To Queer For Comfort

This week, we dive deep into the messy, beautiful, and sometimes dangerous world of queer PDA (public displays of affection). From debates about what’s “appropriate” to the very real risks of holding hands in the wrong neighborhood, this episode is as raw and real as it gets.

We open up about our own experiences—navigating affection in front of kids, parents, church communities, and even at work events. How much of our hesitation is about “respect,” and how much is fear rooted in double standards? Straight PDA is normalized, but queer PDA is often policed, shamed, or even criminalized.

💔 Things get heavy as we reflect on a heartbreaking story of a Black queer couple who were victims of a hate crime while simply trying to drive home. Their experience is a chilling reminder of how love, safety, and survival intersect for queer people of color in America. If you want to support their healing, you can contribute to their GoFundMe here: 👉 Survived a Hate Crime, Now We're Fighting to Heal

But it’s not all heavy—this episode also touches on biking adventures, family dynamics, funny moments with our dogs, and our ongoing Date Night Diaries series. We share how PDA feels different in spaces like the beach, rural small towns, or even in our own families’ living rooms. And of course, we bring our usual mix of laughter, honesty, and unfiltered love.

🎧 Topics We Cover:

• Who decides what PDA is “too much”?

• Double standards: straight PDA vs. queer PDA

• When affection becomes protest and visibility

• Navigating affection in religious spaces

• Feeling safe (or unsafe) in different communities

• Family dynamics: PDA around parents

• Work culture & being out vs. “fighting for your life” in the closet

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