Danielle Gibson tackles the daunting challenge of public speaking. Danielle dives deep into the roots of this fear, from childhood experiences to societal pressures. She unveils the hidden impact of shame, trauma, and perfectionism on our ability to speak in public. Listeners will discover the insidious nature of self-criticism and the constant loop of fear that plagues many individuals. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, Danielle sheds light on the physical and emotional toll of performance anxiety. She offers practical strategies, from deep breathing exercises to self-awareness techniques, to help conquer this fear.

 

Quotes:

• “Clients have told me that they experienced things like a racing heart, sweating, clammy hands, tight jaw. These types of physiological reactions indicate that they're responding as if their life is at stake. That's a big deal. It takes a huge toll on your body. And something that many people don't realize is that the fear doesn't only exist during the presentation. There is a before, during, and after.” (20:18 | Danielle Gibson) 
• “Overcoming your fear of public speaking often involves building confidence, desensitizing yourself to the fear through repeated exposure, and learning to manage the physical symptoms of anxiety. Professional help, like working with a coach or a therapist, can also be beneficial if nothing you've tried is working well enough.” (25:31 | Danielle Gibson) 
• “There are two things that people say to me often that I'm always surprised about because they say it as if it's a good thing, meaning good for them. And one of them is that they're a perfectionist and the other one is that they're a people pleaser. And now neither of them are good for you. They are coping mechanisms that you learn. And perfection is subjective anyway, but perfectionism can lead to chronic pain and shame because you set impossibly high standards for yourself and then you feel shame when they fall short. And they will fall short.”

 

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