September 23, 2024 • 59 mins
In this uplifting episode, Goddess Naquita, also known as Pretty Red Ent, dives deep into the essence of happiness and self-love. She emphasizes the importance of finding happiness within ourselves rather than relying on external factors.
Goddess Naquita shares personal anecdotes and challenges listeners to reflect on what truly makes them happy. She encourages everyone to reclaim their power, embrace their true selves, and stand firm in their personal happiness.
Join Goddess Naquita on this journey of self-discovery and learn how to cultivate genuine happiness from within. Whether it's through self-reflection, healing past wounds, or simply appreciating your own unique qualities, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that true happiness starts with you.
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Welcome to the pretty red and t-shirt it's your girl goddess nikita aka pretty red and t-shirt.
And if nobody told you they loved you today just know that
goddess nikita she loves you today and I'm sending so
much love and light out into the whole entire universe
to me especially me and just
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to anybody who needs it but I'm also sending love and light out to the butterflies
and the dragonflies and the birds and the bees okay I was for that dude you
know that's Luther I was about to go on a Luther note but I ain't gonna go there
okay so how y'all beautiful people
doing I love y'all y'all know I love podcasting
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I love just talking with y'all for real just keep you out of the day
to a lot of things but really I love
podcasting I ain't gonna lie to y'all so let me talk about something with y'all
I want to make this very clear when I say what I'm gonna say to certain people
and and what I'm about to tell y'all like I really feel like Like when you come
into like yourself for real and you come at a level of happiness,
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happiness comes really from within.
And I really challenge y'all to really ask yourself, like, what makes you happy?
And if you're not saying you and you have every other excuse outside of yourself
to say what makes you happy besides the way how you look, the way you smile,
the way like Like you might like how your hair flips.
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You might like the fact that you rocking your hairstyle too low.
But if it is not because of you, then I don't feel like you are achieving happiness.
Right? It's so crazy because some people would allow things,
paces, and people to be their happiness instead of them being their happiness. Right?
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And I gotta say that like I'm sorry I'm coming out
heavy and hard but I apologize okay but listen
up guys I feel like happiness is the one thing that somebody cannot take from
me like I have always been happy even when I was a little kid and people used
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to like I don't know because I was so happy I feel like people didn't like that
So people used to try to like,
Harm me And it's so weird Because like,
and it's not funny this is what I'm saying this is what
black people need to heal because this ain't this is not funny but
like I used to be so happy and so loving to
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the point where my my peoples were used to
like hate that and they used to like put me in clauses and stuff and then like
I used to cry because I wanted to get out but it's also because of spiritual
reasons like then once I came to terms with stuff and I just started just being
happy in the closet they They stopped putting me in the closet because they
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was like, no matter where she goes,
she just keep doing the same thing. Like she just happy.
And happy. And at that moment, like I am a kid remembering this, right?
So at this moment today, like how do I feel about that?
When things are up against me, when things just, I don't know,
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like if you just shift your perception, happiness is within,
like you cannot break me. You cannot break that.
Okay like I'm sorry go somewhere else with that
bro but the thing is the reaction like and this is why y'all love my Haitian
because you know I love him this is my reaction he said like I can't react like
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the universe because reacting like the universe would be acting as God and that's not my my job.
So I really challenged y'all to really figure out about you, what makes you happy.
And somebody asked us, so lately last week in psych class, we did a thing.
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So everybody be mad. Cause I'd be at like, how happy are y'all today?
And so like one day everybody was just sad. I'm like twos, threes, what is going on?
So on a scale of one to five, like how happy are you? Feel me five being the
happiest ever And this girl sits down in class She says.
Nobody's never a five every day I'm like I'm a five every day What's up,
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She's like you a five every day I said I'm a five every day No matter if I'm
crying or not I'm still a five Like I don't know I'm just happy like that Like
I don't know But I've been like this since I was a kid And,
But you got to understand something. I remember just walking around,
like shout out to my, you know, my hometown and my, if you know where I'm from,
then you know what I'm talking about for real.
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Shout out to the place where the kids could just walk around,
like, and everybody know who the kids was and people would just be watching out for the kids.
Like you could literally go in the grocery store and get groceries for your
mama and them. Your mama and them could be at home.
Like, I remember just walking around, just being happy.
And then if I if I put myself in that same mindset to now like I am back to that like I really,
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am just happy and people be so upset about that and I could just tell y'all
that some people be like oh here she go here goes the happy girl yes here goes
the girl who's always happy who's always love I don't care if you're doing me
wrong or not I'm gonna still stay my peace but baby I'm I'm going to be happy
while I'm stating that peace, okay?
Like, you cannot take that from me.
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Like, I'm telling y'all, like, you got to get into that mindset and that mind
frame. Like, my happiness is my happiness.
And I ain't letting nobody have that.
Can't nobody take it. Can't nobody have it.
Can't nobody grab it. It is what it is. You want to run up, get done up.
But my happiness is going to shine right through all evil, okay?
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OK, through all the evil, through anything that's going on, I must still be happy.
Because if you are part of God's plan or whoever you believe in,
are you part of the universe plan?
Do you know that things happen for you?
It's not happening against you. It's happening to make you better.
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And when you look at that, that's like, OK, this is making me be better in the inside.
This is making me be better just in general. room.
So I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for this experience. I'm grateful to
the fact that I didn't stop or I did stop.
It was crazy because I took a test too last week and it was about grit.
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It says like on a scale of one through five, do you think like you like to give up?
And the girl was like, I can see like you're very strong. Well,
I said, nah, baby, I'll give up.
If it ain't for me, I'm letting it go. I ain't even finna play no games with
it. You gots to go, you gotta go.
If it's not for me, it got to go. If it's not adding to me, it has to go.
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There's no room for that no more in my life. Like, I'm just not holding on to
that extra weight no more.
I'm just letting things go. I want to forgive because I can.
And I love to do that. I love to be happy.
I want to be happy. Like, yes, I can see that you're hurt.
So you do crazy stuff to people. But I don't have to accept that and tolerate that, right?
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But I'm able to say, I love you, but I'm going to love you from a distance.
Okay. Like I'm happy. I want to be happy.
Oh, I can see you want to start an argument with me. You know what? But I love you though.
So let me go ahead and move my way. Oh, I might need to speak up about a situation that's going on.
If I speak up, that's going to make me happy.
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The inner me, it will be super happy
if I just spoke up and speak up
exactly when it happened and don't be waiting about two
business days later speak up the exact same
day okay like I'm just saying the intermediary
is the truth is the light of the world and I just say
I'm not happy like it's
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the like I'm not happy about the situation how
the way you talk to me but I'm happy in general but I
just don't like the way you spoke to me that doesn't it doesn't it didn't sit
well with me and it's so crazy I was talking to somebody I don't care whether
you're a businessman or not any man cuss at me it's over with I ain't got that's
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terrifying for me and it's like as me as a divine femme and as a divine,
goddess like what you yelling at me for what you over there being what my little
sister said she She's like, what you over there being messy for?
She said, she says, my brother, like, what you over there being messy for?
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But that happiness is, it's a thing. It's a drive.
Some people don't use that. Like some people are just so used to sitting in these odd feelings.
And it's like, why are you sitting there for? Right.
Like you, you, you come in here, you're a three. Why is, why is you a three?
You need to be a five, baby, all day long. I'm a five.
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High five that. I'm a five every single day. I'm not going to lie to you.
I'll be so happy about the fact that I'm just love and I'm just light,
but I'm also just really happy about the fact that I'm just breathing.
Some people are not happy because of that. Like you're not happy that you woke
up tomorrow, this morning.
Like you're not happy that you're just able to just do
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anything you're able to eat you're able to drink you're able
to sit up on your own even if you're not able to do
that like you're not happy that you're just able to just do
anything at all that your
day is just sad that you woke up like what
is really going on with you that you're just not happy I don't
know it's really weird that now that I'm sitting here talking to y'all
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I ain't think about this because
a lot of times like they used to put me in closet because
I was just happy I would never stop singing like
I don't care where I used to get in trouble at daycare when I was little and
people like what you get in trouble because I would never stop singing it used
to be time for us to go to sleep but I used to sing all the time like you know
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what I was just happy like I'm one of them people like bro like I'm happy like.
I remember what's up like my mama grounded me when we I was a little kid and I was in the room,
and I we didn't have tvs in our room then there was
only one tv in the house back in the day back in the early 90s
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one tv in the room okay and
that was in the living room so my mom used to just be like you know when
you go in your room I used to be happy to be in my room by myself not bothered
up I ain't gotta be and I had my own room at this time yes I'm happy I ain't
gotta worry about nobody dirtying up my room my room stayed clean when I was
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a kid like I don't know what's wrong with that, but I was just happy.
And a lot of people, they teach happiness outside of them.
Like, you can only be happy if you believe this or you believe that.
Bruh, you need to be happy with yourself.
You need to take some time out in the mirror and look in the mirror and say, I love you.
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I love you because of your lips. I love you because of your smile.
And even if you're a man, no homo, you really need to be happy that you handle.
Handsome you should really like I cannot
date a man who does not know that he's handsome like that
just I just I couldn't do it like no
because I need you to have that that happiness like you need to be happy with
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yourself like I am not in control of anybody else's happiness and when people
use me for their happiness I don't like that because you didn't ask me if I
I wanted to sign up for that job or not.
I'm telling you, like somebody was like, well, you used to be my peace in my
life. And I'm like, well, I didn't sign up for that.
Like you ain't even, I don't even get paid for this job. I don't want to be your peace.
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Your peace should come from within. That's not have nothing to do with me.
I might can add to it, but I don't want to be it because that's not my job.
My only job is really to make sure that I am happy about me.
And so some people when they ask me about happiness
they don't really they regret they either regret asking
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me happiness or it's a learning experience for
them they're like dang you know what maybe I need to take some self
I need to do some self-work this is what the one girl said to me so somebody
asked me like and the girl's like so you're really happy every day I said I
really am I'm happy that I got these big lips I'm happy about my eyes I am happy
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about my I just started going in about everything.
I said, I'm even happy about my fat rose.
You trippin'.
I love me. I love my body. Like, I love everything about me.
I love the fact that some days I might feel like I'm a thug or I'm a gang member.
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But some days I might feel like I'm a lover and I might want to cry all day. I'm a big baby.
You know, boss babies, them Aries, they really cry babies. Y'all don't know
if nobody told y'all that, but they really cry babies.
I'm sorry to put us out there like that. Okay. I'm real sad.
But, like, I be real happy. Like, I'm like, I tell people this all the time.
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Like, I be happy just because.
Because and it's so crazy because people can have so much
more than me and all this and all that I really
had a girl say I got a lot of
stuff compared to you and you're just happy like yeah I am happy are you upset
about that like I really can't you know what I'm really happy the fact that
I can sit with myself and you can't and you need everything else to sit with
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you I don't I can literally be in a room by myself and be okay with that like
and did I learn this at a very young age yes,
Like I got put in closets And four or five years old.
Child in a closet Singing my way out that closet Like even if you put me in
a closet I'm still gonna sing okay No matter wherever you put me I'm still gonna be happy,
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That's the thing that I really challenge
y'all to do Is really work on What is
your happiness What makes you happy It should
not be your kids It should not be the place you stay
It should not be the material things you
have Look in the mirror And see
what makes you happy And if
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you cannot look in the mirror And see what makes you
happy Through that mirror response I challenge
you to listen to Lil Wayne's song mirror Okay But also to really work on you
Because obviously you need to change you Because there's something about you
That's not making you happy And the only way that it can change is if you change it.
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And it's so crazy because I remember one day having a conversation with somebody
and one of my friends, she owns the bar and I was sitting down there and we
were talking with another person that we know.
And she's like, the real reason why I, you know, like Keita went through a lot
of different stuff than you, but Keita never changed who she was.
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No matter like what she looked like, because my weight did, if anybody know
me, my weight did go up and down.
So it was like one minute you might see me i
might be coke next day i might be thicker than
sticker next day i might be like okay we back
down slender again you feel me and it was a roller coaster back then so the
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problem with this is i want to make sure i articulate this right she said but
when you change you when you lost because she was selling a girl she said that
when you lost all your weight,
you started changing who you were.
So this inevitably changed in general about who you were and what you do and how you do it.
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So imagine yourself being not happy because of who you were.
And so I remember one time, guys, like I was so as odd With myself And I remember
There was a time That I was not happy When I was a child And it was probably
About third grade And I remember It was third grade Because third grade Was traumatic for me Okay,
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And I was just like,
Talking to God And I was just like Listen I am upset.
Because These white people Hate me because I'm black But these black people
Hate me because I'm light skinned,
Like just make me Dark skinned So that way I can only be hated once.
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What kind of prayer is that like and
then this took from my happiness right
this took from me at this
point like I feel like in third
grade was like a moment of like my happiness went away
and it was just like oh like I'm
just not I'm just not dark enough
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and people just hate me because of that and I kind of
deceptive defeated that moment but then
when I started had that time to heal and I
had to heal my colorism and about myself and my complex problems that I was
going through because I wasn't understanding why people kept calling me white
it was so offensive to me it's still offensive to me this day like my brother
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got my name saved under his phone as It's something crazy. Like...
Like, I don't want to be called a white girl. Why can't I just be called a black
girl or American Indian girl?
Like, call me something that, like, I'm going to want to correspond to that I identify as.
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Right? So I would rather be called that loving girl.
This girl who always just loves love. Like, I want to call her that.
So to me it's so
hurtful to the point where when
I did my self-healing because I want to make sure I
talk about that I really it was a moment
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like I'm going through healing and I'm getting help with my
healing like counseling from the higher power like
boom next thing I know they
was like hey guys I can't answer this prayer
like what the universe
is God universe whoever you believe in baby there's
one prayer that I would love to answer but I
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can't answer this one because I made you this way and I'm
gonna tell you why and so like we I
went through a moment of like deep healing like
and it was I felt so sad that
I allowed two different communities to take
my happiness of who I am today
right like two different communities the
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community I belong belong to in a community I do
not belong to try to steal my power like baby I'm happy because I'm me I don't
care I just don't want y'all I don't want you to hate me because I'm black but
I also don't want the black people
to hate me because I'm because I'm light-skinned either but I'm black.
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So and I then I said that I just want you I just then I was just like oh okay
well I wanted to be he had at once.
That's sad. It's ugly. It's nasty. It's disgusting.
Yes. Like every time there's something that goes on in a community and it's
like the light-skinned people really take the hit and it's like,
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okay, the community has been hurt.
A lot of y'all been done dirty. Get over that. It's y'all job to heal,
but actually really sometimes hear what a person is saying.
Like I literally had a of conversation with the universe and say, you know what?
Now I'm just happy that I'm me, bro.
Like I don't want to be nobody else. No, I don't want to be a different skin color.
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I'm the color I am because I was supposed to be this way. So that way I can
heal a lot of things. Okay.
So I have accepted my fate and I have taken my power back from both communities.
You either are going to love me or you hate me. I swear it won't make me or break me.
And I'm going to be gone wherever the money take me. Okay. This little way.
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But y'all get what I'm saying. Like sometimes you really have to be happy that you are you.
Like I'm telling y'all, like if you are a chocolate man, you need to be happy
because you chocolate. If you're caramel, you need to be happy because you caramel.
If you light skin, you need to be happy because you light skin. Embrace who you are.
Don't let somebody take your happiness from you
and I think a lot of times people don't understand like my happiness was because
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I'm me not because I'm light skin or anything I'm me I don't want to be nobody
else I don't want to be nothing else like I have accepted the fact that I'm
just light and that's just that okay like I'm red bone okay that's just that
I'm American Indian what are you
talking about? Of course I'm red bone. That's dumb.
So I have accepted what I am.
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Okay, so I'm just happy I'm me. When I smile, I'm me. I love me.
I'm so in love with me to the point where I'm like, okay, well...
What I've act like I'm really like my real Barbie
doll like I'm not explaining like I'm
acting like I'm my real Barbie okay well what
were you doing this day well what do we want to do this day or
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what do we want to do that day or how can we do this
better or how can we not do this better like I've really fallen in love with
just me I'm happy I'm at peace I'm not at war I was at war with myself because
I was hating myself because of what other people hated about me.
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So Lauren, I wish I had my phone. Lauren Hills has this song and she said that,
that she, other people were trying to tell her what her destiny was.
And she will always fail when she
tries to do the destiny That
somebody else set out for her so she
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went back and took her own destiny back and now she's winning at that So I feel
like I am back to being me so a lot of people don't know this like I used to
sing back in the day and when I was in high school Well, what's that high school? That was junior high.
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And I used to sing so beautiful, and when I went around the white people,
they used to be like, okay, well, how about you sing solos? Like,
we need you to sing the solo, and I'm like, all right, cool.
It was nothing, but when I go to sing around black people, they were like,
oh my gosh, you sing like a white girl.
You sing like a white girl, and it's like, what do you mean I sing like a white
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girl. What does that mean?
Like, why can't I sing like me? Like, I sing like Keita.
Like, I sing like Nikita. I sing like Goddess Nikita. I sing like Pretty Radiance E.
I love me, guys. Like, so if you're doing healing work around things that people have put you down,
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especially in your community, because this happens a lot in the community,
your culture or your race like
go back and reclaim your power I tell
people that all the time like yeah like I sing for fun
like I sing just because I sing because I'm free
but I usually
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just sing because sometimes singing just I don't know it's just like a it's
it's therapeutic some people it's therapeutic some people it's not some people
it is so this used used to be like a coping mechanism for me and then I started
doing other things for coping and then,
started doing other things for coping so I had to like figure it out but a part
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of me I stopped doing something that I love because the people that I loved
used to talk about me and they don't think this little joke is harmful but it
is very harmful guys like these little.
Microaggressions okay sayings hurt and people just don't know like oh you dress like a white boy,
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like how many times have a black boy heard that like
oh bro you dress like a white boy you don't dress
like no no nigga you dress like a
white boy like what why can't i
dress like me i have my own style i have my
own personality like why can't
i just be me and so what happens is
this person because they don't want to be talked about they
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change their look and then they
end up disowning a part of themselves that they
loved that brought them happiness it added
to their happiness to the inside of them okay well
I'm feeling good today I want to put on this outfit this person's probably
it was their favorite outfit but every time they wore it in front of a group
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of people this person and made fun of him like no matter even if you're you're
Mexican because it was funny I was having to talk with one of my Mexican friends
and they were talking about like how they like to dress and sometimes they're
feeling like oh so you're dressing like a black boy and he was like what.
Like so imagine this guys like you can't just dress like you you can't be you
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like I know I dated this guy shout out to this doctor I dated this doctor and
he used to have a piercing on his
lip and it was really weird because at this time guys couldn't have
Pearson's on their lips so I dated
him and I was just like oh my gosh I just like this Pearson about him I don't
know why I just liked him he I don't know he was a doctor but the thing about
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that what I want to bring up was that like his style was different it wasn't
like every other black dude that I dated it was It was just like...
It was different. And that's why I liked him. Because I don't like the same
thing. Like, that's ugly to me. Like, be different. Be you.
I don't like when people dress themselves up to try to fit an image.
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Like, that doesn't, it's not making you happy. And I can see that.
So a lot of times people don't understand, like, why people who are vibrating
high, what they're saying, like, when you're not acting like yourself.
Like, we're like, okay, we can clearly see that you're not acting like yourself.
Stuff you're doing you're not even moving the way if
you act like this you move a certain way instead
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of you moving right you're moving left and
it's wavy with the right and it's not like standing still
and tall like it's not doing that so that's what we mean like you're not being
you like stop being and pretending to be something else that you're not be you
people will love you Just for you Like I'm telling you Guys like The person that I am today.
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And when people Even some of my family members Be like Oh I love this person
That you are today I'm like bro I've been this person,
To my real friends Who've known me And loved me They be like She's been this
way Since she's been this little Since I have met her She's been this way,
Like how come You couldn't see that Because they never really Took their opportunity
They wanted to see A version of me That was not me And they wanted to Produce
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this And make this It's their story, but it isn't their story. It's my story.
I get to choose what goes on in my story.
Not nobody else, guys, but I get to choose how happy I am.
I get to choose what I like to wear. I remember I used to wear certain stuff
and I remember I used to just talk to people.
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Anytime I would talk to somebody, he'd be like, you're talking like a girl.
Why can't I just talk proper?
You know what I'm saying, like, why can't, and then white people used to be
like, oh, you talk like a black girl, like, you need to stop talking like that,
you need to write your paper, like,
and that, that, that didn't make me happy, and so now it's kind of like,
I came back, I came back for binges, okay,
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like, because it's not funny, but it's funny, because, you know,
that's how black people cope, okay, we gotta learn, we gotta work on that,
but I came back from vengeance.
I came back swinging. I said, ah, you're going to give me my speech?
Both of y'all, both of these communities going to give me back my speech,
how the way I talk, how the way I sing, however I do my thing,
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whatever it is about me, the way I dress, the way I look, the way I smell, I'm taking it back.
Nobody gets to decide about what I am and what I like to do.
Whatever I like to do is because I like to do it. And whatever community I belong
to, that's because that goes to that community.
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Nobody gets to tell me what I can and what I cannot do.
I just can't take it no more. I don't care who you are. Goodbye.
You can go. The door is right there.
You know what I'm saying? Go somewhere else where you can tell somebody else
to do or you can steal their power, but you cannot steal mine.
Guys, you got to stand up for what is right Write for you.
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If you can't be yourself and be happy in front of people, then you should not be there.
And I'm telling y'all that like I have learned this and this is what makes me
really happy because I really chose me.
I didn't choose it for my son. I didn't choose it for my mama,
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my brother, whoever, my sisters, my cousins, my aunties, my uncles.
I chose it deep down in my gut for me.
I chose it for my heart.
So if you're not choosing things for you and your happiness,
then you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing for yourself.
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Okay? Like, I'm not lying to y'all.
Really take that time out to really figure out what makes you happy about what makes you happy.
Okay. And it should be you.
You should be able to look in the mirror and be happy.
And if you look in the mirror and you're not happy, then you need to fix that.
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I remember I was reading this, this book and it was like telling you about going in front of the mirror,
sit there and cry and I was like hold on one day and I'm a person like if somebody
cries in front of me I want to comfort them I wouldn't try to cry in front of
the mirror and I'm like oh my gosh.
Something inside of me was like you are way too pretty to be crying like it's
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cat stop it and I was like oh my gosh and then I just cried it out for like
five more minutes and I just like took a minute to just hug myself.
And I was naked while I did this exercise, by the way, because y'all know I
really like to be naked. Most people don't know that. But I was naked though.
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And it was a beautiful experience with me and myself that I feel like everybody
should take this journey to really find happiness within.
You should be happy about everything you do. I'm telling y'all,
Like I really, really, I always was like a perfectionist with me,
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but I am like top tier perfectionist when it comes to loving me.
Like I'm perfectly in love with me. I am perfectly happy with me.
I am perfectly just all of this about me. I'm just going off and writing it up.
Like, okay, girl, we go to the bank and cash in that, that, that, and that.
Like, I'm just happy. happy I am
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really just happy guys like
I have let go of everything and I
am really taking my time out too because healing happens every day because you
might not know that you didn't heal this until like a situation comes up and
it's like ah you get a moment like okay let me work this out and it's crazy
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because like little phrases can trigger that,
I just really be happy. And I don't know how to explain it. Because some people,
they need people around them every day.
Those are the people that be like, I can take people around me every day.
But I can't take people around me every day. Because I sometimes need my space.
Because I might just want to be happy. Like, I really am happy about the flow.
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Like, I'm happy about air. I'm happy about the sun.
Like, I'm just happy about... I phone
somebody and they finna come get me like I
just be happy about this random stuff like okay
my ancestors like my angels and
just like I just be happy that I see other
people happy and I really be happy when you know like somebody can see that
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I'm so happy to the point where they just be happy and they smile like they
can be feeling down but when they see me they happy Because they know that I'm
going to come with some really good energy.
Like, and then they got to return it back. Like, hey, let me say it back.
And it was like, I wasn't just in a good mood. But seeing you made me happy.
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Because you always smile and you always check on me.
And you always, you do things.
And so it's just like the energy exchange of happiness is really wonderful.
Especially when you get around a lot of people that are just happy within.
Then like they're just really happy that they just them like
I'm telling you it's really beautiful to the point where like people can
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recognize that and they can see that in you some people be so down and and light
to the point where they cannot not see that okay like I want to say that because
some people can't see that but I'm a person where I'm like baby I'm gonna be happy because I can man.
If I got to be happy and it makes you mad, I'm going to turn up and be even more happier.
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Because at this moment, I choose me.
In this very moment, I choose me. I'm choosing my happiness. I'm choosing my peace.
I'm choosing to really be happy about me.
I really am happy about the way Like how I've been speaking up for myself I
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really am happy about like.
The fact that like, I just, I might need rest. And I'm able to articulate that.
Like, I'm sorry. Like I need rest. Like I need a break.
Like I'd be really happy that I just won't sit in certain situations or just
allow somebody to, I know that you trying to get over and manipulate.
And so I'm going to tell you that like, yes, I'm happy that like I do that.
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Like I say the things that I really always wanted to say.
Sometimes I used to shy away from that and people don't understand saying
that like I used to shy away from telling people how I really felt because
I knew that it would cause a conflict but by
me not speaking what I had to say and I let them
speak what they had to say left me unhappy
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so now I have came back with vengeance now baby I'm gonna say what I gotta say
you gonna hear that like we can't even have a conversation if I can't speak
my piece too it conversation happens with two people having a conversation talking
about something I need to To make sure that we talking.
But I'm happy that I'm able to communicate. Even if we disconnect.
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I'm able to talk about like. Okay listen. I didn't like the way you did this. And I don't think I can.
I should be here anymore. With you. So I'm going to disconnect from you.
I send you so much love and light. And I wish the best for you.
And I wish you the energy that you deserve.
And I'm going to go back to me. And I'm going to still be happy.
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I'm telling you, like, one day, I was noticing this...
Because some people, when they feel like they got you on a hook,
I got to pay attention to these type of people.
Because some people might feel like they got you on a hook and they like to
feed you a little bit just to see if you will you back.
Then I'm one of them people that like, oh, okay, this is what type you are.
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You're playing a game. I gots to go because I don't play games, baby.
You can go play on the PlayStation 4, but I ain't about to play with you, right?
So when you get those type of people that like to manipulate and then you're
a person and be like, I'm cool.
I don't even want to be a part of this game or participate in any hurt that
you got because people who manipulate usually are hurt, right?
Something happened to them and that's why they do that.
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So it's like when you call those people out, they don't know how to deal with
somebody who's happy because they're really not happy.
So they want to be happy. They want to assume. They want you to get any of this
energy like, okay, let you think you're happy.
But they're really are not happy.
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Like I can't help you be happy. I can give you steps to that.
I can give you some books to help you do that.
But baby, if you not happy when you look in the mirror, then I don't know what to tell you.
Because if you only happy when you look at your children, then you not even
doing yourself a service to be happy.
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I took a moment out of my life and said, my baby deserves to see me happy every day.
My baby does not deserve to see me sad, crying, angry, yelling at people.
Like I wish I never did it for him for real.
But I'm just one of them people. Like I'm just, my son's deserve,
my son deserves to see the best version of me.
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But most importantly, I deserve to see the best version of me.
Because I have hid it for so long from people
like it was always there but I just I adapted
to my environment and it became a defense mechanism of a different persona that
I had and it's like I am no longer that I don't have a persona no more it is
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what it is like this girl she's here she's always been here okay because when
we get drunk this this person always
comes out and start talking like hey what you doing here let's talk about feelings
like yeah all right like I just want to be happy I like when I remember like
a few years ago I used to go,
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see my cousin all the time and we used to go out and she was a stripper and
I used to be so happy just we used to be in a strip club because that's where
they play the best music is waiting for to to have that talk but I used to be
in the mirror just dancing looking at myself dancing to myself happy,
and like people used to come up to me like I just love your energy,
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like here let me buy you a drink,
And it wasn't even like they wanted me to dance with them or anything.
It was just like, I just want to add to your happiness.
And I tell people that, like, I don't want you to be my happiness, but you can add to me.
And if you add to me, that shows me that you value me as a person.
But at any moment that you feel like you cannot add to me, please remove yourself.
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And I will remove mine, too.
Like, if I feel like I can't add to your happiness, and if I feel like you're
making me your happiness, I remove myself. I ain't got time.
Like but I feel like you deserve to be happy So if there's anything I can leave
you with with this episode is to really take the time out to really just be happy,
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Figure out what makes you happy from within What about yourself?
Makes you happy Like is it your smile? Is it your eyes? Is it your lips?
It might be the way how your stomach is structured
structure you know it might be your legs people be so
I'm like baby I love me I do not care
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no matter what size I am small medium
large extra large 2x 3x
5x I do not care I'm still gonna be happy because I did not lose myself I'm
still here and can't nobody take that from me the only person that can take
that from me is me because I allowed it to go I just you just gotta go pick Pick it back up, guys.
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So take that time out. When next time somebody asks you, why are you happy?
Make sure you tell them a reason about you. I'm happy because I'm standing on business this year.
About me and about anything connected to me. I'm standing on business.
You can say that. There's nothing wrong with that. That means that you really care about you.
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And when I hear people say, I'm standing on business.
Only thing I hear them say is like, I'm really, I'm standing on business about
me and whatever I'm going to make me happy. I'm standing on that.
Like that's, that's what I hear when I hear that.
And I'm happy for that. But I really think guys like women, men,
or however you identify, I don't be knowing the pronouns.
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I ain't without the pronouns, baby.
I don't know. I'm a millennium. I don't know what I am, but I'm one of them
things where we didn't have all that.
Okay. So to me, however you identify Just make sure you really love yourself
Like I'm really so into my soft,
Divine feminine energy To the point where I'm just able to just sit down and be loved.
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And just be loved. Like, I'm able to really love me in a soft manner.
I'm able to, willing to allow someone to love me, all of that.
Like, even men, like, you have to be willing to be soft to your woman.
Like, I don't want no man where he hard. Like, what you being hard to me for?
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Like, what you over there being messy for? Like, why?
I'm your woman. I don't want that. like that's that's too
hard for me that's too harsh for my soul it has always been too harsh for my
soul that's the reason why people don't be understanding like oh why you think
i messed with that why i used to talk to that dude because he was soft to me
he treated me like a woman i don't know how he treated you i don't know he might
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hit you but he ain't never hit me like
not saying that you know that's not being funny but
he has never hit me like that boy he did nothing but love me
like you know what i'm saying like still protect me to
this day i have nothing to say bad about this man like
and that's what I want to tell people like when you are soft
for real for real men real men know what to do with that you have to make yourself
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open enough and be happy within especially my women of color but especially
my black women to the point where we We are no longer surviving,
but we're also not in defense mode.
We're just happy. And when black women are happy, they're submissive.
When black women are happy, they're just, they're very loving.
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Like black women has always been loving. Black men have always been loving.
But I really feel like we as a collective group of people, no matter what your
skin color is, can all take heed of being happy.
Go to the mirror, look at yourself, and say why you're happy.
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And if you're listening to this episode, no matter if you follow me on Snapchat,
Instagram, TikTok, wherever you follow me at, tell me what you're happy about in the comments.
Tell me what you happy about. Like I did your exercise and I looked in the mirror
and I was happy because I smiled or I was happy because my eyes or I was just
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happy because I just was able to stand in the mirror and just look at myself and say, I'm happy.
And there might be some things I might need to change about me, but I'm also just happy.
I'm happy that I reclaimed, like I look at myself that I'm just this strong, violent person now.
Like you'd be strong and violent, but you could be strong and,
you know, no solve. I don't know.
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Like you see the God in you. You can look in the mirror and be like,
you know what? I see the God in me today.
I see that I am a God. Like I'm okay with that.
Like, I'm just happy that I actually acknowledged this part of myself.
Like I got to go back and claim my power. And then if you do an exercise where
you go back where you're trying to reclaim claim your power, do it in the mirror,
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like, okay, I know I'm not a white girl, and y'all not friends,
keep saying that about me, and I'm gonna talk the way I talk,
because I am, like, I am me.
And I love me, and I feel like I talk like I'm proper, and if I talk like I'm proper, and it's okay,
but if one day I want to talk like I'm a gangster, that's okay,
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too, like, Like, but just be happy that you are you, okay?
And just be happy that you're smiling, you're vibrant and you're here.
But take this time out to really figure out what makes you happy about yourself.
This is not about your kids. This is not about anything outside of you.
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It's not about your clothes. It's not about your hair.
It's not about your shoes. It's not about anything besides you,
You, your physical body and the inside of you.
What are you happy about? Are you happy that your heart just forgives?
Are you happy that your heart is big?
Are you happy that like...
That you're just so loving. Like, are you happy that like, no matter if you
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come outside, like people are just happy that you were just here.
Like, it's just you. Sometimes, guys, it's really you. It's your light.
Are you happy about your light?
Are you happy about your soul? Are you happy about your path?
Like, are you happy about you?
Are you happy about your spirit? If there's something about your spirit that's not right.
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Fix it. Then do it again. Then do the exercise again. And then once you do that, then do that again.
There should never be a time that you're just not happy.
Like I'm telling you, like no matter what's going on with me,
I look in the mirror and I still be happy. I'm like, oh, baby.
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Baby. Yeah. I'd be happy for real. Like
you feel me just get in the mirror and sing to yourself stuff one day i'm telling
you like and that's how you really know if you happy is when you get it like
take the black knight for example right have i don't know if y'all seen that
but it's by martin lawrence i mean martin lawrence plays and i don't know if
it's by him but martin lawrence plays in it what's the first thing he doing
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he get in the mirror he fixing his stuff like he happy,
like he's looking in the mirror like if you not really doing this extra step
to just be like okay I'm her and I'm him And this Just be happy,
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Guys And be happy on purpose Because you being happy on purpose You being happy on purpose.
Could lead to others being happy, then your whole world changes,
right? Because your view changes.
I'm telling people, like, I don't really see people that sad anymore.
And it'd be crazy, but it'd really be true, for real.
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Like, I don't see the stuff that y'all see go on because I'm happy. I just, I don't know.
I remember one time when I was younger, people would be like,
I was probably about nine and a half.
They were like, you just live in this la-la land. I'm like,
like what land do i live in like i'm happy like i
got everything i want i'm happy but i used
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to just be happy sitting here chilling by myself people don't
understand that like yes like i would rather be sitting here chilling by
myself like i'd be happy for real like i
remember one time like and i'm gonna end it here but you know you get sometimes
you get them people who you know they like to dibble and dabble y'all know what
i'm talking about i ain't gotta say it out loud But they be dibbling and dabbling
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Like oh put her by herself Like Jemima I don't like that Baby I would love that.
You tripping And that's one thing For sure two things But saying that I know
you tripping If you thought that I wasn't going to be happy You better go back and ask my mama now,
They'll tell you all Keita didn't really go outside She liked to sit in the
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house She liked to be by herself She liked to play by herself She was just happy
by herself Yeah that part,
So you got to understand when you, when I always used to tell people,
especially when I'd be knowing people be doing dumb, weird stuff,
I'd be like, make sure that you know what you're doing.
Because when you dibbling and dabbling with people and you don't really know
them because you think like, oh, they got all these people that really just
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love them. They're always around them.
I remember this girl was like, you're just so popular.
I'm like, but how many people really know me?
I used to always question them. They're like, oh, I know her.
I was like, you don't know me for real. You might know of me, but you do not know me.
And so that's a question, like, you should ask yourself, like,
what do you know about yourself?
And how can you figure out how can you know yourself better?
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Like, what don't you like? What do you like? Do you like this color on your body or do you not?
Because I'm a person, like, I'd be like, okay, well, I like this color.
Let me try out this color. Let me try that color.
Like, okay, we look good with this color on. Like, that's when you start adding to your happiness.
Like, guys, you got to understand something. You got to be happy the inside of them.
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Okay I get out the shower I look at my body I'm like okay now
what color am I gonna put on like what's gonna
what's gonna match me today in my happiness and
that's what typically I wear guys like I really be dressing up to match my happiness
for real people don't understand that like I really really love me extremely
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love me and people don't understand that and that's and And that'd be the reason
why is because I really love me.
And I can't say that I don't love me. And I love me so much to the point where I don't know.
I just came back down from that. Like, I really love me and I'll really be happy
about the things that I'm happy about.
And I'm going to continue to be happy because I can. And if it make you mad,
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I'm going to be even more happier. Like, ah!
Let me laugh again Because that was funny But guys like You should just be happy
If it makes somebody That angry That you happy That you should keep doing it
Because then eventually You're going to be,
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People will either, people that's not supposed to be around you will, they will, they will go.
You ain't even got to do nothing. You can just be happy on purpose and they
will just fall right on off.
Okay, guys. Like, and that's, and that's where it need to be at.
So guys, I challenge y'all with the mirror challenge today to go in the mirror
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and see what makes you happy about yourself.
Yourself do not come in my comments talking about
y'all kids they were talking about the place you live or talking
about like material things and your clothes you have on like let me know what
makes you happy about yourself like you feel me like I don't know because I
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want to I'm a type of person I'm a type of girl like I could tell what kind
of sports a guy play plays by his legs,
in high school or what he's good at playing just
by his legs people be like how do you do that i'm like
i don't know it's a skill okay but i
just think it's sexy like it ain't whatever you whatever you
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really like you're gonna really study so i
love men so i'm gonna study them like okay well this
type of man got this type of leg so he played football or
he plays baseball baseball guys legs
legs are totally different soccer guys legs are
different too so i'm just saying they all have different legs but you should
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really take the time out guys and i know sometimes men might be this kind of
homo but it's not really take the time out to figure out like what makes you
happy about yourself and go back to reclaiming your power because who said it was homo.
Who said you looking in the mirror saying like what you feel happy about about your body is homo?
Who made that law? Who said it was a law? Go back and reclaim your power.
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Like that's the only thing I can tell y'all. Go back and reclaim the things
about yourself that you have given away to people that might be small that you
don't think that it's big.
I just told y'all people used to tell me I sing like a white girl or I talk like a white girl.
And I used to like stop talking that way because
I didn't want people to say I talk like a white
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person because I'm not white and it is offensive but I
used to love talking like me that's how I talk I talk proper I've been talking
proper since I was a little kid but look at the community that I grew up in
all telling me I talk like a white girl at the age of four or five like really
I ain't never been around white people I didn't even know what white people were like so it's crazy,
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like you get what I'm saying like for real like all jokes aside like there was
no I mean there was one white person where I stayed at one out of a community of probably like.
What 6,000 people one white person like we didn't see that white man like that
like we thought he was like a light-skinned version like he's just like lighter
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than me like I didn't know he was
actually white till I got older like that's crazy
but at the end of the day guys like you might not know the little jokes that
you might say might really hurt harm somebody okay and you might want to go
back and apologize for it but I really don't like when people call me white
so please don't do that I will check you but guys like love yourself go back and claim your power.
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And see what you love about yourself and how do you love it and how do you want to be.
And if you don't like something about yourself and the body,
like, well, I'm happy today because I was able to look in the mirror,
but I don't like the fact I got all this extra weight on me. Then lose it.
Okay. You might not like, okay, well, maybe I need to put some more abs on my body or I don't know.
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I'm trying to make, I'm trying to, cause a lot of guys, I know a lot of guys
be trying to gain weight.
So like you can look in the mirror and be like, you're too skinny and now Now
you need to gain some weight. So it goes either way.
Like guys, but just embrace yourself the way that you are.
Because that is who you are at this current moment. Okay.
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So I ain't going to talk y'all head off, but I feel like I talked to y'all a
little too much, but guys, let me know how you feel about my episode,
but make sure you also tell me what you love about yourself and what are you
happy about, about yourself?
I don't want to hear about nobody else. I only want to hear about you Because
that's the only thing that matters And if you do not know how to answer that
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question Then you need to reevaluate Why you have everybody else as your happiness And not you Okay.
Alright guys So make sure y'all go follow me on all my platforms At The Pretty
Red ENT Show Make sure you go follow
me Especially on my webpage At theprettyredentshow.popping.com Okay OK,
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but thank you for always tuning in, tapping in,
zapping in and listening to me. I hope this message reach all this week.
Take some time out to really do some self-love and loving on yourself.
OK, like I really appreciate y'all.
But make sure like you take that time out to really just see what you what your
happiness is and what you love about yourself.
But thank you guys for always tuning in. Tap it into the Pretty Red Ante show.
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This is your girl, Goddess Dakita, a.k.a. Pretty Red Ante.
Welcome to the pretty red and t-shirt it's your girl goddess nikita aka pretty red and t-shirt.
And if nobody told you they loved you today just know that
goddess nikita she loves you today and I'm sending so
much love and light out into the whole entire universe
to me especially me and just
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to anybody who needs it but I'm also sending love and light out to the butterflies
and the dragonflies and the birds and the bees okay I was for that dude you
know that's Luther I was about to go on a Luther note but I ain't gonna go there
okay so how y'all beautiful people
doing I love y'all y'all know I love podcasting
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I love just talking with y'all for real just keep you out of the day
to a lot of things but really I love
podcasting I ain't gonna lie to y'all so let me talk about something with y'all
I want to make this very clear when I say what I'm gonna say to certain people
and and what I'm about to tell y'all like I really feel like Like when you come
into like yourself for real and you come at a level of happiness,
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happiness comes really from within.
And I really challenge y'all to really ask yourself, like, what makes you happy?
And if you're not saying you and you have every other excuse outside of yourself
to say what makes you happy besides the way how you look, the way you smile,
the way like Like you might like how your hair flips.
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You might like the fact that you rocking your hairstyle too low.
But if it is not because of you, then I don't feel like you are achieving happiness.
Right? It's so crazy because some people would allow things,
paces, and people to be their happiness instead of them being their happiness. Right?
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And I gotta say that like I'm sorry I'm coming out
heavy and hard but I apologize okay but listen
up guys I feel like happiness is the one thing that somebody cannot take from
me like I have always been happy even when I was a little kid and people used
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to like I don't know because I was so happy I feel like people didn't like that
So people used to try to like,
Harm me And it's so weird Because like,
and it's not funny this is what I'm saying this is what
black people need to heal because this ain't this is not funny but
like I used to be so happy and so loving to
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the point where my my peoples were used to
like hate that and they used to like put me in clauses and stuff and then like
I used to cry because I wanted to get out but it's also because of spiritual
reasons like then once I came to terms with stuff and I just started just being
happy in the closet they They stopped putting me in the closet because they
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was like, no matter where she goes,
she just keep doing the same thing. Like she just happy.
And happy. And at that moment, like I am a kid remembering this, right?
So at this moment today, like how do I feel about that?
When things are up against me, when things just, I don't know,
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like if you just shift your perception, happiness is within,
like you cannot break me. You cannot break that.
Okay like I'm sorry go somewhere else with that
bro but the thing is the reaction like and this is why y'all love my Haitian
because you know I love him this is my reaction he said like I can't react like
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the universe because reacting like the universe would be acting as God and that's not my my job.
So I really challenged y'all to really figure out about you, what makes you happy.
And somebody asked us, so lately last week in psych class, we did a thing.
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So everybody be mad. Cause I'd be at like, how happy are y'all today?
And so like one day everybody was just sad. I'm like twos, threes, what is going on?
So on a scale of one to five, like how happy are you? Feel me five being the
happiest ever And this girl sits down in class She says.
Nobody's never a five every day I'm like I'm a five every day What's up,
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She's like you a five every day I said I'm a five every day No matter if I'm
crying or not I'm still a five Like I don't know I'm just happy like that Like
I don't know But I've been like this since I was a kid And,
But you got to understand something. I remember just walking around,
like shout out to my, you know, my hometown and my, if you know where I'm from,
then you know what I'm talking about for real.
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Shout out to the place where the kids could just walk around,
like, and everybody know who the kids was and people would just be watching out for the kids.
Like you could literally go in the grocery store and get groceries for your
mama and them. Your mama and them could be at home.
Like, I remember just walking around, just being happy.
And then if I if I put myself in that same mindset to now like I am back to that like I really,
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am just happy and people be so upset about that and I could just tell y'all
that some people be like oh here she go here goes the happy girl yes here goes
the girl who's always happy who's always love I don't care if you're doing me
wrong or not I'm gonna still stay my peace but baby I'm I'm going to be happy
while I'm stating that peace, okay?
Like, you cannot take that from me.
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Like, I'm telling y'all, like, you got to get into that mindset and that mind
frame. Like, my happiness is my happiness.
And I ain't letting nobody have that.
Can't nobody take it. Can't nobody have it.
Can't nobody grab it. It is what it is. You want to run up, get done up.
But my happiness is going to shine right through all evil, okay?
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OK, through all the evil, through anything that's going on, I must still be happy.
Because if you are part of God's plan or whoever you believe in,
are you part of the universe plan?
Do you know that things happen for you?
It's not happening against you. It's happening to make you better.
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And when you look at that, that's like, OK, this is making me be better in the inside.
This is making me be better just in general. room.
So I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for this experience. I'm grateful to
the fact that I didn't stop or I did stop.
It was crazy because I took a test too last week and it was about grit.
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It says like on a scale of one through five, do you think like you like to give up?
And the girl was like, I can see like you're very strong. Well,
I said, nah, baby, I'll give up.
If it ain't for me, I'm letting it go. I ain't even finna play no games with
it. You gots to go, you gotta go.
If it's not for me, it got to go. If it's not adding to me, it has to go.
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There's no room for that no more in my life. Like, I'm just not holding on to
that extra weight no more.
I'm just letting things go. I want to forgive because I can.
And I love to do that. I love to be happy.
I want to be happy. Like, yes, I can see that you're hurt.
So you do crazy stuff to people. But I don't have to accept that and tolerate that, right?
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But I'm able to say, I love you, but I'm going to love you from a distance.
Okay. Like I'm happy. I want to be happy.
Oh, I can see you want to start an argument with me. You know what? But I love you though.
So let me go ahead and move my way. Oh, I might need to speak up about a situation that's going on.
If I speak up, that's going to make me happy.
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The inner me, it will be super happy
if I just spoke up and speak up
exactly when it happened and don't be waiting about two
business days later speak up the exact same
day okay like I'm just saying the intermediary
is the truth is the light of the world and I just say
I'm not happy like it's
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the like I'm not happy about the situation how
the way you talk to me but I'm happy in general but I
just don't like the way you spoke to me that doesn't it doesn't it didn't sit
well with me and it's so crazy I was talking to somebody I don't care whether
you're a businessman or not any man cuss at me it's over with I ain't got that's
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terrifying for me and it's like as me as a divine femme and as a divine,
goddess like what you yelling at me for what you over there being what my little
sister said she She's like, what you over there being messy for?
She said, she says, my brother, like, what you over there being messy for?
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But that happiness is, it's a thing. It's a drive.
Some people don't use that. Like some people are just so used to sitting in these odd feelings.
And it's like, why are you sitting there for? Right.
Like you, you, you come in here, you're a three. Why is, why is you a three?
You need to be a five, baby, all day long. I'm a five.
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High five that. I'm a five every single day. I'm not going to lie to you.
I'll be so happy about the fact that I'm just love and I'm just light,
but I'm also just really happy about the fact that I'm just breathing.
Some people are not happy because of that. Like you're not happy that you woke
up tomorrow, this morning.
Like you're not happy that you're just able to just do
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anything you're able to eat you're able to drink you're able
to sit up on your own even if you're not able to do
that like you're not happy that you're just able to just do
anything at all that your
day is just sad that you woke up like what
is really going on with you that you're just not happy I don't
know it's really weird that now that I'm sitting here talking to y'all
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I ain't think about this because
a lot of times like they used to put me in closet because
I was just happy I would never stop singing like
I don't care where I used to get in trouble at daycare when I was little and
people like what you get in trouble because I would never stop singing it used
to be time for us to go to sleep but I used to sing all the time like you know
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what I was just happy like I'm one of them people like bro like I'm happy like.
I remember what's up like my mama grounded me when we I was a little kid and I was in the room,
and I we didn't have tvs in our room then there was
only one tv in the house back in the day back in the early 90s
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one tv in the room okay and
that was in the living room so my mom used to just be like you know when
you go in your room I used to be happy to be in my room by myself not bothered
up I ain't gotta be and I had my own room at this time yes I'm happy I ain't
gotta worry about nobody dirtying up my room my room stayed clean when I was
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a kid like I don't know what's wrong with that, but I was just happy.
And a lot of people, they teach happiness outside of them.
Like, you can only be happy if you believe this or you believe that.
Bruh, you need to be happy with yourself.
You need to take some time out in the mirror and look in the mirror and say, I love you.
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I love you because of your lips. I love you because of your smile.
And even if you're a man, no homo, you really need to be happy that you handle.
Handsome you should really like I cannot
date a man who does not know that he's handsome like that
just I just I couldn't do it like no
because I need you to have that that happiness like you need to be happy with
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yourself like I am not in control of anybody else's happiness and when people
use me for their happiness I don't like that because you didn't ask me if I
I wanted to sign up for that job or not.
I'm telling you, like somebody was like, well, you used to be my peace in my
life. And I'm like, well, I didn't sign up for that.
Like you ain't even, I don't even get paid for this job. I don't want to be your peace.
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Your peace should come from within. That's not have nothing to do with me.
I might can add to it, but I don't want to be it because that's not my job.
My only job is really to make sure that I am happy about me.
And so some people when they ask me about happiness
they don't really they regret they either regret asking
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me happiness or it's a learning experience for
them they're like dang you know what maybe I need to take some self
I need to do some self-work this is what the one girl said to me so somebody
asked me like and the girl's like so you're really happy every day I said I
really am I'm happy that I got these big lips I'm happy about my eyes I am happy
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about my I just started going in about everything.
I said, I'm even happy about my fat rose.
You trippin'.
I love me. I love my body. Like, I love everything about me.
I love the fact that some days I might feel like I'm a thug or I'm a gang member.
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But some days I might feel like I'm a lover and I might want to cry all day. I'm a big baby.
You know, boss babies, them Aries, they really cry babies. Y'all don't know
if nobody told y'all that, but they really cry babies.
I'm sorry to put us out there like that. Okay. I'm real sad.
But, like, I be real happy. Like, I'm like, I tell people this all the time.
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Like, I be happy just because.
Because and it's so crazy because people can have so much
more than me and all this and all that I really
had a girl say I got a lot of
stuff compared to you and you're just happy like yeah I am happy are you upset
about that like I really can't you know what I'm really happy the fact that
I can sit with myself and you can't and you need everything else to sit with
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you I don't I can literally be in a room by myself and be okay with that like
and did I learn this at a very young age yes,
Like I got put in closets And four or five years old.
Child in a closet Singing my way out that closet Like even if you put me in
a closet I'm still gonna sing okay No matter wherever you put me I'm still gonna be happy,
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That's the thing that I really challenge
y'all to do Is really work on What is
your happiness What makes you happy It should
not be your kids It should not be the place you stay
It should not be the material things you
have Look in the mirror And see
what makes you happy And if
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you cannot look in the mirror And see what makes you
happy Through that mirror response I challenge
you to listen to Lil Wayne's song mirror Okay But also to really work on you
Because obviously you need to change you Because there's something about you
That's not making you happy And the only way that it can change is if you change it.
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And it's so crazy because I remember one day having a conversation with somebody
and one of my friends, she owns the bar and I was sitting down there and we
were talking with another person that we know.
And she's like, the real reason why I, you know, like Keita went through a lot
of different stuff than you, but Keita never changed who she was.
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No matter like what she looked like, because my weight did, if anybody know
me, my weight did go up and down.
So it was like one minute you might see me i
might be coke next day i might be thicker than
sticker next day i might be like okay we back
down slender again you feel me and it was a roller coaster back then so the
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problem with this is i want to make sure i articulate this right she said but
when you change you when you lost because she was selling a girl she said that
when you lost all your weight,
you started changing who you were.
So this inevitably changed in general about who you were and what you do and how you do it.
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So imagine yourself being not happy because of who you were.
And so I remember one time, guys, like I was so as odd With myself And I remember
There was a time That I was not happy When I was a child And it was probably
About third grade And I remember It was third grade Because third grade Was traumatic for me Okay,
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And I was just like,
Talking to God And I was just like Listen I am upset.
Because These white people Hate me because I'm black But these black people
Hate me because I'm light skinned,
Like just make me Dark skinned So that way I can only be hated once.
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What kind of prayer is that like and
then this took from my happiness right
this took from me at this
point like I feel like in third
grade was like a moment of like my happiness went away
and it was just like oh like I'm
just not I'm just not dark enough
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and people just hate me because of that and I kind of
deceptive defeated that moment but then
when I started had that time to heal and I
had to heal my colorism and about myself and my complex problems that I was
going through because I wasn't understanding why people kept calling me white
it was so offensive to me it's still offensive to me this day like my brother
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got my name saved under his phone as It's something crazy. Like...
Like, I don't want to be called a white girl. Why can't I just be called a black
girl or American Indian girl?
Like, call me something that, like, I'm going to want to correspond to that I identify as.
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Right? So I would rather be called that loving girl.
This girl who always just loves love. Like, I want to call her that.
So to me it's so
hurtful to the point where when
I did my self-healing because I want to make sure I
talk about that I really it was a moment
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like I'm going through healing and I'm getting help with my
healing like counseling from the higher power like
boom next thing I know they
was like hey guys I can't answer this prayer
like what the universe
is God universe whoever you believe in baby there's
one prayer that I would love to answer but I
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can't answer this one because I made you this way and I'm
gonna tell you why and so like we I
went through a moment of like deep healing like
and it was I felt so sad that
I allowed two different communities to take
my happiness of who I am today
right like two different communities the
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community I belong belong to in a community I do
not belong to try to steal my power like baby I'm happy because I'm me I don't
care I just don't want y'all I don't want you to hate me because I'm black but
I also don't want the black people
to hate me because I'm because I'm light-skinned either but I'm black.
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So and I then I said that I just want you I just then I was just like oh okay
well I wanted to be he had at once.
That's sad. It's ugly. It's nasty. It's disgusting.
Yes. Like every time there's something that goes on in a community and it's
like the light-skinned people really take the hit and it's like,
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okay, the community has been hurt.
A lot of y'all been done dirty. Get over that. It's y'all job to heal,
but actually really sometimes hear what a person is saying.
Like I literally had a of conversation with the universe and say, you know what?
Now I'm just happy that I'm me, bro.
Like I don't want to be nobody else. No, I don't want to be a different skin color.
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I'm the color I am because I was supposed to be this way. So that way I can
heal a lot of things. Okay.
So I have accepted my fate and I have taken my power back from both communities.
You either are going to love me or you hate me. I swear it won't make me or break me.
And I'm going to be gone wherever the money take me. Okay. This little way.
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But y'all get what I'm saying. Like sometimes you really have to be happy that you are you.
Like I'm telling y'all, like if you are a chocolate man, you need to be happy
because you chocolate. If you're caramel, you need to be happy because you caramel.
If you light skin, you need to be happy because you light skin. Embrace who you are.
Don't let somebody take your happiness from you
and I think a lot of times people don't understand like my happiness was because
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I'm me not because I'm light skin or anything I'm me I don't want to be nobody
else I don't want to be nothing else like I have accepted the fact that I'm
just light and that's just that okay like I'm red bone okay that's just that
I'm American Indian what are you
talking about? Of course I'm red bone. That's dumb.
So I have accepted what I am.
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Okay, so I'm just happy I'm me. When I smile, I'm me. I love me.
I'm so in love with me to the point where I'm like, okay, well...
What I've act like I'm really like my real Barbie
doll like I'm not explaining like I'm
acting like I'm my real Barbie okay well what
were you doing this day well what do we want to do this day or
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what do we want to do that day or how can we do this
better or how can we not do this better like I've really fallen in love with
just me I'm happy I'm at peace I'm not at war I was at war with myself because
I was hating myself because of what other people hated about me.
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So Lauren, I wish I had my phone. Lauren Hills has this song and she said that,
that she, other people were trying to tell her what her destiny was.
And she will always fail when she
tries to do the destiny That
somebody else set out for her so she
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went back and took her own destiny back and now she's winning at that So I feel
like I am back to being me so a lot of people don't know this like I used to
sing back in the day and when I was in high school Well, what's that high school? That was junior high.
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And I used to sing so beautiful, and when I went around the white people,
they used to be like, okay, well, how about you sing solos? Like,
we need you to sing the solo, and I'm like, all right, cool.
It was nothing, but when I go to sing around black people, they were like,
oh my gosh, you sing like a white girl.
You sing like a white girl, and it's like, what do you mean I sing like a white
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girl. What does that mean?
Like, why can't I sing like me? Like, I sing like Keita.
Like, I sing like Nikita. I sing like Goddess Nikita. I sing like Pretty Radiance E.
I love me, guys. Like, so if you're doing healing work around things that people have put you down,
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especially in your community, because this happens a lot in the community,
your culture or your race like
go back and reclaim your power I tell
people that all the time like yeah like I sing for fun
like I sing just because I sing because I'm free
but I usually
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just sing because sometimes singing just I don't know it's just like a it's
it's therapeutic some people it's therapeutic some people it's not some people
it is so this used used to be like a coping mechanism for me and then I started
doing other things for coping and then,
started doing other things for coping so I had to like figure it out but a part
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of me I stopped doing something that I love because the people that I loved
used to talk about me and they don't think this little joke is harmful but it
is very harmful guys like these little.
Microaggressions okay sayings hurt and people just don't know like oh you dress like a white boy,
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like how many times have a black boy heard that like
oh bro you dress like a white boy you don't dress
like no no nigga you dress like a
white boy like what why can't i
dress like me i have my own style i have my
own personality like why can't
i just be me and so what happens is
this person because they don't want to be talked about they
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change their look and then they
end up disowning a part of themselves that they
loved that brought them happiness it added
to their happiness to the inside of them okay well
I'm feeling good today I want to put on this outfit this person's probably
it was their favorite outfit but every time they wore it in front of a group
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of people this person and made fun of him like no matter even if you're you're
Mexican because it was funny I was having to talk with one of my Mexican friends
and they were talking about like how they like to dress and sometimes they're
feeling like oh so you're dressing like a black boy and he was like what.
Like so imagine this guys like you can't just dress like you you can't be you
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like I know I dated this guy shout out to this doctor I dated this doctor and
he used to have a piercing on his
lip and it was really weird because at this time guys couldn't have
Pearson's on their lips so I dated
him and I was just like oh my gosh I just like this Pearson about him I don't
know why I just liked him he I don't know he was a doctor but the thing about
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that what I want to bring up was that like his style was different it wasn't
like every other black dude that I dated it was It was just like...
It was different. And that's why I liked him. Because I don't like the same
thing. Like, that's ugly to me. Like, be different. Be you.
I don't like when people dress themselves up to try to fit an image.
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Like, that doesn't, it's not making you happy. And I can see that.
So a lot of times people don't understand, like, why people who are vibrating
high, what they're saying, like, when you're not acting like yourself.
Like, we're like, okay, we can clearly see that you're not acting like yourself.
Stuff you're doing you're not even moving the way if
you act like this you move a certain way instead
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of you moving right you're moving left and
it's wavy with the right and it's not like standing still
and tall like it's not doing that so that's what we mean like you're not being
you like stop being and pretending to be something else that you're not be you
people will love you Just for you Like I'm telling you Guys like The person that I am today.
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And when people Even some of my family members Be like Oh I love this person
That you are today I'm like bro I've been this person,
To my real friends Who've known me And loved me They be like She's been this
way Since she's been this little Since I have met her She's been this way,
Like how come You couldn't see that Because they never really Took their opportunity
They wanted to see A version of me That was not me And they wanted to Produce
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this And make this It's their story, but it isn't their story. It's my story.
I get to choose what goes on in my story.
Not nobody else, guys, but I get to choose how happy I am.
I get to choose what I like to wear. I remember I used to wear certain stuff
and I remember I used to just talk to people.
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Anytime I would talk to somebody, he'd be like, you're talking like a girl.
Why can't I just talk proper?
You know what I'm saying, like, why can't, and then white people used to be
like, oh, you talk like a black girl, like, you need to stop talking like that,
you need to write your paper, like,
and that, that, that didn't make me happy, and so now it's kind of like,
I came back, I came back for binges, okay,
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like, because it's not funny, but it's funny, because, you know,
that's how black people cope, okay, we gotta learn, we gotta work on that,
but I came back from vengeance.
I came back swinging. I said, ah, you're going to give me my speech?
Both of y'all, both of these communities going to give me back my speech,
how the way I talk, how the way I sing, however I do my thing,
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whatever it is about me, the way I dress, the way I look, the way I smell, I'm taking it back.
Nobody gets to decide about what I am and what I like to do.
Whatever I like to do is because I like to do it. And whatever community I belong
to, that's because that goes to that community.
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Nobody gets to tell me what I can and what I cannot do.
I just can't take it no more. I don't care who you are. Goodbye.
You can go. The door is right there.
You know what I'm saying? Go somewhere else where you can tell somebody else
to do or you can steal their power, but you cannot steal mine.
Guys, you got to stand up for what is right Write for you.
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If you can't be yourself and be happy in front of people, then you should not be there.
And I'm telling y'all that like I have learned this and this is what makes me
really happy because I really chose me.
I didn't choose it for my son. I didn't choose it for my mama,
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my brother, whoever, my sisters, my cousins, my aunties, my uncles.
I chose it deep down in my gut for me.
I chose it for my heart.
So if you're not choosing things for you and your happiness,
then you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing for yourself.
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Okay? Like, I'm not lying to y'all.
Really take that time out to really figure out what makes you happy about what makes you happy.
Okay. And it should be you.
You should be able to look in the mirror and be happy.
And if you look in the mirror and you're not happy, then you need to fix that.
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I remember I was reading this, this book and it was like telling you about going in front of the mirror,
sit there and cry and I was like hold on one day and I'm a person like if somebody
cries in front of me I want to comfort them I wouldn't try to cry in front of
the mirror and I'm like oh my gosh.
Something inside of me was like you are way too pretty to be crying like it's
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cat stop it and I was like oh my gosh and then I just cried it out for like
five more minutes and I just like took a minute to just hug myself.
And I was naked while I did this exercise, by the way, because y'all know I
really like to be naked. Most people don't know that. But I was naked though.
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And it was a beautiful experience with me and myself that I feel like everybody
should take this journey to really find happiness within.
You should be happy about everything you do. I'm telling y'all,
Like I really, really, I always was like a perfectionist with me,
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but I am like top tier perfectionist when it comes to loving me.
Like I'm perfectly in love with me. I am perfectly happy with me.
I am perfectly just all of this about me. I'm just going off and writing it up.
Like, okay, girl, we go to the bank and cash in that, that, that, and that.
Like, I'm just happy. happy I am
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really just happy guys like
I have let go of everything and I
am really taking my time out too because healing happens every day because you
might not know that you didn't heal this until like a situation comes up and
it's like ah you get a moment like okay let me work this out and it's crazy
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because like little phrases can trigger that,
I just really be happy. And I don't know how to explain it. Because some people,
they need people around them every day.
Those are the people that be like, I can take people around me every day.
But I can't take people around me every day. Because I sometimes need my space.
Because I might just want to be happy. Like, I really am happy about the flow.
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Like, I'm happy about air. I'm happy about the sun.
Like, I'm just happy about... I phone
somebody and they finna come get me like I
just be happy about this random stuff like okay
my ancestors like my angels and
just like I just be happy that I see other
people happy and I really be happy when you know like somebody can see that
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I'm so happy to the point where they just be happy and they smile like they
can be feeling down but when they see me they happy Because they know that I'm
going to come with some really good energy.
Like, and then they got to return it back. Like, hey, let me say it back.
And it was like, I wasn't just in a good mood. But seeing you made me happy.
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Because you always smile and you always check on me.
And you always, you do things.
And so it's just like the energy exchange of happiness is really wonderful.
Especially when you get around a lot of people that are just happy within.
Then like they're just really happy that they just them like
I'm telling you it's really beautiful to the point where like people can
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recognize that and they can see that in you some people be so down and and light
to the point where they cannot not see that okay like I want to say that because
some people can't see that but I'm a person where I'm like baby I'm gonna be happy because I can man.
If I got to be happy and it makes you mad, I'm going to turn up and be even more happier.
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Because at this moment, I choose me.
In this very moment, I choose me. I'm choosing my happiness. I'm choosing my peace.
I'm choosing to really be happy about me.
I really am happy about the way Like how I've been speaking up for myself I
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really am happy about like.
The fact that like, I just, I might need rest. And I'm able to articulate that.
Like, I'm sorry. Like I need rest. Like I need a break.
Like I'd be really happy that I just won't sit in certain situations or just
allow somebody to, I know that you trying to get over and manipulate.
And so I'm going to tell you that like, yes, I'm happy that like I do that.
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Like I say the things that I really always wanted to say.
Sometimes I used to shy away from that and people don't understand saying
that like I used to shy away from telling people how I really felt because
I knew that it would cause a conflict but by
me not speaking what I had to say and I let them
speak what they had to say left me unhappy
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so now I have came back with vengeance now baby I'm gonna say what I gotta say
you gonna hear that like we can't even have a conversation if I can't speak
my piece too it conversation happens with two people having a conversation talking
about something I need to To make sure that we talking.
But I'm happy that I'm able to communicate. Even if we disconnect.
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I'm able to talk about like. Okay listen. I didn't like the way you did this. And I don't think I can.
I should be here anymore. With you. So I'm going to disconnect from you.
I send you so much love and light. And I wish the best for you.
And I wish you the energy that you deserve.
And I'm going to go back to me. And I'm going to still be happy.
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I'm telling you, like, one day, I was noticing this...
Because some people, when they feel like they got you on a hook,
I got to pay attention to these type of people.
Because some people might feel like they got you on a hook and they like to
feed you a little bit just to see if you will you back.
Then I'm one of them people that like, oh, okay, this is what type you are.
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You're playing a game. I gots to go because I don't play games, baby.
You can go play on the PlayStation 4, but I ain't about to play with you, right?
So when you get those type of people that like to manipulate and then you're
a person and be like, I'm cool.
I don't even want to be a part of this game or participate in any hurt that
you got because people who manipulate usually are hurt, right?
Something happened to them and that's why they do that.
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So it's like when you call those people out, they don't know how to deal with
somebody who's happy because they're really not happy.
So they want to be happy. They want to assume. They want you to get any of this
energy like, okay, let you think you're happy.
But they're really are not happy.
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Like I can't help you be happy. I can give you steps to that.
I can give you some books to help you do that.
But baby, if you not happy when you look in the mirror, then I don't know what to tell you.
Because if you only happy when you look at your children, then you not even
doing yourself a service to be happy.
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I took a moment out of my life and said, my baby deserves to see me happy every day.
My baby does not deserve to see me sad, crying, angry, yelling at people.
Like I wish I never did it for him for real.
But I'm just one of them people. Like I'm just, my son's deserve,
my son deserves to see the best version of me.
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But most importantly, I deserve to see the best version of me.
Because I have hid it for so long from people
like it was always there but I just I adapted
to my environment and it became a defense mechanism of a different persona that
I had and it's like I am no longer that I don't have a persona no more it is
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what it is like this girl she's here she's always been here okay because when
we get drunk this this person always
comes out and start talking like hey what you doing here let's talk about feelings
like yeah all right like I just want to be happy I like when I remember like
a few years ago I used to go,
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see my cousin all the time and we used to go out and she was a stripper and
I used to be so happy just we used to be in a strip club because that's where
they play the best music is waiting for to to have that talk but I used to be
in the mirror just dancing looking at myself dancing to myself happy,
and like people used to come up to me like I just love your energy,
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like here let me buy you a drink,
And it wasn't even like they wanted me to dance with them or anything.
It was just like, I just want to add to your happiness.
And I tell people that, like, I don't want you to be my happiness, but you can add to me.
And if you add to me, that shows me that you value me as a person.
But at any moment that you feel like you cannot add to me, please remove yourself.
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And I will remove mine, too.
Like, if I feel like I can't add to your happiness, and if I feel like you're
making me your happiness, I remove myself. I ain't got time.
Like but I feel like you deserve to be happy So if there's anything I can leave
you with with this episode is to really take the time out to really just be happy,
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Figure out what makes you happy from within What about yourself?
Makes you happy Like is it your smile? Is it your eyes? Is it your lips?
It might be the way how your stomach is structured
structure you know it might be your legs people be so
I'm like baby I love me I do not care
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no matter what size I am small medium
large extra large 2x 3x
5x I do not care I'm still gonna be happy because I did not lose myself I'm
still here and can't nobody take that from me the only person that can take
that from me is me because I allowed it to go I just you just gotta go pick Pick it back up, guys.
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So take that time out. When next time somebody asks you, why are you happy?
Make sure you tell them a reason about you. I'm happy because I'm standing on business this year.
About me and about anything connected to me. I'm standing on business.
You can say that. There's nothing wrong with that. That means that you really care about you.
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And when I hear people say, I'm standing on business.
Only thing I hear them say is like, I'm really, I'm standing on business about
me and whatever I'm going to make me happy. I'm standing on that.
Like that's, that's what I hear when I hear that.
And I'm happy for that. But I really think guys like women, men,
or however you identify, I don't be knowing the pronouns.
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I ain't without the pronouns, baby.
I don't know. I'm a millennium. I don't know what I am, but I'm one of them
things where we didn't have all that.
Okay. So to me, however you identify Just make sure you really love yourself
Like I'm really so into my soft,
Divine feminine energy To the point where I'm just able to just sit down and be loved.
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And just be loved. Like, I'm able to really love me in a soft manner.
I'm able to, willing to allow someone to love me, all of that.
Like, even men, like, you have to be willing to be soft to your woman.
Like, I don't want no man where he hard. Like, what you being hard to me for?
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Like, what you over there being messy for? Like, why?
I'm your woman. I don't want that. like that's that's too
hard for me that's too harsh for my soul it has always been too harsh for my
soul that's the reason why people don't be understanding like oh why you think
i messed with that why i used to talk to that dude because he was soft to me
he treated me like a woman i don't know how he treated you i don't know he might
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hit you but he ain't never hit me like
not saying that you know that's not being funny but
he has never hit me like that boy he did nothing but love me
like you know what i'm saying like still protect me to
this day i have nothing to say bad about this man like
and that's what I want to tell people like when you are soft
for real for real men real men know what to do with that you have to make yourself
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open enough and be happy within especially my women of color but especially
my black women to the point where we We are no longer surviving,
but we're also not in defense mode.
We're just happy. And when black women are happy, they're submissive.
When black women are happy, they're just, they're very loving.
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Like black women has always been loving. Black men have always been loving.
But I really feel like we as a collective group of people, no matter what your
skin color is, can all take heed of being happy.
Go to the mirror, look at yourself, and say why you're happy.
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And if you're listening to this episode, no matter if you follow me on Snapchat,
Instagram, TikTok, wherever you follow me at, tell me what you're happy about in the comments.
Tell me what you happy about. Like I did your exercise and I looked in the mirror
and I was happy because I smiled or I was happy because my eyes or I was just
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happy because I just was able to stand in the mirror and just look at myself and say, I'm happy.
And there might be some things I might need to change about me, but I'm also just happy.
I'm happy that I reclaimed, like I look at myself that I'm just this strong, violent person now.
Like you'd be strong and violent, but you could be strong and,
you know, no solve. I don't know.
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Like you see the God in you. You can look in the mirror and be like,
you know what? I see the God in me today.
I see that I am a God. Like I'm okay with that.
Like, I'm just happy that I actually acknowledged this part of myself.
Like I got to go back and claim my power. And then if you do an exercise where
you go back where you're trying to reclaim claim your power, do it in the mirror,
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like, okay, I know I'm not a white girl, and y'all not friends,
keep saying that about me, and I'm gonna talk the way I talk,
because I am, like, I am me.
And I love me, and I feel like I talk like I'm proper, and if I talk like I'm proper, and it's okay,
but if one day I want to talk like I'm a gangster, that's okay,
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too, like, Like, but just be happy that you are you, okay?
And just be happy that you're smiling, you're vibrant and you're here.
But take this time out to really figure out what makes you happy about yourself.
This is not about your kids. This is not about anything outside of you.
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It's not about your clothes. It's not about your hair.
It's not about your shoes. It's not about anything besides you,
You, your physical body and the inside of you.
What are you happy about? Are you happy that your heart just forgives?
Are you happy that your heart is big?
Are you happy that like...
That you're just so loving. Like, are you happy that like, no matter if you
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come outside, like people are just happy that you were just here.
Like, it's just you. Sometimes, guys, it's really you. It's your light.
Are you happy about your light?
Are you happy about your soul? Are you happy about your path?
Like, are you happy about you?
Are you happy about your spirit? If there's something about your spirit that's not right.
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Fix it. Then do it again. Then do the exercise again. And then once you do that, then do that again.
There should never be a time that you're just not happy.
Like I'm telling you, like no matter what's going on with me,
I look in the mirror and I still be happy. I'm like, oh, baby.
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Baby. Yeah. I'd be happy for real. Like
you feel me just get in the mirror and sing to yourself stuff one day i'm telling
you like and that's how you really know if you happy is when you get it like
take the black knight for example right have i don't know if y'all seen that
but it's by martin lawrence i mean martin lawrence plays and i don't know if
it's by him but martin lawrence plays in it what's the first thing he doing
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he get in the mirror he fixing his stuff like he happy,
like he's looking in the mirror like if you not really doing this extra step
to just be like okay I'm her and I'm him And this Just be happy,
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Guys And be happy on purpose Because you being happy on purpose You being happy on purpose.
Could lead to others being happy, then your whole world changes,
right? Because your view changes.
I'm telling people, like, I don't really see people that sad anymore.
And it'd be crazy, but it'd really be true, for real.
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Like, I don't see the stuff that y'all see go on because I'm happy. I just, I don't know.
I remember one time when I was younger, people would be like,
I was probably about nine and a half.
They were like, you just live in this la-la land. I'm like,
like what land do i live in like i'm happy like i
got everything i want i'm happy but i used
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to just be happy sitting here chilling by myself people don't
understand that like yes like i would rather be sitting here chilling by
myself like i'd be happy for real like i
remember one time like and i'm gonna end it here but you know you get sometimes
you get them people who you know they like to dibble and dabble y'all know what
i'm talking about i ain't gotta say it out loud But they be dibbling and dabbling
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Like oh put her by herself Like Jemima I don't like that Baby I would love that.
You tripping And that's one thing For sure two things But saying that I know
you tripping If you thought that I wasn't going to be happy You better go back and ask my mama now,
They'll tell you all Keita didn't really go outside She liked to sit in the
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house She liked to be by herself She liked to play by herself She was just happy
by herself Yeah that part,
So you got to understand when you, when I always used to tell people,
especially when I'd be knowing people be doing dumb, weird stuff,
I'd be like, make sure that you know what you're doing.
Because when you dibbling and dabbling with people and you don't really know
them because you think like, oh, they got all these people that really just
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love them. They're always around them.
I remember this girl was like, you're just so popular.
I'm like, but how many people really know me?
I used to always question them. They're like, oh, I know her.
I was like, you don't know me for real. You might know of me, but you do not know me.
And so that's a question, like, you should ask yourself, like,
what do you know about yourself?
And how can you figure out how can you know yourself better?
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Like, what don't you like? What do you like? Do you like this color on your body or do you not?
Because I'm a person, like, I'd be like, okay, well, I like this color.
Let me try out this color. Let me try that color.
Like, okay, we look good with this color on. Like, that's when you start adding to your happiness.
Like, guys, you got to understand something. You got to be happy the inside of them.
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Okay I get out the shower I look at my body I'm like okay now
what color am I gonna put on like what's gonna
what's gonna match me today in my happiness and
that's what typically I wear guys like I really be dressing up to match my happiness
for real people don't understand that like I really really love me extremely
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love me and people don't understand that and that's and And that'd be the reason
why is because I really love me.
And I can't say that I don't love me. And I love me so much to the point where I don't know.
I just came back down from that. Like, I really love me and I'll really be happy
about the things that I'm happy about.
And I'm going to continue to be happy because I can. And if it make you mad,
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I'm going to be even more happier. Like, ah!
Let me laugh again Because that was funny But guys like You should just be happy
If it makes somebody That angry That you happy That you should keep doing it
Because then eventually You're going to be,
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People will either, people that's not supposed to be around you will, they will, they will go.
You ain't even got to do nothing. You can just be happy on purpose and they
will just fall right on off.
Okay, guys. Like, and that's, and that's where it need to be at.
So guys, I challenge y'all with the mirror challenge today to go in the mirror
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and see what makes you happy about yourself.
Yourself do not come in my comments talking about
y'all kids they were talking about the place you live or talking
about like material things and your clothes you have on like let me know what
makes you happy about yourself like you feel me like I don't know because I
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want to I'm a type of person I'm a type of girl like I could tell what kind
of sports a guy play plays by his legs,
in high school or what he's good at playing just
by his legs people be like how do you do that i'm like
i don't know it's a skill okay but i
just think it's sexy like it ain't whatever you whatever you
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really like you're gonna really study so i
love men so i'm gonna study them like okay well this
type of man got this type of leg so he played football or
he plays baseball baseball guys legs
legs are totally different soccer guys legs are
different too so i'm just saying they all have different legs but you should
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really take the time out guys and i know sometimes men might be this kind of
homo but it's not really take the time out to figure out like what makes you
happy about yourself and go back to reclaiming your power because who said it was homo.
Who said you looking in the mirror saying like what you feel happy about about your body is homo?
Who made that law? Who said it was a law? Go back and reclaim your power.
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Like that's the only thing I can tell y'all. Go back and reclaim the things
about yourself that you have given away to people that might be small that you
don't think that it's big.
I just told y'all people used to tell me I sing like a white girl or I talk like a white girl.
And I used to like stop talking that way because
I didn't want people to say I talk like a white
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person because I'm not white and it is offensive but I
used to love talking like me that's how I talk I talk proper I've been talking
proper since I was a little kid but look at the community that I grew up in
all telling me I talk like a white girl at the age of four or five like really
I ain't never been around white people I didn't even know what white people were like so it's crazy,
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like you get what I'm saying like for real like all jokes aside like there was
no I mean there was one white person where I stayed at one out of a community of probably like.
What 6,000 people one white person like we didn't see that white man like that
like we thought he was like a light-skinned version like he's just like lighter
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than me like I didn't know he was
actually white till I got older like that's crazy
but at the end of the day guys like you might not know the little jokes that
you might say might really hurt harm somebody okay and you might want to go
back and apologize for it but I really don't like when people call me white
so please don't do that I will check you but guys like love yourself go back and claim your power.
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And see what you love about yourself and how do you love it and how do you want to be.
And if you don't like something about yourself and the body,
like, well, I'm happy today because I was able to look in the mirror,
but I don't like the fact I got all this extra weight on me. Then lose it.
Okay. You might not like, okay, well, maybe I need to put some more abs on my body or I don't know.
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I'm trying to make, I'm trying to, cause a lot of guys, I know a lot of guys
be trying to gain weight.
So like you can look in the mirror and be like, you're too skinny and now Now
you need to gain some weight. So it goes either way.
Like guys, but just embrace yourself the way that you are.
Because that is who you are at this current moment. Okay.
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So I ain't going to talk y'all head off, but I feel like I talked to y'all a
little too much, but guys, let me know how you feel about my episode,
but make sure you also tell me what you love about yourself and what are you
happy about, about yourself?
I don't want to hear about nobody else. I only want to hear about you Because
that's the only thing that matters And if you do not know how to answer that
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question Then you need to reevaluate Why you have everybody else as your happiness And not you Okay.
Alright guys So make sure y'all go follow me on all my platforms At The Pretty
Red ENT Show Make sure you go follow
me Especially on my webpage At theprettyredentshow.popping.com Okay OK,
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but thank you for always tuning in, tapping in,
zapping in and listening to me. I hope this message reach all this week.
Take some time out to really do some self-love and loving on yourself.
OK, like I really appreciate y'all.
But make sure like you take that time out to really just see what you what your
happiness is and what you love about yourself.
But thank you guys for always tuning in. Tap it into the Pretty Red Ante show.
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This is your girl, Goddess Dakita, a.k.a. Pretty Red Ante.
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