Rewire Your Mind, Master Emotions, & Create the Life You Want | Joey Klien # 123

Guest: Joey Klein — author of The Inner Matrix and Relationship Alchemy; founder of Inner Matrix Systems.

Topic: Rewiring your “inner matrix,” emotional mastery, and the fundamentals of thriving relationships.

 

Summary

Paul and Joey dig into how unconscious emotional conditioning drives our thoughts, choices, and results—and how to retrain it. Joey outlines a practical path: awareness → nervous-system regulation → conditioning future-aligned emotions and beliefs. In the back half, they shift to Relationship Alchemy: taking responsibility for your feelings, managing attention, and creating a 20-year vision for your relationship.

Key Takeaways

• Your “inner matrix” = emotional patterns + thought strategies + nervous system conditioning that run (mostly) outside awareness.
• Start with awareness & ownership: “How am I feeling right now?” (no story, no blame).
• Train the nervous system (e.g., gentle box breathing) to move from sympathetic to parasympathetic; then install new patterns.
• Emotions drive thoughts (not the other way around). Access and train future-aligned emotions first.
• Transformation can be fast; mastery takes repetition (immersion + daily reps).
• In relationships: 1) You’re responsible for your feelings. 2) Manage attention toward a shared future vision.

Chapter Markers

• 00:00 – Intro & Paul’s context on The Inner Matrix
• 01:20 – Joey’s story: pain → mentors → 22 years of practice
• 05:28 – What is the Inner Matrix? Conditioning: emotion → mind → nervous system
• 10:18 – Awareness & ownership vs. blaming circumstances
• 14:30 – The simple daily check-in practice (3–4x/day)
• 16:14 – State setting before performance (breathing, intent)
• 18:10 – Mindfulness vs. emotional body; using stillness as a tool
• 19:00 – Train the mind to think for you (not quiet forever)
• 21:37 – Three pillars: intensity (immersion), consistency (daily), cadence (in-day)
• 24:48 – Parasympathetic access; conditioning while suggestible
• 26:29 – 60k thoughts/day, <3% conscious; why emotions come first
• 28:24 – Build emotions of your future self; align actions
• 31:38 – Natural emotions vs. trained reactions
• 39:07 – Transformation vs. mastery; immersion matters
• 41:18 – Ski-slope/neuronal-rut analogy
• 44:17 – Comfort = familiar; awkward = often correct (golf vs. baseball swing)
• 46:00 – Difficulty is a signal you’re changing the pattern
• 48:07 – Relationship Alchemy: why self-training still comes first
• 51:26 – Two big keys: responsibility for feelings; manage attention/vision
• 55:00 – Joey’s program structure (weekends + weekly + app)
• 58:30 – Links, contact, close

 

Guest information:

https://joeyklein.com/

https://innermatrixsystems.com/

 

About the host:

Paul Ryan is an entrepreneur, 8 figure business owner, mentor, podcaster and creator of the 1-Hour CEO and Life Code Program. As a CEO, Paul has a depth of 'real life' experience of what it takes to be successful in business and life.

 

Connect with the host:

 

https://www.theonehourceo.com/

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-ryan-9a98774/