"Sometimes, the thing you think you need to do is nothing," says Danielle Gibson, sharing invaluable insights for those struggling with confrontation and direct communication. She reflects on her early sales career, navigating the high-pressure environment of a trend forecasting firm led by a CEO quick to fire.
With a visit from the CEO approaching and receiving advice from colleagues to make a preemptive plea for her job, Danielle shares her moral and strategic dilemma and the unexpected lesson she learned on the virtues of patience, intuition, and seeking guidance.
This episode offers three pieces of advice for situations where they're unsure of what to do:
- Wait: Sometimes the best action is to do nothing and see how the situation unfolds.
- Trust Your Intuition: Learn to differentiate between a thought and an intuitive feeling. Trusting your intuition is essentially trusting yourself.
- Ask for Help: If you're struggling with a decision, seek advice from someone you trust or consider hiring a professional to help you navigate the decision-making process.
Quotes
- "When you worry about something, there is a feeling of discomfort and anxiety that comes with that. And obviously we don't want to feel that way. So we think we should do something to get ourselves out of that state. Except that's not always true. Sometimes the choice is to do nothing." (07:53)
- "I made the choice to not do anything. I made the choice to wait and see what happened. And I had to kind of give in to that panic and go, yeah, I just don't know what's going to happen. I could get fired. There's nothing I can do about it. And I think that it's important for you if you ever go through something or you will go through something like this to kind of pay attention to what feels right or doesn't feel right, which is what I did. Choosing to do nothing is actually making a choice. Doing nothing is choosing an inaction." (08:40 | Danielle Gibson)
- "If you do have a relationship with your intuition, you should pay attention to your intuition. And if you think you don't know when you're experiencing your intuition or your higher self or whatever you want to call it, you have to learn how to trust it because inevitably what this means is that you're trusting yourself. And I think that self-trust is one of the most essential skills we could have, because if we know that we're doing something that feels right to us, we're never in a state of inner conflict." (10:48 | Danielle Gibson)
- "Think of a time when you were able to make a decision about something that was hard and think about what you did in that experience that helped you get to the other side of that decision. If you've done it before, you probably can do it again by yourself." (13:56 | Danielle Gibson)
Links
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