The Soft Science
I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop. This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it. We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology. Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want. We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors. So we’re going to talk about it all — Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed. Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t. What porn women actually watch. And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told. This isn’t therapy. This isn’t porn. This is The Soft Science Show. And yes — you can stim while you listen. I do.
Episodes
Sam Altman says 2025 is the year people start using ChatGPT for their emotional lives — to process relationships, rehearse hard conversations, and even find comfort. So what happens when your clients start doing therapy with an algorithm?
In this crossover episode of TwoX Labs x The Soft Science, Dr. Erika Miley breaks down: 🧠 What AI actually is (and isn’t) — and why it can sound empathetic without ever understanding you. 💬 H...
Where pleasure is data, shame gets dissected, and your executive dysfunction is just another reason to question everything you've been told.
I'm Dr. Erika Miley—licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain that won't shut up and a mouth that refuses to cooperate (ask any teacher I...
Does research in sex tell us what women want when it comes to pleasure? Dr. Meredith Chivers shares her 20 years of research. Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley
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Erika and Erica talk about how things seen as “woo woo” can really help you have a better sex life. Help support this podcast by joining my Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley
Bisexuality, what is it and what are the myths around it. Featuring Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a licensed sex therapist. Want more content? Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley
Masturbation is a healthy activity and the data just shows that there's no benefit to stopping. Do you help with sexual compulsion (addiction)? : https://mentalandsexualhealth.com
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Let's talk about Sex Talk: The Next Generation. Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley
Episode 155: Kenneth joins us today to give us a deeper understanding of sexual pleasure and take us through some parts of his book, Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hackers Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence, with his unique way of using highly directive images in his course. Click here for full show notes.
Episode 154: We have Merely Ashley with us, a cybersecurity advocate for women in the cybersecurity industry. Ashley joins us today to share her journey as a cybersecurity advocate for women and also more about the concept of cybersecurity in general. Tune in for this and many other exciting topics. Click here for full show notes.
Episode 153: How do you get into, or even survive the emotional rollercoasters associated with polyamorous relationships? In this episode, we speak to Keera Joel, a kinky author, and a narrator who has been supporting the BDSM group for some time. Click here for full show notes.
Dr. Rachel Allyn joins us to expound on the disconnection within our bodies and how to overcome it through body activities such as yoga, breathing exercises, and dynamic body movements. Click here for full show notes.
In this episode, we talk to Searah Deysach, a sex educator and the owner of the Early To Bed sex toys shop. With a mission to create a space where people could freely walk into the store, confidently get information, and purchase sex toys, Searah decided to launch her shop, which now celebrates it's 20-year anniversary. Click here for full show notes.
In this episode, co-authors of Women and Kink, Jennifer Rehor and Julia Schiffman join us to talk about their book.
Janel Vitale joins Erika to share about the different desire archetypes, how to know your category, and how it can help you fulfil your desires by finding the compatible match. Click here for full show notes.
Mistress Natalie King reveals to Erika how BDSM is one of the greatest life hacks to help with mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Click here for full show notes.
Erika wraps up this season and this year, 2021.
On this episode, Erika Miley talks to De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar; she is a sex therapist, artist, and published author. De-Andrea is excited to be included as an author of the chapter of a fantastic book to be published in December 2021 with the title “An intersectional approach to sex therapy - Centering the lives of indigenous racialized people of color”. Click here for full show notes
Erika welcomes to the show Holly Hartman, life & transformation and trauma & recovery coach, domestic violence advocate, international best selling author of How To Release The Shame Of Narcissistic Abuse, and the founder of Solo Date Challenge. Trigger Warning: Discussions of sexual trauma and narcissistic abuse. Click here for full show notes.
Erika welcomes back to the show, Vanessa Carlisle! They're discussing Vanessa's new book, Take Me with You, and sex work in fiction. They also touch on Vanessa's venture into the world of being a death doula and what that means. Click here for full show notes.
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