April 15, 2024 • 50 mins
Welcome to 'Pretty Red and Ent Show - a unique podcast that invites you on a journey towards awakening your positive energy, enlightenment, and personal growth. Join Goddess Naquita, also known as Pretty Red Ent, as she shares her insights on maintaining a positive outlook in life, appreciating the universe around us, and the importance of understanding our own energy.
In this particular episode, Naquita illuminates a significant issue of 'energy vampires' - those individuals who drain your positivity and don't reciprocate your good vibe. Listen as she reveals her personal encounters and tips on identifying these toxic relationships and how to effectively remove these negative influences from your life for improved mental health and lasting happiness.
From the lessons of Karma to the importance of effective communication and honesty in relationships, this episode takes a deep dive into the dynamics of friendship. Naquita stresses the importance of genuine friendships based on mutual respect and support and cautions listeners against 'trauma dumping' - an act of unloading personal issues onto someone else without reciprocating support.
Delve deeper as Naquita touches on Mercury's influence on our lives, especially for those born under Aries, and the necessity of understanding oneself. Experience the heartrending journey of letting go of people who downcast your energy levels and the crucial act of saying “no” to those who prevent your progression. This episode, ultimately, empowers you to take control of your life by making informed decisions about your relationships and personal boundaries.
In the concluding segments, the focus shifts towards setting healthy personal boundaries, even with those we cherish the most, told through the host's personal anecdote. It further emphasizes understanding and maintaining one's self-worth and the importance of being real and authentic.
Whether you're seeking a positive change in your life or desiring to enhance your personal growth, this episode serves as a guide towards self-improvement and understanding toxic relationships. Listen in and learn how to navigate through a world of both genuine and counterfeit friendships.
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(00:09):
Welcome to the pretty red and tisha it's
your girl goddess nikita aka pretty red and
t and if nobody
told you they loved you today just know that goddess nikita she loves you today
okay guys I want
to send so much love and light out to myself and to the universe around me and
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to this little continent that I'm on like I really enjoy me love me I really
so proud of me guys like because I'm doing a lot of things that's like different
so shout out to me one time,
okay as y'all may know my 365 just went around last week it was you know my
soul day and so I I was out enjoying that, but I have a lot of stuff going on.
(00:56):
I'm actually got casted to be in a play.
So I was like, wow. So I did that last week. And so now I'm just out here,
just chilling, living my best life right now.
Finals is coming up this week, maybe next week, but you know me,
it's nothing to a giant. Okay.
(01:16):
Guys, I guess I got a topic that I want y'all to pay attention to.
Like because this is something that they should
talk about more often because it's about the i'll be trying to tell people it's
about the little things and right now we have mercury retrograde with an aries
so all my aries people we're kind of like we kind of like yeah we on one when it comes to.
(01:41):
We all want when it comes to us speaking and talking right now and like communication,
knowing where we should communicate it, how we should need to communicate and how can we do it better.
But this is what I want to tell y'all. Like guys, pay attention to these type
of people because this is very important.
People who don't include you in stuff, people who do not return the same energy that you give out.
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Oh, you got to make sure you pay attention to all of that. that because
some people be like nah nah baby listen I at a
point in my life where I'm like okay I seen there been there
done that red flag this is my boundary you
can't do this back I have to exclude myself and exclude you from being my life
you are no longer allowed to be a part of my life and that's okay I love you
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anyways but you're just not allowed to go on this journey with me moving forward
I want to tolerate anything less than what I give out none of that so with all
All that being said, guys,
y'all remember I've been talking about karma.
When I say like karma been hitting people, karma been hitting people since the
solar eclipse. I'm like, I'm just sitting back watching.
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Because half the time, like if you know that you done good, you know good is
going to come to you. So I'm like, okay, well, I know I'm good.
I don't do nothing bad to nobody. I don't do all that.
So when I sit back and I see certain people and I'm noticing like the karma
that they're receiving, I'm like, what are you doing?
What were you doing to get this type of karma like
what was you doing and why would you keep doing it like
(03:09):
knowing that this energy is going to come back anything you put out is going
to come back this year are you crazy right now like are you dumb are you dumb
i know your voice i've been really working on that but for real like if you
know this energy that you put out is like like,
not so good, then why keep doing it?
(03:31):
Like, why? So I want to tell you about something that happened to me maybe a
few weeks ago, but I wanted to talk about it because I want to help y'all like
address some things and see the hidden messages behind what people say, right?
So one is I was noticing that.
I'm at somewhere and I'm like who is this sending me all
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this bad energy like and it's not that they were sending me
bad energy because like it was hitting me or affecting me it
was more like they were sending me bad energy like they didn't want
me to speak they didn't want me to do anything and I'm
like what is going on who
is doing it I always tell people like if you
sit with a question it will come find you pay attention to my
(04:13):
question who is doing this I asked universe who is this
reveal it to me boom so next thing I
know is it gets revealed and I'm like oh because I'm
a person that I have a habit of like I don't care
if you're a witch or not or whatever you practice if you did
anything I'm going to come directly to you and it's scary some
people be so scared because they like how do you like do you know it because
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they be looking at me and they be thinking and they hear like does she know
what I did I don't I at first I didn't know but your reaction around me let
me know what it was because some people they get like normal and do stuff and it's like really,
but your spirit will never lie your
soul will never lie no matter what you're
talking about what's coming out your lips your soul is in an agreement it's
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in the stars like it's part of the universe it has to speak the truth so no
matter what your physical body say your soul and your spirit is always being
truthful so I'm like okay so one day I'm just sitting over here Here I'm joking with my friend.
And so I'm asking my friend a question. I'm like, oh my gosh.
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So like, what's up with your binder here? Like, I was like, oh my gosh,
guys, doesn't her binder look like.
It got a whole bunch of butterflies on it like are just
like oh my gosh your binder looks like it has prison cells
on it or just your binder it was just like I'm
going in about this binder right and it was funny it was a funny joke
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right but mind you
people don't have a habit of when
you're talking and criticizing other people outside
of them they have a problem with that and now this is the one
thing I pay attention to because I'm like okay well the
only problem I'm really having is that maybe this
teacher isn't talking the way how I need them to talk and
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I don't like the way they're speaking to me doesn't mean
that they are bad teacher I just don't like the way this teacher is speaking
to me but you'll have this person all of a sudden come over here and just goes
in about every single thing and you just sit back you're looking like hmm I
have a different view point on on a lot of things,
(06:20):
you might think I'm mean, but I'm actually really not.
I'm more like balanced and complete in my conversations that I have with anybody.
Like, and anybody who know me will tell you like, she gonna don't have a conversation
with me if you're not ready to look at every angle of this, of whatever you're talking about.
Because I'm that person that I'm going to analyze everything. Like, okay, what's up?
(06:43):
Like, why? But most Aries people do that, but Virgo people do that very,
very, that's their trait.
Okay, guys, like they do that. So shout out to them, my Virgo people.
Y'all know what I'm talking about. You got a Virgo moon or Virgo rising.
You know exactly what I'm talking about when it comes to analyzing certain things
that most people cannot take their point out and to analyze.
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You are very good at that, whether you're sun, moon, or rising.
Mind you, when we're talking, I'm telling this friend, I'm like,
okay, next thing I know is this friend's making
a joke with everybody around them now about
this binder and then asking questions to
other people like does my binder really looks like this I'm like oh okay so
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then whatever we had to do we class and started so we're like all right cool
so conversation dropped next thing I know is this person had a presentation
that they had to do right next thing I know they're like oh they didn't do too
good on the presentation I'm like like, what happened?
What happened here?
And then I'm like, I'm noticing little things. I'm like, okay, like, I don't know.
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It could have been me because like what I do, I wouldn't do nothing but cracking
a joke because I crack jokes all the time.
So next thing I know is like, hey, class is over with this person.
Storms out. Don't say bye. Doesn't do anything. Just drives off crazy. I'm like, wow, okay.
Then I'm like, what's wrong? Like, are you all right?
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And I'm like, because see, the thing is before this time, let me tell y'all something about me.
I'm a person where I know if people are whatever they trying to do,
you need to be balanced and use your own energy.
There's no way that you should be using my energy.
There's no way you should want me to always send you energy.
You don't send me no energy back. I will cut you off.
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And people who know me, I know I'm very good at that. I don't play no games, okay?
So I'm like, okay, well, I kind of noticed that this person was like using some
of my energy and it was like, it wasn't that they were using it.
It was really like they were like
trying to balance the scale and use my energy to hype up their energy.
And I'm like, what the heck is going on here? I'm like, no, ma'am. No mail.
(09:00):
And I'm like, okay, well, I kind of feel like somebody's sending me bad waves, right?
This person going to say to me, well, gosh, I hope it wasn't me.
I'm thinking to myself, why? If I consider you my friend, why would I think
that you were sending bad energy to me?
Why? I don't call people my friend and just be fake to them.
(09:20):
If you're my friend, I love you.
Friends talk about things. I talk about deep things with my friends.
People who know me know know that we don't just have no regular conversations
we have very deep conversations like hey friend
what you doing what you will you cool like well
why you don't think you cool and then it goes to once you explain them
and be like okay so how you think that makes you feel I really
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be asking those type of questions to all my friends
and family members that I that are considered in my
end group because there's not too many people I rock with for
real my circle is very very very very small
like I have a huge family but I also have
a few a huge I really be to
myself a lot for real like my whole family know that
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they be like oh she don't really talk to too many people like oh
yeah like you wouldn't know what she be doing you need to go talk to this cousin
or you need to go talk to that cousin and then those cousins they ain't gonna
tell you nothing so then you just kind of stuck for real like to information
what you don't know so make a long story short I'm talking to this friend I'm like gosh I'm like okay.
(10:23):
All this friend just busts out like oh you sent me you was talking about my binder,
so you sent me all this like you just was so negative about my binder just threw
me off like I didn't think that you liked what I was presenting to the class and I'm like what,
just because I said something about your binder not saying that hey this binder
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wasn't cute whether I felt the way it felt like it had jail bars on it I felt
the way it had jail bars on it that's my observation of it does this mean that
this is your character no this does this mean I'm talking personally about you.
No, that means it's like, hey, look at this binder here.
Like, this is what I look at. This is what I think about what your binder is.
Now, mind you, we're having a presentation in class where we can discuss what
(11:08):
we think they're presenting about.
Okay, guys? So it's like, okay, so prime example, let me give you an example.
Like, so if I'm presenting an old Coca-Cola bottle,
we can critique that as the student sitting in.
The watching the presentation we can
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critique that like oh well i kind of didn't like the bottle
because the bottle looked like that or maybe the
bottle had you know because old cola bottles
had real coke in it so maybe that's the reason why they had the bottles
look that way so at this point we can critique
that bottle as a student so now
you're sitting up here mad at me because I'm actually critiquing you
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but we critique everybody else and
we don't sit down and critique my presentation but
when it came to you it was a problem but I never said anything like oh
anything about you personally it was more
about the binder like I made sure
all what I was talking about was the binder okay make a long story short because
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you know I don't deal with people like that so y'all got to pay attention to
these type of people so this person was saying to me like what happened if I
was talking about your binder talking about your binder look mean your binder
was I just think your binder was just a mean like you're a mean person,
you're a mean person we're talking about my binder here.
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Now you're assaulting my character, like my real person, my persona,
me, my physical body, my spiritual body, my soul body. So this is what you don't know.
So pay attention, guys. Like when you ask for the universe or ask God to reveal
to you, reveal to me anybody who doesn't have any good intentions to me.
The next thing you know is all of a sudden you can start getting these people
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out the world where it's just, they can't hide it no more.
This person went so deep into, I don't like you.
Like, what happened if I said I don't like you? Or what happened if I said you
were mean? You're just a mean girl.
I'm like, what? I said, listen, if you thought I sent you any bad energy,
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I promise you this, guess what? You will never get a chance to say that again.
Because what I thought I was doing was giving you great positive energy.
But if you didn't think I was giving you positive energy, then maybe me and
you are on two different pages.
And guess what? way. I'm going to have to fall back. I'll fall back.
I'll fall back because I don't have time for that.
Go play with somebody else. Just
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don't play with me. Go play with somebody else. Just don't play with me.
I don't have time for you to be playing games with me. Go play with somebody
else like that. Go waste somebody else's time. You just won't waste mine.
I don't have time for that. That's not fair to me because I'm a really good
friend. I encourage you.
Hold tight, my friend up up there doing her presentation.
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I'm like, oh, go ahead now.
But I didn't get the same love back when it came my turn, though.
And so you got to pay attention to the people, guys, like when they be saying
certain things, it ain't about is there's a point in time when there's a sneak
disc and there's a point in time where you really mean what you're saying.
I'm actually talking about a binder. I'm not even talking about you personally.
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Then once you start to, well, how would you feel if I was starting saying that
you was real mean and what you do is mean?
I'm like, what does that have to do with my my presentation girl
I'm presenting a key with
a heart what does that have to do with a key and a
heart you're saying I'm a mean girl because I'm
you're supposed to be critiquing a key with a heart in
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it like come on now make it
make sense like I can see you say well I kind of don't like that
key in that heart that heart and that key they just
don't match maybe the color pattern doesn't match you start
critiquing it that way but when you start saying that I'm a mean person
this this that like hold on what is what's
really going on okay so you got to pay attention to
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those type of people guys like those type of things when
people be really sneak distant this is what
we call in the hood sneak distant but this is also somebody who cannot communicate
properly like i already sense you kind of don't like me but you want to keep
hanging around me why i don't know just leave me alone i'm on other people you
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don't really like me every day don't don't talk to me at off. Not one day.
You can't talk to me every day. You will not talk to me every day.
I'm one of them. Like stop playing games with me. Play games with your mama.
Just don't play games with me. Okay.
Just don't play games with me. I'm too much of a lover. I'm too much of a good friend.
I'm too much of a good family member. Like my family, they love me.
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They might, Kitty, you're a little serious sometimes, but what you be saying be real.
Well, cause your conversations are what I need. like
some of my cousins they anytime they find out like
i'm in a city or something they'll come just to have a
conversation with me they can sit down and talk to me about stuff that they
cannot talk to everybody else around them on and then and then if you look about
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that because i heard about this the other day on tiktok okay guys because this
is important this right here is important and it's really shots fired because
i really feel some type of way about it okay Okay.
People who be trauma dumping on you.
And it's so funny because this person that I was talking about before does that a lot.
And I started like, stop talking to them about certain things.
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Cause I noticed that they were starting to use some of my energy for that.
Hold on, baby. You go get your own energy.
I'll cut you off. First of all, you didn't ask.
Second of all, stop playing with me. I'm her.
Okay. I'm a goddess. So a goddess knows where she gives her energy to.
God is, we do what we do because we do what we do, right? So trauma dumping is.
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Okay so you can't call me to go out to eat but
you can call this other person over here to go out to
eat oh you got so many things going on but
you don't tell me that you got something on but you only call me
when you're talking about this trauma i listen to
this on tiktok this girl was like yeah so
have you ever dealt with a friend who trauma dumps on you and i'm
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like let me let me listen closely it
was like listen they call you only to talk about your problems but
they were so so sad they didn't want to come out the house
but now they don't talk to you now they want to come
out the house and go out and you see
them on the phone like you watching you going on that only
story or watching it clicking on their story or instagram snapchat facebook
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you looking like dang is this person out right now i thought
you was just sad why you ain't invite me i
would have went out oh you know you're just not that friend that
i go out with what like this
don't happen it to me no more but I'm just saying guys this is a real good
example pay attention to what people invite you
to also pay attention I have learned something
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so important recently like that
just really blew my mind that I really feel like I knew but it kind of like
made it kind of crystal clear for me okay so shots fire on this one I've really
been paying attention to people who invite invite me to stuff around their other
friends, family members,
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friends, boyfriend, girlfriend.
Because the only thing that matters is how they react to me.
Now, if they start acting different, that's because you said something about
me that wasn't right at all.
So prime example, y'all, because I got to tell y'all this, because this is really
what happened. This is true, right?
So I'm sitting up here. I'm like, why did this person ain't invite me to their stuff?
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Why you ain't invite me for? I don't really care that you didn't.
I didn't even really care that you had a party.
You didn't invite me for real, for real, to be honest. I was just kicking smoke.
But to be truthful, I didn't even know this person even had a party.
I was like, gosh, like, whoop-de-whoop-whoop.
It was like, oh, all my friends were mad because I didn't invite certain people.
But I didn't invite you because such and such isn't my cue. I'm not thinking to myself.
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But that wasn't the only place you was at that day because I seen your car.
But I'm gonna let you live for that one you get what I'm saying I'm gonna let
you I'm gonna let you be all right with that one so next thing I know is boom I'm like wow really.
Like, okay. So now when I talk to your family members, they kind of looking
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at me a little skeptical and I'm wondering why are they looking at me skeptical?
Because you have to tell them something that I did to you that was skeptical.
Cause if you come around my family and I tell my family, I'm not cool with you.
My family is not going to let you in the door because bro, they're going to let you have it.
My family's going to call it out. Like, Hey, why you say that to
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my why you say that to my cousin or why you say that to my sister why you say
that to my daughter why you say that my family really don't go in so I don't
bring around people who I feel like it's fake people who are not really good
friends I do not bring them people around me at all like you cannot come around
my family they play too much and they do not care,
like they will literally put you out of their house oh you did this to my niece
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you can't come in my house you did this to my cousin you can't come in my house
like you can sit outside but you you can't come in my house.
I just don't rock with you. Like my family like that. So then I'm like, dang.
So I really been paying attention to how people really react because right.
One minute I had somebody that was being real nice to me and then they knew
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a friend, like we had a mutual friend.
Next thing I know is this person stopped speaking to me.
Like it was just like real nonchalant, but it was always cool when this person talked to him.
I'm like, so you had to say something to this person saying that I said something
for them to feel the way that they feel because I'm wondering why why would
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things people don't just start getting up switching the script like that not
unless they feel like you said something but some people are not they're not
strong enough to communicate.
You got to be able to communicate because, baby, I don't play games like that.
I communicate over here. Okay? Communicate.
Baby, I communicate over here. Like, communicate all the time.
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Like, and I don't play no games with my communication.
Like, hey, you feel like I did something wrong? You feel like I said something
wrong? I will apologize for my actions if I actually did something wrong. But if I didn't, I won't.
Like, hey, like, you feel like I hurt your feelings? I feel like I did.
Oh, you feel like I sent you bad energy? where I was just being the normal me,
so I can't apologize for that. I can't apologize for being me.
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There are certain things I apologize for. Hey, you said this, this, and this about me.
Now, if I said this, this, and this and gave you opinion about a binder,
you can never be mad because it's my opinion on the binder.
You can't tell me I can't have, just because it's your binder,
you want me to have a different opinion. If I don't like the color of it,
I don't like the color of it.
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You want me to apologize to you because I don't like the color? I can't. I can't do that.
It will hurt me to do that. And I just won't do that, guys. Like I've been really
paying attention to that. It's even like prime example.
My son was, I was having a talk with my son's teacher. Never once called me before ever.
But when I'm on the phone with her, talking to her, she's like real standoffish.
I'm like, this is my first time ever talking to you.
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Obviously, you heard something about me and you're on standby mode or,
you know, like you're just on on standoff mode you're
defensive like you're you're you have your defenses up
and i just don't know why i didn't do anything to you at all you don't know
me i don't know you like that's the only thing i can say you don't know me and
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i don't know you so what is the problem here like for real for real so next
thing i know is i was like hey my son had an issue i'm like.
I can't be too mad. He did right. Like, what you want me to say?
Like, all right, you did right. I see where you're going. High five, bro.
What you want me to say to my son? Like, I can't get him in trouble for something
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that he was right about. Like, you want me to sit up there and yell at him?
What you want me to do? Because I'm not.
I'm not going to ever yell at my baby. Like, no, I just can't.
Like, black people didn't get yelled at enough?
Over what? More than 400 years of slavery, we didn't get yelled at enough?
Okay, you right. Like, nah, baby, I ain't finna do that now.
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No it's time for us to heal collectively with our
kids all that nah I'm good I just
don't have the time but in general guys
like really pay attention to how people that
they have you around them how their people react because
some people who don't want you to meet their family that should be
a little suspect too oh I can't meet your
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friends I can't meet your family why what you
say about me to the point where they one
they either don't know about me or two they do
but you don't say some real skeptical stuff
to the point where they're skeptical but they're not
looking on the on another end because my family
they be want to meet everybody so they're like oh okay so
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you oh why you want to bring your friend over here oh
no because my family crazy i've had to brief my friends
like listen you go over this person's house
like baby you move wrong in my shoe or or you move you better know how to cap
because my family gonna roast you like if they like you they gonna cap on you
if they don't they they probably don't but if you like tell them if they start
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capping on you you'll be like I ain't into all that they'll stop there and respect you but,
yeah like yeah yeah like nah my family.
Totally different when it comes to stuff like that. But guys, like, I just don't know.
I really feel like at a time like this, because you got to work with mercury energy.
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What is it telling you need to get rid of?
Connections, certain communications. I'm telling you, like, you really got to let go of some people.
I always tell people, like, if I stop talking to you for over a week,
if I stop talking to you for a day, my energy get better. You got to go. You got to go forever.
You cannot come back. you cannot you cannot go past
goal you cannot collect $200 baby you gotta go
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okay you're not even playing Monopoly
anymore no no sir no ma'am
we're not playing Monopoly no more but guys like really
pay attention to those people who really do that and how
they really treating you because people who really love you they include you
in your life you know they mom you know they dad you know whoever is
important to them but you gotta also pay attention to
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the hidden stuff that people don't say get what I'm saying like oh I've been
paying attention like what is you really saying about me I can tell when people
think this and when they not baby listen I don't care where I'm at in the world
I'm from Cincinnati Cincinnati is one to consider one of the skeptic places ever.
So when it comes to doing skept stuff
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I'm gonna notice it from a mile away there ain't gonna
be be no talking like oh oh you
don't invite me to stuff okay so that means that you mean you fell
back from each other that's what i'm cool i'ma leave you where you at
and i'ma stay where i'm at and we're cool with that
but i'm i'm not doing more for
you than i am doing for myself guys some
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things you gotta learn how to let it go let it
breathe let it flow like i
gotta let it i gotta gotta let it flow i gotta let it
go like if you're supposed to be a part of the
universe plan for me baby we'll be a part of the universe plan
i'll be paying attention to a lot of these people too because i met
somebody they they talk about they go to church all the time so
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we sit down and pray so we sit down and eat and you
don't pray we sit down eat you don't
pray boy you go to my mama house you sit down my mama gonna pray before we eat
that food i wish you would go to a black family the house and they having a
family dinner and don't pray before their family dinner you just sit down and
start eating like that's weird to me that's weird to me that's weird behavior.
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That is weird behavior. No matter how spiritual I am, whatever.
Like, if I am at a family function, my family is going to pray.
I might not like and be in agreement with the prayer, but I will respect people's prayer beliefs.
Like, hey, what's in the line for me will stay, what's not will go.
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And I'll just leave it at that But it's really weird to pay attention to those
people guys Like pay attention to people who say they this and they that And
you notice them that they're not really that Like it's a lot of things that
are getting going to be exposed Like but you're able to see that because it's in Aries,
Especially people communication Like if people really rocking with you It's
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going to come up real aggressive They're going to be so aggressive What it's
at a point where they cannot hide their mask,
They cannot not like yes I had a lot of mercury retrograde a lot of exes hit
me up no sir no respondo no,
respondo no comprende no respondo no respondo none you do not get no respond
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for me you do not get no no nothing for me I told you stop hit me up and you
still continue to hit me up it's 10 years years later,
you should let it go. Real talk. Let it go.
You little mini abuser. You little mini stalker. At some point, you're a psychopath.
But let it go. I'm cool. I don't dislike you as a person.
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None of that. I really wish you the best in life. Hey, we went our separate ways. It was good.
Once it was good, once it went bad, it was bad.
Maybe it was never good. But hey, Hey, I look at everything as love.
So maybe I needed to experience that because maybe I needed to experience real love.
Or maybe I needed to experience that moment to understand what I want and what
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I don't want. People don't think about that.
Even with like dating and being in a relationship, sometimes it's more about.
The experience of getting out there, like, okay, well, I dated this type of
guy, I don't like this type, I don't like this type, I don't like that type,
I literally just had a conversation with my mom, I said, listen.
If there would be anything I would take back, it would be the guys that I dated,
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she was like, why, and I was like, none of them, none of them were on my level,
she's like, what, I was like, none of them, down to my first boyfriend,
down to my first love, down to,
you know like besides like
two because i only was in a relationship for like
with four guys my whole span
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of living so like my whole thing is i love
the four guys two of them wasn't on my level but everybody else
i entertained for a moment in time none
of them was technically on my level besides a few so it's
like yeah i had to go through healing to realize that
to even say it out loud out like that takes a lot of healing but a
lot of times guys some people are not on your level they don't
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even match you even a little bit like I
swear like one thing I can give my first love he
told he said some real stuff when we broke up he's like Keita listen
and he used to stick with me
and I was so hurt that he did that like our relationship was so perfect it really
was like it was really a a good relationship where it was balanced with trust
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because if a relationship Have trust The relationship is good And loyalty But
me He said Keita You are going on a path That's different than me.
Like, you're going to make some guy happy. But I am staying in the streets and
I'm not leaving the streets. I love the streets.
So I have to literally stay over here.
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And when he said that, he's like, but I'll always be here to protect you.
Like, anytime you need me, I'm going to come through for you.
We'll do it. And he was so real honest about it. But he's like,
but you're on a different path than me.
You graduated in high school. Like, man, you're going to go on college.
You're going to be something great. Like, I'm just not doing that.
And I don't want to do that, so I'm not the one for you, and that always hurt,
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because I loved him that much, a lot of people don't explain that,
like, yeah, you know, it really hurt, like, when the person that you love,
and you know they love you back,
and they break up with you, because they feel like you're too good for them,
like, they, they feel like, hey, you're gonna, but I, now that I'm older, and I'm healed,
I can look at it from a different perspective, like, gosh, really,
he was protecting me, really,
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that was the universe god my angels and ancestors been like hey break up with
her she gonna hurt we gonna get her through it but break up with her because
you're not on the same time she's on.
Like bro i was destined for greatness but i'm
i'm doing a whole different route on how i'm
getting to greatness this man literally has no
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plans besides gaining street cred like he
literally talked about that like me and him i don't know
like some of the guys i was in a relationship with like we have great conversations so
we can talk about stuff like that but but it's
it's really good because those conversations are what's needed
for healing like I was like gosh I'm like he was like but you're really perfect
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don't ever forget that like you're gonna meet somebody who's gonna really love
you and really they're gonna match you on every level but he's right he's like
technically he told me one day like technically you should have never dated
me like I was a street dude like Like,
you're not about that life. Like, you don't need to date me.
Like, why would you do that? Like, at that time, I'm like, you can't help who you love.
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But I seen that. That's all I seen was people around me.
They date guys who they have to pamper. They date these guys in the streets.
I like never really seen somebody really date somebody who was not in the streets.
So it was like, okay, even though my grandfather wasn't in the streets, but like, or my dad.
But I have seen like other people
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like some of my older cousins date guys from
the streets so typically this is learned behavior like oh
the little thrill the good girl gets like
a lot of people don't realize that but that's a true statement
because some of y'all guys do that too y'all date those
girls who be out there I tested my
theory too y'all guys date them girls
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who y'all say y'all don't really want I don't want me a girl who.
Be clubbing and going out all the time but y'all be trying to wipe her down y'all
love her well some some guys do
back in the day they love her they want
to wipe her down they want to take her off the market so nobody
else can have her whoop-de-whoop-whoop like just keep
her all to yourself like yes and they
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will pay to be the cost they will pay to be the boss too that's
one thing I will say they will pay to be be the boss so my whole
thing about that is like guys
do it as much as women some some women guys
are not even on y'all level y'all date a woman who has
nothing going on literally and then be
mad because she has nothing going on and then
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he coming over here i never have what's best with this
dude but he's like i was like why are you dating this girl like
because i didn't know he he was dating her until like I don't know
she hit me up one day I was like okay so you told
me you were single but this girl's inboxing me I'm wondering why and he's
like yeah I was like but she has literally nothing going on literally nothing
she has nothing going on like nothing
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she goes she's out of the club every weekend she don't have
a job I'm confused on what's going on but you want to talk to me knowing that
I am her I have my own place own car I work two jobs and go to school oh no
no no no no no like I'm hurt what are you talking about.
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Like baby I don't even stay in the hood I stay in
the suburbs in a nice area nobody can even people didn't even know where I stayed
at even if I told them where I stayed they thought I stayed in the apartment
buildings behind where I actually stayed at that's how crazy like I was hitting
in plain sight type stuff like really like I'm telling people like you gotta
really Really pay attention,
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guys, to the things about what you like and what you don't like.
Like, really take the time out to really access that.
I'm telling you, my mom, me and my mom had a great talk about that.
I said, you know what, baby?
I wouldn't talk to half the guys I talk to.
You ain't had no high school diploma. I had a high school diploma.
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Shouldn't have never talked to you.
Like, you ain't had no good job. You didn't have this X amount of figures in
your bank account. Shouldn't have talked to you.
Now, I can't lie, because some street dudes, they had that. My best friend was
worth over some millions.
I'm going to just put millions, plural, meaning more than two. Street money.
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But he had a high school diploma. He had a business. He had all that.
So, should I entertain? My mom was like, should you entertain him?
Yeah. yeah, I should entertain him. I don't, I don't, I don't mess with no bro.
Nah, baby, I should entertain him like, but I was entertaining him.
So that's the whole thing about that whole situation. Like I was entertaining
him, but should I have been entertaining anybody less than that?
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Like, just because I see that you need love and I want to help you out.
No, I don't have to entertain you.
You better have your stuff together.
You come over here. You, I apply pressure like I guess some people I I apply
pressure so if you don't have your stuff together stay over there stay over
there do not come over here stay over there.
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I'm so serious stay over there please please leave me alone leave me alone leave me alone,
nah guys but for real some people shouldn't you should not entertain with some
people should not be in your energy.
I tell people that if you cannot give me the same energy I give back,
you will not be around me anymore.
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If I even sent you throwing any bad hate or anything that I'm doing,
you will not be around me anymore because I don't do that to you.
No matter if I don't like the project that you're doing, I might say,
hey, I don't like this project that you're doing, but you say,
but I really want to do it.
I'm still going to support you because you're somebody I out love but I don't
have to be in agreement with it I remember uh one time this person I was really
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cool with they wanted to get abortion I was like totally against it I mean I'm
like listen I support you on everything that you do but you want an abortion
clinic that's you on your own.
Like, if you want to do that, do that on your own time. I'm just not going to
support you. And I supported this person with everything else,
but I did not go to an abortion clinic.
I did not go to an abortion clinic. I support you on everything else,
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but I'm not going to an abortion clinic with you.
I support you on it. Hey, I'll walk up and down the stairs with you when you
need to heal and all that, but baby, when it comes to the abortion clinic,
I'm not going to go. And I'm okay with that.
That's still, like, I still love you, you but I'm
not I just don't support you on certain things does not mean
that I don't love you that's what I think that some people
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they're not used to dealing with people who like they're real
they're they're a real friend or they're
a real family member I'm telling you I have some
real family members I'm like well Keita I don't think you should have did that but
you know it is what it is like we here
now like I still rock with you so that's
the one thing like I can say like I really love about the people that
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love on me like no matter what they still gonna tell me if I'm
right or wrong but or if they don't support it
they're gonna tell me like hey I don't support that but it's what
you want so I'm down for that they give me that room to be like I still love
you like just because I don't support you does not mean I don't love you I don't
know like that's really weird to me so guys like pay attention I'm telling y'all
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because some people don't understand Like, I pay attention to every single thing.
Oh, well, these X amount of people knew before I knew that you was somewhere.
Do you get what I'm saying? Like, that's not fair to me. I've always been good
to you. Oh, just about like my happy birthday wishes.
A lot of people gave me those, but I like to receive gifts. You could have sent me a card.
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You could have sent me anything. Like, I was literally talking to my little
brother on the phone. He was talking, and it was his birthday, too.
Then it was about to be my big brother's birthday. But my little brother was
on the phone. He was like, Keita, I always know that you're going to send me
a gift. You're going to get me something for my birthday.
You kind of don't really count. I said how he said
cuz I'm just saying cuz everybody else that be around
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me they're not gonna get me no but I know for a fact I'm
getting something for you for a fact I'm getting
something from you which is crazy
that is so crazy like
I'm not gonna lie to you then my little brother said he's like
I know I'm getting something from you so I mean
but like I said not everybody does that but
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if you my real friend you know what I
like and what I don't like I love gifts
you don't want to give me a gift that's fine too but just
know I probably won't get you a gift everybody knows
I like to be sung happy birthday I literally was
on the phone all day shout out
to the real Aries with my with my
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brother's friend and my brother we're all
on the phone we're all three Aries just on the phone just giggling laughing
like it's this birthday like d they over here capping on each other it's like
but you can't be talking about sus because it's her birthday that's like you
need to get out this your birthday i'm literally sitting over here taking an
exam a midterm on my birthday.
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Like, and they on the phone with me, just laughing and giggling.
They called me a day before it was on the phone with me and whole day before
the actual day of my birthday and a day after my birthday. It's crazy.
So I always tell people like, be around the people who love you.
Be around the people who, whenever they see you, they face light up.
I'm telling you, if I, if I come around somebody, they face don't light up. It's over with.
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If I call you, your voice don't change. It's over with. it.
If I text you and I can tell, and I can tell that your text change is over with. No, ma'am.
I ain't about to play no games with you. No, ma'am. You ain't finna get that
off of me, baby. Your name finna be erased from my phone. All of that.
All of that's gone. You gone. You about to hear.
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I ain't about to deal with that. You deal with that.
You deal with your mess. You're not happy deal with yourself.
You don't want to be great deal with yourself. That has literally nothing to do with me I'm happy.
I'm a hundred percent happy. I'm happy every day.
I'm happy every time I talk I'm, just happy happy happy happy and i'm gonna
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be happy i'm gonna continue to be happy because that just me,
I can't do nothing else but be me and I really love me and I appreciate me and
i'm so happy that that I'm able to give people love, but I'm happy that I'm
able to like really guys communicate.
So how I feel like I'm using this mercury, this mercury energy,
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it's just showing me people I need to cut off for good.
People I need to work on like their communication and with communicating certain things.
Like I could forgive you for certain stuff, but some stuff is,
I take that that personal because you're crossing my boundary but also just
like being able to like okay.
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I said I didn't want you to talk to me no more what
makes you think I still want you to talk to me baby it's over with stay over
there you chose the side we talked about this a long time ago you chose the
side stay there okay but I just I really love me and I love the peace that I
have And I can't allow anyone to take that from me ever So if I feel like at any single time,
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You're going to come in between me and my piece You got to go I tell people
this all the time Listen, one thing for sure and two things for certain You got to go,
I'm not trying to play no games with you But I'm really choosing me at times when...
I normally don't choose me, but I choose me all the time. And I'm just happy about that.
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And I'm happy about people choosing them too, but I'm happy also about the love that I get out.
But I'm noticing that like, I'm really particular on how I give it out.
And I'm really standing up for myself. Like, how would I stand up for somebody
like, Hey, I see that you really ain't a good friend of my friend.
Like my friend really need to stop being friends with you. and this is
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how I talk to people when I'm talking about myself like hold
on I don't like that I don't like the way you just
spoke to me I'm able to say that like hold on
and I'll be telling people this um you guys go you gotta get up I
don't like the way how you're being a friend it's not a good friend
I call you on your birthday you don't call me
on mine she right you won't never get that again no ma'am
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you won't get that from me oh I like
for people to sing me happy birthday you mean you couldn't take your time
out to sing me happy birthday so that means you really don't care here
and that's fine too but I'm not
trying to go out my way if you're not going out your way either and
sometimes guys we as people gotta stop doing that
for other people no matter who they are mama brother
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sister cousin whoever people know that like
okay well I see you ain't came to see me that's fine I literally stayed I literally
stayed in North College Hill in Mount Healthy for over seven years and some
of my closest intermediate family only came to my house literally full time.
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Four times out of seven years. Other than that, I'm going to them.
It's not that they ever come to me. So this is like my whole thing.
Like I love y'all, but I love me too. And so you have to meet me.
And if you cannot meet me, if you cannot do the whole hundred percent that I
do, that I can't even accept 90 because I'm giving out a hundred.
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And I, and this is that give and take where people say, sometimes we do nine,
you do 90, then they do 10. No, baby.
Even when I I don't got the whole hundred. I still will do 90 and give an extra 10 just because.
So people around me need to do that. I was also listening to a TikTok when they
said confident people need to be friends with confident people.
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I'm gonna have a whole little talk about that. That's gonna be my next episode.
But guys, I see that I've been ranting and I really have no typical topic for this episode.
But I hope it helped y'all out. i just feel like it's the mercury retrograde
in aries talk be authentic be real be you but be honest guys if you don't like
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how somebody treating you they're not really a good friend tell them.
Stop lying to people you ain't being a real good friend goodbye
like i have a conversation with somebody and
i'll be like hey listen i don't like the way how you treat me as a friend so
guess what we're gonna have to talk about it they'll be like oh fine because
people some people don't know that they're doing certain things because maybe they're
used to being friends with people who are not really their friends so
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I'm like okay see that I like you but maybe
I'm just in your life to show you what a real friend is and maybe that was just
my job and so you know what I'm able to let go and get my gold star badge just
to show you that too that's it I ain't doing no more than that bro I can't because
if I have to keep coaching you and be your counselor at the same time as being
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your a friend, baby, you're going to have to pay me. Okay.
But guys, the real thing is really see how...
Really sit back and see how you've been using this energy with Mercury retrograde,
how you need to communicate better, who you need to cut off,
who you need to cut out your life, all of that.
Because the solar eclipse, Mercury retrograde all came in at once.
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It's like cut out. It's a new restart.
Everything. So figure out what needs to happen, guys, and really do that. And love on you. Okay.
So let me know how y'all feel about this episode. Hit me up on,
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the pretty red ent show.podbean.com but
guys thanks for always tuning in tapping in with me i really
love y'all i really appreciate y'all for always being patient obviously
the people like we ain't doing another podcast so i had to put it out but
i really love y'all um guys my
play was really well i did better than what
i thought i was gonna gonna do I'm not gonna lie to y'all like I'm
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not even a theater major at all like not a theater major but I definitely got
a really good part in the play and I excelled at what I did and it's beautiful
and I really love me for trying something new like just doing something new so So, I did good.
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So, it was really cool. I want to try it out for it. Like, boom.
And it was successful. And so, the play was pretty dope.
But I thank y'all so very much for tuning in, tapping with me all the time. Okay, guys.
This is the Pretty Red ENT Show. It's your girl, Goddess Nikita, aka Pretty Red ENT.
Welcome to the pretty red and tisha it's
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told you they loved you today just know that goddess nikita she loves you today
okay guys I want
to send so much love and light out to myself and to the universe around me and
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to this little continent that I'm on like I really enjoy me love me I really
so proud of me guys like because I'm doing a lot of things that's like different
so shout out to me one time,
okay as y'all may know my 365 just went around last week it was you know my
soul day and so I I was out enjoying that, but I have a lot of stuff going on.
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I'm actually got casted to be in a play.
So I was like, wow. So I did that last week. And so now I'm just out here,
just chilling, living my best life right now.
Finals is coming up this week, maybe next week, but you know me,
it's nothing to a giant. Okay.
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Guys, I guess I got a topic that I want y'all to pay attention to.
Like because this is something that they should
talk about more often because it's about the i'll be trying to tell people it's
about the little things and right now we have mercury retrograde with an aries
so all my aries people we're kind of like we kind of like yeah we on one when it comes to.
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We all want when it comes to us speaking and talking right now and like communication,
knowing where we should communicate it, how we should need to communicate and how can we do it better.
But this is what I want to tell y'all. Like guys, pay attention to these type
of people because this is very important.
People who don't include you in stuff, people who do not return the same energy that you give out.
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Oh, you got to make sure you pay attention to all of that. that because
some people be like nah nah baby listen I at a
point in my life where I'm like okay I seen there been there
done that red flag this is my boundary you
can't do this back I have to exclude myself and exclude you from being my life
you are no longer allowed to be a part of my life and that's okay I love you
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anyways but you're just not allowed to go on this journey with me moving forward
I want to tolerate anything less than what I give out none of that so with all
All that being said, guys,
y'all remember I've been talking about karma.
When I say like karma been hitting people, karma been hitting people since the
solar eclipse. I'm like, I'm just sitting back watching.
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Because half the time, like if you know that you done good, you know good is
going to come to you. So I'm like, okay, well, I know I'm good.
I don't do nothing bad to nobody. I don't do all that.
So when I sit back and I see certain people and I'm noticing like the karma
that they're receiving, I'm like, what are you doing?
What were you doing to get this type of karma like
what was you doing and why would you keep doing it like
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knowing that this energy is going to come back anything you put out is going
to come back this year are you crazy right now like are you dumb are you dumb
i know your voice i've been really working on that but for real like if you
know this energy that you put out is like like,
not so good, then why keep doing it?
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Like, why? So I want to tell you about something that happened to me maybe a
few weeks ago, but I wanted to talk about it because I want to help y'all like
address some things and see the hidden messages behind what people say, right?
So one is I was noticing that.
I'm at somewhere and I'm like who is this sending me all
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this bad energy like and it's not that they were sending me
bad energy because like it was hitting me or affecting me it
was more like they were sending me bad energy like they didn't want
me to speak they didn't want me to do anything and I'm
like what is going on who
is doing it I always tell people like if you
sit with a question it will come find you pay attention to my
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question who is doing this I asked universe who is this
reveal it to me boom so next thing I
know is it gets revealed and I'm like oh because I'm
a person that I have a habit of like I don't care
if you're a witch or not or whatever you practice if you did
anything I'm going to come directly to you and it's scary some
people be so scared because they like how do you like do you know it because
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they be looking at me and they be thinking and they hear like does she know
what I did I don't I at first I didn't know but your reaction around me let
me know what it was because some people they get like normal and do stuff and it's like really,
but your spirit will never lie your
soul will never lie no matter what you're
talking about what's coming out your lips your soul is in an agreement it's
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in the stars like it's part of the universe it has to speak the truth so no
matter what your physical body say your soul and your spirit is always being
truthful so I'm like okay so one day I'm just sitting over here Here I'm joking with my friend.
And so I'm asking my friend a question. I'm like, oh my gosh.
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So like, what's up with your binder here? Like, I was like, oh my gosh,
guys, doesn't her binder look like.
It got a whole bunch of butterflies on it like are just
like oh my gosh your binder looks like it has prison cells
on it or just your binder it was just like I'm
going in about this binder right and it was funny it was a funny joke
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right but mind you
people don't have a habit of when
you're talking and criticizing other people outside
of them they have a problem with that and now this is the one
thing I pay attention to because I'm like okay well the
only problem I'm really having is that maybe this
teacher isn't talking the way how I need them to talk and
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I don't like the way they're speaking to me doesn't mean
that they are bad teacher I just don't like the way this teacher is speaking
to me but you'll have this person all of a sudden come over here and just goes
in about every single thing and you just sit back you're looking like hmm I
have a different view point on on a lot of things,
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you might think I'm mean, but I'm actually really not.
I'm more like balanced and complete in my conversations that I have with anybody.
Like, and anybody who know me will tell you like, she gonna don't have a conversation
with me if you're not ready to look at every angle of this, of whatever you're talking about.
Because I'm that person that I'm going to analyze everything. Like, okay, what's up?
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Like, why? But most Aries people do that, but Virgo people do that very,
very, that's their trait.
Okay, guys, like they do that. So shout out to them, my Virgo people.
Y'all know what I'm talking about. You got a Virgo moon or Virgo rising.
You know exactly what I'm talking about when it comes to analyzing certain things
that most people cannot take their point out and to analyze.
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You are very good at that, whether you're sun, moon, or rising.
Mind you, when we're talking, I'm telling this friend, I'm like,
okay, next thing I know is this friend's making
a joke with everybody around them now about
this binder and then asking questions to
other people like does my binder really looks like this I'm like oh okay so
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then whatever we had to do we class and started so we're like all right cool
so conversation dropped next thing I know is this person had a presentation
that they had to do right next thing I know they're like oh they didn't do too
good on the presentation I'm like like, what happened?
What happened here?
And then I'm like, I'm noticing little things. I'm like, okay, like, I don't know.
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It could have been me because like what I do, I wouldn't do nothing but cracking
a joke because I crack jokes all the time.
So next thing I know is like, hey, class is over with this person.
Storms out. Don't say bye. Doesn't do anything. Just drives off crazy. I'm like, wow, okay.
Then I'm like, what's wrong? Like, are you all right?
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And I'm like, because see, the thing is before this time, let me tell y'all something about me.
I'm a person where I know if people are whatever they trying to do,
you need to be balanced and use your own energy.
There's no way that you should be using my energy.
There's no way you should want me to always send you energy.
You don't send me no energy back. I will cut you off.
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And people who know me, I know I'm very good at that. I don't play no games, okay?
So I'm like, okay, well, I kind of noticed that this person was like using some
of my energy and it was like, it wasn't that they were using it.
It was really like they were like
trying to balance the scale and use my energy to hype up their energy.
And I'm like, what the heck is going on here? I'm like, no, ma'am. No mail.
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And I'm like, okay, well, I kind of feel like somebody's sending me bad waves, right?
This person going to say to me, well, gosh, I hope it wasn't me.
I'm thinking to myself, why? If I consider you my friend, why would I think
that you were sending bad energy to me?
Why? I don't call people my friend and just be fake to them.
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If you're my friend, I love you.
Friends talk about things. I talk about deep things with my friends.
People who know me know know that we don't just have no regular conversations
we have very deep conversations like hey friend
what you doing what you will you cool like well
why you don't think you cool and then it goes to once you explain them
and be like okay so how you think that makes you feel I really
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be asking those type of questions to all my friends
and family members that I that are considered in my
end group because there's not too many people I rock with for
real my circle is very very very very small
like I have a huge family but I also have
a few a huge I really be to
myself a lot for real like my whole family know that
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they be like oh she don't really talk to too many people like oh
yeah like you wouldn't know what she be doing you need to go talk to this cousin
or you need to go talk to that cousin and then those cousins they ain't gonna
tell you nothing so then you just kind of stuck for real like to information
what you don't know so make a long story short I'm talking to this friend I'm like gosh I'm like okay.
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All this friend just busts out like oh you sent me you was talking about my binder,
so you sent me all this like you just was so negative about my binder just threw
me off like I didn't think that you liked what I was presenting to the class and I'm like what,
just because I said something about your binder not saying that hey this binder
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wasn't cute whether I felt the way it felt like it had jail bars on it I felt
the way it had jail bars on it that's my observation of it does this mean that
this is your character no this does this mean I'm talking personally about you.
No, that means it's like, hey, look at this binder here.
Like, this is what I look at. This is what I think about what your binder is.
Now, mind you, we're having a presentation in class where we can discuss what
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we think they're presenting about.
Okay, guys? So it's like, okay, so prime example, let me give you an example.
Like, so if I'm presenting an old Coca-Cola bottle,
we can critique that as the student sitting in.
The watching the presentation we can
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critique that like oh well i kind of didn't like the bottle
because the bottle looked like that or maybe the
bottle had you know because old cola bottles
had real coke in it so maybe that's the reason why they had the bottles
look that way so at this point we can critique
that bottle as a student so now
you're sitting up here mad at me because I'm actually critiquing you
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but we critique everybody else and
we don't sit down and critique my presentation but
when it came to you it was a problem but I never said anything like oh
anything about you personally it was more
about the binder like I made sure
all what I was talking about was the binder okay make a long story short because
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you know I don't deal with people like that so y'all got to pay attention to
these type of people so this person was saying to me like what happened if I
was talking about your binder talking about your binder look mean your binder
was I just think your binder was just a mean like you're a mean person,
you're a mean person we're talking about my binder here.
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Now you're assaulting my character, like my real person, my persona,
me, my physical body, my spiritual body, my soul body. So this is what you don't know.
So pay attention, guys. Like when you ask for the universe or ask God to reveal
to you, reveal to me anybody who doesn't have any good intentions to me.
The next thing you know is all of a sudden you can start getting these people
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out the world where it's just, they can't hide it no more.
This person went so deep into, I don't like you.
Like, what happened if I said I don't like you? Or what happened if I said you
were mean? You're just a mean girl.
I'm like, what? I said, listen, if you thought I sent you any bad energy,
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I promise you this, guess what? You will never get a chance to say that again.
Because what I thought I was doing was giving you great positive energy.
But if you didn't think I was giving you positive energy, then maybe me and
you are on two different pages.
And guess what? way. I'm going to have to fall back. I'll fall back.
I'll fall back because I don't have time for that.
Go play with somebody else. Just
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don't play with me. Go play with somebody else. Just don't play with me.
I don't have time for you to be playing games with me. Go play with somebody
else like that. Go waste somebody else's time. You just won't waste mine.
I don't have time for that. That's not fair to me because I'm a really good
friend. I encourage you.
Hold tight, my friend up up there doing her presentation.
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I'm like, oh, go ahead now.
But I didn't get the same love back when it came my turn, though.
And so you got to pay attention to the people, guys, like when they be saying
certain things, it ain't about is there's a point in time when there's a sneak
disc and there's a point in time where you really mean what you're saying.
I'm actually talking about a binder. I'm not even talking about you personally.
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Then once you start to, well, how would you feel if I was starting saying that
you was real mean and what you do is mean?
I'm like, what does that have to do with my my presentation girl
I'm presenting a key with
a heart what does that have to do with a key and a
heart you're saying I'm a mean girl because I'm
you're supposed to be critiquing a key with a heart in
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it like come on now make it
make sense like I can see you say well I kind of don't like that
key in that heart that heart and that key they just
don't match maybe the color pattern doesn't match you start
critiquing it that way but when you start saying that I'm a mean person
this this that like hold on what is what's
really going on okay so you got to pay attention to
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those type of people guys like those type of things when
people be really sneak distant this is what
we call in the hood sneak distant but this is also somebody who cannot communicate
properly like i already sense you kind of don't like me but you want to keep
hanging around me why i don't know just leave me alone i'm on other people you
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don't really like me every day don't don't talk to me at off. Not one day.
You can't talk to me every day. You will not talk to me every day.
I'm one of them. Like stop playing games with me. Play games with your mama.
Just don't play games with me. Okay.
Just don't play games with me. I'm too much of a lover. I'm too much of a good friend.
I'm too much of a good family member. Like my family, they love me.
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They might, Kitty, you're a little serious sometimes, but what you be saying be real.
Well, cause your conversations are what I need. like
some of my cousins they anytime they find out like
i'm in a city or something they'll come just to have a
conversation with me they can sit down and talk to me about stuff that they
cannot talk to everybody else around them on and then and then if you look about
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that because i heard about this the other day on tiktok okay guys because this
is important this right here is important and it's really shots fired because
i really feel some type of way about it okay Okay.
People who be trauma dumping on you.
And it's so funny because this person that I was talking about before does that a lot.
And I started like, stop talking to them about certain things.
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Cause I noticed that they were starting to use some of my energy for that.
Hold on, baby. You go get your own energy.
I'll cut you off. First of all, you didn't ask.
Second of all, stop playing with me. I'm her.
Okay. I'm a goddess. So a goddess knows where she gives her energy to.
God is, we do what we do because we do what we do, right? So trauma dumping is.
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Okay so you can't call me to go out to eat but
you can call this other person over here to go out to
eat oh you got so many things going on but
you don't tell me that you got something on but you only call me
when you're talking about this trauma i listen to
this on tiktok this girl was like yeah so
have you ever dealt with a friend who trauma dumps on you and i'm
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like let me let me listen closely it
was like listen they call you only to talk about your problems but
they were so so sad they didn't want to come out the house
but now they don't talk to you now they want to come
out the house and go out and you see
them on the phone like you watching you going on that only
story or watching it clicking on their story or instagram snapchat facebook
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you looking like dang is this person out right now i thought
you was just sad why you ain't invite me i
would have went out oh you know you're just not that friend that
i go out with what like this
don't happen it to me no more but I'm just saying guys this is a real good
example pay attention to what people invite you
to also pay attention I have learned something
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so important recently like that
just really blew my mind that I really feel like I knew but it kind of like
made it kind of crystal clear for me okay so shots fire on this one I've really
been paying attention to people who invite invite me to stuff around their other
friends, family members,
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friends, boyfriend, girlfriend.
Because the only thing that matters is how they react to me.
Now, if they start acting different, that's because you said something about
me that wasn't right at all.
So prime example, y'all, because I got to tell y'all this, because this is really
what happened. This is true, right?
So I'm sitting up here. I'm like, why did this person ain't invite me to their stuff?
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Why you ain't invite me for? I don't really care that you didn't.
I didn't even really care that you had a party.
You didn't invite me for real, for real, to be honest. I was just kicking smoke.
But to be truthful, I didn't even know this person even had a party.
I was like, gosh, like, whoop-de-whoop-whoop.
It was like, oh, all my friends were mad because I didn't invite certain people.
But I didn't invite you because such and such isn't my cue. I'm not thinking to myself.
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But that wasn't the only place you was at that day because I seen your car.
But I'm gonna let you live for that one you get what I'm saying I'm gonna let
you I'm gonna let you be all right with that one so next thing I know is boom I'm like wow really.
Like, okay. So now when I talk to your family members, they kind of looking
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at me a little skeptical and I'm wondering why are they looking at me skeptical?
Because you have to tell them something that I did to you that was skeptical.
Cause if you come around my family and I tell my family, I'm not cool with you.
My family is not going to let you in the door because bro, they're going to let you have it.
My family's going to call it out. Like, Hey, why you say that to
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my why you say that to my cousin or why you say that to my sister why you say
that to my daughter why you say that my family really don't go in so I don't
bring around people who I feel like it's fake people who are not really good
friends I do not bring them people around me at all like you cannot come around
my family they play too much and they do not care,
like they will literally put you out of their house oh you did this to my niece
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you can't come in my house you did this to my cousin you can't come in my house
like you can sit outside but you you can't come in my house.
I just don't rock with you. Like my family like that. So then I'm like, dang.
So I really been paying attention to how people really react because right.
One minute I had somebody that was being real nice to me and then they knew
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a friend, like we had a mutual friend.
Next thing I know is this person stopped speaking to me.
Like it was just like real nonchalant, but it was always cool when this person talked to him.
I'm like, so you had to say something to this person saying that I said something
for them to feel the way that they feel because I'm wondering why why would
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things people don't just start getting up switching the script like that not
unless they feel like you said something but some people are not they're not
strong enough to communicate.
You got to be able to communicate because, baby, I don't play games like that.
I communicate over here. Okay? Communicate.
Baby, I communicate over here. Like, communicate all the time.
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Like, and I don't play no games with my communication.
Like, hey, you feel like I did something wrong? You feel like I said something
wrong? I will apologize for my actions if I actually did something wrong. But if I didn't, I won't.
Like, hey, like, you feel like I hurt your feelings? I feel like I did.
Oh, you feel like I sent you bad energy? where I was just being the normal me,
so I can't apologize for that. I can't apologize for being me.
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There are certain things I apologize for. Hey, you said this, this, and this about me.
Now, if I said this, this, and this and gave you opinion about a binder,
you can never be mad because it's my opinion on the binder.
You can't tell me I can't have, just because it's your binder,
you want me to have a different opinion. If I don't like the color of it,
I don't like the color of it.
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You want me to apologize to you because I don't like the color? I can't. I can't do that.
It will hurt me to do that. And I just won't do that, guys. Like I've been really
paying attention to that. It's even like prime example.
My son was, I was having a talk with my son's teacher. Never once called me before ever.
But when I'm on the phone with her, talking to her, she's like real standoffish.
I'm like, this is my first time ever talking to you.
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Obviously, you heard something about me and you're on standby mode or,
you know, like you're just on on standoff mode you're
defensive like you're you're you have your defenses up
and i just don't know why i didn't do anything to you at all you don't know
me i don't know you like that's the only thing i can say you don't know me and
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i don't know you so what is the problem here like for real for real so next
thing i know is i was like hey my son had an issue i'm like.
I can't be too mad. He did right. Like, what you want me to say?
Like, all right, you did right. I see where you're going. High five, bro.
What you want me to say to my son? Like, I can't get him in trouble for something
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that he was right about. Like, you want me to sit up there and yell at him?
What you want me to do? Because I'm not.
I'm not going to ever yell at my baby. Like, no, I just can't.
Like, black people didn't get yelled at enough?
Over what? More than 400 years of slavery, we didn't get yelled at enough?
Okay, you right. Like, nah, baby, I ain't finna do that now.
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No it's time for us to heal collectively with our
kids all that nah I'm good I just
don't have the time but in general guys
like really pay attention to how people that
they have you around them how their people react because
some people who don't want you to meet their family that should be
a little suspect too oh I can't meet your
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friends I can't meet your family why what you
say about me to the point where they one
they either don't know about me or two they do
but you don't say some real skeptical stuff
to the point where they're skeptical but they're not
looking on the on another end because my family
they be want to meet everybody so they're like oh okay so
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you oh why you want to bring your friend over here oh
no because my family crazy i've had to brief my friends
like listen you go over this person's house
like baby you move wrong in my shoe or or you move you better know how to cap
because my family gonna roast you like if they like you they gonna cap on you
if they don't they they probably don't but if you like tell them if they start
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capping on you you'll be like I ain't into all that they'll stop there and respect you but,
yeah like yeah yeah like nah my family.
Totally different when it comes to stuff like that. But guys, like, I just don't know.
I really feel like at a time like this, because you got to work with mercury energy.
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What is it telling you need to get rid of?
Connections, certain communications. I'm telling you, like, you really got to let go of some people.
I always tell people, like, if I stop talking to you for over a week,
if I stop talking to you for a day, my energy get better. You got to go. You got to go forever.
You cannot come back. you cannot you cannot go past
goal you cannot collect $200 baby you gotta go
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okay you're not even playing Monopoly
anymore no no sir no ma'am
we're not playing Monopoly no more but guys like really
pay attention to those people who really do that and how
they really treating you because people who really love you they include you
in your life you know they mom you know they dad you know whoever is
important to them but you gotta also pay attention to
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the hidden stuff that people don't say get what I'm saying like oh I've been
paying attention like what is you really saying about me I can tell when people
think this and when they not baby listen I don't care where I'm at in the world
I'm from Cincinnati Cincinnati is one to consider one of the skeptic places ever.
So when it comes to doing skept stuff
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I'm gonna notice it from a mile away there ain't gonna
be be no talking like oh oh you
don't invite me to stuff okay so that means that you mean you fell
back from each other that's what i'm cool i'ma leave you where you at
and i'ma stay where i'm at and we're cool with that
but i'm i'm not doing more for
you than i am doing for myself guys some
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things you gotta learn how to let it go let it
breathe let it flow like i
gotta let it i gotta gotta let it flow i gotta let it
go like if you're supposed to be a part of the
universe plan for me baby we'll be a part of the universe plan
i'll be paying attention to a lot of these people too because i met
somebody they they talk about they go to church all the time so
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we sit down and pray so we sit down and eat and you
don't pray we sit down eat you don't
pray boy you go to my mama house you sit down my mama gonna pray before we eat
that food i wish you would go to a black family the house and they having a
family dinner and don't pray before their family dinner you just sit down and
start eating like that's weird to me that's weird to me that's weird behavior.
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That is weird behavior. No matter how spiritual I am, whatever.
Like, if I am at a family function, my family is going to pray.
I might not like and be in agreement with the prayer, but I will respect people's prayer beliefs.
Like, hey, what's in the line for me will stay, what's not will go.
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And I'll just leave it at that But it's really weird to pay attention to those
people guys Like pay attention to people who say they this and they that And
you notice them that they're not really that Like it's a lot of things that
are getting going to be exposed Like but you're able to see that because it's in Aries,
Especially people communication Like if people really rocking with you It's
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going to come up real aggressive They're going to be so aggressive What it's
at a point where they cannot hide their mask,
They cannot not like yes I had a lot of mercury retrograde a lot of exes hit
me up no sir no respondo no,
respondo no comprende no respondo no respondo none you do not get no respond
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for me you do not get no no nothing for me I told you stop hit me up and you
still continue to hit me up it's 10 years years later,
you should let it go. Real talk. Let it go.
You little mini abuser. You little mini stalker. At some point, you're a psychopath.
But let it go. I'm cool. I don't dislike you as a person.
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None of that. I really wish you the best in life. Hey, we went our separate ways. It was good.
Once it was good, once it went bad, it was bad.
Maybe it was never good. But hey, Hey, I look at everything as love.
So maybe I needed to experience that because maybe I needed to experience real love.
Or maybe I needed to experience that moment to understand what I want and what
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I don't want. People don't think about that.
Even with like dating and being in a relationship, sometimes it's more about.
The experience of getting out there, like, okay, well, I dated this type of
guy, I don't like this type, I don't like this type, I don't like that type,
I literally just had a conversation with my mom, I said, listen.
If there would be anything I would take back, it would be the guys that I dated,
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she was like, why, and I was like, none of them, none of them were on my level,
she's like, what, I was like, none of them, down to my first boyfriend,
down to my first love, down to,
you know like besides like
two because i only was in a relationship for like
with four guys my whole span
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of living so like my whole thing is i love
the four guys two of them wasn't on my level but everybody else
i entertained for a moment in time none
of them was technically on my level besides a few so it's
like yeah i had to go through healing to realize that
to even say it out loud out like that takes a lot of healing but a
lot of times guys some people are not on your level they don't
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even match you even a little bit like I
swear like one thing I can give my first love he
told he said some real stuff when we broke up he's like Keita listen
and he used to stick with me
and I was so hurt that he did that like our relationship was so perfect it really
was like it was really a a good relationship where it was balanced with trust
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because if a relationship Have trust The relationship is good And loyalty But
me He said Keita You are going on a path That's different than me.
Like, you're going to make some guy happy. But I am staying in the streets and
I'm not leaving the streets. I love the streets.
So I have to literally stay over here.
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And when he said that, he's like, but I'll always be here to protect you.
Like, anytime you need me, I'm going to come through for you.
We'll do it. And he was so real honest about it. But he's like,
but you're on a different path than me.
You graduated in high school. Like, man, you're going to go on college.
You're going to be something great. Like, I'm just not doing that.
And I don't want to do that, so I'm not the one for you, and that always hurt,
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because I loved him that much, a lot of people don't explain that,
like, yeah, you know, it really hurt, like, when the person that you love,
and you know they love you back,
and they break up with you, because they feel like you're too good for them,
like, they, they feel like, hey, you're gonna, but I, now that I'm older, and I'm healed,
I can look at it from a different perspective, like, gosh, really,
he was protecting me, really,
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that was the universe god my angels and ancestors been like hey break up with
her she gonna hurt we gonna get her through it but break up with her because
you're not on the same time she's on.
Like bro i was destined for greatness but i'm
i'm doing a whole different route on how i'm
getting to greatness this man literally has no
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plans besides gaining street cred like he
literally talked about that like me and him i don't know
like some of the guys i was in a relationship with like we have great conversations so
we can talk about stuff like that but but it's
it's really good because those conversations are what's needed
for healing like I was like gosh I'm like he was like but you're really perfect
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don't ever forget that like you're gonna meet somebody who's gonna really love
you and really they're gonna match you on every level but he's right he's like
technically he told me one day like technically you should have never dated
me like I was a street dude like Like,
you're not about that life. Like, you don't need to date me.
Like, why would you do that? Like, at that time, I'm like, you can't help who you love.
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But I seen that. That's all I seen was people around me.
They date guys who they have to pamper. They date these guys in the streets.
I like never really seen somebody really date somebody who was not in the streets.
So it was like, okay, even though my grandfather wasn't in the streets, but like, or my dad.
But I have seen like other people
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like some of my older cousins date guys from
the streets so typically this is learned behavior like oh
the little thrill the good girl gets like
a lot of people don't realize that but that's a true statement
because some of y'all guys do that too y'all date those
girls who be out there I tested my
theory too y'all guys date them girls
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who y'all say y'all don't really want I don't want me a girl who.
Be clubbing and going out all the time but y'all be trying to wipe her down y'all
love her well some some guys do
back in the day they love her they want
to wipe her down they want to take her off the market so nobody
else can have her whoop-de-whoop-whoop like just keep
her all to yourself like yes and they
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will pay to be the cost they will pay to be the boss too that's
one thing I will say they will pay to be be the boss so my whole
thing about that is like guys
do it as much as women some some women guys
are not even on y'all level y'all date a woman who has
nothing going on literally and then be
mad because she has nothing going on and then
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he coming over here i never have what's best with this
dude but he's like i was like why are you dating this girl like
because i didn't know he he was dating her until like I don't know
she hit me up one day I was like okay so you told
me you were single but this girl's inboxing me I'm wondering why and he's
like yeah I was like but she has literally nothing going on literally nothing
she has nothing going on like nothing
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she goes she's out of the club every weekend she don't have
a job I'm confused on what's going on but you want to talk to me knowing that
I am her I have my own place own car I work two jobs and go to school oh no
no no no no no like I'm hurt what are you talking about.
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Like baby I don't even stay in the hood I stay in
the suburbs in a nice area nobody can even people didn't even know where I stayed
at even if I told them where I stayed they thought I stayed in the apartment
buildings behind where I actually stayed at that's how crazy like I was hitting
in plain sight type stuff like really like I'm telling people like you gotta
really Really pay attention,
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guys, to the things about what you like and what you don't like.
Like, really take the time out to really access that.
I'm telling you, my mom, me and my mom had a great talk about that.
I said, you know what, baby?
I wouldn't talk to half the guys I talk to.
You ain't had no high school diploma. I had a high school diploma.
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Shouldn't have never talked to you.
Like, you ain't had no good job. You didn't have this X amount of figures in
your bank account. Shouldn't have talked to you.
Now, I can't lie, because some street dudes, they had that. My best friend was
worth over some millions.
I'm going to just put millions, plural, meaning more than two. Street money.
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But he had a high school diploma. He had a business. He had all that.
So, should I entertain? My mom was like, should you entertain him?
Yeah. yeah, I should entertain him. I don't, I don't, I don't mess with no bro.
Nah, baby, I should entertain him like, but I was entertaining him.
So that's the whole thing about that whole situation. Like I was entertaining
him, but should I have been entertaining anybody less than that?
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Like, just because I see that you need love and I want to help you out.
No, I don't have to entertain you.
You better have your stuff together.
You come over here. You, I apply pressure like I guess some people I I apply
pressure so if you don't have your stuff together stay over there stay over
there do not come over here stay over there.
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I'm so serious stay over there please please leave me alone leave me alone leave me alone,
nah guys but for real some people shouldn't you should not entertain with some
people should not be in your energy.
I tell people that if you cannot give me the same energy I give back,
you will not be around me anymore.
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If I even sent you throwing any bad hate or anything that I'm doing,
you will not be around me anymore because I don't do that to you.
No matter if I don't like the project that you're doing, I might say,
hey, I don't like this project that you're doing, but you say,
but I really want to do it.
I'm still going to support you because you're somebody I out love but I don't
have to be in agreement with it I remember uh one time this person I was really
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cool with they wanted to get abortion I was like totally against it I mean I'm
like listen I support you on everything that you do but you want an abortion
clinic that's you on your own.
Like, if you want to do that, do that on your own time. I'm just not going to
support you. And I supported this person with everything else,
but I did not go to an abortion clinic.
I did not go to an abortion clinic. I support you on everything else,
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but I'm not going to an abortion clinic with you.
I support you on it. Hey, I'll walk up and down the stairs with you when you
need to heal and all that, but baby, when it comes to the abortion clinic,
I'm not going to go. And I'm okay with that.
That's still, like, I still love you, you but I'm
not I just don't support you on certain things does not mean
that I don't love you that's what I think that some people
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they're not used to dealing with people who like they're real
they're they're a real friend or they're
a real family member I'm telling you I have some
real family members I'm like well Keita I don't think you should have did that but
you know it is what it is like we here
now like I still rock with you so that's
the one thing like I can say like I really love about the people that
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love on me like no matter what they still gonna tell me if I'm
right or wrong but or if they don't support it
they're gonna tell me like hey I don't support that but it's what
you want so I'm down for that they give me that room to be like I still love
you like just because I don't support you does not mean I don't love you I don't
know like that's really weird to me so guys like pay attention I'm telling y'all
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because some people don't understand Like, I pay attention to every single thing.
Oh, well, these X amount of people knew before I knew that you was somewhere.
Do you get what I'm saying? Like, that's not fair to me. I've always been good
to you. Oh, just about like my happy birthday wishes.
A lot of people gave me those, but I like to receive gifts. You could have sent me a card.
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You could have sent me anything. Like, I was literally talking to my little
brother on the phone. He was talking, and it was his birthday, too.
Then it was about to be my big brother's birthday. But my little brother was
on the phone. He was like, Keita, I always know that you're going to send me
a gift. You're going to get me something for my birthday.
You kind of don't really count. I said how he said
cuz I'm just saying cuz everybody else that be around
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me they're not gonna get me no but I know for a fact I'm
getting something for you for a fact I'm getting
something from you which is crazy
that is so crazy like
I'm not gonna lie to you then my little brother said he's like
I know I'm getting something from you so I mean
but like I said not everybody does that but
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if you my real friend you know what I
like and what I don't like I love gifts
you don't want to give me a gift that's fine too but just
know I probably won't get you a gift everybody knows
I like to be sung happy birthday I literally was
on the phone all day shout out
to the real Aries with my with my
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brother's friend and my brother we're all
on the phone we're all three Aries just on the phone just giggling laughing
like it's this birthday like d they over here capping on each other it's like
but you can't be talking about sus because it's her birthday that's like you
need to get out this your birthday i'm literally sitting over here taking an
exam a midterm on my birthday.
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Like, and they on the phone with me, just laughing and giggling.
They called me a day before it was on the phone with me and whole day before
the actual day of my birthday and a day after my birthday. It's crazy.
So I always tell people like, be around the people who love you.
Be around the people who, whenever they see you, they face light up.
I'm telling you, if I, if I come around somebody, they face don't light up. It's over with.
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If I call you, your voice don't change. It's over with. it.
If I text you and I can tell, and I can tell that your text change is over with. No, ma'am.
I ain't about to play no games with you. No, ma'am. You ain't finna get that
off of me, baby. Your name finna be erased from my phone. All of that.
All of that's gone. You gone. You about to hear.
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I ain't about to deal with that. You deal with that.
You deal with your mess. You're not happy deal with yourself.
You don't want to be great deal with yourself. That has literally nothing to do with me I'm happy.
I'm a hundred percent happy. I'm happy every day.
I'm happy every time I talk I'm, just happy happy happy happy and i'm gonna
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be happy i'm gonna continue to be happy because that just me,
I can't do nothing else but be me and I really love me and I appreciate me and
i'm so happy that that I'm able to give people love, but I'm happy that I'm
able to like really guys communicate.
So how I feel like I'm using this mercury, this mercury energy,
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it's just showing me people I need to cut off for good.
People I need to work on like their communication and with communicating certain things.
Like I could forgive you for certain stuff, but some stuff is,
I take that that personal because you're crossing my boundary but also just
like being able to like okay.
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I said I didn't want you to talk to me no more what
makes you think I still want you to talk to me baby it's over with stay over
there you chose the side we talked about this a long time ago you chose the
side stay there okay but I just I really love me and I love the peace that I
have And I can't allow anyone to take that from me ever So if I feel like at any single time,
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You're going to come in between me and my piece You got to go I tell people
this all the time Listen, one thing for sure and two things for certain You got to go,
I'm not trying to play no games with you But I'm really choosing me at times when...
I normally don't choose me, but I choose me all the time. And I'm just happy about that.
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And I'm happy about people choosing them too, but I'm happy also about the love that I get out.
But I'm noticing that like, I'm really particular on how I give it out.
And I'm really standing up for myself. Like, how would I stand up for somebody
like, Hey, I see that you really ain't a good friend of my friend.
Like my friend really need to stop being friends with you. and this is
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how I talk to people when I'm talking about myself like hold
on I don't like that I don't like the way you just
spoke to me I'm able to say that like hold on
and I'll be telling people this um you guys go you gotta get up I
don't like the way how you're being a friend it's not a good friend
I call you on your birthday you don't call me
on mine she right you won't never get that again no ma'am
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you won't get that from me oh I like
for people to sing me happy birthday you mean you couldn't take your time
out to sing me happy birthday so that means you really don't care here
and that's fine too but I'm not
trying to go out my way if you're not going out your way either and
sometimes guys we as people gotta stop doing that
for other people no matter who they are mama brother
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sister cousin whoever people know that like
okay well I see you ain't came to see me that's fine I literally stayed I literally
stayed in North College Hill in Mount Healthy for over seven years and some
of my closest intermediate family only came to my house literally full time.
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Four times out of seven years. Other than that, I'm going to them.
It's not that they ever come to me. So this is like my whole thing.
Like I love y'all, but I love me too. And so you have to meet me.
And if you cannot meet me, if you cannot do the whole hundred percent that I
do, that I can't even accept 90 because I'm giving out a hundred.
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And I, and this is that give and take where people say, sometimes we do nine,
you do 90, then they do 10. No, baby.
Even when I I don't got the whole hundred. I still will do 90 and give an extra 10 just because.
So people around me need to do that. I was also listening to a TikTok when they
said confident people need to be friends with confident people.
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I'm gonna have a whole little talk about that. That's gonna be my next episode.
But guys, I see that I've been ranting and I really have no typical topic for this episode.
But I hope it helped y'all out. i just feel like it's the mercury retrograde
in aries talk be authentic be real be you but be honest guys if you don't like
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how somebody treating you they're not really a good friend tell them.
Stop lying to people you ain't being a real good friend goodbye
like i have a conversation with somebody and
i'll be like hey listen i don't like the way how you treat me as a friend so
guess what we're gonna have to talk about it they'll be like oh fine because
people some people don't know that they're doing certain things because maybe they're
used to being friends with people who are not really their friends so
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I'm like okay see that I like you but maybe
I'm just in your life to show you what a real friend is and maybe that was just
my job and so you know what I'm able to let go and get my gold star badge just
to show you that too that's it I ain't doing no more than that bro I can't because
if I have to keep coaching you and be your counselor at the same time as being
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your a friend, baby, you're going to have to pay me. Okay.
But guys, the real thing is really see how...
Really sit back and see how you've been using this energy with Mercury retrograde,
how you need to communicate better, who you need to cut off,
who you need to cut out your life, all of that.
Because the solar eclipse, Mercury retrograde all came in at once.
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It's like cut out. It's a new restart.
Everything. So figure out what needs to happen, guys, and really do that. And love on you. Okay.
So let me know how y'all feel about this episode. Hit me up on,
snapchat y'all know i really love snap uh hit me up on
all platforms at the pretty red ent show make sure y'all show
my web page some love at
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the pretty red ent show.podbean.com but
guys thanks for always tuning in tapping in with me i really
love y'all i really appreciate y'all for always being patient obviously
the people like we ain't doing another podcast so i had to put it out but
i really love y'all um guys my
play was really well i did better than what
i thought i was gonna gonna do I'm not gonna lie to y'all like I'm
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not even a theater major at all like not a theater major but I definitely got
a really good part in the play and I excelled at what I did and it's beautiful
and I really love me for trying something new like just doing something new so So, I did good.
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So, it was really cool. I want to try it out for it. Like, boom.
And it was successful. And so, the play was pretty dope.
But I thank y'all so very much for tuning in, tapping with me all the time. Okay, guys.
This is the Pretty Red ENT Show. It's your girl, Goddess Nikita, aka Pretty Red ENT.
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