He Is Not A Stereo Type

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He is not a stereotype-

• • We all fall into some general categories, and tendencies, but we are all individuals. None of us can be fully defined by a stereotype.

• Look for the positive qualities and characteristics that make him unique. (Talents, abilities, priorities, character, etc.)
• DO NOT COMPARE HIM TO OTHER MEN. "Why can't you be like..."
• You wouldn't like being compared to other women, would you?
• Men will tend to respond better to positive feedback than negative. Isn't this also true about women?
• The more you hold onto and/or bring up his shortcomings and failures, the more conflict you will see in your relationship.
• The more valued he feels at home, the more he will be motivated to succeed there!
• What are some of the strengths in him that you find attractive?

• • What are some of the weaknesses you are challenged by?
  • All men are a combination of strengths and weaknesses.
  • If you can’t accept the combination you see in a man you are dating, you might need to reconsider the relationship
  • Don’t buy into the illusion that you will be able to change him into the man you want him to be!

• • (We’re not talking about men who are abusive, controlling, and destructive in their responses to their families)