Everyone gets triggered. What makes the difference between constant breakdown and healthy relating is what you tell yourself and how you mend. In this episode, I invite you to bring compassion to your triggers so you can learn from and heal these moments.
1:30 The pitfall of resolutions
2:24 How we fall prey to the shame monster
3:30 Here’s the actual problem – it’s not what you think
4:38 What you do after the trigger is what makes the difference.
5:08 From Triggered to Tranquil by Dr. Campbell outlines the steps
5:23 How we resist the shame
6:43 My husband and I dug into the cleanup recently
7:26 The “next frontier” rather than a resolution
7:55 Healthy intimacy actually needs friction
8:57 This week’s homework
Resources: Find From Triggered to Tranquil by Dr. Susan Campbell here: https://susancampbell.com/product/from-triggered-to-tranquil/. Of note, though some amount of friction is important for authentic intimacy, too much friction is not a good thing for your nervous system or your relationship. It likely means one or both of you need additional help to heal whatever is being revealed. If you find yourself in this situation, please consider seeking professional counseling to aid in your process.
Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley
Photo by Scott Umstattd on Unsplash
Contact Information
Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns "She" + "Her"
Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: DrTartaro@gmail.com Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/
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