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December 28, 2023 74 mins

Dear Diary & Listeners,

We all strive to be the best at something. 

 

For me, it was being a wife, a partner, a team member. 

For others it might be more career oriented or status driven. 

 

Not for me. 

 

I've known as long as I can remember that I wanted to be a wife, a mother, and right hand to a fearless teammate who strives for greatness in life. 

 

I've thought about this a lot this past week because as I try to be the best version of myself; I find that I fall short in a lot of areas I once thought I had conquered...

 

The thing is, I hadn't conquered anything. I was acting like I had. In pure hope that one day I would meet the expectations I and my husband had set out for me. But as it does often in this story- the goalpost kept moving. 

 

And I kept falling short. 

 

It was easier to adopt a  "fake it 'till I make it" mentality than it was to sit with my shortcomings and dissect them. 

 

While we are striving to be the best at whatever that "one thing" might be; there is someone out there looking for the perfect partner for them. Setting exceedingly high standards in the name of self respect or "not settling"...

 

This could really be the basis on which a lot of relationships fail. 

 

Instead of trying to find or be the perfect partner, I believe that we should love an imperfect partner- perfectly. 

 

That should be the goal. To grow and stretch your beliefs in everything you ever wanted out of life; for the sake of happiness and love. 

 

If you can look at someone who is imperfect and see through the scars and skeletons, and STILL find a way to love them. I think you've beat the game. You win. 

 

In this episode you'll hear pivotal conversations that pave the disastrous road ahead. We will celebrate New Years Eve with friends and finally uncover the reason behind me painting our life so "picture perfect" constantly online. 

Be sure to share, like, and review. Your feedback and support mean everything.

 

Forever Speaking My Truth,

Amanda Arnier, MLS

 

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY! 

If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me. 

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Music: Ashley England

Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier

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