He’s Probably More Insecure Than He Appears

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He's Probably More Insecure Than He Appears-

• • He has been trained since childhood through social/cultural and perhaps family conditioning to act in a particular way. That “way” may not be authentic to who he organically is.
  • He is the collection of personality/temperament, biological factors, family history, and tendencies.
  • Posturing, or putting forth an expression that presents him as “a guy who has his stuff together” is a requirement, at several levels, for survival in his world.
  • This is an illusion, of course, but he is highly motivated to maintain that illusion and will tend to resist anything that threatens it.
  • Losing that illusion or discovering cracks in his exterior façade can be extremely threatening or devastating and undermine his sense of well-being within the world around him.
  • Weakness or incompetency in any form must be avoided at all costs, especially in the eyes of the woman he loves.
  • This also goes back to his core desire for Respect and the fear of losing what level of Respect he believes he has.
  • All of this can be like juggling razor blades while walking a tightrope.
  • For a man who is not emotionally mature and healthy, maintaining his façade is Job 1. It’s the most important task on his list.
  • The more he matures and discovers emotional/spiritual health, the smaller this challenge will become.
  • Maintaining one’s balance in a Dog-Eat-Dog world is a challenging task in the best of circumstances.