The Blame Game

 

**Patreon Episode - Visuals*** patreon.com/c/TogetherRealBad

In this Patreon episode of Together Real Bad, Beautifulll and Ace get real about navigating blame in relationships—from late-night matcha disasters to emotional misfires and unspoken expectations.

We kick things off with a check-in on work, wellness, and that one neighbor who might just be a villain. Then we get personal about family brunches, coming out, and why setting emotional traps (even unintentionally) never ends well.

💥 This episode dives deep into:

• Why blaming your partner never works

• Talking through conflict without pointing fingers

• Taking ownership (even when it’s not your fault… but it kinda is)

• Ego vs. understanding: what makes or breaks a healthy fight

• A hilarious and chaotic story about makeup, candy, and a hyped-up Yorkie Poo

🗓 Plus: updates on our live podcast salon with Queer News & E3 Radio, a Black-owned BBQ spotlight, pop culture recs (hello Love on the Spectrum), and the Netflix show we won’t be recommending.

⏱️ Episode Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro Vibes & Theme Song Love 01:00 – Life Updates: Work, Tiredness & The Coaching Mindset 04:00 – Condo Water Drama & Editing Woes 08:00 – Podcast Salon Announcement (April 25 at Affinity Community Center!) 10:00 – Coming Out Over Brunch: The Update We've All Been Waiting For 14:00 – Date Night Diaries: Art Shows, Fashion & Permanent Jewelry 17:00 – Korean BBQ and Food Talk 18:00 – Black-Owned Business Spotlight: Sanders BBQ in Beverly 22:00 – Pop Culture: Love on the Spectrum Praise + Balloon Show Flop 29:00 – Main Topic: The Blame Game 32:00 – Storytime: Koda + Candy + Chaos 37:00 – Therapy Talk: Accountability vs. Attack 45:00 – Emotional Ownership & Growth 50:00 – Grudges, Cycles, and Female Ego Navigation 56:00 – Storytime Tangents & Takeaways 60:00 – Take It or Leave It 61:00 – Outro

✨ Takeaways & Talking Points:

• How to approach blame with empathy and humor

• Why ego has no place in conflict resolution

• Creating safe space for feedback, even during emotional triggers

• Learning from past relationships to protect what you have now

🔗 Mentions:

🎧 Queer News and E3 Radio 🍗 Sanders BBQ – Beverly, Chicago 📺 Love on the Spectrum (Netflix) 🚫 That Netflix Balloon Show (you’ll see...)

📣 Join the Patreon:

Want the visuals, behind-the-scenes laughs, and our chaotic energy in 4K? Subscribe to our Patreon for early access, bonus content, and exclusive couple convos: 👉 patreon.com/togetherrealbad