49. Love, Limiting Beliefs, & Letting People In with Cat Cantrill

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June 26, 2025 • 58 mins

Ever find yourself (or your friends) dating the same type of person over and over? Wondering why it never works out?

Or maybe you're not dating at all…because the whole thing feels exhausting, confusing, or like it just isn't working anymore?

In this episode, I'm joined by my dear friend Cat Cantrill, a professional matchmaker and dating coach who's not afraid to tell it like it is with honesty and kindness.

Cat shares her own unexpected journey from corporate life to dance studio ownership to helping people find love for a living.

And, of course, we talk about why people stay stuck in the same patterns, how early experiences shape our approach to love, and what it really takes to find (and keep) a meaningful relationship.

It’s not about having a longer checklist or perfecting your profile (although pics without shower curtains, toilets, or dead fish is a great start).

Whether you're swiping, settled, or somewhere in between, you'll be entertained and reminded why we're all a little weird, especially when it comes to love.

What You’ll Learn

Why your dating “wants” might be blocking your actual needs
How limiting beliefs and early experiences shape your love life (and how to change them)
What attachment styles are and how they play out in relationships and even at work
Common dating mistakes and how to refine your dating behavior without changing or faking who you are
Why being “open for business” is the #1 tip for finding love

Whether you're single, supporting a friend, or just fascinated by human behavior, you'll find insights and entertainment about relationships, vulnerability, and what it means to truly connect.

Some Highlights

Cat’s collaborative and global matchmaking network and database
Cat’s live dating gameshow in 2022
Why secure attachment styles are relationship gold

About Cat Cantrill

Cat Cantrill is a professional matchmaker and dating coach who has been helping singles find meaningful connections since 2015. With a background in psychology and sociology, she combines her deep understanding of human behavior with a passion for guiding clients through the complexities of modern dating. Cat is the founder of The Scottsdale Matchmaker (formerly The Heart Agency), with offices in Iowa and Scottsdale, Arizona, where she offers bespoke matchmaking services tailored to each client’s unique needs.

Cat’s approach is grounded in empathy and relationship science, offering practical, no-nonsense coaching to help clients refine their dating strategy and gain clarity about what they’re truly seeking in a partner.

In 2021, Cat launched the podcast, Dear Matchmaker, which ranked in the top 5% globally and was nominated for the Iowa Podcast Award’s Best Relationship Podcast in 2024. She has been a featured speaker at the Global Love Institute and has been a guest expert on over 20 podcasts. Cat has made appearances on CBS and PBS, and has been featured in Datingadvice.com (July 2024) as a leader in her industry and Fortune Magazine (June 2024) as an elite matchmaker. Additionally, she was honored as a nominee for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society’s Woman of the Year in 2016 and received the HER Magazine Women of Achievement Award in 2018.

Where to Find Cat Cantrill