August 8, 2024 • 43 mins
Welcome to another episode of the Pretty Red ENT Show with your host, Goddess Naquita, aka Pretty Red ENT! After a brief vacation, Goddess Naquita back with a powerful message on the importance of letting go of people, places, and things that no longer serve you. This episode is all about closing old doors and stepping into new, more fulfilling chapters of your life.
Goddess Naquita emphasizes the necessity of trusting the universe, God, or whatever higher power you believe in, to guide you through this process. She shares personal stories and insights on how to recognize when it’s time to shut a door for good, and how to embrace the new opportunities that await you on the other side.
Listen in as she discusses the energy dynamics of relationships, the importance of setting boundaries, and the transformative power of healing. Whether it's toxic family members, friends, or past romantic connections, Goddess Naquita encourages you to make peace with the past and move forward with love and confidence.
Join the conversation and get inspired to take that final step towards your new life. As always, Goddess Naquita sends her love and light to all her listeners. Don't forget to share your thoughts on this episode and stay tuned for more enlightening discussions!
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Welcome to the pretty red and t show it's
your girl goddess nikita aka pretty red and and if nobody told you they loved
you today just know that goddess nikita she loves you so much and i'm sending
so much love and light out into the whole planet the universe the angels the ancestors,
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you know, they gets down. Okay.
In the water. Okay.
How are you beautiful people been doing? I'm so sorry. I've been on vacation
on while on vacation while on vacation, but I am back.
I have been recording episodes. So I am going to upload those.
So that way, like, you know, y'all can get back in tune. We'll listen to the
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podcast. I had a few people here and they're like, when's the next episode?
Like you had to crazy. Like, and I'm like, I gotta come in.
I I got to come in. I got to come in. Like, but I'm right now I'm just in like
preparation mode where I'm just recording for times when I'm going to release them.
And it's different. Everything is a time thing. And it's like,
this comes out at the time that it needs to come out. Okay.
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So guys, I have this episode is let go of the things that you need to let go
and stop playing games. Okay.
All right. So shots fire. Y'all know when the shots fire, I'm about to go in.
I'm not about to play no games with y'all.
I love y'all so much. And I hope y'all love me back But I want to say this guys
Like when it is time to let go of people,
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places, and things You need to let go Like all the way Like let it go Shut the
door If you really trust the universe on what you're doing in life Like and you trust God,
the universe Like whoever you believe in If you really trust them You gonna
really understand That when it's time to let go It's really time to let go Okay
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okay, it's time to let go.
It's time to let go of the hurt. It's time to let go of anything that is standing
in the way of you being successful.
This year is about like, what is down got to go up and what goes up got to go
down. Like it's, it's a transfer of energy.
Okay. It's a transfer of everything. So if you feel like, oh,
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I'm not in the spot that I was to be, this is your year for your comeback year.
So I really, in alignment with whoever you were supposed to let go,
let them, let them let, like, let them go.
And this is the greatest time, like prime example, cause I had to say this.
So it's like Noel Lyles when he run the hundred, the hundred race, right?
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The thing about this is, is that he won because he leaned his,
he said, I heard a voice in me that said, I got to lean.
He said, but I was, it is kind of like he was saying, like I prayed and then
bam, something told me at that moment, like lean.
And then I lean and I won. He said, but I already knew because when I was talking
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to God, this is what he said. when I was talking to God, God said that I was
going to win by this much, like an inch of my hair. And he did, right?
The problem with this is that's, well, it's not really no problem,
but this is what it is. You're in your final lap.
Like if you're running a race like how this is, like you're right there.
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You're about to cross the finish line and ain't nobody else racing against you. Just you.
You're about to cross it. All you got to do is just lean a little little bit and you win.
So I think this retrograde period is about that right now. It's just leaning
in a little bit and you're going to win.
Believe in yourself a little bit and you're going to win. Okay.
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But guys, I'm telling you, it was a point where I was on vacation and I'm like,
oh, I ain't never coming back here.
And it wasn't that I was saying it to be spiteful.
It was more like, Like, that's kind of...
Like, this is God showing me, like, it's time to shut this door and it's time
to disconnect from people that are no longer serving me, right?
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And serving my purpose and serving the thing, because some people can be very toxic, guys.
They carry your energy and it's not in alignment to who you going to be and who you need to be.
They were only there to serve a purpose, to push you more closer to your purpose, right? Right.
So I feel like my whole time when I went home was to finally say like, OK, I love y'all.
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It is this is that. And then when I went on vacation again, I was like,
OK, well, this ain't where I'm supposed to be.
And then it was like I just I started meditating, you know, meditation.
God, my angels, my ancestors was all talking to me.
And it was just more of a thing Like it's Like you need to make sure You say
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this on the podcast Like cause some people Need to disconnect.
They gotta disconnect From people, places, and things Like and once we say Shut
that door We really mean shut that door And I know how I learned And I know how,
Most Aries people learn Okay All Aries people learn the same way Like it's really
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weird But hey it's a thing Okay but,
Like you Aries people We're very sensitive did so when
we you you ain't gotta really say it too many times like
we get it and so like i
got it and i was like okay so this door gotta be shut
like if you want blessings to come to you and this is what spiritual people
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are saying man you gotta clean out that old stuff and remove old things for
new things to come in right so if you're not removing the old stuff how are
you You're going to let anything new come in your life.
And so I'm a person where I'm like, you know what?
You kind of got a point about that one, okay?
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You got a whole point about this and I can't even be mad about it, but it is truthful.
Like you cannot, you can open a door and not go in and just look at the door
that was, that you need to close because you walked out of that door.
You didn't close the door.
That's the, that's the message. When you walk out the door, close the door and
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then open up a new one and close that door.
So that way you're not going back there at all.
That's what people, places and
things. I'm telling you, it's to the point where I'm like, y'all know me.
I'll be sitting back clocking the tea. I'll be looking at people because I love people.
But it's like some people I'm just like, I can't see why. Why?
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I was like, me and you was never cool. Like, I don't shut the door on you.
Like, there's no coming back.
Like, once you, like an Aries, I read a post the other day. It's like,
once you cross the Aries, they can't unsee that.
We might forgive you, but we can't unsee what you did. Like,
we have to acknowledge that you did that.
And we just can't unsee it anymore. And I'm okay with that.
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And it's like, I can't do certain things to make you happy.
I have a boundary. boundary and my boundary is
is once I place you on the other side of the fence
stay there once you because once you chose
that side now I place you there I'm like
okay you chose that side down this is your place where you are at stay there
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don't come try come back over here don't try to come open my door stay here
the thing is now that we talking about a fence or picking a side we want to
say you pick that door now shut it and I'm gonna go in this door and shut at it.
And then this is the way how they don't come back.
And I'm telling you, like, I really, I was doing a whole lot, guys.
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So I was, I was at a gym and I was working out, by the way, all summer long.
So I was at a gym. But in order to participate in a gym, you had to attend like church and devotion.
So I'm like, you know, this is something that my mom likes to do.
So let me do this with her, like while I was up there and around my mom and
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stuff. So I'm like, okay, I'll do this with you because I know like you like it or whatnot.
So I started to sit there. And so I started to participate, right?
Because I'm a person like, yeah, I want to sit down, but I got stuff I got on
my mind. I got people who want to talk about it.
And I helped to see, and it helped me out a whole lot just to get some of the
stuff out. And I was like, gosh, I don't even know y'all. Y'all don't know me, but I don't care.
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But it just felt like so loving because the more I was open about what I was
going through, the more it helped everybody around me.
Everybody who was sitting there participating.
It even helped like some people be honest about like what was going on with
them, what they were experiencing.
And like, like this one lady, like I'm telling y'all to the point where this
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one lady was like, if I was like, hold on, like we, I was like,
she like kind of like my, she my grandma age.
I ain't playing that. So I went and talked and told somebody cause something was going on with her.
And I told somebody like, this is what's happening to this lady.
And she's like, if it wasn't for you, I don't even think I would be saying that.
But if it wasn't for you being as open as you telling your stories,
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then I don't even know if I would
have been able to speak about what was happening to me when I leave here.
And I was like, oh my gosh, like I'll stand here with you. Like, do you need a ride?
I'll give you a ride. Like, but it was just so amazing to be around people who
like, just love you just to love you.
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And to heal and tell their story and stuff that was going on to them going on with them.
So I'm kind of happy about that. Right. So it was like,
I was kind of like happy that I kind of got the stuff out about me because I
was like, oh my gosh, I was telling the pastor lady, that's my girl.
And I was like, baby, listen, I was like, these guys, they just be really addicted
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to me. And I'm like, some people, I used to be toxic.
I used to like that power I had over them. I'm like, but I'm in recovery now
about the power that I had over men.
It's not that it's a bad thing. It's just more that it's a control mechanism, right? Right.
Like, and I didn't, I do minds a little bit different than most women when I'm saying that.
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And it was more about, okay, like, I know you're going to call me back because I'm just a good person.
So I had that power over you to make you call me back.
And I'm a person to admit that, like, I'm a good person. And I know if I give
out good energy, you're going to always want me.
But I'm at a point now that I'm like, it's getting out of control.
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Y'all men is acting crazy. crazy like no
ma'am no ma'am okay no
y'all acting crazy right now and I'm
like so just sitting there
and talking about like my issues on like what I was healing and some trauma
I was like I heal from because a lot of times people don't talk about the trauma
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that they heal from you talking about trauma that you're healing are you healed
from can help somebody else sitting next to you and And I'm telling you,
I was talking about like different situations,
what happened to me when I was younger and like how like some guys are.
And this like led a whole like wormhole, but it ended up helping out at least
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five women that was in there with me.
And I was like, I don't even feel bad. And I was like, I'm so much in my truth
that I don't care if this helps somebody, I'm willing to speak about it because
healing is to each his own, but healing is every day.
But sometimes hearing how somebody speaks their truth about something that you
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cannot be honest about is so powerful, right?
And I used to tell people that all the time, like, I can't really say if somebody
did this or they didn't do it.
That's still their truth. I mean, I used to not admit it, but I do now.
So I can't say that if you was to ask me a few years ago, I would have lied.
But it wasn't that I was lying on other people. It was lying about something that happened to me.
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But now I'm able to speak about it and I'm able to like say like, this is what happened.
And this is how I came up out of that.
And this is like where I stand at this now. out and like I look back at that
like I don't even know that life no more but this is it got me to who I am today
and so I will say like that was like the highlight of my trip was really just,
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when I was at the gym working out and just sitting there just like listening
because I was telling them I was like well spiritual people be saying the same thing.
Only thing we be saying that we be saying it like this which it means the same
thing here and then And like I had one pastor, she's like, I get what you're saying.
She's like, because secondly, you're right. And she's like, I agree with that.
And there was one girl, she's just like, ah, like she's a little hurt.
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And it's like, you can't really talk to people or connect to people until you heal.
This other girl, she's not as hurt as you. And she's more accepting.
But I don't know what's really going on behind closed door and what your heart is.
But my heart is always on love. So I can't really speak on that.
But I would say like I really had a good time of
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real I had a really wonderful time
on vacation it was eye-opening but I have learned how
to have healthy boundaries like we talked about
boundaries how to have boundaries with friends and family
like and I always have really good boundaries but it
was more about like okay I'm like some of these guys like no
you don't get to be my friend you don't
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want to be my man you're not my friend that's dumb no I'm not
accepting that no no you gotta go and so a
lot of times like guys from the past
they will want to be my friend and I'm like why I
know that I was a good friend to you but you wasn't a good
friend to me and whatever the reason is has nothing to do with me that's more
of a you problem right so what I will say and what has helped me to grow and
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be beautiful and to be accepting is is that I have learned over this past has
vacation to shut the door.
Like before I walk into a new door, I have to shut the door to every old connection.
No, you cannot call me. No, you cannot. No.
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Like it's to the point where I think some people who thought they still might
had a chance. No, they don't. Like ever.
Don't call me. Don't. And I was like, I was explaining to him,
like, I really don't like to be upset.
I really don't like to be mad. I really don't like to cuss or nothing.
I really just like to be happy. sloppy and at some
point right if I have
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to like feel like I gotta raise my voice that you are say
something that's like really nasty I don't
like that but sometimes people like that and men like to get some women out
of character because it means like oh you still care no I'm really saying this
because I'm an Aries bro stop playing with me like I don't like it like I don't
like what you did I don't like what was said I don't like how you try to involve
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me in a triangle and did did not ask like,
like, or just like you wasn't ready.
And then you're playing games. And like, I don't know how to explain it.
Like I told this one dude, I said, listen here.
I said, bro, listen, one thing for sure. When I started talking to you,
I knew your heart hurt. I'm spiritual.
I'm very top dead. I knew your heart hurt and that you still loved another person.
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That's why I never like took you serious at all.
And he was like, well, I thought you did. I'm like, I didn't,
we went on one or two dates and I was like, oh, no, he really hurt. He love that girl.
Whatever girl he dealing with, he loves her. Why should I involve myself with any man?
I'm like, bro, I have never did that ever, by the way.
I'm like, I'm not involving myself with a man like you over here hurt for real.
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And then you don't really want nothing for me, but you're willing to lay down
and have sex with a woman that you don't want to commit to.
That's dangerous to me. like you need mental help but that's like that's like
you could try to commit premeditated murder.
Like that's that's dangerous to me i don't i don't i
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don't know i'm about to lay down with a man i don't want to
commit with i have never been that type of person like anybody
i have laid down what i had a spiritual connection with period there was a connection
like we always talk i'm a deep talker so it's like really weird but it's like
i had to go through and like make sure like it was like the universe god my
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angels like my ancestors like get rid of these people
these people have old connections to you like they don't even know the real you now,
like there's no need for them to call you nothing but I've been telling them
not to call me but it was like this time was a little bit different okay guys
it was very different to the point where they knew not to call me.
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I don't know how to explain it besides they know better than to call me,
Right. And I'm not too upset about it. I'm happy about it.
I feel very grateful. I feel like the universe, my angels, ancestors,
God, whoever y'all believe in protects me and like help me because I'm very
sensitive and I don't like to be mean to people. And I'm like, what do you want?
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You really don't want anything. What do you want?
Like, I don't want to be your friend. Like when I wanted to be friends,
you didn't want to be friends.
So now I should let you back in? And like, no, no, no, no, no.
This is not how that goes. And I don't know.
Like, I don't know. And then I guess like, I don't know.
Like, it was really weird of what was going on, how it was going on.
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I was just like, oh, this is crazy right now.
Like, I just was like sitting back, just like watching. Like,
I gotta let these connections go.
Y'all got to get out my way. Like, you don't want to contact me? Fine.
I'm happy about that. But it was to the point where these people were telling
me they didn't want me to contact them. And then I was like,
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I don't contact you anyways.
You get what I'm saying? Like, if I don't contact you anyways,
why would you contact me?
Like, and then you want me to not contact you when I already don't contact you.
I don't follow you on nothing. We don't talk on a daily.
But yet you want me to not contact you. dude, this does not make sense at all, baby.
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Like, and I have to say that, like, it doesn't make sense. And so I was like very happy about that.
Like, I don't think y'all understand like all the connections that like just fell off on their own.
It was like, hey, don't you ever call me ever again? I'm like, yes.
I didn't even say nothing. Like it's to the point where I didn't have to say
nothing to these people. I was like, I'm never calling you again. Thank you.
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And it it was like all because I didn't say anything but it was
just like they just went away I prayed
I was like I had to sit
down talk with the angels the answers at the time to go and
then I had to talk to the little man whoever to hurry up people is
I need to talk to you because I'm tired of these people hitting me
up and I'm telling you prayers be answered okay
manifestations was real okay
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but now guys like all
jokes aside for real for real guys I had a really wonderful time
but really learning how to close
the door that I walked out of a lot of times people talk about like yeah you
know once God closed one door you're gonna walk until another one God might
need you to close that door but you gotta be willing to walk out that door and
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close it yourself okay close it bam God gonna close it I feel like if you and
God do it as a team it ain't gonna be opened again.
You and your ancestors do it as a team, it ain't going to be open again.
Whoever you believe in, do it as a team, it's not going to be open again.
And then bam, there go a new beautiful door that you got that's just waiting for you. Everything.
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I always tell people like, if you're being warned to let someone go and you
don't, who fault is that?
That's technically yours. You are giving all the signs to let this person place
or things go, but yet you still keep going back there.
I'm a person like, baby, you only got to treat me wrong. You only got to do
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me wrong once. I'm out the door.
I ain't even about to play with you, okay? I can't do it.
You got one time to really treat me any type of way, like where it's negative
to the point where I'm like, I'm cool.
I ain't dealing with that I'm too grown to deal with stuff Where people don't
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communicate People don't want to communicate,
I'm too grown to Like I have to be able to speak The way I speak And for you
to understand And for me to understand Because I'm a person that loves to communicate.
So that way we don't have to have this communication again. Okay.
But I'm telling y'all like, if y'all been having some people to just fall off
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out of nowhere and like, I really didn't go through and say anything about like,
Oh, well this, this and that.
And then I'm thinking about, dang, well, when I went before I went on vacation,
on vacation, on vacation, I really, I did some stuff that I normally don't do,
but I was kind of happy about it. Like it was like, okay, I got it. I got rid of these.
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I was like, Like, I don't want no old connections that are, that's not going to bring me any good.
And I always tell people, like, I don't like to be connected to people where
if I talk to you, nothing good happens. You got to stop calling me.
You have to stop calling me.
Like, you're, you're not doing
me any favors. You're only doing yourself a favor and that's disgusting.
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You're an energy vampire. You're an energy user.
Baby, like, listen, you got to be putting the work to be around me.
Like i'm i'm always healing i'm always doing some healing work.
I'm always Doing something to make myself better So at some point I only can
be around that same energy because it thrives.
I love seeing people Do the work and staying away from areas that they shouldn't
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be in Like I love to see people choose them in a relationship Like okay.
Listen, I done did this relationship with you and it was not working.
So i'm gonna move on right now right like it's
not benefiting me like any way shape form
or how like it's not benefiting for me so I have
to go so I'm gonna choose me first this time like
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I don't want to leave no door open I'ma leave the door open no baby I ain't
leaving that door open I'm shutting that door goodbye you gotta go gotta go
you gotta go you gotta get out but guess what when you get out I'm getting out
too and I'm going to a new door and baby that door I'm gonna shut that door you will not be
allowed to cross even a line to even get close to this new door because you're
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going to be where you at and I'm going to be where I'm at. You chose your side. Stay there.
And y'all got to start making people stand on what they do. Like if you pick
a side, you better stay there.
Don't try to come back over here and pick this side like, oh,
I just love, no, baby, you do not love me. I don't care if you a family, friend, foe, whoever.
Once you pick that side, you got to stand on that is love.
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I'm not standing on no other side besides love. So if it's not loving,
love, lovable, if it's not about love, then I'm not doing it, bro.
I can't. I can forgive you, but I have a boundary.
Like if you, if I keep letting you in and you keep hurting me doing the same
exact thing, I have a boundary up against you where you cannot no longer cross
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come near me or anything.
A lot of times in black families and families in general,
we are taught to love the people that hurt us no matter what,
instead of saying, bro, you did some really horrible stuff. So it's really time to go.
I can't keep letting you back in my life. You have hurt me.
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You have done nothing to help me be a better person. So you have to go.
A lot of times people do not do that. They do not let go of people who they're
supposed to let go of because they want to love because this is what we're taught
to do is to love regardless of anything, forgive.
I can forgive you, but you cannot come back over And this way,
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it keeps me from having to heal a wound that is now starting to heal and reopen it again.
Let my skin grow all the way back before you try to come back.
But then by the time my skin grow back and it's all beautiful again,
then you should be a beautiful person inside too.
But I can't let you come back over here. You got to stay there.
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Once you choose a side, stay there.
Okay? OK, guys, y'all need to start making people stand on the things that they
are saying, what they're doing. Like, no, you chose this path.
Like I'm telling you, it was so many times like I was getting messages.
I was getting downloads for people. But I'm like, listen, and like they're not listening.
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They ain't got nothing to do with me, baby. I gave the message out. I gots to go.
And baby, the demise to this is what it is.
I can't I can't dispute that. I ain't
got nothing to do with that the only thing I could do is say like hey
I gave the message out to you I love you after
that I am gone I am gone I love you I'm gonna be over here on my island and
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you be wherever you at on your island but baby I'm over on an island that you
can't even come across this water to even deal with me you can't even make it
across the water to deal with me,
So I love you enough for the both of us,
but I love you to say like hey This is my boundary and you can't come back over
here Like prime example if y'all know that you have some toxic family members
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and this is real true toxic family members toxic friends You keep forgiving
them for the same exact thing.
You keep telling them this hurts. This hurts. This hurts. This hurts.
This hurts Oh, no, you took their side stay there Like I don't like the way you speak to me.
I don't like what you create Just stay there I don't care.
I don't want to be around you because instead of us healing and us being loving,
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you're just always so negative.
Just stay over there. I'm going to leave you alone and you leave me alone and that's fine.
And I'm okay with that. But a lot of times you get people who wants to still
over extend their self or still be connected to your energy core when you need to let go.
Okay, guys, like y'all got to really let go. You got to let go of these places
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too. Dude, like, you know, every time you go in this particular area,
nothing good ever happens. Nothing.
Nothing good ever happens at all. But yet you still keep going over there.
You got to ask yourself, like, why do I keep putting myself into harmful situations?
Why do I want myself? Why do I keep putting myself into a situation where this is hurtful?
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You and this is how you break that cycle that you're in. And it's like,
I got to get out. I need air.
I'm an Aries. you can't control me because the cycles are controlled baby once
I figure out I'm in I'm baby I gotta scout all right I gotta get up out of here
I gotta move on and I gotta be okay with that but I have to do it in a loving
way and I'm telling you like some people they had to go.
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Baby you gotta go you gotta go okay like really I'm telling y'all it was some people like,
prime example I was with my grandma and her sisters at the park and I was like
I was I was like I just if there's anybody I want to avoid I want to avoid this boy right here,
like and so I seen this boy he looks at me he's
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like but don't I know you I was like yeah you know me and I was like what's
my name he's like I'm so in love with you I said but what's my name you don't
even know nothing about me but you love me no you love me because I turned you
down I told you I'm not dealing with no man who can take me out on no date and
I told you that like and this This is years ago. I'm talking about this man.
I've been knowing him since my son was first born. Can I say,
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are you just mad because I didn't have sex with you either?
Like a lot of times guys, they love the guys. Men love to chase.
They're not perverted. They lie when they say they don't. They lie.
Okay. Men love to chase. Okay. But the whole thing is, is like when I'm not
chasing, we're not playing a game here. And I'm just telling you like, no, I don't want you.
Like, and then you got this thing. And he's like, well, I love you.
I say, if you love me, then what's my name?
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Mind you. I was like, okay, so what's my mama name? You don't know my name,
my mama. My mama used to stay by you. So you don't know my name, my mama name.
You don't know, you know, my family members, like my grandma's sisters,
but you don't even know my grandma name.
You don't know my name, my mama name or my grandma name. Like what's going on?
And then we made a bet about like my name. Cause he's like, oh, well, your name is this.
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And then once he remembered my name, he was like, oh, well, yeah,
this is your Facebook name. I was like, that is a nickname that I gave myself.
Does not mean that this is my name. Star is not my name Like yes Star is not
my name Guys Like it's my nickname People call me Star Hey Feel me But that is not My name.
Like, my name is my name. And this is what I go by now. Like,
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I don't go by anything else besides this. Like, period.
And to make a long story short, he was just like, well, I still love you.
And we betted on, like, my name. And so he owed me $50. And I'm like, oh, what?
So then I seen him while I was walking. I did a lot of walking,
a lot of exercising. And I was like, I seen him while I was walking one day.
Waiting on my grandma and them. I went walking around the whole Covington. And I was like, hold on.
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He seen me. He's like, you going to buy me a water? I said why would I
buy you a water you owe me $50 boy bad
like I don't like no he's like you want a ride I
was like no I don't need no ride but thank you dude I do appreciate it and it
was just like a whole little moment where it was like I hope
that you let go he was like man you mean I'm like I'm not
mean I'm just real I don't like you like
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I can't sit up here I'm not gonna sit up here in front and be
like oh I like you knowing I do
not like you at all you you have no chance at
all with me I'm not that type of person to play
games with you if I know that you do not have a chance with me and I know
I do not have no way to like I'm
not gonna play with you I'm so in love to the
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point where I will not play with you like no I love me
like no I'm not I'm not about to play with you
because I know how it feels to be played with so I'm
not about to play with you like I don't like you like I don't
even like you as a person right now like I mean you cool people's like
you cool peoples but as far as like
what it goes down to like really dealing with that
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like a person telling me you're just infatuated with
me you don't really I mean you probably love me because I'm a really good person
and I like I always typically help people and be real with people but you don't
know me you don't know my name my mama name but he did know my granddaddy's
name which is kind of crazy like how you don't know my family it just don't
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make no sense okay You know my auntie Anil,
but you don't know my grandma, but you know my grandma's husband.
Which is my granddaddy. Knew his name and everything.
My grandma was like, well, that was my husband. And he was like, oh.
Like what? That ain't even a brother and sister.
So, but I don't know. It was weird, but he did know my grandpa's name,
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but he did not know my grandma's name, my mama's name or my name.
So I was like, how can you say that you like me? You don't even know me.
You don't even know the first thing about me, which is my name.
You don't see me a few times. Like every time I used to go to my mom's house,
I used to be ducking where my mom used to stay, where she used to stay.
I used to be ducking like, oh my gosh, this boy gonna see me.
He's gonna come over and say hi.
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And I I always speak to people because I'm never not me, but now I'm in a different
era. You got a different person. I am not friendly.
I never was friendly. The problem is that when you add my mom into a remix with
people, I typically don't go off as much as I would if I was on my own. Like, hi, how you doing?
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Because I speak because I'm nice, but for my mom, I'm not going to do all that extra stuff,
not unless you really tempt me to go there with you, but
I'm not about to just be mean like I'm just
not that type of person so I used to always speak and he used to
be like hey what are you doing like let me take you out or I will do a
move and I'm just like I don't know what I'm thinking I just don't think it's
like you know what I'm saying but I feel like people carry energy guys that
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you gotta like heal out your body and once you get rid of that energy out of
your body your system even when you're dealing with men if you dealt with men
sexually or women sexually.
Some women carry energy. So do men. Once you get that energy up out of your body, like...
Like, I don't know, it's different. Like, I feel like everybody should do like
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healing around sexual work when it comes to like how to get people's energy outside of your body.
Because some people be like, well, they stay there. No, they don't.
I'm here to tell my side of the story, they don't.
You can get rid of their energy so that way you can have a whole new energy
field inside of your sacred areas.
Like you gotta be really adamant in doing that healing work to the point where
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it's like, Like, okay, like I need this healing. I need this healing.
Especially when it comes to sexual healing. It's a lot of energy work that you
have to do to remove certain things out of your body.
And to get that cycle out of you and stop attracting some of the same people
that you are attracting.
And I feel like that comes down to some generational stuff with black people that they need to heal.
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And so people of color in general or people in general, they have a lot of things
that they have to heal when it comes around the sexual stuff.
So I will say guys like once
the door is shut or once you know that
your angels and ancestors the God Allah whoever
you believe in because you know I don't discriminate when I talk on my pockets
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it's like whoever you believe in like I can't tell you if you right or wrong
like that's your choice but if they are telling you to close a door walk through
that door and slam that door
shut and just say, thank you and walk into your new life because it's just that close.
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And I think this last Mercury retrograde is going to help you with that,
with communicating like, Hey, I'm, I'm tired.
I don't want to deal with that. Like.
And some guys, they don't even realize like all you see is sex.
So you like, especially if you dealt dealing with a woman who has like,
are dealing with a man because men go through sexual abuse too.
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I'm probably going to talk about that.
And it's just unspoken of.
Okay. But they do go through it. So it's like when you're dealing with people
with sexual abuse and especially black families, because they've been abused the most. Okay.
Not saying anybody else haven't, but they have. it's been
passed down generations through generations right
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but when you're dealing with people like that and
then you as a person you're trying to attract a woman or a man and you like
them whether you like them sexual not always talking about sex is not going
to get that person especially if they're doing healing work around that that's
going to really turn them off and sometimes people be like dang all they look
at me is like sex like i know my sex is good but
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still like what? Like I'm a whole person.
So like it can become all very offensive. And so I always tell people to take
heed on to how somebody else is feeling because you never know. Okay. You never know.
So guys, my message for today is really go up and shut that door,
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or go out that door, shut that door, and then walk into your new door and shut that door.
I mean, because if you reopen a new door that you have open and then you looking
back at the old doors you shut, sometimes you might want to go there,
but that's not where you're supposed to be at.
And sometimes your angels and ancestors and God will block you from even trying.
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They'll remove the door and set it somewhere you can't even get to the door no more.
You can't even walk in the door no more. And the prime example is,
is that, like, I'm a person, I said, man, I ain't going out no more.
I ain't going to no clubs.
I'm like, no, baby. Like, if we ain't going somewhere where it's high scale,
like, I ain't going nowhere in the hood no more.
Every time I was supposed to go to
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a club with one of my family members or friends, we never made it inside.
I was like, all right, that was my sign.
And I just really sat there. I was like, thank you, God. Thank you, universe.
Thank you, angels and ancestors. Like, thank whoever just got my back because that's temptation.
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But I'm not supposed to be in that door no more.
I'm not supposed to be in that door no more. So I don't go to that door no more.
So I'm happy about that. I'm not sad about it.
It is what it is. But I'm happy about that, guys.
I'm like, all right, cool. Like I'm good I'm Gucci So the real thing that I
can really say about that guys Is that I love myself enough to not do that to me.
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Like, and I was just like, well, I ain't going through that doing no more.
I'm over that. That was then. This is now.
This is my new life that I want to, I'm choosing to do and the places and things.
So I really want to encourage y'all to make sure that whatever new path that
y'all got, like, don't look back at the old path. Don't go back to the old ways.
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Because sometimes you're going to have those people hit you up.
It's Mercury retrograde, them exes and this and that. that, how can you love
yourself enough to be like, you didn't do it right the first time.
What makes me think you're going to do it right at the second time?
And sometimes people do, I do believe in second chances. Right.
And I do believe in like forgiving people, like, but you have to make that effort for real.
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But if, if we are meant to be, we are meant to be like, I don't care how many
times like this, this and that, maybe we're not meant to be at this time because
we both have healing we need to do.
So we separated, but it was never bad when we separated.
So that's great. So then now we're moving forward. And so I just really,
I'm just really happy about that.
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Like whether we're friends, romantic relationship, places and things like I'm
not meant to have that. I'm not meant to have it.
It's not where I'm, it's not meant to be on my new path.
It's not meant, it's not in my
door. The only way I can get this old stuff is if I opened up that door.
And all I'm saying is if you were meant to be with somebody in this new door,
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y'all gotta understand something.
If y'all was meant to be with this person in this new door that you want to
open, they would be in there.
The fact that you're looking out and they're there trying to get in,
or they're trying to call you back to the other door, like come back over here,
knowing that they're toxic, they're doing stuff that you don't want to do no
more. And they want you to do it too.
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And it's like I don't like that. I don't want to do it But yet you're looking out that window.
You're looking out that door shut the door And enjoy this new life that you
got like and enjoy the new peace that you got enjoy the new love that you have
You have to start really enjoying the door that you're really in and where you're
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meant to go the path You're meant to be on is your path path.
No matter how long it takes you to get to the path that you're supposed to be,
you will get there. God don't let you miss nothing.
Your angels and ancestors are not going to let you miss nothing.
Whoever you believe in the most high, like whoever you believe in,
they're not going to let you miss nothing.
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Please believe that. Like you got to trust and you got to have faith,
like and know that you know that you know that you good.
Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you gotta know that you know that you
know that you good but my only message guys is really shut that door and keep moving.
And go into the new life that you got. Like, it's waiting on you.
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And you right there. Just right there.
So, guys, let me know how y'all feel about my episode. I miss y'all.
I'm going to definitely post my other episode.
I'm going to go live tomorrow, bro. I got a lot of stuff I'm going to do tomorrow with my podcast.
But I really love y'all. Thanks for always listening to me, shouting me out,
and just doing the things that y'all do.
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Like, y'all really be loving me on my podcast. I can tell that through social
media. of the year, y'all be like, when you're posting a new episode?
And I was like, and I was going to post another episode, but then I was like,
oh, I didn't like how it sounded.
And I was like, no, let me go outside.
And I was just like, man, let me just like, and the episodes that I did record
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that I did, like, I was just, wasn't feeling like it was the right time to drop it.
And I feel like the time will be coming up pretty soon. So it's going to be
right on time, Which I need to hear Different stuff like that But I'm telling
y'all guys If you don't clean out that old stuff Throw it outside,
Wrap, tie it in a knot Put it in a trash can.
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Get rid of anything that's standing in the way of you receiving gold,
Get rid of anything that is standing in the way of you being who you is And
once the universal angels, the ancestors God shut a door,
leave it there Because I'm telling you pretty soon The door is not even going
to be there to even go back to it So it's like say your goodbyes now Make peace
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with it make love with it and move on like it's it's time,
It's it's definitely time and it's time to really love yourself.
Okay So let me know how you feel about the episode hit me up on all platforms
at the pretty red ent show Or let me know my web page at the pretty red ent show.pobbing.com.
Let me know how you feel about the episode You know, just let me know how I
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feel But thanks for always tuning in Tapping in to the Pretty Red ENT show It's
your girl goddess Nikita A.K.A. Pretty Red ENT.
Welcome to the pretty red and t show it's
your girl goddess nikita aka pretty red and and if nobody told you they loved
you today just know that goddess nikita she loves you so much and i'm sending
so much love and light out into the whole planet the universe the angels the ancestors,
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you know, they gets down. Okay.
In the water. Okay.
How are you beautiful people been doing? I'm so sorry. I've been on vacation
on while on vacation while on vacation, but I am back.
I have been recording episodes. So I am going to upload those.
So that way, like, you know, y'all can get back in tune. We'll listen to the
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podcast. I had a few people here and they're like, when's the next episode?
Like you had to crazy. Like, and I'm like, I gotta come in.
I I got to come in. I got to come in. Like, but I'm right now I'm just in like
preparation mode where I'm just recording for times when I'm going to release them.
And it's different. Everything is a time thing. And it's like,
this comes out at the time that it needs to come out. Okay.
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So guys, I have this episode is let go of the things that you need to let go
and stop playing games. Okay.
All right. So shots fire. Y'all know when the shots fire, I'm about to go in.
I'm not about to play no games with y'all.
I love y'all so much. And I hope y'all love me back But I want to say this guys
Like when it is time to let go of people,
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places, and things You need to let go Like all the way Like let it go Shut the
door If you really trust the universe on what you're doing in life Like and you trust God,
the universe Like whoever you believe in If you really trust them You gonna
really understand That when it's time to let go It's really time to let go Okay
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okay, it's time to let go.
It's time to let go of the hurt. It's time to let go of anything that is standing
in the way of you being successful.
This year is about like, what is down got to go up and what goes up got to go
down. Like it's, it's a transfer of energy.
Okay. It's a transfer of everything. So if you feel like, oh,
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I'm not in the spot that I was to be, this is your year for your comeback year.
So I really, in alignment with whoever you were supposed to let go,
let them, let them let, like, let them go.
And this is the greatest time, like prime example, cause I had to say this.
So it's like Noel Lyles when he run the hundred, the hundred race, right?
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The thing about this is, is that he won because he leaned his,
he said, I heard a voice in me that said, I got to lean.
He said, but I was, it is kind of like he was saying, like I prayed and then
bam, something told me at that moment, like lean.
And then I lean and I won. He said, but I already knew because when I was talking
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to God, this is what he said. when I was talking to God, God said that I was
going to win by this much, like an inch of my hair. And he did, right?
The problem with this is that's, well, it's not really no problem,
but this is what it is. You're in your final lap.
Like if you're running a race like how this is, like you're right there.
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You're about to cross the finish line and ain't nobody else racing against you. Just you.
You're about to cross it. All you got to do is just lean a little little bit and you win.
So I think this retrograde period is about that right now. It's just leaning
in a little bit and you're going to win.
Believe in yourself a little bit and you're going to win. Okay.
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But guys, I'm telling you, it was a point where I was on vacation and I'm like,
oh, I ain't never coming back here.
And it wasn't that I was saying it to be spiteful.
It was more like, Like, that's kind of...
Like, this is God showing me, like, it's time to shut this door and it's time
to disconnect from people that are no longer serving me, right?
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And serving my purpose and serving the thing, because some people can be very toxic, guys.
They carry your energy and it's not in alignment to who you going to be and who you need to be.
They were only there to serve a purpose, to push you more closer to your purpose, right? Right.
So I feel like my whole time when I went home was to finally say like, OK, I love y'all.
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It is this is that. And then when I went on vacation again, I was like,
OK, well, this ain't where I'm supposed to be.
And then it was like I just I started meditating, you know, meditation.
God, my angels, my ancestors was all talking to me.
And it was just more of a thing Like it's Like you need to make sure You say
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this on the podcast Like cause some people Need to disconnect.
They gotta disconnect From people, places, and things Like and once we say Shut
that door We really mean shut that door And I know how I learned And I know how,
Most Aries people learn Okay All Aries people learn the same way Like it's really
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weird But hey it's a thing Okay but,
Like you Aries people We're very sensitive did so when
we you you ain't gotta really say it too many times like
we get it and so like i
got it and i was like okay so this door gotta be shut
like if you want blessings to come to you and this is what spiritual people
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are saying man you gotta clean out that old stuff and remove old things for
new things to come in right so if you're not removing the old stuff how are
you You're going to let anything new come in your life.
And so I'm a person where I'm like, you know what?
You kind of got a point about that one, okay?
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You got a whole point about this and I can't even be mad about it, but it is truthful.
Like you cannot, you can open a door and not go in and just look at the door
that was, that you need to close because you walked out of that door.
You didn't close the door.
That's the, that's the message. When you walk out the door, close the door and
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then open up a new one and close that door.
So that way you're not going back there at all.
That's what people, places and
things. I'm telling you, it's to the point where I'm like, y'all know me.
I'll be sitting back clocking the tea. I'll be looking at people because I love people.
But it's like some people I'm just like, I can't see why. Why?
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I was like, me and you was never cool. Like, I don't shut the door on you.
Like, there's no coming back.
Like, once you, like an Aries, I read a post the other day. It's like,
once you cross the Aries, they can't unsee that.
We might forgive you, but we can't unsee what you did. Like,
we have to acknowledge that you did that.
And we just can't unsee it anymore. And I'm okay with that.
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And it's like, I can't do certain things to make you happy.
I have a boundary. boundary and my boundary is
is once I place you on the other side of the fence
stay there once you because once you chose
that side now I place you there I'm like
okay you chose that side down this is your place where you are at stay there
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don't come try come back over here don't try to come open my door stay here
the thing is now that we talking about a fence or picking a side we want to
say you pick that door now shut it and I'm gonna go in this door and shut at it.
And then this is the way how they don't come back.
And I'm telling you, like, I really, I was doing a whole lot, guys.
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So I was, I was at a gym and I was working out, by the way, all summer long.
So I was at a gym. But in order to participate in a gym, you had to attend like church and devotion.
So I'm like, you know, this is something that my mom likes to do.
So let me do this with her, like while I was up there and around my mom and
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stuff. So I'm like, okay, I'll do this with you because I know like you like it or whatnot.
So I started to sit there. And so I started to participate, right?
Because I'm a person like, yeah, I want to sit down, but I got stuff I got on
my mind. I got people who want to talk about it.
And I helped to see, and it helped me out a whole lot just to get some of the
stuff out. And I was like, gosh, I don't even know y'all. Y'all don't know me, but I don't care.
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But it just felt like so loving because the more I was open about what I was
going through, the more it helped everybody around me.
Everybody who was sitting there participating.
It even helped like some people be honest about like what was going on with
them, what they were experiencing.
And like, like this one lady, like I'm telling y'all to the point where this
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one lady was like, if I was like, hold on, like we, I was like,
she like kind of like my, she my grandma age.
I ain't playing that. So I went and talked and told somebody cause something was going on with her.
And I told somebody like, this is what's happening to this lady.
And she's like, if it wasn't for you, I don't even think I would be saying that.
But if it wasn't for you being as open as you telling your stories,
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then I don't even know if I would
have been able to speak about what was happening to me when I leave here.
And I was like, oh my gosh, like I'll stand here with you. Like, do you need a ride?
I'll give you a ride. Like, but it was just so amazing to be around people who
like, just love you just to love you.
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And to heal and tell their story and stuff that was going on to them going on with them.
So I'm kind of happy about that. Right. So it was like,
I was kind of like happy that I kind of got the stuff out about me because I
was like, oh my gosh, I was telling the pastor lady, that's my girl.
And I was like, baby, listen, I was like, these guys, they just be really addicted
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to me. And I'm like, some people, I used to be toxic.
I used to like that power I had over them. I'm like, but I'm in recovery now
about the power that I had over men.
It's not that it's a bad thing. It's just more that it's a control mechanism, right? Right.
Like, and I didn't, I do minds a little bit different than most women when I'm saying that.
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And it was more about, okay, like, I know you're going to call me back because I'm just a good person.
So I had that power over you to make you call me back.
And I'm a person to admit that, like, I'm a good person. And I know if I give
out good energy, you're going to always want me.
But I'm at a point now that I'm like, it's getting out of control.
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Y'all men is acting crazy. crazy like no
ma'am no ma'am okay no
y'all acting crazy right now and I'm
like so just sitting there
and talking about like my issues on like what I was healing and some trauma
I was like I heal from because a lot of times people don't talk about the trauma
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that they heal from you talking about trauma that you're healing are you healed
from can help somebody else sitting next to you and And I'm telling you,
I was talking about like different situations,
what happened to me when I was younger and like how like some guys are.
And this like led a whole like wormhole, but it ended up helping out at least
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five women that was in there with me.
And I was like, I don't even feel bad. And I was like, I'm so much in my truth
that I don't care if this helps somebody, I'm willing to speak about it because
healing is to each his own, but healing is every day.
But sometimes hearing how somebody speaks their truth about something that you
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cannot be honest about is so powerful, right?
And I used to tell people that all the time, like, I can't really say if somebody
did this or they didn't do it.
That's still their truth. I mean, I used to not admit it, but I do now.
So I can't say that if you was to ask me a few years ago, I would have lied.
But it wasn't that I was lying on other people. It was lying about something that happened to me.
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But now I'm able to speak about it and I'm able to like say like, this is what happened.
And this is how I came up out of that.
And this is like where I stand at this now. out and like I look back at that
like I don't even know that life no more but this is it got me to who I am today
and so I will say like that was like the highlight of my trip was really just,
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when I was at the gym working out and just sitting there just like listening
because I was telling them I was like well spiritual people be saying the same thing.
Only thing we be saying that we be saying it like this which it means the same
thing here and then And like I had one pastor, she's like, I get what you're saying.
She's like, because secondly, you're right. And she's like, I agree with that.
And there was one girl, she's just like, ah, like she's a little hurt.
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And it's like, you can't really talk to people or connect to people until you heal.
This other girl, she's not as hurt as you. And she's more accepting.
But I don't know what's really going on behind closed door and what your heart is.
But my heart is always on love. So I can't really speak on that.
But I would say like I really had a good time of
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real I had a really wonderful time
on vacation it was eye-opening but I have learned how
to have healthy boundaries like we talked about
boundaries how to have boundaries with friends and family
like and I always have really good boundaries but it
was more about like okay I'm like some of these guys like no
you don't get to be my friend you don't
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want to be my man you're not my friend that's dumb no I'm not
accepting that no no you gotta go and so a
lot of times like guys from the past
they will want to be my friend and I'm like why I
know that I was a good friend to you but you wasn't a good
friend to me and whatever the reason is has nothing to do with me that's more
of a you problem right so what I will say and what has helped me to grow and
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be beautiful and to be accepting is is that I have learned over this past has
vacation to shut the door.
Like before I walk into a new door, I have to shut the door to every old connection.
No, you cannot call me. No, you cannot. No.
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Like it's to the point where I think some people who thought they still might
had a chance. No, they don't. Like ever.
Don't call me. Don't. And I was like, I was explaining to him,
like, I really don't like to be upset.
I really don't like to be mad. I really don't like to cuss or nothing.
I really just like to be happy. sloppy and at some
point right if I have
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to like feel like I gotta raise my voice that you are say
something that's like really nasty I don't
like that but sometimes people like that and men like to get some women out
of character because it means like oh you still care no I'm really saying this
because I'm an Aries bro stop playing with me like I don't like it like I don't
like what you did I don't like what was said I don't like how you try to involve
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me in a triangle and did did not ask like,
like, or just like you wasn't ready.
And then you're playing games. And like, I don't know how to explain it.
Like I told this one dude, I said, listen here.
I said, bro, listen, one thing for sure. When I started talking to you,
I knew your heart hurt. I'm spiritual.
I'm very top dead. I knew your heart hurt and that you still loved another person.
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That's why I never like took you serious at all.
And he was like, well, I thought you did. I'm like, I didn't,
we went on one or two dates and I was like, oh, no, he really hurt. He love that girl.
Whatever girl he dealing with, he loves her. Why should I involve myself with any man?
I'm like, bro, I have never did that ever, by the way.
I'm like, I'm not involving myself with a man like you over here hurt for real.
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And then you don't really want nothing for me, but you're willing to lay down
and have sex with a woman that you don't want to commit to.
That's dangerous to me. like you need mental help but that's like that's like
you could try to commit premeditated murder.
Like that's that's dangerous to me i don't i don't i
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don't know i'm about to lay down with a man i don't want to
commit with i have never been that type of person like anybody
i have laid down what i had a spiritual connection with period there was a connection
like we always talk i'm a deep talker so it's like really weird but it's like
i had to go through and like make sure like it was like the universe god my
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angels like my ancestors like get rid of these people
these people have old connections to you like they don't even know the real you now,
like there's no need for them to call you nothing but I've been telling them
not to call me but it was like this time was a little bit different okay guys
it was very different to the point where they knew not to call me.
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I don't know how to explain it besides they know better than to call me,
Right. And I'm not too upset about it. I'm happy about it.
I feel very grateful. I feel like the universe, my angels, ancestors,
God, whoever y'all believe in protects me and like help me because I'm very
sensitive and I don't like to be mean to people. And I'm like, what do you want?
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You really don't want anything. What do you want?
Like, I don't want to be your friend. Like when I wanted to be friends,
you didn't want to be friends.
So now I should let you back in? And like, no, no, no, no, no.
This is not how that goes. And I don't know.
Like, I don't know. And then I guess like, I don't know.
Like, it was really weird of what was going on, how it was going on.
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I was just like, oh, this is crazy right now.
Like, I just was like sitting back, just like watching. Like,
I gotta let these connections go.
Y'all got to get out my way. Like, you don't want to contact me? Fine.
I'm happy about that. But it was to the point where these people were telling
me they didn't want me to contact them. And then I was like,
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I don't contact you anyways.
You get what I'm saying? Like, if I don't contact you anyways,
why would you contact me?
Like, and then you want me to not contact you when I already don't contact you.
I don't follow you on nothing. We don't talk on a daily.
But yet you want me to not contact you. dude, this does not make sense at all, baby.
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Like, and I have to say that, like, it doesn't make sense. And so I was like very happy about that.
Like, I don't think y'all understand like all the connections that like just fell off on their own.
It was like, hey, don't you ever call me ever again? I'm like, yes.
I didn't even say nothing. Like it's to the point where I didn't have to say
nothing to these people. I was like, I'm never calling you again. Thank you.
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And it it was like all because I didn't say anything but it was
just like they just went away I prayed
I was like I had to sit
down talk with the angels the answers at the time to go and
then I had to talk to the little man whoever to hurry up people is
I need to talk to you because I'm tired of these people hitting me
up and I'm telling you prayers be answered okay
manifestations was real okay
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but now guys like all
jokes aside for real for real guys I had a really wonderful time
but really learning how to close
the door that I walked out of a lot of times people talk about like yeah you
know once God closed one door you're gonna walk until another one God might
need you to close that door but you gotta be willing to walk out that door and
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close it yourself okay close it bam God gonna close it I feel like if you and
God do it as a team it ain't gonna be opened again.
You and your ancestors do it as a team, it ain't going to be open again.
Whoever you believe in, do it as a team, it's not going to be open again.
And then bam, there go a new beautiful door that you got that's just waiting for you. Everything.
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I always tell people like, if you're being warned to let someone go and you
don't, who fault is that?
That's technically yours. You are giving all the signs to let this person place
or things go, but yet you still keep going back there.
I'm a person like, baby, you only got to treat me wrong. You only got to do
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me wrong once. I'm out the door.
I ain't even about to play with you, okay? I can't do it.
You got one time to really treat me any type of way, like where it's negative
to the point where I'm like, I'm cool.
I ain't dealing with that I'm too grown to deal with stuff Where people don't
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communicate People don't want to communicate,
I'm too grown to Like I have to be able to speak The way I speak And for you
to understand And for me to understand Because I'm a person that loves to communicate.
So that way we don't have to have this communication again. Okay.
But I'm telling y'all like, if y'all been having some people to just fall off
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out of nowhere and like, I really didn't go through and say anything about like,
Oh, well this, this and that.
And then I'm thinking about, dang, well, when I went before I went on vacation,
on vacation, on vacation, I really, I did some stuff that I normally don't do,
but I was kind of happy about it. Like it was like, okay, I got it. I got rid of these.
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I was like, Like, I don't want no old connections that are, that's not going to bring me any good.
And I always tell people, like, I don't like to be connected to people where
if I talk to you, nothing good happens. You got to stop calling me.
You have to stop calling me.
Like, you're, you're not doing
me any favors. You're only doing yourself a favor and that's disgusting.
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You're an energy vampire. You're an energy user.
Baby, like, listen, you got to be putting the work to be around me.
Like i'm i'm always healing i'm always doing some healing work.
I'm always Doing something to make myself better So at some point I only can
be around that same energy because it thrives.
I love seeing people Do the work and staying away from areas that they shouldn't
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be in Like I love to see people choose them in a relationship Like okay.
Listen, I done did this relationship with you and it was not working.
So i'm gonna move on right now right like it's
not benefiting me like any way shape form
or how like it's not benefiting for me so I have
to go so I'm gonna choose me first this time like
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I don't want to leave no door open I'ma leave the door open no baby I ain't
leaving that door open I'm shutting that door goodbye you gotta go gotta go
you gotta go you gotta get out but guess what when you get out I'm getting out
too and I'm going to a new door and baby that door I'm gonna shut that door you will not be
allowed to cross even a line to even get close to this new door because you're
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going to be where you at and I'm going to be where I'm at. You chose your side. Stay there.
And y'all got to start making people stand on what they do. Like if you pick
a side, you better stay there.
Don't try to come back over here and pick this side like, oh,
I just love, no, baby, you do not love me. I don't care if you a family, friend, foe, whoever.
Once you pick that side, you got to stand on that is love.
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I'm not standing on no other side besides love. So if it's not loving,
love, lovable, if it's not about love, then I'm not doing it, bro.
I can't. I can forgive you, but I have a boundary.
Like if you, if I keep letting you in and you keep hurting me doing the same
exact thing, I have a boundary up against you where you cannot no longer cross
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come near me or anything.
A lot of times in black families and families in general,
we are taught to love the people that hurt us no matter what,
instead of saying, bro, you did some really horrible stuff. So it's really time to go.
I can't keep letting you back in my life. You have hurt me.
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You have done nothing to help me be a better person. So you have to go.
A lot of times people do not do that. They do not let go of people who they're
supposed to let go of because they want to love because this is what we're taught
to do is to love regardless of anything, forgive.
I can forgive you, but you cannot come back over And this way,
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it keeps me from having to heal a wound that is now starting to heal and reopen it again.
Let my skin grow all the way back before you try to come back.
But then by the time my skin grow back and it's all beautiful again,
then you should be a beautiful person inside too.
But I can't let you come back over here. You got to stay there.
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Once you choose a side, stay there.
Okay? OK, guys, y'all need to start making people stand on the things that they
are saying, what they're doing. Like, no, you chose this path.
Like I'm telling you, it was so many times like I was getting messages.
I was getting downloads for people. But I'm like, listen, and like they're not listening.
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They ain't got nothing to do with me, baby. I gave the message out. I gots to go.
And baby, the demise to this is what it is.
I can't I can't dispute that. I ain't
got nothing to do with that the only thing I could do is say like hey
I gave the message out to you I love you after
that I am gone I am gone I love you I'm gonna be over here on my island and
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you be wherever you at on your island but baby I'm over on an island that you
can't even come across this water to even deal with me you can't even make it
across the water to deal with me,
So I love you enough for the both of us,
but I love you to say like hey This is my boundary and you can't come back over
here Like prime example if y'all know that you have some toxic family members
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and this is real true toxic family members toxic friends You keep forgiving
them for the same exact thing.
You keep telling them this hurts. This hurts. This hurts. This hurts.
This hurts Oh, no, you took their side stay there Like I don't like the way you speak to me.
I don't like what you create Just stay there I don't care.
I don't want to be around you because instead of us healing and us being loving,
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you're just always so negative.
Just stay over there. I'm going to leave you alone and you leave me alone and that's fine.
And I'm okay with that. But a lot of times you get people who wants to still
over extend their self or still be connected to your energy core when you need to let go.
Okay, guys, like y'all got to really let go. You got to let go of these places
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too. Dude, like, you know, every time you go in this particular area,
nothing good ever happens. Nothing.
Nothing good ever happens at all. But yet you still keep going over there.
You got to ask yourself, like, why do I keep putting myself into harmful situations?
Why do I want myself? Why do I keep putting myself into a situation where this is hurtful?
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You and this is how you break that cycle that you're in. And it's like,
I got to get out. I need air.
I'm an Aries. you can't control me because the cycles are controlled baby once
I figure out I'm in I'm baby I gotta scout all right I gotta get up out of here
I gotta move on and I gotta be okay with that but I have to do it in a loving
way and I'm telling you like some people they had to go.
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Baby you gotta go you gotta go okay like really I'm telling y'all it was some people like,
prime example I was with my grandma and her sisters at the park and I was like
I was I was like I just if there's anybody I want to avoid I want to avoid this boy right here,
like and so I seen this boy he looks at me he's
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like but don't I know you I was like yeah you know me and I was like what's
my name he's like I'm so in love with you I said but what's my name you don't
even know nothing about me but you love me no you love me because I turned you
down I told you I'm not dealing with no man who can take me out on no date and
I told you that like and this This is years ago. I'm talking about this man.
I've been knowing him since my son was first born. Can I say,
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are you just mad because I didn't have sex with you either?
Like a lot of times guys, they love the guys. Men love to chase.
They're not perverted. They lie when they say they don't. They lie.
Okay. Men love to chase. Okay. But the whole thing is, is like when I'm not
chasing, we're not playing a game here. And I'm just telling you like, no, I don't want you.
Like, and then you got this thing. And he's like, well, I love you.
I say, if you love me, then what's my name?
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Mind you. I was like, okay, so what's my mama name? You don't know my name,
my mama. My mama used to stay by you. So you don't know my name, my mama name.
You don't know, you know, my family members, like my grandma's sisters,
but you don't even know my grandma name.
You don't know my name, my mama name or my grandma name. Like what's going on?
And then we made a bet about like my name. Cause he's like, oh, well, your name is this.
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And then once he remembered my name, he was like, oh, well, yeah,
this is your Facebook name. I was like, that is a nickname that I gave myself.
Does not mean that this is my name. Star is not my name Like yes Star is not
my name Guys Like it's my nickname People call me Star Hey Feel me But that is not My name.
Like, my name is my name. And this is what I go by now. Like,
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I don't go by anything else besides this. Like, period.
And to make a long story short, he was just like, well, I still love you.
And we betted on, like, my name. And so he owed me $50. And I'm like, oh, what?
So then I seen him while I was walking. I did a lot of walking,
a lot of exercising. And I was like, I seen him while I was walking one day.
Waiting on my grandma and them. I went walking around the whole Covington. And I was like, hold on.
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He seen me. He's like, you going to buy me a water? I said why would I
buy you a water you owe me $50 boy bad
like I don't like no he's like you want a ride I
was like no I don't need no ride but thank you dude I do appreciate it and it
was just like a whole little moment where it was like I hope
that you let go he was like man you mean I'm like I'm not
mean I'm just real I don't like you like
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I can't sit up here I'm not gonna sit up here in front and be
like oh I like you knowing I do
not like you at all you you have no chance at
all with me I'm not that type of person to play
games with you if I know that you do not have a chance with me and I know
I do not have no way to like I'm
not gonna play with you I'm so in love to the
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point where I will not play with you like no I love me
like no I'm not I'm not about to play with you
because I know how it feels to be played with so I'm
not about to play with you like I don't like you like I don't
even like you as a person right now like I mean you cool people's like
you cool peoples but as far as like
what it goes down to like really dealing with that
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like a person telling me you're just infatuated with
me you don't really I mean you probably love me because I'm a really good person
and I like I always typically help people and be real with people but you don't
know me you don't know my name my mama name but he did know my granddaddy's
name which is kind of crazy like how you don't know my family it just don't
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make no sense okay You know my auntie Anil,
but you don't know my grandma, but you know my grandma's husband.
Which is my granddaddy. Knew his name and everything.
My grandma was like, well, that was my husband. And he was like, oh.
Like what? That ain't even a brother and sister.
So, but I don't know. It was weird, but he did know my grandpa's name,
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but he did not know my grandma's name, my mama's name or my name.
So I was like, how can you say that you like me? You don't even know me.
You don't even know the first thing about me, which is my name.
You don't see me a few times. Like every time I used to go to my mom's house,
I used to be ducking where my mom used to stay, where she used to stay.
I used to be ducking like, oh my gosh, this boy gonna see me.
He's gonna come over and say hi.
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And I I always speak to people because I'm never not me, but now I'm in a different
era. You got a different person. I am not friendly.
I never was friendly. The problem is that when you add my mom into a remix with
people, I typically don't go off as much as I would if I was on my own. Like, hi, how you doing?
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Because I speak because I'm nice, but for my mom, I'm not going to do all that extra stuff,
not unless you really tempt me to go there with you, but
I'm not about to just be mean like I'm just
not that type of person so I used to always speak and he used to
be like hey what are you doing like let me take you out or I will do a
move and I'm just like I don't know what I'm thinking I just don't think it's
like you know what I'm saying but I feel like people carry energy guys that
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you gotta like heal out your body and once you get rid of that energy out of
your body your system even when you're dealing with men if you dealt with men
sexually or women sexually.
Some women carry energy. So do men. Once you get that energy up out of your body, like...
Like, I don't know, it's different. Like, I feel like everybody should do like
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healing around sexual work when it comes to like how to get people's energy outside of your body.
Because some people be like, well, they stay there. No, they don't.
I'm here to tell my side of the story, they don't.
You can get rid of their energy so that way you can have a whole new energy
field inside of your sacred areas.
Like you gotta be really adamant in doing that healing work to the point where
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it's like, Like, okay, like I need this healing. I need this healing.
Especially when it comes to sexual healing. It's a lot of energy work that you
have to do to remove certain things out of your body.
And to get that cycle out of you and stop attracting some of the same people
that you are attracting.
And I feel like that comes down to some generational stuff with black people that they need to heal.
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And so people of color in general or people in general, they have a lot of things
that they have to heal when it comes around the sexual stuff.
So I will say guys like once
the door is shut or once you know that
your angels and ancestors the God Allah whoever
you believe in because you know I don't discriminate when I talk on my pockets
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it's like whoever you believe in like I can't tell you if you right or wrong
like that's your choice but if they are telling you to close a door walk through
that door and slam that door
shut and just say, thank you and walk into your new life because it's just that close.
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And I think this last Mercury retrograde is going to help you with that,
with communicating like, Hey, I'm, I'm tired.
I don't want to deal with that. Like.
And some guys, they don't even realize like all you see is sex.
So you like, especially if you dealt dealing with a woman who has like,
are dealing with a man because men go through sexual abuse too.
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I'm probably going to talk about that.
And it's just unspoken of.
Okay. But they do go through it. So it's like when you're dealing with people
with sexual abuse and especially black families, because they've been abused the most. Okay.
Not saying anybody else haven't, but they have. it's been
passed down generations through generations right
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but when you're dealing with people like that and
then you as a person you're trying to attract a woman or a man and you like
them whether you like them sexual not always talking about sex is not going
to get that person especially if they're doing healing work around that that's
going to really turn them off and sometimes people be like dang all they look
at me is like sex like i know my sex is good but
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still like what? Like I'm a whole person.
So like it can become all very offensive. And so I always tell people to take
heed on to how somebody else is feeling because you never know. Okay. You never know.
So guys, my message for today is really go up and shut that door,
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or go out that door, shut that door, and then walk into your new door and shut that door.
I mean, because if you reopen a new door that you have open and then you looking
back at the old doors you shut, sometimes you might want to go there,
but that's not where you're supposed to be at.
And sometimes your angels and ancestors and God will block you from even trying.
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They'll remove the door and set it somewhere you can't even get to the door no more.
You can't even walk in the door no more. And the prime example is,
is that, like, I'm a person, I said, man, I ain't going out no more.
I ain't going to no clubs.
I'm like, no, baby. Like, if we ain't going somewhere where it's high scale,
like, I ain't going nowhere in the hood no more.
Every time I was supposed to go to
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a club with one of my family members or friends, we never made it inside.
I was like, all right, that was my sign.
And I just really sat there. I was like, thank you, God. Thank you, universe.
Thank you, angels and ancestors. Like, thank whoever just got my back because that's temptation.
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But I'm not supposed to be in that door no more.
I'm not supposed to be in that door no more. So I don't go to that door no more.
So I'm happy about that. I'm not sad about it.
It is what it is. But I'm happy about that, guys.
I'm like, all right, cool. Like I'm good I'm Gucci So the real thing that I
can really say about that guys Is that I love myself enough to not do that to me.
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Like, and I was just like, well, I ain't going through that doing no more.
I'm over that. That was then. This is now.
This is my new life that I want to, I'm choosing to do and the places and things.
So I really want to encourage y'all to make sure that whatever new path that
y'all got, like, don't look back at the old path. Don't go back to the old ways.
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Because sometimes you're going to have those people hit you up.
It's Mercury retrograde, them exes and this and that. that, how can you love
yourself enough to be like, you didn't do it right the first time.
What makes me think you're going to do it right at the second time?
And sometimes people do, I do believe in second chances. Right.
And I do believe in like forgiving people, like, but you have to make that effort for real.
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But if, if we are meant to be, we are meant to be like, I don't care how many
times like this, this and that, maybe we're not meant to be at this time because
we both have healing we need to do.
So we separated, but it was never bad when we separated.
So that's great. So then now we're moving forward. And so I just really,
I'm just really happy about that.
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Like whether we're friends, romantic relationship, places and things like I'm
not meant to have that. I'm not meant to have it.
It's not where I'm, it's not meant to be on my new path.
It's not meant, it's not in my
door. The only way I can get this old stuff is if I opened up that door.
And all I'm saying is if you were meant to be with somebody in this new door,
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y'all gotta understand something.
If y'all was meant to be with this person in this new door that you want to
open, they would be in there.
The fact that you're looking out and they're there trying to get in,
or they're trying to call you back to the other door, like come back over here,
knowing that they're toxic, they're doing stuff that you don't want to do no
more. And they want you to do it too.
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And it's like I don't like that. I don't want to do it But yet you're looking out that window.
You're looking out that door shut the door And enjoy this new life that you
got like and enjoy the new peace that you got enjoy the new love that you have
You have to start really enjoying the door that you're really in and where you're
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meant to go the path You're meant to be on is your path path.
No matter how long it takes you to get to the path that you're supposed to be,
you will get there. God don't let you miss nothing.
Your angels and ancestors are not going to let you miss nothing.
Whoever you believe in the most high, like whoever you believe in,
they're not going to let you miss nothing.
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Please believe that. Like you got to trust and you got to have faith,
like and know that you know that you know that you good.
Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you gotta know that you know that you
know that you good but my only message guys is really shut that door and keep moving.
And go into the new life that you got. Like, it's waiting on you.
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And you right there. Just right there.
So, guys, let me know how y'all feel about my episode. I miss y'all.
I'm going to definitely post my other episode.
I'm going to go live tomorrow, bro. I got a lot of stuff I'm going to do tomorrow with my podcast.
But I really love y'all. Thanks for always listening to me, shouting me out,
and just doing the things that y'all do.
(40:48):
Like, y'all really be loving me on my podcast. I can tell that through social
media. of the year, y'all be like, when you're posting a new episode?
And I was like, and I was going to post another episode, but then I was like,
oh, I didn't like how it sounded.
And I was like, no, let me go outside.
And I was just like, man, let me just like, and the episodes that I did record
(41:10):
that I did, like, I was just, wasn't feeling like it was the right time to drop it.
And I feel like the time will be coming up pretty soon. So it's going to be
right on time, Which I need to hear Different stuff like that But I'm telling
y'all guys If you don't clean out that old stuff Throw it outside,
Wrap, tie it in a knot Put it in a trash can.
(41:31):
Get rid of anything that's standing in the way of you receiving gold,
Get rid of anything that is standing in the way of you being who you is And
once the universal angels, the ancestors God shut a door,
leave it there Because I'm telling you pretty soon The door is not even going
to be there to even go back to it So it's like say your goodbyes now Make peace
(41:53):
with it make love with it and move on like it's it's time,
It's it's definitely time and it's time to really love yourself.
Okay So let me know how you feel about the episode hit me up on all platforms
at the pretty red ent show Or let me know my web page at the pretty red ent show.pobbing.com.
Let me know how you feel about the episode You know, just let me know how I
(42:16):
feel But thanks for always tuning in Tapping in to the Pretty Red ENT show It's
your girl goddess Nikita A.K.A. Pretty Red ENT.
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