June 11, 2024 • 36 mins
In this episode we are joined by Guinness World Record holder Mario Bekes who holds the record for the longest uninterrupted radio show in history for a total of 55 hours and 26 minutes.
Mario will share his own unique perspective on how to overcome life's obstacles and win your battles based on his own life experiences, not just in life and business but also while on the Podcasting circuit. Mario has had over two million Youtube views, with 32.5k subscribers and also amassed 26.6k TikTok followers all within the last 2 years.
During this heart to heart conversation, you will discover the importance of having a clear objective, establishing a timetable, and leveraging fear as a catalyst to maximise your confidence. Learn why it's crucial to surround yourself with supportive people and how to convert losses into valuable lessons.
Through personal anecdotes and heartfelt advice, this episode aims to inspire you to live your life to the fullest, create your own legacy and leave a lasting impact on the world. Tune in to explore how you can open up to your vulnerable side and embrace your emotions for all that they are without feeling any shame or guilt.
Create the determination neccessary to pave the way to greatness, and overcome any situation or circumstance that might otherwise get in the way of your success.
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Music.
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Welcome to The Will To Win, where emerging entrepreneurs come to learn the best
tips, strategies, and techniques to unlock their potential and become more successful.
Music.
I'm your host, Steve Scarni, and each week I will bring on the most incredible
guests who are going to share their own unique stories, knowledge,
wisdom, and insights about how they've been able to close the gap between failure and success,
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and then go on to live a life of greatness.
Here at The Will To Win, we are dedicated to educating and inspiring you to
be able to maximize your potential and make what seems impossible, totally possible.
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Welcome to Will to Win episode number 12 being filmed right here in your studio like the battlefield.
How does it feel to be on the show? You know what I need to say some to you
this is my first podcast since last year I won Guinness World Record did you know that?
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Nobody called me and this is, I'm serious before that I was being guest on many
podcasts but you are the first one, it's like a losing virginity so I feel freaking awesome.
It's unbelievable, I thought I would have been one of many but for me it means
a lot I mean, because I'm interviewed by you, because you're truly a remarkable man.
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Somebody who are really looking high and are inviting everybody to listen and watch your podcast.
The effort you're putting into this, your tenacity and your dedication to create
the content, it's just second to none.
So, thank you. It's my pleasure. You're welcome.
You're welcome, my friend. So, yeah, I've been following you for this last year
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and you've just really had a significant impact in the podcasting world.
You've taken it by storm and you talk about various things to do with dealing
with your battles and being able to break through your barriers and be more
successful in life and business.
And you've really developed quite a following. And I'm just blown away with
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how quick you've been able to do this. and you were talking about,
on multiple occasions about how people doubted you
they thought oh my why why start
a podcast like seriously that's don't
waste your time like people are telling you these things and like are
you for real well people's gonna tell you all
all sorts of things and there's a lot of the reason
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why i say i enjoying today with you
doing the podcast we discussed this today recently Recently I was on a trip
for 21 days and I was really in envy with everybody who does these reviews and
travel vlogs and everything else because I realized how much effort and,
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time and will it needs put into to create something like this, right?
And then, you know, something hit me very hard because I realized that most
of these travelers actually have the crew right you know following them and
creating the content and of course looks nice and flashy what i'm liking about
you and this is what i said like why people always forget him in life you're
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gonna meet a lot of people gonna tell you what to do.
Why to do or why not to do but there's a very little number of people who's
gonna tell you how to do things interesting yeah and today you demonstrate that's
like you know i'll always go on your podcast because today,
you improvised it in my studio bringing your equipment you know you say like
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Mari turn your lights you know turn your cameras everything else you done this
this is what makes you between the winner,
and the business life coach and that's like you know I
was going to say business life coach you know because they are
just the big spruikers but when you
have a hands on like you today in your podcast how
to do it that's a formula for success because I
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wasn't going to tell you nobody but the majority is going to tell you
why not to do it why you should
do it but do this way and they have nothing to
do with your life let me share a story
with you many many many many many many
many moons ago i fell
in love with somebody and that person
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she asked me would you like to come in opera
in opera i was like opera i was like i said
like i tell you all my life i mocked people who love the classical music you
know people who really exactly and she says i'm gonna leave you tickets on uh
cashier right on the way of cashier yeah because in the theaters they still
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buy the tickets you know i mean it's like.
If you like to come you come as well i will come in i mean because i was having
different intentions right i wasn't interested in music right and i was listening so many people,
why i should not listen classical music that's a stupid that's all you know nobody cares,
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very little number of people said try to listen this anyway i went inside and i didn't expect
it i mean i was in a suit you know i was like and i'm like okay and then you
know curtains come up you know like you know all this wallet music and you know
the sound 20 minutes into,
the operator i start crying oh yes and i discovered something that everybody
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told me not to do it that is to use my own emotions to feel and sense,
podcasting it's exactly equally same of course you know I was I cry in that
opera and that was a moment when I was start listening opera even more and I
mean to start tuning my senses.
But I gain the followers by not chasing them but try to give them what I feel
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and I mean because I don't say that every my podcast episodes are right or wrong,
but at least it's not prepared paid heavily like
most of the podcasters because they're chasing the
numbers and they're chasing the that glory that's a this approach i don't care
i mean that's a damn this is me my podcast it is about life battles where we
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are tackling every obstacle itself because i've done this in the army i've done
this in the wall and i truly believe with the people like yourself,
we can make a better world but if you want to go and opera cry that's your choice
not my eyes yeah so that was a real a wake-up call for you and there's there's no shame in as men,
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sharing our emotions being vulnerable being willing to open up and i see you
do that a lot in your videos you you share from the heart you share from your
own personal experiences your struggles,
your battles, and you make it interesting.
Look, I always say to people, be careful what you wish for.
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I'm telling you, I don't know how, I don't know mechanics. I don't know when
or how it's gonna happen. I wanted to be the soldier.
I become the soldier, right? I wanna have the war, war happen to me.
War just knock on the door.
I wanna be the spy, I become the spy. I want to be the business owner become
the business owner but on that part there was more battles which they led me to the losses and and,
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which I need to convert into the lessons, right? We all like to win,
but you can't win forever.
One thing I learned in the army, particularly in the war, during the war,
every time our enemy comes on us, we learn from their mistakes.
One time eventually, we start prevailing more and more because they come to
the point that all the tactics was being very well known.
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We know the response time, we know how they're going to act on different operational
situations on the field. But I think it is same goes in a life.
You know, I like to say, I want to use myself as example.
If I go quoting something, I'm going to be academics. I'm going to say this
is research, this is references.
But I feel that the life battles we are all facing in our life,
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and despite we all like to win, we need to learn one thing.
In order for us to gain something, we need to lose something.
In order to win, we need to lose.
Eventually, we're going to lose the war with the life. We're all going to the same destinations.
But I think that our knowledge accumulated during our lifetime, it's here to be passed.
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And I say one thing. I will always say that fear is real.
Emotions are necessary to survive.
I was in a war many times afraid, and I saw many of my buddies.
They didn't feel comfortable, they cried.
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We comfort each other, particularly in the moments when really we believe we
will not see the daylight and realize there's nothing wrong with emotions.
Now, the only difference it is, never show emotions in front of the other people
you believe they're going to mock you out.
That's it. So you share emotions or feelings with people you know,
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you can trust, who are actually going to support you, encourage you,
and are going to help you on your journey.
There's no point wasting time on people who are just going to judge you,
put you down, try and tell you what to do.
And they're often not even doing those things themselves.
You know, if you go in the past, I'm a little bit older than you, I'm 52 this year, right?
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But I remember during my lifetime, every time when I had a breakup, right?
Tendency is like, I will cry me a river. Like, you know, rivers of Babylon, I will cry.
And then you come to that woman and you cry and cry and cry it didn't realize actually,
the more i'm crying more i'm begging i'm more
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despicable to myself but i giving the power to the person to
to hit me my guts you know i mean i know
i'm suffering i told you my feelings my emotions but
i learned in my life that i've been mocked
by the same people i give all my love
you know i mean and i don't say i was always right or
wrong or this and that but i choose never again in my life never and i said
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to people to show my emotions in front of people who i believe they're gonna
use my screams my pain for their generous love and you know.
Making fun of me i cried in
a war steve i'll not lie to you there was a main situation when
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i really cried i was 19 years old when i
first time i really felt it i mean i went in the war i went in a war when i
was 18 but my 19th birthday will follow with a few months so i remember was
a sorry november 91 i was already 19 two months i remember one situation i was
being in in in in, in, uh, in the silo, right.
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You know what I mean? Where that's all weed being collected and the enemy was
climbing up, you know, they're gonna, you know, we knew we gonna die, you know what I mean?
Literally they're gonna either capture us or we gonna die through the fighting.
And I cried, I weep my tears, not me, everybody was like, but we comfort each
other, but we never spoke about this in decorative way of bringing somebody down.
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It was a joke. So that was a real life and death, but in life,
emotions, are beautiful.
So you should embrace them for what they are. You know the jar on Nutella,
it can't make everybody freaking happy. You know what I mean?
I tried to do this, you know what I mean?
But, you know, my emotions are my emotions. You're making fun of my emotions, don't you worry.
When you finish your dreams, as I said, for example, when my son was diagnosed
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with epilepsy, there was a lot of people, they make it fun.
I never spoke with these people again in my life. And I never will.
Doesn't matter, you come to my door. I don't care because that moment you made
a fun of me, my son, and you, Angel, I'm not a guy to forgive you.
I forgive you anyway, but you've done this to me, you're going to do this to somebody else.
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That one day you don't find yourself in a situation when everyone's going to
laugh at you because, as I say, people have high expectations of their life,
but little about themselves.
That's what I said, think lightly about yourself. Miyamoto was actually a very
famous swordsman in Japan.
He has 61 or 62 victories. Killed everybody, right?
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I mean, every time somebody challenged him, he wrote somebody, called Doko.
It's 21 Ways of Living, you know what I mean? And he said in his book,
he said, think of yourself lightly, you know what I mean?
Know about the world because you're just a speckles in the life in this universe.
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Interesting. And there's this really famous saying, and it goes,
sometimes you've got to lose the battle in order to win the war.
What's your take on that, Mario? Absolutely. Absolutely.
Examples in history we can utilize, I mean, you can use Sun Tzu at the war,
you can use that Miyamoto Musashi, whatever it is.
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We need to adjust and adapt ourselves to the situation where we are.
When we are customized to always win, when we lose, we're going to lose big time.
Same is from this point of view in my life. I mean, 52 years old.
Because I hated losing. I always wanted to win. I wanted to be the best in many
things, right? Even if I'm... You're winning now.
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Yeah, now it's different because I think about world.
I owe nothing to the world. Sorry, world owes me nothing.
Before I was thinking opposite, that world owes me everything.
Now I think I owe the world. I'm grateful that every day I wake up in the morning,
I know I'm alive, I'm breathing, breathing unhealthy what else i can ask from
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the life people getting the most crucial thing,
statistically speaking 20 000 times per
day we breathe in and breathe out every time
when we breathe out we die you know when
people say it was his or she's last
breath yes and they're gone right people
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forgetting that every time when we excel we exhale
life we die then
again we take this as a granted i don't think this
is granted anymore and that's a say like you need
to start thinking when the life gives you battle what lessons you're going to
learn you can't always win and you need to accept the losses sometimes it's
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necessary to burn everything and as i said to her before.
I have experience in my life. I used to be clinging on the people who were hurting me.
Instead of saying like, okay, hurt me, did you finish this? Okay,
turn. Now think about when I go out, come after you.
Most of the time I didn't come because you live in your conscience.
I don't care. I'll give you all my love.
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But sometimes in life you need to fight for what you love. You do.
And you're going to lose.
A loss is going to be horrendous.
It's hard. I say to people, it's hard to learn with the losses.
But they're necessary in order either to grow or to save,
something in the future and i mean i'll speak
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about my son for 12 years i was watching him
every time has a seizure part of me died every
time he you know forget something what's happened two minutes ago because
of the seizure he couldn't remember my life was sinking he won that battle you
know i mean that war against epilepsy he's healthy now but they were trying
to say to you i learned so much from him he was trying to have as much as possible
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happy life even he knew it
that he doesn't know many things happen around him because of epilepsy.
So, we need to lose to learn. We need to adjust, adapt, improvise to the situation we are.
That's the very important thing it is like today with you. I love talking to you.
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You know, it's like every time when I see your podcast, I say to myself,
look at this man. He's growing.
He's evolving. You're adapting, adjusting.
Absolutely. That's what it is. you know what you want. Podcasting is very difficult job.
And I appreciate you talking to me today on Saturday with the most of people
eating, sleeping, shitting, and they are complaining about life and expecting
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it's going to be okay because it's a long weekend.
Life is, oh, I can sleep three days. I can now drink more days.
Yeah. Thank you, Vasanth. You're welcome. And it's all about converting your losses into wins.
And that's sort of what you were sort of explaining here today.
And that's what i do like i lose
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a lot and but i'm like how
can i turn this around how can i reinvent the
wheel and do something different and turn that into
a win and it's having that never give up mentality that makes the biggest difference
because some people they get to a certain point where they've tried so hard
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and they don't feel like they're achieving what they want and they're like, that's it, enough.
I can't take this anymore.
And they just let it go. But that's the point where you need to go, hold up.
This is not the end. This is a transition. And I can break through this.
It doesn't have to stay that way. Look, I remember the one that for me was a very eye-opening.
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My father passed away 30 years ago, almost now. I was very young, 23, 24.
And I do remember the moment they cut the leg on my father because of bone cancer, my father died.
Because one thing they told him, you know, you're going to go back to work. You know what I mean?
So talk about 96, 95, 96, you know, there was not this prosthesis day,
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you know, in this way and many things.
My father died the moment where he realized he can't do what he loves the most.
So there was a life in him.
Another couple years to live and whatever it is.
But my father, he decided to die.
And I said to myself, wow, because they took away what he loves most.
And I was going to factory every day to work.
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Now, we never know when someone's going to knock on our door,
their life, and say, you know, you can't do any more things you do.
So why the wasting time?
Everything in life is fixable. everything in life it's you can conquer many,
problems but after all the
life it's to be lived if you can't win
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you know don't surrender fight for it maybe not today but fight for another
day sometimes you need to withdraw yourself you know what I mean and hide yourself
you know what I mean there's many times and they need to grow you know and need
to evolve and everything else and I feel like a lot of people are seeing on
internet talking wake up come on do this this and this and this.
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You can't do these things because you don't know.
You can't have a blanket solution for everybody. You and I have different visions
of life. We wake up different times.
We have a different food we love.
But imagine somebody walks inside and says like, we're going to do from today
this and this and this. It doesn't work that way.
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But you need to work on your tools and skills
what you're acquiring for your life to succeed in
what you want and nobody can tell you
what you need except yourself that's
what i truly believe that's that's what the life it is about fighting it's
hard to fight when you lose okay i need a new tools and
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new skills what i need you know i need to go in a
shop of the life i need to go huh top items top
shelf item i need to bottom shelf item so i need something
to fight for it and i mean and i'm saying
this to you like you know i don't know what the life is going to bring to me but
this very stage in my life i know that i've
done everything to survive and i will fight for everything what i truly believe
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it's in my life and i on that part i will help the people who wants to hear
my my my life experience Take it what you need, what you don't need, check it out.
That's it. Till I don't become me and Steve, you become the number one podcasters
in Australia. Absolutely. Podcast again.
The Will to Win with Steve Scarni.
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Will to Win with Steve Scarni. I'm still learning to pronounce his surname, man.
Just like... I thought you said it over. Scarnival.
Steve Scarni. I was like, okay, that's the best way because it's like,
I don't want to make a mistake. Oh, good.
Um, but yeah, it's like, you've got to be able to take the steps that are going
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to lead you in the direction that you want to go.
And I think for me, yeah, there's been times where I've taken steps that I think
are the right steps and I've had to take a step back and go,
hold up, that wasn't the right decision.
But if that's not the right decision, what is it that I need to do to change?
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What step do i
need to take that's going to open up
the door as you say help me overcome that battle and you know you've helped
people overcome battles lane what are some keys to or at least one two even
three keys to overcoming your battles and you've already mentioned some but what are some
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principles that you could suggest?
Look, as I said, this is mine. Take it or leave it. I mean, that's like people can...
Before you go in any battle or any war or any decision in your life,
you need to have a clear key objective.
What do you want to achieve?
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Your little why, nobody cares. Your why is going to change on a daily basis.
But what I want to achieve, that is my vision you know that's my end key objective
when you know your key objective it's very important to you establish the timetable
you know i mean timetable it's giving you the,
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creative your creative side of your life do you follow up your key objective
you know many people say like you need to do this this this and this and this
you need to achieve this this and this and this kpis right kpis doesn't work
that's a that's good for corporations and you know i mean that's how they need
to measure things and everything else but it doesn't work the the
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crucial thing it is it's a timetable when you say like i need to achieve by
first of july i don't know thousand subscribers right is that's feasible yes
it is you don't need to put like by the july first you say during the july you
know i mean so that's the first key objecting clear.
Concising you know vision what do you want to achieve then you need to say yourself
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okay i need to put myself ahead the timetable according to this what i want
to achieve secondly it is you need to establish some type of communications
right communications in military terms that's you know,
you take the high hill in our established communication so you
can call for reinforcements whatever it is but in your
instance is like to you supportive logistics communications it's
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equal logistics what i need to have to
achieve my goals what tools i need to have now a little bit later you know i
mean people often waiting to have a perfect moment there's no perfect moment
exactly because that's where they felt that that's never goal never achieve
the goals because the moment you start trolling, it's always something catching up.
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That's to say, create yourself the timetable to achieve goals.
Timetable, not the fixed dates or fixed moments or fixed, you know,
numbers, whatever it is because it means nothing.
Secondly, you need to have good intelligence. What do you want,
you know what I mean, about your competitors, about your product, about your services?
Then you need to have the, you know, the way, how you're going to execute your
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will. You know what I mean? It's going to be just only you. It's going to be your friends.
So it's like, you need to tie it up, you know what I mean, that your key objective
in your life, it's very clear for you.
Other people doesn't need to know. Other people need to know what is need to be achieved.
But you know what do you want to achieve. Most of people say,
I want to be rich. What does that mean, be rich?
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I want to be rich. I want to be. So, it's got to be for you becoming rich.
But how rich you want it to be.
How rich you want it to be. Does that mean you want to be like fake rich, like I'm going to date?
You know what I mean? Like, I'm going to date, I have the cars,
everything else. but he has nothing, right?
Or you want to be rich like most of these. You know on the internet for $49.95
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I gave you my strategy to win and become a millionaire. Really?
And now that's most of these guys there. You know what I mean?
Seriously, for $49 you got to give me a strategy to win millions.
Seriously. Get lost. Every time when you see somebody selling your line you
think to yourself well, I'm just giving him $49 not to myself.
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Because you can't utilize same strategy across the entire globe.
It doesn't work that way.
But when you know what do you want to achieve and start moving, start moving.
Don't wait, start moving. If you wait perfect moment, the courage is the one
thing most people don't have. They want to do something.
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Again, my father told me, I wish I was doing this, I wish I was doing that.
I said to him, man, it's too late now.
You know what I mean? it's yes I know but key objective it's very important
what do you want to achieve on that part you,
Don't hesitate to move towards your goal.
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Leave everything on the side. Just go towards your goal. Okay.
Yes, we must define what it is that we want to achieve.
But as you said, we've also got to have a plan to back it up.
Because if we know what we want, but we don't have a plan to execute it,
how are we going to achieve it?
People usually, like in corporations, like it is different in corporations.
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Like, you know, corporations have to rely on many departments within corporations.
When you're the sole player, like me in podcasting, you know,
I'm going head to head against many, many big names, right?
And, but one thing I say, like, it's a difference between being a podcaster
during the lockdowns, whenever the city is home and eating, you know what I
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mean, from brown bags delivered on the door, and doing all this,
you know, I'm the great, I'm the great.
And then the people like yourself who are on Saturday doing this podcasting
now and everybody's out. That is a difference.
33% of Australians daily listen, tune into the podcasting anytime.
So now you think how many people actually need assistance.
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You know what I mean? Millions. Millions. And that's to say there's a market there for everything.
We just need to start pushing. and people want to achieve their goals because
somebody told them they can achieve, they must achieve, they will achieve.
Look, there's a certain number of the people, public speakers,
going to say to you, you can walk through the fire, you can jump from a balloon. It means nothing.
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Nothing. Because you know why? Because eventually and ultimately,
the odds are going to come on your shoulders.
And if you're not ready to sacrifice your freedom,
like today, Saturday, today you sacrifice your freedom you're not out you're
today with me in show in important studio,
the battlefield studio that's correct i mean but
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this is this is what determine you between the loser and
winner and then people say well it's easy for you no it's easy for you to make
a fun on me on internet because i'm doing my video or from comfort of your home
but you're the loser i mean not you but you know someone but they wasn't doing
anything they're just Just putting people down because they don't feel like
they're achieving what they want to achieve.
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So what they do, they're going to mock other people. And I say,
like, if you have nothing else nice to say, don't say nothing.
And that's a difference between success and always complaining about life.
And eventually, life knocks on your door.
Grim Reaper comes and says, like, listen, the time has come.
And then everybody wants to achieve something else.
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I said, like, podcasting, it's a dedication. and you have dedicated yourself,
Steve, I congratulate you to create content on a daily basis. You are.
Not me. I'm the Mario Bekos. I'm doing it because I wanted to do it.
Life experience and I want to create my podcast as something very unique, but eventually you are,
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the winner, Steve. So, you know, that's what makes me happy talking to you.
Amazing. You're welcome. And what's been one of the key, I guess,
steps or things that you did,
early on that really helped you make that transition to being the amazing,
the successful podcaster you are today?
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Before it becomes successful, it becomes the biggest, biggest loser, you know what I mean?
And, look, I was always, Embarrassment to my parents, to my partners, to people around me.
And, you know, people usually say things you don't want to hear it and it hurts.
It freaking hurts, my dear. I mean, as I said, like before, I did cry.
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There was many moments in my life I was, I didn't use for the exit.
And then I said to myself, seriously, Mario, you survived the war.
Like why I'm, why I'm forgetting all the skills I learned in the war.
You know what I mean? Everything else.
I could live without my mother at age 14. I went to military school.
I went to the war. My parents were not there for me. You know, many other things.
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What I'm afraid of? I was afraid of myself.
And even the other people told me, don't do it. You're going to embarrass yourself.
It's not embarrassing myself.
I realized I'm afraid that what if I succeed? And the moment I said to myself,
doesn't matter what I do in my life.
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Doesn't matter. My life is gonna come from point A to point B,
from the bird to death in a snake.
So I said to myself,
should i be afraid i say yes but let me work on my
fear differently now yes let me use my fear as
a coin i mean like a fusion call and like
a star wars tracking i mean like you know that what i call this uh warp speed
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right i use my fear i'm gonna be i'm afraid not to do it not to do it but not
not to do it because if i'm afraid i didn't create a content i'll be afraid
why i I should do this content.
I will do content because I'm afraid not to put something out rather than being
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afraid if I put something out. You know what I'm trying to say?
I want to put more content out and I'll be afraid if I don't put it because then I'm not capable.
So people today say to me, oh, it's easy for you. No, it wasn't easy.
You're freaking mocking me. My English, my opinions, I'm the bald,
I'm the fat, I'm this, I'm that. Like, who is the people who do the critique?
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And then privately, they congratulate me. So it was my fear.
I need to conquer my fear. Fear is real. Fear is real. And fear is something
we need to work with them.
Absolutely. And there's a really good saying that I have. You may be present,
but don't make it president.
Don't make it the be-all and end-all. That's a good one. And what is it?
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False evidence appearing real.
But you look at someone like Arnold Schwarzenegger, similar situation.
Situation, people would mock him about his language, his accent,
and no one was going to audition him for a main role in a movie,
but he's like, he didn't care.
Look, I think that people are afraid of the failure, and that's going to be
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laughed at, and you'll be laughed
at, it doesn't matter what you're doing in your life. I don't care.
Look, just push it through it, just push it through it. I mean,
the victories are achieved in the blood, you know what I mean?
Not just sitting on the side, you know what I mean? Those people never win,
you know what I mean? That's the politicians.
Politicians love to talk about victories and losses and leadership,
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sitting on the side waiting to ever do their job, right?
They claim either victory or the losses, you know what I mean?
But I'm thankful for you today. You talked to me today.
It's my pleasure. So we're towards the end of this incredible podcast episode.
With you, Mario Beggars, I'm on track.
Yes. You are dominating, as we know, the podcasting space. We like the battlefield.
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And before we finish up, what's one final piece of wisdom that you can leave
with my guests, your guests, whoever listens to this podcast that will help them in their journey?
Will that be becoming a podcaster, being an entrepreneur, being a businessman,
businesswoman, leader, whatever?
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What can you leave? Live a life. Live a life. Do what you love your best.
Do what you do best. Do what you love.
Love i don't care what other people gonna say i think
that's the only thing i would say to even my son don't worry
what other people say this is your life doesn't matter
what you do you're not a jar of nutella to make
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everybody happy and live your life do what
you do do your best and make sure that you leave
impact on this world make the leave this
place better place than you found it that's what it is absolutely
i couldn't agree more and as you mentioned about
your dad and there's not just your dad there's so
many people out there who have wound up
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in bed in their fun days living with
so many regrets having not accomplished the
things that they truly wanted to do with their lives and i'm so glad that i'm
saying you're doing it you're living the life and i am too and let this be a
message for everyone who has dreams who has visions things that they really
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want to achieve, to actually just go out there and do,
and just clear the doubt. Clear it.
Absolutely. Let it go. Yeah. Look, I was in a desert now, in desert,
and I was walking on sand barefoot, and I saw my footsteps in the sand.
And when I was coming back, there was no footsteps. I said to myself,
the time, it's just, it's your biggest enemy. Yes.
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The time erase everything. And that's what I said to people forgetting.
You need to leave the trace in in the history build above the
sand not insane because the wind
and time will just cover your footsteps build the legacy leave this better live
this better place you found and enjoy the life doesn't matter what you do in
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your life life is gonna go in split second it's gone thank you thank you steve
thank you for maybe number 12 on your podcast I really appreciate it.
Mezalo, thank you so much. Thank you.
Music.
Thank you for listening to The Will to Win. I hope today's episode was overflowing
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with value and helped inspire you.
Music.
Music.
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Welcome to The Will To Win, where emerging entrepreneurs come to learn the best
tips, strategies, and techniques to unlock their potential and become more successful.
Music.
I'm your host, Steve Scarni, and each week I will bring on the most incredible
guests who are going to share their own unique stories, knowledge,
wisdom, and insights about how they've been able to close the gap between failure and success,
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and then go on to live a life of greatness.
Here at The Will To Win, we are dedicated to educating and inspiring you to
be able to maximize your potential and make what seems impossible, totally possible.
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Welcome to Will to Win episode number 12 being filmed right here in your studio like the battlefield.
How does it feel to be on the show? You know what I need to say some to you
this is my first podcast since last year I won Guinness World Record did you know that?
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Nobody called me and this is, I'm serious before that I was being guest on many
podcasts but you are the first one, it's like a losing virginity so I feel freaking awesome.
It's unbelievable, I thought I would have been one of many but for me it means
a lot I mean, because I'm interviewed by you, because you're truly a remarkable man.
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Somebody who are really looking high and are inviting everybody to listen and watch your podcast.
The effort you're putting into this, your tenacity and your dedication to create
the content, it's just second to none.
So, thank you. It's my pleasure. You're welcome.
You're welcome, my friend. So, yeah, I've been following you for this last year
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and you've just really had a significant impact in the podcasting world.
You've taken it by storm and you talk about various things to do with dealing
with your battles and being able to break through your barriers and be more
successful in life and business.
And you've really developed quite a following. And I'm just blown away with
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how quick you've been able to do this. and you were talking about,
on multiple occasions about how people doubted you
they thought oh my why why start
a podcast like seriously that's don't
waste your time like people are telling you these things and like are
you for real well people's gonna tell you all
all sorts of things and there's a lot of the reason
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why i say i enjoying today with you
doing the podcast we discussed this today recently Recently I was on a trip
for 21 days and I was really in envy with everybody who does these reviews and
travel vlogs and everything else because I realized how much effort and,
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time and will it needs put into to create something like this, right?
And then, you know, something hit me very hard because I realized that most
of these travelers actually have the crew right you know following them and
creating the content and of course looks nice and flashy what i'm liking about
you and this is what i said like why people always forget him in life you're
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gonna meet a lot of people gonna tell you what to do.
Why to do or why not to do but there's a very little number of people who's
gonna tell you how to do things interesting yeah and today you demonstrate that's
like you know i'll always go on your podcast because today,
you improvised it in my studio bringing your equipment you know you say like
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Mari turn your lights you know turn your cameras everything else you done this
this is what makes you between the winner,
and the business life coach and that's like you know I
was going to say business life coach you know because they are
just the big spruikers but when you
have a hands on like you today in your podcast how
to do it that's a formula for success because I
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wasn't going to tell you nobody but the majority is going to tell you
why not to do it why you should
do it but do this way and they have nothing to
do with your life let me share a story
with you many many many many many many
many moons ago i fell
in love with somebody and that person
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she asked me would you like to come in opera
in opera i was like opera i was like i said
like i tell you all my life i mocked people who love the classical music you
know people who really exactly and she says i'm gonna leave you tickets on uh
cashier right on the way of cashier yeah because in the theaters they still
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buy the tickets you know i mean it's like.
If you like to come you come as well i will come in i mean because i was having
different intentions right i wasn't interested in music right and i was listening so many people,
why i should not listen classical music that's a stupid that's all you know nobody cares,
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very little number of people said try to listen this anyway i went inside and i didn't expect
it i mean i was in a suit you know i was like and i'm like okay and then you
know curtains come up you know like you know all this wallet music and you know
the sound 20 minutes into,
the operator i start crying oh yes and i discovered something that everybody
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told me not to do it that is to use my own emotions to feel and sense,
podcasting it's exactly equally same of course you know I was I cry in that
opera and that was a moment when I was start listening opera even more and I
mean to start tuning my senses.
But I gain the followers by not chasing them but try to give them what I feel
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and I mean because I don't say that every my podcast episodes are right or wrong,
but at least it's not prepared paid heavily like
most of the podcasters because they're chasing the
numbers and they're chasing the that glory that's a this approach i don't care
i mean that's a damn this is me my podcast it is about life battles where we
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are tackling every obstacle itself because i've done this in the army i've done
this in the wall and i truly believe with the people like yourself,
we can make a better world but if you want to go and opera cry that's your choice
not my eyes yeah so that was a real a wake-up call for you and there's there's no shame in as men,
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sharing our emotions being vulnerable being willing to open up and i see you
do that a lot in your videos you you share from the heart you share from your
own personal experiences your struggles,
your battles, and you make it interesting.
Look, I always say to people, be careful what you wish for.
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I'm telling you, I don't know how, I don't know mechanics. I don't know when
or how it's gonna happen. I wanted to be the soldier.
I become the soldier, right? I wanna have the war, war happen to me.
War just knock on the door.
I wanna be the spy, I become the spy. I want to be the business owner become
the business owner but on that part there was more battles which they led me to the losses and and,
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which I need to convert into the lessons, right? We all like to win,
but you can't win forever.
One thing I learned in the army, particularly in the war, during the war,
every time our enemy comes on us, we learn from their mistakes.
One time eventually, we start prevailing more and more because they come to
the point that all the tactics was being very well known.
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We know the response time, we know how they're going to act on different operational
situations on the field. But I think it is same goes in a life.
You know, I like to say, I want to use myself as example.
If I go quoting something, I'm going to be academics. I'm going to say this
is research, this is references.
But I feel that the life battles we are all facing in our life,
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and despite we all like to win, we need to learn one thing.
In order for us to gain something, we need to lose something.
In order to win, we need to lose.
Eventually, we're going to lose the war with the life. We're all going to the same destinations.
But I think that our knowledge accumulated during our lifetime, it's here to be passed.
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And I say one thing. I will always say that fear is real.
Emotions are necessary to survive.
I was in a war many times afraid, and I saw many of my buddies.
They didn't feel comfortable, they cried.
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We comfort each other, particularly in the moments when really we believe we
will not see the daylight and realize there's nothing wrong with emotions.
Now, the only difference it is, never show emotions in front of the other people
you believe they're going to mock you out.
That's it. So you share emotions or feelings with people you know,
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you can trust, who are actually going to support you, encourage you,
and are going to help you on your journey.
There's no point wasting time on people who are just going to judge you,
put you down, try and tell you what to do.
And they're often not even doing those things themselves.
You know, if you go in the past, I'm a little bit older than you, I'm 52 this year, right?
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But I remember during my lifetime, every time when I had a breakup, right?
Tendency is like, I will cry me a river. Like, you know, rivers of Babylon, I will cry.
And then you come to that woman and you cry and cry and cry it didn't realize actually,
the more i'm crying more i'm begging i'm more
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despicable to myself but i giving the power to the person to
to hit me my guts you know i mean i know
i'm suffering i told you my feelings my emotions but
i learned in my life that i've been mocked
by the same people i give all my love
you know i mean and i don't say i was always right or
wrong or this and that but i choose never again in my life never and i said
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to people to show my emotions in front of people who i believe they're gonna
use my screams my pain for their generous love and you know.
Making fun of me i cried in
a war steve i'll not lie to you there was a main situation when
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i really cried i was 19 years old when i
first time i really felt it i mean i went in the war i went in a war when i
was 18 but my 19th birthday will follow with a few months so i remember was
a sorry november 91 i was already 19 two months i remember one situation i was
being in in in in, in, uh, in the silo, right.
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You know what I mean? Where that's all weed being collected and the enemy was
climbing up, you know, they're gonna, you know, we knew we gonna die, you know what I mean?
Literally they're gonna either capture us or we gonna die through the fighting.
And I cried, I weep my tears, not me, everybody was like, but we comfort each
other, but we never spoke about this in decorative way of bringing somebody down.
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It was a joke. So that was a real life and death, but in life,
emotions, are beautiful.
So you should embrace them for what they are. You know the jar on Nutella,
it can't make everybody freaking happy. You know what I mean?
I tried to do this, you know what I mean?
But, you know, my emotions are my emotions. You're making fun of my emotions, don't you worry.
When you finish your dreams, as I said, for example, when my son was diagnosed
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with epilepsy, there was a lot of people, they make it fun.
I never spoke with these people again in my life. And I never will.
Doesn't matter, you come to my door. I don't care because that moment you made
a fun of me, my son, and you, Angel, I'm not a guy to forgive you.
I forgive you anyway, but you've done this to me, you're going to do this to somebody else.
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That one day you don't find yourself in a situation when everyone's going to
laugh at you because, as I say, people have high expectations of their life,
but little about themselves.
That's what I said, think lightly about yourself. Miyamoto was actually a very
famous swordsman in Japan.
He has 61 or 62 victories. Killed everybody, right?
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I mean, every time somebody challenged him, he wrote somebody, called Doko.
It's 21 Ways of Living, you know what I mean? And he said in his book,
he said, think of yourself lightly, you know what I mean?
Know about the world because you're just a speckles in the life in this universe.
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Interesting. And there's this really famous saying, and it goes,
sometimes you've got to lose the battle in order to win the war.
What's your take on that, Mario? Absolutely. Absolutely.
Examples in history we can utilize, I mean, you can use Sun Tzu at the war,
you can use that Miyamoto Musashi, whatever it is.
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We need to adjust and adapt ourselves to the situation where we are.
When we are customized to always win, when we lose, we're going to lose big time.
Same is from this point of view in my life. I mean, 52 years old.
Because I hated losing. I always wanted to win. I wanted to be the best in many
things, right? Even if I'm... You're winning now.
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Yeah, now it's different because I think about world.
I owe nothing to the world. Sorry, world owes me nothing.
Before I was thinking opposite, that world owes me everything.
Now I think I owe the world. I'm grateful that every day I wake up in the morning,
I know I'm alive, I'm breathing, breathing unhealthy what else i can ask from
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the life people getting the most crucial thing,
statistically speaking 20 000 times per
day we breathe in and breathe out every time
when we breathe out we die you know when
people say it was his or she's last
breath yes and they're gone right people
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forgetting that every time when we excel we exhale
life we die then
again we take this as a granted i don't think this
is granted anymore and that's a say like you need
to start thinking when the life gives you battle what lessons you're going to
learn you can't always win and you need to accept the losses sometimes it's
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necessary to burn everything and as i said to her before.
I have experience in my life. I used to be clinging on the people who were hurting me.
Instead of saying like, okay, hurt me, did you finish this? Okay,
turn. Now think about when I go out, come after you.
Most of the time I didn't come because you live in your conscience.
I don't care. I'll give you all my love.
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But sometimes in life you need to fight for what you love. You do.
And you're going to lose.
A loss is going to be horrendous.
It's hard. I say to people, it's hard to learn with the losses.
But they're necessary in order either to grow or to save,
something in the future and i mean i'll speak
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about my son for 12 years i was watching him
every time has a seizure part of me died every
time he you know forget something what's happened two minutes ago because
of the seizure he couldn't remember my life was sinking he won that battle you
know i mean that war against epilepsy he's healthy now but they were trying
to say to you i learned so much from him he was trying to have as much as possible
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happy life even he knew it
that he doesn't know many things happen around him because of epilepsy.
So, we need to lose to learn. We need to adjust, adapt, improvise to the situation we are.
That's the very important thing it is like today with you. I love talking to you.
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You know, it's like every time when I see your podcast, I say to myself,
look at this man. He's growing.
He's evolving. You're adapting, adjusting.
Absolutely. That's what it is. you know what you want. Podcasting is very difficult job.
And I appreciate you talking to me today on Saturday with the most of people
eating, sleeping, shitting, and they are complaining about life and expecting
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it's going to be okay because it's a long weekend.
Life is, oh, I can sleep three days. I can now drink more days.
Yeah. Thank you, Vasanth. You're welcome. And it's all about converting your losses into wins.
And that's sort of what you were sort of explaining here today.
And that's what i do like i lose
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a lot and but i'm like how
can i turn this around how can i reinvent the
wheel and do something different and turn that into
a win and it's having that never give up mentality that makes the biggest difference
because some people they get to a certain point where they've tried so hard
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and they don't feel like they're achieving what they want and they're like, that's it, enough.
I can't take this anymore.
And they just let it go. But that's the point where you need to go, hold up.
This is not the end. This is a transition. And I can break through this.
It doesn't have to stay that way. Look, I remember the one that for me was a very eye-opening.
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My father passed away 30 years ago, almost now. I was very young, 23, 24.
And I do remember the moment they cut the leg on my father because of bone cancer, my father died.
Because one thing they told him, you know, you're going to go back to work. You know what I mean?
So talk about 96, 95, 96, you know, there was not this prosthesis day,
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you know, in this way and many things.
My father died the moment where he realized he can't do what he loves the most.
So there was a life in him.
Another couple years to live and whatever it is.
But my father, he decided to die.
And I said to myself, wow, because they took away what he loves most.
And I was going to factory every day to work.
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Now, we never know when someone's going to knock on our door,
their life, and say, you know, you can't do any more things you do.
So why the wasting time?
Everything in life is fixable. everything in life it's you can conquer many,
problems but after all the
life it's to be lived if you can't win
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you know don't surrender fight for it maybe not today but fight for another
day sometimes you need to withdraw yourself you know what I mean and hide yourself
you know what I mean there's many times and they need to grow you know and need
to evolve and everything else and I feel like a lot of people are seeing on
internet talking wake up come on do this this and this and this.
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You can't do these things because you don't know.
You can't have a blanket solution for everybody. You and I have different visions
of life. We wake up different times.
We have a different food we love.
But imagine somebody walks inside and says like, we're going to do from today
this and this and this. It doesn't work that way.
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But you need to work on your tools and skills
what you're acquiring for your life to succeed in
what you want and nobody can tell you
what you need except yourself that's
what i truly believe that's that's what the life it is about fighting it's
hard to fight when you lose okay i need a new tools and
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new skills what i need you know i need to go in a
shop of the life i need to go huh top items top
shelf item i need to bottom shelf item so i need something
to fight for it and i mean and i'm saying
this to you like you know i don't know what the life is going to bring to me but
this very stage in my life i know that i've
done everything to survive and i will fight for everything what i truly believe
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it's in my life and i on that part i will help the people who wants to hear
my my my life experience Take it what you need, what you don't need, check it out.
That's it. Till I don't become me and Steve, you become the number one podcasters
in Australia. Absolutely. Podcast again.
The Will to Win with Steve Scarni.
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Will to Win with Steve Scarni. I'm still learning to pronounce his surname, man.
Just like... I thought you said it over. Scarnival.
Steve Scarni. I was like, okay, that's the best way because it's like,
I don't want to make a mistake. Oh, good.
Um, but yeah, it's like, you've got to be able to take the steps that are going
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to lead you in the direction that you want to go.
And I think for me, yeah, there's been times where I've taken steps that I think
are the right steps and I've had to take a step back and go,
hold up, that wasn't the right decision.
But if that's not the right decision, what is it that I need to do to change?
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What step do i
need to take that's going to open up
the door as you say help me overcome that battle and you know you've helped
people overcome battles lane what are some keys to or at least one two even
three keys to overcoming your battles and you've already mentioned some but what are some
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principles that you could suggest?
Look, as I said, this is mine. Take it or leave it. I mean, that's like people can...
Before you go in any battle or any war or any decision in your life,
you need to have a clear key objective.
What do you want to achieve?
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Your little why, nobody cares. Your why is going to change on a daily basis.
But what I want to achieve, that is my vision you know that's my end key objective
when you know your key objective it's very important to you establish the timetable
you know i mean timetable it's giving you the,
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creative your creative side of your life do you follow up your key objective
you know many people say like you need to do this this this and this and this
you need to achieve this this and this and this kpis right kpis doesn't work
that's a that's good for corporations and you know i mean that's how they need
to measure things and everything else but it doesn't work the the
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crucial thing it is it's a timetable when you say like i need to achieve by
first of july i don't know thousand subscribers right is that's feasible yes
it is you don't need to put like by the july first you say during the july you
know i mean so that's the first key objecting clear.
Concising you know vision what do you want to achieve then you need to say yourself
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okay i need to put myself ahead the timetable according to this what i want
to achieve secondly it is you need to establish some type of communications
right communications in military terms that's you know,
you take the high hill in our established communication so you
can call for reinforcements whatever it is but in your
instance is like to you supportive logistics communications it's
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equal logistics what i need to have to
achieve my goals what tools i need to have now a little bit later you know i
mean people often waiting to have a perfect moment there's no perfect moment
exactly because that's where they felt that that's never goal never achieve
the goals because the moment you start trolling, it's always something catching up.
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That's to say, create yourself the timetable to achieve goals.
Timetable, not the fixed dates or fixed moments or fixed, you know,
numbers, whatever it is because it means nothing.
Secondly, you need to have good intelligence. What do you want,
you know what I mean, about your competitors, about your product, about your services?
Then you need to have the, you know, the way, how you're going to execute your
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will. You know what I mean? It's going to be just only you. It's going to be your friends.
So it's like, you need to tie it up, you know what I mean, that your key objective
in your life, it's very clear for you.
Other people doesn't need to know. Other people need to know what is need to be achieved.
But you know what do you want to achieve. Most of people say,
I want to be rich. What does that mean, be rich?
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I want to be rich. I want to be. So, it's got to be for you becoming rich.
But how rich you want it to be.
How rich you want it to be. Does that mean you want to be like fake rich, like I'm going to date?
You know what I mean? Like, I'm going to date, I have the cars,
everything else. but he has nothing, right?
Or you want to be rich like most of these. You know on the internet for $49.95
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I gave you my strategy to win and become a millionaire. Really?
And now that's most of these guys there. You know what I mean?
Seriously, for $49 you got to give me a strategy to win millions.
Seriously. Get lost. Every time when you see somebody selling your line you
think to yourself well, I'm just giving him $49 not to myself.
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Because you can't utilize same strategy across the entire globe.
It doesn't work that way.
But when you know what do you want to achieve and start moving, start moving.
Don't wait, start moving. If you wait perfect moment, the courage is the one
thing most people don't have. They want to do something.
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Again, my father told me, I wish I was doing this, I wish I was doing that.
I said to him, man, it's too late now.
You know what I mean? it's yes I know but key objective it's very important
what do you want to achieve on that part you,
Don't hesitate to move towards your goal.
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Leave everything on the side. Just go towards your goal. Okay.
Yes, we must define what it is that we want to achieve.
But as you said, we've also got to have a plan to back it up.
Because if we know what we want, but we don't have a plan to execute it,
how are we going to achieve it?
People usually, like in corporations, like it is different in corporations.
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Like, you know, corporations have to rely on many departments within corporations.
When you're the sole player, like me in podcasting, you know,
I'm going head to head against many, many big names, right?
And, but one thing I say, like, it's a difference between being a podcaster
during the lockdowns, whenever the city is home and eating, you know what I
(27:26):
mean, from brown bags delivered on the door, and doing all this,
you know, I'm the great, I'm the great.
And then the people like yourself who are on Saturday doing this podcasting
now and everybody's out. That is a difference.
33% of Australians daily listen, tune into the podcasting anytime.
So now you think how many people actually need assistance.
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You know what I mean? Millions. Millions. And that's to say there's a market there for everything.
We just need to start pushing. and people want to achieve their goals because
somebody told them they can achieve, they must achieve, they will achieve.
Look, there's a certain number of the people, public speakers,
going to say to you, you can walk through the fire, you can jump from a balloon. It means nothing.
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Nothing. Because you know why? Because eventually and ultimately,
the odds are going to come on your shoulders.
And if you're not ready to sacrifice your freedom,
like today, Saturday, today you sacrifice your freedom you're not out you're
today with me in show in important studio,
the battlefield studio that's correct i mean but
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this is this is what determine you between the loser and
winner and then people say well it's easy for you no it's easy for you to make
a fun on me on internet because i'm doing my video or from comfort of your home
but you're the loser i mean not you but you know someone but they wasn't doing
anything they're just Just putting people down because they don't feel like
they're achieving what they want to achieve.
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So what they do, they're going to mock other people. And I say,
like, if you have nothing else nice to say, don't say nothing.
And that's a difference between success and always complaining about life.
And eventually, life knocks on your door.
Grim Reaper comes and says, like, listen, the time has come.
And then everybody wants to achieve something else.
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I said, like, podcasting, it's a dedication. and you have dedicated yourself,
Steve, I congratulate you to create content on a daily basis. You are.
Not me. I'm the Mario Bekos. I'm doing it because I wanted to do it.
Life experience and I want to create my podcast as something very unique, but eventually you are,
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the winner, Steve. So, you know, that's what makes me happy talking to you.
Amazing. You're welcome. And what's been one of the key, I guess,
steps or things that you did,
early on that really helped you make that transition to being the amazing,
the successful podcaster you are today?
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Before it becomes successful, it becomes the biggest, biggest loser, you know what I mean?
And, look, I was always, Embarrassment to my parents, to my partners, to people around me.
And, you know, people usually say things you don't want to hear it and it hurts.
It freaking hurts, my dear. I mean, as I said, like before, I did cry.
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There was many moments in my life I was, I didn't use for the exit.
And then I said to myself, seriously, Mario, you survived the war.
Like why I'm, why I'm forgetting all the skills I learned in the war.
You know what I mean? Everything else.
I could live without my mother at age 14. I went to military school.
I went to the war. My parents were not there for me. You know, many other things.
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What I'm afraid of? I was afraid of myself.
And even the other people told me, don't do it. You're going to embarrass yourself.
It's not embarrassing myself.
I realized I'm afraid that what if I succeed? And the moment I said to myself,
doesn't matter what I do in my life.
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Doesn't matter. My life is gonna come from point A to point B,
from the bird to death in a snake.
So I said to myself,
should i be afraid i say yes but let me work on my
fear differently now yes let me use my fear as
a coin i mean like a fusion call and like
a star wars tracking i mean like you know that what i call this uh warp speed
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right i use my fear i'm gonna be i'm afraid not to do it not to do it but not
not to do it because if i'm afraid i didn't create a content i'll be afraid
why i I should do this content.
I will do content because I'm afraid not to put something out rather than being
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afraid if I put something out. You know what I'm trying to say?
I want to put more content out and I'll be afraid if I don't put it because then I'm not capable.
So people today say to me, oh, it's easy for you. No, it wasn't easy.
You're freaking mocking me. My English, my opinions, I'm the bald,
I'm the fat, I'm this, I'm that. Like, who is the people who do the critique?
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And then privately, they congratulate me. So it was my fear.
I need to conquer my fear. Fear is real. Fear is real. And fear is something
we need to work with them.
Absolutely. And there's a really good saying that I have. You may be present,
but don't make it president.
Don't make it the be-all and end-all. That's a good one. And what is it?
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False evidence appearing real.
But you look at someone like Arnold Schwarzenegger, similar situation.
Situation, people would mock him about his language, his accent,
and no one was going to audition him for a main role in a movie,
but he's like, he didn't care.
Look, I think that people are afraid of the failure, and that's going to be
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laughed at, and you'll be laughed
at, it doesn't matter what you're doing in your life. I don't care.
Look, just push it through it, just push it through it. I mean,
the victories are achieved in the blood, you know what I mean?
Not just sitting on the side, you know what I mean? Those people never win,
you know what I mean? That's the politicians.
Politicians love to talk about victories and losses and leadership,
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sitting on the side waiting to ever do their job, right?
They claim either victory or the losses, you know what I mean?
But I'm thankful for you today. You talked to me today.
It's my pleasure. So we're towards the end of this incredible podcast episode.
With you, Mario Beggars, I'm on track.
Yes. You are dominating, as we know, the podcasting space. We like the battlefield.
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And before we finish up, what's one final piece of wisdom that you can leave
with my guests, your guests, whoever listens to this podcast that will help them in their journey?
Will that be becoming a podcaster, being an entrepreneur, being a businessman,
businesswoman, leader, whatever?
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What can you leave? Live a life. Live a life. Do what you love your best.
Do what you do best. Do what you love.
Love i don't care what other people gonna say i think
that's the only thing i would say to even my son don't worry
what other people say this is your life doesn't matter
what you do you're not a jar of nutella to make
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everybody happy and live your life do what
you do do your best and make sure that you leave
impact on this world make the leave this
place better place than you found it that's what it is absolutely
i couldn't agree more and as you mentioned about
your dad and there's not just your dad there's so
many people out there who have wound up
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in bed in their fun days living with
so many regrets having not accomplished the
things that they truly wanted to do with their lives and i'm so glad that i'm
saying you're doing it you're living the life and i am too and let this be a
message for everyone who has dreams who has visions things that they really
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want to achieve, to actually just go out there and do,
and just clear the doubt. Clear it.
Absolutely. Let it go. Yeah. Look, I was in a desert now, in desert,
and I was walking on sand barefoot, and I saw my footsteps in the sand.
And when I was coming back, there was no footsteps. I said to myself,
the time, it's just, it's your biggest enemy. Yes.
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The time erase everything. And that's what I said to people forgetting.
You need to leave the trace in in the history build above the
sand not insane because the wind
and time will just cover your footsteps build the legacy leave this better live
this better place you found and enjoy the life doesn't matter what you do in
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your life life is gonna go in split second it's gone thank you thank you steve
thank you for maybe number 12 on your podcast I really appreciate it.
Mezalo, thank you so much. Thank you.
Music.
Thank you for listening to The Will to Win. I hope today's episode was overflowing
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with value and helped inspire you.
Music.
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