In this episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming Alara Sage, the ecstatic life mentor, to the Magnetic Goddess podcast. We explored the journey to becoming a magnetic goddess, emphasizing the crucial role of connecting with one's womb and embracing the divine feminine. Alara shared how her higher self guides her learning and the embodiment of her teachings, which often align with ancient wisdoms like Buddhism and Tantra. We also discussed societal perceptions of aging and the importance of tapping into our radiant life force to live vibrantly at any age.
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Hello, everyone, and welcome back to the Magnetic Goddess podcast.
I'm your host, Amy Lee Westervelt. I have a fantastic guest today.
I've been lucky enough to be on her brand new amazing show, and now she's on mine.
So I'm so excited to have her. Alara Sage is here.
Hopefully I said that right. Alara. Alara. Okay. She is the ecstatic life mentor.
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She and I have already had an incredible conversation. So it sounds like we're
going to have another one. You're listening to The Magnetic Goddess,
a podcast for women who are ready to step into their power and live their best lives.
I'm your host, Amy Lee Westervelt, and I'm here to guide and inspire you to
take the journey back to your higher self.
We'll talk about everything from personal development to career growth to relationships.
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We'll share tips, tools, and strategies that will help you become the most confident,
successful, and magnetic version of yourself.
We'll also talk to inspiring women who have have already achieved their dreams
and are living their best lives.
We'll learn from their stories and discover what it takes to create a life that is truly fulfilling.
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I believe that every woman has the potential to be a magnetic goddess.
She has the power to attract anything she wants in life and she can create her
birthright of abundance.
I'm here to help you tap into that that inner goddess and live your best life.
I'm so excited to have you on this journey with me.
Let's start living our best lives together as magnetic goddesses.
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Welcome to the show, Alara. Yay, I'm so happy to be here.
Like we said, it's so fun to be on each other's spaces and shift the position.
Yeah, absolutely. And it just goes to show you that in your own arena,
you can be the leader and you can be the follower in a different one.
So everybody plays their different roles and there's really no superiority in
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the thought leadership world, at least not among the real thought leaders.
Nope. So I always love to ask when we first get here, what do you feel qualifies
you as a magnetic goddess?
What about you? What are the qualities that make you that?
That's such a great question. I mean, it's something that I have always been,
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but it was definitely a journey as to why I am that.
And really for me, that was all about learning the embodiment of my womb,
which is where all of our wisdom is.
And, you know, everything that I teach, I am taught via my higher self.
I have always been a student of life. And normally when I love things,
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I dive into learning about them, but I've always been guided by my higher self.
And I've been taught so much wisdom via my higher self.
I've had people be like, oh, that's Buddhist teaching. And oh,
that's Tantra teaching. And I'm like, great. I I don't know.
I'm just taught by my higher self.
And when my higher self was really bringing me into my womb and understanding
that our womb is what magnetizes literally, you know, our heart is where all
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of our desires are and our soul's blueprint and our womb is what pulls.
She's the feminine, right? That feminine is the negative polarity.
She pulls in, she draws in.
And so to to answer your question directly, it's my relationship with my womb.
I am so deeply connected to her. I speak to her.
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I listen to her. She guides me on everything that I do. And when I feel...
There is something desiring to be created in my life. It's always a drop down into her.
And then feeling that ecstatic energy and feeling her start to create that magnetism.
And I just got so lit by saying that because it's so delicious.
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I love that. I resonate with that so much because the same thing happens to me.
I'll get downloads and they'll be like, oh, you mean like a bikini? And I'm like, no, never.
I can't call it that because that's not the avenue I found it.
And you're right. And I had a psychic tell me recently, I was kind of floored
by it, but she said, you know, the guides wanted to tell me that you teach yourself.
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Like you don't learn through mentorship.
You're a person who teaches yourself. And I was like, I never thought of it
that way, but that's absolutely true.
And I think also having a split definition, it's like I teach myself and then
I have to go externally and be like, okay, so this is what I taught myself.
I almost have to hear it externally to someone else about myself,
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which is so interesting.
And I love what you said about the womb and the feminine, because,
you know, and you and I talked about this on your show. We're going to talk about it on my show.
I think one of the things that, well, let's have a conversation about this because
if there's anybody who can have this conversation, it's definitely you feel
like there are some misnomers when it comes to divine feminine energy.
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I've seen such an, what's, I don't know what the word is, but like a up,
up evil or an up rising. That's it.
An uprising of branding and storytelling that has to do with this idea of the femme fatale.
She's got this black hat on and red lipstick and she's just like living her
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life in spite of like, I'm just going to be the divine feminine.
And, you know, knowing what I do and the work that I've been up to,
I feel like there's something missing.
I feel like it's almost like we've got a piece of the codex and nobody like
told you that like there's another piece, right? Right.
So when we talk about this, this feminine energy, it's almost like an in spite of energy, I think.
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And I think that like what you were saying with the womb, like she pulls in,
she pulls in, but also there's that manifesting part, right?
There's that part that's like actually bringing and giving so she can receive.
And so I wondered, what is your thought on, on.
How do I say this? I'm trying to massage this question.
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What's your thought on why it's so easy for women to lean into the aspects of
the divine feminine and to be more in the divine feminine.
But a lot of people have trouble making that leap to that connective energy
with the divine masculine too.
Like how come it's so, why do
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you think that it's so prevalent that but people are like only over here.
And it's like, do you think it has? Well, let me, you tell me what you think.
Yeah. Well, I think a lot of the reason is because we haven't had feminine energy.
We haven't been empowered within our inner feminine for thousands of years,
over 5,000 years, the feminine has not been on the planet.
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So we've been in the masculine, but we've been, of course, in a distorted masculine, right?
Not the divine, not the aligned, not the empowered masculine.
So I always see it as a pendulum.
Like sometimes the pendulum, when it's over here, Here, you let it go and it
drops down and swings, right? So we're swinging into the feminine.
And so there is a rising of the feminine, like this is who she is.
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And when we are deeply embodied, in my opinion, there's always a trinity.
There is the feminine, the masculine, and the child. There is the mother,
the father, and the child. And we hold that within ourselves. selves.
And so like my personal journey,
you know, was a lot of restoring that feminine presence to my space because
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I hadn't been, I'd been very masculinized and really rebellion against my feminine,
you know, like I didn't want anything to do with that.
I wasn't in my womb. I wasn't in my pussy, you know? And so really reclaiming that first.
And then also at the same time, you know, having that masculine show up and
absolutely we need both.
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And sometimes we have to focus on one and kind of embody that and work with
that and engage with that.
And then the other one arises, or sometimes we get to work with them at the
same time. Like when I work with clients, I'm working with them.
It's always swinging around all three of them, you know, just naturally for
where they need in that moment.
Is it right now, the inner child, is it right now, the inner or masculine,
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because as you know, they're not truly separate.
It's just ways in which we see them separately so that we can work with them clearly.
Right. Yeah. They're components of the self. They're part of the inner divinity
and in its prismatic wholeness, right?
So it's like they all exist in that space.
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And then you've got like all the parts, you know, like the inner family system
and all that stuff that kind of orbit around that self, the thoughts,
the feelings, the conditioning, all those things.
So yeah, I totally agree with that. And that makes a lot of sense.
Like, so what you're saying is because the feminine's been so so repressed.
It's almost like she's going to go all the way to the extreme to come back to the middle. Yes.
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Yes. And people just love labels and stuff. Don't you find, you know,
like, oh, that sounds good. Let's do that.
And then everybody gets kind of obsessive, which is okay.
I know. Someone said the other day, like, I'm leaving my girl boss era and I'm
going into my snail woman era.
Like that was what somebody coined. Like, apparently it's all about just relaxing
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and enjoying yourself and not overworking.
And then what they came up with the name for that was my snail era.
And I was like, Oh, a whole thesaurus of words.
And you didn't think maybe it could have been a better feeling,
you know, like use a word like lethargy, like that's beautiful or apathy,
like beautiful alliteration in those words, but no, we got to go with snail.
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They're channeling their inner snail. I don't know. It's crazy. It's crazy.
Okay. So So my next question to you is in doing this work and supporting clients,
I want to get into that a little bit.
So who would you say is kind of the person who tends to come to you for support?
Like who's that ICA? Who's the ideal client that's like, oh,
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this is the person that I shine when it comes to helping this person? Yeah.
Yeah, I get a lot of, you know, really successful women. Sometimes they're entrepreneurs.
Sometimes they're not. They're like CEOs and just definitely leaders.
And but they've been in the masculine and they tend to be up more in their head
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and they can, you know, they have a very powerful mind, which I am all for.
I am all for the power of the mind. Right.
But they they aren't embodied in their in their womb.
So while they often have some sense of their intuition and they're partially
living through their intuition, they're not really connected to the wisdom of
their body and really anchored into the present moment.
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Oftentimes they are separate or single or divorced.
I do work with some married women, but they just tend to be in that category.
And some of them have had hysterectomies. And it's so beautiful working with
them, knowing that there's still an energetic signature of the womb where some
have had, you know, sexual trauma or just aren't lit sexually.
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Right. But some of my clients, you know, have no problem in the in the bedroom.
But that doesn't mean that they're just because you can orgasm doesn't mean
that you're embodied in your pussy doesn't mean that you're embodied in your
womb. And I think that's something that's often misunderstood.
Like, oh, I have, I'm totally fine in the bedroom.
It's like, well, like, does your pussy literally light up when you are making
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decisions that are aligned?
Does she light up? Does the energy course through your body?
Like, no. Okay. Well, then we've got some work to do.
Like I work to make women lit, lit, lit, lit.
I am the ecstatic self. I embody that in my woman, in my heart, in my pineal gland.
So again, these women often feel like kind of, I seemingly have everything,
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but I don't really feel fulfilled.
And they often feel lonely, whether they're in a relationship or not.
Yeah, absolutely. I think that's very pervasive, even in the work that I do, right?
Like women who have been married for years, and they're like,
oh, we don't connect anymore.
And, you know, they've almost like shut down this part of themselves,
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this, like you said, the ecstatic part of the energetic part,
like I say, because they feel like, oh, that time passed, I had the white wedding,
I did the thing, I was the most beautiful woman.
And it's like, you look at society, that's kind of the way it's set up, right? right?
Like that day when you become a bride and you're in the beautiful dress and
no one else is allowed to wear the white and you know, you're just this spectacle.
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And by the next day you're wearing plain clothes, you know, it's the brunch
before you go in on the honeymoon.
And it's like, you're just a person and you're never really entitled to feeling
that special facetially wise ever again.
Like you're not going, I mean, maybe like, even if you do like bowel renewals
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or something like that, even then it's like, oh, you know, we just want to go
and have like an open bar and like, let's, you know, nod and toast the couple, but it's not the same.
And when women get this feeling of like, is this all there is like now it's
time for mom jeans and, and combbacks and all this other stuff,
it's really dangerous for the life force energy because now all of a sudden,
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you're not making it. You've got to get it from somewhere.
It's like going on energetic dialysis.
All of a sudden, you're attached to the outcomes around you.
And everybody is a potential hit.
So, oh my gosh, this client needs to sign up. why doesn't my partner want to look at me?
You know, what, why does it, why don't they want to take me to the movies?
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How come I'm not sexy anymore? And so that, that, that,
draining of that life force energy, women forget that we used to make it.
We used to make it internally.
We have a whole factory to create whether you have a womb or not.
Yep. Absolutely. It's energy.
And it's like, we feel like we're not, it's almost like we feel like we're not
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entitled to, you know, like, oh, well, I'm not the spring chicken anymore.
Right? Like, I have kids now. I'm a mom and I'm a mom. I've got five kids.
I have an incredible sex life.
My husband and I are closer than ever.
And like those things, like they're independent of the fact that I'm 40 years old, you know?
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And so I love that you do this work because so many women just think,
you know, you hit 40 or you hit 30 even, or you hit 35.
And if you, if you expect that anything is going to feel good after that,
like that's all just a bonus. And it's like, no, like you're,
there's so much more of your life to live.
And not only that, but you've got such a, you know,
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we're not here by accident and you probably got a really big mission that would
be a lot better served if you were able to get into your body and use 90% of
that, you know, power that you're just kind of sitting on.
I love how you bring this up because one thing that isn't spoken about is what
truly happens when women go through menopause.
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As far as the creative life force energy, we gain it back.
All of that energy we've been going through with menstruation and cycles now comes fully back to us.
So it's a rite of passage.
And as far as the medicine woman and the shaman and the priestess this energy,
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that's where we really are given the full potential of our wisdom, the full flurry of it.
So it's funny because like listening to this, I completely agree.
Society is like, oh, great.
You're what? You're in your thirties. Oh, now you're in your forties.
Oh, like just go behind a curtain. Nobody wants to see you anymore. Right.
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When I am like, I can't wait to get my hair gray. I can't wait to go through
menopause like that to me excites the fuck out of me because I know what's coming.
And I know that already, like you said, there's so much creative potential,
like working with my own creative life force energy is such a turn on,
like it's such a turn on constantly playing in that energy with myself and feeling
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it and working with it. And oh, where does it want to go?
And how does it want to be actualized in the physical reality?
And then to know that I still have a point coming up when I go through menopause,
that that's going to increase and deepen and like transform in a way that I
don't even, you know, know completely like that just thrills me.
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Yeah, I know. It's, it's so interesting too,
because I think, you know, with everything that's going on in the world,
yes, you know, in the Middle East, but also just just like solar flares and
we've got eclipses and Pluto going direct and then Pluto going into Aquarius
and all these incredible things that are happening.
It's almost like we are evolving so fast.
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Like I feel like the me that I was last week, I look at her and I'm like,
I don't even relate to her.
Like some of the things I thought last week are completely different than what
I I think this week, I don't have a connection to the thoughts and feelings of seven days ago.
And it's like, who am I going to be next week? You know? And I think that we're
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just rapidly evolving at this point as women, you know, as the divine feminine.
And it's like, you kind of got to like detach from anything,
meaning anything, because by the time you recognize what it means,
it's time for a new meaning, you know? Thank you.
Absolutely. And I really feel like, you know, everything to do with society
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as far as women and even sex.
Right. And logic over intuition and giving all of our power away to scientists
and doctors who are brilliant and we need them, but not to give our power away to them.
You know, all of this is crumbling and crashing, right?
And so turning that awareness back on ourselves and remembering that we have
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the power, we have the wisdom, we have the knowing, and we are fucking brilliant.
Like, let's not forget that, right? Like, we are direct source energy. energy.
And I think for all of us, we have to remember that because that's when we stop
going like, oh, do I care that I'm... My birthday was October 3rd. I'm 43.
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Fantastic. I feel incredible. I get to choose how I feel.
I get to choose that this is the most incredible time I've ever lived in my
life. I get to make that choice. I get to create that for myself.
I don't need to subscribe to any belief structure that tells me,
oh, you're headed downward.
No, I'm still going way up. Like, just like you said, I'm like steep incline right now.
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Like, this is like the best time of my life. And it's just getting better and
better every single day.
So we get to choose what we believe.
And when we hear things like that from society and they don't feel good in our
body, we can just simply say, great, I'm not going to subscribe to that anymore.
And I think that as a society, we kind of have done that because if you look
at people in their forties now and you look at people in their forties,
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when we were babies, when we were kids in the eighties, I mean,
they look like they're in their sixties.
Like they, like you look at a 40 year old couple on TV from an eighties movie.
And it's like, it looks like my grandmother, like that. I would never,
I wouldn't do my hair like that. I wouldn't.
And I think a lot of it it has to do with technology kind of keeps us young
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because we're all exposed to the same pop culture.
Like we know all the words that the kids say, because we say them too.
Like it's just very much, it's a fluid society.
And I think that that's something that's really different, you know,
because I look at myself and I'm 40 and I'm like, I'm not, there's nothing in
my closet that I say, like, I can't wear this anymore.
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Like I still feel completely congruent to be be who I was in my twenties.
You know, like I don't feel like there's anything other than maybe being a mother
and maybe not, you know, dressing quite as scantily clad out with,
you know, when I'm with my kids or something like that.
But, but other than that, I really don't feel like that much has shifted.
And I wonder, you know, I mean, you look at medieval times, like people live to their thirties.
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So what were you middle, you know, you're middle-aged at 15 and now you look at us here.
And it's like, you're in your forties, but the forties are the new twenties.
And we're feeling this youthful, you know, vibrance that I think women haven't felt for generations.
Absolutely. I mean, when consciousness rises, our lifespan increases.
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We are headed for a much longer lifespan and by far the longest lifespan that humanity has lived in.
So you're absolutely right. We are living much older.
What do they say? Like 40 is the new 20, right? It's just not the same anymore. more.
And that has a lot to do with, of course, the concentration of light, right?
Of source energy that we are giving capacity to within our bodies and the Shakti,
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the creative life force energy.
You know, when that moves through your body and out your crown and you are in
union with self, you are radiating, you are radiating. It is the fountain of
youth. I'm sure you've experienced it.
I get told, oh my God, you look like you shed a bunch of years as I'm getting older.
People People are telling me I'm looking younger. I look at pictures of myself
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and I look so much more radiant, so much more alive, so much younger,
but with like this immense wisdom, you know, so like it's the best of both worlds.
Yeah, absolutely. I know it's a thing to be hot and wise.
Yeah, the same thing happens to me. I used to, people used to think I was my
daughter's grandmother and now they think I'm her sister. So it works. Yeah, definitely.
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Yeah. Connecting to that life force energy is so powerful and,
and recognizing that we're not just connected to it. but we own it.
Like it's not something that like was bestowed on us from on high.
Like it's been ours from the beginning and we just simply need to claim it.
We need to claim our connection to it and our birthright to it.
And when we do that, it has no choice, but to flow right back into us and you know, with a quickness.
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So I definitely, yeah. I mean, I just like the whole thing turns me on.
Okay. So tell me, Ms. Alara, how do people get ahold of you?
They want to work with you. They they want to connect to you.
Tell us all those things.
Definitely. So my website is alarasage.com and I have a variety of different
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offerings there for people, freebies, a variety of different levels of offering.
People can kind of dip their toe or they're welcome to dive head first,
you know, whatever floats their boat.
And I'm Alara Sage on everything on Facebook, on Instagram, on LinkedIn, on YouTube.
And then I also, of course, have my podcast, the ecstatic woman.
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So that's also Instagram. You guys should definitely check that out.
Yeah. So much fun. And that's Instagram, the ecstatic woman and also YouTube
and all the good stuff. Yes. Yes.
And I'm always like open to people just honestly reaching out.
Like I love connection. I love to meet people.
And, you know, for me, like somebody reaching out doesn't mean like,
Oh, does that mean you want to buy from me? Like, it's like,
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Hey, what's up? Like, who are you?
What do you feel? What lights you up? What's your passion?
You know, like I love, I truly, truly love connection.
Yeah. And I think powerful women are able and
capable of holding space without the expectation of
a sale you know they're like I can message her just to get to know
her find out more about her like I think that they're
I will say that my community is really good
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about that they're very they're very inquisitive so don't be surprised you said
you want connections you might get quite a few of them in your inbox like tell
me more things so that's amazing well I appreciate you being here this has been
so good and so juicy and so are,
I would say, womb warming, right?
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Womb warming experience.
Having you on the show. And definitely you guys go grab, you know,
anything that she has, freebies or whatever.
And also go like and subscribe to her show because it's awesome.
I was on it and I listened to a couple episodes.
You guys also, if you're on my email list, you got an email that linked you
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to her show in there. So if you need, like, if you're one of those people that
just likes to click things and you're on the email list, you can go ahead and do that.
But otherwise, you can find her through all the channels that she mentioned.
So thank you so much, Alara, for being here. Thank you, my love.
It's always such a pleasure being in space with you.
So I'm delighted that we got to reconnect and do it again.
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I received that. Thank you so much. And that will do it for this week's episode.
Until next week, when we have another great guest, may you be happy,
may you be healthy, may you be safe, and may you be at peace. Namaste.
Hello, everyone, and welcome back to the Magnetic Goddess podcast.
I'm your host, Amy Lee Westervelt. I have a fantastic guest today.
I've been lucky enough to be on her brand new amazing show, and now she's on mine.
So I'm so excited to have her. Alara Sage is here.
Hopefully I said that right. Alara. Alara. Okay. She is the ecstatic life mentor.
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She and I have already had an incredible conversation. So it sounds like we're
going to have another one. You're listening to The Magnetic Goddess,
a podcast for women who are ready to step into their power and live their best lives.
I'm your host, Amy Lee Westervelt, and I'm here to guide and inspire you to
take the journey back to your higher self.
We'll talk about everything from personal development to career growth to relationships.
(00:48):
We'll share tips, tools, and strategies that will help you become the most confident,
successful, and magnetic version of yourself.
We'll also talk to inspiring women who have have already achieved their dreams
and are living their best lives.
We'll learn from their stories and discover what it takes to create a life that is truly fulfilling.
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I believe that every woman has the potential to be a magnetic goddess.
She has the power to attract anything she wants in life and she can create her
birthright of abundance.
I'm here to help you tap into that that inner goddess and live your best life.
I'm so excited to have you on this journey with me.
Let's start living our best lives together as magnetic goddesses.
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Welcome to the show, Alara. Yay, I'm so happy to be here.
Like we said, it's so fun to be on each other's spaces and shift the position.
Yeah, absolutely. And it just goes to show you that in your own arena,
you can be the leader and you can be the follower in a different one.
So everybody plays their different roles and there's really no superiority in
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the thought leadership world, at least not among the real thought leaders.
Nope. So I always love to ask when we first get here, what do you feel qualifies
you as a magnetic goddess?
What about you? What are the qualities that make you that?
That's such a great question. I mean, it's something that I have always been,
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but it was definitely a journey as to why I am that.
And really for me, that was all about learning the embodiment of my womb,
which is where all of our wisdom is.
And, you know, everything that I teach, I am taught via my higher self.
I have always been a student of life. And normally when I love things,
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I dive into learning about them, but I've always been guided by my higher self.
And I've been taught so much wisdom via my higher self.
I've had people be like, oh, that's Buddhist teaching. And oh,
that's Tantra teaching. And I'm like, great. I I don't know.
I'm just taught by my higher self.
And when my higher self was really bringing me into my womb and understanding
that our womb is what magnetizes literally, you know, our heart is where all
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of our desires are and our soul's blueprint and our womb is what pulls.
She's the feminine, right? That feminine is the negative polarity.
She pulls in, she draws in.
And so to to answer your question directly, it's my relationship with my womb.
I am so deeply connected to her. I speak to her.
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I listen to her. She guides me on everything that I do. And when I feel...
There is something desiring to be created in my life. It's always a drop down into her.
And then feeling that ecstatic energy and feeling her start to create that magnetism.
And I just got so lit by saying that because it's so delicious.
(03:47):
I love that. I resonate with that so much because the same thing happens to me.
I'll get downloads and they'll be like, oh, you mean like a bikini? And I'm like, no, never.
I can't call it that because that's not the avenue I found it.
And you're right. And I had a psychic tell me recently, I was kind of floored
by it, but she said, you know, the guides wanted to tell me that you teach yourself.
(04:09):
Like you don't learn through mentorship.
You're a person who teaches yourself. And I was like, I never thought of it
that way, but that's absolutely true.
And I think also having a split definition, it's like I teach myself and then
I have to go externally and be like, okay, so this is what I taught myself.
I almost have to hear it externally to someone else about myself,
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which is so interesting.
And I love what you said about the womb and the feminine, because,
you know, and you and I talked about this on your show. We're going to talk about it on my show.
I think one of the things that, well, let's have a conversation about this because
if there's anybody who can have this conversation, it's definitely you feel
like there are some misnomers when it comes to divine feminine energy.
(04:52):
I've seen such an, what's, I don't know what the word is, but like a up,
up evil or an up rising. That's it.
An uprising of branding and storytelling that has to do with this idea of the femme fatale.
She's got this black hat on and red lipstick and she's just like living her
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life in spite of like, I'm just going to be the divine feminine.
And, you know, knowing what I do and the work that I've been up to,
I feel like there's something missing.
I feel like it's almost like we've got a piece of the codex and nobody like
told you that like there's another piece, right? Right.
So when we talk about this, this feminine energy, it's almost like an in spite of energy, I think.
(05:39):
And I think that like what you were saying with the womb, like she pulls in,
she pulls in, but also there's that manifesting part, right?
There's that part that's like actually bringing and giving so she can receive.
And so I wondered, what is your thought on, on.
How do I say this? I'm trying to massage this question.
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What's your thought on why it's so easy for women to lean into the aspects of
the divine feminine and to be more in the divine feminine.
But a lot of people have trouble making that leap to that connective energy
with the divine masculine too.
Like how come it's so, why do
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you think that it's so prevalent that but people are like only over here.
And it's like, do you think it has? Well, let me, you tell me what you think.
Yeah. Well, I think a lot of the reason is because we haven't had feminine energy.
We haven't been empowered within our inner feminine for thousands of years,
over 5,000 years, the feminine has not been on the planet.
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So we've been in the masculine, but we've been, of course, in a distorted masculine, right?
Not the divine, not the aligned, not the empowered masculine.
So I always see it as a pendulum.
Like sometimes the pendulum, when it's over here, Here, you let it go and it
drops down and swings, right? So we're swinging into the feminine.
And so there is a rising of the feminine, like this is who she is.
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And when we are deeply embodied, in my opinion, there's always a trinity.
There is the feminine, the masculine, and the child. There is the mother,
the father, and the child. And we hold that within ourselves. selves.
And so like my personal journey,
you know, was a lot of restoring that feminine presence to my space because
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I hadn't been, I'd been very masculinized and really rebellion against my feminine,
you know, like I didn't want anything to do with that.
I wasn't in my womb. I wasn't in my pussy, you know? And so really reclaiming that first.
And then also at the same time, you know, having that masculine show up and
absolutely we need both.
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And sometimes we have to focus on one and kind of embody that and work with
that and engage with that.
And then the other one arises, or sometimes we get to work with them at the
same time. Like when I work with clients, I'm working with them.
It's always swinging around all three of them, you know, just naturally for
where they need in that moment.
Is it right now, the inner child, is it right now, the inner or masculine,
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because as you know, they're not truly separate.
It's just ways in which we see them separately so that we can work with them clearly.
Right. Yeah. They're components of the self. They're part of the inner divinity
and in its prismatic wholeness, right?
So it's like they all exist in that space.
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And then you've got like all the parts, you know, like the inner family system
and all that stuff that kind of orbit around that self, the thoughts,
the feelings, the conditioning, all those things.
So yeah, I totally agree with that. And that makes a lot of sense.
Like, so what you're saying is because the feminine's been so so repressed.
It's almost like she's going to go all the way to the extreme to come back to the middle. Yes.
(08:52):
Yes. And people just love labels and stuff. Don't you find, you know,
like, oh, that sounds good. Let's do that.
And then everybody gets kind of obsessive, which is okay.
I know. Someone said the other day, like, I'm leaving my girl boss era and I'm
going into my snail woman era.
Like that was what somebody coined. Like, apparently it's all about just relaxing
(09:15):
and enjoying yourself and not overworking.
And then what they came up with the name for that was my snail era.
And I was like, Oh, a whole thesaurus of words.
And you didn't think maybe it could have been a better feeling,
you know, like use a word like lethargy, like that's beautiful or apathy,
like beautiful alliteration in those words, but no, we got to go with snail.
(09:37):
They're channeling their inner snail. I don't know. It's crazy. It's crazy.
Okay. So So my next question to you is in doing this work and supporting clients,
I want to get into that a little bit.
So who would you say is kind of the person who tends to come to you for support?
Like who's that ICA? Who's the ideal client that's like, oh,
(09:59):
this is the person that I shine when it comes to helping this person? Yeah.
Yeah, I get a lot of, you know, really successful women. Sometimes they're entrepreneurs.
Sometimes they're not. They're like CEOs and just definitely leaders.
And but they've been in the masculine and they tend to be up more in their head
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and they can, you know, they have a very powerful mind, which I am all for.
I am all for the power of the mind. Right.
But they they aren't embodied in their in their womb.
So while they often have some sense of their intuition and they're partially
living through their intuition, they're not really connected to the wisdom of
their body and really anchored into the present moment.
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Oftentimes they are separate or single or divorced.
I do work with some married women, but they just tend to be in that category.
And some of them have had hysterectomies. And it's so beautiful working with
them, knowing that there's still an energetic signature of the womb where some
have had, you know, sexual trauma or just aren't lit sexually.
(11:04):
Right. But some of my clients, you know, have no problem in the in the bedroom.
But that doesn't mean that they're just because you can orgasm doesn't mean
that you're embodied in your pussy doesn't mean that you're embodied in your
womb. And I think that's something that's often misunderstood.
Like, oh, I have, I'm totally fine in the bedroom.
It's like, well, like, does your pussy literally light up when you are making
(11:27):
decisions that are aligned?
Does she light up? Does the energy course through your body?
Like, no. Okay. Well, then we've got some work to do.
Like I work to make women lit, lit, lit, lit.
I am the ecstatic self. I embody that in my woman, in my heart, in my pineal gland.
So again, these women often feel like kind of, I seemingly have everything,
(11:52):
but I don't really feel fulfilled.
And they often feel lonely, whether they're in a relationship or not.
Yeah, absolutely. I think that's very pervasive, even in the work that I do, right?
Like women who have been married for years, and they're like,
oh, we don't connect anymore.
And, you know, they've almost like shut down this part of themselves,
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this, like you said, the ecstatic part of the energetic part,
like I say, because they feel like, oh, that time passed, I had the white wedding,
I did the thing, I was the most beautiful woman.
And it's like, you look at society, that's kind of the way it's set up, right? right?
Like that day when you become a bride and you're in the beautiful dress and
no one else is allowed to wear the white and you know, you're just this spectacle.
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And by the next day you're wearing plain clothes, you know, it's the brunch
before you go in on the honeymoon.
And it's like, you're just a person and you're never really entitled to feeling
that special facetially wise ever again.
Like you're not going, I mean, maybe like, even if you do like bowel renewals
(12:56):
or something like that, even then it's like, oh, you know, we just want to go
and have like an open bar and like, let's, you know, nod and toast the couple, but it's not the same.
And when women get this feeling of like, is this all there is like now it's
time for mom jeans and, and combbacks and all this other stuff,
it's really dangerous for the life force energy because now all of a sudden,
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you're not making it. You've got to get it from somewhere.
It's like going on energetic dialysis.
All of a sudden, you're attached to the outcomes around you.
And everybody is a potential hit.
So, oh my gosh, this client needs to sign up. why doesn't my partner want to look at me?
You know, what, why does it, why don't they want to take me to the movies?
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How come I'm not sexy anymore? And so that, that, that,
draining of that life force energy, women forget that we used to make it.
We used to make it internally.
We have a whole factory to create whether you have a womb or not.
Yep. Absolutely. It's energy.
And it's like, we feel like we're not, it's almost like we feel like we're not
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entitled to, you know, like, oh, well, I'm not the spring chicken anymore.
Right? Like, I have kids now. I'm a mom and I'm a mom. I've got five kids.
I have an incredible sex life.
My husband and I are closer than ever.
And like those things, like they're independent of the fact that I'm 40 years old, you know?
(14:29):
And so I love that you do this work because so many women just think,
you know, you hit 40 or you hit 30 even, or you hit 35.
And if you, if you expect that anything is going to feel good after that,
like that's all just a bonus. And it's like, no, like you're,
there's so much more of your life to live.
And not only that, but you've got such a, you know,
(14:52):
we're not here by accident and you probably got a really big mission that would
be a lot better served if you were able to get into your body and use 90% of
that, you know, power that you're just kind of sitting on.
I love how you bring this up because one thing that isn't spoken about is what
truly happens when women go through menopause.
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As far as the creative life force energy, we gain it back.
All of that energy we've been going through with menstruation and cycles now comes fully back to us.
So it's a rite of passage.
And as far as the medicine woman and the shaman and the priestess this energy,
(15:34):
that's where we really are given the full potential of our wisdom, the full flurry of it.
So it's funny because like listening to this, I completely agree.
Society is like, oh, great.
You're what? You're in your thirties. Oh, now you're in your forties.
Oh, like just go behind a curtain. Nobody wants to see you anymore. Right.
(15:55):
When I am like, I can't wait to get my hair gray. I can't wait to go through
menopause like that to me excites the fuck out of me because I know what's coming.
And I know that already, like you said, there's so much creative potential,
like working with my own creative life force energy is such a turn on,
like it's such a turn on constantly playing in that energy with myself and feeling
(16:18):
it and working with it. And oh, where does it want to go?
And how does it want to be actualized in the physical reality?
And then to know that I still have a point coming up when I go through menopause,
that that's going to increase and deepen and like transform in a way that I
don't even, you know, know completely like that just thrills me.
(16:39):
Yeah, I know. It's, it's so interesting too,
because I think, you know, with everything that's going on in the world,
yes, you know, in the Middle East, but also just just like solar flares and
we've got eclipses and Pluto going direct and then Pluto going into Aquarius
and all these incredible things that are happening.
It's almost like we are evolving so fast.
(17:01):
Like I feel like the me that I was last week, I look at her and I'm like,
I don't even relate to her.
Like some of the things I thought last week are completely different than what
I I think this week, I don't have a connection to the thoughts and feelings of seven days ago.
And it's like, who am I going to be next week? You know? And I think that we're
(17:23):
just rapidly evolving at this point as women, you know, as the divine feminine.
And it's like, you kind of got to like detach from anything,
meaning anything, because by the time you recognize what it means,
it's time for a new meaning, you know? Thank you.
Absolutely. And I really feel like, you know, everything to do with society
(17:47):
as far as women and even sex.
Right. And logic over intuition and giving all of our power away to scientists
and doctors who are brilliant and we need them, but not to give our power away to them.
You know, all of this is crumbling and crashing, right?
And so turning that awareness back on ourselves and remembering that we have
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the power, we have the wisdom, we have the knowing, and we are fucking brilliant.
Like, let's not forget that, right? Like, we are direct source energy. energy.
And I think for all of us, we have to remember that because that's when we stop
going like, oh, do I care that I'm... My birthday was October 3rd. I'm 43.
(18:33):
Fantastic. I feel incredible. I get to choose how I feel.
I get to choose that this is the most incredible time I've ever lived in my
life. I get to make that choice. I get to create that for myself.
I don't need to subscribe to any belief structure that tells me,
oh, you're headed downward.
No, I'm still going way up. Like, just like you said, I'm like steep incline right now.
(18:54):
Like, this is like the best time of my life. And it's just getting better and
better every single day.
So we get to choose what we believe.
And when we hear things like that from society and they don't feel good in our
body, we can just simply say, great, I'm not going to subscribe to that anymore.
And I think that as a society, we kind of have done that because if you look
at people in their forties now and you look at people in their forties,
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when we were babies, when we were kids in the eighties, I mean,
they look like they're in their sixties.
Like they, like you look at a 40 year old couple on TV from an eighties movie.
And it's like, it looks like my grandmother, like that. I would never,
I wouldn't do my hair like that. I wouldn't.
And I think a lot of it it has to do with technology kind of keeps us young
(19:37):
because we're all exposed to the same pop culture.
Like we know all the words that the kids say, because we say them too.
Like it's just very much, it's a fluid society.
And I think that that's something that's really different, you know,
because I look at myself and I'm 40 and I'm like, I'm not, there's nothing in
my closet that I say, like, I can't wear this anymore.
(20:00):
Like I still feel completely congruent to be be who I was in my twenties.
You know, like I don't feel like there's anything other than maybe being a mother
and maybe not, you know, dressing quite as scantily clad out with,
you know, when I'm with my kids or something like that.
But, but other than that, I really don't feel like that much has shifted.
And I wonder, you know, I mean, you look at medieval times, like people live to their thirties.
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So what were you middle, you know, you're middle-aged at 15 and now you look at us here.
And it's like, you're in your forties, but the forties are the new twenties.
And we're feeling this youthful, you know, vibrance that I think women haven't felt for generations.
Absolutely. I mean, when consciousness rises, our lifespan increases.
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We are headed for a much longer lifespan and by far the longest lifespan that humanity has lived in.
So you're absolutely right. We are living much older.
What do they say? Like 40 is the new 20, right? It's just not the same anymore. more.
And that has a lot to do with, of course, the concentration of light, right?
Of source energy that we are giving capacity to within our bodies and the Shakti,
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the creative life force energy.
You know, when that moves through your body and out your crown and you are in
union with self, you are radiating, you are radiating. It is the fountain of
youth. I'm sure you've experienced it.
I get told, oh my God, you look like you shed a bunch of years as I'm getting older.
People People are telling me I'm looking younger. I look at pictures of myself
(21:35):
and I look so much more radiant, so much more alive, so much younger,
but with like this immense wisdom, you know, so like it's the best of both worlds.
Yeah, absolutely. I know it's a thing to be hot and wise.
Yeah, the same thing happens to me. I used to, people used to think I was my
daughter's grandmother and now they think I'm her sister. So it works. Yeah, definitely.
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Yeah. Connecting to that life force energy is so powerful and,
and recognizing that we're not just connected to it. but we own it.
Like it's not something that like was bestowed on us from on high.
Like it's been ours from the beginning and we just simply need to claim it.
We need to claim our connection to it and our birthright to it.
And when we do that, it has no choice, but to flow right back into us and you know, with a quickness.
(22:19):
So I definitely, yeah. I mean, I just like the whole thing turns me on.
Okay. So tell me, Ms. Alara, how do people get ahold of you?
They want to work with you. They they want to connect to you.
Tell us all those things.
Definitely. So my website is alarasage.com and I have a variety of different
(22:39):
offerings there for people, freebies, a variety of different levels of offering.
People can kind of dip their toe or they're welcome to dive head first,
you know, whatever floats their boat.
And I'm Alara Sage on everything on Facebook, on Instagram, on LinkedIn, on YouTube.
And then I also, of course, have my podcast, the ecstatic woman.
(23:00):
So that's also Instagram. You guys should definitely check that out.
Yeah. So much fun. And that's Instagram, the ecstatic woman and also YouTube
and all the good stuff. Yes. Yes.
And I'm always like open to people just honestly reaching out.
Like I love connection. I love to meet people.
And, you know, for me, like somebody reaching out doesn't mean like,
Oh, does that mean you want to buy from me? Like, it's like,
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Hey, what's up? Like, who are you?
What do you feel? What lights you up? What's your passion?
You know, like I love, I truly, truly love connection.
Yeah. And I think powerful women are able and
capable of holding space without the expectation of
a sale you know they're like I can message her just to get to know
her find out more about her like I think that they're
I will say that my community is really good
(23:43):
about that they're very they're very inquisitive so don't be surprised you said
you want connections you might get quite a few of them in your inbox like tell
me more things so that's amazing well I appreciate you being here this has been
so good and so juicy and so are,
I would say, womb warming, right?
(24:04):
Womb warming experience.
Having you on the show. And definitely you guys go grab, you know,
anything that she has, freebies or whatever.
And also go like and subscribe to her show because it's awesome.
I was on it and I listened to a couple episodes.
You guys also, if you're on my email list, you got an email that linked you
(24:26):
to her show in there. So if you need, like, if you're one of those people that
just likes to click things and you're on the email list, you can go ahead and do that.
But otherwise, you can find her through all the channels that she mentioned.
So thank you so much, Alara, for being here. Thank you, my love.
It's always such a pleasure being in space with you.
So I'm delighted that we got to reconnect and do it again.
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I received that. Thank you so much. And that will do it for this week's episode.
Until next week, when we have another great guest, may you be happy,
may you be healthy, may you be safe, and may you be at peace. Namaste.
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